Should women be splitting bills 50-50 with men? |The Gabrielle Union, Dwayne Wade Conundrum.
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- čas přidán 19. 05. 2023
- In this video, i give my candid take on the Gabrielle Union Dwayne Wade conundrum. Is it wrong to split everything 50-50 with your husband as a woman? Why are women so angry about this?
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This video deserves a 1million likes. I like what you do, you are so different from a lot of women. Your wisdom is rare.
No you don’t have to go 50 - 50 , just stay single and pay 100% of the bills!!
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Singlehood is sweet. We were all born single. Its our default to be selfish and single. Nothing bad about that at all. Just thought to remind
@@chisomakah remind who of what? I am a man I know about being single!! It’s the crazy notion of women that believe a man is supposed to pay all of the bills and then get nothing in return!!
@@carlhamilton3162 I do not agree with women and those entitlement to what a man owns. I'm just staying that nothing is wrong with singlehood just like you meant too
True
I believe it's about time we all take care of ourselves. Let's be there for each other. Marriage is a union
You forgot to say “no pun intended” ☺️
How do you determine these days who's the head of the household? And if you are splitting bills, does that mean you're nothing more than roommates sharing the cost of living together? Do you still check in to make big purchases? How does it flow?
As a man, make up your mind that you’ll be providing for your family all out. However, marry a woman who is understanding and will support you in areas that she can and leave the rest to God. Don’t draw a paper and apportion responsibilities, 50/50. That will be the premise for unhealthy competition. Just complement each other. The woman didn’t actually mean 50/50
A very difficult subject Jess and money matters can often lead to a lot of friction in a relationship as you know, personally I'm a bit old-school so I'd be glad to try and provide for my partner and children but any help from her as and when required would be welcome and I'd take it as a demonstration of her commitment and so reassuring that I've found the right Woman,life is too short to be pre occupied with squabbles over💰 money,instead we should concentrate on loving and caring for each other💯 thanks for video Jess it's important stuff for anyone thinking about a serious relationship or marriage but hopefully it shouldn't put ppl off taking the plunge 👰🏾♂️🤵xx
Jessica Congrats on over million subscribers been following your progress from the get go . Keep striving and sharing good knowledge and ideas😊
Jess ❤ I've never commented in you tube before. But I would like to say u 100 % right . In isizulu they say" Ngiyakuvuma 👍🏾" meaning I accept you😅.
Great video as usual on point
There’s really nothing wrong with splitting bills; and those who are bashing Gabrielle are doing that based on their circumstances. Funny thing is, the husband isn’t complaining but others are🤣🤣
But if the man says 100% on him, and treat you with the respect you deserve, then why not☺️
Nope. I no longer do 50/50. If you to attract that masculine energy, that's fine. I gave up that mentality years ago.
@@mirandataylor6385 hummm wish to hear more. Why did you give up?
@@mirandataylor6385 then pay 100% and be happy
Jessica Os..is doing a very marvelous job and she is making a lot of ppl to realised their mistakes and allow lots to find themselves again..thanks so much madam
I support you 100% Jessica. It is a two way game. I Praise my mama for raising us well. We clean, cook and wash better than most women, I repeat most women. Men should participate to an extend in household chores. Also, women should work. That's why we need to develop our partners. Allow them work and contribute to the household income even of it is 60-40. I think our attitude to women development should make them scared of loosing that support they always get from the man anytime they think of divorce. Because getting such suport elsewhere may be difficult.
I agree with you Jess 💯%
I think that the best way to seal the deal here is that in order to avoid an indirect financial abuse is to ask how much each partner earns annually. If both partners earns about the same yearly, then 50/50. If one of them earns a little bit more than the other, then 60/40. If one of them earns a lot more than the other, then 90/10. Of course, that all depends on the approximate salary each partner earns. I'm just setting an example here. I'm not sure of the cost of living on ther countries. But in the US, I feel like it's necessary to give some financial aid, with measurement, to make it balanced for both your family and yourself, in my opinion.
Well articulated Jessica
I agree with your position, Jess.
Good morning.
Well Said Jess Right on the money
This is just about the mindset and entitlement from people. For me 50/50 is always smart move and it regulates equity and agreement between each partners.
Oh Lord! Jessica, you just did justice to this topic, yes, it's your opinion but I totally agree with you
Immediately I saw the title of this latest video, I just knew it would be loaded
BTW, I felt that sigh at the end, it's really exhausting
This topic is still a major problem for many, culture, religion (putting up that role of provider to mask up a lot of entitlement which can be toxic)
The entitlement mentality is the greatest killer
Many women, not all, see relationships & marriage as a poverty alleviation scheme to keep up a lifestyle or well being their father never gave them or of which they never lived while single, hence, they say it's the man's job to do these things
Okay! Yes! Agreed! It's part of the man's job or role to provide, but does that mean you also shouldn't contribute anything at all?
That's when the question of "what do women bring to the table" suffice and many women/ladies go dumb and really have nothing to say to such, saying something like, "I'm a whole package", "My beauty is a lot and that's enough", is that all really?
It's a longgg conversation in my country, Nigeria, most especially, Naija Twitter
It is well as we live this life
Peace!
Wow, good talk.
I am speechless Folk!!!. This lady is so smart. Her point of view is completely different from a lot women. God bless You Jessica and continue to do the good work that you are doing. God Bless
Please help us with a video on self evaluation before and after marriage
A LADY WITH GREAT WISDOM!!! BRAVO-O-O!!!!!!
Pretty accurate my Jessica 😊
It depends.. if it’s the first date.. y’all can split it 50/50 .. or the men can be a gentleman and pay 💰 the whole bill .. but that depends on how much the bill is .. if it’s anything over 200 .. they should split it 50/50 so the man won’t expect anything after
True jess
Rational perspective from Jessica
As a man I am Put off by an excess of femine energy or male in relationship. Men and Women should exhibit both energies, and focus on the We not me. Jessica and Gabrielle are spot on.
God bless you ma
As long as they have kid(s), it is practically impossible to go 50-50. That aside, i believe couples will go through different stages in their marriage, what matters is that needs are being met. Splitting bills becomes an issue when couples ain't working as one. Most Marriages these days are filled with people that just wants to get and people that are overly suspicious
Makes sence
Must not assume the man is always the breadwinner or the woman must always take charge of the household expenses, never assume that,rather take decision on who pay for what expenses or budget ❤
Say it loud 👏 sister ❤️
I Truly Believe Men are the Head of the house and I'm Old school so I don't mind doing the most, But...... The woman should be able to do something too.....
They can do whatever they’d like in their marriage. Personally, I wouldn’t have kids unless my partner could very comfortably provide otherwise it’s free labour I’m not being compensated for and has a huge impact on my career. Further, her partner is noted as financially irresponsible and had a child outside their marriage so he seems like a very undesirable partner. I really feel like Gabrielle has drawn the short end of the stick. She’s beautiful and a multi-millionaire - life doesn’t need to be this difficult. I think the root message is self love not entitlement. Don’t settle just to have a man.
Mind boggling… An average apartment cost $2000 a nice house(depending area) with two car garage cost $3000. Easy you can do 50/50 and come out cheaper and better! Instead the entitlement of men pay for everything… Well if I’m pay for everything I might as well live alone and bring multiple women through.
Lol😊
Agree
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Jessica hi.. we men need to take care our home.
If both work it should be equitable. For example if one makes $50k, and the other $100k, the bills should be split 1/3(50) 2/3(100). I have seen so many people that one pays for everything, yet the other still has income but does not financially contribute, which is just gross.
And being a pain in the a##. Totally agree with what you said.
Let's be frank 50/50 is good on paper. So is leadership by committee. Often times life style increase is mandated by the woman in the relationship so income must be addressed to ensure that 50 split is a real split. The simple solution is if a woman does not trust the capability of a man to either assess if the demands are too high or seek another more viable option.
Families should do whatever financial strategies work for them. This is what happens when old school ideals don’t fit certain people’s perception of how someone else’s household should be run.
How does 50/50 work when the woman wants to feel her feminine energy, aka the man takes care of everything, which usually means pay for everything?
Having lived with females, from granny , granaunt , aunty , mother and foster mum- this species are not weaker vessel as such but must be supported and the union highly complimentary. No entitlement and no iou-mutual respect!
Honestly I’m surprised most complain when now more of we women speak more on equality I just feel most have double standard then let’s stop all these unhealthy equality we preach. Is better for equity than equality. I always say if we cried for more Equity we won’t have to go to work during periods pains and have more time off for maternity leave. But yes is actually men who started this women equality propaganda and we keep defending it is sad. I agree with you Jessica.
I think that if you trying to have something then you need to work together!! Its nothing wrong with that
This is a very simple issue where there is genuine love and fairness, openess, and the fear of God in a relatiobship. Both partners hardly earns the income. So it should be based on who ever earns the more should make more sacrifice and make up for lack of the partner in love. Is not all about money; whoever makes less should also help out more in other areas at home in love; is called partnership. I have see where the man makes less and the woman makes more and the man pays the mortgage and end up in more debts but the woman helps in lesser bill bcos she feels the man should do more for being the man lol
When did men start caring what women think 😂😂 Gabrielle leave and pay all your own bills and rent 😂😂
They should split the bills 50/50... We as men aren't slaves to women
I don't understand some of the conversations that I've seen up to this point about man paying all the bills and then the females get mad when they say or want to start splitting the bill 50/50 and most of the time Man start to do that is because when they realize that the woman that they have that supposed to be doing her job as a woman she doesn't she's splitting herself 50/50 with her husband and the Streets and respect for that man that continually to do the things that he was doing when he first met her 🤦🏿♂️
Well it depends on their financial status, but if a woman can, I don't see a problem.
8:17 Drink deep, or not at all. If the world could understand that about couple life!
Thanks Jess
To me 50 50 is good and also for the house work and for the children os that men or women can live long because of the stress and working long hours so that they can take care of thyself
ITS ALL ABOUT COMITMENT ,,,, IF YOU ARE NOT READY YET DO NOT GET INTO THAT LIFE ! SIMPLE
But honestly speaking, if we had women really thinking like Jessica, relationships between men and women will be at a more higher maturity level than we see them out there. While I believe a man should be a provider but YES, women should not feel ENTITLED to this. A split of financial responsibilities should never be looked at in terms of personal benefits, it should be looked at in terms of the benefits of the relationship as a whole for both parties.
No
I don't see the problem here if both men and women agree to splitt the bill 50/50
The 50/50 split makes sense here in Africa because most family survive on a monthly salary. But you are talking about Gabriel and Dwayne, who literaly have millions in there account. They don't need to work for the entire month to survive, i bet they can take a year off without working and they'll still not starve not even a single day. Here in Africa, you have to work you *** off to feed you Fam, for that month that is. So, 50/50 split makes sense is kinda good thing, but id depends, in the case of Gabriel, Ha! Ha! 50/50 split my ***
But they are married and maybe they have a prenuptial agreement that addresses that
+1. Entitlement is just a relationship killer
The truth is that if your relationship is a good one, you shouldn’t be having this discussion. If this discussion comes up, just know that your relationship has got question marks. Just stay single and handle your stuffs yourself. 💙😊
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This y ppl have no stocks no assets 😂😂😂
Nothing wrong with going 50/50 in a household especially if both partners can handle it and save money, and nothing wrong with a strong minded masculine woman cause it shows she has your back and can handle certain situations if she’s needed, yes you can’t go halfway into a relationship cause it’s all or nothing
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Wait people are really having an issue with paying 50/50
If a modern woman wants equal rights and equal pay, then she should put out equal pay in every way, be for REAL women are not special like that, men built the infrastructure and women have benefited from men all their lives, now if they think they can do it all alone, fine more power to them, but don't cry and moan when men are too busy to deal with independent women.
Can you please give birth… that’s the only equal right that seems to solely remain free labour women provide that’s somehow ignored?
I wish people would lose this 50/50 mentality. It's always 100/100 that require both parties to contribute to the financial success of the relationship. If the man is able to contribute to 100% then fine, but as we all know, this is not possible in most relationships in today's economy.
There’s wrong with there relationship, if it’s 50/50 for them. Then GOD BLESSED THEM. For me I’m a little OLD traditional. I prefer my wife stay at home with the babies and I work and bring the FUNDS home and WE make sure the house is provided for.
Yeah but that’s good but in their case is different they both work doesn’t mean is wrong cos basically your wife is also working home cause managing a home isn’t easy and helps if you actually give not necessarily offering her but having an account where you pay her monthly it helps she doesn’t need you to tell her but you can create the account that is for her for always helping in the home cos in this era is important
On a serious note though, when You married and anticipated near future failure of your marriage then, you should split but for real husbands in it for long haul, in it for rain and sunshine, in it for the ride and tide, don’t make their women cut such garbage 50/50 deal…
That is NOT marriage, it is ROOMMATEAGE!
It is not consideration!
Now let me ask those 50/50 dealers… what you do ehen your wife get pregnant and can’t for example do her dues?
What you do if after birth she has to take maternity leave for a year?
Come on over here tell me that you pay and when she back she reimburses you😂😂😂
It shouldn't be 50/50. She can contribute something to support but shouldn't be 50/50. Else, when the woman carries one baby for 9 month / to full term, the man should carry the next since they're sharing his responsibility
I think the point is that if she contributes 50 then she has a voice 50 % of the expenses and money spending in the household.
I don't understand carrying next since not everyone gonna have kids/ more than 1 kid
@Jourdan Farquharson will an African man allow a woman have a voice even If she contributes 50%? African men like to feel lord in the house, which is what the good book says anyway. So if they will have one kid and only she would carry, he would offer help to her and also when the child is born. So she should also be allowed to help him with the bills and not split it 50/50 cos he cannot carry the child 50/50 with her. Some things, the man must do more n some things, the woman must do more..simple. Each have their duty to the marriage as should be, so they need to do it freely and just be helped in doing it, not spit 😊
U lazy 😂😂😂
@Printer Gang Investments the man wanting to split 50 with the woman is lazy. I didn't say she can't contribute the equal sharing is my issue as he's supposed to provide financially and she's to take care of family. So if he wants to split with her, he's the lazy one not her if she contributes something
@@helenb1946 u grown it’s not my responsibility to take care of adults 😂😂 only n idiot would pay all a woman’s bills if u ain’t rich. This is why ppl have no investments
No and no, no woman should be in 50/50 shit like that, men are meant to be their family pillar, the structure bone and everything. However a woman of means can contribute to the well being of their family!
Man responsibilities as a provider should remain as such:
Well being still consist of comfort and if we go by what you're saying and that's already covered by us guys.
If she is working her own money( in a means that isn't related to lewdness) I don't see reason stop her from assisting as it reduces the chances of her being a selfish individual in most retrospect.
It ant a men jops pay all the bills. A woman got to work to. If a woman don't what to work full time. I can't be with you we are done. go live with your parents.
But sex is 50 50
UNRESOURCEFUL women are nothing but troublemakers in a relationship. If a woman spends 50% or more on herself and expects her man to cover his half plus her expenses, then who would consider that a fair deal? What men are sick of is not about common household expenses like internet, grocery, etc., but her lack of management and outlandish expenditures. For example, we know that before entering into a relationship, most women would pay for their cell phone, car, and other bills. But once in a relationship, all those bills are "miraculously shoved to" the man along with other expenses he didn't know about.
They're both millionaires, so it really doesn't matter who pays the bills. If Dwayne didn't have millions, I would be curious if Gabrielle would do 50/50 with a regular guy.
jessica w’anum yɛ huam
I ain't paying no fucking bill if my boo is a billionaire honestly
So by my guess is you have to be cleaning cooking getting shit together and STAYING LOYAL if not he can pay for a maid so what are you bringing to the table if he a billionaire?
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As a man, make up your mind that you’ll be providing for your family 100%. However, marry a woman who is understanding and will support you in areas that she can and leave the rest to God. Don’t draw a paper and apportion responsibilities 50/50. That will be a premise for unhealthy competition. Just complement each other. The woman didn’t actually mean 50/50
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