Things that may keep a spouse from forgiving and moving on: 1) they sense their partner’s lack of true repentance 2) their partner continues to be deceptive about other things, 3) their partner shifts the blame for their past actions, refusing to accept full responsibility for their sin.
Will do. I suggest prayer and fasting if you can. I also hope you have a wise, trusted advisor or mentor. Not a peer who doesn't bring wisdom and scripture into her counsel.
@@RCGWho thank you so much. Yea I’m currently looking for a mentor on this. Definitely not sharing with any peers and it’s difficult holding this all in. I am trusting in God tho.
There were a lot of good points in this episode. One thing that’s important to keep in mind is there are two sides to every story. We’ve only heard the wive’s story. Appreciated the discussion.
Great episode. I am emotional thinking about all the people who are probably praying over the couple who wrote in after hearing this episode. It is amazing to think about the intercession that might occur. Lots to take from this.
I pray that the couple go to their pastors for deep counsel/shepherding on this matter. I agree with you all. Christ laid his life down for his bride. *agree
God's forgiveness erases the sin. We are a new creation. Old things pass away, all things are new. Praise God. God walks with us. When these emotions unfold, we ask God to give us the strength and wisdom to handle it.
I had a couple of friends in college. I'm not sure the sexual history of the guy, but I think he was a virgin. He dated a super sweet girl who was a new believer and had had a serious relationship prior and was not a virgin. He became very abusive to her. It was weird. You meet this lovely girl and proceed to pick her apart. I think this is a jealous, abusive person holding their past against the woman. It's a self-righteous person not walking in the Spirit. He's letting satan lie to him and mess with his mind. My husband had a past. I knew about it in general terms, not details. I had seen other women torture themselves by asking detailed questions about those former relationships. I just knew it was unwise to conjure up images of the past. If it's forgiven, let it go. I don't listen to secular/CCM music anymore, but needtobreathe has a lyric, "leave the past right where it's at."
More Heart, Less Attack Needtobreathe Be the light in the crack Be the one that's been there on a camel's back Slow to anger, quick to laugh Be more heart and less attack Be the wheels not the track Be the wanderer that's coming back ***Leave the past right where it's at*** Be more heart and less attack The more you take the less you have 'Cause it's you in the mirror staring back Quick to let go slow to react Be more heart and less attack Ever growing steadfast And if need be the one that's in the gap Be the never turning back Twice the heart any man could have
What a fantastic episode. This is such an important subject, and it's pretty rare that discussions about it go deeper than "It's in the past, God has forgiven them and so have you." So thank you for talking more about it. ❤
This is an abusive man hiding under the guise of purity culture and Christianity. I pray the church counsel they go to does not minimize the inappropriateness of his “jealousy” and anger he is displaying.
My heart breaks for this woman. I’m sure her husbands pain is very real, but he sounds as though he is holding onto some entitlement and lies from purity culture. I pray he can mature in his relationship with the Lord before this sin on his part does even more damage to his wife and their marriage.
I would love for you guys to share your story of this personally happening in your marriage. It’s so common like you said for marriages to experience this and it wld be nice to hear a story of how to navigate this in a healthy matter. What it actually looks like, what changes are put in place to make sure it doesn’t happen again or what not. It’s helpful to hear others redeemed stories and wld be much appreciated! Thanks
It is also perhaps wise to renounce all demon spouses. Break soul ties as he might be picking up kn a 3rd party in the spirit realm. We need to renounce sin confess sin and turn away.
While neither my husband nor myself is happy or proud of our sinful pasts (we both had our "wild years")...it has made for a truce where neither of us feels like we can hold something over the other person's head. When someone has truly repented and is now leading a Christian life, shoving their face in past mistakes shouldn't be done anyway.
Things that may keep a spouse from forgiving and moving on: 1) they sense their partner’s lack of true repentance 2) their partner continues to be deceptive about other things, 3) their partner shifts the blame for their past actions, refusing to accept full responsibility for their sin.
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Agreed!
Currently going through a similar situation. It is difficult and heartbreaking. Prayers for my husband and I are appreciated.
Will do. I suggest prayer and fasting if you can. I also hope you have a wise, trusted advisor or mentor. Not a peer who doesn't bring wisdom and scripture into her counsel.
@@RCGWho thank you so much. Yea I’m currently looking for a mentor on this. Definitely not sharing with any peers and it’s difficult holding this all in. I am trusting in God tho.
Just don't ask Reddit or Quora! Lol
There were a lot of good points in this episode. One thing that’s important to keep in mind is there are two sides to every story. We’ve only heard the wive’s story. Appreciated the discussion.
Great episode. I am emotional thinking about all the people who are probably praying over the couple who wrote in after hearing this episode. It is amazing to think about the intercession that might occur. Lots to take from this.
I pray that the couple go to their pastors for deep counsel/shepherding on this matter. I agree with you all. Christ laid his life down for his bride. *agree
God's forgiveness erases the sin. We are a new creation. Old things pass away, all things are new. Praise God. God walks with us. When these emotions unfold, we ask God to give us the strength and wisdom to handle it.
This one was good. It's more common than not that couples deal with this. Great episode so much to take from.
I had a couple of friends in college. I'm not sure the sexual history of the guy, but I think he was a virgin. He dated a super sweet girl who was a new believer and had had a serious relationship prior and was not a virgin. He became very abusive to her. It was weird. You meet this lovely girl and proceed to pick her apart. I think this is a jealous, abusive person holding their past against the woman. It's a self-righteous person not walking in the Spirit. He's letting satan lie to him and mess with his mind. My husband had a past. I knew about it in general terms, not details. I had seen other women torture themselves by asking detailed questions about those former relationships. I just knew it was unwise to conjure up images of the past. If it's forgiven, let it go. I don't listen to secular/CCM music anymore, but needtobreathe has a lyric, "leave the past right where it's at."
More Heart, Less Attack
Needtobreathe
Be the light in the crack
Be the one that's been there on a camel's back
Slow to anger, quick to laugh
Be more heart and less attack
Be the wheels not the track
Be the wanderer that's coming back
***Leave the past right where it's at***
Be more heart and less attack
The more you take the less you have
'Cause it's you in the mirror staring back
Quick to let go slow to react
Be more heart and less attack
Ever growing steadfast
And if need be the one that's in the gap
Be the never turning back
Twice the heart any man could have
What a fantastic episode. This is such an important subject, and it's pretty rare that discussions about it go deeper than "It's in the past, God has forgiven them and so have you." So thank you for talking more about it. ❤
This is an abusive man hiding under the guise of purity culture and Christianity. I pray the church counsel they go to does not minimize the inappropriateness of his “jealousy” and anger he is displaying.
My heart breaks for this woman. I’m sure her husbands pain is very real, but he sounds as though he is holding onto some entitlement and lies from purity culture. I pray he can mature in his relationship with the Lord before this sin on his part does even more damage to his wife and their marriage.
I would have loved to hear the prayer out loud. Our words have power over the broadcast.
Thank you for this episode. Helpful all around.
I would love for you guys to share your story of this personally happening in your marriage. It’s so common like you said for marriages to experience this and it wld be nice to hear a story of how to navigate this in a healthy matter. What it actually looks like, what changes are put in place to make sure it doesn’t happen again or what not. It’s helpful to hear others redeemed stories and wld be much appreciated! Thanks
I love how you guys are saying you’ve been guilty of these things too and how Elijah is apologizing again and realizing he’s done these things too ❤
It is also perhaps wise to renounce all demon spouses. Break soul ties as he might be picking up kn a 3rd party in the spirit realm. We need to renounce sin confess sin and turn away.
What is a “demon spouse”?
Thanks for sharing
While neither my husband nor myself is happy or proud of our sinful pasts (we both had our "wild years")...it has made for a truce where neither of us feels like we can hold something over the other person's head. When someone has truly repented and is now leading a Christian life, shoving their face in past mistakes shouldn't be done anyway.
What if the person doesn't confess sin. We still need to forgive but we need to bring it up again.