What's a Quarter-Life Crisis? | 5 Minute Video
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- čas přidán 14. 05. 2017
- You've heard of the midlife crisis. But have you heard of the quarter-life crisis? It hits millions of young professionals like a brick. Former White House Press Secretary and Fox News host Dana Perino knows exactly what it feels like. She also has some great advice for how to get through it.
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Graduates: Even though it’s a long way off, you’ve probably heard about something called “the mid-life crisis” - men buy Italian sports cars; women go on yoga retreats to Bali.
But I’ll bet you’ve never heard of a crisis you may be facing in a few short years. I call it “the quarter life crisis.”
I know a little something about it, because I went through it. Oh, boy - did I go through it!
When I was 24, a lot was going my way - at least, on the surface. I had great friends. I had a great job on Capitol Hill. I even had a great apartment. So, why didn’t I feel great about my life? I was working as a press secretary for a congressman. I should have been happy about that. But instead, I just felt…trapped - anxious and uncertain about my future. Where was I going? What was my next move?
On the personal side, things weren’t much better. I hadn’t had a boyfriend in years, and there were no prospects on the horizon. Marriage seemed like an impossible dream. I loved my friends, but I still felt lonely.
Right before my twenty-fifth birthday, I took a personal inventory (I love lists). It felt like
I was falling short… almost everywhere. I missed my college days, which seemed, in retrospect, so carefree. The future just looked boring and hard.
That is what you call a quarter-life crisis. And I’d like to help you avoid it.
To that end, I bring you three pieces of advice.
One: Get out of town.
Feeling trapped? One of the best ways to set yourself free is to move - literally. After years of structure - high school, college, right into a career - I longed to be free. I wanted to be able to leave town at a moment’s notice. So I stopped accumulating stuff. I only had one cup, one glass, one plate, one bowl, and one set of silverware. It was one of the best things I did for myself. It allowed me to be nimble in my life and my career. Assuming for a moment you’re not married (if you are, congratulations!), you’re pretty much accountable to no one. That will change. Take advantage of your mobility while you have it. Go where the opportunities are. But more than that, just go! That might mean going somewhere for a better job, or it might mean traveling whenever you get the chance. It’s a big country and a big world. There’s no reason to be stuck in one place, especially if that one place isn’t working for you.
Two: You’re not going to become a ballerina at 25.
You’re still young, but you’re not as young as you used to be. You don’t have unlimited potential anymore. The last time you had unlimited potential, you were nine. At this point, you’re pretty well formed - what you’re good at, what you’re really bad at, what you like and don’t like. I’m not saying you can’t change, that you can’t grow. Of course you can - and must; but you are who you are, and you need to figure out who that is. To put it another way, what is it that you want out of your life? You need to make a realistic assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. Again, lists. This will help you take the next step in the process: setting a goal. Okay, ballerina - not practical. What is? Be honest. Figure it out. Write it down. Then, as one of my mentors told me before my first White House press conference, “Put your big girl panties on, and deal with it.”
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Anyone else age 22-25 watching this freshly graduated from college. Trying to figure out what to do until covid came along?
man I dropped out back in 2015 trying to get back into college then boom covid I'm gonna be 25 next month
idk - I had my quarter life crisis long before covid - like 11 years ago
Yupp ..we all in the same boat
@@rizevock299 same here, I’m dropped out and started all over again at 25 🤓
🙋🏽♀️
When you have a quarter-life crisis and you aren't even graduating yet:
Hopeofmen same I just took ACT today
stuck in grad school lol
Lol
I know the feeling. Im 19 now, college freshman. I felt depressed, literally, when I failed to enroll at the most prestigious university in my country (financial problem) months ago. Now Im stuck in this engineering school, still mourning over the matter I can no longer touch.
Hey i have mid life crisis since 16 now im 20 im depressed and alone and want to kill mysilf and im a girl and my parents wont let me mive freely they stand agints my face
Allow me to translate:
1. Stop wasting money on useless shit.
2. Stop LARPing.
3. Work for what you want.
Hey man, as long as you work for what you want, you can LARP and buy useless shit to your heart's content lol
Otaku Wama Sama if a person was smart, they would save all of that money to startup a business, and become an entrepreneur so they can accumiliate more wealth by simply producing an product or service that there is an demand for.
lukutiss1324 LARPing?
LARP stands for Live Action Role Play, in case you were wondering.
LARP = Live Action Role Playing
In the most literal sense, it's dressing up in costume and playing RPGs where you actually hold swords and stuff. In a broader sense it can be used to refer to having goals/ideas that simply can't work in the world we live in. For example, white nationalists who literally want to send all the blacks to Africa are LARPing. People who get gender studies degrees and expect to get a job smashing the patriarchy are LARPing. I have no problem with anyone who is LARPing in the literal sense of playing a game.
Remember kids. 25 years isn't a quarter of your life. It's a third, and that's if everything goes well.
I hate you
Because suicide starts at 75.
thanks for ruining my day sir lol
Nah dude! Hahaha life expectancy is at 83/85 (at least my country) and 20 years ago it was below 70! Especially with a cancer cure around the corner, life expectancy will grow maybe higher than 100 when my generation reaches it! But hey, who knows! Maybe I won’t even reach 25
@@LucasRodrigues-ls8re Listen to lucas! Unlike you he actually looks at the positive
A quarter-life crisis is a search for purpose, a place to belong and function.
A mid-life crisis is a search for significance, a way to leave a mark on the world, while at the same time, trying to recapture youth and nostalgia.
Been there, done that... became an alcoholic.
jawtheshark 🤭
This comment wins
I’ll drink to that!
Same man.
and that's why it's best to solve your problems instead of running away from them. I didn't move out and I didn't become an alcoholic
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am definitely going through a quarter life crisis. I am age 24. I am surrounded by good people but I need more adventure in my life.
as long as you find a purpose and an environment to fulfill it, that's all you need
I'm 25 and broke.
How you doing now 6 years later
I'm in my mid-30s and must say, this is a very important video for the younger generation. I was in the military in my 20s and being able to go experience things around the globe helped me to get a greater view of life outside of the small town in which I grew up. Get out and travel, go live in an area you've never been, be open to new people and their cultures. It'll only make you a better person in the long run!
I just got out of the military this year at 24 and I'm going through this.
I joined when I was 26, got out this year. At 32 I work 7 days a week and saving money towards retirement. I don't regret the service at all aside from the poor management and lack of help towards my transition out of the navy.
I have hit it after graduating college in the Covid pandemic. I am about to be 23 and I know it’s young, but I have come face to face with the fact that my young years are flying by.
No romantic relationships, friends are great but so busy and job hunting is hard.
Man, I miss college.
At 25 I had 3 kids and over 40 confirmed kills,
Yes, but did you have pretty long blonde hair and good teeth?
If you're being serious, I want to thank you for dispatching enemies of civility and mutual respect. I hope I never have to kill 40 leftists, but the future is always uncertain!
Did you get to see the world along the way ?
I know you're talking about the military, but saying you wish you had a confirmed kill sounds almost psychopathic. You should never like killing, even if it is for your country.
+BloodoftheLotus13 I like killing ants. I would like not killing them better, but they don't leave me that option.
This video comes at a very appropriate time for me. I'm turning 24 soon, one year out of college having majored in engineering, have a good job at a startup engineering firm, rent a comfortable house, have disposable income each month, and see my friends on at least a semi-regular basis. And I'm the unhappiest I've been in years.
This gives me a small boost, so cheers PragerU.
me too I'm 27 now , how are you doing at the moment ?
Ahah, joke's on you now. We got student debt to trap us now!
If only the internet gave diplomas, as that is all employers care about.
There are many tutorial videos and learning resources especially here in CZcams for those who would like to pursue Graphic designs, Digital artist and or 3D modelers. I did not finished my animation course because my college have very few professors (as in only 5 professors in my college department) but the school equipment are state of the art.
If you want to pursue that career, spent 5 hours in learning, 8 hours on drawing a day for 3 months.
Kaya mo yan bro.
Biut Thapa The worth of a degree from a third world country university is equivalent to a Calcutta leper's vomit. I wish this were not the case. But it is what it is.
Troisième Oeil Umm...
We always had that...
You pay it off...
That's the way it works...
Any more excuses?
I'm a licensed A&P aircraft mechanic.
Got my licenses in less than two years.
Thanks to my salary, I paid that sucker off easily.
Meanwhile, somewhere in Europe... youth unemployment (18-25 years old) is 49%...
Talk about a mild life crisis !
France is at 24% too ! And I'm living it !
*spoiler alert, that somewhere are Greece & Spain...
Kémy you have to look at things from a different perspective: if 49% of younglings aren't working, then 51 are. Why aren't you in the majority of ppl then? What are they doing that you don't?
+vicesig thats a stupid response there are more complicated factors that contribute to unemployment ,it cant be easily solved by telling unemployed people to try harder AS IF unemployed people are not busting their a** everyday looking for a job
Kémy i live in Italy... And no, it's not true.
Brian Moya i know a lot of young people that dont have a job. I live in Italy. No one has ever done door to door - ringing the bell and asking to work a couple of weeks for free to see if they fit in.
Dude i'm 17 and even i have a part time job,maybe i'm lucky or don't know,but what i wanna say is it's not impossible too,if you try...
I hate when baby just pop-up in my hands.
You left a cleanup for your parents. Now it's your turn.
that will happen if you don't use condoms
me too - that's why I had none
i'm 23 and have been having weekly panic attacks. i don't think this advice works for me though.
#1: i'm broke. can't move.
#2: i'm apparently bad at everything.
#3: it's kind of hard to do anything when i have anxiety/depression, no money, and no skills.
Tickleshits I know what you mean. What we need is not advice on how to be people we are not. We need help dealing with the life we have.
If that's the case, make new and better friends. Preferably well connected and smart ones. They'll show you where to find good money and learn high demand skills.
same ...
1. Do something that you like/don't hate.
2. If you still don't figured out #1 focus to work for money.
3. Don't live just for your work: workout, read (books) about anything you like, try to meet people doing things togheter (like in a studing group). Those things don't cost anything if you are smart.
Well, at least you are realistic, that's a good beginning.
I HAD a quarter life crisis.. it was bad. i had wasted my education on liberal arts deg, and knew my life would be worse off. i since got a job that partially offsets the damage
which degree was it
I did the same...now I feel useless.
DonutCare A good thing you can do is try to prevent others from following the same path. If you have any relatives in your family coming into college , prevent them from. choosing a career destroying expensive choice
Irving Ceron tell me where you can use math that hight that's not rocket science
So everyone has to be interested in math to be educated? 70% or more of the jobs in existence don't use calculus, let alone any levels above calculus.
Also you're shaming this person for getting a liberal arts degree, but they already said they regret it. "That's cute," "I'm sure you've accomplished so much more." They said they regretted it and that it lead nowhere! Can you even read?
As a recent college grad, I really needed to hear this. Thanks Prager!
what if I'm sitting on the couch waiting for my life to end
Russian President Vladimir Putin Loves milk
You'll need to find something that makes you happy. Like hobbies and stuff.
It's been 2 years. Please tell me you're doing better OP
2020 in a nutshell.
@@kingkea3451 3 years now.
I'm doing great now lol teenage angst and depression etc
I've seen a few of my friends go through this. They all derailed their entire lives and if they where married, they divorced, kids or no kids. Some of them I am genuinely worried about their sanity. From what I can tell, usually they had really easy childhoods. I have never been more grateful for the challenges that my family faced when I was a child. Also I am so glad for those challenges helping me develop a strong faith in God. It's hard to go through a mid/quarter life crisis when you don't obsess over yourself and your own problems. Look to serving others and you'll be more mentally stable and just a happier more fulfilled person. Remember that tough times are opportunities to grow. Keep on the sunny side of life. It's not easy, but anyone can do it.
My 25th birthday was my worst. I was living at home after graduating from college and working a McJob. I realized my parents, at 25, already had careers, a house, and me. At 26 I moved across the country for a job in my career field and my life has been better ever since, I'm 49 now.
Very relatable crisis. I'm 22, recently finished college but I've found myself in a low end job just to pay the bills without a certain goal in life I desperately want to leave the place I live now (moms house... yeah). I have some idea of what I want to do in the short term but moving out would be expensive and I don't know whether it would be the right decision or not.
same
What are you up to now?
I'm in the exact same situation rn but without the job
same situation :(
How is your life now?
do a video about the crisis in kekistan
Ludwig Rañola I concur, it's very tough
Yeah, they need to cater more to their LGBT viewers.
Yeah as a citizen of the captial i am greatly affected by the current crisis and would also like it to be covered
Ludwig Rañola Unfortunately it is not politically viable to come out in support of kekistan. Maybe one day, the good normies will understand the plight of the simple meme Farmers.
Ludwig Rañola OMG somebody NEEDS to talk about kekistan, the normies are claiming dominance!
"For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it."
-Matthew 16: 25
Church gives me anxiety
@@DrStrangeMEX how does it give you anxiety or perhaps it's conviction?
Needed this trying to get my life together at the age of 15
Yes! I'm not the only one. I didn't mind turning 30, 40, and I'm not worried about turning 50 in a few years, but turning 25 really got me down. At 28, I decided to go back to university, get a 2nd degree, and change career paths. It's been great ever since!
Now, I tell all new university grads to start a business instead of getting a job. It's the best time to be your own boss. If you're a recent grad, think about going it alone!
"It's the best time to be your own boss", maybe. But you should check the success rate for businesses founded by people in their 20s.
I like Prager University videos but I LOVED this one because for the last three months i've been going through this crisis myself. Once I graduated everything lost meaning. Anyway, I've nearly overcome it but it's still good to hear I'm not alone.
I'm going to college to get a degree, For the future knowing that no one will be at my graduation ceremony or to spend happiness with after the degree.
i p as Mr. Peanutbutter said:
“The universe is a cruel, uncaring void. The key to being happy isn't a search for meaning. It's to just keep yourself busy with unimportant nonsense, and eventually, you'll be dead."
I'm 25, never had a girlfriend, and I make min wage. Still haven't had a quarter life crisis,,,, bitchesssssssss.
I can't tell if you're bragging or not.
Neither can I, lol. Society tells me that I should feel demoralized (and to a degree embarrassed) by my current work and social situation, but a big part of me just doesn't give a f@#$ about that or anything else.
I'm 24, never had a boyfriend, loves to wear bikinis but still looks like a geek, employed and satisfied but CONFUSED and partly clueless.
By choice or what? Do you feel lonely
wow... Im 23, currently with someone and I feel like Im going through a life crisis... I just want to be free... from school, from work.... from debt
When working retail in my early 20's, a retired, Asian-American lawyer and his wife would come shopping every week. He would go around the store and talk with all the employees and tell cheesy "dad" jokes, usually repeating ones many times, but he was always cheerful. He told me once that I should just leave and travel the world. Even if I couldn't currently afford it, just take out loans and experience other countries while I was young. He said, "So what if you will owe that money back for a long time. Everyone has to owe money most of their life. They can't take away the memories and experiences you had anyways." Of course I didn't take his advice and worked nearly 20 years in retail. It is probably one of the bigger regrets I have, but I don't dwell on it. Having a true, worldly view is something that I missed out on even if I can say that I *understand* it and not *know* it. I'll just pass on his advice to someone else younger as I get older.
Do you still work retail?
If you aren’t happy and aren’t a manager making 80+ a year I would make a switch to truck driving then do food service if I were you while your body can still handle a dolly
I'm 25 and traveling around the world made me broke. Hence why I'm on this video now. I wouldn't trade those traveling memoires for the world but I am stuck in a rut right now.
A big thanks! I wish this video came out 3 years ago. I learned these lessons the hard way, after wasting significant time figuring out what to do with my life.
25 years old, and I'm feeling down... this video helped a lot. Thanks
See the movie St Elmo's Fire. It shows the quarter life crisis perfectly.
E.L. S.
I love that movie!
Add 'Kicking and Screaming' (the '95 flick by Noah Baumbach) & 'Post Grad' too!
This comment made me check IMDB... and that led me to realize BIlly from Stranger Things is an exact impersonation of Billy ( Rob Lowe ) in St. Elmo's Fire. Thanks you for showing me the way.
"Don't skip the dentist." Wish I'd taken that advice. My impacted molars are killing me.
Excellent explanation of a crisis that most of us go through at 25 but one for which we never had a name. Thank you Dana for this insightful and stimulating chat.
"Nothing will happen if you're sitting on your couch waiting for life to begin," well said.
I love how I'm recognizing all these people on Prager U lately
Everything has been going great for me lately but I still feel this overwhelming sense of anxiety sometimes.
I'm grateful that I've been so lucky but I feel like there has to be some bad luck coming my way for sure. It's nice to know everyone else has these moments where you feel like you're just floundering around sometimes.
I have been wandering since last one year and feeling like being trapped in a loop. And this video right here gave me the manual to live my life that I was looking for. Specifically the last advice is something which can keep a person moving forward always.
Thank you so much
This is so true. I’m 26 and going through this..
Dana left out the part about marrying a rich old guy. That was at the top of her list.
MyassesDragon Hmm, that's not very "femenist-minded," or IS IT?
@@edwardgaines6561 lol I'm not exactly sure
Wow this shows up in recommends exactly when I'm in trouble related to this topic.
Great video.... Exactly what I need at this point in my life. Thanks and greets from a 28 year old guy from the NL.
i'm 23 and i'm having the Quarter-Life Crisis. when i think of the future it scares me, these days i'm always asking my self "what is the meaning of life anyway" it all just seems so pointless in the grand scale of time.
how are you now 4 years later ?
I'm 17 and having a quarter life crisis
Unfortunately, you started right off with an error that many have made to their eventual peril. Moving, all by itself, is no answer. Remember the immortal words of Buckaroo Banzai; No matter where you go, there you are.
Thank you so much for this advice! It's just what I needed!
This is a great video. Thank you for sharing.
I cried on my 26 years old birthday. I thought I would get married at that age, but I was with a horrible boyfriend, I was international student, with not good GPA, and not a clue what career I would have. Now ten years later, a lot big ups and downs, still alive and kicking, everything is getting better and better. Don't worry too much just press on. BTW, the best thing happened to me is I got know God. Amazing new life to me.
1) DON'T go to college.. Even if the field you're aiming for requires it, get a job first, then cut costs wherever available (community college, CLEP tests)
2) Budget. Keeping to a budget will allow you to meet your goals.
3) Don't work to "be happy".
If you can get a good paying job you love, Great... But Most of us will have to have fun in our free time instead.
Here is a perfect example of “how to live a life of mediocrity”
This was actually nice. Thank you again prager keeping it classy
When she said she was 24 I felt like Katie in mean girls when she said "omg that's me".
beautiful video! love this channel.
Women go on yoga retreats to Bali?
I don't believe I can relate.
I went through a quarter life crisis about a quarter century ago. I remember it well, and my deepest regrets still reside in the memories of those two years. But I grew a bit wiser, and I decided that I sincerely wanted to like myself again. My solution? The same three steps you've explained here. Well said.
PS: Apparently, if you've done well at getting through your quarter life crisis, you get to completely skip the mid life crisis! Whew! The 40s and 50s are awesome fun. Honest.
Thank you prager. I really needed this.
Nearly everyone I've ever met in the suburbs was so much happier than those in the city. Nightlife and downtown is fun in your early 20's. But I wouldn't trade our little house on 4 acres in the middle of farmland for anything else. 😎
Were they also more rich? That must be it.
You can't have a quarter life crisis when your entire life is a trainwreck
*Taps finger on head*
I wish that I could have seen this video when I was 25, it's great advice for both guys and gals, I'm a huge fan of your's Dana, I love your work on "The Five" you're one talented Lady, I'll be sharing this video with my Daughter, the best person to have ever entered into my life, when I was 26...
My quarter life crisis was characterized by me realizing that all I had going in my life was my job and wonderful relationship with my husband. I didn't really feel the need to get up go, I had already left my home and moved to another state when this happened and I was in a great career. So I just took up a bunch of hobbies. I took up a couple of instruments, gymnastics, and video editing. I didn't plan on mastering anything, but I wanted to work towards something else since I was already done with school and was about to be wed. It gave my life more purpose, more meaning. And now I continue to be active in those endeavors.
Ah...first world problems.
Just because we have better overall living, it doesn't mean that our problems should be brushed off or laughed at. There are many people in their early twenties, who have suicidal thoughts just because of this uncertainty of what's to come.
Levi Paladin i have a feeling that you are an edgy teen
still a problem nonetheless.
People tend to fixate on the problems they can't solve. I see no problem in trying to fix something you actually can fix - yourself.
+Lawstorant Suicide is the last thought in the heads of people who are living for someone else's survival. It's only the stupid system of sending women to college to help them pretend that they're contributing as much labor and as many ideas to society as our male ancestors did that makes them think about suicide (not commit suicide, because it's usually men who are hopeless and still focused enough to do that).
The vast majority of women would be far happier if they married someone who worked and helped them build a home...
I had a tenth-life crisis when I was 7 and my dad got rid of cable, so I lost Cartoon Network and Nicktoons; my life lost all meaning. 😂
what did you do about it? these are on the internet
@@extropiantranshuman maybe he didint had internet
@@JorgeGonzalez-gu7ve well what about watching them in your head - cartoons weren't on everyday - that's what I did before the internet.
This is different from PragerU's usual videos, but I like it. I am expecting a quarter-life crisis to hit me in a few years, and I'd like to be prepared... Thanks, Dana!
My quarter life crisis is just wrapping up. It's feels like a slow, dragged-out Ayahuasca trip; lots of past trauma bubbles up to the surface, you feel intense pain for no reason, you start to outgrow the masks you wear. It's like everyday you stare into the world's most honest mirror. But despite the discomfort, somehow, it feels healthy. It's as if all the pretentiousness of your teens gets purged out, and all that's left is the real you. You start fighting the battles that matter and let go of the ones that don't, you show compassion for your parents, you grow a fondness for children, and you stop pretending everything is okay all the time. It's like a sweet, comfy defeat.
"Meet the universe halfway. No one is going to hand you the life you want. You're going to have to go out and get it. But there's a twist. You don't really know where your life is going to take you. You almost certainly won't end up where you plan to be. But that's okay, because when you set goals and work toward them, positive things happen. You gain skills. And those skills will create opportunities that never would've existed if you weren't working toward something. Life will happen along the way; things will change in ways you can't possibly predict, but nothing happens if you're sitting on a couch waiting for your life to begin" - Dana Perino
Took one look at the title, and genuinely thought it was talking about the Quarter life of an atom, no joke.
Glad I'm not going through that. I left college, got a full time engineering job in a field I love, and only looked back when I visited for events with my old clubs in the first year after. That really gave closure in that everyone had moved on, and now I don't look back.
Thank you... I liked the last graphics of a man choosinga way and walking through... 👌 thanks again....
How do I move if I have no money?
Consigue dinero
save?
mandaloin save up
People all over the world are in poverty, yet find the ability to move to different countries. The "I have no money" excuse is just that. Hell, the easiest way to move is to find a job in another location that will help pay for moving expenses.
He doesn't have something to save
lol I still have crippling depression, anxiety, and stress despite doing all the things you prescribe
I felt depressed a few months ago and I came up with a list of 7 goals I have to live a happy life. I keep this list in my wallet so that it's with me everywhere I go. All my actions now are determined based on whether or not they will help me fulfill these goals.
I'm finally graduating at 23 as a software engineer although I had an ephiny and decided to enrol at a game development college for 2 more years.
I've never felt better.
Once you find your passion, drop everything and go for it.
Everything will fall into place.
i still have a all life crisis
I know of that quarter-life-crisis. I started having at an young age and still have it 18 years later xD :(
I can relate to and agree with this much: Quarter-life-crises are very much about being "stuck". A lot of people in this thread are berating her for working her ass off in college to become what she was at 24. Imagine working as hard as you can toward that goal essentially all of your life and once you reach it, it's all over. Nothing to strive for in the long term because you don't know what happens next. The feeling is terrifying.
I love this video. Definitely some worthwhile advice.
"Don't skip the dentist"
Too late, i think it's like a gurantee i'm 80% away from gingivitus.
Love you Dennis (no homo), but you couldn't upload at 4 a.m. on a weeknight and except me to be asleep. No; I never sleep. We, never sleep. I was ready for this one
Expect* , but lol in my case it was a weird coincidence to be awake at 4 a.m.
Seriously people, do you have _any_ life outside of YT?
That sounds kinda.... self important
yarpen26.. No, we don't.
This is another outstanding video from Prager U. All of the advice Dana Perino provides is excellent and on the mark. Let me second "getting out of town" with emphasis. When I was about 25 I seriously began to think about finding somewhere I liked better than my hometown. I never got around to it and that failure now has a place with two other life choices on my "do over" list. Additionally, use every job, even crappy ones, to learn skills. Make a mental not or a list of those skills to use on resumes or CVs. They look good on job applications.
I will be 23 in two weeks and I feel extremely bad about it. I will try those you mentioned. I hope it will help me thank you!
I'm gonna be a marine so I might not reach the quarter life crisis
Isn't it when you something costs $1 but you only got 3 quarters with you?
That's part of the problem.
I feel like I have been going through this quarter life crisis for 4 years now. I'm 26 and work as a graduate assistant at our national university. I have got married at 21 to someone I didn't love and struggle to do so. I stayed in our country for his sake when I could travel abroad to pursue a better career and a postgraduate degree. I have enrolled in an MA program in our country that wasn't what I want but the closest thing in my country and it didn't fulfill me or make me feel better. I had to at the fourth semester because I got hired by our national university and they decided to award me a scholarship for another MA program and should start immediately (still not the program I wanted). When I finally mustered enough courage to divorce my husband and decide to go abroad and give up my current life here, I found out I'm pregnant. so, I'm 26, pregnant from a man that I wanted to divorce for years, but I actually stayed in my home country and abandoned my dreams for his sake. I'm going to my second MA classes sad, unmotivated, depressed. I got engaged, married, and knew I was pregnant with nothing but anxiety and sadness. I have seen my best days pass me by, and I couldn't enjoy them. I l feel that I have lost my faith and spirituality. I can't create. I can't go on adventures.. I can't dream of a future. I would rather be spending my years traveling the world and creating art - but here I am. a sad wife and a sad soon-to-be mom.
Unfortunately, I went through my quarter-life crisis married with children at 27. There was no- just get out of town. It was survival mode until my kids were out of diapers.
Dana is too nice. At 22 I worked two jobs - the meat department in grocery store and delivering the local newspaper at night - everyday I asked myself, 'Why?' So, I quit and joined the US Army, became an Airborne Infantryman in the 82nd Airborne Division until I broke myself physically and became medically 'retired' at 26. THAT is a FIRST WORLD problem. Dana, if she were NOT the nicest person in media could have merely said, 'Quit yer Bitc'n'!'
Dana is adorable!
I'm 23. I saw this video when I was 17. I thought I was prepared for it. I thought I was ready. Well, I wasn't. Here I am 7 months into this crisis with no end in sight. I may have to try to reinvent myself elsewhere to see what works out. Wish me luck.
If you're going through this as well - good luck. You're not alone. If youre reading this way into the future, feel free to ask me how I got out of it. But right now, I don't have any answers.
How’s it going?
Nice keep it pushin and include those who are will to take the step. Keep it pushin.
I'm 34.😱
I stayed in Cleveland all my life because of family.😭
How's that turning out?
That's the best wealth. Being around people who are family. Believe me you can have the best mansion in Hollywood it won't make you happier than where you are now with family
I think I'm going through this right now, so scared of my fleeting youth, and the lack of purpose in my life
I’m going through the quarter life crisis now, it started at 24 and I’m 26 now, one thing that wasn’t mentioned on this video is that you need to clear out all of your old junk both spiritual and physical, at 24 I was forced to give up on all my Bible Study groups, all my “friends” from those groups. The reason this happened was because I found out that those friends were being fake and REALLY were gossiping about me behind my back. One friend who was the leader in one of those small groups kept on acting like a parent to me when HE had HIS own family to take care of, so I told him “what’s it going to be? Are you going to be my friend or going to try to ‘fix’ me?” He got SO mad that he said “I would be MUCH ruder to you if you WERE my friend!” So I left him and I realized that he and all my other “friends” were were HOLDING me back from destiny I.e. “You have to stay here in this town! It’s good for you!”
I can tell you Midlife was easier than first quarter life. From then to now, I started a career a business, raised a family bought a house and traveled. What I learned about midlife had more to do with the time between then the 2 epocs. Where do we place our value, how do we invest our time, who do we invest in. My wife and I invested in 2 major things, our children and service. we invested in our children to teach them to be independent, smart but most to have virtue. In service to our church, addiction councelling, as musicians and artists. All during that time we invested in each other, for better or worse, we would be all that's left at home. Now that I am approaching the 3rd quarter I much to be thankful for and much to look forward to. I never bought a sports car, my wife never needed yoga in a foreign country. We were too busy living and doing. After she passed away we enjoyed a full life that ended too early, yet full.
When I was 23, I was the top sniper in the Navy SEALs, had over 300 confirmed kills, led numerous raids on Al-Qaeda and specialized in Gorilla Warfare
You are lying sir
So?
4:19 The reason I'm hating this whole lockdown because of corona thing.
yea and its still here 7 months after... im just waiting for summer and hope i can travel away from home
loved these advices
I had the opposite problem where my parents are College athletics moving to completely new state every four years so I have the opposite inclination you had.
Moving to a diffrent place and starting over definitely helps! Worked for me. Another thing you can do: include God in your life.
The best way to avoid a quarter life crisis? Don't set unrealistic expectations - that way you'll never be disappointed.
Alfred Johnson if that’s the advice you follow you’re gonna get SLAMMED with a mid-life crisis and you realized you set the bar low your whole life. You basically got it backwards homie.
Definitive Entertainment "Expectation brings disappointment." -Lao Tzu.
Definitive Entertainment he is right you know.
Extremely right. The poor bastards who said they’d be millionaires when I was younger are now working minimum wage jobs.
You gotta be realistic with your expectations.
High standards attracts high performance. It's better to fail doing your best than fail being average.
@@eunoiaeunoia1931 So important.
Thank you
i hope this video is still in my watch later section when im in college
Thanks for the video, Dana. I am in this exact spot in my life right now. I hope by the grace of G-d my life will work out, but you're 100% right in that if you don't go out and try to make opportunities for yourself, none will come to you. G-d helps those who first help themselves.
My experience has been that, if you make the most of your quarter-life crisis, you might not have the mid-life crisis.
The thing about moving... make sure you're doing if to expand your horizons and not because you're running away from your problems. My ex did the latter when we were both 23, not realizing what was going on 3 years later both of our lives were a mess. Just make sure you're going to find something and not get away from something because chances are you'll carry the thing with you that you're trying to escape.
Kind of when through the same thing. I was working as a supermarket cashier and I was afraid I would be stuck there. Of course instead of just whining about it, I went to a technical school and now I'm entering the professional field I wanted to do.