Social media beauty standards are toxic and it’s our fault
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- čas přidán 15. 07. 2024
- Social media beauty standards are toxic and it’s our fault
Who creates them? Our very own.. people. Why are black women bashing other black women on natural hair? Why are women bashing each other on makeup? And should a woman “package” herself in order find a spouse?
We’ve gotten to a point where if you don’t fit a certain mold then you’re missing the mark in terms of beauty.. & that’s wrong. Sure I believe there are people that are just FINEEEE like they’re just beautiful human beings but I also believe that beauty is the eye of the beholder. And shaming people for things they naturally have or do not have is sad. It’s sad and exhausting to try to fit the ever changing trends.
What are your thoughts??
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I wear my natural hair and I attract men.
One thing I’ll say is, all that makeup and wigs etc is nice but it’s problematic if you start to think you’re ugly without them or you can’t go out or live without them. But yeah look good
I….dolatry 👈🏽
Its less about the extensions and makeup and more about taking pride in one's appearance. Men will never be able to understand the weave obsession because women have an almost innate obsession with their hair, something that is also nurtured and encouraged in childhood. Wanting to have "fashionable" hair isnt surprising and it IS part of how we sometimes view ourselves overall. Its part of the self-care process and I think the right man will be attracted to a woman who takes care of herself, weave/make up or not.
Honestly I get more compliments from non black women and men when I wear my natural hair pulled back in a ponytail. I feel like since I have a small face wigs and weaves take away from my face. I wish more black women encourage other black women to embrace their natural beauty
Looking presentable is good. You don’t have to wear a wig to look presentable or attractive. Beauty standards change all the time. Just look good however that looks
Very well said 👏🏽
I had cut my hair into a pixiecut because I ended up cutting a yonk of hair out accidentally while taking off my butterfly locs.
So I had to even it out....and I never felt so free before in my life and I plan to keep my hair this short for a while cause I am saving money and time.
THAT CONDITIONER AND SHAMPOO HAS LAST ME 5 MONTHS NOW AND IT AINT EVEN HALFWAY DONE YET!
I wish I could rock that!
To add nuance: I think it’s wisdom to dress in a way that attracts the man you want. Esther and Ruth were both advised by their mentors to look in the way that was pleasing to the man they were interested in. Which I think is a fair sacrifice. Xerxes and Boaz knew Esther was naturally pretty, and that Ruth was hard working, but the girls had to make adjustments when they wanted marriage, esp given there was competition. ❤
Thank you so much for adding this, there’s so much more that could’ve been said in my video! I do agree that you need to look presentable as I said men are visual but the woman in the video was showcasing a bone straight which even a silk press can never achieve for us and then went on to add that our natural hair cannot get us anything. But yeah like Ruth and Esther, enhancing our natural beauty isn’t wrong 💕
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This is a great point. I think many women need to closer exam the men they actively choose to attract, and understand why. Then, determine if it’s from a place childhood wounds, conditioning, environment, etc.
It seems as if people don't know what "natural" looks like anymore. Unless someone has a "bbl" no one really has a natural hourglass figure. It's considered the most rarest body type. Even more people confuse the pear shape for hourglass.
yeah and its non existent in some races like Asians
I’m more pear rectangle
I see the devil playing in your comments. Stay strong in your beliefs girl!
😂 thank you!
Girl your head shape is fineeeeee
🤦🏽♀️😅 thank you love
Yeah I think she would look amazing with short hair. That perfect face. 😊
I’m glad you mentioned the head shape. People love my hair short and natural. I look nice in a good wig but get more okay without them.
I wish to ask that woman how many people has wig helped. If a man likes you he likes you looks don't matter. It's good to look good but not with the intention to attract men or for people to see you. It will surprise you that you will put on extensions and all that and a man will still leave you for someone who more natural or does less makeup. There are some men who like it when their women put on makeup and there are some who don't so don't make it about men. Some men feel if a woman puts on makeup and dresses too much or live like a high class lady she will be a person who will not respect in marriage. Again it's not bad to dress but don't make it about men. You can be doing that and you will never find a man that will make you his wife.
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Mmmm I feel like « package » is maybe the wrong word. But Men are visual!!! Very visual! Putting emphasis on physical appearance is not a bad thing. Over emphasizing the physical more than the spiritual is where the problem is. But I dunno any men that want to present a raggedy girlfriend or wife to their friends or family lol. Even when you get a husband physical appearance is still important, you don’t just throw the wig lol or stop caring for your natural hair. the man might be a Christian, but he is A MAN! You might invite things in your marriage if you just completely let yourself go.
my take away is that women should take care of themselves whatever that looks like. Makeup or no makeup, wig or no wig, the main idea is to not look UNKEPT! When it comes to finding a spouse, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the right one will find you. I also believe that when the person is there and expresses their likes and dislikes you can adjust accordingly. Because a Christian man is A MAN lol!
Men really don't like wigs they just scared to tell women because we know how much y'all like and depend on them
Should a woman “package” herself in order to be found by a spouse?
I seriously think about this in retrospect of past relationships: did they ever love me , or did I attract a superficial person ?
No if they are taking care of themselves only to find a man. The motivation will no longer be there once you get a man, then it will become a problèm for that man.
Gentle yes, cause men are visual and as a woman, you should have a lifestyle of just being clean and taking care of yourself and not letting your hair be messy. Something you can make somewhat habitual and also maintain in marriage
@@vivianbreedlove8493 i definitely know men who expressly say that they were/are with a woman because of their physique. That kind of love doesn’t last because when the beauty fades away what else is there to keep them? Although I say this lightly because again, you can actually be attracted to someone because of how they look but be pulled in more when you know their character, but it can go both ways
@@WithTheArhins nah very well said 👏🏽
This is too malecentered. Who are you outside of male attention?
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Welcome & Thank you so much!!
@@annamamiro you welcome hun and hang in there and stop listening to the haters !
I’ve stopped wearing wig for a year now.. I’ve been rocking braids ever since. I do them myself, been doing them since I was a child. Cheaper
I get way more attention now than ever, especially from black men
Braids are fire and being able to do your own hair is blesssedd!
I agree with you society is crazy with the beauty standards ..BUT when I come online, I rarely hear a woman, say she is perfectly happy no matter what she wears, or puts on her hair. But if you listen to some woman who has low self esteem, regardless of your hair or wigs...cause I met women who felt insecure wearing wigs, but they feel totally natural in their hair. I said dont wear abwig cause another female says it, even your own friends, do what you love everyday you get up.
I wear wigs 50 % and my natural hair the other 50% I wear it CAUSE I FIND IT . I wore braids when I met my man, and he seen my natural hair and he knows all 73 wigs I wear as well...😂😂😂 but I love the fact that he doesnt care about the hair part...nor makeup but because he met me with a barebface that was his thing...caked faced with tons of makeup. He can deal with light makeup...but heavy nah...but i dont wear makeup anyway so it worked for me as well...
...and the same applies to wigs and weaves. I've seen MANY women whose wigs and weaves look an absolute mess, unpresentable, dry, stiff, looking like a helmet 😂! This is coming from someone who went through the sew-in and wig stage. I've felt ugly in both fake hair and with my own natural hair, but that just depends on the day, or on my mood. Since committing to my natural hair, my edges have grown back and i haven't suffered with seborrheic dermatitis, not once🎉! Women can wear their hair however they wish, but the lie that natural hair is somehow 'less than' is crazy to me😮!
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If a man not interested in you because you are natural or not, that’s not your man. And at the end of the day you should look good for you. Please pray for our daughters because wtf…NEXT!
like the Alice game ,hair is as important as beauty
Hello Anna 👋❤
Hey!
What are your thoughts?
I hate that video with a passion lol
I like the video, but I can tell she's had a bunch of failed relationships. Ride that carousel.