@Woke is a Joke, You Boomer I'm sorry I misled you lol it's actually a Simpsons mug, Homer has his feet up and a wooden coocoo bobbing up and down pressing the enter key with its beak every few seconds. Thanks though!
I'm short fat and proud of that...lol. I don't care what people think of me, that's non of my business but, I would like it if you agreed with me and thought I was a good guy... ;-)
You know why INTJ’s “like” to plan? It’s because everyone else seems to suck at it and it makes INTJ’s uneasy. Often times I will suffer due to bad planning and when I deal with that chaos, I get the strong feeling to push others aside and say, “I’m taking over the planning for the good of us all”. I don’t really have that inclination to start with. It’s the suffering from the poor planning of others that makes me become assertive. I don’t know why, but I just don’t get the itch to take the lead until the incompetence just becomes unbearable.
Bro , it's good to know that all INTJ's think like that . I also don't take the initiative in leading , but when I see the whole thing is going to fail because of poor planning , I have no other choice but to fix it .
The worst thing is when you suggest something and they ignore it and then make a bad plan that fails and then they would have to resort to your original idea as if they came up with it, but then you don't say a word or get jealous because you knew all along that that's what should have been done and you're happy it's your idea that gets implemented, albeit the lack of recognition but we don't care about recognition
I could not agree more. This is exactly how I feel. I don't take the initiative to plan because I don't want to be in a leadership position. Typically, if you're the planner, you're also the leader or one of the leaders. However, if someone's incompetence has lead to a bad plan you can bet that I will sense the need to take over.
This. I hate it when something in my life is about to go awry because of someone's else lack of planning. I can't change someone's personality, but I CAN FIX your poor planning. And I absolutely will if that option is available to me. I will stop my fun introvert time to fix your messing with my life so I can get the results I was actually expecting out of what you were supposed to be doing.
Maybe one thing to add, as an INTJ, I feel that we avoid confrontations and debates. (Except with the people we care about) We get tired of speaking and explaining things. Verbal communication is SLOOOOW!
I thrive on confrontations and debates especially if I know the person in front of me is wrong and is being intellectually dishonest on purpose,suddenly I'm on beast mode and all I think about is showing how the person is wrong.
For real in highschool there was a debate in English class which went towards the final grade. The topic was so damn boring and I just didn't wanna talk. So I ignored it. The teacher sat next to me and gave me a 2nd chance I did the same thing she got mad. This was 5 years. I only found out few days ago about this personality type. And a lot of things in my life make sense. I agree with 95% of the points made on most the things people say about ITNJ
Everyone always says we're quick to debate/disagree, but I tend to avoid conflict when possible. When I see someone isn't going to change their opinion after I presented a much more logical or straight-up factual stance, I immediately end the conversation to avoid pointless bickering. It usually results in the other person thinking they've "won". Yeah, I become rather nonresponsive to them after that...
INTJ is blunt to save energy. Doesn't necessary care about you, your position, because like himself he/she always expects to be told the hard truth and to correct for it. Nothing excites an INTJ more than something which adds to his vision, futuristic ideas, above normal stuff and solitude.
Still like my x’s better than my current girlfriend as they actually added to my understanding….even though current is sweet as pie, just more reserved.
That moment when you watch this video and she says something interesting so you start thinking about it more and more and when you stop thinking about it a bit you missed half of the video... :D
I can sit in a restaurant and tell you what is being said in 2/3 different conversations around me and have absolutely no idea what the person opposite me just said.
As an INTJ, sure, most of what I predict does happen. But what folks don't realize is we have to dodge the pitchforks, the angry mobs, the barn burners, and we cross bridges that get burnt, and we get to look back through the smoke and flames and yell, "See! I told you so!". We do value relationships, but not at the expense of the truth. And even though we value our principles more, it doesn't lessen the pain of destroyed relationships. We do feel sympathy, love and grief, but we don't care in so much that we are guided by that internal compass which always points north, and to follow it at all cost makes us complete. "To thine own self be true", is our motto. We are very Puritan like in spirit. And our ideals and values are the common ground on which to extend the hand of friendship, or make enemies.
Damn you nailed it. I just lost a friend because he accused me of being a jerk and doing all this terrible stuff (that in reality HE had just done to me- total projection/gaslighting) and spewed out all these very awful personal attacks (I'm an INTJ so I could deduct that he's been harboring these opinions for a long time). There were even other friends present who saw the meltdown. He cut me off and just because of that, he can never regain my trust or respect because he broke away from truth and reality. Most other types would say "well, when someone's angry they just want to vent" or something. But you can't just do that. If your reality isn't ACTUAL reality, you're just another obstacle holding the INTJ back.
this hit home. Literally I've lost home after home because relationships have burned in the torch of my truth telling. I've been despondent about this because everyone wants you to be relationship focussed. Why can't you just get along! But I won't have it. I can't live with myself if I'm sacrificing myself on the altar of Relationship and Other People's Feelings
As a generally lazy INTJ, all I can say is that I'll be laziest if I'm not willing/like to do that particular task. But if I like it, I take no time getting up and planning how to do it.
You are accurate when you said INTJs (at least in my case) of little details. If I'm having a conversation with someone, I have a hard time maintaining eye contact due to me looking around at other stuff. Not that I'm not paying attention to them, just looking at that bird over there, or that weird shape in the trees that I just noticed.
I noticed while I'm talking to people I will notice the car that drove by if it was interesting to me. I try to get right back to the conversation with my eyes so they don't think I'm ignoring them. But my eyes will dart from a person who just walked into the coffee shop back to the person I'm talking to and so on...
Oh this is me as well. You could say we are naturally street smart because of this. I could be talking on the sidewalk with my date, barely break eye contact and just the way a person is walking as they approach us, I can tell if they're a junkie or something and preemptively move us both a couple feet away without even looking directly at them. INTJ's are the driver's hand on the mattress on top of the car driving down the freeway. We got it, we got it...
I look away because I'm visualizing it occurring in a real space. I have to do that to remember it better. As I'm visualizing it, I usually am rapid-firing off various outcomes, causes, whatever in order to aid in understanding it better.
It is because this person was talking about some shit not about some value thing. But an great power you have is to focus when ever you want so try to use it next time if you value person you talk.
For me (INTJ) I feel like I often don't make eye contact (especially with people I know who I am not trying to make a first impression on or something) because I am more focused on the other aspects of the conversation, like the tone, direction, and motives. If something peaks my interest or was unexpected, I will often increase my eye contact significantly to gain more information, which can weird some people if they notice (they usually don't XD)
Um- excuse me? “You’ll rarely ever find a lazy INTJ...” You sure cuz we’re probably the laziest not-lazy people you’ll ever meet. Might be wrong about others, but I know I am.
That's very true. I get stuff done when I feel it's important to me and I'm particularly motivated, but the rest of the time, I just don't bother. Although I finish things quickly, my impatience tends to get the best of me, and my work comes out unpolished.
Yes, me too. I retired at 41. I worked very hard to make sure I didn't have to work my entire life. I think most people I know would agree that I'm lazy... except when I'm not.
(INTJ) Yes I agree about the Se acute sensitivity to environment.I get really distracted and irritated with dogs barking,bright light shining in the bedroom window, cars idling outside, voices outside, gardeners mowing lawns, leave blowers. I will wear industrial strength ear muffs to get perfect silence in the morning. Heat makes me irritable.
S. U. What happens to some of us is that we teach ourselves tune all of that out and concentrate on one thing. To the exclusion of EVERYTHING that’s happening around us. I can get to a space inside my own head where someone else can carry on an entire conversation with me and I have no idea they are even in the room. It comes across as extreme rudeness but the reality is that in that moment, I must tune the world out in order to concentrate on a task that is in front of me or I wouldn’t ever get anything done!
It's true, small talk glosses my eyes, I relax/recharge when I'm alone, and I can't read with noise or other distractions. If you make it into my small but trusted social circle, I will be there for you and protect you at all cost. I also wake up before my alarm in the morning. XD
This is so accurate! Once I was pulled on as a trainer for a new payment system rollout for a company I was working for. During the demonstration, there was an error that popped up every time they tried to run a transaction in the program, preventing the payment from going through. They had said that it will get fixed before the launch date. I raised my hand and asked if they were sure and what the plan was for fixing it, since it was the whole point of the rollout. I was pulled into a room after the conference and was informed I would be off the project because I "obviously had no real faith in it." Well, the system went live and the bug took six months to fix! It cost the company millions of dollars, customers lost faith, tons of bad press and they never regained their reputation again. LISTEN TO THE INTJs!
The corporate world is many things, but a meritocracy isn't one of them. The smartest person in the room is inevitably going to make you look bad so you just get rid of them. And the novelty of being able to say "I told you so" loses it's glitter after the 1000th time.
As an INTJ I regularly have scenarios where I tell someone how something is going to go or why something will or won't work and it's completely obvious to me. They then proceed with what they were doing anyway and I'm dumbfounded. They didn't give a counter argument but just said okay, discarded my explanation and continued as if I never said anything. It ends up playing out exactly like I said it would and a lot of times they will say something like "oh, I guess..." where the rest is exactly what I said. I'm not even sure they are aware they just came to the conclusion the hard way that I tried to give them the easy way. This has blown my mind through the years where I am thinking "how could they not see this?!" I came to the conclusion that most people just think differently than I do and my assumption that everyone, or most, or half of people, or even a sizable minority could see these things that are clear to me was just wrong. Obviously this sort of video clears up why this scenario keeps playing out. Just curious how many INTJ's out there have the exact same experience. The frustrating thing is, no matter how well laid out the logic, people generally discard it and do what they were going to do anyway.
As an intj, it happens all the time, almost daily. I have been saying, to myself, for many years, " I hate when I'm right", because I'm basically, almost always, correct. Quite a few of my ex's have also told me, "I hate that you're always right!!" It's a burden we carry...
As an intj too, i experience the same thing. The other characteristic of the INTJ is that we tend to get frustrated that people dont get things as easily as we do. We get frustrated that someone doesn't understand what we tell them and that people didn't see that what we predicted was right
Yup know how u feel. I can project events 10 years into the future. It's weird how we turn out to be right most of the time, try making money out of this power and not give it freely to people that won't value it.
It is not that we don't care ! Intjs are so goal oriented and focused. We are so good at compartmentalizing and packing away our feelings and emotions. That we appear numb to others around us. Intjs feel it. we just can't let feelings and emotions get in the way of our goals. You want to see an intjs feelings and emotions expressed physically, getting in the way of what they are trying to accomplish!
At first I thought I was an INTJ because I can predict things using sheer logic, but then I realize 90% of my knowledge are Useless. I really admire INTJs -INTP
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I don't think this argument is valid because there is roughly the same percentage of SE doms (those who don't understand Ni doms) as Ne doms (those particularly well equipped to understand Ni doms) so I don't think INTJs and INFJs are isolated.
completely agreee - why I was lucky to have my dad - he was a barrister and a solicitor (usually one or the other, not both.. one defends people in court - other deals with contracts, details, fine print - I wonder if he was an INTJ...) - taught me to use my words to 'build a case' - both in verbally and in writing.. and the people skills to turn my plans into reality (well _some_ of them time - when they LISTEN...)
I'm ducking psychic. I can "feel" when people stare at me, or feel someone enter a room without looking. I can find someone just with my mind, like location. I can read your thoughts, see what your seeking in your mind, "hear" the dialogues you are having in your head. I pick ☝ on silent conversation. I have the ability to separate myself fromthe chaos of the collective crowd, say duck it, and do my own thing, like, what everyone else figures out much later. I seem flighty, never settled, but it's just because I've figured it out and on to the next thing.
As an INTJ, I'm only interested in topics related to Money, Power, Success, Vision, Heavy High Standards, Strategy, Bigger Picture, Deeper Relationships and Heavy Trust, etc and anything other than this, Either We just Tolerating your ass or We Done Talking!
@@marioguelbenzu2348 It's actually painful to me read comments under INTJ videos. A lot of them cut and copy the INTJ traits from 16Personalities.com lol The MBTI test can define our dominant cognitive functions, but obviously our personality can be vastly different... at some point people try to do everything to fit into their favourite label, it's funny.
As a INTJ you will often turn to "stuff" to make your brain not to overthink. The pain not to go mental on the world is sometimes overwhelming if you cant ventilate your thoughts, if you are not in a relationship with a person that understand you. The pain and your thouths can get really dark. Suicde is not a uncommon thing for INTJ when they feel that nobody undersand how and why you thing how you think.
Ikr, for a while I thought that I don't have an imagination or don't like thinking (which made me think that I'm faking being an INTJ). But then I realized it's bc nobody understand and I'm tired or it, overthinking sometimes too.
Being an INTJ type really helped me with the conviction and dedication to overcome major physical challenges, such as overcoming spine injuries, we are very resilient to major challenges that effect us.
Same here I ended up avoiding knee surgery and getting better because of it. I kinda became my own science project and have worked the process down to an algorithm?
^ 100% INTJs come off as lazy (and I am guilty as charged) but that is because we weigh the time and effort to achieve something with the benefit of achieving that thing. Often times, the time and effort aren't worth it. No one values their time more than INTJs. But there is no one better to have to tackle a big problem that must be overcome. It will be overcome if it can be overcome, and in the most efficient and complete way that it can be. I apologize for responding to a comment from 3 years ago.
That was so spot on for me. I cannot believe how much insight you have regarding INTJs and are not an INTJ. Being able to predict outcomes freaks some people out when I tell others ahead of time what's going to happen. And extreme sensitivity to the environment: at times it can be overhwhelming when too much data is coming in from external sources and too much to process. Too much input and accelerated processing at the same time can be a lot at times. Extreme sensitivity to light and slight changes in temperatures in work can be distracting, but I'm a problem solver. To be more effective in life, I've learned social skills which seems counter to being INTJ, but it allows me to gather more data about people, building a network of subject matter experts I can on and makes life more efficient. It's not fake because I genuinely enjoy learning from others and I'm a good listener which helps facilitate learning.
Im not 100% surprised, i have this pet theory that people with Te use Fe like a tool in the shed, so although they might not enjoy using it, they can quite effectively
Love this. This confused me for so long in figuring out my type, because even though as a kid I had been continuously surprised that I was hurting people, I beat myself up about it to the point that I paid more attention to it than anything else in my life, and now I can predict emotional reactions even though I cannot understand what the person I am talking to is feeling in real time unless they show it in their face.. it's this situation of being too wrapped up in myself while i am talking and listening that I don't understand what's happening to the other person until after it's happened. But I can predict the emotional reaction in any situation if I am not directly involved in it. I can also accurately tell what two people are feeling when I see them interact. This all, to the detriment of my Te that I am just now beginning to develop. I feel so peaceful now, as I have never before in my 28 years of life. Being controlled by my own emotions is something I think was the result of me not developing my thought processes, so I am still figuring out what type I am.
The distractibility for many INTJs is that this specific MBTI group is steriotypically highly represented among the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) type folks, as discribed in the works of Dr. Elaine Aron. BTW that's a personal truth that took me a lifetime to realize, that I wasn't broken, bad or defective.
I agree, which is why I always have headphones on when outside unless rain then I can take off my headphones because it's actually very quiet outside for me because of the rain drowning everything out for me
yeah, I travel in metro most of the time, and in winter my headphones can drop their battery rapidly absolutely unexpected, so if they that happens.. and I have neither a book or spare pair of airpods, i'm practically dead. (for an hour and a half, until I get out) it's a kind of a torture in rush hour...
I was like this at a very young age and it scared me, i could predict the behavior of people and see what could and would happen. I honestly thought something was wrong with me. The problem is this, we can't use it on ourselves. It's either that our the fact that we let our judgement of what we want overcome our ability know what's going to happen as a result of a certain action.
I tried explaining archetypes to my ISFJ neighbor in the simplest terms I could muster after knowing him for 2 years. Briefly touched on the 4 sides otM and tried to explain why I don’t enjoy socializing often. He then went to great lengths to explain why I should get therapy or I will go manic like he did and not sleep for a month. 😳 *...so ya I pressed the title ASAP!*
The external stimuli sensitivity is real! It was so great to hear the third and fourth values celebrated. I keep seeing them devalued and emphasized as a detriment.
When you mentioned the flies in the room, animals licking themselves, cars driving by being noticeable I had to think about how I detected a fan was nearby by noticing the direction and forcefulness of the draft I felt and was able to pinpoint it's location about 20ft away and how it bothered me that it was there 😆
I look away when talking to someone about something important. I look away because I'm visualizing it occurring in a real space. I have to do that to remember it better. As I'm visualizing it, I usually am rapid-firing off various outcomes, causes, whatever in order to aid in understanding it better.
Me too! I worry that people think I'm embarrassed, antisocial, or a liar, but it's more that I don't want to process what their face is telling me because I have like 20 threads to sort out in my head, and I want to focus on communicating my thought.
As an INTJ, a lot of my predictions come true but I can tell you exactly why I made that prediction and what factors/data went into it. My wife is an INFJ and she too makes accurate predictions, but they are out of nowhere and usually in the form of a dream and she cannot tell you why. It may even be about a subject she has absolutely no knowledge about. It is actually quite spooky.
So interesting! As an INTJ I love to sit with an project in my head and get my mind working on solutions, and I can always think up a way to make it work because I KNOW it will work. When others are dithering about all the reasons why it's impossible I feel such disdain for them. I get overwhelmed with drama, and tend to walk away rather than fight or argue, but in my mind I know I'm right and that's enough.
A similar case is when someone wants to accomplish something and tells me their plan. Usually the plan will have one or multiple obvious issues. So I will say "that's not going to work because..." They will be upset because they just wanted me to thumbs up the plan, I guess. But then I will say "you could do this, or this...". Then I will point out the next problem and think about alternative paths. Unfortunately, just about everyone takes this as an attack on their plan and goal. I don't get it. I'm actively helping them get to their end goal without running into roadblocks and pitfalls. They seem to exclusively focus on the bluntness with which I point out the issues in their original plan. I don't get it. If I gave someone one of my plans and they pointed out an obvious flaw and helped me figure out a way around it, I would thank them.
Love your assessment of Ni; very very true. I can often come across as "arrogant" to people who do not understand me, but as I know from all the other INTJ's in my life, we truly do know what we are talking about; even tho NP's always always offer amazing insight & other ideas we MAY not have thought of. I think any true typed INTJ knows that we don't know everything & we are also able to admit fault when we are wrong. I often see the Te as how my Ni is "applied in the world" be it currently, 5 years from now, or 40 years from now. I also totally agree about the sensitivity with Se, I am hypersensitive externally & need to be mindful of my external involvements because of it; I think it's the function that can exhaust us the quickest if not protected or preserved in a way. Anyhow, loved this video thank you so much
yes, Ni applied exactlyyyyy so well-worded!! Have I mentioned INTJs are my favorite type? I'm trying not to be biased with this video, but it's so hard when I love you all so much!
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi awww... well, I am doing everything in my power to not respond in a way that will be perceived as arrogant. lol. But, I appreciate that, we are a weird bunch.
INTJ here. Those are Facts. Totally agree. I Love how you explained it well with examples. It makes it more interesting and I can totally relate to it.
What I see as a blessing and a curse as an INTJs is the constant self improvement. But if you can put that into a big vision, it can be extremely powerful.
INTJ here. really agree with the "distracted by external forces". hate repeating noises, I'll walk away mid-task, sometimes away from someone else, to personally affect the immediate halt of a nuisance. wobly desk? > folded napkin under the leg. Problem solved in the present and probably in the extended foreseeable future until someone (another external force) exerts force against this. in my mind I know that no one will ever have the problem with wobbly table again. like never. What once was a problem doesn't exist anymore. Also relates to a "minimum standard". Usually a person is a source of problem, so their response to communication defines their future record and also defines how they should be handled. Usually a "they might be having a bad day" is also a factor, once this code is established it's difficult to incorporate other persons thought process into ours because we believe we've already gone through their thought process and incorporated weight and value, when they really just have their own unique code which we assume doesn't contain 100% of ours. Also, I appreciate you sharing this positive video about the INTJ type. If I am, which I believe to be, then this helps me relate and understand. Thank you.
I agree with the "bothered by external factors" bit because if there is even a bit of light, or a slight noise, I find (unless I'm absolutely exhausted) impossible to get to sleep. I have however honed my ability to block out noise, but it takes intense focus to do so, whether on a conversation or a task.
Kristian Noel so true. I have learned to tune everything out. Someone could have been talking to me for 10 minutes and I wouldn’t have known it. I had to adapt or go nuts.
10:50 I'm a tall, heavy, black INTJ known for practicing martial arts and having a brief period of time playing for a rugby team. When walking down the street with my friends, I'm mindful of my surroundings and I anticipate/avoid the path of potentially sketchy people, and I have a non-verbal way of leading my friends into the safest path. They find funny how I always ignore obvious social details but how at the same time I'm always aware of environmentals factors, when usually they are the other way around. Also apparently, it has become clear to some of them when I'm not paying attention to the conversation because in my own twilight zone processing all this external information and thinking about a potential risks, opportunities, traffic, weather, dogs, etc. With my physical traits and my INTJ mind, they say I'm like a bodyguard to them... which they take advantage of (specially my female friends) because they know I'll take them through the fastest but safest path from point A to point B, and I like my "bodyguard" duties, it gives my brain an opportunity to go all-in
I am an INTJ also, and it's interesting how our minds are frequently trying to think (rather than pay attention to immediate conversations or whatnot), but when we choose to pay attention, we can be on-point. When living in a large Asian city (more or less equivalent to being in downtown New York City), my roommate was surprised at how fast and aggressively I'd ride my bike through the dense and complex traffic... I guess because she had me pegged for someone with slow instincts? I've had similar comments from other friends, "We thought you were kind of dumb, but then we realized you just space out a lot."
Wow... I totally agree. I've been nicknamed "the polite a&&hole" a few times... You are an observer. I get way over stimulated with many different things going on at once. Freaks me out... That's why I like to escape without going anywhere, so no one worries or asks me what's wrong.
You’re spot on about being overly sensitive to disruptions in the environment. Any kind of abnormal noise/movement drives me nuts. It feels like I’m having an important conversation with myself in my mind, and I’m getting interrupted by something trivial in the outside world. I’m a super light sleeper too. Any kind of noise, change in temperature, or change in light level will wake me up. I need earplugs, blackout curtains, and a temperature of 60-62 degrees in order to sleep.
10:08 in agreement 👌highly sensitive. ....appreciate serenity, peace, and quietness. I live inside my brain alot. Thx 4 your video upload, u r a value to society💕
Thanks for sharing your observations. I found it to be quite accurate (unless its apparent objectiveness is just a "folie a deux"). I want to share "my way" which is built on a finite set containing at least the following axioms: (1) Axiom of patterns: Connected patterns lead to an understanding of the world. (2) Axiom of consistency: Ideas are verified if they are self-consistent and coherent relative to the other ideas or to the world in general. (3) Axiom of guide: The only guide through the chaos is the inner calling. (4) Axiom of exploration: Life is experimental and worth exploring. (5) Axiom of sensitivity: In a non-linear complex system such as life, a tiny unwanted input during a process could lead to a failure. (6) Axiom of feeling: Long term observations (of internal feelings and external signs) are needed in order to let in the person with whom you feel a connection. (7) Axiom of ultimacy: The ultimate purpose is to perform my role perfectly. By the way, a corollary of axiom (5) is the observation you mentioned as an "acute sensitivity to the external world". I hope these inputs will be helpful/interesting to know in a way.
@@KeenanMag1 Well said! Yeah, the domain of feelings to me is like the Amazon rainforest (as it seems from documentaries and books, I've never been there); an inland empire of wonders and dangers. And yet, "whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent". The 6th also results the infamous search for "the soulmate".
Yay, thanks for the vid! I hate "close singing." One of the worst things that can happen to me is if someone decides to serenade me in close proximity--not "Happy Birthday"--but really trying to give a virtuoso or heart-felt performance; that stuff better be up on a STAGE in its appropriate environment!!!!!! Also the fly buzzing and dog licking itself is 100% true. Great points.
As an INTJ, we often pay the price for our opinions, and our desire to speak the truth without any emotionally sensitive gift wrap to dull the meaning of what we're saying. I've lost a majority of my past friends to burned bridges caused by those things, and I can tell you it makes me feel incredibly lonely and alien as a person sometimes. However, and this is the real crux of why I consider it a necessary evil: an INTJ like myself will start to feel as though they're no longer themselves (and they'll become very unhappy) if they begin to bend and alter how they act towards -- or what they say to -- someone for the sole purpose of getting along and keeping that person around. In a sense, trying to accommodate other people in such a way has us feeling like we're veering off track from our goals to make room for them, or advocating for all the wrong things, or simply succumbing to the messy inefficiency and the exhaustion that slogging through emotional stuff brings for us -- all things no INTJ wants to deal with, and especially not long term.
That sounds like a tough thing to deal with. I wish that honesty and direct expression were more valued and people were less sensitive. Perhaps we will get there one day....
Always impressed when a non-INTJ has solid / deep knowledge of what makes an INTJ tick. You nailed it. Good job. fyi.. I'm 73 yo. Retired nuclear engineer. Been studying MBTI for 50 years. I've found it helpful with self-knowledge and personal growth.
Yeah, we got the crap end of the sensory stick. When I'm focused, the fly buzzing / faucet dripping / whatever is going to have to stop or it's going to destroy my focus, and there's nothing more frustrating than something stupid interrupting me from working toward a goal. Then again there can be times where people think they're having a conversation with me when I'm focused on a project and I literally have no recollection of what they said. Noise-canceling headphones are a lifesaver; they cancel out most of the annoying sounds and most people are smart enough to see that you're not listening to them. Let's just hope the building doesn't burn down around us, because we might not notice.
3:48 It reminded me of a situation in my school years. History teacher: "Why didn't you learn that topic?". Me trying to be honest: "It doesn't make sense to know this". Teacher a bit confused: "You never know what you need to know when you grow up". "What...? So I supposed to learn everything!?", - I didn't say that. After that situation I was never honest with him anymore.
Something that the Ni-Te package does for me is I will be confronted with a problem: perhaps I get a comment in a video where the commenter is faced with something in his life, and wants some ideas on how to tackle it. It is common for me to sit for a moment picturing the problem in my head, and suddenly, almost as if it were magic, I have a plan of attack forming in my head on how to deal with that problem. I can't tell you where the idea came from, because it is a new problem that I have never encountered before. But other things I have experienced apparently were connected up by my Ni, and I was handed a method for dealing with the problem almost out of thin air. It can be spooky the way it works. You made an excellent point when you said planning is a necessity. I feel as though I am driving blind when I can't plan what is going to happen. Planning makes things right with the universe. A good plan is one that accomplishes what you have set out to do, and it had few if any detours. That was a great insight you put forward about the optimism of the INTJ. I did a video that I called INTJ: The Optimist Cynic. I am not promoting it, it was one of my early videos that could have been better. But the title matches up with what you are saying. INTJs know there is an answer to almost all problems, and for a great many of them, they know the answer to the problem, but at the same time they know that no one will act to create that solution and so the problem will remain unsolved. We all tend to have some form of self-analyzed worldview, and your comment about predicting future outcomes is bang on the money. It often feels like the Casandra Curse where you can predict the future but no one will listen to you or believe you. :-) Yes, we do have strong opinions, because they are based on research and evaluation. The INTJ is the most likely of all 16 of the MBTI type to be atheists for this very reason. We value evidence and how opinions line up with reality. Reality is the final judge on all things for an INTJ. We spend incredible amounts of time alone, because our Ni needs to be fueled, and it has a voracious appetite for knowledge. Watching an INTJ jump from topic to topic would probably appear humorous to other types. But suddenly I will be taken with a fascination on something I know nothing about. There it is online and suddenly I am chasing it like a dog chasing a rabbit across a field. It went down that hole and I am right behind it. It comes out and goes down another one. At some point that topic is done, and I am off chasing another topic and it would be hard to connect the second topic with the first one in a rational way, but my Ni had connected them somehow. For a planning rational type, this process appears chaotic from the outside, but it all comes together in the end. My wife of 43 years tells me that her concept of heaven is a perpetual carnival with lots of fun rides. I tell her that my concept of heaven is a library with an infinite number of books. She asks why I don't want to go to the fun heaven and I reply my concept IS the fun heaven. :-) The INTJ gets a bad rap for being heartless, but our Fi cares about what is right, valid and make sense to us. I would be lying if I said that I care whether my beliefs or attitudes offend other people. Other people's views offend me constantly and I don't care about that either. They can think what they want and are welcome to their wrong opinions. (I am only writing the final evaluation partly tongue in cheek.) One of the problems of having strong moral values or views, is that when these well thought out and researched standards are trod upon by others, at least for myself, I simply disconnect from those people. The door to them is closed to me and they don't exist. I don't try to force others to act in what I deem to be a moral way, as long as they don't expect me to embrace what they are doing or to validate it in some way. As long as it doesn't affect me, I really don't care what they do, no matter how self-destructive it may be. As I have gotten older, the number of people I interface with, on a face to face basis has decreased drastically. I am not a misanthrope, but I have grown quite pessimistic that the next person I meet will be someone I would care to be around. Trial and error has led me to this view, for better or for worse. You are very kind to call it "an ability" to be blunt with people. My ESTP wife says I am rude. :-) As for asking for help, that is a huge failing I have. I like to do things all by myself. I have sought out jobs all my life that would allow me to work independently from others wherever possible. Even as a teacher I was essentially running the show and the students were listening and the interactions were controlled. It was in a way a solo act. I repaired complex machines like CAT scanners and Ion Implanters, usually all by myself at a customer site. Today I sit in my office and work on the computer most of the day, all alone. My wife and I have our date night time in the evenings, and we have our grandkids over for visits and I truly enjoy all of that. But the bulk of my time is aimed at learning and creating. As for the not being able to focus because of physical distractions, I find that is only true if there is some sort of intelligence behind them. I can't stand having a TV on in the same room with me when I am trying to concentrate. (And I am using the word intelligence in this context very loosely.) I don't listen to the radio either. Anything that has talking in it is will drive me up the wall. Instrumental music is fine, and I can tune that out. I also can tune out things that are repetitive and are naturally produced. If the wind is blowing outside and causing a branch to scrape the wall, I will note it, evaluate it to make sure it is not dangerous, and then tune it out. If something changes, again I note it and evaluate it. So, something that happens at irregular times or could be deemed a threat in any way, will drive me to distraction. One thing that Se has helped me with is playing certain sports, where a quick evaluation of the current environment can be crucial to good play. Table Tennis, Racquetball, hitting a baseball, and other sports or skills are enhanced because of my Se. I also usually don't break something I drop. I either catch it before it falls or break the fall with my foot if it is heading for the floor. My reflexes have always been sharp, even now I am getting older. :-( Thanks for the video. I love videos that stimulate thought, and that is what you provided here.
Hey Mate, big fan here. You're videos have really helped me understand the inner workings of myself. I'm intrigued when i read you say of the 16 personality types INTJ's are most likely to have an atheistic worldview. I was always an atheist, ( Never understood the concept of God or how people could believe in it) but in the last few years i believe ive begun to discover some real fundamental flaws in atheistic logic which cannot be ignored. I know I dont know enough to come to a conclusion yet. But as a 26 yr old fellow INTJ i'd love to pick your brains and get your thoughts on a few things.
@@jayman8977 Thanks! It is a fact that INTJs have the highest non-believing percentage, but that doesn't mean that they all are non-believers because that simply isn't true. I made a comment in my Rogue INTJ video about the earth being way older than 6000 years, and there was no possible way that Noah's flood happened, and I had a guy go off on me in a big way. I thought I was making an obviously true statement but alas, not so to that guy. I don't want to hijack Michelle Wilson's video comment thread with a personal discussion, or in any way distract from her great video here. If you want to discuss this, you can put a comment in the INTJ Rogue video or even email me at INTJ.Alvin at gmail dot com. Just a head's up, I am an atheist, which means I have no belief in any god. It doesn't mean I believe I have proof there is no god, only that there is no evidence that there is one. That is my starting point. When I was 19, I enrolled at a university as a theology major. By the time I reached age 26 I was well on my way to where I am now, but it took many years to come fully to rest, and feel at peace with my position. So, I have been on both sides of the question. :-)
@@INTJIsland Very INTJ like in covering your basis :) I do completely agree with you. One worldview cannot disprove God and another cannot prove God, but thats not to say one is right by default. ( devils in the details ), I think were we differ is in our perceptions of "evidence". Really appreciate the response :) and apologies to Michelle for hijacking your comment section. I'll send you an e mail later on, (NZ Time ) id love to know how you came to some of your conclusions.
@@jayman8977 Okay. To clarify that point you raised, I should point out the default position is always the one that makes no claim. If one claims that god exists, the burden of proof is upon the one making the claim. If one makes the claim that no god exists then the burden of proof is upon him. In this case, if no claims are made, the only possible default (but unproven, since no claims are made or defended) position is that there is no god. To move from that default position a claim must be made and established through evidence. I'll see you in the email world. :-)
Most of this video seems pretty accurate. But I think I want to expand on the feeling aspect though. I don't care about emotions (8:19) if they're not important. Or if they're emotions toward a particular idea or concept rather than the emotional suffering of an individual. If a person is genuinely suffering emotionally, then I usually care. Emotions that I feel might be misplaced or irrational are the kind I disregard (my own and those of others).
Totally agree. My brother and one of my cousins are road ragers. I tell them it's pointless to get angry because the world isn't going to change how it drives. Their personality types reject that obvious truth and continue with their raging.
From my experience, you are right about the SEnsivity to the immediate environment. At first, before I delved into MBTI, I was completely unaware of it happening - it would happen and I would remember it happening, but wouldn't realise it while it is happening. It is indeed very distracting, but can be (I mean, I have done it, so other likely can as well) balanced by working memory training. You will still get distracted, but the previous point of attention won't be lost, so going back to it will be as effortless as if the distraction never occurred.
10:30 Funny you mention this. One time a girl who was interested in me told me a story that she watched me watch a fly on my hand cleaning itself and tasting my hand for a solid 2-3 minutes. I was completely absorbed in observing its behavior. She ultimately dated someone else. This taught me I was more interested in understand the natural world around me than understanding women.
Your right about the fly in the room being a distraction; especially if a state of flow has not been reached on what ideally should be their ideal invested focus. There is an internal goal to reach a state of flow, when it has been decided that it is time dedicated to gather information towards pattern development. Depending on how passionate the INTJ has allotted time for this, the distraction will be seen as either merely a distraction or the enemy.
Oh you got me ff, I'm a INTJ, ever since I was a kid, I was different in every way, but I couldn't express, I didn't know what was going on with me, I thought I was sick? Now I know after 42 years not knowing 💙🐯✌️
I don't know if it means anything, but as an INTP I really like hearing you talk. When I was studying the cognitive functions I remember thinking that I might find the ENFP amusing. Anyway, back to my cave to theorize why.... I think INTJ's are interesting as well.
10:26 Ofc you've qualified that statement, so I'll gratefully presume we're past any of that jazz. Yes, with a mind that constantly reaches out to catalog and connect (even while half asleep) occurrences around us... distraction can be a problem. However, INTJ susceptibility to distraction is modulated by our personal investment/interest in whatever action we're performing at that time. The more we're interested/personally invested, the less likely our mind is to be distracted by all of those examples you listed (sounds of cars, pet stuff and whatever else). Working on my hobby server? Laser-like focus. A tornado could probably blow by my house, and I'd be in my home office troubleshooting my network wondering why it can't connect to anything. Even typing this, I'm thinking I should get rid of the ("borrowed") enterprise-level Microsoft server OS on my hobby server because... uh... Bill wouldn't be as generous in this specific instance to me as he currently is in India or Africa. That's certain... :/ If I'm watching anything on TLC with the gf (obv not my idea...), there's zero involvement in what I'm doing - I suddenly realize I'm hungry because I forgot to eat that day (common tbh) or I start wondering if my car needs a new serpentine belt or idler pulley to fix the squeaking sound when it's running. It's most likely an idler pulley-bearing gone bad btw. 95% certain of it, unfortunately. I'm not saying I ignore my gf during her "TLC time" ofc ;>.> Nor am I implying others aren't valuable enough to hold our attention. I'm saying it's easy to infer what/how the 600 lb woman is going to say/react and I understand the nature of the show, so the outcome (of the episode) is easy to predict - This leaves my mind free to wander, and it's easier to distract while my mind is wandering than when it has purpose. We also occasionally need to let our mind wander (most likely appears as us daydreaming), in much the same way as needing to blink your eyes. That's the best I can explain the sensation. It's relief. INTJs, imho, either civilize our minds or we lose them. The processes we've talked about here, are the same processes that doom an INTJ to a life of mental illness (imho)(also fairly common). Our minds cannot be allowed to run rampant because we will potentially stay focused on unhealthy distractions (negative self talk, replaying traumatic events in our minds, rumination etc). Nobody needs a laser-like focus on the reasons why they/their life may currently suck. This is not ideal by any measure, and it is unfortunately a constant waking effort. We also need to realize that we can't assign accurate reason to occurrences that are too "chaotic", meaning involvement of other people. Sometimes, people just do dumb things because they're dumb and/or calloused. Enjoyed your video, you're concise with topics that aren't easy to define because they're figurative. Subbed, looking forward to hearing more of your thoughts. I hope you enjoyed making this as much as I enjoyed hearing it.
As a female INTJ I agree on everyword that you said *but* the fact that I get distracted easily, it is the opposite for me I can disconnect fully from my environment if I'm doing a task or I'm in my head, even if there is a big distraction. I believe this has to do with introverted intuition and day-dreaming a lot.
As an INTJ-A, your assessment is quite accurate. A couple of comments regarding the planning and the efficiency part: in my case it is true that I plan things and will think very deeply how I want to execute a certain plan. Planning gives me confidence in my analytical and critical thinking ability and the same time it gives me steps and goal-posts that I can use to measure how far I am from reaching my target. Planning also gives a clear path-way for me to follow and not get distracted by other things that may be happening in parallel. The second comment is that I am very forward-looking and this leads me to being naturally optimistic. I suppose my optimism is enhanced by the fact that I have confidence in my ability to plan things and carry them out successfully, and planning things thoroughly and carefully is at the centre of it. While it is true that I don't focus much of my attention on other people, I firmly believe that I have to be able to help myself before I can even turn to helping others. I can rationalize how other people can think of this as a selfish attitude when really it is just recognizing that I am not all-knowing or all-capable. Interesting point at the end, I systematically notice movement in the background or tiny noises. And I have no clue how to deal with people who are overly emotional as I cannot rationalize their behaviour and I decide that it's simply not a good use of my time to try dealing with them.
I just came across this video, and wow is it accurate. I just took a personality test 😅 One point, however... "they don't care as much how things affect other people..." I can't relate to quite so much, though you did preface that you were speaking very subjectively. I am not only an INTJ, but very much an empath, so I'm quite the opposite when it comes to this point. Everything else, eerily spot on 🤯
Very nice vid. Guess I'll stick around. :) Adressing the last statement, about getting easily distracted. To me as an INTJ It's half true. It's like having a protective bobble. In the initial stage of launching our main functions the bobble is forming, yet it is still very vulnereble. However when I am deep inside processing (usuall talking quietly to myself - damn Te) there are very few things that can distract me, and usually they are things that signal change in the enviroment like schoolbell, or closest coworkers voice.
I’m an INTJ and flies and dripping faucets drive me nuts. You nailed it with that. Where you were wrong is that I DO care about how other people perceive things, it’s just that sometimes I think they are looking at things with their heart when they should be looking at it with their head. I’ve learned over the years to be patient with the feeling types and to pick battles with them that I can win. As an older man I’ve realized that while thinking with the heart is not how I would do it, that I learn a lot from people who are feelers and it’s informed my thinking. Generally speaking, we can learn something from everyone - even if it’s what NOT to do.
Hi, Michi. Your lovely explanation of the behavior of an INTJ (Mastermind Planner) sounds accurate and peaceful, which I like ❤️. You are doing a wonderful job, Michi. Have a wonderful time.
Very informative and an accurate expression of INTJ. I would like to add, gifts we are given are given when we are ready and open. As an INTJ I would suggest to fellow INTJ's to relax find your home in such a gift to see things with extraordinary history and future reality.
You are sooo right about Se in INTJs! I’m an INTJ and I get overstimulated and distracted so easily, it kind of sucks most of the time. That’s why crowds are so stressful for us, I think, there is just way too much going on.
The majority of this was so accurate. I particularly found the last thing you said really interesting, about how sensitive we are to the external world. I personally have to have the TV super loud or I can't focus on it with all the other subtle sounds going on everywhere else that no one else can hear.
Perceptive and accurate, especially on forming a consensus based outlook. Regarding Ni vision and Te execution, balancing Se and Fi self awareness is a huge edge to better results I've found.
except for one small difference. I do not have experience (or any) INTJ's in my life, that I am sure are INTJ's except for perhaps two of my grandfathers. I do know one male who typed as INTJ and who straddles the INTP fence.
The ENFP perspective on the INTJ personality type did not fail to intrigue. As an INTJ myself I've often wondered what unique perspective ENFPs have on the type. Seems you're a huge fan, so that's alright.
As an Intj , I totally agree with the fact that you stated last , I always pay attention to everything that is happening around me , it's like I can't help it . If something is happening no matter how small or big , my attention shifts and my brain automatically starts thinking how can it affect me
Awesome. Thanks. I've always thought I was weird until I found out about Myers-Briggs and finally took the test to learn that I'm an INTJ-A...I make more sense to me now. Now, if only I can make people either understand me or leave me alone...by the right I fill all of the slots you covered
Very accurate. I found myself chuckling at the last segment mentioning sensitivity to the surrounding environment, extremely true of me. I almost always have dim lamps or natural light instead of florescent lighting, a fan to help tune out odd noises when concentrating and a preference for overcast days as I seem to be more relaxed in such an environment. Being an INTJ is an odd experience, you always feel, to some extent, like an outsider in nearly every situation; I think a dominate Ni and strong Te tends to lead INTJs to have, as you mentioned, strong views which we do truly value, Fi. It can be a very solitary road.
Stopping by to stroke my Ego. Thanks for stroking it for me, beautiful lady. Such an ego, he has! Well, I didn’t choose it. IT chose me and I just embody it. Great job! Keep it up!! 💯
Responding to your exceptionally good observation and question: Yes, you’re absolutely right. It’s impossible for me to focus on something if theres something bothering me. It can be a fly, water drops or anything else and we can’t concentrate. I was walking down the streets the other day when I noticed a guy pulling his hair together for 20 seconds straight before he then made a ponytail. I was dying on the inside just seeing him repeating the same thing that I feared he would never do a ponytail. Another example is that I can’t learn or concentrate if I notice that I can go to toilet even if I can easily hold it in.
i am a strong INTJ and i have discovered , demonstrated, and educated/pushed/cajoled this thinking to my offspring ..I call it situational awareness and i am normally 80-9x % predictably correct.. I.E. i told boeing in 1998 what was going to happen to product quality & company ethics if the merged with MDC in1998..& 2019 they proved me right... and Four things 1) it causes me to appear to be clairvoyant, Yes 2) loud noises and lots of motion around me disturbs my deep concentration, ESPECIALLY DRIVING & PROBLEM SOLVING , 3) Yes i am compulsively organized ..it tells me things...lastly i have a strong moral code and will argue with my facts and data even against a whole room of people with opposing views points.. to the point as seeming arrogant ( and i try to mellow that down..) BUT PROBLEM IS I JUST KNOW THE ANSWER RIGHT NOW..and it hard to grasp why others don't.. because I am Inward directed.. not other directed..i dont care what the crowds do; as generally i am going in the opposite DIRECTION(that makes me a loner often) .......GREAT VIDEO....... THANK YOU
"lastly i have a strong moral code and will argue with my facts and data even against a whole room of people with opposing views points" Yep. That will come off as arrogant, but titles and the number of people in agreement has no effect on us. I don't care if you are the CEO. If you are wrong, then you are wrong and I will let you know. Not for any personal reasons, but so that a better decision can be made for the company. If you fire me for it, then I thank you as that shows I am working at the wrong place.
I suppose I do get rather easily distracted by the sensory. I used to stay awake at night, staring at the ceiling seeing shapes in the chaos of the non-uniform ceiling. After I had my first sleep paralysis event and awoke to see one of my birds walking upside down on the ceiling, I decided to always wear a blindfold to go to sleep. Now I still get distracted by noises, but at least I don't think I've seen anything strange like that again. Some dreams seem really real though. After my stepdad had me prescribed to risperdal back in like 2002 or so, I've always felt constantly hungry, even when prescribed to dexedrine for ADHD too. Even having been off of all medications since leaving my stepfather's home in 2009, that annoying hunger is still forever there, yet another distraction. So much "fun", yay.
Wow, that sounds like a crazy thing to wake up to! I know people who wear earbuds to sleep, but they hurt my ears. That’s interesting, i didn’t think about physical internal sensations, but that’s part of it too
Benevolens Psittacorum who is owned by Parrots (correct? We have spoken in comments), may I offer some information that you may already know. My son was treated for physical anorexia and the medical study that my son was enrolled in tried a series of medications known to increase hunger like the medication Risperdal’s . The manufacturer has reported a side effect of this medication is Hunger because of an increase in a hormone called prolactin. Elevated prolactin is called hyperprolactinemia. You might approach the issue of your hunger by starting here. I wear sleeping masks also but if I awoke to a Ferret upside down on my ceiling, that would be different, lol.
Great video, i am constantly scanning evaluating and observing my environment. Its humorous because i realize that im doing this. Its automatic. There is no forethought. Us INTJ,S are a interesting bunch.
Michelle you're right about us getting distracted, or annoyed by a distraction. A flickering light, someone talking loud on the ☎ when I'm trying to focus, or concentrate, a hyper 🐱 jumping around, a annoying 🐕 scathing on a door. All of these things drive me crazy. & the two I hate the most are "the robo calls early in the morning waken me up, & Amber alerts going off scaring the sh#t out of me, or waken me up.
I've been called arrogant myself, even righteous by some because I have a semirigid set of values, and a strong set of boundaries. I just don't give away my respect, you have to earn it, which caused a lot of trouble whilst in the army as the senior ranks expected to be able to command it from me. Those who earned it I would do anything for because I knew they knew what they were doing. I also take pleasure in proving to people that I can do things they seem to think I can't, and vice versa.
I work in FinTech and have been working from home since the corona virus outbreak started. I was having a video meeting with my boss and he was surprised that I like working from home so much. We have an open office structure and the lack of external stimuli has been so nice to have gone. Good insight at the end there.
Your observations on the strongly held moral convictions related to introverted feeling are very helpful. Often wondered about how that worked. Thanks for the insight. Can I add strongly felt! Intj
"There is no lazy INTJ"
its not laziness...its efficiency.
Work smarter not harder
I literally have this printed on a mug lol!
@Woke is a Joke, You Boomer no the mug was a gift feel free to repurpose the idea 🤣
@Woke is a Joke, You Boomer I'm sorry I misled you lol it's actually a Simpsons mug, Homer has his feet up and a wooden coocoo bobbing up and down pressing the enter key with its beak every few seconds. Thanks though!
i am lazy af and i got intj
@@ranzivkovic290 Me too
Clicks on the video to stroke my ego.
That’s because we’re insecure
Inter lude I mean...I wouldn’t say all that lol. But words of affirmation every once in awhile are nice.
Nikki Basurto yeah it is nice because we’re insecure about not only our body, but our life too.
I'm short fat and proud of that...lol. I don't care what people think of me, that's non of my business but, I would like it if you agreed with me and thought I was a good guy... ;-)
Honestly, I get 'why are you so cold' all the time so hearing someone praise my skills instead of insult them is kinda nice
You know why INTJ’s “like” to plan? It’s because everyone else seems to suck at it and it makes INTJ’s uneasy.
Often times I will suffer due to bad planning and when I deal with that chaos, I get the strong feeling to push others aside and say, “I’m taking over the planning for the good of us all”. I don’t really have that inclination to start with. It’s the suffering from the poor planning of others that makes me become assertive. I don’t know why, but I just don’t get the itch to take the lead until the incompetence just becomes unbearable.
Bro , it's good to know that all INTJ's think like that . I also don't take the initiative in leading , but when I see the whole thing is going to fail because of poor planning , I have no other choice but to fix it .
The worst thing is when you suggest something and they ignore it and then make a bad plan that fails and then they would have to resort to your original idea as if they came up with it, but then you don't say a word or get jealous because you knew all along that that's what should have been done and you're happy it's your idea that gets implemented, albeit the lack of recognition but we don't care about recognition
I could not agree more. This is exactly how I feel. I don't take the initiative to plan because I don't want to be in a leadership position. Typically, if you're the planner, you're also the leader or one of the leaders. However, if someone's incompetence has lead to a bad plan you can bet that I will sense the need to take over.
This. I hate it when something in my life is about to go awry because of someone's else lack of planning. I can't change someone's personality, but I CAN FIX your poor planning. And I absolutely will if that option is available to me. I will stop my fun introvert time to fix your messing with my life so I can get the results I was actually expecting out of what you were supposed to be doing.
grippercrapper That’s called being turbulent, you’re certainly an INTJ-T
Maybe one thing to add, as an INTJ, I feel that we avoid confrontations and debates. (Except with the people we care about) We get tired of speaking and explaining things. Verbal communication is SLOOOOW!
I’m super agreeable and non confrontational unless it’s something I really care about, then I’m confrontational
I thrive on confrontations and debates especially if I know the person in front of me is wrong and is being intellectually dishonest on purpose,suddenly I'm on beast mode and all I think about is showing how the person is wrong.
Same here
For real in highschool there was a debate in English class which went towards the final grade. The topic was so damn boring and I just didn't wanna talk. So I ignored it. The teacher sat next to me and gave me a 2nd chance I did the same thing she got mad. This was 5 years. I only found out few days ago about this personality type. And a lot of things in my life make sense. I agree with 95% of the points made on most the things people say about ITNJ
Everyone always says we're quick to debate/disagree, but I tend to avoid conflict when possible. When I see someone isn't going to change their opinion after I presented a much more logical or straight-up factual stance, I immediately end the conversation to avoid pointless bickering. It usually results in the other person thinking they've "won". Yeah, I become rather nonresponsive to them after that...
INTJ is blunt to save energy. Doesn't necessary care about you, your position, because like himself he/she always expects to be told the hard truth and to correct for it. Nothing excites an INTJ more than something which adds to his vision, futuristic ideas, above normal stuff and solitude.
Agree exactly. Don't care for posturing, please just be honest (as long as you are being kind as well).
Preach
Still like my x’s better than my current girlfriend as they actually added to my understanding….even though current is sweet as pie, just more reserved.
That moment when you watch this video and she says something interesting so you start thinking about it more and more and when you stop thinking about it a bit you missed half of the video... :D
Lol. I watched thrice cause I kept doing that
All the damn time nearly on every video even tv shows
I had to pause and rewatch. I feel you. Lol.
I constantly forget that time is actually passing outside of my head.
Story of my life.
I can sit in a restaurant and tell you what is being said in 2/3 different conversations around me and have absolutely no idea what the person opposite me just said.
I do this all the time without trying to.
Same same
Familiar 😆
As an INTJ, sure, most of what I predict does happen. But what folks don't realize is we have to dodge the pitchforks, the angry mobs, the barn burners, and we cross bridges that get burnt, and we get to look back through the smoke and flames and yell, "See! I told you so!". We do value relationships, but not at the expense of the truth. And even though we value our principles more, it doesn't lessen the pain of destroyed relationships. We do feel sympathy, love and grief, but we don't care in so much that we are guided by that internal compass which always points north, and to follow it at all cost makes us complete. "To thine own self be true", is our motto. We are very Puritan like in spirit. And our ideals and values are the common ground on which to extend the hand of friendship, or make enemies.
Damn you nailed it. I just lost a friend because he accused me of being a jerk and doing all this terrible stuff (that in reality HE had just done to me- total projection/gaslighting) and spewed out all these very awful personal attacks (I'm an INTJ so I could deduct that he's been harboring these opinions for a long time). There were even other friends present who saw the meltdown. He cut me off and just because of that, he can never regain my trust or respect because he broke away from truth and reality. Most other types would say "well, when someone's angry they just want to vent" or something. But you can't just do that. If your reality isn't ACTUAL reality, you're just another obstacle holding the INTJ back.
this hit home. Literally I've lost home after home because relationships have burned in the torch of my truth telling. I've been despondent about this because everyone wants you to be relationship focussed. Why can't you just get along! But I won't have it. I can't live with myself if I'm sacrificing myself on the altar of Relationship and Other People's Feelings
Well said. We wouldn't have to say I told you so if people would listen to us, but some folks are closeminded/stubborn.
There are people that envy us....
Seriously?
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I feel called out in a good way!!
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honestly clicked on this video half expecting it to be you...
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As a generally lazy INTJ, all I can say is that I'll be laziest if I'm not willing/like to do that particular task. But if I like it, I take no time getting up and planning how to do it.
You are accurate when you said INTJs (at least in my case) of little details. If I'm having a conversation with someone, I have a hard time maintaining eye contact due to me looking around at other stuff. Not that I'm not paying attention to them, just looking at that bird over there, or that weird shape in the trees that I just noticed.
I noticed while I'm talking to people I will notice the car that drove by if it was interesting to me. I try to get right back to the conversation with my eyes so they don't think I'm ignoring them. But my eyes will dart from a person who just walked into the coffee shop back to the person I'm talking to and so on...
Oh this is me as well. You could say we are naturally street smart because of this. I could be talking on the sidewalk with my date, barely break eye contact and just the way a person is walking as they approach us, I can tell if they're a junkie or something and preemptively move us both a couple feet away without even looking directly at them. INTJ's are the driver's hand on the mattress on top of the car driving down the freeway. We got it, we got it...
I look away because I'm visualizing it occurring in a real space. I have to do that to remember it better. As I'm visualizing it, I usually am rapid-firing off various outcomes, causes, whatever in order to aid in understanding it better.
It is because this person was talking about some shit not about some value thing. But an great power you have is to focus when ever you want so try to use it next time if you value person you talk.
For me (INTJ) I feel like I often don't make eye contact (especially with people I know who I am not trying to make a first impression on or something) because I am more focused on the other aspects of the conversation, like the tone, direction, and motives. If something peaks my interest or was unexpected, I will often increase my eye contact significantly to gain more information, which can weird some people if they notice (they usually don't XD)
Um- excuse me?
“You’ll rarely ever find a lazy INTJ...”
You sure cuz we’re probably the laziest not-lazy people you’ll ever meet.
Might be wrong about others, but I know I am.
Good point, I worked with an INTJ who made every one of his systems at work so efficient that he only had to work a couple hours a day #talent
That's very true. I get stuff done when I feel it's important to me and I'm particularly motivated, but the rest of the time, I just don't bother.
Although I finish things quickly, my impatience tends to get the best of me, and my work comes out unpolished.
Yes, me too. I retired at 41. I worked very hard to make sure I didn't have to work my entire life.
I think most people I know would agree that I'm lazy... except when I'm not.
Me too!
@@Bgrosz1 I'm 17 and literally spent the last year and a half pondering on how I can achieve financial freedom as soon as possible 😂
Yes I'm an intj and I'm distracted easily and that's why it feels good to be alone to progress on our dreams..Nice video
Me too
when im working on my stuff with others i tend to be lazy, but when im alone i tend to work like there's no tomorrow
(INTJ) Yes I agree about the Se acute sensitivity to environment.I get really distracted and irritated with dogs barking,bright light shining in the bedroom window, cars idling outside, voices outside, gardeners mowing lawns, leave blowers. I will wear industrial strength ear muffs to get perfect silence in the morning. Heat makes me irritable.
S. U. What happens to some of us is that we teach ourselves tune all of that out and concentrate on one thing. To the exclusion of EVERYTHING that’s happening around us. I can get to a space inside my own head where someone else can carry on an entire conversation with me and I have no idea they are even in the room. It comes across as extreme rudeness but the reality is that in that moment, I must tune the world out in order to concentrate on a task that is in front of me or I wouldn’t ever get anything done!
S.U. That is so true for me too. Infj
Maybe INTJ can tune out easier than infj.
Yup, I understand that!
Omfg me tooo. I hate the heat and prefer a nice cool environment. And I hate noise so much, it's draining.
It's true, small talk glosses my eyes, I relax/recharge when I'm alone, and I can't read with noise or other distractions. If you make it into my small but trusted social circle, I will be there for you and protect you at all cost. I also wake up before my alarm in the morning. XD
This is so accurate! Once I was pulled on as a trainer for a new payment system rollout for a company I was working for. During the demonstration, there was an error that popped up every time they tried to run a transaction in the program, preventing the payment from going through. They had said that it will get fixed before the launch date. I raised my hand and asked if they were sure and what the plan was for fixing it, since it was the whole point of the rollout. I was pulled into a room after the conference and was informed I would be off the project because I "obviously had no real faith in it." Well, the system went live and the bug took six months to fix! It cost the company millions of dollars, customers lost faith, tons of bad press and they never regained their reputation again. LISTEN TO THE INTJs!
Thats crazy they pulled you off because you didnt trust a flawed system 😩 some people’s children
The corporate world is many things, but a meritocracy isn't one of them. The smartest person in the room is inevitably going to make you look bad so you just get rid of them. And the novelty of being able to say "I told you so" loses it's glitter after the 1000th time.
@@JellyFinch Brilliant
As an INTJ I regularly have scenarios where I tell someone how something is going to go or why something will or won't work and it's completely obvious to me. They then proceed with what they were doing anyway and I'm dumbfounded. They didn't give a counter argument but just said okay, discarded my explanation and continued as if I never said anything. It ends up playing out exactly like I said it would and a lot of times they will say something like "oh, I guess..." where the rest is exactly what I said. I'm not even sure they are aware they just came to the conclusion the hard way that I tried to give them the easy way.
This has blown my mind through the years where I am thinking "how could they not see this?!" I came to the conclusion that most people just think differently than I do and my assumption that everyone, or most, or half of people, or even a sizable minority could see these things that are clear to me was just wrong. Obviously this sort of video clears up why this scenario keeps playing out.
Just curious how many INTJ's out there have the exact same experience. The frustrating thing is, no matter how well laid out the logic, people generally discard it and do what they were going to do anyway.
As an intj, it happens all the time, almost daily. I have been saying, to myself, for many years, " I hate when I'm right", because I'm basically, almost always, correct.
Quite a few of my ex's have also told me, "I hate that you're always right!!" It's a burden we carry...
As an intj too, i experience the same thing. The other characteristic of the INTJ is that we tend to get frustrated that people dont get things as easily as we do. We get frustrated that someone doesn't understand what we tell them and that people didn't see that what we predicted was right
The thing is, it's actually entertaining to see that.
Yup know how u feel. I can project events 10 years into the future. It's weird how we turn out to be right most of the time, try making money out of this power and not give it freely to people that won't value it.
I totally relate!
It is not that we don't care ! Intjs are so goal oriented and focused. We are so good at compartmentalizing and packing away our feelings and emotions. That we appear numb to others around us. Intjs feel it. we just can't let feelings and emotions get in the way of our goals. You want to see an intjs feelings and emotions expressed physically, getting in the way of what they are trying to accomplish!
At first I thought I was an INTJ because I can predict things using sheer logic, but then I realize 90% of my knowledge are Useless.
I really admire INTJs
-INTP
The problem with a strong Ni in an environment full of strong Se people is that almost nobody understands why and no body supports that idea...
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I don't think this argument is valid because there is roughly the same percentage of SE doms (those who don't understand Ni doms) as Ne doms (those particularly well equipped to understand Ni doms) so I don't think INTJs and INFJs are isolated.
We call it Hell. Sometime i just wondering how people would feel if the world was flipped in the opposite : More Ni less Se.
hell yeah! Sometimes Se is a bit idiotic idiot, NOT PERSONAL!
completely agreee - why I was lucky to have my dad - he was a barrister and a solicitor (usually one or the other, not both.. one defends people in court - other deals with contracts, details, fine print - I wonder if he was an INTJ...) - taught me to use my words to 'build a case' - both in verbally and in writing.. and the people skills to turn my plans into reality (well _some_ of them time - when they LISTEN...)
I'm ducking psychic. I can "feel" when people stare at me, or feel someone enter a room without looking. I can find someone just with my mind, like location. I can read your thoughts, see what your seeking in your mind, "hear" the dialogues you are having in your head. I pick ☝ on silent conversation. I have the ability to separate myself fromthe chaos of the collective crowd, say duck it, and do my own thing, like, what everyone else figures out much later. I seem flighty, never settled, but it's just because I've figured it out and on to the next thing.
Oh, Yea, I get that!
As an INTJ, I'm only interested in topics related to Money, Power, Success, Vision, Heavy High Standards, Strategy, Bigger Picture, Deeper Relationships and Heavy Trust, etc and anything other than this, Either We just Tolerating your ass or We Done Talking!
Been there, done that!
Why stay so limited?
@@marioguelbenzu2348 It's actually painful to me read comments under INTJ videos. A lot of them cut and copy the INTJ traits from
16Personalities.com lol
The MBTI test can define our dominant cognitive functions, but obviously our personality can be vastly different... at some point people try to do everything to fit into their favourite label, it's funny.
I like how you back pedaled when you said we like to plan things, but then you said we basically do it more out of necessity. Good thought process 👍
As a INTJ you will often turn to "stuff" to make your brain not to overthink. The pain not to go mental on the world is sometimes overwhelming if you cant ventilate your thoughts, if you are not in a relationship with a person that understand you. The pain and your thouths can get really dark. Suicde is not a uncommon thing for INTJ when they feel that nobody undersand how and why you thing how you think.
Been there, man. The thought process was "I can't be on this planet with all these idiots running things anymore."
Aye, and "stuff" can be (relatively) harmless or very harmful.
Personally, I like gaming. It's an effective fun distraction.
yep, surrounded by people, but no one to talk to.
Ikr, for a while I thought that I don't have an imagination or don't like thinking (which made me think that I'm faking being an INTJ). But then I realized it's bc nobody understand and I'm tired or it, overthinking sometimes too.
Very true!
Being an INTJ type really helped me with the conviction and dedication to overcome major physical challenges, such as overcoming spine injuries, we are very resilient to major challenges that effect us.
Same here I ended up avoiding knee surgery and getting better because of it. I kinda became my own science project and have worked the process down to an algorithm?
^ 100%
INTJs come off as lazy (and I am guilty as charged) but that is because we weigh the time and effort to achieve something with the benefit of achieving that thing. Often times, the time and effort aren't worth it. No one values their time more than INTJs.
But there is no one better to have to tackle a big problem that must be overcome. It will be overcome if it can be overcome, and in the most efficient and complete way that it can be.
I apologize for responding to a comment from 3 years ago.
That was so spot on for me. I cannot believe how much insight you have regarding INTJs and are not an INTJ. Being able to predict outcomes freaks some people out when I tell others ahead of time what's going to happen. And extreme sensitivity to the environment: at times it can be overhwhelming when too much data is coming in from external sources and too much to process. Too much input and accelerated processing at the same time can be a lot at times. Extreme sensitivity to light and slight changes in temperatures in work can be distracting, but I'm a problem solver. To be more effective in life, I've learned social skills which seems counter to being INTJ, but it allows me to gather more data about people, building a network of subject matter experts I can on and makes life more efficient. It's not fake because I genuinely enjoy learning from others and I'm a good listener which helps facilitate learning.
Im not 100% surprised, i have this pet theory that people with Te use Fe like a tool in the shed, so although they might not enjoy using it, they can quite effectively
Love this. This confused me for so long in figuring out my type, because even though as a kid I had been continuously surprised that I was hurting people, I beat myself up about it to the point that I paid more attention to it than anything else in my life, and now I can predict emotional reactions even though I cannot understand what the person I am talking to is feeling in real time unless they show it in their face.. it's this situation of being too wrapped up in myself while i am talking and listening that I don't understand what's happening to the other person until after it's happened. But I can predict the emotional reaction in any situation if I am not directly involved in it. I can also accurately tell what two people are feeling when I see them interact. This all, to the detriment of my Te that I am just now beginning to develop. I feel so peaceful now, as I have never before in my 28 years of life. Being controlled by my own emotions is something I think was the result of me not developing my thought processes, so I am still figuring out what type I am.
hypersensitivity is legit.
The distractibility for many INTJs is that this specific MBTI group is steriotypically highly represented among the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) type folks, as discribed in the works of Dr. Elaine Aron.
BTW that's a personal truth that took me a lifetime to realize, that I wasn't broken, bad or defective.
Oh is that so? I read her book before getting my mbti test. I thought I was an INFP before that. But I have the intj characteristics beneath all that.
Never thought I would know this strange feeling of being understood that well by another type!
I agree, which is why I always have headphones on when outside unless rain then I can take off my headphones because it's actually very quiet outside for me because of the rain drowning everything out for me
yeah, I travel in metro most of the time, and in winter my headphones can drop their battery rapidly absolutely unexpected, so if they that happens.. and I have neither a book or spare pair of airpods, i'm practically dead. (for an hour and a half, until I get out)
it's a kind of a torture in rush hour...
Wow, so spot on...and yes a fly in the room can crash a zen thought moment.
If there's a mosquito, it's all-out war until it's dead. Defcon 5. I can hear the thing if I'm in bed!
I was like this at a very young age and it scared me, i could predict the behavior of people and see what could and would happen. I honestly thought something was wrong with me. The problem is this, we can't use it on ourselves. It's either that our the fact that we let our judgement of what we want overcome our ability know what's going to happen as a result of a certain action.
I enjoyed your video and though I am probably older than your grandfather, please do not be offended when I say I believe you have a lovely soul.
'lovely soul'? SHE HAS A CAT. A caaaaaaaaaaaat! Everyone knows cats are aliens trying to take over.
Imagine being an INTJ and not pressing as soon as you see this title.
I tried explaining archetypes to my ISFJ neighbor in the simplest terms I could muster after knowing him for 2 years. Briefly touched on the 4 sides otM and tried to explain why I don’t enjoy socializing often.
He then went to great lengths to explain why I should get therapy or I will go manic like he did and not sleep for a month. 😳
*...so ya I pressed the title ASAP!*
The external stimuli sensitivity is real! It was so great to hear the third and fourth values celebrated. I keep seeing them devalued and emphasized as a detriment.
Yes, I would argue that we are very sensitive to small things in our external world. It is accurate.
I’m an INTJ. This was spot on.
When you mentioned the flies in the room, animals licking themselves, cars driving by being noticeable I had to think about how I detected a fan was nearby by noticing the direction and forcefulness of the draft I felt and was able to pinpoint it's location about 20ft away and how it bothered me that it was there 😆
I look away when talking to someone about something important. I look away because I'm visualizing it occurring in a real space. I have to do that to remember it better. As I'm visualizing it, I usually am rapid-firing off various outcomes, causes, whatever in order to aid in understanding it better.
Me too! I worry that people think I'm embarrassed, antisocial, or a liar, but it's more that I don't want to process what their face is telling me because I have like 20 threads to sort out in my head, and I want to focus on communicating my thought.
As an INTJ, a lot of my predictions come true but I can tell you exactly why I made that prediction and what factors/data went into it. My wife is an INFJ and she too makes accurate predictions, but they are out of nowhere and usually in the form of a dream and she cannot tell you why. It may even be about a subject she has absolutely no knowledge about. It is actually quite spooky.
So interesting! As an INTJ I love to sit with an project in my head and get my mind working on solutions, and I can always think up a way to make it work because I KNOW it will work. When others are dithering about all the reasons why it's impossible I feel such disdain for them. I get overwhelmed with drama, and tend to walk away rather than fight or argue, but in my mind I know I'm right and that's enough.
A similar case is when someone wants to accomplish something and tells me their plan.
Usually the plan will have one or multiple obvious issues. So I will say "that's not going to work because..."
They will be upset because they just wanted me to thumbs up the plan, I guess.
But then I will say "you could do this, or this...". Then I will point out the next problem and think about alternative paths.
Unfortunately, just about everyone takes this as an attack on their plan and goal. I don't get it. I'm actively helping them get to their end goal without running into roadblocks and pitfalls.
They seem to exclusively focus on the bluntness with which I point out the issues in their original plan.
I don't get it. If I gave someone one of my plans and they pointed out an obvious flaw and helped me figure out a way around it, I would thank them.
Love your assessment of Ni; very very true. I can often come across as "arrogant" to people who do not understand me, but as I know from all the other INTJ's in my life, we truly do know what we are talking about; even tho NP's always always offer amazing insight & other ideas we MAY not have thought of. I think any true typed INTJ knows that we don't know everything & we are also able to admit fault when we are wrong.
I often see the Te as how my Ni is "applied in the world" be it currently, 5 years from now, or 40 years from now.
I also totally agree about the sensitivity with Se, I am hypersensitive externally & need to be mindful of my external involvements because of it; I think it's the function that can exhaust us the quickest if not protected or preserved in a way.
Anyhow, loved this video thank you so much
yes, Ni applied exactlyyyyy so well-worded!!
Have I mentioned INTJs are my favorite type? I'm trying not to be biased with this video, but it's so hard when I love you all so much!
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi awww... well, I am doing everything in my power to not respond in a way that will be perceived as arrogant. lol.
But, I appreciate that, we are a weird bunch.
INTJ here. Those are Facts. Totally agree. I Love how you explained it well with examples. It makes it more interesting and I can totally relate to it.
I’m an INTJ and I’m only 15 yet I still relate to almost everything she said
What I see as a blessing and a curse as an INTJs is the constant self improvement. But if you can put that into a big vision, it can be extremely powerful.
INTJ here. really agree with the "distracted by external forces". hate repeating noises, I'll walk away mid-task, sometimes away from someone else, to personally affect the immediate halt of a nuisance. wobly desk? > folded napkin under the leg. Problem solved in the present and probably in the extended foreseeable future until someone (another external force) exerts force against this. in my mind I know that no one will ever have the problem with wobbly table again. like never. What once was a problem doesn't exist anymore.
Also relates to a "minimum standard". Usually a person is a source of problem, so their response to communication defines their future record and also defines how they should be handled. Usually a "they might be having a bad day" is also a factor, once this code is established it's difficult to incorporate other persons thought process into ours because we believe we've already gone through their thought process and incorporated weight and value, when they really just have their own unique code which we assume doesn't contain 100% of ours.
Also, I appreciate you sharing this positive video about the INTJ type. If I am, which I believe to be, then this helps me relate and understand. Thank you.
I agree with the "bothered by external factors" bit because if there is even a bit of light, or a slight noise, I find (unless I'm absolutely exhausted) impossible to get to sleep. I have however honed my ability to block out noise, but it takes intense focus to do so, whether on a conversation or a task.
Kristian Noel so true. I have learned to tune everything out. Someone could have been talking to me for 10 minutes and I wouldn’t have known it. I had to adapt or go nuts.
@@bettymurrell5628 I'm glad I'm not the only one who does that, my eldest niece also does it.
10:50 I'm a tall, heavy, black INTJ known for practicing martial arts and having a brief period of time playing for a rugby team. When walking down the street with my friends, I'm mindful of my surroundings and I anticipate/avoid the path of potentially sketchy people, and I have a non-verbal way of leading my friends into the safest path. They find funny how I always ignore obvious social details but how at the same time I'm always aware of environmentals factors, when usually they are the other way around. Also apparently, it has become clear to some of them when I'm not paying attention to the conversation because in my own twilight zone processing all this external information and thinking about a potential risks, opportunities, traffic, weather, dogs, etc. With my physical traits and my INTJ mind, they say I'm like a bodyguard to them... which they take advantage of (specially my female friends) because they know I'll take them through the fastest but safest path from point A to point B, and I like my "bodyguard" duties, it gives my brain an opportunity to go all-in
I am an INTJ also, and it's interesting how our minds are frequently trying to think (rather than pay attention to immediate conversations or whatnot), but when we choose to pay attention, we can be on-point. When living in a large Asian city (more or less equivalent to being in downtown New York City), my roommate was surprised at how fast and aggressively I'd ride my bike through the dense and complex traffic... I guess because she had me pegged for someone with slow instincts? I've had similar comments from other friends, "We thought you were kind of dumb, but then we realized you just space out a lot."
Wow... I totally agree. I've been nicknamed "the polite a&&hole" a few times... You are an observer. I get way over stimulated with many different things going on at once. Freaks me out... That's why I like to escape without going anywhere, so no one worries or asks me what's wrong.
You’re spot on about being overly sensitive to disruptions in the environment. Any kind of abnormal noise/movement drives me nuts. It feels like I’m having an important conversation with myself in my mind, and I’m getting interrupted by something trivial in the outside world. I’m a super light sleeper too. Any kind of noise, change in temperature, or change in light level will wake me up. I need earplugs, blackout curtains, and a temperature of 60-62 degrees in order to sleep.
10:08 in agreement 👌highly sensitive. ....appreciate serenity, peace, and quietness. I live inside my brain alot. Thx 4 your video upload, u r a value to society💕
INTJ here, watched the video in a very rational and logical way and Yes this information is a 100% correct. All of it!
Thanks for sharing your observations. I found it to be quite accurate (unless its apparent objectiveness is just a "folie a deux"). I want to share "my way" which is built on a finite set containing at least the following axioms:
(1) Axiom of patterns: Connected patterns lead to an understanding of the world.
(2) Axiom of consistency: Ideas are verified if they are self-consistent and coherent relative to the other ideas or to the world in general.
(3) Axiom of guide: The only guide through the chaos is the inner calling.
(4) Axiom of exploration: Life is experimental and worth exploring.
(5) Axiom of sensitivity: In a non-linear complex system such as life, a tiny unwanted input during a process could lead to a failure.
(6) Axiom of feeling: Long term observations (of internal feelings and external signs) are needed in order to let in the person with whom you feel a connection.
(7) Axiom of ultimacy: The ultimate purpose is to perform my role perfectly.
By the way, a corollary of axiom (5) is the observation you mentioned as an "acute sensitivity to the external world". I hope these inputs will be helpful/interesting to know in a way.
@@KeenanMag1 Well said! Yeah, the domain of feelings to me is like the Amazon rainforest (as it seems from documentaries and books, I've never been there); an inland empire of wonders and dangers. And yet, "whereof one cannot speak, thereof one must be silent". The 6th also results the infamous search for "the soulmate".
Yay, thanks for the vid! I hate "close singing." One of the worst things that can happen to me is if someone decides to serenade me in close proximity--not "Happy Birthday"--but really trying to give a virtuoso or heart-felt performance; that stuff better be up on a STAGE in its appropriate environment!!!!!! Also the fly buzzing and dog licking itself is 100% true. Great points.
Greetings Mischel It is really kind hearing from you that u like us the INTJs.
I like how knowledgeable you are of INTJs. I feel seen and so understood. Maybe that’s why I keep watching every INTJ video I can find. :-)
Haha! Now that you complimented us, we get to feel even more smug and superior, before we go back to our usual soul-crushing loneliness.
As an INTJ, we often pay the price for our opinions, and our desire to speak the truth without any emotionally sensitive gift wrap to dull the meaning of what we're saying. I've lost a majority of my past friends to burned bridges caused by those things, and I can tell you it makes me feel incredibly lonely and alien as a person sometimes.
However, and this is the real crux of why I consider it a necessary evil: an INTJ like myself will start to feel as though they're no longer themselves (and they'll become very unhappy) if they begin to bend and alter how they act towards -- or what they say to -- someone for the sole purpose of getting along and keeping that person around.
In a sense, trying to accommodate other people in such a way has us feeling like we're veering off track from our goals to make room for them, or advocating for all the wrong things, or simply succumbing to the messy inefficiency and the exhaustion that slogging through emotional stuff brings for us -- all things no INTJ wants to deal with, and especially not long term.
That sounds like a tough thing to deal with. I wish that honesty and direct expression were more valued and people were less sensitive. Perhaps we will get there one day....
Always impressed when a non-INTJ has solid / deep knowledge of what makes an INTJ tick. You nailed it. Good job.
fyi.. I'm 73 yo. Retired nuclear engineer. Been studying MBTI for 50 years. I've found it helpful with self-knowledge and personal growth.
Yeah, we got the crap end of the sensory stick.
When I'm focused, the fly buzzing / faucet dripping / whatever is going to have to stop or it's going to destroy my focus, and there's nothing more frustrating than something stupid interrupting me from working toward a goal. Then again there can be times where people think they're having a conversation with me when I'm focused on a project and I literally have no recollection of what they said.
Noise-canceling headphones are a lifesaver; they cancel out most of the annoying sounds and most people are smart enough to see that you're not listening to them. Let's just hope the building doesn't burn down around us, because we might not notice.
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It reminded me of a situation in my school years. History teacher: "Why didn't you learn that topic?". Me trying to be honest: "It doesn't make sense to know this". Teacher a bit confused: "You never know what you need to know when you grow up". "What...? So I supposed to learn everything!?", - I didn't say that. After that situation I was never honest with him anymore.
Andrew Kravets 99% of what I learned in school has been useless in life. Plenty of other things they should be teaching in schools.
Something that the Ni-Te package does for me is I will be confronted with a problem: perhaps I get a comment in a video where the commenter is faced with something in his life, and wants some ideas on how to tackle it. It is common for me to sit for a moment picturing the problem in my head, and suddenly, almost as if it were magic, I have a plan of attack forming in my head on how to deal with that problem. I can't tell you where the idea came from, because it is a new problem that I have never encountered before. But other things I have experienced apparently were connected up by my Ni, and I was handed a method for dealing with the problem almost out of thin air. It can be spooky the way it works.
You made an excellent point when you said planning is a necessity. I feel as though I am driving blind when I can't plan what is going to happen. Planning makes things right with the universe. A good plan is one that accomplishes what you have set out to do, and it had few if any detours.
That was a great insight you put forward about the optimism of the INTJ. I did a video that I called INTJ: The Optimist Cynic. I am not promoting it, it was one of my early videos that could have been better. But the title matches up with what you are saying. INTJs know there is an answer to almost all problems, and for a great many of them, they know the answer to the problem, but at the same time they know that no one will act to create that solution and so the problem will remain unsolved. We all tend to have some form of self-analyzed worldview, and your comment about predicting future outcomes is bang on the money. It often feels like the Casandra Curse where you can predict the future but no one will listen to you or believe you. :-)
Yes, we do have strong opinions, because they are based on research and evaluation. The INTJ is the most likely of all 16 of the MBTI type to be atheists for this very reason. We value evidence and how opinions line up with reality. Reality is the final judge on all things for an INTJ. We spend incredible amounts of time alone, because our Ni needs to be fueled, and it has a voracious appetite for knowledge. Watching an INTJ jump from topic to topic would probably appear humorous to other types. But suddenly I will be taken with a fascination on something I know nothing about. There it is online and suddenly I am chasing it like a dog chasing a rabbit across a field. It went down that hole and I am right behind it. It comes out and goes down another one. At some point that topic is done, and I am off chasing another topic and it would be hard to connect the second topic with the first one in a rational way, but my Ni had connected them somehow. For a planning rational type, this process appears chaotic from the outside, but it all comes together in the end.
My wife of 43 years tells me that her concept of heaven is a perpetual carnival with lots of fun rides. I tell her that my concept of heaven is a library with an infinite number of books. She asks why I don't want to go to the fun heaven and I reply my concept IS the fun heaven. :-)
The INTJ gets a bad rap for being heartless, but our Fi cares about what is right, valid and make sense to us. I would be lying if I said that I care whether my beliefs or attitudes offend other people. Other people's views offend me constantly and I don't care about that either. They can think what they want and are welcome to their wrong opinions. (I am only writing the final evaluation partly tongue in cheek.)
One of the problems of having strong moral values or views, is that when these well thought out and researched standards are trod upon by others, at least for myself, I simply disconnect from those people. The door to them is closed to me and they don't exist. I don't try to force others to act in what I deem to be a moral way, as long as they don't expect me to embrace what they are doing or to validate it in some way. As long as it doesn't affect me, I really don't care what they do, no matter how self-destructive it may be. As I have gotten older, the number of people I interface with, on a face to face basis has decreased drastically. I am not a misanthrope, but I have grown quite pessimistic that the next person I meet will be someone I would care to be around. Trial and error has led me to this view, for better or for worse.
You are very kind to call it "an ability" to be blunt with people. My ESTP wife says I am rude. :-)
As for asking for help, that is a huge failing I have. I like to do things all by myself. I have sought out jobs all my life that would allow me to work independently from others wherever possible. Even as a teacher I was essentially running the show and the students were listening and the interactions were controlled. It was in a way a solo act. I repaired complex machines like CAT scanners and Ion Implanters, usually all by myself at a customer site. Today I sit in my office and work on the computer most of the day, all alone. My wife and I have our date night time in the evenings, and we have our grandkids over for visits and I truly enjoy all of that. But the bulk of my time is aimed at learning and creating.
As for the not being able to focus because of physical distractions, I find that is only true if there is some sort of intelligence behind them. I can't stand having a TV on in the same room with me when I am trying to concentrate. (And I am using the word intelligence in this context very loosely.) I don't listen to the radio either. Anything that has talking in it is will drive me up the wall. Instrumental music is fine, and I can tune that out. I also can tune out things that are repetitive and are naturally produced. If the wind is blowing outside and causing a branch to scrape the wall, I will note it, evaluate it to make sure it is not dangerous, and then tune it out. If something changes, again I note it and evaluate it. So, something that happens at irregular times or could be deemed a threat in any way, will drive me to distraction.
One thing that Se has helped me with is playing certain sports, where a quick evaluation of the current environment can be crucial to good play. Table Tennis, Racquetball, hitting a baseball, and other sports or skills are enhanced because of my Se. I also usually don't break something I drop. I either catch it before it falls or break the fall with my foot if it is heading for the floor. My reflexes have always been sharp, even now I am getting older. :-(
Thanks for the video. I love videos that stimulate thought, and that is what you provided here.
Hey Mate, big fan here. You're videos have really helped me understand the inner workings of myself. I'm intrigued when i read you say of the 16 personality types INTJ's are most likely to have an atheistic worldview. I was always an atheist, ( Never understood the concept of God or how people could believe in it) but in the last few years i believe ive begun to discover some real fundamental flaws in atheistic logic which cannot be ignored. I know I dont know enough to come to a conclusion yet. But as a 26 yr old fellow INTJ i'd love to pick your brains and get your thoughts on a few things.
@@jayman8977 Thanks! It is a fact that INTJs have the highest non-believing percentage, but that doesn't mean that they all are non-believers because that simply isn't true. I made a comment in my Rogue INTJ video about the earth being way older than 6000 years, and there was no possible way that Noah's flood happened, and I had a guy go off on me in a big way. I thought I was making an obviously true statement but alas, not so to that guy. I don't want to hijack Michelle Wilson's video comment thread with a personal discussion, or in any way distract from her great video here. If you want to discuss this, you can put a comment in the INTJ Rogue video or even email me at INTJ.Alvin at gmail dot com. Just a head's up, I am an atheist, which means I have no belief in any god. It doesn't mean I believe I have proof there is no god, only that there is no evidence that there is one. That is my starting point. When I was 19, I enrolled at a university as a theology major. By the time I reached age 26 I was well on my way to where I am now, but it took many years to come fully to rest, and feel at peace with my position. So, I have been on both sides of the question. :-)
@@INTJIsland Very INTJ like in covering your basis :) I do completely agree with you. One worldview cannot disprove God and another cannot prove God, but thats not to say one is right by default. ( devils in the details ), I think were we differ is in our perceptions of "evidence". Really appreciate the response :) and apologies to Michelle for hijacking your comment section. I'll send you an e mail later on, (NZ Time ) id love to know how you came to some of your conclusions.
@@jayman8977 Okay. To clarify that point you raised, I should point out the default position is always the one that makes no claim. If one claims that god exists, the burden of proof is upon the one making the claim. If one makes the claim that no god exists then the burden of proof is upon him. In this case, if no claims are made, the only possible default (but unproven, since no claims are made or defended) position is that there is no god. To move from that default position a claim must be made and established through evidence. I'll see you in the email world. :-)
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Most of this video seems pretty accurate. But I think I want to expand on the feeling aspect though.
I don't care about emotions (8:19) if they're not important. Or if they're emotions toward a particular idea or concept rather than the emotional suffering of an individual. If a person is genuinely suffering emotionally, then I usually care. Emotions that I feel might be misplaced or irrational are the kind I disregard (my own and those of others).
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Totally agree.
My brother and one of my cousins are road ragers. I tell them it's pointless to get angry because the world isn't going to change how it drives. Their personality types reject that obvious truth and continue with their raging.
From my experience, you are right about the SEnsivity to the immediate environment. At first, before I delved into MBTI, I was completely unaware of it happening - it would happen and I would remember it happening, but wouldn't realise it while it is happening. It is indeed very distracting, but can be (I mean, I have done it, so other likely can as well) balanced by working memory training. You will still get distracted, but the previous point of attention won't be lost, so going back to it will be as effortless as if the distraction never occurred.
Oh and yeah, thanks for the video, good to hear someone acknowledging you for once.
10:30 Funny you mention this. One time a girl who was interested in me told me a story that she watched me watch a fly on my hand cleaning itself and tasting my hand for a solid 2-3 minutes. I was completely absorbed in observing its behavior. She ultimately dated someone else. This taught me I was more interested in understand the natural world around me than understanding women.
Your right about the fly in the room being a distraction; especially if a state of flow has not been reached on what ideally should be their ideal invested focus. There is an internal goal to reach a state of flow, when it has been decided that it is time dedicated to gather information towards pattern development. Depending on how passionate the INTJ has allotted time for this, the distraction will be seen as either merely a distraction or the enemy.
Oh you got me ff, I'm a INTJ, ever since I was a kid, I was different in every way, but I couldn't express, I didn't know what was going on with me, I thought I was sick? Now I know after 42 years not knowing 💙🐯✌️
I don't know if it means anything, but as an INTP I really like hearing you talk. When I was studying the cognitive functions I remember thinking that I might find the ENFP amusing. Anyway, back to my cave to theorize why....
I think INTJ's are interesting as well.
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Ofc you've qualified that statement, so I'll gratefully presume we're past any of that jazz.
Yes, with a mind that constantly reaches out to catalog and connect (even while half asleep) occurrences around us... distraction can be a problem.
However, INTJ susceptibility to distraction is modulated by our personal investment/interest in whatever action we're performing at that time. The more we're interested/personally invested, the less likely our mind is to be distracted by all of those examples you listed (sounds of cars, pet stuff and whatever else).
Working on my hobby server? Laser-like focus. A tornado could probably blow by my house, and I'd be in my home office troubleshooting my network wondering why it can't connect to anything. Even typing this, I'm thinking I should get rid of the ("borrowed") enterprise-level Microsoft server OS on my hobby server because... uh... Bill wouldn't be as generous in this specific instance to me as he currently is in India or Africa. That's certain... :/
If I'm watching anything on TLC with the gf (obv not my idea...), there's zero involvement in what I'm doing - I suddenly realize I'm hungry because I forgot to eat that day (common tbh) or I start wondering if my car needs a new serpentine belt or idler pulley to fix the squeaking sound when it's running. It's most likely an idler pulley-bearing gone bad btw. 95% certain of it, unfortunately.
I'm not saying I ignore my gf during her "TLC time" ofc ;>.> Nor am I implying others aren't valuable enough to hold our attention.
I'm saying it's easy to infer what/how the 600 lb woman is going to say/react and I understand the nature of the show, so the outcome (of the episode) is easy to predict - This leaves my mind free to wander, and it's easier to distract while my mind is wandering than when it has purpose.
We also occasionally need to let our mind wander (most likely appears as us daydreaming), in much the same way as needing to blink your eyes. That's the best I can explain the sensation. It's relief.
INTJs, imho, either civilize our minds or we lose them. The processes we've talked about here, are the same processes that doom an INTJ to a life of mental illness (imho)(also fairly common). Our minds cannot be allowed to run rampant because we will potentially stay focused on unhealthy distractions (negative self talk, replaying traumatic events in our minds, rumination etc). Nobody needs a laser-like focus on the reasons why they/their life may currently suck. This is not ideal by any measure, and it is unfortunately a constant waking effort.
We also need to realize that we can't assign accurate reason to occurrences that are too "chaotic", meaning involvement of other people. Sometimes, people just do dumb things because they're dumb and/or calloused.
Enjoyed your video, you're concise with topics that aren't easy to define because they're figurative.
Subbed, looking forward to hearing more of your thoughts. I hope you enjoyed making this as much as I enjoyed hearing it.
As a female INTJ I agree on everyword that you said *but* the fact that I get distracted easily, it is the opposite for me I can disconnect fully from my environment if I'm doing a task or I'm in my head, even if there is a big distraction. I believe this has to do with introverted intuition and day-dreaming a lot.
As an INTJ-A, your assessment is quite accurate. A couple of comments regarding the planning and the efficiency part: in my case it is true that I plan things and will think very deeply how I want to execute a certain plan. Planning gives me confidence in my analytical and critical thinking ability and the same time it gives me steps and goal-posts that I can use to measure how far I am from reaching my target. Planning also gives a clear path-way for me to follow and not get distracted by other things that may be happening in parallel.
The second comment is that I am very forward-looking and this leads me to being naturally optimistic. I suppose my optimism is enhanced by the fact that I have confidence in my ability to plan things and carry them out successfully, and planning things thoroughly and carefully is at the centre of it. While it is true that I don't focus much of my attention on other people, I firmly believe that I have to be able to help myself before I can even turn to helping others. I can rationalize how other people can think of this as a selfish attitude when really it is just recognizing that I am not all-knowing or all-capable.
Interesting point at the end, I systematically notice movement in the background or tiny noises. And I have no clue how to deal with people who are overly emotional as I cannot rationalize their behaviour and I decide that it's simply not a good use of my time to try dealing with them.
I just came across this video, and wow is it accurate. I just took a personality test 😅
One point, however... "they don't care as much how things affect other people..." I can't relate to quite so much, though you did preface that you were speaking very subjectively. I am not only an INTJ, but very much an empath, so I'm quite the opposite when it comes to this point.
Everything else, eerily spot on 🤯
You know you're an INTJ when you're more comfortable walking into a dark and dimly lit room than a bright one.
yes!
Very nice vid. Guess I'll stick around. :)
Adressing the last statement, about getting easily distracted. To me as an INTJ It's half true. It's like having a protective bobble. In the initial stage of launching our main functions the bobble is forming, yet it is still very vulnereble. However when I am deep inside processing (usuall talking quietly to myself - damn Te) there are very few things that can distract me, and usually they are things that signal change in the enviroment like schoolbell, or closest coworkers voice.
Someone else was telling me that with external noises they can quickly categorize as essential to act on or not and use that to block out distractions
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi Just like some kind of filter. Sound absolutely true to me. 😉
Totally agree. Once I'm in my own head, I'm mostly oblivious to the rest of the world.
I’m an INTJ and flies and dripping faucets drive me nuts. You nailed it with that. Where you were wrong is that I DO care about how other people perceive things, it’s just that sometimes I think they are looking at things with their heart when they should be looking at it with their head. I’ve learned over the years to be patient with the feeling types and to pick battles with them that I can win. As an older man I’ve realized that while thinking with the heart is not how I would do it, that I learn a lot from people who are feelers and it’s informed my thinking. Generally speaking, we can learn something from everyone - even if it’s what NOT to do.
Hi, Michi. Your lovely explanation of the behavior of an INTJ (Mastermind Planner) sounds accurate and peaceful, which I like ❤️. You are doing a wonderful job, Michi. Have a wonderful time.
Very informative and an accurate expression of INTJ. I would like to add, gifts we are given are given when we are ready and open. As an INTJ I would suggest to fellow INTJ's to relax find your home in such a gift to see things with extraordinary history and future reality.
You are sooo right about Se in INTJs! I’m an INTJ and I get overstimulated and distracted so easily, it kind of sucks most of the time. That’s why crowds are so stressful for us, I think, there is just way too much going on.
The majority of this was so accurate. I particularly found the last thing you said really interesting, about how sensitive we are to the external world. I personally have to have the TV super loud or I can't focus on it with all the other subtle sounds going on everywhere else that no one else can hear.
It's refreshing to hear someone speak admiringly of personality traits so often misunderstood and shunned.
As an INTJ I think the personality I most admire is the ENTJ. I wish I could be exactly the way I am only more outgoing.
Perceptive and accurate, especially on forming a consensus based outlook. Regarding Ni vision and Te execution, balancing Se and Fi self awareness is a huge edge to better results I've found.
"Let me know if you agree"...yes, I agree with everything you said. Thank you.
except for one small difference. I do not have experience (or any) INTJ's in my life, that I am sure are INTJ's except
for perhaps two of my grandfathers.
I do know one male who typed as INTJ and who straddles the INTP fence.
well, if statistics are accurate, your type is one of the rarest! i know a few, but i tend to gravitate to Ni-doms like a moth to a flame.
I am this and you just mailed 100% me in a language I understand. A sincere thank you. Be safe and God Bless!
The ENFP perspective on the INTJ personality type did not fail to intrigue. As an INTJ myself I've often wondered what unique perspective ENFPs have on the type. Seems you're a huge fan, so that's alright.
As an Intj , I totally agree with the fact that you stated last , I always pay attention to everything that is happening around me , it's like I can't help it . If something is happening no matter how small or big , my attention shifts and my brain automatically starts thinking how can it affect me
Awesome. Thanks. I've always thought I was weird until I found out about Myers-Briggs and finally took the test to learn that I'm an INTJ-A...I make more sense to me now. Now, if only I can make people either understand me or leave me alone...by the right I fill all of the slots you covered
Very accurate.
I found myself chuckling at the last segment mentioning sensitivity to the surrounding environment, extremely true of me. I almost always have dim lamps or natural light instead of florescent lighting, a fan to help tune out odd noises when concentrating and a preference for overcast days as I seem to be more relaxed in such an environment.
Being an INTJ is an odd experience, you always feel, to some extent, like an outsider in nearly every situation; I think a dominate Ni and strong Te tends to lead INTJs to have, as you mentioned, strong views which we do truly value, Fi. It can be a very solitary road.
Stopping by to stroke my Ego. Thanks for stroking it for me, beautiful lady. Such an ego, he has! Well, I didn’t choose it. IT chose me and I just embody it. Great job! Keep it up!! 💯
Responding to your exceptionally good observation and question:
Yes, you’re absolutely right. It’s impossible for me to focus on something if theres something bothering me. It can be a fly, water drops or anything else and we can’t concentrate. I was walking down the streets the other day when I noticed a guy pulling his hair together for 20 seconds straight before he then made a ponytail. I was dying on the inside just seeing him repeating the same thing that I feared he would never do a ponytail.
Another example is that I can’t learn or concentrate if I notice that I can go to toilet even if I can easily hold it in.
i am a strong INTJ and i have discovered , demonstrated, and educated/pushed/cajoled this thinking to my offspring ..I call it situational awareness and i am normally 80-9x % predictably correct.. I.E. i told boeing in 1998 what was going to happen to product quality & company ethics if the merged with MDC in1998..& 2019 they proved me right... and Four things 1) it causes me to appear to be clairvoyant, Yes 2) loud noises and lots of motion around me disturbs my deep concentration, ESPECIALLY DRIVING & PROBLEM SOLVING , 3) Yes i am compulsively organized ..it tells me things...lastly i have a strong moral code and will argue with my facts and data even against a whole room of people with opposing views points.. to the point as seeming arrogant ( and i try to mellow that down..) BUT PROBLEM IS I JUST KNOW THE ANSWER RIGHT NOW..and it hard to grasp why others don't.. because I am Inward directed.. not other directed..i dont care what the crowds do; as generally i am going in the opposite DIRECTION(that makes me a loner often) .......GREAT VIDEO....... THANK YOU
you. are. amazing.
"lastly i have a strong moral code and will argue with my facts and data even against a whole room of people with opposing views points"
Yep. That will come off as arrogant, but titles and the number of people in agreement has no effect on us. I don't care if you are the CEO. If you are wrong, then you are wrong and I will let you know. Not for any personal reasons, but so that a better decision can be made for the company. If you fire me for it, then I thank you as that shows I am working at the wrong place.
What a spot on and also, I must say you have used each and every word carefully.
I suppose I do get rather easily distracted by the sensory. I used to stay awake at night, staring at the ceiling seeing shapes in the chaos of the non-uniform ceiling. After I had my first sleep paralysis event and awoke to see one of my birds walking upside down on the ceiling, I decided to always wear a blindfold to go to sleep. Now I still get distracted by noises, but at least I don't think I've seen anything strange like that again. Some dreams seem really real though.
After my stepdad had me prescribed to risperdal back in like 2002 or so, I've always felt constantly hungry, even when prescribed to dexedrine for ADHD too. Even having been off of all medications since leaving my stepfather's home in 2009, that annoying hunger is still forever there, yet another distraction. So much "fun", yay.
Wow, that sounds like a crazy thing to wake up to! I know people who wear earbuds to sleep, but they hurt my ears.
That’s interesting, i didn’t think about physical internal sensations, but that’s part of it too
Benevolens Psittacorum who is owned by Parrots (correct? We have spoken in comments), may I offer some
information that you may already know.
My son was treated for physical anorexia and the medical study that my son was enrolled in tried a series of medications known to increase hunger like the medication Risperdal’s .
The manufacturer has reported a side effect of this medication is Hunger because of an increase in a hormone called prolactin. Elevated prolactin is called hyperprolactinemia.
You might approach the issue of your hunger by starting here.
I wear sleeping masks also but if I awoke to a Ferret upside down on my ceiling, that would be different, lol.
Great video, i am constantly scanning evaluating and observing my environment. Its humorous because i realize that im doing this. Its automatic. There is no forethought. Us INTJ,S are a interesting bunch.
Michelle you're right about us getting distracted, or annoyed by a distraction. A flickering light, someone talking loud on the ☎ when I'm trying to focus, or concentrate, a hyper 🐱 jumping around, a annoying 🐕 scathing on a door. All of these things drive me crazy. & the two I hate the most are "the robo calls early in the morning waken me up, & Amber alerts going off scaring the sh#t out of me, or waken me up.
You are very perceptive, great video!
I've been called arrogant myself, even righteous by some because I have a semirigid set of values, and a strong set of boundaries. I just don't give away my respect, you have to earn it, which caused a lot of trouble whilst in the army as the senior ranks expected to be able to command it from me. Those who earned it I would do anything for because I knew they knew what they were doing. I also take pleasure in proving to people that I can do things they seem to think I can't, and vice versa.
I work in FinTech and have been working from home since the corona virus outbreak started. I was having a video meeting with my boss and he was surprised that I like working from home so much. We have an open office structure and the lack of external stimuli has been so nice to have gone. Good insight at the end there.
The last one is super true!
As an INTJ, I appreciate your viewpoint on us ENFP... very interesting
Your observations on the strongly held moral convictions related to introverted feeling are very helpful. Often wondered about how that worked. Thanks for the insight. Can I add strongly felt! Intj