The Missing Tile Syndrome | 5 Minute Video
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 8. 09. 2024
- Have you ever thought to yourself, "I wish I were ____"? Adjectives may have included: thinner, taller, smarter, etc. If so, you're like virtually everyone else, and afflicted by "The Missing Tile Syndrome." As Dennis Prager explains, we often focus on the missing tile(s) in our lives, which robs us of happiness. In five minutes, learn how to fix your focus.
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Script:
I would like you to imagine sitting in a room, looking up at a tiled ceiling. And you notice that one tile is missing - just one. What would you concentrate your vision on? What would you look at the most? The answer of course, is the missing tile.
Now, thatâs fine for ceilings, in fact itâs actually good because we can replace a ceilingâs missing tile and once again have a perfect ceiling. Ceilings, after all, can be perfect. But this doesnât apply to life. Most of what is missing in our lives, or what we think is missing, cannot be replaced. Unlike a ceiling, life can never be made perfect. For that reason, concentrating on the missing tiles in your life is a big problem.
Let me give you the example that taught me this great lesson about what I call The Missing Tile Syndrome.
A bald man once said to me, âYou know, Dennis, whenever I walk into a room with people, all I see is hair. When I heard this I immediately realized in this regard this man sees the world completely differently from how I do. Because I have all my hair, when I walk into a room I donât even notice hair. Itâs not a missing tile for me. But for this person, hair is what he sees. This applies, in some way, to everyone.
When a woman who thinks she has imperfect legs walks into a room, all she sees are perfect legs. Or take the example of the woman who once said to me, âWherever I go, all I see are pregnanyt women.â Now how could that be? The vast majority of women, even those young enough to be pregnant, are not pregnant at any given time. But that was all she saw because she wanted to get pregnant and wasnât able to. Her missing tile was not having a child. Thatâs the way human nature is: we focus on whatâs missing in our lives.
The Missing Tile Syndrome is a very big obstacle to happiness. So big, in fact, that it makes happiness almost impossible. There will always be something missing in your life. When you see other peopleâs kids, youâll think you see tiles that are missing in your own children. âGee, why canât my kids study as hard, or be as polite, or be as bright, or be as good looking, or be as athletic.â The same holds true regarding our spouses, our work, our looks. The list is endless.
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Conservative or Liberal, this is a valuable life lesson for everyone. Thanks PragerU.
I'm a lib
Agreed, this is an excellent video. And the graphic at 2:20 is both hilarious and terrifying.
@@aabb3340 I'm not lib, I'm a soc
No
@Your Average American I do
I have a 1080p monitor with one dead pixel. One dead pixel out of a little over two million pixels. I focus on that pixel so much, it drives me crazy...
That would bug me too. I had a monitor that started out that way, and after a year it just stopped working. It was brand new too. Thankfully I had an extended warranty for five years, and the new monitor has so far lasted me nearly seven years without any problems.
My dead pixel is currently next to your comment.
I must learn to live with it.
*****
I got mine from my father, who got it as a spare from a friend... So even if it was under warranty, I wouldn't have any way of proving such. Besides, it's a nice monitor otherwise, so I can hardly complain about it. If I was really desperate, I could always go back to my previous monitor.
That's because that bad pixel has the power to influence other, more young and impressionable pixels around it to become bad. I suggest you and the senior pixels get together and expel that pixel from the monitor. You should then replace it with a constantly white pixel that is also blindingly bright. Maybe some of that brightness will rub off on the younger generation.
Crap I got one too. But I only notice it on a white background.
As you go through life,
Make this your goal.
Keep your eye on the donut,
And not on the hole.
ROGER2095 perfect
* claps *
Jim Gaffigan would approve of this quote.
I've stood up to this lesson
Eye on the donut
Dick in the hole
Thank you
But if you're not right on the doughnut, you'll poop all over the seat!
I will never look at the cracked tile in my kitchen the same way again.
This is a lesson they need to teach
Pikapetey Animations hey dude did not expect to see you here
omg
Of all the people, you?
Pikapetey Animations wow didnt expect to see you here!
This is a lesson WE need to teach
"You can't have everything.....where would you put it?"
- Steven Wright
Shucks I don't even Want everything. Scaling down here
A man walked into a garden and noticed that all the plants were complaining.
He asked the Apple what's wrong. "My fruits aren't as juicy as the Pear's!" it said.
He asked the Pear what's wrong. "My fruits aren't as pretty as the Orange's!" it said.
He then asked the Orange what's wrong. "My fruits aren't as hard as the Walnut's!" it said.
In the middle of all their bickering, he noticed a small, yellow flower on the ground.
"Why aren't you complaining? Don't you want to have the traits of the juicy Pear, or the colours of the Orange, or the hardness of the Walnut?" the man asked.
"Not really, I'm just trying to be the best little flower I can."
Imran Meco you my friend have a wise soul.
@War Face perfect summary
Smells like cheese... But the lesson is obviously good.
I thought the little flower would be just patiently waiting for all hell to break loose among those bitter bitches.
Brilliantly said, Sir!
Ironically, I actually looked up and saw we have one missing tile on our suspended grid system.
Ignore this... just move along.
@@NickNicometi But just imagine how much better Josh's life would be if he replaced it. He's probably wasted 6 years of his life, not worrying about the tile that should be.
As a rule, man's a fool. When he's hot, he wants it cool. When he's cool, he wants it hot, always wanting what is not.
+Mounted Czarina All I want is for my surroundings to be roughly 75 degrees Fahrenheit, regardless of the temperature it currently is. What do you say to that?
Fahrenheit 451 sounds like the right temperature
+Mounted Czarina
As a rule,
Man's a fool.
Wants it hot when it's cool.
Wants it cool when it's hot.
Always wanting what is not,
Never wanting what he's got.
Ok
@Dinkelstein Kerman wow you're so high up there in ur security can't even see u
Thereâs this tension between contentedness and complacency that we must walk. Itâs good to be thankful for what one has but to also continually pursue self-improvement.
This is wisdom; simple, yet profound.
I'm missing so many tiles, I notice the tiles I do have more
Actually, he was right in saying 'your'
Haha! this comment! It was so 'your' and they were being nice! Way to go with that reply!
This is actually a very insightful statement! We *do* cherish what we do have when we don't have excess. Compare America to many third-world countries and you'll see that.
Hopefully in the three years since you made this comment, many of those tiles have been replaced. I'm thinking yes since you had a positive outlook to choose to focus on what you had instead of what you didn't have. God bless you.
@@johnboehmer6683 If I was him, I'd focus on the lights, they always bug me if I don't see a nice looking pattern.
This could not have come at a better time. My missing tile is money and a decent job.
Christian Gerber Thank you.
well, keep in mind that they are people slave in some part of the world... so your job cant suck as much as they job do...
I love my job, I just don't make a lot of money or get enough hours.
I hear you. I only have a part time job, living at my parents condo paying no rent, I have negative money, and I'm also fat. I've been doing the stairs every day to try to lose weight, but I have a medical condition that makes it near impossible to lose weight. I'm 27, I am a college graduate, but all that means is more debt. At least we don't have children out of wedlock.
ogogo ogpgpg - Learn English.
Mr. Prager, the most important trait in a woman is A GOOD HEART.
Check Proverbs chapter 31 for the description of a great woman/perfect wife, from Godâs POV. If you donât believe in God, Iâm so sorry for you and check it anyhow and think long and hard about the kind of person youâd want to marry/want to be. Intelligent people know the Bible whether they believe it or not, because it is an important piece of literature and about half of the world or more have their values based in it.
@@evelbill1439 I DO believe in God, and I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I will look into it, and thank you.
This was great. I'm on a Prager University video binge right now, and while they've all been pretty solid, this is my favorite so far.
Geoff Stockton And then you find out that the entire institution is actually just a christian propaganda machine :(
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Deb Ona Exactly. It really seems as though there's a genuine attempt to conceal that fact. I got a good 6 videos in before it dawned on me. I saw their video on modern art and said, alright, what the hell is going on here. After looking over the channel, I felt dirty, like I'd been violated.
At least you figured out that something funky was going on and that there was some sort of hidden agenda instead of blindly following along and just repeating every point they make as though it was the divinely-inspired truth.
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1. Prager University has an obvious Christian bias.
2. Prager University has an obvious conservative bias.
3. Prager University wants to convince others that their own viewpoints about religion and politics are the correct or truthful views to have. If you watch their videos you will see that they will mark their own views on these matters as reasonable, logical, or truthful.
Do you disagree with any of the above?
I'll probably blasted for saying this from commenters but I feel calmer listening to these Prager.U videos. We are so politically and socially bombarded and lied to from all sides these days, it's almost a relief to hear sanity when it's spoken. Others won't agree with me, and you have that right but give me some peace, don't bother replying with snide remarks. Just let my remark be.
Let me see if I read your request correctly: You are exercising your right to express to us readers your views on this matter, and proceed to ask us NOT to express our opinions about your opinions? You obviously don't see the preposterousness of the limit you want to impose on us, when you have no such limit! Think again, buddy.
Lol...i see that Dan Mart made your point! I completely agree with you. There seem to be a lot of Prager haters out there, yet they continue to watch Prager videos, and continue to make negative comments :)
@@danmart1879 no you didn't read it correctly. . Let him be without a negative remark ..though me thinkest he's a good fisherman .
PragerU sometimes oversimplifies an issue, and sometimes they ignore valid counterpoints, but in most cases, they present an idea in entirely sensible terms. I generally like their videos too.
Prager U has a great impact on my life. Literally, these 5 minutes videos have solved my problems, I was struggling with since many years.....
you don't focus on anything! the key is balance. You have to pay an equal amount of time to both, the tiles that you have, and the ones that you don't, you need to be thankful for what you are given, proud of your accomplishments, and working towards your goals. I live in a third world country that i want to leave, i am young and inexperienced, i have plenty of personality issues that i need to work on, those are missing tiles i keep in mind all the time, however, i find myself thinking about my achievements all the time, thinking about how far i've come in such a short time, thinking about all the things that other people are jealous about me, all the tiles i have and others don't. With proper balance comes undoubtedly encouragement "sure i can get that tile i'm missing! look al all of this other tiles i was missing in the past and now i have!" The question, when thinking about happiness, is not "do you have everything you want" but rather "can you get everything you want?" if the answer to the latter is yes, then you are going to be happy, even in the face of adversity, happiness isn't something you reach, it's a lifestyle that you program your brain to follow.
+marshma llowsxoxo yeah, I like your perspective more.
Vikas Konsam heh thanks n.n
I'm from Vietnam. This vid is boring because nobody lives like that lol and wat this man is teaching is narrow-minded.
We should LEARN from those people, not IGNORE them, and live in your nutshell like wat this man is teaching.
QuĂĄch Má»č i don't understand why you reply to me with this comment, but regardless, i don't see how it's narrow-minded to encourage a bit of optimism in life
+marshma llowsxoxo I see your point, however; I wouldn't say it's a perfect 50-50 balance. In another PragerU video (Happiness equation) it is discussed that the biggest source of unhappiness is "image" and that ideal perception of what we "should" have (the missing tile) That image makes us compare ourselves to others which inevitably leads to unhappiness. I'd argue that ambition is what makes your ceiling better NOT completed. You don't need those missing tiles (not always) to find happiness. I'd ask you the same question "Can you get everything you want?"
Now, how often is your answer "yes"? Probably, there will always be something you want and you can't get. So the best possible answer to your own question is more like, "sometimes, yes" or "yes, for now"
Then, even from your perspective happiness is a endless race of fulfilling missing tiles, and that's not real happiness.
Peace :)
When I see people, I see them having jobs.
+Arif Kazi haha
+Arif Kazi :)
***** Yes I do
+Wise Liar how did you go thru the struggle?
+Arif Kazi
There is only one job out of dozens that I regret losing,The rest of them I felt sorry for the poor bleep who got it next.
Who does this guy think he is???
Giving me unbiased, non-politicized, words of wisdom... that will definitely make me a better person, husband and father.
Ugh. Conservative thinking is definitely what's wrong with this country.
/s.
Ricardo Palmer idk if youâre being serious or not?
â@@brendan594
/s = sarcasm
If you have to signal it is sarcasm then the society is in very sad shape.
Well done sir!đ
I would have to have to disagree with you. While one can legitimately oppose any number of "conservative" political or social positions, having a clearly defined set of qualities one absolutely wants in a potential spouse is vital. Simply being willing to accept a "whatever" criteria in looking for a life partner is a recipe for disaster!
It's called being a malcontent. The way to overcome that is to be content with the things that you have in your life. If you don't learn contentment, you will always have a 'missing tile' that makes you unhappy.
"Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am." Philippians 4:11
When I see friends who seem happy & well adjusted, I imagine that they grew up with a loving mother who gave them support & confidence and trust in having close personal relationships, instead of the one I had who continually lashed out in rage & anger at all her relatives around her. Dennis is right about the effect of the missing tile.
I see dead people.
+Rusty Shackelford LOL
+Rusty Shackelford Thats one big missing tile.
That must mean you're immortal and you want to die
+Rusty Shackelford warcraft
+Rusty Shackelford Do you really see dead people? How do they affect your life? Do they talk to you and stuff?
Thanks Dennis
Some of us aren't missing ceiling tiles. Some of us in fact are missing floor tiles. And it is imperative that they be filled in so that we may not fall through the floor.
Floor tiles are installed over a plywood or cement foundation, though. At worst you'd twist your ankle.
We all are missing ceiling tiles (which can be mutually exclusive to one another) but that is also true, we must take care not to step in missing floor tile holes. Good point.
@@melkel2010 r/wooooooooooooooosh
dxmakina great analogy.
Or they are stained from oll the leaks in the. Roof
Congratulations! You reinvented Buddhism."All suffering in life is due to a person's wants". I'm paraphrasing Buddhism here, but that's basically what Dennis is saying.
+Jpwnage216 I can go one better: "Congratulations, you outlined the principle of contentment."
Nobody was pretending to be novel or groundbreaking here; just reminding people about a point of wisdom that has been expressed and considered since we've had language. Nonetheless, I hope you also benefited from this video; I'm sure you agree that we'd all be happier if we were content with what we have.
Jpwnage216 thou shall not convert your neighbours property.
No thanks. I preffer PragerU version.
Thank you for "The Missing Tile Syndrome" video. Now I know why I am so happy. All my life I have been happy and now I know it is because I have always been happy with what I have and where I was in life at that moment. I've never wanted riches or beauty or something that someone else has. No, what I have is enough. I am not poor nor am I rich but I am comfortable. I have a wife that loves me and I love her. We have four children, eleven grandchildren and nine great grandchildren. A good (not perfect) family. To me it is not a bad thing to be in the middle of the road. God is good all the time.
My ceiling has no tiles... in fact I don't even have a ceiling. It's raining constantly and I wish I had one.
"If I find in myself desires which nothing in this world can satisfy, the only logical explanation is that I was made for another world."- C.S. Lewis
I believe Lewis had a very firm grasp on this idea of The Missing Tile Syndrome. There are things in this life that leave a void so great that they simply cannot be overlooked:
-Restless War in the middle East.
-Desparity of wealth across the globe.
-Continued loss of morality, the very thing that sets humans apart.
The list could go on and on! Cast aside any of these, and the noise of the thing that is not in fact there (yet we believe it should be), becomes deafening. No amount of other things can fill the empty space; like a rich man who can't buy happiness or joy.
That feeling however was created for a purpose. This "other world" that Lewis speaks about is not just some fairy tale in the mind. Or even a story he's written like any of the Narnia books. It's the promise of God in his word given to comfort us as we bear this life for the lost. Given because this world we live in will pass away like a house ablaze, and in its place he will create a new world, with every tile in its space.
"Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea no longer existed. I also saw the Holy City, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared like a bride adorned for her husband. Then I heard a loud voice from the throne: 'Look! Godâs dwelling is with humanity,
and He will live with them.
They will be His people,
and God Himself will be with them
and be their God.
He will wipe away every tear from their eyes.
Death will no longer exist;
grief, crying, and pain will exist no longer,
because the previous things have passed away.' Then the One seated on the throne said, âLook! I am making everything new. â He also said, âWrite, because these words are faithful and true.â
Revelation 21:1-5
What if my missing tile was happiness? Then in order to obtain happiness I would need to not focus on happiness?
Perfectly said :)
Happiness is a result, not something that's acquired directly.
I'm saying what if your depressed, and find it extremely hard to find happiness. When you go around you look and see everyone else being happy and having fun, and feel like that's what you're missing. This video says if you focus to much on that one subject, it'll be harder to find happiness. So if I don't try and be happy I will?
Just seeing other people happy, makes the person more depressed, and jealous wishing that he can be happy. Should he focus on being happy, and just see more people happy, making him more and more depressed, or should he not focus on happiness, and just let himself stay depressed
Apparently you aren't wise enough to understand what he meant when he talks about a missing tile.
Gratefulness and humility.
Be grateful for what you DO have. Appreciate how fortunate you are to have it.
When I did not have a wife, all I used to see were other people's wives :P
What about now? How do you feel now?
Probably seeing all the happy single men now.
Sorry, guys, but the witty face in the end of his sentence leads me to believe what he means is that he was actually going out with other people's wives - all he 'saw' was other people's wives, get it?
So everyoneâs a woman in your view?
Ive been working on expanding my number of tiles these last couple years. To be better than yesterday. Doing so, I've found that the will to improve myself was the best tile I had. I've been focused on that for over a year now. And it works for me. Last year I was broke, living at my parents, working part time, etc. Now I have a nice place, a new car, and I live in a new city. These didn't come without a bit of stress, but things just keep looking up!
Not a fan of Prager U, but this video is pure gold!
I went through the same path and found that we should try to be happy with whatever life throws at us. My only worry is how we balanced teaching striving for the best while being contempt with what we have.
This video really opened my eyes. I have a son whoâs 19, he finished high school with good grades, he has a job, a good girlfriend who he goes to church with and he seems happy and healthy. However he still doesnât have a drivers licence, I get into him about it all the time. Thank you for this video Dennis.
We should be grateful and focus on what we do have and not what we lack.
"I cried because I had no shoe, then I met a man who had no feet " -Gandhi
the choice is not that simple. you need to analyze if the missing tile is something in your control. if you're obese, you can always eat a little less, and exercise a little more. that will not just help you look better and feel better about the way you look, but it will also improve your health.
if your missing tile is something out of your control, then i agree completely. just let it go, and focus on what makes you happy.
Some missing tiles you can fix, the problem is after you fix it, another missing tile takes its place. It's never-ending. There will always and I do mean always be something wrong with your life. Even if you can fix it, it'll be replaced with something else.
UnknownXV
some missing tiles are worth fixing.
sabin97 Self betterment seems to be something else entirely though. He's talking about what your focus is, and what we spend the majority of our time thinking about.
Luke Riley
me too
*****
i should probably watch that movie (one of my missing tiles?)....
What if these "tiles" missing are items found in the bottom two tiers of Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
+Paul Johnson: Oooh . . . that's telling him.
Well that is a ridiculous heirarchy, acting like people missing certain things can't be fully actualized and reach certain heights
+chasem007ify Well then please, ridicule it better.
Paul Johnson What do you mean? I can't tell whether you want sources or you can't comprehend what I'm saying because it isn't up to your perfect(ly arbitrary) standard of grammar
+Paul Johnson It doesn't apply to the bottom tiers of Maslow's hierarchy. The missing tile syndrome applies to wants not needs. In this day in age, it is a very thin line between the two. I have heard that having an internet connection is a basic human need now. You might have a loving home and be well fed, but you still feel like something is "missing".
Not concentrating on the missing tiles is a great way to let them stay missing though.
he started the video by saying that he was talking about tiles you can't replace.
o rekt
randomjuggler2010 Thats an assumption he makes. Often, you can replace the tiles even if you think you can't.
Well, not really. A self-conscious short person will never have that tile replaced.
Ilya Hefets I was referring to the ones you think you can't change but you can
You just perfectly explained why I'm generally a happy person despite being ill from a mystery disease as well as a lot of physical problems, forced into poverty because of not being able to work, survived ovarian cancer, and suddenly losing my stepdad in February. The state appointed SSDI psychologist even remarked at how amazed he was that I wasn't suffering from situational depression. Sure I get upset, even angry (like when I was denied SSDI), but I naturally focus on what I do have...my family, my friends, even my pets. Money is very important. But it's not the only thing we need in life and for a lot if people, including myself, lack of money is a gaping ceiling tile. Our life isn't easy by any means, but it's EASIER because I'm happy to have these people in my life and couldn't imagine life without. And no amount of money would or could ever replace a single one of them.
I don't have any tiles, so the world actually just looks normal to me.
This is excellent advice. Gratitude for the good things you DO have is the cornerstone of happiness. There is always someone else worse off.
When I look up I see the great blue sky... I think im going to cry now.
this hits the nail on the head. while I recognize that I have a great job and a growing family. I now see those around me that have the perfect work life balance. this is feel is my biggest strugle
The most important trait in a woman is "not having a smartphone", though!
boitahaki
what is this "without a smartphone"? Never heard of it?
Evian
They are one in a million.
+Evian he is implying that they will ignore you for texting and social media. I had this happen to me, trust me when I tell you, it sucks balls.
+boitahaki
I gravitate towards the ones that put up with me.
Double D
I gravitate towards girls who can look me in the eye and talk to me like a person and smile.
YOU are SO SPOT ON. TYVM for a way I can BETTER explain my JOY of life. I DON'T have much in the eyes of others, BUT I have all I NEED to LIVE LIFE productively. I simply DON'T worry about the missing tiles in my life anymore.
What if my tiles have asbestos in them?
Ur fugged.
Be happy you have asbestos in your life! most people never get any of those.
Yay! asbestos-induced lung rot!
I suggest that you embrace your emphysema
LOL
YES!!! That is why being thankful for what we do have makes us much happier.
Or as our parentsâ much maligned generation said, âCount your blessings. Donât be a fault finder.â
Sometimes it's good to look at the missing, but only those that can be fixed.
Yes, but on the other hand, every painter, scientist, stateman, researcher...who made a difference in this world once focused on the missing tiles and said to himself: "this is not good enough; I want to evolve and make my art/society/countrymen/company better". There are missing tiles and I will fix them in my search of betterment.
The missing tile syndrome is wishing for something to change without changing it.
at the start he said he was talking about tiles you can't replace
MTS is more about internal change than external
I think you failed to understand that he's not asking people to not improve for the better. He was simply suggesting that we should not focus so much on the imperfection that we filled our lives with negativity.
So your "missing tile syndrome" is really nothing more than people thinking "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence."
No. In the "grass is greener..." both grasses are green, in the missing tile, there is a missing tile.
Whats my missing tile:my speed at work. I always said to my self "Come on Macky,do your things faster than light!" But i am slower than loght
Oh my goodness this is soooooo relatable. Every time I walk into a room, all I see is people with money, nice people around them, and simple, easy circumstances
I have quite a few missing tiles in my life, on the other hand, I also have many that are multiple stacked.
I've seen and done things that most people will never see/do... those are the ones I prefer to 'concentrate' on.
BTW, I'm now mostly bald, too... I love how it helps me save a crap-ton of money on shampoos and conditioners. đ
Im glad i figured this out at a young age. I probably wouldn't be living much of a happy life if I have never recognized that all of the things that I think of myself poorly are the only negative things.
The Missing Tile Syndrome has no gratefulness. Without gratefulness, you're more likely not to be happy & more likely to be sad, pessimistic, and have high Neuroticism.
You know my wife ...?
My missing tile is friends. Everything I see is people enjoying the company of others and the camaraderie they share, and every time Iâm with friends I always feel whatâs missing instead of whatâs there. It sucks.
Subscribed... Im currently 2 hours into watching Prager University videos. These are awesome. just loving it.
Sourav Das Check out TYT
+Misherman haha! NO. TYT is liberal crap.
Deka 001 Aww did did you catch feelings
Misherman No. I caught "values".
( If you have been following the orator's vids in this series, you would know what I mean ;) )
Deka 001 I haven't, can you link?
It's just another way to say appreciate what you have, and don't take it all for granted.
Possible life changing video.
I didn't know I needed to see this but I truly did. Thank you, Mr. Prager.
Remember the Seinfeld episode with the beautiful but cheap sweater for sale? Its only flaw was a tiny red spot, and everybody fixated on it. It is human nature to notice such flaws. It's called stigmatization.
That ceiling tile....'s where the face-huggers come from......
My missing tile = nice teeth. That's all I notice one people haha
Thanks, Dennis. That is a very valuable life lesson! God Bless.
Weird I don't do this at all, tho I do notice others doing it
maybe that is your missing tile, wanting a missing tile
There might be no ceiling at all :)
Some happiness does come from seeing progress towards a goal. Also, if we don't see tiles, we would never improve. This "syndrome" doesn't seem fully thought through. Perhaps focusing on "tiles" we have no control over is a better lesson.
So when I walk into a room and all I can think of is how loud and obnoxious it is...?
You should probably buy earbuds.
Chips Dubbo Yeah, probably.
It could be because you are an introvert and prefer socialize in a smaller group of people that's quieter. You can't be loud and obnoxious yourself so such loud people can make you feel this way. I'm introverted and every time I entered a large, loud party I felt like I've entered a jungle.
I was at a nightclub once for a friend's birthday. I ended up spending the evening outside with everyone else there who hated the noise.
I've always called it the 'grass is always greener syndrome', but exact same idea
I don't even have a ceiling I'm missing so many tiles... :' ( I cry every time
Daniel B you read write and spell. There are three tiles right there!!
I agree with the principle only in so far as it applies to things we cannot change. when you talk about our looks, or money, etc, those are things that you should focus on. My missing tile is I'm overweight. so I go to the gym every day. you should absolutely look to improve the things in our life that we can. as the old prayer goes "Lord give me the strength to change the things I can, the courage to make peace with the things I cannot, and the wisdom to know the difference".
fine, but without the missing tile syndrome nobody would strive to innovate
Or better themselves or some aspect of life. I suppose that could be a separate category however, simply because when I do my work I want it to be perfect, and I learn from my mistakes and learn techniques from others in order to better my work.
Separating work from constantly feeling let down by what is missing in our lives is different though. I think both have merit, but they just can't be the same.
Daelyn75 sure, but mind the attitude you have professionally. you stay hungry, uneasy about oportunities to improvement, and develop resistance to frustration - it's constructive. you should be constructive about your personal life as well, pure acceptance of perceived flaws is not such attitude...
There was no suggestion to ignore the missing tile syndrome when it is beneficial to you. IOW, use it for your advancement and upliftment, not to run your life in a way that has a negative effect.
No one said that people won't look at the missing tile(s) -- everyone looks. And yes, sometimes, it can motivate us to improve and achieve greater things. Yet the point is not to spend all our time focusing on them as individuals because, most of the time, doing so doesn't serve to motivate and improve us, but rather, to frustrate us.
Im innovating a new wife every year
Seeing what we are missing also drives us to get it.
So true. I also notice perfect legs and pregnanat women. And cute children and thin waists. And when people love their work. And when women are great at flirting. And beautiful houses or gardens. Lol this is a sad list. But I also notice when people have beautiful smiles and I have no complex regarding that =]
The problem with this is deciding where to draw the line. Most people don't really put much of a thought into something like this, but please, hear me out. When you try to follow this kind of advice, most people will either go for either
A: Trying too hard to balance focusing on the parts missing, and what we have,
or
B: Not trying hard enough to balance and therefore either become increasingly ignorant of all other views.
This is a serious problem, and I think it's what has started most of our societal collapses as of recently (2008-today).
I'd love to have a long and dignified discussion about this with someone.
"Ceilings can be perfect" No, nothing can be perfect.
This is by far one of the biggest things I've learned this year. Thank you for teaching it to everyone.
missing tile = happiness
i'm not happy cuz i have no ceiling everything is missing i guess
I never thought I'd say this in the comments section of a PragerU video, but...I actually agree with and appreciate just about everything that was said! My only major criticism is he could have focused more on how to focus on the "tiles" we do have instead of summarizing the problem for most of the video.
Does this mean that if I not try to fix my problems I will have a happier life?
Actually when successful people were asked the secrets to their success they stated the focused on their strengths, and not thief weaknesses, not saying don't work on shortcoming and stuff, but try to focus on the positive.
***** What about the things I can change?
***** How can I know that I can change it?
***** If I, for example, can't pay my biils I just focus on something else?
***** I just get homeless and focus on the good things in life?
Focusing on what I have brings me to a place of gratitude and if I do this then I forget all about that missing tile, or it drops way down on my list of priorities.
All I see is women with clear backs and shoulders, and people with beautiful straight white teeth :/
+Leonardo DaVinci Of course, Leonardo, of course.
***** When get the money for it, I definitely will :)
Dennis Prager takes wisdom he learned from parents and gives them to the whole world.
I'm amazed he managed to get through this entire video without once mentioning Religion whew :)
He often does. Better start paying more attention.
Imagine hating religion this much
you're like a vegan. only vegans and communists can speak of nothing else than veg or religion. it's your missing tile. people have broader interests, deal with it.
Sean O. Hardly. Homo sapiens is a highly evolved species capabale of thought and compassion. I don't know how you hominids in the homo erectus family operate, but you do seem less evolved, standing naked in the park...
BadMouseProductions he mentions religion often because of the importance of it. To a religious person all things in life are connected to your faith in God.
We need to focus on what we have... the good in our lives.
The only purpose in life for some is to be able to leave a thumbs down for each Prager U. video.
+Armand Rodriguez
wow--what a depraved sense of existence
Armand Rodriguez Lmao look a triggered libtard who can't handle reality.
Edit: Wait nevermind
Although, "happiness" itself should not be the goal: aiming for it misses the point, and, often, the mark.
I am the perfect male, i notice women :)
you are desperate
IÂŽm a big fan of Prager U's work. Most of the time, discussing the themes you board lets me clarify my thougths and set my posture on many complicated issues; this time is not the exception, nevertheless i would add something on today's reflection: You should first and foremost identifie the "tiles" you can do something about and those you can't. The ideal scenary would be: take adventage of the good tiles, if they're really important and there is an achievable way to fix the missing tiles, then fix them and at last, accept the fact that there will be tiles that you cannot do something about.
It give a new meaning into "count your blessing"....and not the missing tiles....
I'm guilty of this as well. Thank you for talking about it.
The tool for being happy right here right now was givven to us long ago by our Jewish sages.
It is said in Pirkei Avot (Chapter 4 Mishna 1/b): "Who is rich? He who is satisfied with his lot"
Meaning: happiness is the art of taking pleasure in what you have. Unhappiness is the art of focusing on what you donât have.
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The bald man analogy is so perfect. It explains so much with so little.
I just try to look at the things on me that I am able to change for the good. I swap out bad tiles.
The grass is always greener.... Now itâs the missing tile. This is a solid prove that people are more indoors these days.
my policy is to select a few must have tiles to work on achieving, being grateful for having the tiles I do already have, and not thinking about the tiles I don't have and are not on my todo list.
In Buddhism we practice thankfulness to bring to light the good things in life
If everywhere you go you smell ****, perhaps you should check your boot.
I could not agree more, I am happiest when I am not thinking of what I don't have or what I want but what good things I do have and all the good things I can enjoy right now.