Matthew McConaughey - THIS IS Why You're NOT HAPPY In Life (Change Your Future Today)| Lewis Howes

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    Matthew McConaughey is an Academy Award-winning actor who has starred in several successful films, which I’m sure you have seen! Matthew graduated from the University of Texas at Austin and orignally wanted to be a lawyer, but he got his first big break in acting with the 1993 film Dazed and Confused.
    After his big break in acting, Matthew moved to Los Angeles where he experienced even more fame and starred in productions such as Lone Star and a Time to Kill. In the 2000s, Hollywood began casting Matthew in several iconic romantic comedies, including The Wedding Planner with Jennifer Lopez and How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days with Kate Hudson. Matthew continued to star in romantic comedies during the 2000s, but at the end of the decade, he decided to take a hiatus and shift the focus of his acting career away from rom coms.
    You may have seen Matthew star in films such as Mud, The Wolf of Wall Street, and the sci-fi thriller Instellstellar, but did you know in addition to being a top actor, he’s an author as well? TODAY Matthew releases his memoir, Greenlights, that includes his classic outlaw wisdom, incredible stories from his career, and the truth about finding greater satisfaction in the midst of fame.
    In our interview, Matthew shares some of the wisdom in his new book Greenlights, opens up about his past, and even takes a moment to examine his life through the eyes of his 60-year-old self. I had such a great time talking with Matthew, and I can’t wait for you guys to listen to everything he has to say!
    Join me on Episode 1022 to learn about the keys to success, making it in Hollywood, and mastering yourself with the one and only Matthew McConaughey!
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Komentáře • 930

  • @jennywatkins6311
    @jennywatkins6311 Před 3 lety +346

    I like this guy. He is unlike a lot of celebrities. He’s more grounded, more true to himself. He seems balanced. Not a puppet. Refreshing

    • @mslillian4232
      @mslillian4232 Před 3 lety +7

      Yes I totally agree

    • @jimjustjim976
      @jimjustjim976 Před 3 lety +9

      Agree to that! Seems a cool guy. Some others in Hollywood who I also thought were, seemed to have drank the coolaid..but him and mark Wahlberg seem like real/good dudes

    • @analys1422
      @analys1422 Před 3 lety +9

      With age comes wisdom, understanding and humility which is a beautiful thing.

    • @analys1422
      @analys1422 Před 3 lety +5

      james Matthew
      Love love the Wahlberg Family they have never forgotten where they started. They adore their mama. I think they are great individuals that don’t get caught up in BS

    • @amandaborden1528
      @amandaborden1528 Před 3 lety +2

      Amen

  • @allthatjazzshow3299
    @allthatjazzshow3299 Před 3 lety +139

    Literally to the 1% who's reading this, God bless you, may all your dreams come true, may you be successful in all spheres of life, stay safe and have a wonderful day :)

    • @coachericalee312
      @coachericalee312 Před 3 lety +3

      Thank you and same to you friend 😊

    • @melm2740
      @melm2740 Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you for your kind words, the same for you🙏❤

    • @dorakai9089
      @dorakai9089 Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you! So be it! Same for you!

    • @002wpatrick
      @002wpatrick Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you! That is so sweet! You too.

    • @cherylfitch3183
      @cherylfitch3183 Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you. Same to you. 🙂🙏🏻

  • @susanparente9171
    @susanparente9171 Před 3 lety +266

    So great to see someone from Hollywood with depth, who consistently uses his reach to positively contribute to others. You are a great role model Matthew!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +9

      👍👍

    • @slevinchannel7589
      @slevinchannel7589 Před 3 lety +1

      @@lewishowes Hi.
      Before i invest time or even money in your books and/or yt-channel, i wanted to have one
      single question answered, if you have the time.
      What do you think about the Strategy 'Sex Sells'?

    • @sicari7205
      @sicari7205 Před 3 lety +1

      I’m concerned by your comment.

    • @slevinchannel7589
      @slevinchannel7589 Před 3 lety

      @@sicari7205 Who are you even talking to?
      Your comment and your concern totally mean nothing if no one even knows who youre talking to/about.

    • @slevinchannel7589
      @slevinchannel7589 Před 3 lety +1

      @@lewishowes Hello?
      I asked a question.

  • @steeez17
    @steeez17 Před rokem +3

    I’ve seen many interviews with Matthew McConaughey and an interviewer, but this one is by far the most fluid and genuine

  • @benjaminnielsen4288
    @benjaminnielsen4288 Před 3 lety +220

    He's so down to earth. And humble. This is kind of a rare thing in Hollywood, isn't it? Cheers.

    • @benjaminnielsen4288
      @benjaminnielsen4288 Před 3 lety +15

      @DDream 1986 Wow. Okay.

    • @illuminated2438
      @illuminated2438 Před 3 lety +5

      He's from the South 👍

    • @louiev1549
      @louiev1549 Před 3 lety

      That's not correct, you Brit, or Aussie...

    • @benjaminnielsen4288
      @benjaminnielsen4288 Před 3 lety

      @@louiev1549 who are you referring to?

    • @louiev1549
      @louiev1549 Před 3 lety

      @@benjaminnielsen4288 who cares? What are u going to internet argue with me? I quit being a part of this conversation. It's a waste of my time. Have fun bruh

  • @lloydherbert007
    @lloydherbert007 Před 3 lety +44

    He's old school he remembers the old ways, that is he knows it's just a job that he's talented in and luckily his rewards are money and fame, but his upbringing has taught him that we are all equal and that's a special quality to have. Love and respect brother 🙏 ❤. 😇

  • @JadesOfficial
    @JadesOfficial Před 3 lety +1

    Just watched again and I’m blown away

  • @AriaLeeCangemi
    @AriaLeeCangemi Před 3 lety +196

    Lewis is a great interviewer, and the flow with Matthew was spot on.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +28

      he made it easy for me 😁

    • @AriaLeeCangemi
      @AriaLeeCangemi Před 3 lety +13

      Lewis, you put a lot of thought into your questions and you’re a great listener. Way to be!

    • @ozztenn
      @ozztenn Před 3 lety +1

      M L, I bet you're one of Lewis' countless screen names. Anyway, whatever. Take care!

    • @AriaLeeCangemi
      @AriaLeeCangemi Před 3 lety +2

      @Austin Myslinski if you wanted to know more about me, all you needed to do was ask. ☺️

    • @ozztenn
      @ozztenn Před 3 lety +2

      @@AriaLeeCangemi Well, Lewis, you're a great guy!

  • @tashadeluca
    @tashadeluca Před 3 lety +119

    His 3 truths are just amazing!!! My favourite yet✨ “Value values, make sense of humour your default emotion, and remember you will have 1000’s of crises in your life and most of them will never happen” 💯

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +8

      so good!

    • @justmarialing
      @justmarialing Před rokem

      Ditto... Was just about to write them down but now able to just screenshot your comment, thanks! 😊

  • @Lulu-kt6gr
    @Lulu-kt6gr Před 3 lety +44

    He’s a philosopher. Some gems here: the idea that holding someone on a pedestal prevents a true relationship rings so true!!

  • @dragonnoa1
    @dragonnoa1 Před 3 lety +25

    19:08 - "Too many options can make a tyrant of any of us."
    19:21 - "We're all connected but nobody's with each other."

    • @humanbeing3259
      @humanbeing3259 Před 3 lety +1

      Just read you comment as at the very moment the actor spoke the words options etc

  • @soyblancadelaCruz
    @soyblancadelaCruz Před 3 lety +44

    We are all connected but nobody is with each other. GOOSEBUMPS

    • @chrisharpe7736
      @chrisharpe7736 Před 3 lety

      We're connected via social networks, but the most disconnected society in history. We likely spend more time posting comments, like this, to total strangers than we do cultivating relationships with people next to us.
      Often see people eating lunch together that spend more time on their phones than talking and interacting with one another.

  • @magichappenswithyou
    @magichappenswithyou Před 3 lety +51

    This guy is a deep, highly intelligent individual. I could listen to him speak for hours on end. The more I listen, the more I realise how much I still need to know and grow. How refreshing! Thx Lewis for another amazing interview.

  • @apriltumey3230
    @apriltumey3230 Před 3 lety +85

    Man he is gorgeous and I don't mean just physically his personality is what makes him stand out ,idc if and when he turns 80 ,he will still be gorgeous😍!!

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow Před 3 lety +81

    *Keep adapting and change until u r happy, but always be present* 🙏

  • @sangeetagoyal6069
    @sangeetagoyal6069 Před 3 lety +25

    I feel Matthew McCoaughey is really striving for happiness, peace and contentment in his life. There is nothing wrong in being ambitious. One of my big moto is "DON'T OVER ANALYSE SITUATIONS, GOOD OR BAD". MEDITATION HELPS A LOT WITH THIS. Do every thing that makes you happy and brings satisfaction in life and don't think you need to do them in order to be happy or be significant. They are just choices ! Own your self fully and appreciate your self for having great intentions and forgive your self when you make a mistake and forgive others but don't let them mis-treat you again.

    • @helenboula3538
      @helenboula3538 Před 3 lety +1

      Quite honestly learning to forgive myself was the one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life you talk about looking in the mirror you talk about dirt and trash you talked about honesty and had today raw in order for me to ever have any happiness in my life and that was to be happy with me that through God's help and Marcy he brought me through and hopefully it's 75 I have gained a little wisdom do all the things in my journey that I have been through in my life I feel like that we have to go through all the things that we do in order to be where we are today and those are my thoughts on it.

  • @drelenashirleydvmcvama8517
    @drelenashirleydvmcvama8517 Před 3 lety +233

    As Tony Robbins says: if you want a better life, ask better questions

    • @decker999
      @decker999 Před 3 lety +7

      Consider consequences of wrong actions. Choosing to make better choices will prevent most negative consequences, & get better results. Look to the Lord, the Word of God, & His Spirit to guide you, rather than listen to the loud voices of the deceived & angry.
      MAGA/KAG! TRUMP 2020!

    • @evianwahter
      @evianwahter Před 3 lety

      Ask who?

    • @bonnieklapel1825
      @bonnieklapel1825 Před 3 lety

      @@evianwahter ask yourself. Ask those whose opinions you think and feel are important. Ask those people who you don’t always agree with too. Hear what each have to say and then decide what is important to you and feels like the right answer for you. Not the one that’s the right answer for everybody else or that is even in agreement with anyone else.

    • @saudigold50
      @saudigold50 Před 3 lety

      Stellar comment.

    • @krismijares9782
      @krismijares9782 Před 3 lety

      Neat. What a genius. What a visionary. Ya gotta wonder how much people thinking these little sayings are so wise and genius, and reposting them everywhere helps these folks make more money. Don't take my comments as an insult, just know I think your already know these things. You do not need someone else telling you this stuff. You have already figured it out. Give yourself some credit.

  • @drs175
    @drs175 Před 3 lety +53

    I enjoyed this interview with Matthew! I felt a loss of drive after turning 50, now I focus on who I am becoming as I reach for my dreams. Chasing a goal feels so empty without the intention of how can I serve and leave something behind for others follow! ❤

  • @alinaalecu9197
    @alinaalecu9197 Před 3 lety +2

    Such an amazing and smart guy very down to earth ....explaining everything so good

  • @PsychologyOfTheFight
    @PsychologyOfTheFight Před 3 lety +82

    Came from the Gary V interview and this is unbelievable - you actually let him speak instead of constantly cutting him off, driving the conversation towards things completely unrelated to his ideas and rambling about sports. Truly remarkable

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +9

      glad you enjoyed it!

    • @juliuscaesart
      @juliuscaesart Před 3 lety +2

      @Chris London Yeah he can learn to wait his turn when speaking

    • @valvrj
      @valvrj Před 3 lety

      @Chris London Lol. That is so true!

    • @JBlazeCalifornia
      @JBlazeCalifornia Před 3 lety +5

      Lewis is awesome ❤️ I love his input

    • @u6okii946
      @u6okii946 Před 3 lety

      They’re completely different interviewers. With completely different agendas. Gary’s an entrepreneur that wants to know specifics on his business ventures.
      Be more grateful that he was on both, rather than degrading Gary V.

  • @rehabhqofficial
    @rehabhqofficial Před 3 lety +14

    Wow. Just wow. There should be a reward for asking great questions. Brilliant interview.

  • @craigb4913
    @craigb4913 Před 3 lety +82

    Wow, an interview that completely caught me off guard. Always thought of Hollywood as a refuge for shallow narcissists. McConaughey proves that theory wrong. Lewis asked insightful questions & Matthew responded with insight & wisdom. Great stuff.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +15

      glad you enjoyed it, he inspired me as well!

    • @illuminated2438
      @illuminated2438 Před 3 lety +3

      He's from the South 👍

    • @bobbiellison4315
      @bobbiellison4315 Před 3 lety +3

      I have a hard time looking past my skepticism of nything or anyone that comes out of Hollywood. With that said he really did come off with some good old down to earth integrity. Hard to believe, but it was convincing.

    • @craigb4913
      @craigb4913 Před 3 lety +4

      @@bobbiellison4315 definitely share your skepticism. He seems to be an exception to the rule in Hollywood. Of course I don't know him so that's just a hunch. At least we can say he doesn't spout a bunch of left-wing nonsense that's the norm in Hollywood. That's an accomplishment in itself.

    • @leejenkins7184
      @leejenkins7184 Před 3 lety +1

      Actually if you listen to a lot of actor interviews most of them are highly Introspection. Now in politics not so much lol

  • @Nah-ah
    @Nah-ah Před 3 lety +11

    Ooof... I lost my dad around the same time Matthew lost his dad... but I was 8 yrs old! It’s amazing how we changed and grow up so quick when we lose a parent. I grew up very fast from that time and then my mum passed away when I was 22, 5 wks after I became a mother. I fully understand what the progression of ‘’having to grow up’’ and self introspections feels like to the very core. That particular part really hit home. This was such an amazing interview, Lewis! Thank you for bringing Matthew on your show. Much appreciated! 🙏🏽

  • @Losers01
    @Losers01 Před 3 lety +17

    I will get my Greenlight when it intended for me to get it. I have FAITH. I am learning how to love myself... it has been a process for sure.

  • @ubself
    @ubself Před 3 lety +5

    One of my favorite quips is......“If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.” MJ

  • @isaachightower4429
    @isaachightower4429 Před 3 lety +13

    Just half way through this interview, and I will definitely say that I fully appreciate the complete and honest man that Matthew is revealing himself to be. I thank God and everyone that had a part in sharing this.

    • @gigid9606
      @gigid9606 Před 2 lety

      most of all he is honest to himself, and thats what we all need to be more within ourselves.

  • @JadesOfficial
    @JadesOfficial Před 3 lety +5

    Love this dude 💕

  • @liescheneger3469
    @liescheneger3469 Před rokem +3

    This is among one of the most thoughtful conversations/ interview I a have listened to. Great questions coming from Lewis and wonderful answers coming from Matthew.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před rokem

      Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

  • @NoahAvery96
    @NoahAvery96 Před 3 lety +22

    That 10 year reflection he gave was absolutely incredible

  • @bonnieklapel1825
    @bonnieklapel1825 Před 3 lety +7

    “Quit half assing yourself.” “How do we be more kind and truthful to ourselves.” Awesome.

  • @soyblancadelaCruz
    @soyblancadelaCruz Před 3 lety +24

    I love how u actually are activily listening to Mathew and letting him speak. Love this interview

  • @Alfielthomas
    @Alfielthomas Před 3 lety +88

    Humans project their past onto their future, then go about creating it. Something as simple as becoming aware of that can break that loop and open up this beautiful void/blank canvas in front of you to build a future however you choose. Thank you for sharing this man. Love a bit of Southern wisdom.

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 3 lety +8

      thanks for watching!

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 Před 3 lety +4

      there is no past and no time its an Earth illusion past present future all happening at once

    • @sumi8392
      @sumi8392 Před 3 lety +1

      Wow..thanks for clearly n simply stating it

    • @deadmanswife3625
      @deadmanswife3625 Před 3 lety

      @@celticwarrior777 family is important. The FAMILIAR. All good.
      Recreate.!

    • @jhasib
      @jhasib Před 3 lety

      Great thoughts.. Any insights on how to go about breaking the loop?

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Před 3 lety +7

    Matthew talking to his 50 year old self almost makes me cry. Beautiful self talk.

  • @lulusworld2703
    @lulusworld2703 Před 3 lety +18

    I have noticed a trend of Hollywood celebrities dabbling in the New Age sector. I guess when they are not able to make movies the next best thing is telling others how they should be living and I am weary of that, because what do millionaire actors know about the ordinary man's struggles? However I love the warmth of Matthew. He is a deep soul and I think he manages to connect to people. I will be checking out his other content, thanks Lewis.

  • @robbieolsen4805
    @robbieolsen4805 Před 3 lety +1

    I do not watch too many videos twice, but this is an exception. I learned so much from this chat. Mind Blown.

  • @mauhawkiam
    @mauhawkiam Před 3 lety +1

    Such a beautiful person, inside and out. 🙏

  • @Losers01
    @Losers01 Před 3 lety +21

    I never wanted to be rich and famous... I dislike publicity. That is part of my testimony and proof that I am not doing this for myself, but for my children.

  • @uknasa007
    @uknasa007 Před 3 lety +9

    32:00 so true. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result

  • @laciehamblin4524
    @laciehamblin4524 Před 3 lety +2

    Finding happiness within not from the outside world

  • @steph5494
    @steph5494 Před 3 lety +9

    The piece on Matthew turning down those parts resonate with me ant lets me know I am on the right path. We must stick to our convictions. His story about his Dad is aligns with mine also. Twenties are a vulnerable age to lose a parent. It's impactful!

  • @rossanaechevarria7858
    @rossanaechevarria7858 Před 3 lety +5

    Your program is really amazing!! Thank you very much for your contibutions!!

  • @ladybird491
    @ladybird491 Před 3 lety +4

    I love the pleasure of pushing through tiny road blocks in mastering my work. It is very satisfying.

  • @Lisa-pe6dl
    @Lisa-pe6dl Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for the interview segment and great to see there is still good people in hollywood😊

  • @christyjones5388
    @christyjones5388 Před 3 lety +1

    I like how he DOES not bore you at ALL.

  • @isismob7379
    @isismob7379 Před 3 lety +5

    Mr. Howes, the quality of your questions and connections during the interviews are increasing impressively. Thank you. Good work!

  • @princessjoymillani2054
    @princessjoymillani2054 Před 3 lety +12

    This was one of the best interviews you've conducted Lewis. Thank you so much for it. Thank you Matthew for your pure wisdom and care - I took down a lot of notes! Much love.

  • @gageoakley583
    @gageoakley583 Před 3 lety +2

    This is the conversation I needed to hear.
    Thanks!

  • @ritterac
    @ritterac Před 3 lety +2

    Beautiful soul!

  • @ednakravitz2738
    @ednakravitz2738 Před 3 lety +13

    “When things are rockin inside us....it’s like an Audubon between our minds, our hearts, and our spirits”

  • @michaelafletcher1546
    @michaelafletcher1546 Před 3 lety +20

    Lewis and Matthew, thank you! Very “grounding” conversation. The whole world isn’t nuts after all. (Ordering the book for my kids). Love you guys 💕

  • @walterpsotka278
    @walterpsotka278 Před 3 lety +4

    One of the very best interviews on your channel !

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Před 3 lety +6

    Great interview. Loved hearing Matthew talk about how much he cares about living his best life, his introspective moments, and simply, 'how he sees it.' Right on (Right on, Right on.).

  • @ashlibradford1821
    @ashlibradford1821 Před 3 lety +14

    This man has earned every ounce of my respect in less than 24 hours. I have always been a fan and for him to maintain his values, beliefs and family... Those Texans when raised right...GOLD!!!

    • @ladybug5859
      @ladybug5859 Před 3 lety

      THIS is NOT Southern wisdom; THIS is McConaughey wisdom. Southerners are NOT raised to think and feel the way McConaughey thinks and feels. THIS is unique to him. He took some of what his dad gave him BUT he changed it a hell of a lot. AS he will admit himself, he does NOT beat his wife up and then make love. He does NOT beat his son so he's bleeding.McConaughy is NOT the South. He was born in Texas so he has some traits innate to Texans, as opposed to the South, BUT what makes him uniquely McConaughey, above and beyond being a Texan, is the thoughts & feelings & deeds, he has chosen & worked on & created within his mind and heart and soul SO that they are in alignment. The key word is alignment AND the South does not have its heart & soul & mind in alignment; ergo, its NEVER ending pain & suffering.

  • @embraceyourpearls5549
    @embraceyourpearls5549 Před 3 lety +5

    Authenticity is the new real! So good! Love Matthew and Lewis! Thank you!!🙌💯

  • @randykartchner-themusicalh8596

    This guy is awesome and not full of himself. He’s confident but everything doesn’t revolve around him. Excellent!!

  • @greengre4689
    @greengre4689 Před 3 lety +5

    Really glad Matthew M wrote this book, it can help many people

  • @aliciaburchell3012
    @aliciaburchell3012 Před 3 lety +10

    This was amazing! I always loved Matthew McConaughey but he has really become wise and we can learn so much from his experiences. Life is finite. Be careful of the choices you make in life and remember that fame is fleeting and success is all in the long money!

  • @lenny_irfe1816
    @lenny_irfe1816 Před 3 lety +6

    What a great interview, Mr. McConaughey it is a very grounded and very inspirational men.

  • @3dcadvisuals172
    @3dcadvisuals172 Před 3 lety +9

    Very powerful interview , no BS just straight from the heart : )

  • @2ears1mouth786
    @2ears1mouth786 Před 3 lety +12

    📝 MY FULL UNEDITED NOTES! (in one sitting, finished at 4:12 am, after 2 hours!)
    1. You should be so fully involved what you're doing and the process that you don't even think about the finish line. Stay in the zone, in the process, and more results will come your way.
    2. When you have a moment, in all your chaotic and unclear life, where you can definitively place and/or identify a post that you're not willing to move, that is not negotiable, you gain clarity and identity. That really helped with his sanity, to have something so clear that it's black and white.
    3. Often we call compromise the shade of grey, when actually the right kind of compromise is the great light and truth. This makes great sense to a religious individual, who would rather compromise their life to the principles of God (or just your personal principles) than those of loosely defined cultural lines.
    4. As humans we need something to grasp a hold of, and it can be either very good or bad for us. This can be seen in the extreme political divides in the country, people running to that for identity and clarity.
    5. Values of family: loyalty, accountability, responsibility, the responsibility of freedom, the freedom of responsibility, fairness... those are things Matthew was raised on. Those values will never go out of style, and we could all double-down on them personally and as a society now.
    6. Looking at yourself in the mirror, asking if you like what you see, asking yourself meaningful questions about yourself.
    7. Have a good threshold for when you're not feeling fully yourself so you can go and remedy that. Find what it is for you that will help you align yourself with your identity and values. This could be taking a walkabout with yourself, meditating, praying, sitting still for a while, going back to what you can rely on. It's good to have a good acuity for this and to have a quick trigger, that will help you keep the misalignments minor and not turning into train-wrecks
    8. "When we're really rocking, we have an Autobahn between our head and our heart and our spirit."
    9. Having to calibrate and recalibrate many times is natural. Check back in with yourself and let memory catch up and have a Socratic dialogue with yourself, and end up forgiving stuff, and then saying "Enough's enough this other stuff. You're the only person I'm stuck with, [surname], so we better figure out how to get along."
    10. What is hardest for you to forgive yourself for? And others, too, perhaps?
    11. What we mean to say and what's actually being perceived, there can be a gap between that. There are times when intent can be misconstrued. Being aware of that is important, and ignoring and not accepting it isn't going to help you in life. Make amends on these miscommunications.
    12. It might be difficult to communicate something that is going to hurt another's feelings, but doing the hard thing yourself of doing your best despite the unpleasant news or circumstance gains you respect. Also, people are grown-ups and they will or should be able to understand at some level that a rejection is a possibility. Handling no's personally by making a call or doing it in person has been an additive in compounding assets in Matthew's life and future.
    13. Doing the hard thing that one time gives you more confidence in your ability to handle the hard things every other time they'll come. You won't feel like you have to pass everything off to someone else, etc.
    14. Do not create false drama when it's not needed. The real drama is going to come, so don't look for the false drama when it's not there! But people have a habit of this.
    15. Try to be graceful in your actions, so that you don't cause unnecessary environmental or personal chaos and upset and problems. This is important.
    16. Appreciate the intentions behind your actions that have caused you problems. Don't be too hard on yourself - if you had good intentions, acknowledge and shake hands with that fact.
    17. When you can, ask yourself if you want to before you do. In times of great influence or affluence you have a lot of options in front of you, and too many options can make a tyrant out of anybody. Try to detect whether you want to do something merely in your head or your spirit also. Is it really you? Does it work with your values? Is it good for you, does it turn you on and feed your self?
    18. Sometimes, the answers don't come quickly. And when they don't and you're not enjoying your own company, it's all confusing, and you want to go and turn to entertainment or some distraction or something that masks that, you have to try to hold back. "No, I'm gonna sit in this discomfort. This is a prudent penance I am taking to get to know myself and listen to myself."
    19. Why do so many people avoid discomfort? We all prefer pleasure over pain, but there is a greater pleasure that can come with going through a pain. When you choose to go through the resistance at the right times you have greater, more involved pleasure on the other side of it. Responsibility and freedom, that relationship is really at the core of a lot of this.
    20. "Responsibility and freedom, that relationship is really at the core of a lot of this. There's responsibility through freedom and freedom in the responsibility. And the responsibility is the hard work. You know? The freedom's the Saturday. The freedom's what we want. The responsibility is what we need. Where you go through what you need, when what we want actually is what we need and what we need is actually what we want, that's the honey hole where, hey, I look as good as I feel and I feel as good as I look. ♪ Ta-da! ♪ Where we're selfish and selfless at the same time. I know what I'm chasing."
    21. 18:51 for talk about millennials and Matt's advice relating to them
    22. Think about the likes, comments, things you send to the internet! That is going to outlive you! It's permanent, you are not! Are you putting out something today that you're going to look forward to looking back at? Are you putting something out that in the resume of your life, that is going to write your eulogy when you're gone - which is going to introduce you forever... think about it!
    23. Gathering all the "bad reviews" whatever that means for you and reviewing them all can be more constructive than reading the good reviews. Some will be worthless and spiteful, but others will teach you lessons that you failed to notice and are perhaps still causing you to underperform in your life, and you would very much prefer to learn from so you can have your best life.
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    • @2ears1mouth786
      @2ears1mouth786 Před 3 lety +3

      24. "A man is never so masculine as he is when he holds his first child." He's talking about the Autobahn idea - mind, heart, spirit, loins. But I think that this is something only someone who's learned a good framework can say in the way Matthew intends it. When you don't have a healthy understanding and way to approach your life, you're going to have something else, and it's going to be a mix-n-match. Matt continues to say that the first 6 months after your first baby's born, triple-down on any instinct you have.
      25. Un-brand yourself. That can be a way to make yourself a new, novel idea, good idea. Think about this and how it applies to you but also just in terms of your own self, not relating to people. Reinvention.
      26. When you make a Socratic oath with yourself, you gain the power to say no whatever the temptation of the offer, and you can enjoy the buzz of having the courage to say no. Living in line with your identity.
      27. One of the key tools in his book is, "when faced with the inevitable, get relative." How can you make an upside out of a perceived crisis? When and how we do that is one of the keys to having satisfaction in life. When do we do this, in every given situation? If you can get that right, it's great for you.
      28. Matt's Oscar award show speech is iconic, worth listening to. Your future self in 10 years - chase that! And ask what your future self you say to your current self?
      29. Being able to gracefully, elegantly, smoothly, be able to stop doing what's not primary and pay attention to what really matters when it really matters, is a beautiful ability to have or cultivate in life. Matt's wife Camila does this effortlessly. Doing this without hurting the people you're removing yourself from for your greater priority, for example, is one of the great things about his, it's the grace of it.
      30. Rite of passages in life. It's the idea of the death of the father (figure). Carl Jung wrote about this, I think. I remember from years ago putting something into my journal. Yes, this is powerful. You will find that when your father figure is gone, you finally really grow up. This does not have to be an actual death, of course.
      31. "Less impressed, more involved." This is about realising your place in the world, and what is mortal. Not to be too in awe of what seems so high up (success, fame, etc) or too judgemental of what is below. See the world at eye-level and you will be able to see further, wider, clearer. Quit half-arsing yourself, or doing things to just get along. Reflecting and connecting with mortality gives this fresh and profound perspective, and many wise people have said it is essential to remember death.
      32. Think about how you can be more kind and true to your future self, and how you can start making some more choices that you really put your all into and you can accept responsibility for, whether good or bad, and say, "yup, that's on me!"
      33. If you're overly impressed with [insert], you can't be truly connected with that relationship, person, life, etc. If you hold your partner on a pedestal, it's unfair. If you put them in an immortal bubble of being a superhuman, it's not fair to them. And then what happens in the reflection of their eyes? Then they may see us the same way, and you're both too impressed to be actually involved.
      34. 5things we should all eliminate to live a better life?
      1. Stop hanging out with those people that bring out only your most banal self.
      2. Places that have bad effects or affect you negatively. Quit trying to make that place work.
      35. Start deconstructing success, not just problems. When things are going well, you've finally caught a groove, put pen to paper or look down and start dissecting. What are you doing? There's some science to satisfaction and we don't just get there by dissecting our failures and when we're in a rut.
      36. Tee yourself up for green lights. This really can be as simple as putting the coffee in the filter machine the night before so you don't have to endure that groggy, grudging little misery of having to find the coffee or get it. Or deal with the regret of having not done it the night before (or never bloody doing it). Sometimes it's hard to make your coffee when you haven't had your coffee. DELAYED GRATIFICATION IS SUCH A GIFT. Fucking enjoy it! Love it, use it! Do the work now, and know you'll be so glad you did in the future!
      37. Green light, Yellow light, Red light. Think about the green n yellow, those contain powerful metaphors and advice and structures for life.
      38. Fame and success. It's fickle, a mistress not a wife, and it's not all we really want. We want to be relevant. But what do we want to be relevant for? We need to ask ourselves that question. If you chase fame and success, and disregard certain integrity, and being as true to yourself as you can to yourself - that's short money.
      Webster definition circa 1828: "The favorable or prosperous termination of any thing attempted; a termination which answers the purpose intended; properly in a good sense, but often in a bad sense." (there is more) [webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/success](webstersdictionary1828.com/Dictionary/success)
      39. Having an overwhelming need to feel the result in your grasp, to feel significant, can be unhealthy. Try to understand that there is no reach achieving. Life is a verb, not a destination. Matt rephrases his perspective into, "well, keep achieving in the pursuit of the unachievable, and make steps." I heard similar advice: "aim for perfection, but settle for excellence." Sometimes we might feel insignificant if we don't achieve or accomplish, and that may be a good motivation/feeling or a bad one. Sometimes, you need to just sit still and/or stay in your perpetual motion. "Don't miss the process for the clenching seek of the result. Don't let the result tell you, "Ah, now I'm significant." Being too result-oriented can cause you to no longer feel a sense of significance or alignment to your identity.
      40. 3 truths that you leave behind to the world: 1) Value values. 2) Make a sense of humour your default emotion. 3) Remember that you will have thousands of crises in your life and most of them will never happen.
      41. Matt's definition of greatness? "Greatness is pursuing that. Staying in the race, committing to the chase to be your better self, be better families, communities, civilisations, and people. America's promise, our country's promise is opportunity and greatness. We're not ever going to arrive. The topsy-turvy times that we're in right now, culture revolution, we're not gonna come out of this and go, "Oh, now we've found perfect justice." No. But as long as we keep evolving, as long as we got an ascension, that's called evolution. Stay in the race, commit to the chase. And that's greatness. It's staying in the process of the chase.
      42. Buy his book. I haven't read it, but from what Lewis mentioned about how it's written, it'll be very valuable and very good reading. I bought an autobiography of Billy Connolly in a bookshop during travel once, and have gained beautiful and wonderful insights, perspectives and wisdom from it. A book written well, with good stories and storytelling, will teach you many things.

  • @danathain481
    @danathain481 Před 3 lety +5

    Love his 3 truths. Best I have heard in a long time.

  • @innamcglinchey9509
    @innamcglinchey9509 Před 3 lety +4

    So wonderful to see the one of my favorite actor is so awake and knows the law of the world. Inspiring!! 💕💕💕

  • @teresasellers2722
    @teresasellers2722 Před 3 lety +8

    I had to flee the country for safety...and I am in Australia doing the same thing, looking deep within and asking questions that force me to see the truth that was hidden out of fear.
    Out of something bad, something good is found.
    I am finding my strength, my voice and life.

  • @lyn403
    @lyn403 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow! I'm at (another) career crossroads...have had illustrious careers from which I've retired. Today, I almost took a step BACK to being a unit secretary at a hospital. I heard an inner voice say, "You're not a firefighter / paramedic / 911 dispatcher / RN anymore. Why are you looking back? I've been writing - I want to publish digitally and print, some things. I have everything I need, but I haven't let go of my 'brand' by which I used to feel professionally empowered. Nice to know Mr. M, waited for the best yet to come, held out and thought about other careers. I'm not alone, I'm enlightened. Thanks, all.

  • @some5794
    @some5794 Před 3 lety +4

    Wow. He speaks like a father imparting wisdom. Enjoyed it greatly.

  • @shirintobie-paul3501
    @shirintobie-paul3501 Před 3 lety +5

    I enjoy getting a man’s perspective on life. What a phenomenal interview! Lewis asks such phenomenal questions. I always watch with pen and paper! Thank you Davids☀️ Identity, values and responsibility. Wow!

  • @carylannebeltran
    @carylannebeltran Před 7 měsíci +2

    There are no better podcasts than the ones Matthew is in. Profound profound wisdom. Just when I think I've heard all he has to say and offer, he surprises with something yet even more novel. Great listen!!!

    • @lewishowes
      @lewishowes  Před 7 měsíci +1

      So glad to hear that from you, we'll keep at it! Thank you so much for listening!

  • @anniemarie444
    @anniemarie444 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Matthew is the epitome of integrity. Thank you both for all you do.

  • @drelenashirleydvmcvama8517

    I want to thank McConaughey so much because he just articulated the treat I am most want to perfect for my husband and kids

  • @Losers01
    @Losers01 Před 3 lety +3

    Yes! That is the right mindset. Value what you have and don't take it for granted... and it will never be taken away again.

  • @JohnBrewsterMusic
    @JohnBrewsterMusic Před 3 lety +2

    this is beautiful!

  • @TheGoby
    @TheGoby Před 3 lety +15

    What an exquisite man, my heart aches he can’t be mine 💖

    • @cristinadriviera8144
      @cristinadriviera8144 Před 3 lety +1

      Gosia Byliniak+ Don't check out his wife -you'll just get so depressed. It's not fair at all!

  • @littleblackbabycat
    @littleblackbabycat Před 3 lety +5

    Aaaaaahhhhhhhh......... legend. Brilliant interview. Thanks

  • @BlackGirlGreenThumb
    @BlackGirlGreenThumb Před 3 lety +13

    great interview, it's so refreshing to see people that can not be bought

  • @ericamartinez5827
    @ericamartinez5827 Před 3 lety +2

    I’ve watched the majority of his interviews on his book and this one is my favorite. Thank you, Lewis, for the gift that this conversation is to all of us.

  • @luislorenzomartinez1174
    @luislorenzomartinez1174 Před 3 lety +2

    Lewis...... You´re an amazing human being. I feel very emotional and grateful to anyone trying to help by sharing hope and wisdom and you´re just remarkable at that. We need this kind of things. A lot of people think this kind of subjects are irrelevant and that we all need to work and forget the rest, but unfortunately if we do that we hold insecurities and fears inside, we never grow and we are never happy. So thank you!!

  • @Smjourney1223
    @Smjourney1223 Před 3 lety +5

    Lewis was fantastic. He really brought out McCaughney to speak out and open up. Great job 👏

  • @ianrobinson4200
    @ianrobinson4200 Před 3 lety +231

    This dude is living on a higher plane of existence

  • @TinaLeder
    @TinaLeder Před 3 lety +7

    *First it was Tim, then Gary, and now here!* 💃💯
    All up in the *digital marketing world* 👩‍💻🥂 promoting his wisdom and I'm here for it!!💯

  • @patriciatagliabue5037
    @patriciatagliabue5037 Před 3 lety +1

    I can listen to Mat for hours and hours such an AMAZING human being.

  • @PeterAcrat
    @PeterAcrat Před 3 lety +8

    "Make 'A sense of humor' your default emotion" - 👌🙏👍

  • @katerinak4164
    @katerinak4164 Před 3 lety +5

    One of the best interviews I have ever watched!

  • @bradenbollinger5257
    @bradenbollinger5257 Před 3 lety +2

    I have listen to Matthew when we found out my mother died of cancer in 2014. i turn to his motivational speeches at least once a week. My dream is to shake the mans hand before i die an say thank you! Thank you, for your words Matthew!

  • @lizcoleman5229
    @lizcoleman5229 Před 3 lety +5

    Very smart man and spot on in so many things he says!

  • @guitarsz
    @guitarsz Před 3 lety +3

    Brave move, saying NO that last time McConaughey. I love it. NO COMPROMISE. That's identity. Love it.

  • @travellingwithmariah1050
    @travellingwithmariah1050 Před 3 lety +4

    One of the best actors in the world 🥰🥰🥰

  • @elizabethb988
    @elizabethb988 Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks Lewis for sharing this Matthew McConaughey interview with us. Mathew, thanks for your generosity, your book, words wisdom & encouragement to make me a better person. A work-in-progress, I have to commit and continue showing up in order to make a difference. More blessings to you both and your families. stay safe!

  • @RastafariRico22
    @RastafariRico22 Před 3 lety +2

    Geesh man, Mcconaughey is just so amazing. I love how he's got that strong personality! He's so inspiring!

  • @MichaelPratchett-ms6my
    @MichaelPratchett-ms6my Před 3 lety +4

    Thank you for this interview. Very transparent and encouraging.

  • @rainiercorrea7504
    @rainiercorrea7504 Před 3 lety +7

    Lewis did you get all teary eyes in the end? Mein... I would have too!!!

  • @christyjones5388
    @christyjones5388 Před 3 lety +2

    He needs to do more interviews like this.My 💓 is happy

  • @ctdali
    @ctdali Před 3 lety +12

    Always have enjoyed Matthew’s intensity as an actor. I started listening to him through his lovely wife Camila, who posts health/wellness videos with his hilarious and very wise mother. Interesting interview, I will read his book.

    • @NurseJacqueline
      @NurseJacqueline Před 3 lety +1

      ctdali how can I find that which you speak of please? Mathews Mom sounds like a hoot from what he has said in one of the interviews he did lately.

    • @ctdali
      @ctdali Před 3 lety +1

      @@NurseJacqueline I follow his wife on FB , her name is Camila Alves and she does short videos with his mom-and it is very entertaining.

    • @NurseJacqueline
      @NurseJacqueline Před 3 lety +1

      @@ctdali thank you! I’ll go find her now! Have a great day!

  • @nurtured-channel2953
    @nurtured-channel2953 Před 3 lety +21

    This guy is deep 🤔 I 've always admired his free spirited personality type.... but I was not expecting this level of " wisdom
    Lewis your guest choice never disappoints👌👏👏👏👏

  • @co-parentingwiththeuniverse

    I love the variety and diversity of your guests. It is rich!

  • @zoenakuya8506
    @zoenakuya8506 Před 3 lety +1

    So much beauty flowing out of Matthew. So glad to see this side of you and to listen to you sharing some great life lessons!

  • @cshan159
    @cshan159 Před 3 lety +2

    So good both of you!! Very spiritual and grounded Matthew is

  • @AlanStuartMusic
    @AlanStuartMusic Před 3 lety +4

    Absolutely amazing. Thank you Lewis and Matthew 🙏

  • @MrYatesj1
    @MrYatesj1 Před 3 lety +10

    Great Interview Lewis, Matthew is enlightening.

  • @hiryan7551
    @hiryan7551 Před 3 lety +10

    Great conversation. Being identity-driven outweighs the goals an individual sets up for themselves. Stick to the process because perfection cannot be attained, not in this world.

  • @valvrj
    @valvrj Před 3 lety +11

    Such a humble and inspiring guy. I have seen him in Tim Ferris' weekly show as well where he came across as a very down to earth person taking his status.

    • @colettecolette4292
      @colettecolette4292 Před 3 lety

      Humble? Hardly!

    • @valvrj
      @valvrj Před 3 lety +1

      @@colettecolette4292 It is to me. Don't see any signs of showing-off a flashy life or bragging only about his achievements.