4 Aspects of Couple Compatibility
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0:00 Intro
1:08 1) Values
4:34 2) Communication style
7:21 3) Long-term goals
10:03 4) Everyday routine
12:25 Conclusion + worst trait for compatibility
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RE: Shared Values.
This is exactly why I never understood people who say "never talk about _______ on the first date/early in the relationship" because most of the time they're referring to topics that are considered shared values and I've always felt that those are huge things that SHOULD be talked about ASAP. I personally like to be upfront about those things to potential partners because I don't want to waste either of our time.
For example, marriage isn't for me and I don't want kids. Marriage I can compromise on; if it's important to my partner, I'll do it no problem... but kids is something I'm not willing to change my mind on, so I always make sure to let them know that early on so that if they do want kids, we can just go our separate ways now.
But people in my life have given me such a hard time for talking about religion politics, marriage, kids, etc. very early, they think it scares people off.... so its validating to hear that shared values should be taken into account for relationship longevity & success so I don't feel all that bad for my approach 😅 In my experience, it has always paid off to be upfront about these things.
it can be validating and come out as awkward. I am not sure, maybe you know better what they mean with the way they phrase it but i guess the idea is to let someone feel comfortable instead of scaring them right away. The way you will not let a kitten in a new place and act as if it has always lived there right a way. Instead you understand its need to explore slowly and get comfortable
Same. I’ve been in a 6-month relationship, and on the first date we covered stuff like politics, religion, marriage, kids, even sexual appetite! It worked out because we were both already on a similar level of maturity and our communication styles match. It sounds like we interviewed each other very coldly and calculatingly, but rather the attraction was there, we had a great flow and lots of fun walking around. It was just fairly natural for both of us to be upfront.
I hope you find your match soon :)
Thank you! I went on a date with someone who explained the same point as you to me and I do want kids so it was a deal breaker. We ended up having great conversation anyway and remain great friends now. I definitely value the honesty and being upfront in communication.
Kids is definitely something that an individual should be flexible on. Just because you don't want kids at 22 doesn't mean you're going to have the same desires at 32. It's not a values thing, it's a biology thing.
@@StephensCrazyHour Absolutely right. So silly to hear young people write off parenthood like this. Like she even understands the weight of that ultimatum she’s putting on her date.
Moral of the video: If you are ready to compromise then you are compatible.
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Just had an abrupt ending to a 2 year relationship where we had so many life interests and daily habits in common it was ridiculous. Unfortunately, she has a very avoidant style, is extremely emotionally withheld and uncomfortable with any sort of communication that brings up vulnerable emotions. I value over communication, until a deep level of mutually secure understanding gets fully rooted. She was more inclined to keep it light and sweep things under the rug until they explode in to a breakdown. No matter how much I talked about the importance of transparency and developing consistent emotional authenticity, she would continually resort to deactivation and distancing strategies with very little self awareness. I
My thought has been that with so many interests in common, this relationship was very much worth working out. She has a very different mindset. For her, it was mostly all about how it felt from one day to the next. In my view, a very unstable value system. And ironic, given how resistant she would largely be to difficult emotions, and yet relied so heavily on how “it feels” to the detriment of our relationship. Reminds me of another value I hold- trauma needs to be actively recovered from in the day to day, ‘cause it’s going to effect our behavior, may as well make a conscious effort of it, rather than let it take the unconscious reigns.
This is so sad--I went through a very short relationship with an avoidant person and I don't understand why they would rather leave than work things out. What are they hoping to find? Did she ever tell you why she left? Do you still talk? Did you figure out her attachment style (fearful or dismissive avoidant)?
I really thought this person was amazing and was excited that we were getting closer, and then they abruptly ended it.
Your situation sounds exactly like mine, which also ended two weeks ago.
I been there too unfortunately
I totally relate to this as someone who’s very extroverted and loves talking to the people I love.
I think it's really easy to over-value things like shared interests, because it's an area where it's really easy to see whether your're compatible, versus something like values or communications styles, which are deeper and take more digging to really understand. And in some cases, at least, people probably meet because of common interests, but it's a lot harder to meet by, say, communication style.
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I feel that too tho lbs
My bf is one the most relaxed laid back person as compared to me who is always trying to keep busy. I always thought that would be a deal breaker but surprisingly he calms me down to a point of relaxation I never experienced before and I some times Amp him up and encourage different things. The center of it all is the rest of your points. We're both so very compassionate to one another as well as others and even though we understand things differently, when we realized it, we agreed on communication immediately becoming our number one priority. We value our relationship and the positive aspects we bring to each other's lives.
I think the key thing is that you seem to be using your differences constructively to help each other out. With poor communication, it could go the other way -- you resent that he's not doing enough, he resents that you're pushing him to do more.
Re: shared values, thank you! can't be stressed enough. My ex and I were polar opposites but I always said opposites attract so I ignored it. I loved to be out and about and travel and meet new people and he loved staying home and being cozy and with familiar people. We fought over it all the time, whether it was him not wanting me to go out so much or me forcing him to come to social events with me. It could have never worked out in the longrun even if I felt like we were soulmates.
Now I'm with someone who values spontaneity and adventure and we have been on so many unexpected adventures together. Just like Ana says, you will just naturally gravitate towards people who share your values so this is not something you want to be opposites on
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Opposites attract can work out it all comes down to respect, compromise and understanding. You and your ex didn't work out because of your opposite values but because you didn't have those 3 traits for each other.
1. Values (example: integrity isn’t their core value so behaviors will not align to integrity); Religion/culture alignment
2. Communication style (assertiveness, passive aggressive, are they sympathetic to your style or clashing, how much do you like to talk or leave things unspoken, how loudly or softly do you talk, how blunt you are or how understanding you are of your
differences)
3. Long term goals (you don’t have to be aligned on every goal, but you do need to agree to compromise) lifestyle alignment
4. Everyday routine (sleep/wake cycle, need to complement each other) compatibility does not not equal differences; different diets, when they spend quality time together, hobbies, shared interests (more important than any other factor)
I just went through a breakup this week with someone who I have had many painful breakups with. I’m trying to let this time be the last time - sometimes two people simply are not compatible!! And it’s difficult to accept, especially when you both care about each other - but we do not share the same values or communication styles. Our relationship is full of miscommunication, distrust and pain. Thank you so much for your video, I will be using it to dig deep into this breakup.
Same, had to break up 3 weeks ago and it was hard because we care about each other and are attracted to each other but we just can't stand each other! We're too different in important levels mentioned in this video.... It just cannot be. Better be friends than end up hating the person
Same. I think it's sad that we both are stubborn. There were things I was willing to compromise for him but he wouldn't for me... and so I got tired compromising if it was only just gonna be me all the time. We like and care for each other but there's too much misunderstanding, miscommunication and hurt :/ we had been on and off .. idk when it's gonna truly stop.. it's become a cycle at this point, sadly.
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I recently ended a situationship because he did not want to commit. Told me I was being negatively evaluated for my boundary of no sex outside a relationship. And told me that he didn't want to meet my family.
He had to go.... That's too bad, I really liked the connection we had. But out values were clearly very different.
It was always strange to me how I felt kind of lost and uneasy in my relationships although my boyfriends and I were compatible in every way - until I figured out I'm actually a lesbian 😂😂
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@@Minkxox jesus doesn't, repent! The bible even described the vaccines and what's coming next. His wrath will be released on you sinners who don't repent! Humble yourself and repent
Lmao did you date me? In high school I had a few great girlfriends except they never seemed to be able to get into the sexual end of romance...turns out they were queer. Not sure what this says about me, but it's funny nonetheless.
oh damn
I'm trying hard to get my boyfriend to communicate more openly and don't let things bottle up but I'm kinda like that too, so i get where he's coming from but it's so frustrating when i try my absolute best to foster a positive communicative environment and it doesn't work, or at least not like how i want it too. Fortunately we are compatible on the other 3 traits!
I completely get that! On one hand it’s great to strive for the healthiest communication, and on the other hand it’s important to see where your partner’s communication style is coming from. I’m glad to hear you’re doing a combination of both, and it can definitely be frustrating to walk that fine line
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There is 5th aspect to compatibility and the last one is Respect! all the points you mention spot on! you just can’t build anything unless you respect one another. Remember the way you start out is how your gonna finish. Overall, great vid just missed out on the respect part from my perspective 🌴
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AGREED. Also politics wasn't mentioned in values. Maybe it doesn't matter to all, but I would struggle to even date a liberal, let alone a republican
My girlfriend and I have been together almost 5 years now. When we first decided to start dating I laid everything on the table for her regarding what I want out of the relationship (long term, marriage, etc), and told her that if she doesn't want that to tell me now so we can go our separate ways while we still liked each other lol.
5yrs. So are you going to marry? Considering you mentioned long term etc. I am the same. I used to be shy but now i place the cards on the table. If in 1.5/2yrs theres no marriage, or we are not compatible then im out the door
@@etcwhatever I most certainly plan on marrying this woman. I'm taking the time to cultivate the relationship. My previous relationship lasted about four years, and gave me two beautiful sons. Then my previous partner decided she wanted to cheat.
Now I have both my sons full time, and met a woman who respects me as well as gained another son and daughter (her bio kids that she has full time). We spoke and both agreed to take it slow.
@@northernnightmare7986 well i am glad u both agree. Thats is the most important. For me it needs to be faster but i dont have children and im catholic. Its essential for me to not have more than 2yrs as i dont want to live outside churches rules. If you know what i mean. All the best
@@etcwhatever I understand, all the best to you too!
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Communication style: passivity, aggressiveness, passive aggressiveness , assertiveness?
During conflict management.
How much or how little you want to talk?
How loud or soft you talk?
Blunt or sugarcoated?
Similar communication style.
Sympathetic and understanding of another communication style.
This is literally so interesting and eye opening!!! I literally sat down and asked myself these questions and realized I’ve never asked myself these before, yet had such clear answers, and it was so cool to realize and so important. I think more people should ask themselves these to be more self aware. Thank you so much, hope you have an amazing day!!
My ex becoming stubborn and never compromise on anything was the reason we broke up.
So that is a big deal.
I think there are a few basic things a relationship needs to thrive. Cooperation, reciprocity, affection (in various degrees oc), fun, honesty... Anyone who is too stubborn to compromise on anything, anyone who disregards your attempts to connect, etc. They will not be good in relationships.
I just discovered your channel, but already you have a new subscriber. I was looking at the topics you talk about in the videos and you seem so intelligent and knowledgeable about things and it's amazing.
I am a musician and it's very important for me for my potential partner to have an artistically-minded brain. Most of my family/friends don't get why I need this. It's really hard to find people like this in my area...I think I need to move to a major city. :/
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this is so true. i'm a huge nerd (literature and cinema in particular, but just live learning in general). i literally coudn't partner up with someone who doesn't read or is uninterested in intellectual stuff
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Really liked the video and feel that a lot of people need to see this to better understand their relationship ❤️
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Great videoooo! As always 😌
I just want to point out, that, in the long-term goals subject, compromise can also be translated as negotiation.
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Fantastic video, Ana! I agree with your point on stubbornness being the worst trait for compatibility 💗 it’s about compromise from both sides!!
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I've never heard anyone use Iranian/ Persian as an example. Thanks for including us 😭
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Hey Ana! Me again! Great video as always! The thing about values is very interesting. You have put safety and excitement (or let's say openness to new experiences, that are not necessarily always safe) on the same level, one being on the one side of the spectrum, and the other, on the other side. I've noticed in with working with clients (and in my own analysis), that once you've achieved basic safety (that being, safety that is innate, safety that is based on your own capacities to defend and regulate yourself emotionally) your start to explore more, and you start to get more open to new experiences.
Even though in clinical literature these two terms are usually opposed, my experience so far has taught me that most people, once they went through therapy, and "achieved" certain levels, start to explore and push boundaries themselves. Maybe in the future, we'll look at these terms not as horizontally opposed, but rather vertically.
Nevertheless, great video I really enjoy it! Big hi from Serbia! :)
That's a good point! I selected those two values at random, not because they necessarily seem polar opposites but rather because they seem to be somewhat in contradiction. I would agree that openness to new experiences can be fostered through a foundation of safety.
Your comment raises a good question about which values are truly contradictory and which can coexist. In the long lists of values that I've looked over, many of them seemed to cluster around similar themes (e.g. "excitement," "fun," "new experiences" are similar; "integrity," "honesty," "loyalty" seem to go together, etc.). It would be an interesting exploration to see which ones are truly in contradiction with each other!
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12:25, THIS PART!!! And this applies to EVERY relationships. Whether it’s at work, family, sports or anything else. This is definitely something I’ve been noticing in my life and plundering about lately.
this been so helpful
I'm not religious but I live in a country where 99% of people are muslim. I'm having a hard time to find someone like me who shares my values.
Great job
This was very helpful; I was getting worried about my compatibility as my partner doesn't like almost any of the same things as I do (she doesn't hate any of them but also doesn't have as much passion for them as me). She's sweet enough to watch me enjoy them though and maybe that's a sign they don't contradict her values
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This video was very Informative. I hope my future wife "wherever she is" has a chance to see this.
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Thank you Ana :)
I know this is an "old" video (relative to internet terms) but here's a curve ball at you (precisely because you are competent):
How do you communicate your values if you're stereotyped almost automatically by your surrounding environment (live in Neo-fascist Italy in this case) without ever being given the chance to transcend initial assumptions by conversing? One of the things that make me wish I lived in the US.
I have really been enjoying your videos- I'm also in grad-school for mental health, but I'm getting the more humble Master of arts in mental health counseling. **This** video made me like you more because of what happens around 4:37. It made you seem more human. And made me laugh. Thanks for leaving that in there.
welp...that last part about stubbornness encapsulates my feelings about my relationship rn. I see our differences as opportunities for growth while she seems to be set in her ways and is not willing to accept the differences or be flexible to compromise in these important areas. It's sad because until people like her change this mindset, I feel like they won't find success in relationships.
I was stubborn before, the earlier days of me and my partner's relationship. I am so glad I changed, not overnight though, or we would still be having arguments and such every other night.
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I clicked on this video because my partner said they didn't think we were compatible. We often argue about how to get things done in the house or anything in general. It feels difficult to disagree w him, I told him that it seems like he only wants to hear yes from me. And that if thats what he expects of course he'll be unhappy. I told him that sometimes compromise is necessary but he doesn't seem to want to compromise at all... I want to show him that compromise doesn't have to be something negative but idk how
I'm hoping that at some point in my life, my values can be respected for once by someone who's mature enough to see and understand them. Values in friendships are one thing; I know when to walk away or to end things if something isn't working. It just feels as if it's going to take time for me to recognize the green flags and hold onto that healthy, long-term relationship/marriage.... living the single life can only bring me so much fulfillment some days.
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Hi can you make a video on how we can identify our own values?
I love your enthusiasm. Your probably fresh out of school. It'll be interesting to see if your attitude towards the book knowledge changes as you become more experienced personally.
I’ve started dating someone recently. He’s much older than I am but that makes him super self aware and mature which I find so attractive. However, we have such different lifestyles and I think it’s largely due to the age gap. We share the same values, communication is on point but long term goals r something we should probably discuss soon. Idk... the lifestyle thing seems like it can work with compromise but I’m still not sure. Also, I’m not sure we’re sexually compatible which would be a big deal cuz I’m a very sexual person. I guess we have to just take it day by day and see. There’s so much potential here but I’m still not convinced it can really work. Ugh!!!
I laughed so hard through this video. Me and my soon to be ex husband clash on all of these four points and one of his main characteristics (according to both me and himself) is that he is stubborn AF, and he knows it. Not really a shocker why this didn't work out between us...
really good points, could you also cover the so called chemistry and also why the other person might retreat when they realize someone they like is starting to have feelings for them?
Good question!
Well, your list is accurate to why it did not work out with Ex 2. All 4 items.
It's not stubbornness if two people are on career paths where the two-body problem cannot be solved to determine a common location. That is why in general it is not wise to pretend that there is a relationship if either partner's values are that their career takes priority in their lives, unless one agrees they will go where the other feels they need to go.
My partner is a Filipina and catholic I'm English and a atheist, we get on amazingly well, we have quite a bit in common and never fight
so glad I watched this, all my life, since my early twenties, I always felt more THAN ANYTHING I was with someone with the same values as me. So I was right! ok.. great! I think my current partner is not my best match. (I am widow thats why dating again)
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Compromising for most relationships don't work. It's either or not IF SO THAN...that give and take falls in line with understanding, accept or don't accept.
Well, I'm glad I'm not dating you
What about moving to Pennsylvania? We have southern summers and northern winters! Great vid! I really resonate w everything you said. Also just someone wanting to compromise with you really speaks a lot about love.
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Thank you for the amazing video! I am fully aware of the fact that long term high quality relationships always take a lot of work and always compromises, as no person on this world is tha same. What I struggle with often is one question: The lower the compatibility is based on values, everyday needs etc. the higher compromises are needed, right? So the more different my partner and I am, the more we both have to "sacrifice" our athentic self from time to time in order to get along well and connect. What is the point, where it is too much? when is the partner maybe just not the "right person" for me and when is it just a thing of working on the relationship? It would help me so much, if someone shares their experiences
I would say attachment style compatibility is one of the most important ones. Also sexual compatibility.
I’m a muslim dating a christian, we are still in our early 20’s and have no idea what is gonna happen in the future :”)
Haram lol
@@mirzakalamujic5460 Dont judge. They can respect each others religion. Its not easy but not impossible.
Values are essentially the same. The rest is a story whether pertaining to Jesus or to Islam s Prophet . Key is human respect and appreciation of each other.
One or both of you are compromising your faith. God says not to be unequally yoked. How will you raise kids if this continues? Which holidays will you celebrate? Do you want them to convert? Be prepared for them to never convert and for you to attend your religious services alone.
I used to be Christian, now non-dualistic. Both your beliefs are fingers pointing to the same moon. Hope it works out for you.
Wow even #1 already makes me realize how differently I always thought about what constitutes "value". But it's true... My ex and I were together for 6,5 years but my very high Sensation Seeking (Zuckerman, 1965) wasn't the best fit with her borderline generalized anxiety. I guess I value new experiences while she values her comfort zone.
...and #3 killed our relationship in the end. She finally admitted (to herself, most importantly) that she probably will never want kids.
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I know I’m late but I hope you know that the state of MA was never desegregated and it shows in the lives and behaviors of many. The south looks great to people in the north and the north looks like paradise to some in the south.
The differences show up as covert or secret and honest or blatant racism.
Picking poisons as fake allies vs clear enemy territory 🤷🏾♀️
There is peace to be found in knowing how to move around both
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Thinking about ending a relationship that is becoming very frustrating lately. She's a good person, but I don't think she can relate to me at all. I have expressed how I sometimes feel abandoned and how it seems our communication is just one sided. I do all the work and when I leave her to her own devices, she doesn't bother writing me at all. We almost had an understanding about how spending time proper with each could help us understand how we feel about each but she insists on bringing her work routine to it, one thing that actually was the cause of us not being able to meet the previous weekend. She doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. It's as if she disregards my feelings and the value of my time.
Hi ana, thanks for all the content, and maybe u can do a video on how to manage dating with a borderline. its a difficult time and i really love my couple but need help for coping
Noted!
Do you mean a person suffering with 'borderline personality disorder'. We are people
The language is a huge part of the stigma. The Internet has fucked people with this disorder, behave.
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Stubbornness 100%. My ex would have ideas in her head about what she wanted and then when she expressed them to me and I disagreed, she’d say that *i* had “shattered her hopes and dreams”. Like what? At first it was fine but as the relationship went on, it was so draining for me to feel like I had to fit into her little box or else she’d get extremely upset. I think she just didn’t want to compromise and eventually it led to me being unhappy and ending the relationship.
My potential partner’s music taste matters to me because there are a lot of songs, artists, and genres that bother me or don’t put me in a good mood.
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Kids is a really tough one to compromise on, especially if two people are on either sides of the spectrum i.e. one has always wanted kids, the other never wants kids. I don't know that it's possible to compromise in that situation and have everyone be happy. I'd be worried about my partner either missing out on a huge aspect of life or doing something they never wanted to do. Huge potential to be a big regret either way
I agree. People who were co-erced into having kids are often abusive I’ve noticed.
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I'm going to argue that a couple who are both passive aggressive are terrible together, based on personal experiences. They always end up being petty and horrible towards eachother
I asked why my ex can't treat me with respect, he just said he doesn't know how. Still makes me angry and confused. He just can't? Ok, this relationship was over before it started, because he just can't. Later he wrote a novel how it's my trust issues and I have impossible list of demands (like respect). Do I really? He never talked about his list of ideas what I should do, but judging his behavior: reading his mind, knowing everything he needs without saying, no communication about any issue because only bad people do that, i have to stop being too sensitive and take every bs in and keep it there, also I have to trust him even when he is obviously lying about everything. I think my list was pretty reasonable compared to his.
Good riddance :)
respect is a basic line for even friendship. If he really isn't respecting you, he is incompatible with EVERYONE
He's overtly unhealthy, if not abusive - saying this as the guy who was unhealthy if not emotionally abusive in my first relationship and didn't respect (or know how to respect) my partner. Understand - my not knowing how to treat people with respect absolved me of nothing, I still had an obligation to treat them and others in general with respect regardless. They finally cut off contact - and it forced me to learn to be a decent human being, though we definitely can never be together again. So I'm grateful they did it. Don't doubt yourself on this.
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You can’t “compromise” on having kids.
You have forgotten Love Styles and the love languages. These two aspects should also match.
After several years of therapy, I have zero clue what my values are. I guess that means I’m in compatible with everyone.
What makes you feel sad, or angry? What do you deem unacceptable, or impossible to understand?
What makes you feel awe, joy, pride, faith? What do you wish people/the world were like?
What would you willingly put yourself in an uncomfortable situation for, to sustain/defend? What would you sacrifice, and what for?
You wouldn't be compatible with me. Empathy and human rights are good values to start with.
@@No-ky3kb Empathy and human rights are no brainers for me. Of course they are important. This isn’t good enough.
@@erindabney2758 GOOD because they are values, and they aren't no brainers for all people. Pretty much all values derive from these. So maybe your problem isn't that you don't have values, but that you don't pay attention to them, or you haven't developed yourself in regards to living in coherence with them
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Omg, where did you get that T-shirt from? I love it!
I got it from Red Bubble, hahah had never heard of it before but it was the only place I could find this quote printed on a shirt
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One thing that I've struggled with over and over again with my partner is our values.
Not so much our contrasting values, but my lack of values.
Perhaps you could consider not subscribing to any specific values at all to be a value within itself, but right now I can tell my boyfriend will get bothered by my seemingly aimless take on life.
and it's true, I don't seem to have values of anything beyond basic survival/comfort.
I'm not religious at all (he isn't either, but has his own ideas about god) but it really does feel like he has guidelines for his life while I have nothing.
Anyone have any thoughts on this?
Wow! All these stars have to align. I'm going to be single forever lol
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I don't think they all have to align... For me I think that would be unrealistic 😅. My partner and I have a lot of similarities, including the same values. However, our ways of communication differ MAJORLY. This can cause difficulties (esp. in the 2nd year of our relationship - post honeymoon phase) but I think all of the good things about our relationship are worth a bit of extra effort in that department 🙂
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