How To Handle Long-Distance Relationships | Kingsley Okonkwo

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  • Handling long-distance relationships are not the easiest of things and I advise anyone embarking on that journey should be able to count the cost and do the work to make things work.
    Join Kingsley Okonkwo as he shares "How To Handle Long Distance"
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Komentáře • 779

  • @hazelmpasa907
    @hazelmpasa907 Před měsícem +8

    1) communication
    2) transparency
    3) shared activities, 4) discipline, 5) planned end

  • @FavourChina
    @FavourChina Před měsícem +7

    It’s how I’m watching this with him same time at a distance.
    It’s really not easy but we are intentional.
    Agreeing to pray every week together and watch relationship sermons every week too.
    Omo,we chat and call everyday😂.
    The fact that we’re in this LDR makes us accountable to each other for every tiny thing we experience or come across.
    We sing together and practically talk scriptures all the time.
    Mom calls us assistant Jesus😂😂😂

  • @uupeaceunique1284
    @uupeaceunique1284 Před 2 lety +490

    Thank you sir for this. Have been in a long distance relationship/ marriage for the last 6 years now although we make sure to spend time with each other physically yearly and by the grace of God this year will be the end to this distance. It hasnt been easy but our communication is very strong and we always pray together and for each other. Cant wait to finally be with the love of my life

    • @nexgenjacie
      @nexgenjacie Před 2 lety +5

      Please how do you do it cos my wife to be is being transferred and I would love to learn from you so we can make it work

    • @jacklinejematia1852
      @jacklinejematia1852 Před 2 lety

      @@nexgenjacie mn
      I ⁴4⁴⁴44347445

    • @radhiyamwaugali7175
      @radhiyamwaugali7175 Před 2 lety +1

      please telle how do you managed it

    • @alexconfidence2354
      @alexconfidence2354 Před 2 lety +10

      I dont actually agree that it doesn't last when both partners come together, it depends on the individual. If you are creative at distance then you can do great when you both are together. Infact it has been proven that sometimes people need short space to rekindle their love because those who stay continually get bored a times with each other.

    • @uupeaceunique1284
      @uupeaceunique1284 Před 2 lety +34

      @@radhiyamwaugali7175 honestly I would say that it is Our faith in God that is still keeping us strong. We don’t play with spending quality time together virtually . We talk on video at least 1 hour everyday and continue to text or voice call throughout the day, our policy is apart from God we are first in each other’s life before anyone or anything else’s ,We know each other routine .Another thing we do is no matter what we always try and spend time together physically every year and when we spend time together we try to just make up for lost time. Yes plane ticket is expensive because we live in two different countries but losing each other is more expensive. And do not underestimate the power of talking about your spouse, if you are in a long distance relationship and nobody knows then there is a problem.
      Finally we pray every other day, we share what we are going through and pray for each other and for our relationship.

  • @DrLucianno
    @DrLucianno Před 2 lety +109

    I feel like this video is for me. I belong to the third category. Doing my PhD in medical school in United States and my fiancee is in Nigeria. He has my time zone and there's two things I do; School and communicating with him. He loves talking and we spend two hours of his sleeping time talking and video calling. He's joining me by the end of the year for us to wed here and we've been together for four years. LDR comes effortlessly for me probably because we discuss everything and most esp we've been celibate all our lives. He enjoys reading my homework & presentation even when he has no idea of pediatric infectious diseases and we pray together sometimes. Honestly, it takes intentionality to keep LDR

    • @drrosewellness
      @drrosewellness Před 2 lety +2

      I wish you the best dearie.

    • @MakaveliThaDon444
      @MakaveliThaDon444 Před 2 lety +3

      I'm the same too my girlfriend is from Kenya we have been together for two years now and we are looking forward to getting married this year in September we spend a lot of time talking and video calling despite the time zone but we love each other very deeply

    • @ibrahimyunus5291
      @ibrahimyunus5291 Před 2 lety

      How does he handle his sexual life

    • @doreenchambers3763
      @doreenchambers3763 Před rokem

      Good video I love this communion.

    • @catherinenzebelie7374
      @catherinenzebelie7374 Před rokem

      Llll

  • @florencequaye614
    @florencequaye614 Před 2 lety +14

    Bring your phone along to the event! 😂😂😂 You are the one who committed yourself to LDR!

  • @insanegamer112
    @insanegamer112 Před 10 měsíci +32

    LDR becomes fun when you really understand your partner. I had lots of issue but i found a better way to communicate my feelings. Through couple questions games, where you add your preferences, next your partner has to guess. Lovify being my personal favorite, we got to know a lot about each other :)

  • @sibongilemwasile8111
    @sibongilemwasile8111 Před 2 lety +57

    I am glad...the passed weeks have been crazy, long distance is not for the faint hearted and requires work and effort! CHAI!

  • @ShengBelmonteOfficial
    @ShengBelmonteOfficial Před 2 lety +16

    LDR is challenging but worth it with teh right person. Was in unplanned LDR situation for almost 2 years cause of pandemic. I’m grateful that I’m finally with him now and married a little over a month ago 🥰

  • @phillipine1
    @phillipine1 Před 4 měsíci +3

    'Go with your phone to that event 😂😂😂'
    Past. K, you make learning about relationships very easy and practical.
    LDM is a blessing 🙌 🙏

  • @ofonbrillian2273
    @ofonbrillian2273 Před rokem +27

    People fall in love to whom they pray, with whom they pray and for whom they pray 🙏🏾

  • @gtstride
    @gtstride Před 2 lety +59

    I didn't know when tears almost ran down my chicks, it's really not being easy at all, honestly, I thank God for the wonderful daughter of his, he blessed me with. it is not easy. It is been God, & he alone deserves all praise, & It is soon ending by his grace.

    • @abobijonez2866
      @abobijonez2866 Před 2 lety +1

      I can't peck u on ur Cheek Baby, cus i'm far😭😭😭😭

  • @aliemansaray7707
    @aliemansaray7707 Před 2 lety +101

    Long distance relationships are not difficult to handle, you just need to
    1= communicate through phone calls, whatsapp and video calls
    2= You just need to be transparent and for any appointment you cannot meet, inform the person as earlier as possible for whatever reason. This is not too much.

    • @Adejola100
      @Adejola100 Před 2 lety +7

      Not difficult Humm🙄, I believe ure not in it, or ure a man that loves your space so much.

    • @sashilemla6229
      @sashilemla6229 Před 2 lety

      I thought so but eventually that wasn't enough for my hubby

    • @zayyadabdulazeez439
      @zayyadabdulazeez439 Před 2 lety +1

      Have u met sm1 who can't hold conversations, boring, always have negative thoughts and expecting the effort to be mutual even when u as the guy always have a hectic day.....like it's just a mess, I pray not to regret starting this cos it has begin to be love out of pity, I av totally fall out of love just can't run out
      #i_need_help

    • @ibrahimyunus5291
      @ibrahimyunus5291 Před 2 lety

      How do you handle your sexual life

    • @YeseerahALawal
      @YeseerahALawal Před 2 lety

      @@zayyadabdulazeez439 oops, please get her educated on your LDR professionally preferably. And if possible you can both talk about it, and be realistic about what you both want. From there, you'll both know what to do or how to go about it.
      All the best.

  • @ejekwoluchinweotuto7267
    @ejekwoluchinweotuto7267 Před 2 lety +6

    If you're going to do long distance, have money ... Data is not cheap, all the video calls and phone calls, and other things inclusive...
    Relationships become alot easier when the resources are there and available

  • @erioluwaoluwadiran4860
    @erioluwaoluwadiran4860 Před 2 lety +30

    Thank you for this Sir. Just got into a long distance relationship from being Physical..🥺🥺..But I trust God to keep us together. Amen

  • @Thinkcr8tiv
    @Thinkcr8tiv Před 2 lety +80

    Please we need a video of how to handle ourselves when we are finally together after a LDR.. God bless u, sir.

  • @chikumbimwenda9729
    @chikumbimwenda9729 Před 2 lety +44

    Sir, i agree with you, LDR isnt easy, i remember texting you over the challenges i was facing in the first few months, 2 years down and i was out. Yes we had a firm foundation, 5 years in a relationship and he relocated out of the country, 2 years in LDR and we were totally two different people, not to discourage anyone but LDR is not for boys for true, its for Men, you can do it at your own risk.

  • @MakaveliThaDon444
    @MakaveliThaDon444 Před 2 lety +9

    I have been in a long distance relationship with my soulmate and we been together non psychically yet for almost two years but by the grace of God we will be together happily married hopefully by 2022

    • @youngiizzy8933
      @youngiizzy8933 Před 2 lety

      ⏮⏮±2349047831758⏭⏭ Hello it's work I can't believe am with my lover again message her she can you too ..........,,,

  • @ogechioliver954
    @ogechioliver954 Před 2 lety +30

    Long distance relationships is serious work...God will strengthen us!

  • @ikennaene7829
    @ikennaene7829 Před 2 lety +53

    You are hitting all the points Sir. Long distance requires sacrifice and commitment. I am currently in one..
    God bless you PK 🙌🏽

  • @chenaimatowe3569
    @chenaimatowe3569 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much, Pastor Kingsley. Just what I needed to hear. I am grateful!

  • @KathyLearns3
    @KathyLearns3 Před 2 lety +5

    We did video calls like a huge part of the day and had meals together.. its hard work but if you invest in the relationship you will be able to maintain the relationship or even make it better when you finally reunite.. Put God First

  • @ngozioffor1204
    @ngozioffor1204 Před 2 lety

    Thank you Pastor for blessing my day🙏 this teaching is very impactful

  • @abongnielizabeth5113
    @abongnielizabeth5113 Před 2 lety +1

    Thanks Pastor K.I am so blessed by this.

  • @molokwuritaekene5325
    @molokwuritaekene5325 Před 2 lety +11

    I never really thought I would be in a long distance relationship but it sort of found me Pastor Kingsley. It's been 3 years plus now and you bare right it's tough and hard work. It's been topsy turvey attimes...We really need prayers and advice on this...I never thought the love of my life will be in a long distant...it's well

  • @olamidewilliams5638
    @olamidewilliams5638 Před 2 lety

    Pastor K Is always a blessing.Thank you so much Sir

  • @praise3700
    @praise3700 Před 2 lety +16

    Ahhh ahhhh I don’t know if my heart can take long distance relationships, I’ll worry to much 🥺. I’d rather have someone I can smell and hug whenever I want to, atleast the same country. You’ve made me understand that I’m this way because my love language is quality time…….

  • @opeyemiomoloja328
    @opeyemiomoloja328 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much Sir.....
    I really needed this right now

  • @tomisinakomolafe3904
    @tomisinakomolafe3904 Před 2 lety

    Thank you sir, this hit so differently listening to this. God bless you sir

  • @adebolaorinayo2146
    @adebolaorinayo2146 Před 2 lety +4

    Great to watch...... handling a long distance relationship at the moment too.......not so Rosy to have him out of sight though...lol.....but we have both been doing well with communication......most times, we stay together on video call when he is to cook, from start to finish, talk about Sunday service experience, he handles some online stuffs for me.....he has access to my mail..........and yeah, LDR is expensive.....lol....data must be available.....I pray to join him soon and just tie this knot......lol....I love man......thanks for sharing sir

  • @janicehowell2164
    @janicehowell2164 Před 2 lety +2

    You are a real blessing to the world pastor

  • @ekwemukachekwume322
    @ekwemukachekwume322 Před 2 lety

    Thank you PK for being a blessing to my generation, don't look at me like that cracks me up.

  • @nbfproduction1585
    @nbfproduction1585 Před 2 lety +4

    You're a blessings to this generation, thank you for all you do 🙏🙏

  • @Xtaamairo8020
    @Xtaamairo8020 Před 2 lety

    Am blessed with this, thank you sir for your teachings.

  • @Motun_oo
    @Motun_oo Před 2 lety +16

    "Other voices start talking to your spouse when your voice is absent"👌👌👌

  • @abolarinoluwafolakemi9269

    This has been impactful . Thank you for sharing this PK....

  • @asiwefavour6254
    @asiwefavour6254 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you very much sir for this powerful message.

  • @Fourportionsandmore
    @Fourportionsandmore Před 2 lety +1

    Each of you and your wife session has always been a blessing to me in particular! God bless you sir.

  • @kemioviebo4541
    @kemioviebo4541 Před 2 lety

    Thank you pastor. This was very helpful

  • @benitaadusei5800
    @benitaadusei5800 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you so much Papa❤️. We’re so grateful. This is a life saving message. GOD bless you sooooo much

  • @israelsarbah7260
    @israelsarbah7260 Před 2 lety

    Thank you… And may the LORD richly bless you

  • @Elohoralago
    @Elohoralago Před 2 lety +3

    This was impactful. God bless you PK. More of this for distance relationship.

  • @ernestappert
    @ernestappert Před 2 lety

    Powerful insight... God bless you

  • @Esther-vr8fc
    @Esther-vr8fc Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this. I've definitely learnt something

  • @marknyami4451
    @marknyami4451 Před 2 lety +1

    Beautiful piece sir... God bless you

  • @chukwuamarachi7858
    @chukwuamarachi7858 Před 2 lety +1

    That's was impactful..
    Thank you sir God bless you for all you do🙏❤❤

  • @nfor_honorine8692
    @nfor_honorine8692 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much for this Sir. Points well noted

  • @omejeceejay8891
    @omejeceejay8891 Před 2 lety +2

    You have been a blessing in more ways than one. Thanks for helping me sustain love in my marriage

  • @christianaedache9702
    @christianaedache9702 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much Sir for this wonderful teaching... I have learnt so much form this.

  • @mosesemmanuel1380
    @mosesemmanuel1380 Před 2 lety +2

    I love you so much sir, you are so focused on doing what you called for,I have learnt so much from you

  • @Kilali_
    @Kilali_ Před 2 lety +2

    THIS IS POWERFUL!!!!

  • @Chinonye1993
    @Chinonye1993 Před 2 lety +1

    So good, thank you so much sir for this video. Very insightful. God bless you!

  • @olukunmidamilare3293
    @olukunmidamilare3293 Před 2 lety

    Thanks so much for this, really an eye opener.

  • @manirakizajeanne3365
    @manirakizajeanne3365 Před rokem +3

    I have been in long distance relationship with my husband and at first it was not easy because we couldn't handle and control our imontions I could spend long time crying when I could think of him but WHEN WE STARTED PRAYING TOGETHER WE BECAME HAPPIER Thaks to Jesus

  • @edisonsandyministries1490

    Timely message. I needed it. God bless you MOG.

  • @chidinmajudith7679
    @chidinmajudith7679 Před 2 lety

    Thank you very much Pastor.

  • @ezinne_amaka
    @ezinne_amaka Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Sir. I was led to watch this video just at the nick of time.

  • @kopasam7662
    @kopasam7662 Před 2 lety

    Yes ooo it's adding value.. thank you so much

  • @bisiriyurukayatabiodun3833

    Thank you so much sir. I've learnt alot.. more grace in Jesus name

  • @TheWanaBeChef
    @TheWanaBeChef Před 2 lety

    Thank you P k
    You hit very key points

  • @sakerlyfri5182
    @sakerlyfri5182 Před 2 lety +16

    😭😭😭Can I just cry here? The distance ehhn can be so difficult sometimes, wish my fiancé can watch, these are things I have been trying to say. Thank you pastor K

  • @etz_ralph6714
    @etz_ralph6714 Před 2 lety +10

    I’m blessed sir! Thanks for sharing this message
    I got this “If you are not faithful in relationship, you can’t be faithful in marriage”

  • @okaredjebenedicta
    @okaredjebenedicta Před 2 lety

    Amen 🙏. God bless you pastor.

  • @tobaodeyemi1167
    @tobaodeyemi1167 Před 2 lety

    I have been blessed sir. May God continue to empower you with more wisdom (Amen).

  • @annetongzock3810
    @annetongzock3810 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much Pst Kingsley, you've hit the nail on the head with this video, I'm so blessed. The point on shared activities touched me hard, thanks for sharing your knowledge.

  • @egbosophia5783
    @egbosophia5783 Před 2 lety +1

    God bless you Pastor Kingsley 🙏

  • @88niteowl88
    @88niteowl88 Před 2 lety +5

    I kept laughing when he said, "Don't look at me like that. " Lol..

  • @jambanyam9005
    @jambanyam9005 Před 2 lety

    God bless you Man of God for this teaching 🙏😇🙏

  • @nathanieladumuah8654
    @nathanieladumuah8654 Před 2 lety

    Thank you man of God. You have answered alot of my questions with respective to this type of relationship.
    God bless you

  • @susanphilip-atuluku6982
    @susanphilip-atuluku6982 Před 2 lety +3

    Thank you sir, God will bless you and your beautiful wife for doing this continually and relentlessly over the years.

  • @rosemarynnadi6936
    @rosemarynnadi6936 Před 2 lety

    Thanks Pastor K, for sharing. God Bless you

  • @guswanki1524
    @guswanki1524 Před 2 lety

    Amen Sir, I was so blessed. Thank You

  • @luckyaghedo3920
    @luckyaghedo3920 Před 2 lety

    Another great message from K.O. you're a role model.

  • @onthego_tv7034
    @onthego_tv7034 Před 2 lety

    You’re blessing Pst K thank you 😊

  • @etapeashleyesonge3718
    @etapeashleyesonge3718 Před 2 lety +4

    Thanks for this video, i really needed it to build my relationship. God bless u sir.

  • @abimboladaniel1959
    @abimboladaniel1959 Před 2 lety

    I'm so blessed, more grace Sir!!!

  • @blessingokoro702
    @blessingokoro702 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you so much pastor for this wonderful massage 🤗🤗🤗, I'm so delighted I listened and learnt from it. Just started mine and hoping on God that the end will be joyous.

  • @ifunanyapamela5950
    @ifunanyapamela5950 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for this wonderful talk ..it's really impactful

  • @MayWeather007
    @MayWeather007 Před rokem

    I swear this Is so heard... and yes shared activities is amazing.

  • @janeumerika7779
    @janeumerika7779 Před 2 lety

    Amen, thank you sir. God bless u

  • @jasminewinters6456
    @jasminewinters6456 Před rokem

    Awesome insight! Thank you!

  • @amukenamwaekwa4016
    @amukenamwaekwa4016 Před 2 lety +3

    I follow you from Zambia and your videos bless me alot. Thank you and God bless you Pastor.

  • @esthermorley8967
    @esthermorley8967 Před 2 lety +1

    God bless you more sir!
    I have really learnt a lot from this video.

  • @iregbundahperpetual1019

    This is of great help. Thanks pastor

  • @peacekorede36
    @peacekorede36 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank You So Much Pastor Kingsley 😊. You're a Blessing To Me and This Generation

  • @cookwithjudy
    @cookwithjudy Před 2 lety +5

    Thanks Pst Kingsley, I love the shared activities part. Makes you get to know your partner's reaction in situations

  • @26abbysinternational6
    @26abbysinternational6 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for the good advice about long distance relationship.
    I really needed these words.
    Am in a long distance relationship but I was scared of loosing him before I go back to my country.
    But now am going to share with him this video so that we talk about our relationship again to make it work.

  • @patrinajapiong548
    @patrinajapiong548 Před 2 lety +2

    It been 9years and we're still moving I can't wait to be in His arms with our kids this year or next

  • @eh1853
    @eh1853 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you so much for this PK!!!! So much wisdom in this video!

  • @ijeomaigbokwe687
    @ijeomaigbokwe687 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much pastor k, this message is timely 💕💕

  • @EdwinaElevates
    @EdwinaElevates Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this video just what I needed to keep me going cause long distance relationship isn’t my thing but here we are.....

  • @eromonselevictory2047
    @eromonselevictory2047 Před 2 lety

    God bless you sir. Who else is feeling the don't look at me like that

  • @callumjaye
    @callumjaye Před 2 lety +1

    wow so encouraging, been in a long distance relationship for over a year and God has kept us strong we are excited for a future when we can be close, grateful for this season of individual and relational growth , this relationship has taught me not to give up and to remain intentional ❤🙏

  • @timothynwaigbo910
    @timothynwaigbo910 Před 2 lety +1

    Honestly sir I was praying so that you will make a video on long distance relationship and here I connected to the internet, it was the first notification from CZcams that popped up, God bless you sir.!!! I need it now, cause am in one

  • @Didiedem
    @Didiedem Před 2 lety

    So bless to watch this video... thanks so much Sir🙏🙏🙏

  • @adwoaagyeiwaa8288
    @adwoaagyeiwaa8288 Před 2 lety

    God bless you.. This message is indeed educative

  • @andrewrebecca6431
    @andrewrebecca6431 Před 2 lety +4

    Thanks so much for this message, I am currently in a long distance relationship for 6 years now, l pray I come out of it soon.

  • @ugwokereuben1716
    @ugwokereuben1716 Před 2 lety

    Wow am happy and blessed from this teaching sir, keep it up God bless you.

  • @isirita8506
    @isirita8506 Před 2 lety +4

    Have been in it for so long that am use to it ,it requires hard work. Commitment, communication and faithfulness and trust

  • @mel_bella8555
    @mel_bella8555 Před 2 lety

    This is very informative. Thanks Sir 🙏🏽

  • @carole5765
    @carole5765 Před 2 lety

    Very impactful 🙏🙏🙏😊thank you