Narcissist: Negative Introjects, No Superego, Only Bad Object Internalized
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- čas přidán 15. 05. 2024
- Narcissist has no ego and, therefore, no superego which is a part of the ego.
Primitive superego injunctions=negative introjects within an internalized bad object.
Bad object is internalized and incorporated by the child, it is not the mother (departure from Klein).
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It's amazing that one can acquire education like this for free. Thanks.
I love Sam's laughter, humour and mind ❤
For a long time I thought I had social anxiety and simple anxiety, but in reality after many years I understood that I had; Vulnerable Narcism,
I was convinced that everyone is out to get me, the whole world is against me and, although I did nothing wrong, nothing ever went right for me. I felt inferior at almost all times. It's like self-loathing and hatred with bursts of "better than you" attitude.
I always feel that people are cruel and will stab me in the back if I let my guard down. As a precaution, I always try to find their weakness in advance to defend myself if they attack me.
I have some questions for you because I actually feel this way a lot of the time. You do not have to answer if you aren’t comfortable.
Are you diagnosed? If you are, do you actually not do anything wrong? Do you seek out being manipulative or coercive to others or just in defense/retaliation? Do you seek to hurt people? Or just hate being around them? Thank you
@@kiwicatnip I managed to heal myself, accepting myself and not lying to myself. -Shame and what it was like to be perceived by others controlled my life. I had to accept that it was an unnatural way to go through life. If others criticize me or make fun of me, I accept it and move on, I no longer lie to myself.
- I learned to treat myself like my own father, my biggest responsibility was to take care of myself and tell myself good things, leave the negativity and have hope, even if I lost I would continue to love myself, but in a way of caring not to be better What others.
@@johancarlosmedina8604 Thank you for your response. I’m glad you’re doing better.
Have you ever dealt with a narcissist who is so afraid of reality that they will sabotage his health to the point where he can no longer walk?
Daisyjenkins485: I am having that experience over the past 9 months. Can no longer count the ambulance call outs, refusing good food for cake, biscuits, crisps, yogurt. Now in hospital for the 4th time in 6 months. The rages now longer bring any need to respond except to just walk away. Knowing that I have nothing whatsoever to blame myself for is no consultation for this living hell. It's all down to not reading the signs of instability and putting irrational rages, with accepting being treated so badly that you feel that you no longer exist. 😮
This whole condition is a total mind .... bcuz I had one hell of a childhood and I'm not trying to destroy ppl .. how does that happen ?
Early on this one glad to educate myself instead of being a bummer all morning
All morning ?! You must be full of energy
It's a very advanced baby .... love it ! I got a good chuckle from that .
Synchronicity is incredible.. Keep em coming, Vaknin!
Sam love your sense of humor !!
Thank you Dear Sam Vaknin
This is an amazing, clear explanation of what Ive personally experiened with empathy deficient people. Theyre idea of love was always so morbid and backwards.
Good job, Sam. Thank you for the clear explanation. It helps to heal some of the pain. [[Hug from afar]]
It seems like unless the parents definitely give the child good skills and direction and space to explore and develop a self...theres no other way to contain and refine these primitive drives?
I suspect this is why its harder to parent sensitive and gifted children. What do you think? Theres more energy there to refine..and if your parents, especially mother, are not aware or particularly intelligent themselves...they wont be able to attune and guide the child?
Thank you Sam, I listen to you EVERYDAY..Aloha🌺 all the way from Kona, Hawaii🌋
Now i can identify one of the many voices i have. I have like 5. Now i need to identify the other 4.
Profound insight. Thank you Sam Vaknin.🌱
Sam, thanks for the video. It explains a lot. Is there a way to get rid of the bad internalized object? Or once you have it, you are doomed to it?
Great question. I’m wondering the same.
Watch the NA Healing playlist and the therapies playlist.
@@samvaknin Thank you Sam, I've watched many of your videos, but I'm not sure I've watched the ones you've just mentioned. I am a great fan of yours. Have a good day:)
Thanks Sam we appreciate you. 😊
Totally agree, makes sense from a philosophical point of view otherwise it would come to be contradictory theories that collapse in them selves. Thank you Dr. Vaknim, made my mind swirl a little while but I saw the light🎉
Splendid information
אוקיי נרקיסים 😂
Maybe video about ADHD and borderline differences?
Search the comorbidities playlist.
So it’s a lot of mirroring basically.
I thougt i was borderline at first but i manipulate a lot and see humans boring and stupids and i see opportunity; maybe i m narcisic too, i m in a therapy and my goal is to reject my bad object and have no emotion at all, like a vampire it would be safe for me to stop suffering inside from abandon and impuissance to become autonome like a psycopathe but is it possible ?
I the vegetable aspire to be the mammal and one day understand this.
Why not aspire to be human?
😂
If defense mechanisms, for example, projection and reaction formation are ego defenses and narcissists have no ego how and where are they applied? Are there certain defenses that form before the ego develops? Anyone know, thanks.
These are primitive infantile defenses that give rise to the ego/self - unless disrupted.
@@samvaknin Thank you for the reply. So narcissists experience these defenses and others despite forfeiting ego development? I hope I understood that correctly. Thank you again and for the content.
The more I listen the more I feel like the Agĩkũyũ knew more about anxiety than all western academia on the matter.
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I would love to hear your thoughts on social media and its impact on Women.
Likes, views, attention and validation.
Its seems to be a narcissist magnet and playground.
Search the channel for "attention".