PART 2 *WE CRiED* I REFUSE to go to PRIVATE SCHOOL
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I don’t know if she’s already going but Saidee should definitely go to therapy. She’s a wonderful girl and bullying can truly destroy someone’s spirit and seeking professional help as soon as possible may help a lot. She feels that the new school is what makes her uncomfortable but it clearly comes from within.
Me watching this in 2024 and Saidee has changed so much
"I don't feel like anything" that hit me so much. That's one of the most heartbreaking thing a parent could hear from their children. Hope you are doing a little bit better. And please, please remember that you are someone, you are loved and you are valued. Don't let the mean girls let you down. Sending you much love!
The only reason I don’t recommend homeschooling is because I feel like Sadie is experiencing symptoms of depression. As some who was diagnosed w both depression and anxiety, I feel like homeschooling is something I considered when I wanted to isolate myself. Isolation is never good and can put you in a deeper hole. What I would do in this situation is that I would stay in the private school for a while longer to see if I truly end up not liking it. Starting a new school is very stressful and I honestly feel she’s just not used to it, change is hard. I could see her going back to public school because I know she’s a strong girl and she can stand up to those bullies but I still am w mom on this one, she should stay a little longer. I wish you luck Sadie! Don’t forget you’re beautiful 💕.
It just sounds like she’s deeply uncomfortable with herself and that nothing at the new school is helping her feel better about herself. As a teacher, I think you should let the school know that they are not helping her feel more confident. However, the most important thing is that Saidee needs someone to help her learn some strategies to deal with what is most likely depression. Anger is a symptom of depression, as are social withdrawal, sadness, and low motivation.
Being a teenager is hard but just know Sadie there’s a light at the end of the tunnel just keep going. You’re doing so good. Just never give up
Have you tried out therapy? I feel like in her situation, especially the mental state the bullying has let her in, it would be good for her to have a third person party talk things through with her. Therapy can be so awesome and show you ways to heal and grow stronger.
I struggled with bullying all throughout middle school. It made me embarrassed, self-conscious, second-guess my worth and my beauty. Eventually, as I moved forward in my academics and went to high school I saw those girls who bullied me start to lose a lot of friends. People start to notice who the bad people are and who the good people are. Surround yourself with fun and happy people who make you happy and loved. It's easier said than done but DO NOT let those girls define you. DO NOT let them make you feel like you're less. In the end, the ones who are tearing you down are the ones who have the most problems with themselves. When the girls did this to me in middle school and said mean words I would simply ask, "are you okay?" It's so sad because girls need to be supporting girls and you will realize that as you grow older. I am currently majoring in education and all my professors tell me "middle school is where kids can be the meanest to their peers." It will get better.
This hits hard. My 16 year old is having such a hard time dealing with the aftermath of bullying and exclusion when she was younger. Depression, anxiety, even suicidal thoughts. As a mother this is by far the hardest part of parenting I’ve ever gone through.
If SaiDee is not in therapy, I’d recommend it. While she was adopted into an incredible family who love her, being adopted can bring up a lot of mental health issues - struggling with getting accepted socially is absolutely one of them. Talking to a licensed therapist would be super beneficial for her.
My completely unsolicited and unqualified opinion is, that the private school isn't actually Sadies problem. I think she's been left in such a negative headspace with low self esteem from the bullying at her old school and it's not made her have the best mindset to approach this new place. I think there was probably numerous reasons why this private school was a new option and I don't think 7 weeks is enough time to shake off the old and give the new a chance. I think she could benefit from therapy or something to help her move away from her negative mind which I think is affecting her experience at the new school. Tiffany, you've talked about the difficulty making the decision about what hardships your kids should be removed from and which ones they should continue working through, and I honestly feel like Sadie would grow so much experiencing at least the year at the private school. Maybe there could be other options like clubs or classes outside of school where she could nurture her creativity more if she feels that's restricted.
“I feel like nothing.” That broke my heart. Hang in there. You are worthy. You are valuable and you are loved. Remember, God loves you when you are broken and hurting just as much as He does when you are being brave and strong. Curl up in His lap and lean on Him. He will never leave you or hurt you. Praying for your heart to heal and for you to see your worth and find yourself again.
I absolutely love how Tiffany is so supportive towards all of her children. And the amount of love she has to give to them is incredible 💗
I would just like to say that I struggled with the same things you are struggling with when I was your age. And even though my mum was very welcoming and told me I could go to her for everything I didn’t feel comfortable talking to her about how I was feeling. If I had videos like this back then, being able to see someone my age being vulnerable to their mum and talking about their issues would’ve made it way easier to talk to my mum. You’re going to help so many kids your age open up! You’re very brave
Sadie, homeschooling is a valid option and I know there is a large homeschooling community where you live. We have considered moving there so I’ve looked into it. My daughter is about your age and has always homeschooled. She tried a day out at public high school with her brother who goes but didn’t like it because she enjoys her free time to focus on her interests. She is an artist and draws for several hours a day. Follow your joy and bliss. You are so special!
I think she’s saying it’s the uniforms but it’s really just the new environment and new kids. She sounds just like I did complaining about my freshman year of college. I did end up switching schools but my dad said I had to have a plan to move forward with a different major and then stick with it. I made my decision over a break in school too, tell her to take her time! My name is Sadie too, we are very rare and special ❤️
Dear Saidee, I am so sorry that you have gone through bullying at school and it has really hurt you! You are a wise young lady with what you have learnt so far about how you explain your heart to your parents. Thank you for being brave and courage and sharing this vulnerable video...I CRIED!! It touched my heart! Saidee, all you need is one or two good friends in your life... And I pray that you find them! It is hard to trust girls especially sometimes when they have bullied...you dont always know if they are fake or leading you on and talking behind your back...etc. I pray that you have discernment and that your heart heals. You have such loving Parents and they are such a guide to you! Saidee your future is going to be amazing! Even though you are growing up so fast...try not to be in such a hurry... Enjoy the stage you are in as much as you can.
As a mom of 9, 7 who are adopted, this spoke to me. We have 4 teens at home right now and this year has been hard, with hard issues. Mama, I learned so much just from watching you. Thank you for your honesty. Sadee, thank you as well for being brave enough to put this out there to help others. You just rose above the bullies.
I'm praying for Saidee. Please God protect over her. Let her live her best life and let her be happy! 🙏😇
Hi Sadie! I am a 6 grader and love you videos. I just made the transition this year from homeschooling full time to public school and let me tell you it was not easy. It took a long time to get used to having to wake up at a certain time and having grades to keep up with and I still haven’t got used to