Helluva Boss Therapist Analysis: Were You Raised by a Narcissist?

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    Join psychotherapist Georgia Dow as she delves into the character of Stolas in her latest Helluva Boss analysis video. Explore Stolas's upbringing under a narcissistic father and the profound impact it has had on his personality and relationships. Gain valuable insights into the dynamics of narcissistic parenting and its lasting effects as Georgia examines Stolas's character development. Don't miss this insightful exploration of family dynamics and psychological trauma in Helluva Boss.
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  • @GeorgiaDow
    @GeorgiaDow  Pƙed 16 dny +92

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    • @kwitshadie6539
      @kwitshadie6539 Pƙed 16 dny +2

      Thanks so much Georgina.
      My Step-Dad was raised by Narcissists. My estranged Biological Father was a Narcissist whom lost his privilege in raising me after a Domestic-V Incident when I was 2.
      Is there anyway to help Parents who are victims of Narcissism; maybe through an Octavia episode? :)
      Thanks so much for all you do. :)

    • @LesOubliesQuebec
      @LesOubliesQuebec Pƙed 16 dny +2

      i found that video really hard to watch because in too much of it make me remember on how i was and still is. But thanks you and I'm getting my weekly psychotherapy so getting better.

    • @grantpflum6844
      @grantpflum6844 Pƙed 16 dny +1

      Blitzo next! Also can we talk about how great it is that you got over 4 thousands likes and not a single dislike?

    • @area52ron
      @area52ron Pƙed 15 dny +2

      Fun fact: the white splotches on imps are scars

    • @astilealavatica1404
      @astilealavatica1404 Pƙed 15 dny

      I sincerely enjoy my therapy sessions with you!

  • @douglaspope-gz1eq
    @douglaspope-gz1eq Pƙed 16 dny +1413

    More accurate title raised by narcissist married to a narcissist I feel so bad for Stolas

    • @area52ron
      @area52ron Pƙed 16 dny +165

      Forced to marry a narcissist just for political things yeah I definitely feel bad for Stolas that the only joy he has in life is Octavia and BlitzĂž

    • @MonsterPrincessLala
      @MonsterPrincessLala Pƙed 16 dny +83

      To be fair, it's pretty common to marry a narcissist when you're raised by one

    • @TheRealDickmasterAdam
      @TheRealDickmasterAdam Pƙed 16 dny +70

      ​@@MonsterPrincessLala and even more common for arranged marriages in rich and powerful families like Stolas'.

    • @cartersouthern
      @cartersouthern Pƙed 16 dny +38

      Surrounded by narcissists

    • @origamipein18
      @origamipein18 Pƙed 16 dny +12

      We all do, baby. ):

  • @Nozferatu46
    @Nozferatu46 Pƙed 16 dny +1329

    I named my, now 11 month old kitten, Stolas.

    • @vickymc9695
      @vickymc9695 Pƙed 16 dny +76

      Aww I bet he's a cutie

    • @toxic_195
      @toxic_195 Pƙed 16 dny +25

      Good.

    • @dragonova279
      @dragonova279 Pƙed 16 dny +57

      Yes, beautiful. Now all we need is a crown and a red ginger about 3 years younger andd call him blitzo or for speed Blitz

    • @LOLrpop
      @LOLrpop Pƙed 16 dny +11

      HAHAHAHDHDJIS THATS SO CUTE WHA

    • @Dumber_than_dirt7000
      @Dumber_than_dirt7000 Pƙed 16 dny +9

      I’m stealing your idea

  • @Tailsgothicangel1
    @Tailsgothicangel1 Pƙed 16 dny +655

    A BlitzĂž video is gonna be wild condering how insecure and depressed he is. He legitimately doesn't value himself at all and talks terribly about himself which is a form of selfharm.

    • @billcipher1523
      @billcipher1523 Pƙed 16 dny +37

      Well that's not exactly self harm because self harm is physical. It would moreso be called self hatred or low self esteem

    • @Shammrye
      @Shammrye Pƙed 16 dny +18

      I’m excited for her to go over the whole IMP company!

    • @shiroyasha9623
      @shiroyasha9623 Pƙed 16 dny +26

      He also risks himself out of all the photos he has in his house,when Loona brings him home from Beelzebub's party you can see he just risked himself of all the photos,this is so sad man.

    • @bethanyboarder7751
      @bethanyboarder7751 Pƙed 16 dny +5

      Sooo...me?

    • @sociallysatanic
      @sociallysatanic Pƙed 16 dny +6

      i would absolutely love to see that video

  • @icemagiciangh3268
    @icemagiciangh3268 Pƙed 16 dny +291

    “There are so many different issues with the people in Helluva Boss.” Girl, you can say that again

    • @darkvizardking69
      @darkvizardking69 Pƙed 16 dny +28

      There's enough people with issues in this show a therapist would get pushed up to Stolas' tax bracket.

    • @tscaglione131
      @tscaglione131 Pƙed dnem

      ​@@darkvizardking69lets be real, they'd be Mammon's Tax Bracket

    • @darkvizardking69
      @darkvizardking69 Pƙed dnem

      @@tscaglione131 honestly yeah, you're right about that lol

  • @kaelalist9656
    @kaelalist9656 Pƙed 16 dny +832

    After this analysis of how Paimon's parenting affected Stolas, it really makes it so much clearer to me how hard Stolas is trying to be a present and attentive parent to Octavia. He comforts her after a nightmare as a child, he takes her to LooLoo land because she loved it when she was younger, and when he realizes that she's not having fun, and that she's scared of losing him while his and Stella's divirce is happening, he listens to her and consoles her, and then asks her what she wants to do, and is willing to do that instead even if it's not something he would enjoy as much. Even when he makes mistakes as a parent he adresses it and does his best to make things right.

    • @Mediados
      @Mediados Pƙed 16 dny +87

      When you have parents with terrible traits it usually goes two ways I noticed. Either the people become like their parents, or they want to be everything their parents weren't. Good to see Stolas is the latter.

    • @MrBern-ex3wq
      @MrBern-ex3wq Pƙed 16 dny +32

      Yep. That's how it goes. I always remember how my dad's behavior hurt me and vow "I will NOT be like him" when I do. And I'm not even married! I'm not becoming a father any time soon.

    • @SauceyRedHN
      @SauceyRedHN Pƙed 15 dny +26

      @@MediadosThe latter thing could also be to a detrimental level. If you were raised by excessively protective and strict parents, for example, and you want to be a parent completely opposite to that, you might end up with giving your kid(s) _too much_ freedom.
      It’s a balance.

    • @bakayaroonna8
      @bakayaroonna8 Pƙed 15 dny +8

      Why we love DaddyHootHoot so much!

    • @bryanmiller8604
      @bryanmiller8604 Pƙed 15 dny +14

      @@MediadosThere is a third way. You realize how terrible your parents were, how ruined as a person you are, & choose never to have children, thus for your part, taking the responsibility of ending the cursed abuse. That was my decision.

  • @justincatoe9868
    @justincatoe9868 Pƙed 16 dny +484

    Stolas is such a sad character, poor guy just wants someone to love him and want to be with him.

    • @callanbarclay1248
      @callanbarclay1248 Pƙed 16 dny +32

      I’d be friends with him

    • @amanawolf9166
      @amanawolf9166 Pƙed 15 dny +21

      Agreed. Stolas is a goofy guy, but he's hurting. Blitz is the same with that ending where he goes home and cries being the most damning. I kinda sympathize with him about that feeling of isolation. It's hard to realize, trying to do better myself, that there are people around you that do care. It's a dark, lonely road.

    • @TheStraycat74
      @TheStraycat74 Pƙed 12 dny +3

      Same. I had Blitzo's abuse and Stolis' neglect.

  • @FRU70BOY
    @FRU70BOY Pƙed 16 dny +188

    *That's a Therapy, Gabriella.*

  • @PikachuFoodie
    @PikachuFoodie Pƙed 16 dny +417

    I remember as a child I really wanted to have my party at the skating rink. My family went there a lot, maybe two or three times a month. I wasn’t a kid that asked for much. My parents said they would try. My mom was dropping me off at school and said, “We booked the party at the bowling alley.” I replied, “Oh but that wasn’t what I asked for.” She started screaming at me and told me that I was ungrateful. That I was lucky I was even getting a birthday party. I said I was sorry. Later that same year my younger sister got to have her birthday party at the skating rink.

    • @CharleeRed
      @CharleeRed Pƙed 16 dny +80

      I'm sorry you had to experience that.

    • @mekiherring2088
      @mekiherring2088 Pƙed 16 dny +42

      thats rough buddy

    • @catdogmousecheese
      @catdogmousecheese Pƙed 16 dny +59

      You know that reminds me of this one Christmas where my parents bought me the exact same video game they got me last year. However, I was smart enough to keep my mouth shut and just smile and say thank you.

    • @origamipein18
      @origamipein18 Pƙed 16 dny +17

      Mother(bleep)-er. ):

    • @kwitshadie6539
      @kwitshadie6539 Pƙed 16 dny +11

      Yeah like children would remember that kind of detail, seems like a blind thing for your parents to consider. :/

  • @helenanilsson5666
    @helenanilsson5666 Pƙed 16 dny +279

    Fun fact: both fathers (Paimon and Cash Buckso) in this episode are voiced by the same voice actor - Jonathan Freeman. Better known for his role as Jafar.

    • @km1dash6
      @km1dash6 Pƙed 16 dny +43

      😼 the range on that man.

    • @totoramao
      @totoramao Pƙed 16 dny +20

      Woah I didn't know at all
      That's seriously impressive

    • @Love2Banime
      @Love2Banime Pƙed 12 dny

      Great actor

    • @LightningPie
      @LightningPie Pƙed 10 dny +4

      I could hear a bit of Jafar in Paimon but I didn't recognize him as Cash Buckso. Great range.

  • @User-VerseS
    @User-VerseS Pƙed 16 dny +324

    It came full circle when Stolas almost made the same mistake as his father. He didn't want to deal with an emotional problem so he went to the circus. Season 1 - Episode 2, in order to get away from his POed wife, Stolas took his daughter, Olivia, to the circus. Worse, he brought the imp he was having an affair with. It all came to a head where Olivia stormed off, but Stolas cared enough to find her and realize he was wrong for dragging her there. Then he asked her what she wanted to do.
    Seeing Helluva Boss again showed Stolas' growth from how his father raised his child.

    • @zeldaprincessgirl100
      @zeldaprincessgirl100 Pƙed 16 dny +37

      It's Octavia lol

    • @User-VerseS
      @User-VerseS Pƙed 16 dny +16

      @@zeldaprincessgirl100 Whoops

    • @professorbutters
      @professorbutters Pƙed 16 dny +40

      You might make the same mistake, because people aren’t perfect. But recognizing, apologizing, and fixing the behavior makes all the difference.

    • @michellewest4796
      @michellewest4796 Pƙed 11 dny +6

      Yeah, but his early care for Octavia makes me lean toward a mistake commonly made even by the most loving parents. She admitted that she did love to go there as a child, but she's in that teen angst changing where she wants to separate herself from childhood and the vision she had of their "happy" family. She's raised by a narcissist, too. Stella may care for her but also not at the expense of her own comfort, also uses her to get back at Stolas.

    • @hadrianhexe9603
      @hadrianhexe9603 Pƙed 5 dny +3

      @@michellewest4796 Exactly what i've been saying. Like people were saying Stolas is a bad parent for not realizing she didn't like it when for all he knew, she was just being an angtsy, sarcastic teen, not that she really didn't want to go.

  • @WintersAce
    @WintersAce Pƙed 16 dny +135

    I know it awful and everything but when paimon says "cease this bitch crying" has such an amazing delivery and makes me chuckle a bit every time

    • @wildfyah
      @wildfyah Pƙed 15 dny +13

      I laughed so bad at that but I know my mother is a lot like that. She can't stand kids crying. She also gets mad at anyone displaying any emotion that isn't happy or content

    • @sarahlandis289
      @sarahlandis289 Pƙed 14 dny +4

      @@wildfyah yikes.

    • @KBRoller
      @KBRoller Pƙed 4 dny +3

      @@wildfyah When I was very young once, my father said something that hurt my feelings, so I started crying. He didn't try to comfort me, just ignored it; so I kept crying. Finally, when he got tired of hearing it, he dragged me into the backyard, wrestled my shirt off to "get all the anger out" (because apparently he can't tell sadness from anger), then held me upside-down by my ankles over the pool until I was too scared to keep crying. When he put me right-side up again, he asked why I was crying, and I told him what he'd said had hurt my feelings; to which he responded, "No one can hurt your feelings unless you let them," and that was it. No responsibility, no comfort, no empathy... just blamed me for being a sad child and physically assaulted me so I'd shut up and stop annoying him. It's the only time he ever put his hands on me, and it was like 25 years ago, but I can never forget that.
      The whole time, my stepmom stood to the side telling him "this isn't the right way to handle this", but did nothing more to try to stop him.

  • @jubileebaby0
    @jubileebaby0 Pƙed 16 dny +158

    Stolas brings Octavia to Loo Loo Land under the misconception that it will cheer her up just like how Paimon took him to the circus. Despite Stolas being genuinely dedicated to making Octavia happy, he still overlooked just how much she hated being there like how Paimon did with him.

    • @catdogmousecheese
      @catdogmousecheese Pƙed 15 dny +28

      Well, I think in the case of Stolas taking Octavia to Loo Loo Land that wasn't so much Stolas didn't care about Octavia's feelings as it was Stolas having trouble accepting his daughter's growing up.
      There are some parents, like Paimon, who just can't wait for their children to be adults and taking care of themselves, but then there are some parents like Stolas who never want their kids to grow up and just want to read them bedtime stories and tie their shoes for them forever.

    • @michellewest4796
      @michellewest4796 Pƙed 11 dny +5

      Octavia admits that she used to love going there as a child. Young Stolas appears to have never liked the circus. Probably overstimulated and uncomfortable. He made a mistake but it wasn't from not caring what she wants, it's from trying to turn back time a little, to what used to make her smile.

  • @greenskull3384
    @greenskull3384 Pƙed 16 dny +306

    This follows. Stolas is a psychologist's field day! Never thought I'd see the day that Georgia Dowe reviewed Helluva Boss 😂

  • @SyllaAria
    @SyllaAria Pƙed 16 dny +87

    As someone raised by a narcissist, I feel like if I SPEAK I’m taking up too much space.
    So much of this speaks to my experience.

    • @sarahlandis289
      @sarahlandis289 Pƙed 14 dny +1

      I want to give you hugs and tell you you're not taking up too much space. And stop saying sorry. (I have a friend who constantly apologises for everything. I tell her to stop and she apologises again, it's funny even though I'm trying to reassure her.)

  • @lexibarnett9125
    @lexibarnett9125 Pƙed 16 dny +185

    My dad is a narc parent and I cling to Stolas so much! He's the father I WISH I had.

    • @firbolg
      @firbolg Pƙed 16 dny +16

      Same here! Both my parents were narcissistic.

    • @user-pj4hy9ex4d
      @user-pj4hy9ex4d Pƙed 16 dny +9

      Same ..ı kin him so bad :')

    • @timothymelvin7450
      @timothymelvin7450 Pƙed 16 dny +12

      I’ve heard it before that,
      we become the person we wish would have saved us.

    • @Cosmic-Clod
      @Cosmic-Clod Pƙed 15 dny +2

      Real

    • @UnkownWonders
      @UnkownWonders Pƙed 14 dny +1

      Sameee, I'm more like Stolas is so me

  • @mew2.025
    @mew2.025 Pƙed 16 dny +181

    So his name is Blitzo. You are correct. In the same episode, we see him talking with Stolas, and when Stolas asks if there was an o at the end of his name, he says the o is silent now. Meaning at a certain point in time, he decided to stop referring to himself as Blitzo, and to start referring to himself as BlitzØ(Blitz).

    • @GavinBisesi
      @GavinBisesi Pƙed 16 dny +34

      Blitzo was the name he used in the circus. After he left, he changed it to BlitzĂž. You can see posters on the wall in various places of him as a circus performer and the "o" in the posters is slashed out in marker to be a Ăž. That's why he had such an emotional reaction when Stolas mentioned the "o"

    • @Thoralmir
      @Thoralmir Pƙed 16 dny +23

      Probably explains Stolas' attraction to him: he's one of the only people in his life that _isn't_ a raging narcissist.

    • @Kayta-Linda
      @Kayta-Linda Pƙed 16 dny +19

      @@Thoralmir
      Right, he’s *just* raging 😅

  • @pathfinderGM
    @pathfinderGM Pƙed 16 dny +86

    Hey can we have a part 2, seeing how this affects stolas as an adult. And how he is suffering and he latches on to one thing that makes him feel better to a detrimental degree. It's clear he is a better father than his own dad but it's also clear he has a hard time placing himself in others shoes.

    • @toomanymonkeys21
      @toomanymonkeys21 Pƙed 16 dny +12

      Haaaa, she’s gonna have to bleep so much of what adult Stolas says and does, more than is already bleeped out! It’s gonna be great.

    • @Juel13
      @Juel13 Pƙed 16 dny +15

      What's funny, I've seen in other places that owls/birds imprint on the first thing they see as parental/affectionate figure. Since Stolas is basically raised by imp servants, it's no shock his first true friend - and the person he wants the most as a partner - is an imp.

  • @amynickerson3793
    @amynickerson3793 Pƙed 16 dny +64

    I also always hone in on the fact that Blitz's dad asks, "Don't you want to help your mom and me?" And Blitz says, "Of course I want to help mom." Pretty telling even at a young age.

  • @fluidwolf
    @fluidwolf Pƙed 16 dny +107

    Would love a video on adult Stolas. He's a big ole barrel of issues but it would be nice to see how he compares to his dad and how his connections have effected how he acts and treats others.

    • @Shiftarus
      @Shiftarus Pƙed 16 dny +7

      Maybe a good discussion to be had I his daughters video of there is one

  • @Drudenfusz
    @Drudenfusz Pƙed 16 dny +60

    I really hope that Stolas and BlitzĂž will eventually work out, they certainly are already both much better fathers than they had.

    • @AH-is5yg
      @AH-is5yg Pƙed 15 dny +6

      I hope things will work out, but there are going to be challenges for them to face.

  • @melodystarlight7933
    @melodystarlight7933 Pƙed 16 dny +220

    I’m so glad that you’ve started watching Helluva boss!

  • @jfrancis232
    @jfrancis232 Pƙed 16 dny +58

    as a child of two narcissistic parents, I feel this in my bones

    • @wildfyah
      @wildfyah Pƙed 15 dny +4

      Same. I'm away from them now and no longer feel bound to them, just trying to heal the pathetic person they made me

    • @jax99888
      @jax99888 Pƙed 14 dny +1

      Same

  • @italex827
    @italex827 Pƙed 15 dny +26

    For Blitz, I've noticed that the M&M's represent what he wants, FizzerOzzy represents what he CAN be with Stolas, and Striker represents who Blitz could become if he gives in to his hatrid.

  • @DanGamingFan2846
    @DanGamingFan2846 Pƙed 16 dny +376

    You did a great job making that Stolas cosplay. I'm so happy your covering Helluva Boss. This series is a therapist's goldmine. I feel so bad for Stolas, he just want be loved and feel real passion. And things only get harder for him as an adult. I'm glad he was at least able to break the generational trauma cycle and raise his own child with love and care.

    • @GeorgiaDow
      @GeorgiaDow  Pƙed 16 dny +65

      i know he is such a tragic tale but also so caring at the same time

    • @id10tguy
      @id10tguy Pƙed 13 dny +1

      @@silly_sparklewhat?

  • @nimainaieraka
    @nimainaieraka Pƙed 16 dny +81

    I cheered out loud to see your Stolas cosplay, it looks amazing! So glad you’re covering Helluva Boss. Paimon being a narcissist makes so much sense for how our owl boi turned out.
    I noticed that when Blitzo’s dad asks “don’t you wanna help out me and your mama?” Blitzo says he wants to help his mama, no mention of his dad, maybe a little of that resistance showing up?

  • @CharleeRed
    @CharleeRed Pƙed 16 dny +57

    your points about "i did this for you, now you have to do something for me" are spot on

  • @scottg7321
    @scottg7321 Pƙed 16 dny +27

    This made me realize that maybe the best thing Stolas' dad did for Stolas was not be present 😱

  • @ABook_ofRandom
    @ABook_ofRandom Pƙed 16 dny +49

    5:26
    It's also pretty horrible imo that he is (canonically) actually gay. So being, 1, forced into marrying someone you don't love, 2, not ever going to even learn to love them.
    This also reminded me of how at the end of the episode "Ozzie's" he tries to say something about his real feelings for BlitzĂž but his own feelings and opinions as a child being brushed off he has a hard time trying to say it, most likely afraid of ruining something with BlitzĂž. And BlitzĂž is used to not being cared for so he pushes it away like it isn't real because he doesn't know how to handle any of it.
    I'm excited for the rest of Helluva Boss and looking forward to maybe a BlitzĂž and/or Fizzarolli episode!

  • @jeffreyherrera5069
    @jeffreyherrera5069 Pƙed 16 dny +65

    Upside of Stolas being a son of Paimon: Having Jafar/emergency food as a parent.
    Downside or Stolas being a son of Paimon: Having Jafar as a parent with no emergency food.

  • @aroacehuntercanon4027
    @aroacehuntercanon4027 Pƙed 16 dny +75

    Please do BlitzĂž then I'd love it he's such an complex and well made character!!

    • @FireheadLazzo
      @FireheadLazzo Pƙed 16 dny +13

      I would be SHOCKED if she managed to get through the show without having thoughts on Blitzo

    • @aroacehuntercanon4027
      @aroacehuntercanon4027 Pƙed 16 dny +4

      @@FireheadLazzo fair enough lol

  • @panmopsel
    @panmopsel Pƙed 16 dny +27

    I love “therapist analysis” videos, because they are like therapy but actually affordable and better quality

  • @billcipher1523
    @billcipher1523 Pƙed 16 dny +129

    I love how much detail you put into your cosplays, you even did the little lines under stolas's eyes! I'm also really glad you're covering helluva boss, there's more episodes of it than hazbin hotel so there's way more detail to go off to look into the characters minds, I'm especially excited for a possible fizzarolli episode!

  • @kinosaga21
    @kinosaga21 Pƙed 16 dny +26

    Seeing Stolla's upbringing and life has taught me well that, while the wealthy don't need to worry about the financial stuff (food, home, shelter, cloths ETC) they very well have to worry about social pressures, keeping up appearances and expectations and even physical and mental abuse. its easy to forget that they are also human, special if they are brought up to think that everyone else isnt.

    • @sarahlandis289
      @sarahlandis289 Pƙed 14 dny

      Yeah, I think we've been conditioned as a society to believe that money will solve all our problems. I catch myself thinking that sometimes. If I had more money, I could make this problem go away, and that problem, and that one! I tend to forget there's problems people with money have.

  • @caitlyncpelletier
    @caitlyncpelletier Pƙed 16 dny +26

    I think we can all agree that little Stolas hooting is the most precious thing ever 😍 ❀ 🩉

  • @av_8596
    @av_8596 Pƙed 16 dny +64

    *Awesome* cosplay! Can't wait to see you as Octavia and Loona.

    • @anticarrrot
      @anticarrrot Pƙed 16 dny +11

      The luna costume interpretation should be ... interesting.

    • @GavinBisesi
      @GavinBisesi Pƙed 16 dny +8

      @@anticarrrot I want you to picture that moment where the whole IMP crew is looking right at the camera

    • @JohnWolf2007
      @JohnWolf2007 Pƙed 16 dny

      Same

  • @DrTimeSCPPsych
    @DrTimeSCPPsych Pƙed 16 dny +21

    I always love when someone notices how stolas laughs like his dad. Look at this episode and then back in looloo land

  • @pinkgazelle3445
    @pinkgazelle3445 Pƙed 16 dny +15

    So glad she started with Stolas. Easily one of my favorite characters.

  • @arendaria
    @arendaria Pƙed 16 dny +9

    My ex was raised by a narcissist and I learned that it can really change a person deeply and in a scary way. There were things my ex couldn't grasp about common sense and basic decency that were second nature to me but to him it was an alien concept.

  • @km1dash6
    @km1dash6 Pƙed 16 dny +22

    When I saw this episode if Helluva Boss, I it caused me enough anxiety that I wrote down to talk about this with my therapist. I identify with Stolas to an uncomfortable degree. My first boyfriend even got me an owl plushy because he said I reminded him of an owl.
    I'll also be taking notes from your video, Georgia, to talk about with my therapist as well. Thank you for making this video. And thank you for always being so awesome. Your intelligence and insights are admirable.

  • @Cloud_hair
    @Cloud_hair Pƙed 15 dny +7

    the more I look at newborn Stolas, the cuter it gets to me

  • @the_cass_castilian3653
    @the_cass_castilian3653 Pƙed 16 dny +17

    Stolas is such a comfort character to me, absolutely fits most of how I was raised and it makes me feel seen from how he is portrayed in the show!

  • @muffinkitty6904
    @muffinkitty6904 Pƙed 15 dny +7

    My dad is a narcissist, and it took me a while to realize that I have a hard time experiencing emotions. It wasn't until high school that I started to realize this. I was with a group of friends, and I laughed at something, and one of them told me that it was the first time they ever heard me laugh. That's when I realized that I didn't really show or experience emotions at the same intensity that others do.

  • @Kyrikrliy
    @Kyrikrliy Pƙed 16 dny +61

    Thank you, Georgia Dow, for covering Helluva Boss! I was hoping you would talk about stolas eventuallty, and i was kind of worried you'd stop doing these videos on the Hellaverse (or whatever it's called).

  • @vickymc9695
    @vickymc9695 Pƙed 16 dny +17

    Thank you so much for mentioning the wrist grab. My parents would hurt, and drag me and my sib around by our wrists. It freaks us both still as adults, and we've had to stop them doing it to my niblings.

  • @greenskull3384
    @greenskull3384 Pƙed 16 dny +27

    You could literally cover most of the characters in the show by just talking about their daddy issues back-to-back. Blitz, Moxie, Octavia, all daddy issues! Kind of wish they had sprinkled in some mommy issues for equality lol

    • @PeachBoba1523
      @PeachBoba1523 Pƙed 16 dny +19

      Having a mom like Stella would cause mommy issues

    • @greenskull3384
      @greenskull3384 Pƙed 16 dny +4

      @@PeachBoba1523 True. We just haven't gotten to see those issues with Octavia yet. Both episodes with her in them focused on her relationship with her dad.

    • @ohdahngboi_2237
      @ohdahngboi_2237 Pƙed 16 dny +13

      Octavia definitely has mommy issues, it’s just we haven’t seen Stella and Octavia interact on screen yet

    • @artemis754
      @artemis754 Pƙed 15 dny +5

      ​@@ohdahngboi_2237 from cues, stella seems disinterested and uses her as a weapon in the divorce. she doesn't really seem to care about octavia, so it seems that she is neglectful at best, and emotionally abusive at worst.

    • @aliceh5289
      @aliceh5289 Pƙed 14 dny +1

      Don't worry, we'll probably get plenty of that in Hazbin Hotel season 2

  • @samurexatlas7373
    @samurexatlas7373 Pƙed 16 dny +28

    I did not expect to be called out so much in the first half of the video.
    While not narcissistic, at least to my knowledge, my parents have had to work a lot in life, so time's never really been spent growing that bond. Not to mention they're from families who own tease just for fun so I've had that as an issue growing up and a mildly acquired trait.

  • @cherrybombwaffles518
    @cherrybombwaffles518 Pƙed 16 dny +12

    Blitzo is a character who has a chronic self-loathing problem just like Angel Dust. only through a different set of circumstances. I don't know if you plan to make anymore videos on Helluva Boss, but I just thought I'd give you an idea if you ever feel like it.

    • @beccamoore2402
      @beccamoore2402 Pƙed 16 dny +4

      I wonder if Blitz would fall into the category of borderline personality disorder. Especially since those who deal with BPD can be self destructive towards themselves and others

  • @sasuke451075
    @sasuke451075 Pƙed 16 dny +24

    I have a narcissistic Parent, it's very hard to navigate life when your parents emotions come first before yours, and that's speaking on the whole lifelong relationship with parents. If parents didn't help you work through struggles and problems as a kid, it will most likely be the same in adulthood which is very scary and hard because no matter the situation, taking on your emotions is too much work. If you're like me and taught yourself to guide your own way through emotions and growing up, and hard times etc. You should be giving yourself more credit because we are strong, even when we feel beaten down from this.. Stay blessed Georgia

    • @Angelica-sq9lh
      @Angelica-sq9lh Pƙed 16 dny +3

      thank you, my friend
      I'm having kind of a bad time right now, I needed these words

  • @CottonCandy_HoneyQueen_666
    @CottonCandy_HoneyQueen_666 Pƙed 16 dny +66

    Paimon's parenting is interesting to be honest like he may mostly care about only power and wanting a lot of heirs for some reason but at least he is trying to cheer Stolas up after hearing the arrangement marriage news even though the first method with it was a big face palm.

    • @skarlar-rx7rj
      @skarlar-rx7rj Pƙed 16 dny +26

      I think he was only trying to shut him up

    • @HeartlessSystem
      @HeartlessSystem Pƙed 16 dny +23

      ​@@skarlar-rx7rj Yeah, he was trying to make him shut up. Why he's also asking for Blitz, it's just to shut up his child not that he actually cares.

    • @user-hv1lv9tl7c
      @user-hv1lv9tl7c Pƙed 16 dny +21

      Paimon is that type of parent that spoils their children rotten just to bribe them off.

    • @jeffreyherrera5069
      @jeffreyherrera5069 Pƙed 16 dny

      That's why he's so good at daddy'ing 😂

    • @toomanymonkeys21
      @toomanymonkeys21 Pƙed 16 dny +10

      Because he likes the idea that he is the best at Daddying, not because he actually wants Stolas to be happy.

  • @Here-For-You
    @Here-For-You Pƙed 16 dny +10

    I had a coworker at a nursing home that told me how narcissistic and physically abusive her mother was and that’s why she ended up in that literal ‘caretaker’ role.

  • @justrandomstuff6828
    @justrandomstuff6828 Pƙed 16 dny +10

    Stolas was the first character I could relate in an emotional level, I've never seen a character show MY feelings on screen, it's why he's my favorite character of all time

  • @SauceyRedHN
    @SauceyRedHN Pƙed 16 dny +11

    HELLUVA BOSS!!!
    And we start with STOLAS!? Hell yeah!

  • @TheYorei
    @TheYorei Pƙed 15 dny +6

    Fun fact! Both Stolas' and Blitzþ's fathers were voiced by the same voice actor (Jonathon Freeman). I like to think it's symbolic that they both had such rough upbringings on different ends of the spectrums. I don't know if I am ready for the Full Moon episode, they need to talk so much 😭😭

  • @mystictirend1222
    @mystictirend1222 Pƙed 16 dny +8

    This just makes me feel even worse for Stolas, realizing just how hard he's trying not to be his father with his relationships with Octavia and Blitzo.

  • @WickWolfTiger
    @WickWolfTiger Pƙed 16 dny +19

    I'm just seeing this in my feed and I'm so excited. I love stolas so much. He's such a tragic character.

  • @johnkrappweis7367
    @johnkrappweis7367 Pƙed 16 dny +9

    One thing I noticed is that when Blitz’ dad says “don’t you want to help me and your mama out?” And Blitz replies “Of course I want to help MAMA”. Note - he doesn’t say anything about dad.

  • @FoxiestDuck
    @FoxiestDuck Pƙed 15 dny +6

    It's sad, that I can relate to Stolas a lot and I wasn't even raised by narcissist parents.

  • @TrueAstergo
    @TrueAstergo Pƙed 16 dny +20

    I’ve had person experience with this, and it’s nice having someone actually talk about it in detail

  • @Darth_Draconus
    @Darth_Draconus Pƙed 16 dny +17

    Regretfully, yes: I am the child of a narcissist.

  • @masonjenks7636
    @masonjenks7636 Pƙed 16 dny +9

    Can’t wait for more helluva boss video. I would suggest stolas part two as an adult. Another can of worms

  • @letssee8397
    @letssee8397 Pƙed 16 dny +32

    Stolas father is acting like the most gentle narcissist I've ever seen o.o

    • @GavinBisesi
      @GavinBisesi Pƙed 16 dny +31

      They tend to be extremely calm when they feel in control, IME. The nastier side comes out when they feel threatened

    • @timothymelvin7450
      @timothymelvin7450 Pƙed 16 dny +3

      @@GavinBisesi when it does, it really does.

    • @AmyAberrant
      @AmyAberrant Pƙed 16 dny +2

      It’s gentle cruelty

    • @egg_bun_
      @egg_bun_ Pƙed 16 dny

      ​@@GavinBisesi ACCURATE

    • @horstherbert35
      @horstherbert35 Pƙed 16 dny +6

      To the narcissist you are either an accessory or an obstacle to the narcissist's greatness.

  • @ccondelli
    @ccondelli Pƙed 16 dny +4

    I love this. You're going to have a field day analyzing Blitzo, he has so much trauma/self hatred

  • @yoseisovereign6728
    @yoseisovereign6728 Pƙed 16 dny +11

    Yay! I’ve been waiting for this! Thank you!
    Stolas and Biltzþ’s adult relationship is a fascinating cocktail of dysfunction, so I really hope this gets enough views to justify more on them!
    Trivia if you didn’t know, Stolas’ father has the same voice actor as Disney’s Jafar.

  • @amymiles6149
    @amymiles6149 Pƙed 16 dny +24

    Wonderful episode!! And really helpful to have an episode breakdown about growing up with narcissistic parents since I believe that’s what happened to me.

    • @LOLrpop
      @LOLrpop Pƙed 16 dny

      Ah
 that sucks man. You alright now at least-?

  • @heitorgonzalesneto9189
    @heitorgonzalesneto9189 Pƙed 16 dny +8

    The best cosplay until now🙌
    Georgia serving therapist analysis and talent with characterization

  • @jacquelynbabush7735
    @jacquelynbabush7735 Pƙed 15 dny +5

    1) This felt like the first half of a great piece on the development of Stolas' personality. PLEASE do a second, showing the adult Stolas, as a textbook example of an adult child of narcissistic parents! I'm thrilled with your Hazbin series, and this is a helluva episode 1 for Helluva Boss! 🎉

  • @TomboyCinder
    @TomboyCinder Pƙed 15 dny +4

    Just like my husband tells me about our traumas from life. "It's not your fault, but now it's your responsibility" really love your videos btw!

  • @EloraKay
    @EloraKay Pƙed 16 dny +6

    Georgia! I think you'd find it cute that at 11:49 Stolas' laugh is the sound a baby owl makes! :D the more you know!

  • @lunamomo
    @lunamomo Pƙed 16 dny +6

    stolas is my favorite character, he is a very deep and well written character, i want to protect him 😭 i love that you started this helluva boss series with him! maybe we'll have another video about his adulthood? 👀

  • @nikkialkema1032
    @nikkialkema1032 Pƙed 16 dny +16

    Yay. My favorite character first.

  • @LeaderLamby
    @LeaderLamby Pƙed 15 dny +6

    It's weird, Stolas IS objectively special, but he was never treated as such

  • @juliaboskamp9666
    @juliaboskamp9666 Pƙed 16 dny +7

    Well this explains why i got so emotional during Stolas scĂšnes with his daughter my dad is a Narcissist (got the diagnosis) and why i relate so much with him

  • @FreyjaMoonstone92
    @FreyjaMoonstone92 Pƙed 16 dny +7

    I need more! Lol. I was raised by a Narcissist mom. I was also secluded aside from my four older siblings (who had a different dad they could go to get away from her), and my three best/only friends growing up. This video hit really hard 😱

  • @EBThisThat
    @EBThisThat Pƙed 16 dny +7

    I relate to Stolas on a very personal level. After working on myself for 4 years, I still have abandonment, trust and imposter syndrome issues but I am so far better than I was going through the healing work that takes to integrate myself with others. To be honest, I haven't been this happy in a long time. I may never totally, fully heal, but even stained glass is beautiful when light shines through it. At least that's how the saying I've heard goes.

  • @The_dandy_zombie
    @The_dandy_zombie Pƙed 16 dny +10

    I squealed upon seeing this! I’m so glad there is a possibility I’ll see you dig into Blitzþ and all his issues

  • @theultimateusukfan
    @theultimateusukfan Pƙed 16 dny +4

    can't wait for more helluva boss. i find so many of their characters relatable, especially blitz and stolas. my father has narcissistic tendencies, and they still affect me as an adult.

  • @Fecatah
    @Fecatah Pƙed 16 dny +7

    When I was very young, I remember asking my Dad why people would want to have me around if I wasn't providing anything (such as being funny or buying things or whatever). He said people would want me around simply because I am me. I have never understood this, and it must have been true for a long time... But now, my (ex-) "best friend" decided they don't want to talk to me anymore, we used to hang out 3-4 days a week and with no communication no care or concern at all they just don't want to be friends anymore. I know it's their choice and doesn't have anything to do with me, but then how can I trust that anyone will want me around? who am I? clearly not a desirable person to be friends with. I complain too much and want others to actually care about me, but that is too much pressure on everyone else around me, its up to me to deal with my own issues and be happy-go-lucky, then friends will want to be around me again :)

  • @dougmartin2007
    @dougmartin2007 Pƙed 16 dny +21

    I want to see what you think of Loona. I see her as a person who grew up without any parental love, and now that she is showered with that love from Blitz she has no idea what to do with it.

  • @globbyakaweirdjellyguy954
    @globbyakaweirdjellyguy954 Pƙed 16 dny +5

    I just feel so incredibly bad for Stolas (and Blitzo as well) for having parents that just care so little about them.😱😱😱 To this day, I still do what Stolas does sometimes and apologize for things that don’t even really call for it or if I get excited about something I like but the other person is just tuned out, I apologize if I was taking away their time.😔
    There’s certainly a lot to work with with Blitzo’s upbringing as well as Moxxie being raised by a psychopath and Fizzarolli experiencing golden child syndrome/imposter syndrome/extreme pressure to perform well for the sake of the circus.đŸ˜•đŸ˜„ Just all of them having their own types of trauma.😱

  • @Rocelin13
    @Rocelin13 Pƙed 16 dny +5

    I don’t know if it is my trauma speaking but every time I watch that episode and Blitzþ’s father say “there are scarier things, aren’t there son” I feel my fight or flight activating.

  • @TheBigPenguu
    @TheBigPenguu Pƙed 16 dny +4

    Ms. Georgia, if you look at Stolas's text messages between him and BlitzĂž at the end of "Western Energy" what you said about poor Stolas thinking any negative things happening is all his fault really carries weight. This owl needs a hug, and bad.

  • @wynnefox
    @wynnefox Pƙed 16 dny +6

    man, this vibes so much with my relationship with my mother. I have been asked several times why I don't seek out a relationship and have kids and I always end up saying, "I'm too selfish and about myself. I seen how that affected me from my mother and I don't want to do it to any children of my own."

    • @iknowwhatyouare102
      @iknowwhatyouare102 Pƙed 16 dny +3

      It’s really admirable that you’re that self aware of your flaws. So many parents don’t have that ability and end up hurting their kids.

  • @H0r53f7y
    @H0r53f7y Pƙed 16 dny +7

    I'm hoping you consider for this series a video on relationship dynamics, since we have 3 different couples of note in this series that vary in functionality (Vortex and Bee haven't been shown as much, so while they are charming there might not be much to work with those 2). The pairing of Blitz and Stolas in particular is very controversial, as while there are major issues many of us still for some reason want to see it work and improve despite seeing the toxicity, and I have no clue as to why we value this toxic ship so much

  • @malcontent7
    @malcontent7 Pƙed 15 dny +4

    Little fun fact for those who didn’t pick up on it; Paimon is voiced by Jonathan Freeman, who voiced Jafar in Aladdin. As is Cash Buckzo, Blitzþ’s dad.

  • @theaceeditor11037
    @theaceeditor11037 Pƙed 16 dny +18

    I am always so happy when you post❀

  • @averageopinion1251
    @averageopinion1251 Pƙed 16 dny +4

    Love the fact that you are diving into Helluva Boss, I think that the characters on that show will have plenty for you to analyze.

  • @Got2BarrelRace4Life
    @Got2BarrelRace4Life Pƙed 16 dny +5

    Your Stolas costume is the best one you’ve done so far from the Hellverse! More more more cause Blitz is a whirlwind of a psychological case!

  • @felinavondraco9500
    @felinavondraco9500 Pƙed 16 dny +6

    Thank you for covering Helluva Boss. A friend recommended one of your Hazbin videos and since the former came first I had assumed you at least covered some things from that. I'm just happy that Helluva Boss is getting more eyes on it thanks to Hazbin Hotel.

  • @unicorndiy9313
    @unicorndiy9313 Pƙed 15 dny +3

    Honestly, I love that a) the characters are written so well that a therapist can talk about them, and b) that you were able to talk about them so well

  • @thecaptainsxyt
    @thecaptainsxyt Pƙed 16 dny +4

    I wasn't raised by a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits, but that comment about being around mostly adults and knowing how to interact with peers hit me hard. I struggle with keeping relationships to this day.

  • @bartonbrevis3831
    @bartonbrevis3831 Pƙed 16 dny +5

    More!
    Just because I eventually want to see someone try to address BlitzĂž, who has been referred to as a walking ball of trauma trying to imitate a person.
    Also, Loona's rejection issues, and Moxie's inferiority complex.

  • @FlybyStardancer
    @FlybyStardancer Pƙed 16 dny +4

    I’m so glad you’re looking at Helluva Boss!! And man, I thought I had read & done a bunch of deep dives on Stolas and Blitzþ, but you made a comment (about Stolas viewing attention as transactional based on Paimon) that unlocked a layer I hadn’t considered when looking at them as adults. Aaaaah!!

  • @saiynoq6745
    @saiynoq6745 Pƙed 16 dny +8

    Oh my I was so raised by a narcissist but who didn’t want me to be like them and so they just became absent I couldn’t click this fast enough

  • @miladdy
    @miladdy Pƙed 16 dny +5

    Excited for this to be a series. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on Blitzo's character, and his relationships with the remaining cast 😄 And maybe even a video on Striker?

  • @RyuKaguya
    @RyuKaguya Pƙed 15 dny +3

    "of course i want to help momma." Savage

  • @MoonEyes66
    @MoonEyes66 Pƙed 16 dny +5

    First Helluva Boss analysis by Georgia Dow let’s goooo! đŸ„ł

  • @happysmilesworldandgames8755

    4:15 stolas' mind: oooo, magic. Ooooooo shiny

  • @len_pheonix141
    @len_pheonix141 Pƙed 16 dny +4

    I was around a lot of people growing up that kindness was transactional. I’m a very giving person, but I hold back sometimes because I’m worried that the people I’m helping will think I want something in return, I don’t, I just want to be nice.

  • @turq99
    @turq99 Pƙed 16 dny +4

    I loved your insight and I actually liked what you said about questioning how nice people are wondering if there is an ulterior motive because I hear alot takes about Blitz needing to realize Stolas's feelings in the present when I think they both have confusion about motivation of their relationship do to experiences in their past leading up to their meeting again in the present. Even if we as the viewers can see that there are genuine feelings starting to develop. I would love you for you to analyze Blitz's bad trip in Truth Seekers, and Look My way the latest music video about Stolas. Oh and Ozzies would be a good thing to access.