How Your Silence Can Kill Him On The Inside And Make Him Go Crazy
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My name is Elliot Scott and I am a dating coach that is going to teach you how to get a boyfriend and attract the guy you like. I am going to teach you numerous ways to attract your crush and get him to fall for you. I have helped thousands of women all over get the guy of their dreams. I am going to tell you how to find out if a guy likes you and the signs that a guy likes you. I also will teach you why men pull away and what to do if they pull away.
I am going to give you a ton of free dating and relationship advice. Everything you need on how to make a guy fall for you is in my guides and videos. Don’t worry about men pulling away or losing interest. I show you how to get a guy to like you again. I show you how to get a guy back once and for all. If you have any topic or question on attraction and getting guys to desire you then you will find it here. I have been doing this for a long time and I don’t plan on stopping. I love what I do.
I cover a lot of the following: How to get a guy to like you, signs a guy likes you, how to get a guy back, how to get your ex back, how to get him to like you again, how to get a guy to text back or text faster, and many more.
I am no way a professional or licensed. This is all just my experience, knowledge, and opinion.
One more thing: I don’t want you to ever think I am trying to blame you or gaslight you into thinking something that isn’t true or actually happening. My intentions are to give you another way of looking at things and to help you question what is actually going on. My intention is to give clarity and insight. You don’t have to agree with that is being said.
It works! I was giving him my all! Always texting, always planning, always giving… and I finally got tired of it. He wasn’t reciprocating the effort so I went silent on him and now he’s blowing me up. I used to get so excited to hear from him that I would immediately plan something for us. Not this time, I replied hours later with just 2 words. He texted again this morning and I’m not replying. He doesn’t deserve my time, money or energy. Thanks Elliot for the reminder!
Im lonely but I am happy because I don't put up with bad behavior 🙂
I started dating a guy and he showed early signs of flakiness. You know the usual, texting whenever, responding even a day later and not really making plans with me. He kept me hanging on for a couple of weeks with breadcrumbs😐 I got sooo upset he wasn't responding in a timely manner that I told myself "if he does this one more time, i'm breaking things off, FOR GOOD". He obviously responded to my last message about going out, A DAY LATER😮 So, I texted him :I think its best if we don't date. Communication is pretty chaotic on your end. I appreciate it when people communicating on time and they set a pace in getting to know eachother. Take good care and good luck with everything going on in your life❤ And BLOCKED HIM😂 No room for negotiation and manipulation. I'm done with this BS😅 Wasted three weeks in total, not bad right? I'm getting better at this😁 And I truly believe it's going to kill him because he has a huge ego....
Very true: *NEVER reward behavior that you do not want,* for example him coming and going as he likes.
If I’m silent it’s no game I literally have not a word to say I’m out
8:52 If you have to explain yourself to a guy once a week or even twice a month on what you're needing and wanting out of a relationship. Stop it! Go silent and make him get at back of the line. That hoodie looks suuuppper comfy btw!!
To be really honest, the real reason why we want him so bad to come back is nothing else - but to boost our bruised ego, because it feels god damn good to have him scratching on our door just to reject him over and over again. Usually guys come back the second we actually really really really moved on, and understood in our core we re much better off without him anyway. The game gets so boring the older you get. Its tragic really. After a while you can set your clock after when he comes knocking. So so so boring. And the older we get the less we are willing to give 2nd chances. It really come down to let him humiliate himself for our amusement. Guys that are running hot and cold and not to be taken serious. Hot and cold means NO, end of story.
7:58 “he’s supposed to court you… it’s not about investing resources, he wants the opportunity to (court you)… it’s him _choosing_ to court you (him trying) and you _allow_ it-that’s courtship”.
What I like about this coach is that he reveals what's going on in a man's head. I'm so glad I watched this video. I was seriously thinking about getting in touch with my "dismissive avoidant" ex and trying to work it out. Now I remember how much I hate him and why,.
😂😂😂
You hate him 😂 sheesh
Let's be open and frank here- if you've been played, taken for granted, discarded, no amount of 'silence' will make a blind bit of difference. They will simply 'move on' or moonwalk to the next victim like a 'smooth criminal'. 😢
Moonwalk😂
Yes I have mixed thoughts on this too. Lack of accountability and they just jazz hands on to the next poor lady.
Nice analogy 🌙 + 👟 👟
That’s not true!! The guy can like you and also play with you! Coming and going..
5 months of silence and I blocked him so he can't watch me on my professional Instagram. Trying to date new people.
I really find it hard not to reply to his Christmas message cos I do not want to ghost people. However, he does not want any commitment and we‘ve been through this conversation about 6 times. I am going to be silent and impolite this time. Hope its the right thing to do.
It is. He didn’t earn your response.
Are you serious? He's TELLING you he doesn't want commitment. You need healing from past trauma. Only Jesus can do that for you.
Don't be afraid to lose a man because men are like busses and there's always one coming down the street every 15 minutes
Skip over him and his nonsense.
He doesn’t need to commit because you’ve already committed to him.
I have shamelessly been chasing a guy (texting him and inviting him over on average two times a week). I have finally made up my mind to cut out this bs and raise my standards - I have not texted thus far this week and I’m planning on going silent. I’m curious to see in how many weeks I’ll get a text from him (I realize I never even give him the chance to text me first as I constantly do). I can keep those who are interested updated to see how long it takes…
Ty for breaking it down like that. U give a reason to boost one's confidence that they're on the right track but cud easily fall into the other end's charm or doubt one's sense of self cause we don't get captivating attention every day. Too bad though, the gaming becomes too ridiculous, they're playing it solo in their heads & it becomes about time to expose them.
Had a break up about a month ago and he said he would still be there if I need him and could reach out, he would keep my number, still wanted to be friends. I can’t do it though, I realized it’s healthier for me to just move on with my life because we can’t be just friends. Maybe he’ll come back, maybe he won’t but I refuse to be a “friend” for him to cling on to, that line was crossed when he opened those feelings of love in my heart and it’s not a faucet I can just turn off on a whim 😢 With time and reflection, along with no contact, it’s made my mindset better, we’ll see what the future holds 💕 (In truth, I feel like since the break up and getting over the initial grief, I am having the best time of my life and I’m here for it)
Best coach on CZcams ❤
A lot of times the quarrel about “daddy issues” etc still happen and they actually play games and don’t appear like they should. Even though you are arguing about each others issues, they still have excuses to not appear like they should and sometimes a break/silence is important when youre saying things and they’re not hearing.
Thank you for being older brother that i never had 🙏❤️
Happy new year 🫶
Love ur Video. Seems like someone is also been traumatized by a dry spell here🎉 I like ur honesty dude😂
Revenge? It's not about revenge. Or i love the man or i don't. In the second case no need to think about anything. In the first case and if he takes me for granted, yes then silence can be gold sometimes.
You keep slaying with these thumbnails 😂😅
I told him 10 years ago that I don`t love him anymore and he left. He never came back and I miss him enormously. Before that he was using me for maybe 20 years or more, because we know each other since high school. He was calling me when he wanted and I was always there. Now, we have mutual friends so I guess he knows how I am doing, but he never looked for me again. And it hurts me so much!
Journal! This is an unhealed childhood wound this is not about this man. You deserve real love and some part of you wanted to change him when he's just not a loving person period.
Thank you for your answer! Yes, I have many childhood traumas which I am trying to cure now.@@rebeccasaltzburg5553
@@rebeccasaltzburg5553I agree. Definitely unhealed wounds. She has a soul tie too.
Sounds a lot like the others said, very unhealed childhood wounds that isn’t only about this man but things you came into this with. I’m sure he is not the only person you had limerence with.
It is co-dependency too, so it would help you to do a lot of work and healing to get out of this type of holding pattern. You’re in a lot of pain because of things you’re coming from in childhood. Another term is people-pleaser.
Try to believe you deserve the love you want, and make sure you don’t settle for less, ever.
@@jadegreen1554 Thank you! Yes you are right!
I wish your guides could be ordered as a physical book instead of just pdf files on my phone.
Elliot ❤
I got u next time
I agree w the silence part. But how do you not see that giving it up BEFORE a commitment goes against Mother Nature??
Elliot is a bit of a mess. Pray for him.
@@danilaroche1156😂
But it's reality. More ppl fornicate before marriage than ppl that dont.
dated a guy who wanted to friends. so i treated him like a friend and it got to him and he blocks me.
Leave him be. He's flaky and stoopit.
im so heartbroken, 17 yrs ldr, on off relationship....😔
The tv show was called golden balls and hosted by jasper carrott YOU WERE RIGHT but if both parties chose the steal ball - they both go home with nothing so actually stealing doesn’t guarantee advantage for you my mum watched it all the time when I’d pop in for tea before going home she’d have it on tv
Been seeing him over a year off and on, he comes and goes. He was supposed to come over the other night. He actually was supposed to come over two night but flaked both and now he’s ignoring me. I messaged him this morning which was a mistake but I’m not going to contact him again and continue to focus on me. He’ll be back around but I’m going to handle it differently this time. Yes I want to still work it out with him but I’ll just have to be hard to get I’m guessing. Idk he’s super immature for an almost 30 year old.
If he texts sex I ignore him. Basically saying that what he is doing is not appropriate and crossing my boundaries
You should do some content on particular dating apps. Where to go for what you are looking for. What a messss these little apps are. Lol
Get off dating apps and go meet people in real life
How do you know when they’ve earnt a chance again though because by always stealing and never trusting it sounds like they’re left in the cold with permanance
Elliot - Is it any different if u dumped him 4 cheating ? I found msgs on his fone 😳 he says it’s not cheating, but it’s intent, the lookin, time, energy, effort, attention elseware he can go elsewhere 👋 any insight please ? 🙏
Silence there beheind
Why do you women give men wife benefits without marriage?
That's a huge issue. This is why women are so traumatized. It takes great strength, resolve and self control not to sleep with a man you love. This is why we need the power of Christ Jesus. It took me years to get to abstinence and it brings great peace. I'll sleep with my boyfriend after he puts a ring on it.
Because men and women value relations differently. What you see as wife benefits is just what women see as normal loving relationship activity.
But men see it as something else and punish women for not having the se world view.
Most of what men do around sex and sexual relationships make no sense to us either
People are ignorant to the fact that God created sex for love & commitment. There is something empty about sex without it. Like eating cotton candy..un fulfilling.
Cuz he tricked me into it. And I fell for him after I wasn't suppose to . The dude is a lozer everyone knows it but my heart now is blind and just wants them. I have iced him out but we're still friends it's a complicated situation.
That’s what I’ve been saying lol. After you fuk don’t stay the night with him & certainly don’t make him breakfast in the morning 😂😂!! You’re not supposed to stop dating other guys either.
What if your mouth triggers him like if you get viscious with things and curse him out and talk down to him bc ur so angry ? Im so confused
I was in dry spell relationship. Now dating with all these flaky men. Sex is awesome, but if I want to keep my standards I discard them and then the next one comes along, hence there emerges a rotation scheme. How to avoid that?
Wish I could do a session but I can't afford it. My ex fwb has given signs of both sides of what you have said.
Message me on Instagram I'll give you a big discount
Anyway, it appears most men will lie to you, overwhelm you with gifts, and tell you anything you want to hear, just to get in your pants.
I have been pretty close to throwing myself at my current person, because the tension between us has been palpable for months.....yet he hasn't stepped up the timeline at all.
So I'm glad I didn't give up the goods after all, no matter how badly I wanted to.
Wet both free and way past 21, he could have taken action too, after all. But it appears he can't even be bothered to spend time with me, in spite of all his lovely confessions and actions.
Yes, words should match actions.....but there've been more words than actions, so I'm done.
Another one encouraging women not to be abstinent and that a “dry spell” isn’t a good thing 🙄 ofourse a guy would say this. Elliot, you have good advice but I highly disagree with what you said about this. In fact, it’s slightly offensive.
I agree that for a woman, a "dry spell" is far better that chronic heartache, feeling used and losing self-esteem.
Agree with you both
@@MissSarahGM and being further traumatized by bad relationships and bad men
@@Diarrheagod Absolutely, better to take the time to heal and learn our lessons. There's nothing wrong with not sleeping with a man for a long time.
Elliot doesn't understand the sacredness of sex.
I caught him dating other women and he has been boasting his experiences with them in a yt channel. I told him how im sick reading it. I was so angry that I stepped back and did not look at my messages and I got tired, I stopped expecting him to be better. I was feeling okay after day 3 or 4, checked and he blocked me. He sent me a message then and probably wondering why I didnt respond 🤣😆😆😆 good riddance
Elliot is hot, I like this hoodie 😊
Will this still work if he sees my social media everyday?
Elliot you are against everything I believe in love, mechanical, logical, evolution and science lol but I still listen 😅
Can i get a lil advice? 5yrs together, broke up about a month ago. He took me for granted. No contact for a month, he's not on my social media anymore but i know he's watching. I have no interest to get back with him. My dilemma is he sent a Christmas gift in the mail for my cat, lol. I feel like I should say thank you....but maybe I shouldn't? I'm a stickler on thanking people and can't stand it when people don't. But maybe in this case I shouldn't? What you think?
Don’t. Ignore him.
Ignore
Say thank you . Keep it stiff
If you can stop at thank you, then go ahead. If you think it will open a gateway for him to get back in then don't.
Say nothing.
I met this guy in church. It’s nothing but small talk but I think he likes me. Do I ignore him??
No. You only go no contact, if he does something to hurt you or ignores you.
Get to know the new guy and have fun! Maybe you won’t have to use no contact. Usually it’s on particularly avoidant or emotionally unavailable men not really courting you.
So don't answer text or phone call than?
I'd be polite and see what he says. If he wants to try again..take it slow and don't sleep with him!
Wht if he see the photos. Or IG story during no contact
Lol😂this a dame shame but it's real😢
So it’s wrong to want commitment before being physical?
That's what i want before physical, but even then, they can fake that and still do dirty on youn
He needs to legitimately court you before being intimate.
There is nothing wrong with having standards and self respect / self protection.
Not sleeping with him for months is the best thing you can do. It increases a man's love hormone vasopressin and gets him addicted to you. This is based in science. Never give it up until you have secured what you believe you deserve.
If he’s not my man he can’t get my goodies. If he acts up we’re breaking up. Period.
He never talks about your silence in the video. It’s just a scolding session
Lmao😂😂😂😂😂😂
You never answer the question in your thumbnail
Y'all think an attractive successful man with options is going to be worried about you lgnoring him? He's going to move to
The next chick
Someone doesn't want the secret to get out. I'll have to make a video about Vasopressin on my channel since my comment about Vasopressin got deleted. I've been wanting to start a new channel anyways.
The secret isn't vasopressin, women have and bond on that psthway too.
The 'secret' is the average man can't access oxytocin or those pathways. Which essentially means men cannot love.
@@steph6109Vasopressin is the key to getting a man to bond with you. A woman bonds more with a man during and after int3rcours3. A man bonds with a woman when she withholds s3x and makes him work to court her and get to know her. I unknowingly discovered this. I had no idea what Vasopressin was or the function it played until I researched articles and authors in the scientific community.
@@steph6109 😲Who does research on this?
@@steph6109wow, that’s quite sad. No wonder most marriage fail