Thank you SO much for your love and support! Please let me know if you would like me to share another video on my experience with having a high needs baby. (Or on anything else!)
Another video please. I connected with you when you said you felt so alone, that’s how I feel. I have a 2 month old and she’s high needs. I’ve been also feeling frustrated, and wondering what did I get myself into. Sometimes I feel like a prisoner of my recliner. This video showed me a glimpse of hope. Thank you. Would like to see an updated version of it. Maybe tips on how to make this easier. I felt like you were describing my baby. I also feel like an incompetent parent.
Sloren Laboy Sending you hugs!! 💕 Thank you so much for your feedback, I will definitely make another video soon 😊 Abby is a year old now, so there are a lot of updates and I’m happy to share some tips on things that have worked for us! Please know that you are not alone and that you are an amazing parent. I believe that you were made to be your child’s momma, and no one could replace you! ❤️
Crying right now. And thank you so much 🙏🏻 I love my baby so much I just want her to be happy, and I just want her to grow strong beautiful and in the process still keep myself sane for her and my husband. Lately she’s been so fussy, I’ve been trying to just let her sleep on me cause that’s the only way she will comfortably sleep.
Sloren Laboy Hugs! 💕 I remember 2 months being a really tough time for us, and my husband and I fought a lot because of the stress 😔 Things started to turn around for the better around 5 months. Until then, if you are able to, I definitely encourage you to sit outside together for dinner/after dinner when it’s nice out and enjoy some simple time together (even if you are holding or wearing your little one ❤️). Or if there is anything else that you are able to do during this season that makes you both happy 😊. I absolutely know that your daughter will grow to be strong, beautiful, and joyful! PS In a year from now, I think you’ll be thinking of your daughter and crying happy tears! ❤️
Andrea Christina thank you for your support and advice. I’m lucky to have an understanding husband and he works from home so I can’t complain! He has been helping me and listening to me and being my crying shoulder since the first day. Some days are better than others and that’s ok.
14 months in here! Still at home with my high needs son. Things have gotten a little better now that he’s a toddler and more mobile but every evening still feels like I’ve just had the most tiring, challenging day of my life. Like when you’ve had an insanely busy day at work and you’re just mentally exhausted. That feeling. Every day. Also feeling alone in this and no one can relate.
Ahh it’s so nice to see that I’m not the only one going through this. It’s so isolating, all my friends have such calm babies but mine is constantly crying and fussing. I can’t put her down for half a second. I’m always exhausted
Watching this made me cry. I understand you so well and what you were going through. I feel like I can see how emotional it’s making you to talk about it. It is so so hard. My daughter will be 6 months next week and I’m praying for easier days! Thank you so much for posting this!
I am dealing with the same. Love our baby so much. I am exhausted though. She will NOT sleep in her crib or bassinet. She will only sleep on me or my husband. There is no schedule because she also fights sleep. This whole watch for wake windows etc. garbage. She will only nap when she wants. 🤷♀️ I am so exhausted that I don’t even bother trying to put her in the crib and get up every 4 min when she wakes up. We trade off sitting up w her while she sleeps. All I see online is, oh if your baby won’t nap or self soothe it’s your fault. It’s hard to find anything that she enjoys. 😭
I have a high need baby who was extremely active in womb and caused a preterm membrane rapture . He has no routine and wakes up all hours of the night despite being sleep trained and self soothing . He is intense in every aspect from wanting to be fed instantly to crying historically. His moods change almost instantly and it’s extremely hard to keep him happy . Nothing seems to be enough . At 5 month he is already showing sign of holding his weight and wanting to walk . He is not interested in lying down or doing any floor play . My saviour is a jolly jumper .
I feel like I have PTSD from my first daughter. She cried 8 hours a night from 8pm-4am every night for like the first 6 weeks and at about a month we realized doing squats and lunges would keep her quiet. As she got older, things have gotten easier but at 5 years old it is still a challenge. She was very advanced physically and even read her first book by 39months. It seems that her high spiritedness was also accompanied by high levels of intelligence and great physical build strength athletic ability. However, because she was soo spirited and still is whenever I see a baby I feel anxiety because of the extreme difficulty the first 6-12 months of her life. While they improve, the temperament usually remains constant and it takes a lot of patience to get through it. You look how I felt and it is the most isolating difficult experience anyone can experience . What made it worse, she only allowed me to hold her. She would scream with her father, so I didn’t even have him to help. Lol it’s been 5 years, but it’s still nice to talk about.
Wow, this has been my experience with my son. He's 6mo old now and I found out that he is a high needs baby via a Dr.Sears article. It has saved my sanity to learn about this. It is so challenging and it is the same consistent behaviors but they do switche up every week (the older he gets/the more awareness he has). Is good to read about other moms going through it too. He's our 3rd baby BTW so I knew there was something different after a few weeks of him just not being comfortable. Never comfortable!
This is exactly like my son! A lot of screaming... many other people tell me their babies are crying a lot, and I listen to their videos... boy they have no idea what screaming really is like until they have met my son! And he hates tummy time too!
It's really hard. Everyone tells you that crying is what babies do...but it's different when they are like this. I even questioned if I was just not cut out for being a mum. It does get easier x
Tummy time is so important, even if it upsets your baby. You don't want your baby to get a flat head! Just do it for a few minutes , a few times a day, even if there is screaming.
Thank you for your video. I wish I could hug you! I’m a new mom and my baby is high needs. I wasn’t able to nurse her or even pump because of how demanding everything was. I felt like a horrible mom and even had difficulty bonding with her at first because of how difficult she was. On top of it she had colic and reflux. So I went through a lot of guilt and even felt depressed. My baby is just about 7mo and she’s still difficult but she’s also a happy baby if that makes sense? Changing her clothes is easy now (no crying 99% of the time!). But she still wakes up several times a night and doesn’t nap more than twice a day for 30min. If she does I’m lucky! I’d love if you posted more videos about you and your baby! I hope things have gotten better since you posted this. :-) #hugs
Amberly Zimmerman Aww hugs to you too! 🥰 Thank you so much for your comment, I hope things are going well for your family! It sounds like your baby is doing awesome! ❤️ Abby is doing well, growing quickly! I hope to post my updated video tomorrow 😊
My son was very active in the womb, and even though he was in the NICU for a month he has been blazing through his gross motor milestones. Rolling at 3 months and crawling at 5. Hates the stroller/carseat so going anywhere is difficult. Sleeps with me, screams as soon as I leave the room. I try to get him to play with his toys but he mostly wants to be held. Every day I feel so stressed 🙃
Hello I’m trying to figure out if my son (8 weeks) is a high need baby. He fights his sleep a lot during the day like sometimes he doesn’t sleep at all during the day and gets super fuzzy due to being tired also his feeding is at random times he doesn’t really go with a schedule… but he does stay in bed or on a bouncer for a little bit even when he does catch sleep he will sleep like on a rocker… he doesn’t really cry when I put him down unless he’s hungry
My 3 week old son is exactly like your daughter, so far. In the womb, here was very active and that has just increased. He is also very strong and alert for his age. I'm co-sleeping and baby wearing all the time. He feeds constantly and wants to be held all the time. It's very tough. Thank you for sharing!
I’m a new mom & omg you literally just described my 3 month old son. He was exactly like you explained in my womb as well. I thought I was alone. Lol He’s really strong as well, smart & alert it’s so scary. 😳😅
@@tinyking11 my baby is now 7 months. Still active and alert as ever! He now sleeps well and is not clingy. We transitioned him to his crib at 4 months and he slept so much better. Good luck mama! It gets better! 💕
Could you please tell me how did it work to have him sleep in his crip ?? I am struggling a lot with this issue..the second I leave him, he opens his eyes 👀 and starts crying and I have to hold him and sooth him all over again.. it is so tiring 😫 and he only sleeps on me or his dad !! Please tell me how did you achieve that ?? My baby is 3 months old.
My baby was initially pretty calm on most part, but would not sleep during the day (but sleep almost thru the night) at the 4-5 months it started to get all that your baby was doing initially 😩😩 now I don’t know when it might be over !
Oh my god, you basically described my 6 week old son. Its wearing me down and very upsetting to see him so unhappy all the time. I dont know what to do, hope he grows out of it.
Taz B Sending love! Please know that it gets easier over time-the first few months are definitely challenging. Don’t forget to be gentle with yourself ❤️❤️ Please check out my Resources video-I hope it helps! You are not alone!
I know how you feel where all the other babies are quiet and you feel alone and wonder what is wrong with my baby. I have 3 babies and they’ve all been high needs. Going through it again with my youngest at 16 months. I get PPD every time 😢 It’s rough until they’re around 3.
Tks so much for this video. I have a high needs baby as well and he is from 21st May hahaha...maybe something in common?! I'm still breastfeeding and he is 18months old now and is the only thing that really calls him down.
Thank you for this video i thought i was crazy for not understanding my one year old . I have cried and felt like a bad mom. All because i never knew or had an ideas of the “high need baby” . I feel so much better watching this and im in tears because exactly what you said i went thru it with my daughter if i only had known this earlier . But is never late thank you!! And update us on this topic. #high needsbabysmomswearenotalone
be you everyday yes i know what you mean but it gets better within time now she is getting more attached to her daddy so i get a little bit of a break. But sometimes she just wants me since i am the one with her all day. Its okay to ask for help from time to time to someone you can trust your child with. Believe me you will feel better and you and your baby will catch a break from each other.
That is a great question! High needs babies are usually (not always!) fussy right from birth. Colic tends to develop when a baby is around 2 weeks old. High needs babies can also have colic - mine did!
Thank you SO much for your love and support! Please let me know if you would like me to share another video on my experience with having a high needs baby. (Or on anything else!)
Another video please. I connected with you when you said you felt so alone, that’s how I feel. I have a 2 month old and she’s high needs. I’ve been also feeling frustrated, and wondering what did I get myself into. Sometimes I feel like a prisoner of my recliner. This video showed me a glimpse of hope. Thank you. Would like to see an updated version of it. Maybe tips on how to make this easier. I felt like you were describing my baby. I also feel like an incompetent parent.
Sloren Laboy Sending you hugs!! 💕 Thank you so much for your feedback, I will definitely make another video soon 😊 Abby is a year old now, so there are a lot of updates and I’m happy to share some tips on things that have worked for us! Please know that you are not alone and that you are an amazing parent. I believe that you were made to be your child’s momma, and no one could replace you! ❤️
Crying right now. And thank you so much 🙏🏻 I love my baby so much I just want her to be happy, and I just want her to grow strong beautiful and in the process still keep myself sane for her and my husband. Lately she’s been so fussy, I’ve been trying to just let her sleep on me cause that’s the only way she will comfortably sleep.
Sloren Laboy Hugs! 💕 I remember 2 months being a really tough time for us, and my husband and I fought a lot because of the stress 😔 Things started to turn around for the better around 5 months. Until then, if you are able to, I definitely encourage you to sit outside together for dinner/after dinner when it’s nice out and enjoy some simple time together (even if you are holding or wearing your little one ❤️). Or if there is anything else that you are able to do during this season that makes you both happy 😊. I absolutely know that your daughter will grow to be strong, beautiful, and joyful! PS In a year from now, I think you’ll be thinking of your daughter and crying happy tears! ❤️
Andrea Christina thank you for your support and advice. I’m lucky to have an understanding husband and he works from home so I can’t complain! He has been helping me and listening to me and being my crying shoulder since the first day. Some days are better than others and that’s ok.
14 months in here! Still at home with my high needs son. Things have gotten a little better now that he’s a toddler and more mobile but every evening still feels like I’ve just had the most tiring, challenging day of my life. Like when you’ve had an insanely busy day at work and you’re just mentally exhausted. That feeling. Every day. Also feeling alone in this and no one can relate.
Ahh it’s so nice to see that I’m not the only one going through this. It’s so isolating, all my friends have such calm babies but mine is constantly crying and fussing. I can’t put her down for half a second. I’m always exhausted
Watching this made me cry. I understand you so well and what you were going through. I feel like I can see how emotional it’s making you to talk about it. It is so so hard. My daughter will be 6 months next week and I’m praying for easier days! Thank you so much for posting this!
Greatest Ever Thank you so much for sharing this!! It is SUCH an emotional process but so rewarding. Sending you love! ❤️
I am dealing with the same. Love our baby so much. I am exhausted though. She will NOT sleep in her crib or bassinet. She will only sleep on me or my husband.
There is no schedule because she also fights sleep. This whole watch for wake windows etc. garbage. She will only nap when she wants. 🤷♀️
I am so exhausted that I don’t even bother trying to put her in the crib and get up every 4 min when she wakes up. We trade off sitting up w her while she sleeps.
All I see online is, oh if your baby won’t nap or self soothe it’s your fault.
It’s hard to find anything that she enjoys. 😭
I have a high need baby who was extremely active in womb and caused a preterm membrane rapture . He has no routine and wakes up all hours of the night despite being sleep trained and self soothing .
He is intense in every aspect from wanting to be fed instantly to crying historically. His moods change almost instantly and it’s extremely hard to keep him happy . Nothing seems to be enough . At 5 month he is already showing sign of holding his weight and wanting to walk . He is not interested in lying down or doing any floor play .
My saviour is a jolly jumper .
I feel like I have PTSD from my first daughter. She cried 8 hours a night from 8pm-4am every night for like the first 6 weeks and at about a month we realized doing squats and lunges would keep her quiet. As she got older, things have gotten easier but at 5 years old it is still a challenge. She was very advanced physically and even read her first book by 39months. It seems that her high spiritedness was also accompanied by high levels of intelligence and great physical build strength athletic ability. However, because she was soo spirited and still is whenever I see a baby I feel anxiety because of the extreme difficulty the first 6-12 months of her life. While they improve, the temperament usually remains constant and it takes a lot of patience to get through it. You look how I felt and it is the most isolating difficult experience anyone can experience . What made it worse, she only allowed me to hold her. She would scream with her father, so I didn’t even have him to help. Lol it’s been 5 years, but it’s still nice to talk about.
Children born in January/February are often like this
@@snowburkitt974 why?
Wow, this has been my experience with my son. He's 6mo old now and I found out that he is a high needs baby via a Dr.Sears article. It has saved my sanity to learn about this. It is so challenging and it is the same consistent behaviors but they do switche up every week (the older he gets/the more awareness he has). Is good to read about other moms going through it too. He's our 3rd baby BTW so I knew there was something different after a few weeks of him just not being comfortable. Never comfortable!
This is exactly like my son! A lot of screaming... many other people tell me their babies are crying a lot, and I listen to their videos... boy they have no idea what screaming really is like until they have met my son! And he hates tummy time too!
It's really hard. Everyone tells you that crying is what babies do...but it's different when they are like this. I even questioned if I was just not cut out for being a mum. It does get easier x
Thank you for sharing! Most people don't get it *hug* Please know it gets better! 💗
Tummy time is so important, even if it upsets your baby. You don't want your baby to get a flat head! Just do it for a few minutes , a few times a day, even if there is screaming.
Thank you for your video. I wish I could hug you! I’m a new mom and my baby is high needs. I wasn’t able to nurse her or even pump because of how demanding everything was. I felt like a horrible mom and even had difficulty bonding with her at first because of how difficult she was. On top of it she had colic and reflux. So I went through a lot of guilt and even felt depressed. My baby is just about 7mo and she’s still difficult but she’s also a happy baby if that makes sense? Changing her clothes is easy now (no crying 99% of the time!). But she still wakes up several times a night and doesn’t nap more than twice a day for 30min. If she does I’m lucky! I’d love if you posted more videos about you and your baby! I hope things have gotten better since you posted this. :-) #hugs
Amberly Zimmerman Aww hugs to you too! 🥰 Thank you so much for your comment, I hope things are going well for your family! It sounds like your baby is doing awesome! ❤️ Abby is doing well, growing quickly! I hope to post my updated video tomorrow 😊
How long it takes to get easier 😕 i am suffering a lot. I have back pain by holding him all day night cant put him down at all.
It gets easier when they can walk. Still hard but I know when he can speak it will become amazing!
My 14 month old son is exactly like this. Everything you have mentioned is what I went through and currently going through.
My son was very active in the womb, and even though he was in the NICU for a month he has been blazing through his gross motor milestones. Rolling at 3 months and crawling at 5. Hates the stroller/carseat so going anywhere is difficult. Sleeps with me, screams as soon as I leave the room. I try to get him to play with his toys but he mostly wants to be held. Every day I feel so stressed 🙃
Hello I’m trying to figure out if my son (8 weeks) is a high need baby. He fights his sleep a lot during the day like sometimes he doesn’t sleep at all during the day and gets super fuzzy due to being tired also his feeding is at random times he doesn’t really go with a schedule… but he does stay in bed or on a bouncer for a little bit even when he does catch sleep he will sleep like on a rocker… he doesn’t really cry when I put him down unless he’s hungry
My 3 week old son is exactly like your daughter, so far. In the womb, here was very active and that has just increased. He is also very strong and alert for his age. I'm co-sleeping and baby wearing all the time. He feeds constantly and wants to be held all the time. It's very tough. Thank you for sharing!
Melissa Shows Sending love! ❤️
I’m a new mom & omg you literally just described my 3 month old son. He was exactly like you explained in my womb as well. I thought I was alone. Lol He’s really strong as well, smart & alert it’s so scary. 😳😅
@@tinyking11 my baby is now 7 months. Still active and alert as ever! He now sleeps well and is not clingy. We transitioned him to his crib at 4 months and he slept so much better. Good luck mama! It gets better! 💕
@@melissashows78133 years later I’m just now seeing this. Lol Thanks 😊
Could you please tell me how did it work to have him sleep in his crip ?? I am struggling a lot with this issue..the second I leave him, he opens his eyes 👀 and starts crying and I have to hold him and sooth him all over again.. it is so tiring 😫 and he only sleeps on me or his dad !! Please tell me how did you achieve that ?? My baby is 3 months old.
My baby was initially pretty calm on most part, but would not sleep during the day (but sleep almost thru the night) at the 4-5 months it started to get all that your baby was doing initially 😩😩 now I don’t know when it might be over !
God bless you and thank you for your video ♥️
Thank you, I really appreciate that! You too!
Funny. My son is also a high needs baby and on the 13 weeks ultrasound he moved soooo much, it was very hard to take measurements.
Oh my god, you basically described my 6 week old son. Its wearing me down and very upsetting to see him so unhappy all the time. I dont know what to do, hope he grows out of it.
Taz B Sending love! Please know that it gets easier over time-the first few months are definitely challenging. Don’t forget to be gentle with yourself ❤️❤️
Please check out my Resources video-I hope it helps! You are not alone!
Please check out my Resources video-I hope it helps! You are not alone!
I’m a new mom & that’s literally my son. 😫 He’s 3 months now. He’s becoming more happier & a little bit more manageable now.
@@tinyking11 Hugs! It's awesome that your little one is becoming happier! :)
@@tinyking11 How is your son doing now?? I see your comment is from 3 years ago 😊
My daughter is 9 months , she doesn’t sleep and always wants attention, if I’m lucky I sleep 15 min a day
Read the continum concept, it explains a lot about this subject.
Pearl Digga Very interesting! I did a quick search on the topic, I will have to read the book.
I know how you feel where all the other babies are quiet and you feel alone and wonder what is wrong with my baby. I have 3 babies and they’ve all been high needs. Going through it again with my youngest at 16 months. I get PPD every time 😢 It’s rough until they’re around 3.
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Sadie Tuescher Thank you for your support! ❤️
Tks so much for this video. I have a high needs baby as well and he is from 21st May hahaha...maybe something in common?! I'm still breastfeeding and he is 18months old now and is the only thing that really calls him down.
Haha aww May babies! Sending you a hug!! ❤
Thank you for this video i thought i was crazy for not understanding my one year old . I have cried and felt like a bad mom. All because i never knew or had an ideas of the “high need baby” . I feel so much better watching this and im in tears because exactly what you said i went thru it with my daughter if i only had known this earlier . But is never late thank you!! And update us on this topic. #high needsbabysmomswearenotalone
Julinn Umaña Thank you for watching! You are not alone! We are all in this together ❤️❤️
be you everyday yes i know what you mean but it gets better within time now she is getting more attached to her daddy so i get a little bit of a break. But sometimes she just wants me since i am the one with her all day. Its okay to ask for help from time to time to someone you can trust your child with. Believe me you will feel better and you and your baby will catch a break from each other.
be you everyday Sending love!!
How does someone know if they have a high needs baby or just a colicky baby??
That is a great question! High needs babies are usually (not always!) fussy right from birth. Colic tends to develop when a baby is around 2 weeks old. High needs babies can also have colic - mine did!