7 Things Men Wish They Could Tell Women | Kingsley Okonkwo
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- čas přidán 14. 06. 2024
- Join me as i share 7 Things men wish they could share with women but cannot.
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0:00 Intro
1:34 Men cheat because...
7:35 Men lie because...
10:08 Men deflect because...
11:42 Men are clueless because...
14:58 Men are afraid because...
17:04 Men need space because...
19:22 Men want sex because...
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This right here just took some nagging of my husband away 🤣🤣🤣. Thank you Sir
This is something yes I believe all men Cheat nice one's bad one's what ever... i'm not Africa I love Africa movies and a lot of these movies are based on what happens a lot in life out there I work around many Africa people and when watching movies someone can relate to it or know someone it's happened to... so my question is why is it when a man have a good woman wife or girlfriend when there man cheats and gets found out they love to say it's the devil that caused it and they would expect you to forgive them and if it happens the other way around that wife/girlfriend she would be called all names under the sun and maybe kicked out of the house to now the same way the devil got him got her just asking 🤷♀️
@@jenniferjules9795 ...💯
I am a woman, but I struggle with strain. When a man treats me good, then I want to be with them....all this about struggle is bullcrap
Stop creating an excuse for cheaters
Do sinners generalise gender. What about Delilah, does that make all women corny??
I dont agree that men were "not structured" to have one woman. God brought only one woman out of Adam's rib. It is the spirit of lust that makes men struggle to be faithful and it has to be overcome like all other things in us that grieve the spirit of God in us.
Well said, God bless you. Some men/ pastors should not because they can't be holy say all men behave like them. Let us behave as Christ did.
@@gloriatenabe8192 Thank you and God bless you too sister. 🙏
Well said!
Thank you. I honestly don’t like to here people say men are polygamous and what not. It’s all falls on choice and discernment, because a woman can also choose to be polygamous.
Can you explain why God didn't condemn David for having more than one woman, instead he told him he gave him his master's house and master's throne and brought his master's wives into his bosom? Don't claim know it all in things you don't 🤣 understand.
This is why every woman should hook up with a man who knows the Lord. The teaching is about the average man, not the saved and Holy Spirit helped-man.
Thank you.
Godly men, are not lead by their pulsions, but all those things apply to them. They simply westle against it with the Holy Spirit. As they fear The Lord they will not let themselves be disloyal to Christ. But knowing these things can surely help them win daily.
Amen! We have 2 types of men..
Amen. Thank you. The Pastor is explaining how men behave/think in a worldly view.
@@unathimbizo9952
Well he needs to Clarify that. Ppl who do not know, and do not spend Time in the Word will believe A Whole Lot of STUFF!
One would think, a person who claims the Title Of PASTOR should be speaking from a Different Point of View!.
Pastor in What? Then, Drop that Title. Use Another one If Diverting. Or...
Make the TOPIC Clear..
Can't BUNGLE IT UP! .. The Tricky devil is in BUNGLE.UP.! Lol.. Already have Too Many Confused Christians, Who Don't Know their WORD and may think, believe and Misunderstand Every word PASTOR says.. Which can be Contrary!
...My Opinion
Seriously, I don't understand why people are disagreeing to what Pastor K is saying. He is talking about an average man not a man controlled by the Holy Spirit. Even the men controlled by the Holy Spirit had these struggles but they were helped by the Holy spirit and they won't tell you so it makes you think they don't have such struggles. Be there and claim you disagree and suffer the consequences in your marriage. He repeatedly said he is not condoning such acts but he is giving you enough knowledge to help you better understand men and learn how to teach them what you want them to do for you. Isn't that simple? We should rather appreciate him because he has saved our stress in trying to understand our men.
It’s within the flesh for everyone to cheat both men and women - the difference between the two is discipline through the respect you hold for God and yourself…
The man literally said NATURALLY!
These men should pray and ask for the discernment of the Holy Spirit to help them not to cheat, lie, deflect, not to be clueless, and not to be afraid. Women can also benefit from this, I know I did.
Thank you, PK!
I like the fact that he tells us problems and gives solutions to us also.
Which one is the solution?
Women struggle with staying with one man too. It's not easy. We have been trying to tell men too.
God bless you!
Don't mind this men,they think is easy for we women to stay with one banana 🍌 for the rest of ourr life, special if the banana is haif dead or 2mins noodles. Contentment and self discipline is the key ..
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Set up a business then ..you might as well commercialise your lust cos no man will take a used woman seriously
@@stormship1647 you lake wisdom,and you are unintelligent,i pity your woman if you even have one,no woman want to stay with a man of your kind,
Very interesting to watch. But men still need to apply self control. It's important
Did you watch when he said that so clearly so you missed it?
it`s important very very important
Ladies, let us remember that we as mothers have to raise our male children to have values and respect for women. It only can't be left up to fathers to teach their sons. Mothers have just as much responsibility to bring insight and perspective to the table!
AMEN! But, It would be Very Nice if they would be a Role Model and Set an Example... Esp for the boys. They Do Not get a Medal for that!
RESPECT?. And ppl have to Respect SELF First, BEFORE we can Respect Others...
@@heatherbrandon996 why are you sounding asif there are not father's out there setting good standards for their sons, I don't know about your dad but my dad is one good example when it comes to issues like this
I am a good muslim who became your fan just recently, i love and appreciate your deep knowledge and awareness of human psychology, your presentation and humour.
I have other counselors too.
Above all i applaud your sincerity for the truth . Being a Christian would have prevented you from saying it (polygynous nature of man ), but you honour God's way and His choice to have created His creation -man that way ,
Good of you man .
Wow, pastor just exposed us.😅 Everything he said is true.
Thank you for confirming this.
Good!
I think he enlightened us so we coach you well to become the true men you are for the work. Meh, my mind has break loose.
Lol....just know that most ladies love it when you talk to them more🥺
Women cheaters are less noticeable..I worked with a lot of nurses that cheat.
I almost regret watching this video. It's very painful. I've been through some of this. There's no excuse for a man to cheat. Idc what anyone says, if a man cheats on me, he doesn't love me and he needs to keep it moving! Cheating is a deal breaker for me!
As far as just plain sex is concerned, why can't he let his wife know that's what he needs from her???
All of this hullabaloo about men but if his woman steps out on him, all hell breaks loose and he never forgives her! Very few men would forgive her!
You haven’t changed. You don’t listen!!
that's what he's saying. The real men will put in effort to be disciplined even though they are more likely to stray. ....and we also need to pray for them too
@@dumdum9898 nah! They don't need prayer. It's who they are, all they need is self discipline.
Please who is this Super Soniq guy?
Men have standards, we women should just stop lowering ours because we want to have someone or be in a "relationship".
Men would never, never accept that his woman cheated on him. I know of a guy, who can sleep with anything that has a vagina. His girlfriend asked him, what he would do if he caught his wife cheating. He swore, that such would never happen to him. Imagine the thief!
Lynda people
IKR 🙏🏽
This is a fact but absolutely heart breaking for a woman.
that marries an unbeliever
The long and short: MEN NEED TO BE TAUGHT WHAT TO DO!
The big question is: Mothers, do we know what to teach them? Wives, are we teaching them or getting mad and angry at them?
I think that's the purpose of this video and not to excuse any behavior.
The bible does not instruct women to teach their men.
@@laurac.2399 True. But parents are instructed to teach their children!
@@laurac.2399 The Bible does not tell you to take your bath every day yet you do why? Because of common sense right? Alright then, God has given us all the necessary things needed to do well in life and marriage we just fail to use them due to our stubbornness or whatever, not every thing is written in the Bible but when you have the Holy Spirit and you allow Him to guide you on how to approach issues including how to speak to your husband and how to point things out to him without it being in a confrontational manner then you'll realize you will have a better married life
It might be true but very hard to accept that men are naturally unfaithful. I grew up seeing my parents faithful to each other. My mum had access to my dad's phones, and my dad to my mum's 24/7. 10 years after my mum's death his phones are still accessible by any of us (his children) and I think he has remained celibate. Maybe that's why it's so hard for me to understand this.
That is such a beautiful testimony!❤️
I just realised this content isn’t for everyone especially the unstable ones:
I believe many are “triggered” by this content and calling it excuses for men because they don’t understand men- and this is exactly what he’s trying to teach us, not to *condone* or *enable* but UNDERSTAND how these things come up their root causes and the like.
Men don’t think like us women, truth is they won’t make considerations like us it’s almost like comparing every single person irrespective of age race or status to each other it just won’t work.
Let us learn to take in information with wisdom so that we can be well informed saying things like “there’s no excuse for cheating etc” is first of all being an unforgiving person but most importantly missing the whole point cheating May happen in some cases because men’s levels of processing repercussions are different from that of women etc!
Those that want to stay ignorant should do so but the truth is we women and the men aren’t the same and it’s better to learn how we are different ‘open-mindedly’ so casualties can be minimized!
HIV and a horde of other STI's and sexually transferred demons have entered the chat. It's easy to take back a cheating man if you have no ambition in life. You can't downplay the repercussions of illicit sex in order to pander to men
Well said.
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He misses out on the fact that humans in general experience lust - man, woman, third gender etc. He says men are tempted to just have sex because he himself is a man. If he was a woman, he'd know that women are just as sexual. Maybe he hasn't come across a liberated woman or one who has embraced her sexuality in a healthy way, or believes that such a woman is bad, which is quite close-minded.
The trigger is not that he's open about male sexuality. It's that he's obtuse and blind to female sexuality - one that is experienced by a woman of her own nature, not as a result of her partner's call. And while he's justifying male cheating and lack of faithfulness and character by confusing it with his sexuality and therefore a result of biology (/God/Nature), it's very short-sighted of him to call female sexuality (also God/Nature's creation - because Nature doesn't think/discriminate like humans, otherwise why would it be there in the first place?!) as non-existent. If he's calling it all-emotional and connection-related, then he clearly doesn't know the flipside animal-like crazy lust that women experience too, his mind would probably reject it as ungodly. All humans are capable of sin, as well as good deeds - be it men or women.
@@PoojaG_PG so in short women are exactly like men? Doubt it.
Men who cheat stray.
And women you cheat are loose.
Odiegwu!!😳
I'm telling you....what sort of biased attitude is that? ....smh
I was disappointed by the bias and defamatory label of “loose”…. Vs “straying”when doing the exact same thing? I expected better tbh.
@@houston10Yes sister na so... It is fine for every nation and tribe to have and respect culture but when we become Christians, the culture of Gods kingdom is above all other cultures....so that culture that says a man can do whatever he likes and still be respected but a woman should not dare try the same, is very wrong and has NO place in the church. We are all new creatures in Christ and are ALL expected to live as such.
This is so apt and so enlightening and so balanced. Thank you!!!
Good piece Pastor. You have really studied the psychology of men and women. God bless u Sir. Never a dull moment with your teachings
This man is like a walking cheat code for this game we call life. Stay blessed pastor.
very helpful, thank you
God bless you soo much sir! Very Educative🙏
Not even done watching the video and #1 has me like 😳😳
“Women control sex and men control security.”
Thank you and God bless you Pastor K!🙏🏿
Pastor K! Wow. I learnt so much from this. Thank you ❤️🙏🏿
Thank you so much Pastor K. Now I know better.
Hello Pastor. Please help me understand this. If this is a man's true nature, why do men get into committed relationships and marriage that requires being monogamous? Why don't they just stay single? When you are a single man, you can be with any number of women that you want, without destroying other people's lives. There are women that are ok with no strings attached. We do not force men to commit. They choose it. So why? Sometimes I feel that men want their cake and eat it too. Meaning getting the benefits that come with having a wife, but secretly desires to be with multiple women like a single man.
Thanks for sharing sir. I don't know why we are not told this before marriage. We're given the impression that most men don't cheat.
@@ekene8668 what?!! Who exactly told you that?
There are alot of reasons why men get married and like you said alot of men truly do not want to get married but pressure from, parents, society and already married friends push them into it, but of late especially men in America, there seems to be a narrative that is gradually growing where men are now outrightly coming out to refute marriage as they believe it does them more harm than good
Always blessed by your teachings
Too much wisdom in here. Thanks a lot Pastor K
Thank you so much sir I've been blessed by this .
Thank you for sharing indepth details
Very informative. Thanks Pastor.
I'm really blessed pastor k thanks sir
Wow, thanks for sharing this powerful message.
God bless you pastor K.
Please thank you very much Sir. God blesses you.
Thank you for this
Thank you
This was excellent very informative. I have to coach him into what I require of him . Not bully but coach him. Thanks
Thank you for sharing sir
I agree with everything you said, sir. God bless you..
Counselling coach..... you are good. Truth be told, you said it all.
Thank you pastor, God bless you sir,i learnt my own lesson
Thanks a lot for this points and solution
Eminently useful video, pastor! You mentioned a lot of things to chew on. Thank you.
Thanks for this….. I am so happy I watched this
Deep content.💚 I'm a woman and I subscribe to everything said here. Women need knowledge of how men are structured and it is called WISDOM when you apply knowledge to hold things together. If you reject this knowledge as a woman, you'll most likely suffer bitterness which doesn't destroy the man but you.
This is very enlightening. Thank you PK
God bless u sir.... I love my space alotand i wish she can just understand
Thank you so much sir
I learnt a lot
I'm always enlightened by pastor k's teachings, too many Christian relationships and marriages are suffering, the church needs this very needed information 🙏🙏🙏. Thank you pastor K.
I have been helped a lot.
Thank you sir
Thank you for sharing sir, it really blessed me.Expecting the other part sir
This video blessed me alot. God bless you Sir.
Thank you so much pastor K
This helped a lot!!
Wow! This is Amazingly True!! Thank you Sir!!!
Very well said and explained pastor,God bless you.
OK now I understand what's going on. Thanks
Hi Kingsley, 🤔please where is this big engine when it comes to providing and participating in household chores, since they have that much strength to go from 1 to 100?
😂😂, good question . I watched this CZcams video recently and the men were like the things they really value in a woman is the ability to cook , clean and raise kids 😂😂 .
@@sunmolaa These responsibilities are the man's as much as they're the woman's.
But you might have to selectively help a man especially one who's African and was brought up to think those responsibilities are for the woman alone.
It is enlightenment, understanding and cooperation that'll make any relationship, marriage, friendship to work.
Understand where one is lacking as a weakness and proffer a solution, a remedy and do so respectively not in a mocking manner.
To crown the whole thing up, with the Holy Spirit, much can be achieved.
😂😂😂 ask him o
Kingsley is speaking for himself....his poor wife
The way they be pampering these men like they are the price. We are the price.
Thanks a lot, Kingsley. God Bless you. Much love from Tanzania. when is the video about women coming? Can't wait.
Great teaching
Really great. Thanks for sharing sir
Pastor K, thank you for all those untold true about men.
Pastor k u never disappoint. Thank u so much . U just saved this man right her. A lot has been answered. Thank u sir
Thanks for this!
Thank you sir for this message
Thank you for helping us sharpening us thanks
Thanks for sharing
Thank you this is very helpful in understanding a man because most women do not understand men but this helps me significantly 😊
Honestly sir it takes the spirit of God and decipline for a woman to be faithful to one man....... It's not easy...... Seriously....
Thanks for this🙂, officially a new subscriber.
What PK said about space is very true. Women need to learn this.
This point hit hard. 😅😅😅
I don't know if I'm the only one that feels weak whenever I'm around a woman for so long?. 😅
What do you mean? Cheating is as a result of sin of the flesh period.
@@realtalkwithphil You're not alone bro. 😂
Thank you for this. God bless you. ✅️
Very Powerful Information
Good info. Thank you.
God bless you Soo much PK! Youre such a Blessing to our generation! These you've said are Soo right, I've been privy to hear where men discuss deep things they deal with and you mentioned them here.
Thank you Sir
PK you just saved my relationship. Thank you 😭😭.
Thank you.. This is very informative.. I learned alot. 🙏
It's so clear
It so obvious these are the very needs of men
All of us women must know this
Wow thank you pastor... I have learnt alot esp. Men needing space . Also I know times I misunderstood hubby because he was passing through challenges and didn't want to let me see his fears. I'm blessed
Pastor I quarrel less with my hubby since I started watching you show.
God bless you sir, truth is you have just saved many homes
This is very helpful.
Thanks so Much Pastor K
Thank you 😊
I have loved your videos, I watch them every day,very helpful,thank you so much
Thank you so much sir
I was blessed listening to this my eyes are open I'm ready to face my relationship
Ok, I have learnt what men really are, thanks Pr. K
Be blessed pastor i have gain something
Great teaching 👍 👏 👌
It’s true that men always want to provide solutions. Amazing video ❤️❤️❤️
I know understand certain things. Thanks
Amazing teaching Sir! 💯🔥
I've been blessed by you and Pastor M's teachings over the years. I'm an ardent learner and I trust God to enjoy the best experience possible in my marriage.
God bless you Sir! 🔥
Yo, Pastor Kingsley def hit the nail on the head, they think we can't handle the truth and I'm just like umm, we can handle a whole lotta lotta lol. A safe space for sharing is needed for sure :)
Thank you sir, now I understand so many things
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Pastor you have helped us. Sometimes you see things and wonder what is happening. Now I know
Great information 👍🏾
This is really an eye opener for me. Thank you so much pst K
Thank you pk
More strength sir🙌
More wisdom sir