Post-Marriage Reality Check: Are You Ready for the Test? | THE BITTER TRUTH show
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- čas přidán 11. 07. 2024
- On this episode we have a number of guests and have a discussion regarding family court, divorce, breaking the ties of kinship, marriage & lots more and how these issue are affecting the closed communities, especially the Muslim community. This is the real bitter truth.
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Chapters:
0:00 - 03:00 Guest intros
03:00 - 15:00 Family court
15:00 - 30:00 Kinship
30:00 - 40:00 Reality of divorce
40:00 - 48:00 Being optimistic and not being victims
48:00 - 56:00 Practical advice for marriage
56:00 - 01:01:00 Rights and responsibilities
01:01:00 - 01:07:00 The real test is after marriage
01:07:00 - 01:10:00 Previous asian generations
01:10:00 - 01:22:18 Women's incentification for divorce
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Great chat as always brothers
May Allah grant you happiness and success of both worlds Dr Asif.
The people of Gaza will remember you for decades
The system is Broken, I have no more energy to fight for my rights
Really good conversation with the brothers
Baraka Allahu fik brother Farouk great content as always thanks to all brothers in the podcast and also shout out to brother @AliDawah for sharing his platform to help make the young generation aware of this pandemic called Divorce within our community....
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy are communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
Mate, this is one of the best videos you've made.
Thanks mate appreciate that, plenty more panel discussions to come going forward, to try and address and cover all angles.
It was my idea 😂
So good to see Brother Em - so much love and prayers for him
JazakAllah brother
It wasn’t until I watched red pill content that I had any concerns for my sons, as a mother, it’s easier to resonate with men’s movement if you want to increase the chances of your kids being happy in their relationships
Alhmd after seeing this I decided to create pre marital coaching for our sisters
Great to see everyone’s contributions for the community❤
How you doing brother??? Long time no hear.
Bro, next time get Jeremy on this show. He also has a lot to offer and this can be used to benefit him too and inshallah one day he will become a muslim
awesome!
Fantastic podcast! Ma sha Allah.
We need Mahdi Tidjani on podcasts like this.
Once the platform gets big enough, we can get him on. Keep spreading the content and keep pushing it bro. ✊✊❤️
@@disqualified_dadsI mean you can get him on he did do a podcast with Ahmed rihadahan
Women who choose to divorce and have kids, if they are misguided will do anything to cause problems in their ex's life. These women suffer from SMMS (Single-Mother Malicious Syndrome). So she uses her bad experience of marriage to cause parental alienation of the kids from the ex-husband without any care of how it affects the kids (complete selfish behaviour). And it is a fact, women in UK certainly have a monetary incentive (benefits and the oppressive CMS).
Little do they realise that if they continue this path, Allah will humiliate them, in this life and the next. Allah is All Just and He will not burden a soul more than it can bear. Brothers affected must be patient, make much dua for yourselves and your children.
Thank you for watching and thank you for your input, great points highlighted, very well articulated. ✊✊🙏
I think this conversation should have more stuck to what advice we can give men rather than what both men and women should do.
My only advice is be redpill aware and learn the ugly truth about women and what strategies you can use to make sure she has a deep desire to be with you, obey you and be submissive to you (in halal ofcourse). Women are less likely to do this to men she truly desires and are hooked onto and are attracted to them that much.
For example, men should create a dynamic where the woman is constantly trying to keep him happy than the other way around. You dont want to be needy, women hate needy men. Women hurt men that they consider weak or someone they can manipulate. This is why women hurt men with kids because she sees him as weak and not desirable to him.
Men should use their attention as currenncy that is valuable, and something she has to earn.
Men from day 1 must never give the impression that he will never leave her, or that he will never marry another wife. Women like to be kept slightly on her toes. Annoying or not, it keeps her slightly nervous and his willing to out more effort to please you.
Put expectations on her to please you. If you are then please with her and you do her any favours, she will appreciate it more.
Redpill has a lot to teach us men. Just take the good and leave the bad.
Great input, well said.
I 100% agree with you bro red pill saves lives but the reality is fathers have no real rights,the point of marriage in the profhets time was that marriage acctually gave men rights over their kids and if your child was born outside marriage you had no right to them but in todays world its almost as if every child is not legitimate she can just take them away and you cant do anything about it
So let's focus on fixing the core issue which is the laws so that fathers have rights to their kids other than that RP can be very helpful I mean a lot of muslims will tell you just stick to quran and hadith but those same people will tell you what you should have done and not done,frame about not being a simp and you will be there sitting I did what you did i read hadiths😅acctually this reminds me of a ali dawah podcast were they was talking about cheating and he mentioned a brother that was too nice and tried to make her happy yet got cheated on and I was like hold on you were just yapping about how men should be more nice and be there emotionally yet you blamed this brother for doing what you exactly said to do😂
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Sallam Brother,
Nikah-Only marriage is the best preparation that has been mentionesd.
Sallam,
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy are communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
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Practical advice to young unmarried men:
1. Are you as the husband marriage material? Do you know how to be in happy relationships? Are you talkative? A good listener? Do you like to go on holidays? Have money, good fitness, etc? Do you have good relationships with your parents, siblings, friends and work colleagues?
2. Is she marriage material? Does she have good relationships with her parents, her siblings, her friends, her work colleagues? Or does she moan and complain all the time? How does she react to disappointment and people saying no to her?
3. Don't rush when choosing your wife. A quick wrong decision in your 20's could ruin the rest of your life.
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy our communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy our communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy are communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism, emasculated, simping and pandering Imaams to feminists in hijaab and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
What is this channel all about??? Promoting pessimistic views and sad news???
No it is about much more. Watch some more podcasts.
Very good topic & discussion, many of these are needed and to go more specific in areas with real practical, meaningful solutions as you have been doing Brother Faaruq and appreciate all your efforts & the Brothers all have good intentions & mean well, however some words of advice to this dismissive, totally un-islamic, inhuman approach of many Brothers in these very serious matters.
Born Muslims like the smaller Brother talking about suicidal brothers, depressed etc in a very dangerous, dismissive, unmerciful, no Islamic compassion arrogant manner & using his sheltered life to apply wholesale to others as if his reality is applicable to everyone else especially reverts and he then says he's a coach & a mentor, please don't be as he lacks empathy, compassion and cannot ever put himself in someone else's shoes.
Don't ever speak for revert Muslims as born Muslims you can never relate to their lives and journeys and born Muslims are in reality part of the problem pushing reverts away and making Islam look very bad even to the non-Muslims. Born Muslims need to sort out their own house before even talking to reverts about anything.
Facts also thinking about suicide is such a easy thing to dismisse if you have not been through it,I have never had such thoughts but in some situations such thoughts can come for exampel imagine a father that has gone through paternity fraud raised kids and find out they are not acctually his imo thats one of the few situations were I would fall Into such temptation gladly thanks to male spaces I have learned that this is a issue that can come so I will avoid it by having a dna test inshallah.
Where's Ali Dawah? Where's Mohammed Hijab? Where's Myron Gaines/Fresh and Fit? You should @ these channels into the title of the video. @AliDawah @MohammedHijab @FreshFitMiami . We need to grow the channel, the subscribers, the views. Great content.
Number 1 practical advice for all men, married or not is have you truly been taught & understand Islam as it should really be as no masjid or madrasah in the UK has ever fulfilled this holistic teaching of Islam from the core as it was taught in the times of Prophet Muhammad, the sooner we wake up to that and realise that then maybe real change can occur in Muslim communities, as mosques, madrasas etc have all failed the Muslim communities for generations and it is only getting worse no matter how many more mosques etc are built they are absolutely not fit for purpose to preparing anyone for anything let alone marriage, let's start there instead of jumping ahead and missing the elephant in the room.
All the Muslim communities problems start from the institutions set to supposedly be the bedrock of nurturing the Muslim community, the next generations, families etc and they have been nothing but at the root cause of the destruction of the Muslim community for generations by not addressing issues like what these Brothers are addressing and they never prepared Muslim men & women at each critical stages of their lives for anything, never mind marriage, the mosques are not fit for purpose.
Many will ignorantly get triggered at this & spew out examples to try and counter this blatant reality but never the less and no matter what anyone says, this is the reality mosques have no practical function for anything that is at the heart of creating healthy families and a strong community that would not fall victim to the non-Muslim society around them, the Jews of Stamford Hill have their own community and follow their own laws within their communities and they are allowed to do that without any involvement of the UK government, yet Muslim are the complete opposite, we pander and enable the non-Muslim to destroy our communities by not addressing serious fundamental issues.
The mosques are used for politics, money, ignorant, out of touch, decrepit committees, tribalism, nationalism and the most incompetent, unqualified out of touch people run them who are only concerned about how things look and not the actual reality on the ground, as long as it continues like this then the problems these Brothers are discussing will continue to get worse because the mosques from the start have completely failed to address and prepare the Muslim community for this fallout of living in the West and they are still failing Muslim communities with their meaningless plasters over gaping wounds, major, critical, life saving surgery is required and it all starts in what is meant to be the spiritual centre of the Muslim community, nowhere else.
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