I really like the way you present the INTJ as an intuitive type moreso than thinking. I believe this is something that most people get wrong. INTJs are much more imaginative and creative than many people realize.
If you look up the (roughly) equivalent sociotype ILI, you get what I feel is a much more accurate description of how we INTJ’s actually experience the world.
I'm 60 yo INTJ gal and I have gotten myself into such predicaments and BAD relationships when I got bulldozed into using thinking instead of going with my gut, just cus the other person made it like it wasn't "fair" to him to do so...and my gut has always been right and I lived to regret bypassing it. I don't do that anymore, believe me! The last time I did, it led to me losing all my passion for things I had loved because that person not only 'shared' my interests but practically appropriated them. It's taken years to crawl back out of myself and learn to re-enjoy them for myself again!
@@codeninja100 I'm also an INTJ artist. More famous examples of us include: Roger Waters of Pink Floyd (who wrote all their most memorable melodies, not "just" the lyrics and bass) and David Bowie.
This is so spot on! I think sometimes as an INTJ, if I don’t have that passion/goal, I fall into my extroverted thinking function and become overly obsessed with organising my life, but feeling stagnant and stressed. You need to find the goal and then utilise extroverted thinking to get there so you have forward momentum. I am really enjoying your videos, thanks for the content.
Very insightful. I learned something similar about introverted feeling when extraverted thinking is not being utilized. Not a good idea to make emotional choices as it is your third cognitive function. I did not know that the same thing applies to introverted intuition and extraverted thinking.
Point 1 - Love that. I consider Te in an INTJ to play an 'authoritative' role and is generally negative in nature, and as such any INTJ giving their Te function too much credence will generally develop an overly pessimistic personality, and generally distrust the Ni-Fi conceptions of the dominant stack. Point 2 - Both Se-oppositional types have to be cautious with this issue due to their intrinsic need to retreat into their 'personal sanctuary' to withdraw from the world. Solitary sensory indulgence is an extreme danger in such an instance as much of the time in withdrawal in spent resting the dominant stack, subsequently raising the oppositional functions to the surface. Point 3 - INTJs cannot afford to neglect their Fi-insights - people underestimate the extent to which INTJs are feeling types too which leads back to your initial point! As you say, all Ni dominants (and I would say Ni convergents as a whole) absolutely require a strong sense of identity and direction, manifested in some kind of external pursuit. As innovative types they can easily fall into depression when failing to take steps to realise their internal constructs in reality - you strike me as an INTJ yourself and I totally commend you on building a great and informative channel around this topic! Loving the content man.
Good analyzis! What do you think about the perspective of objective personality that there are 'jumpers' beyond the 'common' types (in this case a 'jumper' would be sb that uses ni+fi as saviour functions instead of ni+Te ... and this would make the INTJ more of a feeling type? You mentioned sth similar sounding...
I’m not an INTJ, but I do know a little bit about the Se function, since I’m an INFJ. If you want to train that part of your brain, you need to do activities that provide stimulus from the outside world. For instance a list of things would be: Martial Arts, Meditation, Running, or maybe even learning a musical instrument could help with this (that might be Si but I know for a fact that Se is applicable for the other things). So if you want stronger Se, consider picking up some of those activities.
Girls on CZcams: “How I lost 15 POUNDS 💪😤 My JOURNEY and CHALLENGES | #glowup #healthydiet “ Asura: casually makes an offhand remark on losing 130 pounds and moves on with the video topic So much respect for you, man. Not just for this, of course. I absolutely love your informative and grounded channel.
@@jeremiahsmith916 I get you, but just by writing "Others on CZcams..." or "Other CZcamsrs..." you would have not only get rid of that comfortable (fastest way of coming up with a joke) sexism (it's not that bad, dont get me wrong) but the joke would've been better
As an INTJ, I recognized the idea of bingeing when you are unhappy or without an important goal. I am going through that at this time. I didn't think of it in the way you explained. I have to to a closer look at my behavior and address the underlying problem. Thank you for your insights, Chris, they are much appreciated. Your videos are extremely helpful.
Thank you! I actually was considering doing an INFJ one separately sometime, I have some specific advice that is a little different for that type. Yes though, they are very similar!
This is true. I'm currently having a problem on the 3rd one, I no longer have something that I'm passionate about. Thus, I found nothing to motivate me to move forward. Been having suicidal thoughts since then.
Working out does wonders for me. I channel all my malice and negativity into a good and painful workout. Also, having someone extroverted by one's side is important. My mother is an ENTJ and I an INTJ. We complement each other almost perfectly. Her charisma and positivity have prevented me from embracing the dark arts. She keeps me tame, and I guide her with my intuitive thinking. I can't speak for everyone, however, in my case, as an unhealthy INTJ, I need emotional support from someone. Even if it's just one person, that is enough. Without it, I'd give in into darkness. I believe Walter White's character is a great example of the above. His achievements undermined by his colleges; his family harbored no respect toward him; his brother-in-law emasculated Walter whenever he possibly could, and his students ignored him as if he weren't there. Having nobody as an emotional foundation and being near death's door, made Walter embrace his inner monster/darkness. He always had it in him to be an irredeemable piece of shit, but he more or less had someone supporting him throughout his life, that is... Until he was about to die. That's why I find BrB a hard watch. Cheers.
my biggest problem as an INTJ is that I come from a family that restricts me from doing what I do. So I can't achieve my goals and now I'm trying to find some other thing to be passionate about but I can't think of anything and now not much matters anymore. I feel tired of everything and I don't even want to get out of bed every morning. It's suffocating
This is so spot on. I went through a hardcore perfectionist phase where I was super critical of myself. Comfort foods are my kryptonite. I am allllmost done with the first draft of my second book that is my calling, and it feels amazing. Love your videos.
Two years too late maybe, but I was thinking about writing a book too. Can you recommend any channels or information pages, where you can learn the craft work of writing a book? I am sure, that a well written book is almost never just a "I sat down and started writing" thing, I imagine it's gonna be more like drawing. Where you first make a rough sketch and details come at the end.
Again fully agree. Wish somebody told me (tip 1) when I was young - I came often across as critical and learned later to become more diplomatic in meetings etc. (Tip 2) - very interesting, didn't know that this is common with my personality type! It's exactly what you said - got lured into things but when I realized that I did too much of it, I quickly changed my habits. (Tip 3) came automatically to me when I was young. Developed as teenager interest in photography and started building my own microscope - passions which I still have to this day. I have several passions where I became expert in a field - all in parallel. Can't imagine to be without this creative thinking and exploring.
I work extremely hard all week - like 60-70 hours. Then the weekend comes and Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights are "switch off time" with a bottle of wine AND a few beers AND pizza AND chocolate. Every week!! I've been extremely fit and healthy in the past but my weight is creeping steadily upwards. I want to fix this but I'm still not sure how even after watching this video.
Try to find a healthy way to engage se, I find for me working out helps to relieve the stress. But that sounds like it would be a challenge for you as you work so much
Been there, done that. Keto helped me with self control with my bad eating habits. With keto, you can binge, but it must be with keto food. Our bodies won't allow us to eat as much cheese, eggs, butter and bacon, as we can candy, cake, spaghetti, and bread.
If your schedule allows try a pilates class in the morning. I'm 17 and have it 4 days a week bc it and before school class (yoga core and more) at my highschool. Besides adjusting to classes I've been a lot more physically healthy and mentally healthy. I'm no professional but I would say it's a good way to go
If you're struggling with a binge habit/ addiction it's easier to replace the addiction you want to stop with a less harmful addiction. Eg I replaced my shopping addiction w webnovel addiction... And forget "follow your passion" it's more like "follow your interests"
Those were excellent tips. One more that I would add is getting into your body more often… a walk in nature, swimming in the ocean, bike ride to work or errand.
Losing 80lbs in the last year, I chose to harness the power of binge eating by switching to OMAD and Keto. I now binge eat as much food as I can within a 3 hour period while still regulating my weight and even losing some. It still is the only diet that has worked for me.
I must admit, when someone sent me a link, I dismissed it right away and only watched it to formulate an accurate response to a kid talking about how to be healthy INTJ... My real response is that everything you say is bang on accurate. Looking back at life, I can say that this is the best advice anyone can give to a young INTJ, assuming that "young" INTJ is grown enough to receive this advice.
This! I have been in that apathy for a few years now and it feels terrible. I yearn for more in life and I am so very willing to give everything in order to achieve it. I want to be a theoretical physicist. I always have. And I won't let anything get in my way again. Dreams give me life. thank you for this video. I always look back on the time in my life where i was dedicated. Studying 10 hours a day just to understand the world. Philosophy, physics, mathematics, economics, anything that can teach me about the world around me. But when things seem to not work out or I get stressed I become apathetic, nihilistic and impulsive. Also when I most depressed I give in to binge eating or smoking weed so I don't overthink so much.
Hello Chris. I recently lost my pet to cancer. I was shocked at how emotional I became. I sobbed in front of a co-worker! I cannot seems to get over the grief. Can you maybe do a video on how INTJs handle grief. I've visited many pet loss websites trying to find comfort. I googled INTJ and grief and found many different ways INTJs handle grief - from stoic suppression to unexpected bouts of crying. I guess the reaction may be different between an INTJ with enneagram 5w4 than an INTJ enneagram 5w6 (I'm a 5w4). I just know I'm hurting and any insight into dealing with a terrible loss would be appreciated.
Yes. Honestly I have found deprogramming childhood emotional connections to food thru detoxing, raw foods and cleanses to be highly beneficial in correcting poor eating habits. And yes, pursue your passion. Unfortunately my passions makes everyone think I’m esfp 😂🤷🏼♀️ But I’m not here to convince anyone, just to build my youtube platforms as my vision pertains. Thanks for the vid.
Ande Sloeijk You do you! You have a lot to give to the specific field you choose, whatever that may be, precisely because you're not the stereotypical person who would get into it.
Damn!!! you are right man!!!! especially about the first tip. I ask you to make a whole video about how to avoid becoming Te overwhelmed INTJ. -thanks for sharing experience
Another Great video, Asura. I started college again this semester to pursue a degree in aerospace engineering. SpaceX is my end aim. Hope all is going well with your own academic pursuits!
This was awesome. The best way I've found to help me figure out who I am and what I want to commit to is by just getting out there. I don't like it at first but engaging Fi/Se is like ripping off a bandaid.
as an INTJ i totally agree with your points. especially the first and the second one. due to my experience if you master the first two you can easily master the third one and live in harmony.
Lovely, video, very short and to the point. I am almost certain I am an INTJ, I've done a bit of research. I can say that I have a bad habit of watching too much CZcams and treating my body in inconsiderate ways. This week I've done better, I am here now to research personality theory. The good new is that I can monitor my progress using my view history.
I find a strong Te overly critical of oneself and others is a double edge sword, driving gains at the expense of relationships and narcissistic tendencies.
Thanks a lot, man. About the tip 2 - I was starting to realize that when I began to write about my general routine, feelings and thoughts on a journal but you helped me finish the conclusion it self, I mean... the right choice. In my case, maryjuana (if even it were some gud shit but here in Brazil it's a shame) was keeping me low and away of healthier habits and passions; for example my professional goal as a Biomedical Scientist and my desires/objectives in atletism/weight lifting, music learning (bass guitar), languages learning and literature. It was getting notable to me that often extroverted oriented people "needs less" or any at all of such substancies.
my first BIG problem as an INTJ was being completly incompetent socially. I fixed that. My second BIG problem is, to this day, finding my passion, which caused exactly what you mean: apathy, anhedonia even; I really need a long term plan, and I really need to feel good about it, but it has been difficult; even more so because the education system, parents, psychologists even, seem to not have a clue on how to formulate a life strategy that includes your talents, interests, etc. and the posibilities of the laboral market, so when you are 17 and they tell you: what would you like to do? and you tell them "I would like to be a millionaire" they look at you strange, and don't know very well how to deal with you
Intuition over thinking... I need to evaluate my life at this point. I thought that using my "6th sense" was unprofessional and planning was the only way for everything. And that´s very stressful and mind draining. Stoicism has helped me a lot, but now I will consider this points. Thanks for this quick but valuable tips!
I have a very close INTJ friend who displays very strong usage of his Ni function, especially discussing with him certain aspects business which he will give complex and detailed descriptions of both his plans and his research.
I didn't realise until my thirties that I always had unhealthy behavioural addictions, but I found if I could use that tendency to be constructive and got addicted to learning French, which has displaced destructive behavious. (I actually feel a bit wrong or uneasy if I haven't done my bit of French for the day!) For other INTJs suffering from sensory addictions, I recommend trying extreme forms of drumming -- things that are fast and/or technical -- such as prog rock, jazz, or heavy metal. It's very intense and takes your whole body and mental space. If you get an electronic kit, it's something you may be able to do during times that would otherwise be antisocial, which is when the devil usually comes knocking. ;)
Definitely need a goal. I was essentially convinced that it wasn't okay for me to have a goal (long story) and many years of my life were spent in purposeless, hopeless misery.
If you binge eat once a week I’d recommend “The 4-Hour body” by Timothy Ferris, his diet is actually based off binge eating once a week and it works amazing if you follow the rules!
The third one backfired on me once. When I hit 18 my ultimate goal was to see my favourite musicians live. I was saving money, doing a massive plan, getting ready for everything that might go wrong, just making sure that all will go perfect, but after I achived this goal I had nothing left. Big black hole in the place of my future. I still have nothing that I would care enough to focus on it and I can't focus on whatever, because what's the point of doing something meaningless?
INTJs!!! Important book!!! "Rebel Gene" by Kerry Cassidy, page 64. OMG!!! Now I know who I am!!!!!!!!! No wonder they want to keep track of us!!! 😲😲😲🥰🥰🥰
Gah… I, also, dive headfirst into food and I know it’s often accompanied by feeling overwhelmed and worst of all, helpless. When I’ve exhausted all potential resources and avenues to solve a problem and nothing works- I get a helpless and hopeless feeling and that’s when medicating with food comes into the picture. This often happens with my early adolescent kids. I’ve created charts, schedules/routines, strategies, instructional posters, incentive/reward systems and nothing- nothing!- seems to last or bear fruit. They say experience is the best teacher, but my children are an exception. I’ve been at this for roughly 10 years and we’re still trying to get them to learn rudimentary thinking and problem solving skills. They don’t apply the help I give them. Which is fine. I am a firm believer that everyone needs to make their own choices and learn for themselves. My problem comes in when they don’t follow our advice, the negative consequence happens, and then they complain to me, wanting ME to fix it for them. And it’s not like I can just sit them down be like, “Hey, I think we should go our separate ways. It’s just not working out anymore.” And this is the role food currently plays in my life.
I think for INTJ INFJ, we can add the INTP advice 3 : _to realize that an idea without implementation is worthless And I could add : _ Don't stop or stay stuck on what you perceive/observe from someone on the outside, communicate and try to know them, before to make quick judgements or decisions to not make connection with them. Don't ignore people phone calls or messages, answer to them, even if it's days later. Don't think all people are bad. You can miss opportunities to know who loves you as you are and who respects you, you can miss very good people, that you are not the lonely to be a kind and intelligent person. "If you judge people, you have no time to love them" Give them a chance, try to no be afraid of the unknown.
Yes, a lot of truths were said in this video. I've had really hard time quitting smoking, the only thing that helps me is to become really passionate about healthy eating and sport, which contradict smoking. We are perfectionists so we go ALL in... when we get inspired to
Im an intj and 29, and yes i believe that I have developed fi and se by now but during my teenage years i was more focused and i enjoyed that more then now as balanced intj
That really explains my interactions with INTJs very much better than anything I heard before: yes, they are intuitives much before thinkers ... why does that feel like a contradiction when it comes to personal/ relationship stuff?
Set goals you, personally, want to reach, then work towards these goals. Take a virtual step back and try to define what you like doing, and set a career path from this. I personally was "lost" until 23/24. Escapism through video games, binge eating and general apathy. I felt no purpose. If I couldn't be the best at everything, why bother trying. But that was my mistake. Realize that there is always someone better than you, and try to maximize you. Not for others, but for yourself. For reference: I skated through life until 25. I am now 29, got a BA in IT & Mgmnt, ahouse, two kids(1 and 4), a car, a stable job and a great career going. Management before 30 y/o, which was the goal I set at 25, when I finished taking back up high school. I am on track to retire at 55 if I want to, earlier if the wife gets an average income. Notice this is in Norway where a full BA cost roughly ~$30K and interest rstes of student loans are lower than the mortgage, at below 2%. Financially we are OK with 1 income. What Im saying is that you have time. Figure out what you want and work towards it.
Make a list of all the things you ever wanted to try out and didn't the try all of them, I didn't found what I'm passionate about until I was 21 so don't worry you still have a lot of time
For me, what snapped me out of the fog of my early years was to cut the chains of peer pressure. Pay zero attention to other people's expectations of you and do your own thing. As an INTJ, and I think for everyone, finding meaning and purpose matter the most. Since INTJs think more philosophical, this is probably why you are even here. Knowledge of things is what truly breaks you free. What is important is to read and understand Scripture. The biblical message is a system to where Scripture throughout all books has a main theme, and this theme unlocks the hidden treasure. It's logical, and it's radical. This gives you a lifetime, and then some, of meaning and purpose. The Reformers of the 1500s is where you go for help.
You are right about not being addicts, just rely on default distractions. I like reading books and writing a political blog with a friend. Belong to a liberal Christian Church in which I like to crow that no one is like me. They like my sense of humor(s). Am friends with diverse groups which give the Se function an easier time of it. Also meditate each morning for an hour which smoothes the transition between dreams and awareness.
Thank you, Asura! When I'm considering the best option and have to decide on the best strategy for a project, or get emotionally triggered, I binge eat on cake or pizza, or want to just take a nap. Frustrating! I thought it was just hormones. But I can't have fluctuating hormones everyday, right? When I found about Se, it was easier to understand when it starts to act up, and try to stuff myself with healthy food instead - bananas, muesli, grapes, water because I just need to "pay attention to it". I see my Se as a 3-old kid asking for a treat, so I feed her a carrot and tell her carrots are a real treat; as she doesn't know what's bad/good for her anyway. Does that make me a health-ier INTJ? 😂 Great content. Thank you!
Could you give a tip about unhealthy way of comparing yourself with the others? I am an INTJ or atleast that is what the test result has shown me 3 times. I can't help but feel like i have achieved nothing in comparison with my friends...
I do this too and it irritates me. I think it's because we're constantly assessing ourselves and being self-critical as opposed to most other personality types they don't really pay attention to that level. It's rough sometimes.
Yea I've noticed that in the past I've indulged in binge gaming and watching too much content, leading to me putting everything else off. It's not that I shouldn't do those things, I just need to realize that they can become a problem and use them mindfully
This video seriously give me a mixed feeling. Its somewhat gives me some sort of validation of what i'm feeling yet making me questioned my ability to realize who i am. Do you think if someone is feeling a bit "unhealthy" can they self type themself by the definition of how one type is unhealthy? Can mental health mislead someone for trully knowing what their dom function is? This definition of unhealthy intjs somewhat calling my name. Lately i've been feeling stuck, u know the typical existential crisis, a quarter life crisis, or whatever people like to call it theseday (i cringe myself typing this). Mostly trap in bad sensory habits like binge on junk food, watching movies all day, basically doing anything that gives me some sort of an escape. And i hate my self for that, in my mind i always feel like only by getting my shits together (planning my goals, getting some action in my life) is the final solution. But in the end my lack of motivation, always get in a way. I tried about finding a passion, so that my life could have some meaning, but theres another problem. I know i love learning about things, i can get obsessed with the things i learned. But thats the case, i cant choose. Cant people like me has Ni dom?. I mean i always interested in becoming a writer, bcs i feel like this way i can get a freedom of not choosing one field of expertise but still specialize in some sort of way. But i know that what i want to do is not conventionally easy, especially if you want a stable life. I know its probably just my self trying to complicate things, but it is a problem. I feel like i dont know what i want and i hate it. In the past 2 years Ive been learning about cog function, it helps me in understanding people around me. But when it comes to typing myself its always a trouble. I asked my friends about this and they answer lead to intj. But idk if its correct. And idk why i am so obsessed with typing my self, am i seeking a validation of what i am, or am i tryng to find an answer that tell me who i should become? Do you think knowing ur type could brings benefits in ur life compare to not knowing it? If yes then, how can it help you and why is it important? Im sorry this comment is toooo long. I rarely can put my feeling into words and i know this arent exactly clear. But it actually surprised me of how much i can share. Anyway thanks for the video! Keep it going 👍
🤔 You don't sound like an intj. I could be wrong because I'm definitely not an expert, but it's I've never, ever heard of an intj tacking comfort in not sticking to one specific goal. When you talk about writing you seam to take comfort in the fact that the decision to focus on that, could lead to so many more opportunities. From my experience intjs hate open ended things. (You can't decide what you want so you just choose something that is flexible). Also you seam to have a true struggle with figuring out who you genuinely are. Like finding your true self is something of great importance that can lead you to the true path. That doesn't sound like an intj. My advice is to pay for a professional typing service. It's available online for cheap. Typing myself has helped me tremendously and although it might not be the answer to your problems it might be a start. By the way all of the problems you mentioned are atypical for someone your age and are not specific to a type.
Your friends are not likely a good place to go for answers. INTJs are all about what they want. If you're an INTJ, you ought to know, deep down, what you want.
Yeah...u don't sounds like an intj...still im not an expert but from what you said...hmm fr me..knowing the personality type is important bcuz it does help me find a solution to my upcoming prob in life...feel more ease when i know myself personality func....i suggest u to study abt all personalities type but not to find out who u are...maybe u will find urself in various type...so just slowly learn abt it...no rush to find who we are...it takes a whole life time to really knowing ourselves...life is all abt learning...we never stop learning things... especially things abt ourselves...so yeah...i hope this helpful✌🏻 - infp -
Your top question is something I've been pondering on myself. I know that dysfunction will make a type look very different from the MBTI definition, and that dysfunction will supersede what is viewed as typical behaviors. There is also the cloudy bit in introspection where many INTJ's are usually good at that but not necessarily good at all areas of their psychology (especially if there is some dysfunction). Depending on how they grew and matured, it may be very hard for an INTJ to sort the Ni, Te, and Si business. I say that from experience. The person I was when I was nineteen was opening up, experiencing new things, embracing extroversion, and really waffling on what intuition was. With dysfunction, it was hard to sort out. I felt like an outsider most of the time, lost, and steeped myself in alcohol and drug abuse, something that made all that confusion fade into the backdrop. It's taken years to come to some understanding, and a further look into MBTI. I really wish I knew more about cognitive functions when I was younger. And I really wish I had a good example on how to be a complete person when I was younger. We are the sum of our parts. If any of those parts are lacking, then the whole is incomplete.
I'm an ISTJ who worked in environmental geology, which I loved. Whenever I got rheumatoid arthritis and could no longer work, my life felt like it had no meaning, and I had a hard time coming to grips with the disease because I felt like my life was destroyed. Then Trump happened and I became an activist for democracy which is very fulfilling.
This is so true. Used to be an intj turned infj. Being an infj seems so much harder especially in a capitalist society. Most intjs are able to settle with high ranking positions in the corporate world. This is exceptionally hard for an infj
Everyone told me that I'm unhealthy and even became hostile to people. Ngl i even feel illogical whenever i speak or even think and i discivered that I couldn't be more unhealthy so i don't even know why I'm watching this to be honest. Was just curious of why that change happened to me so i need info.
해연 Some INTJs before they mature put too much of a focus on their thinking and logic. He’s just saying that an INTJ should use their logic to be efficient, but focusing on it too much and being too critical is unhealthy.
Also, the Te can spill over onto others in your life and piss everyone off if you're not careful about modulating your "critical bossiness." Immature INTJs tend to see "efficiency" as the be-all/end-all, and the dissemination of the "how to do it better" as their duty. It can drive other types crazy because you can sound constantly CRITICAL, instead of "supportive" or encouraging.
해연 Just in case since you’re new, what Dy Dayton means by Te is your cognitive functions. You can find out more about Myer Briggs and cognitive functions if you search it up.
Yup, sorry. When this happens, it feels to you as if you've listened carefully to the other person's goals/desires, and you are "just" trying to help them achieve those goals/dreams as quickly and efficiently as possible by telling them bluntly and directly the path/pattern to get that accomplished that you see so clearly. Generally, I've found that if I become irritated with people's "dense-ness" or becoming arrogant in my thinking (why haven't they done it this way?! It's so clearly the superior/faster way!), then I need to rein myself in (most likely b/c I've missed something important in my initial analysis). But that took many years of maturation and growth to develop.
Everyone needs good communication skills. We tend to try to describe the visuals in our head instead of standing in the moment and speaking or writing clearly. Te Extraverted Thinking is talking out loud or giving and presentation or how you speak or write when you communicate with other people. We appear formal and overly intellectual and we begin describing what we think other people already know and they don't. So we appear arrogant and a bit long winded and boring, to tell you the truth. Everyone should take some communication classes and or watch some good channels on CZcams. Charisma on Command is very good.
I really like the way you present the INTJ as an intuitive type moreso than thinking. I believe this is something that most people get wrong. INTJs are much more imaginative and creative than many people realize.
This is true. As an INTJ I even surprise myself as to how creative I am. Then when you take shrooms, your creativity goes through the roof xD
If you look up the (roughly) equivalent sociotype ILI, you get what I feel is a much more accurate description of how we INTJ’s actually experience the world.
INTJ artist here :)
I'm 60 yo INTJ gal and I have gotten myself into such predicaments and BAD relationships when I got bulldozed into using thinking instead of going with my gut, just cus the other person made it like it wasn't "fair" to him to do so...and my gut has always been right and I lived to regret bypassing it. I don't do that anymore, believe me! The last time I did, it led to me losing all my passion for things I had loved because that person not only 'shared' my interests but practically appropriated them. It's taken years to crawl back out of myself and learn to re-enjoy them for myself again!
@@codeninja100 I'm also an INTJ artist. More famous examples of us include: Roger Waters of Pink Floyd (who wrote all their most memorable melodies, not "just" the lyrics and bass) and David Bowie.
This is so spot on! I think sometimes as an INTJ, if I don’t have that passion/goal, I fall into my extroverted thinking function and become overly obsessed with organising my life, but feeling stagnant and stressed. You need to find the goal and then utilise extroverted thinking to get there so you have forward momentum.
I am really enjoying your videos, thanks for the content.
Great comment
Incredible comment, I just recognised myself in what you said
Yeah this is spot on.
Oh definitely-without a real passion I kind of just... coast through life and feel like I’m living a half life.
Very insightful. I learned something similar about introverted feeling when extraverted thinking is not being utilized. Not a good idea to make emotional choices as it is your third cognitive function. I did not know that the same thing applies to introverted intuition and extraverted thinking.
Is there anyone who use daydreaming to deal with stress?
Edit: can anyone help me how to quit daydreaming ?
I do!
You probably already know about Maladaptive daydreaming disorder.
Me me me me!!
Used correctly it can be a strength
joco7977 how?
Point 1 - Love that. I consider Te in an INTJ to play an 'authoritative' role and is generally negative in nature, and as such any INTJ giving their Te function too much credence will generally develop an overly pessimistic personality, and generally distrust the Ni-Fi conceptions of the dominant stack.
Point 2 - Both Se-oppositional types have to be cautious with this issue due to their intrinsic need to retreat into their 'personal sanctuary' to withdraw from the world. Solitary sensory indulgence is an extreme danger in such an instance as much of the time in withdrawal in spent resting the dominant stack, subsequently raising the oppositional functions to the surface.
Point 3 - INTJs cannot afford to neglect their Fi-insights - people underestimate the extent to which INTJs are feeling types too which leads back to your initial point! As you say, all Ni dominants (and I would say Ni convergents as a whole) absolutely require a strong sense of identity and direction, manifested in some kind of external pursuit. As innovative types they can easily fall into depression when failing to take steps to realise their internal constructs in reality - you strike me as an INTJ yourself and I totally commend you on building a great and informative channel around this topic! Loving the content man.
Good analyzis! What do you think about the perspective of objective personality that there are 'jumpers' beyond the 'common' types (in this case a 'jumper' would be sb that uses ni+fi as saviour functions instead of ni+Te ... and this would make the INTJ more of a feeling type? You mentioned sth similar sounding...
I’m not an INTJ, but I do know a little bit about the Se function, since I’m an INFJ. If you want to train that part of your brain, you need to do activities that provide stimulus from the outside world. For instance a list of things would be: Martial Arts, Meditation, Running, or maybe even learning a musical instrument could help with this (that might be Si but I know for a fact that Se is applicable for the other things). So if you want stronger Se, consider picking up some of those activities.
I seek out spicy food, outrageously foul smelling cheese, music with a multiple-note chords, and driving like a jackass. Am I on the right track?
Freddie the Eliminator right on track with being interesting
I'm curious, meditation is providing stimulus from the outside world for extroverted sensing? Isn't it focused inwards?
@@lostpopcorns true
Excuse me??? You lost 130 pounds?! Can we get a video about it? Please! That's so interesting!
I have lost 900 pounds of passion in life
@@intj_5398 haven't we all... 🤝
Stop eating.
Oh, coincidence. Losing a total of 130lbs by Christmas is one of my goals for this year. Have lost 70lbs so far.
Girls on CZcams: “How I lost 15 POUNDS 💪😤 My JOURNEY and CHALLENGES | #glowup #healthydiet “
Asura: casually makes an offhand remark on losing 130 pounds and moves on with the video topic
So much respect for you, man. Not just for this, of course. I absolutely love your informative and grounded channel.
not only girls bruh
@@AM-sv2vv that's true. But in vast majority of cases it's girls, and quick jokes work best on defined descriptors, not on including all nuances ;)
@@jeremiahsmith916 I get you, but just by writing "Others on CZcams..." or "Other CZcamsrs..." you would have not only get rid of that comfortable (fastest way of coming up with a joke) sexism (it's not that bad, dont get me wrong) but the joke would've been better
A M noted :)
As an INTJ, I recognized the idea of bingeing when you are unhappy or without an important goal. I am going through that at this time. I didn't think of it in the way you explained. I have to to a closer look at my behavior and address the underlying problem. Thank you for your insights, Chris, they are much appreciated. Your videos are extremely helpful.
Lol... I binged philosophy after a very chaotic draining experience
This was really helpful to me, as an INTJ that rarely finds anything helpful. thanks
LOL
This video would require VERY FEW modifications to work for us INFJs as well.
Love your content, Asura. You are my favorite INTJ on the internet.
Thank you!
I actually was considering doing an INFJ one separately sometime, I have some specific advice that is a little different for that type. Yes though, they are very similar!
@@AsuraPsych please do! Ya gotta do it :D
I thought so too
@@AsuraPsych Please do that. Your content is superb. -infj
This is true. I'm currently having a problem on the 3rd one, I no longer have something that I'm passionate about. Thus, I found nothing to motivate me to move forward. Been having suicidal thoughts since then.
Dyrim same
Why don't you have anything that you are passionate about anymore?
INTJs are the most susceptible to nihilism. But they are also the most passionate.
Working out does wonders for me. I channel all my malice and negativity into a good and painful workout. Also, having someone extroverted by one's side is important. My mother is an ENTJ and I an INTJ. We complement each other almost perfectly. Her charisma and positivity have prevented me from embracing the dark arts. She keeps me tame, and I guide her with my intuitive thinking. I can't speak for everyone, however, in my case, as an unhealthy INTJ, I need emotional support from someone. Even if it's just one person, that is enough. Without it, I'd give in into darkness.
I believe Walter White's character is a great example of the above. His achievements undermined by his colleges; his family harbored no respect toward him; his brother-in-law emasculated Walter whenever he possibly could, and his students ignored him as if he weren't there. Having nobody as an emotional foundation and being near death's door, made Walter embrace his inner monster/darkness. He always had it in him to be an irredeemable piece of shit, but he more or less had someone supporting him throughout his life, that is... Until he was about to die. That's why I find BrB a hard watch.
Cheers.
my biggest problem as an INTJ is that I come from a family that restricts me from doing what I do. So I can't achieve my goals and now I'm trying to find some other thing to be passionate about but I can't think of anything and now not much matters anymore. I feel tired of everything and I don't even want to get out of bed every morning. It's suffocating
INTJ here. Took me a long time to figure out what I really wanted to do. Now I have to fulfill that dream. I was thinking for 5 years 😂
This is so spot on. I went through a hardcore perfectionist phase where I was super critical of myself. Comfort foods are my kryptonite. I am allllmost done with the first draft of my second book that is my calling, and it feels amazing. Love your videos.
Two years too late maybe, but I was thinking about writing a book too. Can you recommend any channels or information pages, where you can learn the craft work of writing a book? I am sure, that a well written book is almost never just a "I sat down and started writing" thing, I imagine it's gonna be more like drawing. Where you first make a rough sketch and details come at the end.
Again fully agree. Wish somebody told me (tip 1) when I was young - I came often across as critical and learned later to become more diplomatic in meetings etc. (Tip 2) - very interesting, didn't know that this is common with my personality type! It's exactly what you said - got lured into things but when I realized that I did too much of it, I quickly changed my habits. (Tip 3) came automatically to me when I was young. Developed as teenager interest in photography and started building my own microscope - passions which I still have to this day. I have several passions where I became expert in a field - all in parallel. Can't imagine to be without this creative thinking and exploring.
I work extremely hard all week - like 60-70 hours. Then the weekend comes and Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights are "switch off time" with a bottle of wine AND a few beers AND pizza AND chocolate. Every week!! I've been extremely fit and healthy in the past but my weight is creeping steadily upwards.
I want to fix this but I'm still not sure how even after watching this video.
yo just wanna check in, did you find a way to fix it?
Try to find a healthy way to engage se, I find for me working out helps to relieve the stress. But that sounds like it would be a challenge for you as you work so much
Been there, done that.
Keto helped me with self control with my bad eating habits.
With keto, you can binge, but it must be with keto food. Our bodies won't allow us to eat as much cheese, eggs, butter and bacon, as we can candy, cake, spaghetti, and bread.
If your schedule allows try a pilates class in the morning. I'm 17 and have it 4 days a week bc it and before school class (yoga core and more) at my highschool. Besides adjusting to classes I've been a lot more physically healthy and mentally healthy. I'm no professional but I would say it's a good way to go
If you're struggling with a binge habit/ addiction it's easier to replace the addiction you want to stop with a less harmful addiction. Eg I replaced my shopping addiction w webnovel addiction... And forget "follow your passion" it's more like "follow your interests"
Those were excellent tips.
One more that I would add is getting into your body more often… a walk in nature, swimming in the ocean, bike ride to work or errand.
Pretty cool, i binge on procrastination and video games
Losing 80lbs in the last year, I chose to harness the power of binge eating by switching to OMAD and Keto.
I now binge eat as much food as I can within a 3 hour period while still regulating my weight and even losing some.
It still is the only diet that has worked for me.
I must admit, when someone sent me a link, I dismissed it right away and only watched it to formulate an accurate response to a kid talking about how to be healthy INTJ... My real response is that everything you say is bang on accurate. Looking back at life, I can say that this is the best advice anyone can give to a young INTJ, assuming that "young" INTJ is grown enough to receive this advice.
This! I have been in that apathy for a few years now and it feels terrible. I yearn for more in life and I am so very willing to give everything in order to achieve it. I want to be a theoretical physicist. I always have. And I won't let anything get in my way again. Dreams give me life. thank you for this video. I always look back on the time in my life where i was dedicated. Studying 10 hours a day just to understand the world. Philosophy, physics, mathematics, economics, anything that can teach me about the world around me. But when things seem to not work out or I get stressed I become apathetic, nihilistic and impulsive. Also when I most depressed I give in to binge eating or smoking weed so I don't overthink so much.
Hello Chris. I recently lost my pet to cancer. I was shocked at how emotional I became. I sobbed in front of a co-worker! I cannot seems to get over the grief. Can you maybe do a video on how INTJs handle grief. I've visited many pet loss websites trying to find comfort. I googled INTJ and grief and found many different ways INTJs handle grief - from stoic suppression to unexpected bouts of crying. I guess the reaction may be different between an INTJ with enneagram 5w4 than an INTJ enneagram 5w6 (I'm a 5w4). I just know I'm hurting and any insight into dealing with a terrible loss would be appreciated.
Your first point helped a lot, I tend to give my thinking too much importance while my intuition mostly makes the good decisions
Yes.
Honestly I have found deprogramming childhood emotional connections to food thru detoxing, raw foods and cleanses to be highly beneficial in correcting poor eating habits.
And yes, pursue your passion.
Unfortunately my passions makes everyone think I’m esfp 😂🤷🏼♀️
But I’m not here to convince anyone, just to build my youtube platforms as my vision pertains. Thanks for the vid.
Ande Sloeijk You do you! You have a lot to give to the specific field you choose, whatever that may be, precisely because you're not the stereotypical person who would get into it.
I wish I watched this video when I was a teen.
Would really help me at that time.
Damn!!! you are right man!!!! especially about the first tip. I ask you to make a whole video about how to avoid becoming Te overwhelmed INTJ.
-thanks for sharing experience
Se binging productive things is the best :DD
Another Great video, Asura. I started college again this semester to pursue a degree in aerospace engineering. SpaceX is my end aim. Hope all is going well with your own academic pursuits!
@James Goner Thank you sir!
Hoo ah!
All of the good luck, and God bless!!
@@sarahtalone7031 thank you!
@@aperturedriven88 you're welcome :)
This was awesome. The best way I've found to help me figure out who I am and what I want to commit to is by just getting out there. I don't like it at first but engaging Fi/Se is like ripping off a bandaid.
as an INTJ i totally agree with your points. especially the first and the second one. due to my experience if you master the first two you can easily master the third one and live in harmony.
you helped me so much you don't even know. I would write an essay about it here but I have no time I have to change the world
Lovely, video, very short and to the point. I am almost certain I am an INTJ, I've done a bit of research. I can say that I have a bad habit of watching too much CZcams and treating my body in inconsiderate ways. This week I've done better, I am here now to research personality theory. The good new is that I can monitor my progress using my view history.
I find a strong Te overly critical of oneself and others is a double edge sword, driving gains at the expense of relationships and narcissistic tendencies.
Thanks a lot, man. About the tip 2 - I was starting to realize that when I began to write about my general routine, feelings and thoughts on a journal but you helped me finish the conclusion it self, I mean... the right choice. In my case, maryjuana (if even it were some gud shit but here in Brazil it's a shame) was keeping me low and away of healthier habits and passions; for example my professional goal as a Biomedical Scientist and my desires/objectives in atletism/weight lifting, music learning (bass guitar), languages learning and literature. It was getting notable to me that often extroverted oriented people "needs less" or any at all of such substancies.
And if any grammar error, please point me out. Brazilian portuguese it's my natural language.
The binge part... I’ve been battling a porn addiction and have finally been doing so well (not perfect)
my first BIG problem as an INTJ was being completly incompetent socially. I fixed that. My second BIG problem is, to this day, finding my passion, which caused exactly what you mean: apathy, anhedonia even; I really need a long term plan, and I really need to feel good about it, but it has been difficult; even more so because the education system, parents, psychologists even, seem to not have a clue on how to formulate a life strategy that includes your talents, interests, etc. and the posibilities of the laboral market, so when you are 17 and they tell you: what would you like to do? and you tell them "I would like to be a millionaire" they look at you strange, and don't know very well how to deal with you
I understand you bro🤠👊 we're millionaire aspirants
Intuition over thinking... I need to evaluate my life at this point. I thought that using my "6th sense" was unprofessional and planning was the only way for everything. And that´s very stressful and mind draining. Stoicism has helped me a lot, but now I will consider this points. Thanks for this quick but valuable tips!
I have a very close INTJ friend who displays very strong usage of his Ni function, especially discussing with him certain aspects business which he will give complex and detailed descriptions of both his plans and his research.
Last one was 🔥
I didn't realise until my thirties that I always had unhealthy behavioural addictions, but I found if I could use that tendency to be constructive and got addicted to learning French, which has displaced destructive behavious. (I actually feel a bit wrong or uneasy if I haven't done my bit of French for the day!) For other INTJs suffering from sensory addictions, I recommend trying extreme forms of drumming -- things that are fast and/or technical -- such as prog rock, jazz, or heavy metal. It's very intense and takes your whole body and mental space. If you get an electronic kit, it's something you may be able to do during times that would otherwise be antisocial, which is when the devil usually comes knocking. ;)
Definitely need a goal. I was essentially convinced that it wasn't okay for me to have a goal (long story) and many years of my life were spent in purposeless, hopeless misery.
Burnout from the past? Feeling like you need to know everything? That’s what happened to me
If you binge eat once a week I’d recommend “The 4-Hour body” by Timothy Ferris, his diet is actually based off binge eating once a week and it works amazing if you follow the rules!
That's so on point. Well said 👍
The third one backfired on me once. When I hit 18 my ultimate goal was to see my favourite musicians live. I was saving money, doing a massive plan, getting ready for everything that might go wrong, just making sure that all will go perfect, but after I achived this goal I had nothing left. Big black hole in the place of my future. I still have nothing that I would care enough to focus on it and I can't focus on whatever, because what's the point of doing something meaningless?
INTJs!!! Important book!!! "Rebel Gene" by Kerry Cassidy, page 64. OMG!!! Now I know who I am!!!!!!!!! No wonder they want to keep track of us!!! 😲😲😲🥰🥰🥰
Gah… I, also, dive headfirst into food and I know it’s often accompanied by feeling overwhelmed and worst of all, helpless. When I’ve exhausted all potential resources and avenues to solve a problem and nothing works- I get a helpless and hopeless feeling and that’s when medicating with food comes into the picture.
This often happens with my early adolescent kids. I’ve created charts, schedules/routines, strategies, instructional posters, incentive/reward systems and nothing- nothing!- seems to last or bear fruit. They say experience is the best teacher, but my children are an exception.
I’ve been at this for roughly 10 years and we’re still trying to get them to learn rudimentary thinking and problem solving skills.
They don’t apply the help I give them. Which is fine. I am a firm believer that everyone needs to make their own choices and learn for themselves. My problem comes in when they don’t follow our advice, the negative consequence happens, and then they complain to me, wanting ME to fix it for them.
And it’s not like I can just sit them down be like, “Hey, I think we should go our separate ways. It’s just not working out anymore.”
And this is the role food currently plays in my life.
I think for INTJ INFJ, we can add the INTP advice 3 :
_to realize that an idea without implementation is worthless
And I could add : _ Don't stop or stay stuck on what you perceive/observe from someone on the outside, communicate and try to know them, before to make quick judgements or decisions to not make connection with them. Don't ignore people phone calls or messages, answer to them, even if it's days later.
Don't think all people are bad. You can miss opportunities to know who loves you as you are and who respects you, you can miss very good people, that you are not the lonely to be a kind and intelligent person.
"If you judge people, you have no time to love them"
Give them a chance, try to no be afraid of the unknown.
Yes. Your advice would make a big difference in every's INTJ life.
Thanks Asura :) U r d best!
Also the live stream was Awesome!!! 👍👍
Bro you just blew my mind , exactly what I needed to hear , starting to implement the 5 by 25 rule and a long term outlook
Yes, a lot of truths were said in this video. I've had really hard time quitting smoking, the only thing that helps me is to become really passionate about healthy eating and sport, which contradict smoking. We are perfectionists so we go ALL in... when we get inspired to
Thank you!!! This is so helpful for me!!
Im an intj and 29, and yes i believe that I have developed fi and se by now but during my teenage years i was more focused and i enjoyed that more then now as balanced intj
Also I request a video with tips on how to be a healthier INFJ.
That last tip is life Savior and that's why I think most of us have this purpose of life from a very young age (I have)
This was very helpful, especially the last tip. Thank you.
Glad you found the information useful, thanks for watching!
Hello Asura. Please make more videos. They r really useful. Thank you 💖
Intj's always look for summery in comments but never leave one
That really explains my interactions with INTJs very much better than anything I heard before: yes, they are intuitives much before thinkers ... why does that feel like a contradiction when it comes to personal/ relationship stuff?
I'm feeling Lost.
I'm 22 years old and I feel disoriented about my life.
Any advices?
Set goals you, personally, want to reach, then work towards these goals. Take a virtual step back and try to define what you like doing, and set a career path from this.
I personally was "lost" until 23/24. Escapism through video games, binge eating and general apathy. I felt no purpose. If I couldn't be the best at everything, why bother trying. But that was my mistake.
Realize that there is always someone better than you, and try to maximize you. Not for others, but for yourself.
For reference: I skated through life until 25. I am now 29, got a BA in IT & Mgmnt, ahouse, two kids(1 and 4), a car, a stable job and a great career going. Management before 30 y/o, which was the goal I set at 25, when I finished taking back up high school. I am on track to retire at 55 if I want to, earlier if the wife gets an average income. Notice this is in Norway where a full BA cost roughly ~$30K and interest rstes of student loans are lower than the mortgage, at below 2%. Financially we are OK with 1 income.
What Im saying is that you have time. Figure out what you want and work towards it.
Make a list of all the things you ever wanted to try out and didn't the try all of them, I didn't found what I'm passionate about until I was 21 so don't worry you still have a lot of time
For me, what snapped me out of the fog of my early years was to cut the chains of peer pressure. Pay zero attention to other people's expectations of you and do your own thing. As an INTJ, and I think for everyone, finding meaning and purpose matter the most. Since INTJs think more philosophical, this is probably why you are even here. Knowledge of things is what truly breaks you free. What is important is to read and understand Scripture. The biblical message is a system to where Scripture throughout all books has a main theme, and this theme unlocks the hidden treasure. It's logical, and it's radical. This gives you a lifetime, and then some, of meaning and purpose.
The Reformers of the 1500s is where you go for help.
WOW! I love this concise content! Thank you!
You are right about not being addicts, just rely on default distractions. I like reading books and writing a political blog with a friend. Belong to a liberal Christian Church in which I like to crow that no one is like me. They like my sense of humor(s). Am friends with diverse groups which give the Se function an easier time of it. Also meditate each morning for an hour which smoothes the transition between dreams and awareness.
Thank you, Asura! When I'm considering the best option and have to decide on the best strategy for a project, or get emotionally triggered, I binge eat on cake or pizza, or want to just take a nap. Frustrating! I thought it was just hormones. But I can't have fluctuating hormones everyday, right? When I found about Se, it was easier to understand when it starts to act up, and try to stuff myself with healthy food instead - bananas, muesli, grapes, water because I just need to "pay attention to it". I see my Se as a 3-old kid asking for a treat, so I feed her a carrot and tell her carrots are a real treat; as she doesn't know what's bad/good for her anyway. Does that make me a health-ier INTJ? 😂
Great content. Thank you!
👏Great video!
Soooo spot on! Such good advice, and really helped affirm a lot of things for me. Thank you!
Could you give a tip about unhealthy way of comparing yourself with the others?
I am an INTJ or atleast that is what the test result has shown me 3 times.
I can't help but feel like i have achieved nothing in comparison with my friends...
it do be like that
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday not who someone else is today
Just go and achieve more. Define achievements in this context first
Easier said than done: worry about yourself not what other people think. Focus on getting better at whatever it is you like to do.
I do this too and it irritates me. I think it's because we're constantly assessing ourselves and being self-critical as opposed to most other personality types they don't really pay attention to that level.
It's rough sometimes.
Yea I've noticed that in the past I've indulged in binge gaming and watching too much content, leading to me putting everything else off. It's not that I shouldn't do those things, I just need to realize that they can become a problem and use them mindfully
This is really useful stuff. Utterly relatable in every way. Ta, buddy
Helpful, thanks.
Hello, and thank you again
I need to make myself self depend and understand what should i chase; n life help me with that.
This video seriously give me a mixed feeling. Its somewhat gives me some sort of validation of what i'm feeling yet making me questioned my ability to realize who i am. Do you think if someone is feeling a bit "unhealthy" can they self type themself by the definition of how one type is unhealthy? Can mental health mislead someone for trully knowing what their dom function is?
This definition of unhealthy intjs somewhat calling my name. Lately i've been feeling stuck, u know the typical existential crisis, a quarter life crisis, or whatever people like to call it theseday (i cringe myself typing this). Mostly trap in bad sensory habits like binge on junk food, watching movies all day, basically doing anything that gives me some sort of an escape. And i hate my self for that, in my mind i always feel like only by getting my shits together (planning my goals, getting some action in my life) is the final solution. But in the end my lack of motivation, always get in a way. I tried about finding a passion, so that my life could have some meaning, but theres another problem. I know i love learning about things, i can get obsessed with the things i learned. But thats the case, i cant choose. Cant people like me has Ni dom?. I mean i always interested in becoming a writer, bcs i feel like this way i can get a freedom of not choosing one field of expertise but still specialize in some sort of way. But i know that what i want to do is not conventionally easy, especially if you want a stable life. I know its probably just my self trying to complicate things, but it is a problem. I feel like i dont know what i want and i hate it. In the past 2 years Ive been learning about cog function, it helps me in understanding people around me. But when it comes to typing myself its always a trouble. I asked my friends about this and they answer lead to intj. But idk if its correct. And idk why i am so obsessed with typing my self, am i seeking a validation of what i am, or am i tryng to find an answer that tell me who i should become? Do you think knowing ur type could brings benefits in ur life compare to not knowing it? If yes then, how can it help you and why is it important?
Im sorry this comment is toooo long. I rarely can put my feeling into words and i know this arent exactly clear. But it actually surprised me of how much i can share.
Anyway thanks for the video! Keep it going 👍
🤔 You don't sound like an intj. I could be wrong because I'm definitely not an expert, but it's I've never, ever heard of an intj tacking comfort in not sticking to one specific goal. When you talk about writing you seam to take comfort in the fact that the decision to focus on that, could lead to so many more opportunities. From my experience intjs hate open ended things. (You can't decide what you want so you just choose something that is flexible).
Also you seam to have a true struggle with figuring out who you genuinely are. Like finding your true self is something of great importance that can lead you to the true path. That doesn't sound like an intj.
My advice is to pay for a professional typing service. It's available online for cheap. Typing myself has helped me tremendously and although it might not be the answer to your problems it might be a start.
By the way all of the problems you mentioned are atypical for someone your age and are not specific to a type.
What do you enjoy in life?
Your friends are not likely a good place to go for answers. INTJs are all about what they want. If you're an INTJ, you ought to know, deep down, what you want.
Yeah...u don't sounds like an intj...still im not an expert but from what you said...hmm fr me..knowing the personality type is important bcuz it does help me find a solution to my upcoming prob in life...feel more ease when i know myself personality func....i suggest u to study abt all personalities type but not to find out who u are...maybe u will find urself in various type...so just slowly learn abt it...no rush to find who we are...it takes a whole life time to really knowing ourselves...life is all abt learning...we never stop learning things... especially things abt ourselves...so yeah...i hope this helpful✌🏻
- infp -
Your top question is something I've been pondering on myself. I know that dysfunction will make a type look very different from the MBTI definition, and that dysfunction will supersede what is viewed as typical behaviors. There is also the cloudy bit in introspection where many INTJ's are usually good at that but not necessarily good at all areas of their psychology (especially if there is some dysfunction). Depending on how they grew and matured, it may be very hard for an INTJ to sort the Ni, Te, and Si business. I say that from experience. The person I was when I was nineteen was opening up, experiencing new things, embracing extroversion, and really waffling on what intuition was. With dysfunction, it was hard to sort out. I felt like an outsider most of the time, lost, and steeped myself in alcohol and drug abuse, something that made all that confusion fade into the backdrop. It's taken years to come to some understanding, and a further look into MBTI. I really wish I knew more about cognitive functions when I was younger. And I really wish I had a good example on how to be a complete person when I was younger. We are the sum of our parts. If any of those parts are lacking, then the whole is incomplete.
thank you for making this video 💕
Brilliant presentation!
Thank you for your content!
great video
Thank you
On point.
I'm an ISTJ who worked in environmental geology, which I loved. Whenever I got rheumatoid arthritis and could no longer work, my life felt like it had no meaning, and I had a hard time coming to grips with the disease because I felt like my life was destroyed. Then Trump happened and I became an activist for democracy which is very fulfilling.
Thanks dude
Thank you. That was helpful.
Children should be given a chance to be tested then they can understand themselves and find how they fit into society.
Great thumbnail
Thank you, I thought it came out nicely haha
@@AsuraPsych definitely did
Great video
Brilliant.
I didnt binge eating i binged smoking. Luckily I stopped it, took a while but went from a pack a day to a non-smoker is kinda proud to me
Strange weakness. I never had overeating, but i like deliciously cooked food. What about alcohol? I always hated it.
This is so true. Used to be an intj turned infj. Being an infj seems so much harder especially in a capitalist society. Most intjs are able to settle with high ranking positions in the corporate world. This is exceptionally hard for an infj
You can't switch types, just saying.
Wait how did you switch types, or were you misdiagnosed?
It can happen due to the environment we are in, especially when childhood we have NT types of friends
27 year old intj virgin
Ur t shirt symbol pttern is cool
Personally I don’t engage in some sensory pleasures unless I know that I’m going to binge on it.
I stopped binge eating when I was diagnosed with diabetes. I have to find some sort of other physical activities to keep my blood sugar down.
Everyone told me that I'm unhealthy and even became hostile to people. Ngl i even feel illogical whenever i speak or even think and i discivered that I couldn't be more unhealthy so i don't even know why I'm watching this to be honest. Was just curious of why that change happened to me so i need info.
Three quick tips to find our passion or how you found out your passion would be appreciated.
Thanks Asura for these tips .....
Quistion .... what is my goal and motive is the plans and master plans from my deep extroverted thinking 🤔
How do you manage to silence the mind & be in the moment? This has been quite a struggle - I believe for other INTJs too.
Good Job. :)
Maybe because I'm new to this MBTI thing but I didn't understand the first tip well. Would someone be so kind to explain it?
해연 Some INTJs before they mature put too much of a focus on their thinking and logic. He’s just saying that an INTJ should use their logic to be efficient, but focusing on it too much and being too critical is unhealthy.
Also, the Te can spill over onto others in your life and piss everyone off if you're not careful about modulating your "critical bossiness." Immature INTJs tend to see "efficiency" as the be-all/end-all, and the dissemination of the "how to do it better" as their duty. It can drive other types crazy because you can sound constantly CRITICAL, instead of "supportive" or encouraging.
해연 Just in case since you’re new, what Dy Dayton means by Te is your cognitive functions. You can find out more about Myer Briggs and cognitive functions if you search it up.
Yup, sorry. When this happens, it feels to you as if you've listened carefully to the other person's goals/desires, and you are "just" trying to help them achieve those goals/dreams as quickly and efficiently as possible by telling them bluntly and directly the path/pattern to get that accomplished that you see so clearly. Generally, I've found that if I become irritated with people's "dense-ness" or becoming arrogant in my thinking (why haven't they done it this way?! It's so clearly the superior/faster way!), then I need to rein myself in (most likely b/c I've missed something important in my initial analysis). But that took many years of maturation and growth to develop.
Everyone needs good communication skills. We tend to try to describe the visuals in our head instead of
standing in the moment and speaking or writing clearly. Te Extraverted Thinking is talking out loud or
giving and presentation or how you speak or write when you communicate with other people.
We appear formal and overly intellectual and we begin describing what we think other people already know and they don't. So we appear arrogant and a bit long winded and boring, to tell you the truth.
Everyone should take some communication classes and or watch some good channels on CZcams.
Charisma on Command is very good.
what do you eat that tastes so good?
I love some tortilla chips and cheese dip haha, I can eat a whole bag in one sitting easy.
Thanks for watching!