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As a bridesmaid we (the whole group of us) made a slideshow and photo book of EVERYTHING. From pictures of the couple to things from the engagement and wedding planning (dress fittings, her first look at the dress, showing her mother, getting their marriage licence, etc)
It was way cheaper for us broke people and she LOVED IT
I really really hate the idea of not telling the bride if you can't afford your bridal party stuff. As far as I am concerned, my bridesmaids are doing ME a favor by being there to support me, and I definitely don't want them to have financial issues for helping, and I REALLY don't want them to feel like they can't come to me with that problem. Yeah, I am paying a lot more but it's *my* wedding-I'm supposed to be paying more. If you care about your bridesmaids you should be aware of any financial struggles they may be having with your wedding and be willing to pay for it yourself if they can't. If these are your best friends you should value their presence in your bridal party more than their ability to pay for that spot.
Yes. I agree 100%
Totally agree. Don't force or pressure someone to pay for something they don't want or cant afford.
My fiancé's friend was asked to be a groomsman and they all got $1000 tailor made suits and then were expected to pay for them. They were so pissed because they didn't want the suits, or want to pay that much for them. They just wanted support their mate but it just put such a sour note over everything. They will prob never enjoy wearing those suits because of the way it was handled. I just cant even imagine - why would you do that to someone?!
Couldn’t agree more. The bride is hosting the wedding, with their partner. I’m not saying that they should pay for everything, but if you’re struggling financially in the bridal party that warrants a conversation, regardless of how stressed they might get.
WARNING! DO NOT EXPECT YOUR GIRLS TO BE LIKE THIS! I barely did anything for my friends' weddings because I didn't have a clue. I did what they asked and supported them, and that's it, and that's what most good bridesmaids do. If you want your bridesmaids to be like this, have a heart-to-heart and tell them because not many women would have a clue about these things and if you don't use your words and just get passive aggressive about it, they won't have a clue why you're mad at them
Video starts at 3:00
Thankss
Thank you!
I read this too late 😂😂😂
please do a video specifically for the MOH. I'm my sisters maid go honor andI have no idea where to begin on everything.
There is a video that clarifies the part
There’s a big difference between bachelorette weekend and bachelorette party. Remember to be realistic.
This is a good overview, but I would add that as the bride you have the responsibility to go over what your expectations are for the bridal party in terms of aesthetic, budget, and celebrations for the benefit of clarified expectations and to give everyone a chance to convey any financial concerns they may have early on.
I know two people who were bridesmaids. I got to hear about all the drama, I had to go with one of them to order her bridesmaid dress and that was a huge nightmare because they didn't carry her size. Fortunately, she had family who could sew, so they had to order the fabric and use pictures from the catalog and borrow another bridesmaid's dress to duplicate it. But it worked, nobody could tell the difference. Although it was almost a moot point, because there was so much drama among the bridesmaids that my friend almost didn't go to the wedding.
Then another friend of mine was a bridesmaid. When she told me, I told her I was sorry and wished her luck because my other friend had so many issues. And this friend had issues too. One of the other bridesmaids was manipulating everybody to get her way for the bachelorette party, and even tried to sucker all the other bridesmaids into paying her part of it. And then there was lots of sticker shock when it came to the dress, paying for professional hair and makeup, paying for professional mani-pedi, and she was barely making ends meet after being pressured to spend more than the agreed upon budget on the bachelorette weekend in Vegas. And after that whole mess, she was crazy enough to ask me if she could be a bridesmaid when I get married.
After witnessing those two nightmares, I have set expectations with all of my friends. I will not have a bridal party, and please do not ask me to be a bridesmaid for you because the answer will be no. Life is too short for that kind of drama.
Okay but hold up, can we just not how PERFECT Jaime’s makeup is here? Girl you are absolute GOALS
I had no idea bridesmaids had that much involvement nor did I knoe they had to pay for other stuff. I thought the bridesmaid just had to buy their dress and show up to rehersals and wedding day. I'm mind blown right now.
Daril Sandoval Me too! My bridesmaids haven’t done anything at all lol. I just ask for their opinions on things
Right,I didn't know either.
My Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids paid for their dresses but I bought the jewelry and accessories.
I wasn't expecting them to do that, just giving opinions.
I'm not the type to ask for $
I'm getting married in October, it's been difficult planning
@@Emilyjadeofficial so many of these expectations are new and unrealistic!
Same cause I am a bridesmaid and I am only 12!!
In every wedding i've been part of, no bride expected or got more gifts than their wedding gift. As bridesmaids we paid for the bride at her bachelorette party - which would count as a second gift i guess 🤔
What about the bridal shower??
3 gifts. Why tho. Why.
Getting married in July, 100% tailoring the hen party to the lowest income attendee. I find it so strange listening to the American traditions where bridesmaids have to spend a month's salary on being involved. It's bananas.
Being a good bridesmaid you need only three phrases.
"You look amazing."
"I have a snack and a drink in my bag, do you need anything?"
"Yes, I see your awful cousin's white ballgown. I'm heading over there with red wine, black coffee, and butterfingers. So clumsy!"
Omg! 100% this. I literally spent no money when I was a bridesmaid!! ( I now feel bad about that haha but there was no moment we were expected to spend money) Also why do people do so many pre-wedding parties. Hen do + wedding. Sounds great to me.
Another great video! Would love to see either a vlog or q&a with any of your willing clients to know more about the whole planning process from the perspectives of a wedding planner vs bride
You always have the most helpful videos!! Thanks Girl
Thank you!!! I am sharing this with my crew!!!
OMG THANK YOU! This is so helpful!
Loved this video! So helpful
Can you make video on proposal ideas and or what things to have ready?
Love ALL your videos!!!!!!
Love love love this one!!! So freakin helpful!!
When did it become customary that a bachlorette party became an entire weekend?
social media
It's not customary but so much wedding media makes it seem like all of this stuff is required and/or typical, alot of it isn't.
It's a bachelorette weekend not basically a party
That’s what I came to ask… never heard of such a thing until I started listening to various videos on CZcams… why, like why…
LOOOL I love how I yelled PINTEREST with you guyss
Perhaps as the bride you should be up front about expectations and what things will cost when asking your loved ones to be bridesmaids. Most often bridesmaids feel obligated to spend money that they don't have after saying yes because they didn't understand expectations until it was too late.
Can we just take a second to appreciate Lauren’s beautiful hands? 🤚🏼
your videos have been helpful!!! thank you.. i wish you do a video about destination wedding😍👰🏻 much love!!
Jamie Wolfer yey!!!! cant wait 😊
Please make a video about how to pick a good coordinator
Omg I love the bling disco in my car ❤
As someone who deals with weddings on daily basis, do you still get truly excited about the planning process and about the day itself. I know it’s your job and they are your clients rather that friends or planning your own wedding, but does the wedding excitement fever ever ends for you?
Another super helpful video! Thank you xxx
Jamie Wolfer thanks for replying :)
That’s great, I guess it means that this really is the job and a career for you! It’s beautiful when people love their job and get excited for other people’s happiness :)
Sending you love from England xx
I watched this before I got engaged and I forgot all about the driving disco comment. Now that I'm engaged, it's quite accurate lol
Ummm...you forgot to list this channel as a resource. Also can you do a video on who the bride/groom are supposed to give gifts to?
Bachelorette weekend? I've heard of a bachelorette party but I had never heard of a weekend dedicated to it
Why are any of these thing necessary?? Do people really have this much money?!?!
True. Nope and nope!
these are tips for rich white people weddings tbh lol
I don't want a bachelorette party. Just bridal shower.
And I don't see the point of rehearsal dinner. Just rehearse and go home. Unless it's gonna be long, and it makes sense to have appetizers or whatever
So agree! For sure a money saver skipping it! Or do a potluck style dinner, or grill some burgers. ..doesn't have to be fancy
Bachelorette Weekend sounds really expensive 🙈 in my area everyone does at most a bachelorette day&night thing or a party
Your welcome I became the 1k person :) i feel so cool! and i just got proposed for second time with the guy i been with and this time i said yes as in i want to get married this year. I think 6 years is long enough to know if we will work plus we got two kids.
Oh yes please oh my goodness i had 3 potential bridesmaids decline because they honestly couldnt afford to take time from work (i was covering all attire and food costs for them) and i understood completely. Upwards of ten parties and at least 3-5 fittings and other appointments minimum is horrendous for someone living paycheck to paycheck or a very busy person like a parent or a business owner.
Can you do a video on beautiful yet economical bridesmaid dresses? I would like to get dresses that will photograph well that are not too expensive since I do not want to burden my bridesmaids. I have seen a lot of options online but I would like to know your opinion on the brands you have seen at weddings that worked/did not work. Thank you! Your channel is awesome!
David's Bridal has super cheap dresses, and they can be organized by color. So the bride can tell her bridesmaids a color, and they can all pick out a dress they like that is the that color. So bridesmaids who wanna get a super cheap dress can, and those who want a fancy one, can pick a dress that's more pricy.
When looking for your Bridesmaids dresses, don't mention they are for a wedding. I found that they will show you more expensive dresses, I actually found my MOH & 1 Bridesmaids dress at
LA Santee Alley and 2 at Ross Dress for Less.
All well priced
For gifts, my girls didn’t get me gifts for the bachelorette and only some did for the bridal shower. The ones that didn’t get my gifts for the bridal shower hosted the shower, so they spent a lot of money for that.
I don’t even have a boyfriend but here I am.
Yikes american weddings don't mess around! We don't do showers or rehearsal dinner over here in the north so it's a bit less intense and expensive but I guess if it's tradition it'd feel weird without it. I think communication is key, me and my maid of honour are very honest with each other (she's my best friend, she's seen the worst of me, I may or may not still have half of her sunglasses from borrowing them after sleeping over at hers and not wanting to walk home obviously hungover) (but that's more or less her fault, she thinks I'm the best spooner). She's asked me this-or-this question about the bachelorette, like "fancy vs party" or "more activities vs more chill time". I wasn't going to have a maid of honour first since it's not really tradition over here, rather just having my bridesmaids without a hierarchy, but I'm really glad i did since my other two bridesmaids have apparently been trying to convince her to do stuff that's up their alley and not mine (I'm not gonna feel comfortable knowing my guests had to pay loads to go to some fancy spa since many will pay plenty just to get here, I'd rather get pissed on cheap sparkling wine and dance like a lunatic). I guess my tip would be to choose someone who's similar to you in taste, or at least ask your maid of honour to consult someone you know has similar taste to you. I know I'll feel like I'd be way lost if my friends with fancier taste asks me to organize their bachelorette party, I don't know what fancy people like! Cheese? Making your own scented candle? Beats me! 😅
Oh! Could you do a video about wedding websites? Like creating one for your wedding? I know I want one for rsvps and directions, but every time I look around I get overwhelmed and confused and just stop looking around and just do fun stuff instead (Pinterest! Updos! Bridsmaids dresses! Invitations! Playlists!) 😅
Jamie Wolfer I'm glad my anxiety over wedding websites could lead to inspiration for my fave super wedding hero! 😂😘
Yes, a wedding website review video would be awesome!!
What if your venue offers a day of coordinator included in the cost?? You don't really need to worry about addition spend, correct?
Is there a different set of rules for separte groups of bridesmaids when it is two females getting married
I missed out on my cousins bachelorette because I couldn’t afford it but I’m gonna go all out for the wedding
How bad of an idea do you think it is to not have a rehearsal?
I am a really low-key person and I haven't had the opportunity to go to a lot of weddings in my life, especially as an adult...I can't imagine asking half these things of my bridal party. My bachelorette "party" is probably going to be a drive-in movie with the females of the immediate family and one of my two bridesmaids (I'll invite the other, but make it clear she isn't obligated to attend, since she'd be flying twice for the wedding then, which would be crazy expensive). I thought the wedding party was just supposed to be people that were important to you, that you wanted to honor with a place in your big day.
Heck, I feel guilty for them paying for the dresses, if I could pay for that too I would! As is we're having a medieval themed wedding and they're both skilled artisans and thrifters so I'm giving them the option to make their gowns if they choose so long as it's close to the silhouette and has the wedding colors featured somewhere on the gown. I'm excited to see what they come up with! My gift to them is the shoes, because I want the fantasy/medieval look but I don't want them cutting costs on cheap/uncomfortable shoes that they'll be standing in for so long.
Can anyone please explain me why do you do the reherseal dinner in the USA? Like what is is? In my country everything happens on the day of the wedding. The wedding is usually from 11 AM and it finishes late in the night/morning. So what do you rehearse? Why is it necessary? For me it feels like super extra expenses
For people to practice the processional and where they're standing. Important for catholic weddings bc they're long and kinda complicated. Dinner is mostly just a courtesy for people who came, and a lot of the times there are speeches
is it "expected " for the bridesmaids to all help out with like if you are DIY ing , or setting up ? is that too much to ask ? what if your bridesaid says she cant afford anything? same questions all apply for groomsmen! would you parallel this video for groomsmen too ?
also ! is it the BRIDES job to coordinate all the bridesmaids scedules, or is it the Maid of Honors job ??
I soooo need a part 2 lol
Thanks for the response!! so stressful knowing what everyone's expected to do and working around multiple schedules is insane! id still love a part 2 anyways just cuz i love your vids :P Thanks again!
Can you do a video on how to work with a difficult bridal party and how to deal with family drama that comes up during planning? I never found the planning itself a challenge, only the personal opinions or slack from the people who are supposed to be your support groups.
One of the most stressful things a bridesmaid can do is talk about finances, I can 100% agree with that point! We tried really hard to keep costs low for them because every does have a different budget and that's fine. Most of my bridal party was great but it was frustrating hearing someone complain about effort or prices when you're already doing your best.
As a wedding professional these are the worst tips. Sorry not sorry
Bridesmaid tip #1 : Dont be one. Its more fun and stress free as a guest.
like im the one that clicked the like button and turned it into 1k :)
Looks nice? I was in my fire gear and smelled like an onion lmao still it was great planning. Our chief had the whole training planned so he could propose in the middle of it
These are the type of brides who traumatize their bridesmaids . 3 gifts ? Bachelorette weekend ? Yes jt is the brides day but how selfish can some women be. You should not expect bridesmaids to break the bank for one night for a marriage that will likely end up in divorce . People have lives, families jobs and many, financial issues so any bride that expects 3 gifts from their bridesmaids is selfish and most likely raised with a silver spoon fed to their face
Anyone else get annoyed about how often Lauren played with her hair? 🤔
In Brazil we are expected to pay for the dresses AT MOST - if the bride wants a particular style, she'll usually pay for it because it's in her interest like ???? What the hell do you mean 3 gifts, a trip and event coordination??
Bridal parties in the US are crazy
No these girls are just out of touch with reality
Ya no shower or bachelorette party here.
I officially hate weddings!
The bride and bridegroom pay ten times more . NO SHIT
The background photo 2:54 is a lousy photo of some lovely people.
I think brides should not expect a wedding gift from the bridesmaids if their role is to plan and or host the shower, the bachelorette, and assist in DIY projects and other forms of FREE labour. Remember that bridesmaids have their own lives and expenses that are not related to your wedding. Don't get me wrong, I love love but I also love saving up for my down payment and my own great adventures too.
If Lauren rearranges her hair one more time...
Idk why that perturbs me 🤷♀️ I guess because Jamie's EQUALLY hot, but she's not nearly as self-absorbed as this other girl...
Maybe I'm being unfair...maybe it's a nervous habit when she's on-camera...Idk
EDIT: She's a bit better about it on her own videos. Still does it, and it's still vexing, but her comfort level improves on her own vids, so she tones down the hair-flipping.