Khutbah: Making marriage work - Responsibilities of a Muslim couple - Yasir Qadhi | 11th Jan 2013
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- One of the greatest blessings that Allah has blessed mankind with is the blessing of family.
If Allah wanted to He could have created mankind to reproduce asexually, but it is of the blessings and miracles of Allah that He created us in pairs of male & female so that we can find comfort and peace in one another.
The family is the building block of society but with every blessing comes responsibility & trials and so each spouse needs to work to ensure their marriage is the best marriage!
Shaykh Yasir Qadhi dedicates his khutbah to the rights & responsibilities of a Muslim couple.
Recorded on 11th January 2013
Many marriages, including mine, ended because we do not follow marriage attitudes according to the Sharia. May Allah guide us to His right path.
im not a islam ,
but im very interested to listen into this lecture....
What did you think of his lecture ?
Muslim. We're called Muslims.
Whats stopping you from accepting Islam.
Mashaalah
May Allah touch your heart n guide you to the right path ameen
Mashallah, it is really an amazing lecture. Every man and woman should remind themselves as much as they can by watching this video. We are humans, we all forget.
love is neither disapproved by religion or forbidden by law, for every heart is in God's Hand.
[Ibn Hazm - Ring of the Dove]
*EXTREMELY IMPORTANT SUBJECT IN CURRENT WESTERN CULTURE. MAY ALLAH SWT Bless you for tackling such topic & please keep enlarging the topic to help us Muslim Therapists!*
Current western culture is totally deviated and see, there is unrest everywhere. Im not saying other cultures are perfect, but if every people were to follow this, guess how beautiful the world would have been. But too bad nobody understands these stuff, and gradually unrest in increasing in this world. 'The Hour' is coming near.
very beneficial lecture, this will InshaAllah save a lot of marriages IshaAllah
The lectures just keep getting better!! MashAllah!
suban Allah we love sheikh yassir qadhi
This is amazing. Perfectly delivered with no biases and whatnot.
i so much love this lecture ma shaa alla!!! so true!! ISLAM completes every thing total way of life in this world and hereafter .. allahu'akbar
Masha Allah, very beneficial lecture. Shukran Sheikh for the wise words.
I really like how you speak. Your lectures are really good. Thank you! My all men be the best to their wives and vice versa
The book is actually called The Surrendered Wife
R B bloody hell I wrote submissive wife n porn books came up 🤷🏻♀️. Sending us into the wrong direction 😩
excellent lecture MashAllah
SubhanAllah so many questions has answered.
Subhan'Allah.... Thank you for this lecture
Wow what fantastic reminders. Really gets you to think about some important points most of us forget. Alhamdulillah excellent khutba.
Sounds good about respecting the men, but what about a husband who does not provide at all for his wife, or is grossly unfair in a polygamous relationship and only provides for one wife and lets the other wife to fend for herself? Or a situation where the husband expects the wife to be the sole breadwinner, working hard to earn an income while he stays at home and relaxes? How does a wife respect and submit to her husband when she is forced to perform the financial duties of the husband and also play the role of the wife and maid at home? How does a woman continue to respect a husband who denies her the rights that Allah has given her and is abusive to her? So many true scenarios like this. Please can you emphasise the responsibilities of the husband.
I am still a young man but I will try to respond to this. All I can do is tell you that what you described is a man that is not following his deen. And quite frankly a man that I wouldn't respect so I understand why no woman would. I like to think that most men are still raised well, to be providers and protectors , that they are not going to ask their wives to work because they know that sutch duty is upon them. And they know how to respect the right of their wives. I don't think the sheikh was dismissing your points, I think that just like me he think that whe characteristics (of a good man) you described are a no brainer. And I am saying this as a 23 year old. May Allah bless you a good husband because they are still out there
Ma sha Allah for such knowledge to sharing with us and make us benefited . May Allah Subhanu T,ala reward you more more and more. Ameen
Masha Allah! This is beautiful. Jazakhallahu khairan.
Jazakhaallah
Masha Allah...Important kuthuba...May Allah bless us...Thanks a lot ...
Alhamdulillah, khutba rightly explained👌☝️👍
thanks for your good preaching
Splendid!!!
It's actually titled "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle. I've heard him mention it in his other talks and I think he made a mistake with the title in this one.
men can not reject aswell and both have to satisfy each other its abt understanding its beautifull relationship if both parties have knowledge and make no issues in this relationship ALLAHUAKBAR
all brother and sister should watch this., and to all brother please be aware of the rights of your wife over you and same as to all sister., my ALLAH bless us and our family my ALLAH guide us in the right path and my he let us all enter in his JANNAH., AMEEN.,
A very interesting lecture, I can't wait for the others to be posted regarding this subject.........
well spoken masha Allah..............:)
Subhanallah!!! Nothing is as good as shariah .....
Being married of myself, respect and attractiveness of the wife is absolutely essential. I believe all men quest for these two things.
TheRkhan75 : Women CRAVE the same - I know as a married husband & Family Therapist. I want love too. So, does she.
Beautiful lecture full of wisdom MashAllah
Jazakallahu khairan sheikh.
@LearningIsLiving, thank you very much replying. I really appreciate it.
ما شاءالله الهم بارك الله يحفظك.
excellent
Jazakallah khair Sheikh
Thank you very much for this speech and sharing your wisdom with us in general! Could you please advise who is the author of The Submissive Wife book you referenced here?
The surrendered wife by Laura Doyle
Masha Allah jazakallahu khairan
Urdu subtitles plz
Jazakallahu khairan
Salam alekom. You speak about how the wife is not allowed to reject the husband's request for intimate relations. How about the husband rejecting the wife's request for intimate relations? Would this not put a damper on the relationship? Is it not the husband's obligation to provide the wife with satisfaction? The husband also needs to satisfy the wife sexually. You should not overlook this. Thank you for your efforts but please do not overlook the other side. May Allah bless you Salaam.
I would like to know the answer to this question too
A man is instructed to have intimacy atleast once every 4 days, which is healthy, however a man can not go over 4 months without having intimacy with his wife (for whatever reason such as being away from home for work, or travelling). If this happens and after 4months the wife can ask for a 'khul'(as i recall) which in other words is a divorce. However if the wife is okay with it, then its fine. Hope that answered your question :D
Mashaallah:}
The way he describes women is like describing a 5 year old child.
what happened to the men who respected their wives :) always remember that respect is earned please do not not be offended with my words my only intention is to make you simply understand that do not generalize because there are so many women who respect their husbands today so please do not judge everyone the same because my sister respects her husband a lot and I see so many women like that may you be blessed with a happy and peaceful married life
its not always the wife that destroys the marriage...
Ohhhhhhhhhh
What a blaze
Nobody said it's always the wife destroying the marriage.
Exactly, nobody said its always the wife. Try to be a little more humble and wise while trying to understand the shariah sister
The submissive wife book. Does any one know who is the author of this book and where to get it? Please people let me know
*Why delete the Porno Watching Muslim Husband- comment?*
Truth is good to CURE ummah. Every society has this problem. Let's be the leaders in solvimg. InshaAllah.
well said...its fact islam said 1400 yrs ago the base which sexologists still investigating
Who wrote that book?
what about when you say yes to him but hes not helping her, providing for her
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ya sheikh..where is the continuetion of seerah of rasulullah (sws)? it that all?
Brilliant brilliant mashaa Allah! Really benefited! May Allah reward you much
24:00 Often times respect is not earned through love but through fear, ya ustadz. :D
priviledge is probably the wrong word to use, better to have used a degree above as in the Quran, becaue that degree might not be a priviledge
I couldn't agree more brother. I think a good portion of the demise of American families is because women habe gotten the notion that they are equal partners in a business relationship
Exactly brother, why is it that men sleep with women, they 'date'. People have sexual partners before marriage and commit so much adultery? [They try to figure out who is good for them?? In that way? Lol] The definion of love by the western culture is actually what is ruining the world with time. But nevertheless, people call is a 'developed' soeciety, and modernity. The Day of Judgement is approaching and is very near trust me.
*Are you from Pakistani genes. You look like most males in my family. I have a brother who can be copy of you. All of us have a PhD & higjly educated mothers & daughters.
NOW, my father did say MISTAKENLY that "Eve from rib of Adam". But Quran does NOT say it. May be Bible does? Not sure. I think Allah SWT made man & woman at SAME time per Quran? Please do a Khutba on it. JAZAKALLAH Khairan!!
Our prophet (saw) said it. As its in the bible and also our prophet (saw) said the exact same thing, what do you think it is? Thats the history and fact of the creation of humankind by our Creator, Allah (Azzawajal).
Hope i was helpful :D
How you can respect the husband when he have been soooo unfair??? not giving you respect back??
In another lecture, he said men need to show constant love and then the wife will show respect...
I will answer you from another perspective. Believing in Allah is essential. A modern woman will find it incredibly difficult to respect or submit to a husband without drawing strength from seeking to please the Almighty. When your husband fails to notice and appreciate your efforts you will be comforted knowing that Allah sees them. The beauty of being a woman means you have incredible power in your relationship but feminism has completely robbed us of that power. When you are constantly counting whether everything is 50-50 you cannot see how your 100 can completely change your life. Focusing on another person's actions will always render you powerless for one simple reason- you cannot change anyone but yourself. Feminism, faulty in so many aspects is teaching women to feel powerless observing the actions of another person. That's no way to live. You have complete control over whether you choose to abide by Allah's commands or whether you wait for someone else to change. I can tell you one thing, I read many books on the subject and all will agree that it's completely within your hands to change your marriage. However even if you followed their techniques to a T if you don't keep pleasing Allah as your ultimate goal there will always be something missing and that can breed resentment really quickly. You might have had an argument with your husband, and your injured pride is telling you that you will show him now... If in that moment you seek to do things that please him keep in mind that it is Allah's pleasure you are seeking. Human beings are fickle and unreliable. Allah will never leave you though, He always sees and he always listens, seek to please Him and pleasing your husband becomes easy even if said husband is unfair and unappreciative and unloving
Whatever happened to the old days when women knew their place snd respected their husband?
Daniel Nelson : *The men forgot Islam & following Western Pornography* - I am a family thetapist by profession.
So, wife cannot respect a greedy, non-praying, porno watching lazy husband while she works outside as bread winner daily & prays five times. A big mess.
What happened to men earning and being sole bread winners ?
@@phoe8765 true
@@dinasuljic5214 true too
That made absolutely no sense bro.
Surrendered wife
Du n'import quoi. All hadith lies about Rassul SAW. Go read lecture for Dr Shahrour from Kuraan. Only Kuraa. Word of Allah.
You want the women slaves for you. Stop it. It is not working anymore.
Urdu subtitles plz