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  • How to Know When Your Relationship is Over
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Komentáře • 719

  • @accountabilityisadmirable
    @accountabilityisadmirable Před 3 lety +402

    Don't fall in love with potential. People don't just change

    • @amyk6028
      @amyk6028 Před 8 měsíci +9

      Amen. Loving the “idea” of him, not him

    • @lauriediandrea715
      @lauriediandrea715 Před 5 měsíci +7

      Don’t ever get with someone that is broken and hasn’t done the work to repair themselves. Because no matter how much you love someone you can’t fix them, it’s not your job. Pick somebody that you don’t want to change….

    • @rarebird_82
      @rarebird_82 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Wow... I needed to hear that.

    • @teresawelcome8354
      @teresawelcome8354 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Exactly. Or to hope that they'll eventually believe the way you do. Faith is one primary factor in relationships and if two people are not walking in the same direction, those two will end up pulling each other back and forth until at least one breaks. Ask those questions on the first date, and walk away right away if you can't walk their beliefs.

    • @palapalak.8907
      @palapalak.8907 Před 4 měsíci

      Fact!

  • @MrPretends
    @MrPretends Před 10 měsíci +401

    It’s incredible how there’s so many women going through toxic relationships and thinking their dude’s actions are normal because they’ve never experienced a true good man

    • @debbielockhart7762
      @debbielockhart7762 Před 8 měsíci

      There are just as many toxic women ruining men's lives. Don't kid yourself.

    • @bluetickbeagles116
      @bluetickbeagles116 Před 5 měsíci

      There are no good men. Men are taught to control women and are treated like superiors from the day they’re born.

    • @StrizzyBlizzy
      @StrizzyBlizzy Před 5 měsíci +7

      This 100%... I can't believe this toxic guy was weaponizing her affair. It's his fault she had the affair to begin with. It never ceases to amaze me how toxic men are.

    • @irockuroll60
      @irockuroll60 Před 5 měsíci +15

      Same for men with toxic women who never experienced a good woman.

    • @lauriediandrea715
      @lauriediandrea715 Před 5 měsíci +10

      It happens gradually and continuously seems more & more normal

  • @sabrinastratton1991
    @sabrinastratton1991 Před rokem +547

    I knew my marriage was over when I realized I was going through the motions. The toxic environment and abuse didn't help either. We had 2 kids together. I finally pulled the courage and filed for divorce. That lead to 3 months of escalated DV but I always made sure the kids were somewhere safe during this time. August 2018 got divorced and we are much happier for it. For some reason it blindsided my ex but I was working 3 jobs, going to school, raising two kids and doing all the errands, cooking and housework. He did nothing. I remember he once started crying clining to my legs begging not to leave and in hindsight this was him panicking because he was losing a meal ticket, I said I said I was still going for the divorce and he stopped crying and called me every name you can think of, I didn't react I just walked past him and out the door to walk alone.

    • @boston312
      @boston312 Před rokem +10

      the 2 of you made vows in front of God to stay married till death. You need to make amends with both your husband and God

    • @sandravargas9082
      @sandravargas9082 Před rokem +52

      Congratulations! You deserve a real quality man to walk beside you or at least rid yourself of a ball and chain pulling you down. “A “man” who doesn’t provide for his family is worse than an infidel.” You are raising your children to command RESPECT and kick losers to the curb and live their best life in good company. Be so blessed in your future!

    • @MaryEavey-dc3sk
      @MaryEavey-dc3sk Před rokem

      This comment is for @boston 312: making vows before God to stay married till death. If the husband refused to work on the marriage also, it is abandonment. I was married for 37.5 years to a verbal abuser who saw no need to change whatsover . I thought very long and hard on this decision to leave . He has never made amends to ME. I have forgiven him but there is no continuance of our relationship because he doesnt think he has done anything wrong. My 3 children have thanked me for leaving. He was abusive the them also. They respect me more for finally leaving and stop being his doormat. I come from a family that divorce is not an option, so I didnt do it for a very long time.

    • @isay207
      @isay207 Před rokem +82

      ​@@boston312 🤮

    • @pamgodsoe9076
      @pamgodsoe9076 Před rokem +14

      So proud of you. I know my husband is happy with our marriage. Yes, he does cook. Other than that, he doesn’t work, drinks whisky and plays games. I am getting older with nothing saved because of life choices, including putting him through 2, degrees. I work 50 plus hours per week and so tired with nothing saved

  • @shirk_slayer
    @shirk_slayer Před 4 měsíci +180

    Every marriage will be tested to the point of failure; the ones that survive are only the ones where BOTH spouses are committed to never giving up, no matter what.

    • @nodramamomma2777
      @nodramamomma2777 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Amen

    • @shirk_slayer
      @shirk_slayer Před 4 měsíci +3

      @nodramamomma2777 people to day think they don't need their partner to survive so they are quick to throw them away

    • @nodramamomma2777
      @nodramamomma2777 Před 4 měsíci +6

      @@shirk_slayeryes. Selfishness and me first attitude has unlived so many partnerships.

    • @michellemorrow7
      @michellemorrow7 Před 3 měsíci +14

      BUT….. one can’t just stay and go through the motions to have an actual good marriage. There are tons of bad marriages out there where people “never gave up”. Just because you stay doesn’t mean you haven’t given up. Sometimes that’s exactly what it means.

    • @shirk_slayer
      @shirk_slayer Před 3 měsíci +3

      @michellemorrow7 some pretty have a pretty high bar for what they consider a good marriage, unfortunately. If it's not a 90's RomCom they bail.

  • @krystalgardiner5591
    @krystalgardiner5591 Před 7 měsíci +33

    Niki, LEAVE. It doesn’t get better. I’m still in it and my mental health is horrible now. My self esteem doesn’t even exist. If I could go to sleep and never wake up I’d be fine with that. Don’t ever let a man make you feel like your trash. EVER.

  • @mistysmith8513
    @mistysmith8513 Před 5 měsíci +159

    OMGEEEE! This is the episode you told her to write "Cheater" down and mail it to you and then on another episode you got it and had no idea why! LOL!! She actually did it! Go Aleisha!!!

    • @shellthemagicdragon4646
      @shellthemagicdragon4646 Před 4 měsíci +13

      I saw that episode last week so that part was funny to me, too!

    • @shanlijerome2736
      @shanlijerome2736 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Which one is that?!

    • @snarv003
      @snarv003 Před 3 měsíci

      😂 I’m dying right now. That’s funny 😆

    • @Angela-kiss1xs
      @Angela-kiss1xs Před 3 měsíci +3

      I remember that episode too and it seemed so creepy.
      I hope Dr John realizes this too. It would be super unsettling to receive that thinking it is an accusation of some sort.

    • @nordikcajun5417
      @nordikcajun5417 Před 2 měsíci +1

      😂😂😂 bahaha. 😹. Now I remember it too. In one episode 😂😂😂.

  • @amandaredeagle9572
    @amandaredeagle9572 Před 5 měsíci +41

    I hope watching this he is 11 year sober😊❤ so kind

  • @nicholelesassier1799
    @nicholelesassier1799 Před 3 lety +171

    Nikki, I lived your life. I stayed for 15 years. It doesn't get better. LEAVE!! For yourself and your boys! By staying you are showing your boys that this is a way a man treats a woman. Trust me my kids are now 26,24, 22 and I see how staying hurt them. We all want WHOLE relationships, this is not one. Please trust me on this. Leave and don't look back. Wishing you all the best.

    • @aimeerebecca1
      @aimeerebecca1 Před rokem +6

      Perfectly said. Tragically, I stayed for a few more years, even knowing that. It is unfathomable how far we will let this go. So very sad.

    • @blueseptember2174
      @blueseptember2174 Před rokem +7

      Can you tell how staying hurt them? I want to know I made the right decision and it helps to hear from those that have been there.

    • @lmiller1413
      @lmiller1413 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Agreed. I regret staying. I showed my kids poor role models for marriage. And his actions, his lack of support, and criticism wasn't good for me or the kids. I regret marrying him, and I regret staying.

    • @lmiller1413
      @lmiller1413 Před 11 měsíci +7

      @blueseptember2174 the kids have very little self esteem. They talk about walking on eggshells around their dad, even as adults. I know my son treats his fiance like buddy, not like he should. My daughter is depressed and has a hard time getting out of bed, even as an adult. Me too. I eventually went and got another job and got my own place. But still return from time to time for business. Every time I'm back, I can't get my work done because it's all about him. He prioritizes himself with access to the bathroom etc. he gets upset when things don't go as planned. He is yelling even when I'm on a business call.
      It's just a reminder that I was very young and stupid, even at 30, when I got married.

    • @ashleejessop1293
      @ashleejessop1293 Před 5 měsíci

      I am still in that life, I hope Nikki ran far, far away

  • @sarahsavesit
    @sarahsavesit Před 3 lety +182

    "I can do anything for a day..." amazing words, John! CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR SOBRIETY!

    • @shelleykapp9637
      @shelleykapp9637 Před rokem +11

      I love this....I'm going to steal it!! I can do anything for a day....lunges and squats here I come 💪

    • @spookmagooked3017
      @spookmagooked3017 Před 4 měsíci +7

      It may sound stupid but I never fully understood exactly what it is about "take it one day at a time" that makes a challenge easier to overcome, until it was laid out like that: "I can do anything for a day" and better yet when he said, "I can do anything for an hour, for a minute." Simple yet empowering!

  • @wallacesmallwood1465
    @wallacesmallwood1465 Před 4 měsíci +30

    When they hurt you & no longer show concern for you .

  • @carnivoreRon
    @carnivoreRon Před 2 lety +233

    I understand what the young man is going through. I'm 70 and I learned to walk again. For me the worst part was when the braces were strapped to my legs and I was made to stand up in paralled bars. I fell quite a few times. Over 40 years later, I'm doing crossfit and yoga. Don't give up. Please, don't give up.

    • @Jkaye13
      @Jkaye13 Před 5 měsíci +4

      You are an inspiration!
      Keep on keeping on!

    • @Christian-gb8zf
      @Christian-gb8zf Před 5 měsíci +3

      Yes this! I have a similar story ❤ Andrew can do it

    • @aprilchow-chee5281
      @aprilchow-chee5281 Před 5 měsíci +2

      I hope he reads this 🙏

    • @saeedahugie8395
      @saeedahugie8395 Před 3 měsíci +2

      What a beautiful simile. I ❤it

  • @crazeekids9744
    @crazeekids9744 Před 3 lety +41

    It’s doesn’t take 6 years to figure out if you want to marry someone. On a side note, I tell my girls ALL THE TIME to be careful who they have babies with. If you marry someone, you can always get a divorce. If you have a baby with someone, you are stuck dealing with them (in most cases) for at least 18 years.

    • @unnamedchannel1237
      @unnamedchannel1237 Před 2 lety

      It may not of taken you that long but everybody is different and everybody is in different circumstances.

  • @c.j.valentine3027
    @c.j.valentine3027 Před 3 lety +223

    If the mother of those 2 small children lives in the Phx area, I will gladly clean house, do laundry, etc., to help. Praying for her!!!

  • @DNICHOLEP
    @DNICHOLEP Před 9 měsíci +29

    The last caller is 1000% not leaving her baby daddy. Good luck to her.

  • @JS-tv8sf
    @JS-tv8sf Před 2 lety +40

    I hope the mother with the two kids listened to every word you said and left that creep.

  • @SandraStachowiczLtd
    @SandraStachowiczLtd Před rokem +25

    Andrew, my man, your innate value as a human being does not end where your legs end You have so much more to offer to the world than just your legs You have value simply because you exist

  • @sterterous
    @sterterous Před 3 lety +180

    Congratulations James on staying sober for 9 years! Loved that you rang John. So cool.

  • @heidibonjour
    @heidibonjour Před rokem +29

    To the young man, I became disabled in my 20s. Doctors stuck needles in my feet , tried all sorts of therapies, and I am still (in my 50s) an ambulatory wheelchair user. I walk, I use scooters, knee scooter, wheelchair as needed. My feet get better and worse, but I am limited. I have had to find work and income streams that work with my body. Also, I DO NOT DISCUSS MY HEALTH WITH MOST PEOPLE! I ONLY discuss it with people who LISTEN TO ME! Other people do NOT know what I need! Grieve and be angry as long as you need to! Find a therapist! Create your own life

  • @martinab2055
    @martinab2055 Před 3 lety +18

    Nikki is a kind of friend who asks for advice but never acts on it. Know your worth girl 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @frumpusnumpus
    @frumpusnumpus Před 3 lety +26

    Nikki, what are you doing??? I felt so sorry for her! Move on. The second you move on, you will gain motivation for yourself and your kids. Some of these 'men' are so selfish its mind boggling. Jocko will 100% disapprove.

  • @illuminaci3077
    @illuminaci3077 Před 4 měsíci +14

    Nikki laughing probably cause she didn’t feel like she could cry is so sad. I wish her and the other callers the best of luck 💙

  • @miguelhernandez7652
    @miguelhernandez7652 Před 2 lety +34

    Wow. Incredible part when he speaks with battling PTSD, Anxiety, & Depression after becoming disabled in an accident. I pray for him. Stay strong brother. Love you from Wisconsin.

  • @fromthedeskofAngieEmm
    @fromthedeskofAngieEmm Před 3 lety +180

    If Nikki ever reads these comments, I hope she realizes that she deserves more than that poor excuse of a boyfriend! Someone who’s worth your time will not talk to you like this!!! You CAN make it away from him. You can’t burn brightly if someone is always putting out your flame. ❤️

    • @janettetimms8650
      @janettetimms8650 Před 2 lety +1

      💯

    • @Danny-sx6cj
      @Danny-sx6cj Před 2 lety

      Agreed. Dude seems like a scumbag. Why hasn’t he proposed?!

    • @OfPsalmsandHymns
      @OfPsalmsandHymns Před 2 lety +3

      Yes!!! 💯

    • @jamidouglas4083
      @jamidouglas4083 Před 2 lety +2

      Preach!!

    • @shady1234shady
      @shady1234shady Před rokem +8

      It was so hard to hear her tearing up on the call! Poor girl, and the laughter is almost nauseating too like she doesn’t understand the gravity of how he treats her

  • @vixxcottage
    @vixxcottage Před 3 lety +45

    Andrew I am an old nurse. I had thousands of different patients. I had a patient that was run over by an 18 wheeler. He had so many problems with nerves and bones and unable to walk. After 2 years he returned working his business of home improvement and construction. In fact when I visited him for wound care he was trying to assist me with a kitchen remodel! Keep your mind focused on the prize. Compartmentalize your pain. Believe me I understand. John gives such excellent advice. By the way the guy I sited was only 3 years older than you.

    • @LoveLove-pj8oi
      @LoveLove-pj8oi Před 3 lety

      Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately

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      @LoveLove-pj8oi Před 3 lety

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    • @LoveLove-pj8oi
      @LoveLove-pj8oi Před 3 lety

      massage him on WhatsApp

    • @blueseptember2174
      @blueseptember2174 Před 10 měsíci +1

      Nurses are so wonderful. Thank you for your service ❤

    • @vixxcottage
      @vixxcottage Před 10 měsíci

      @@blueseptember2174 thank you.

  • @tinam761
    @tinam761 Před 3 lety +65

    Dear One with the two little ones ... 2 children & 6 years is long enough. It doesn’t appear he wants to be in it for the long haul. PLEASE recognize your worth! And your kids too. Wishing he’d mature and respect you will not make it happen. I know this from experience... I’m completely embarrassed to say I stayed with a man that promised he wanted to marry me for 9 years! Don’t make the mistake I made. His lack of ability to see your value is NOT your fault. You CAN have respectful love in your life. It will be hard ... but you CAN do it! My love and prayers are with you. 🙏🏼💕

    • @nancyorkeithm1518
      @nancyorkeithm1518 Před 3 lety

      ☝️

    • @marvinanthony1172
      @marvinanthony1172 Před 3 lety +6

      I can never understand why you women expect men to see this so called value in you. You are not seeing you from his perspective. Perhaps he does not see the same "value" you see in yourself. Instead of assuming that you're valuable to him, try asking him pertinent questions about how he sees you and perhaps you will find out that you are not as valuable as you think, or he's not seeing what you think you are projecting.
      Coming from a good place. Stop assuming. Ask questions.

    • @salma_Nella22
      @salma_Nella22 Před 3 lety +3

      @@marvinanthony1172 facts! You cheapen your “value” when you stay with a man based on assumptions. Always figure out what their intentions are and don’t assume that you are beneficial to everyone. You are not entitled to appreciation from someone that doesn’t appreciate you

    • @marvinanthony1172
      @marvinanthony1172 Před 3 lety +2

      @@salma_Nella22 I concur. "you are not entitled to appreciation from someone that doesn't appreciate you". Well said!

    • @Danny-sx6cj
      @Danny-sx6cj Před 2 lety

      John handled this call well

  • @jessicadominguez1315
    @jessicadominguez1315 Před 3 lety +60

    They had kids to try to fix their broken marriage. That never works. I feel for these girls.

  • @gmoney1089
    @gmoney1089 Před 2 lety +19

    I picture Nikki's boyfriend coming home from work, walking in the door, holding a clip board and grilling her about what she's done all day, as he marks off pass/fail boxes he's making qrunting noises while looking over his glasses that he's wearing at the end of his nose, and disappointingly shaking his head back and forth like a supervisor at work... 🤦‍♂️

  • @angeliquemarquez6549
    @angeliquemarquez6549 Před 5 měsíci +40

    Omg the last caller I'm crying . I'm in a similar situation. My husband says I looked better before I got pregnant . He constantly tries to tell me what to do. No respect. His advice hit me hard. Thank you John

    • @Sarah-bn1hg
      @Sarah-bn1hg Před 4 měsíci +2

      This is why I’m scared to start a family

    • @shashamarie4760
      @shashamarie4760 Před 4 měsíci +4

      Leave him now. I'm 7 months into a marriage. I wish I didn't spend a second.

    • @woboznz
      @woboznz Před 4 měsíci +3

      Just curious did he show any signs of this kind of behaviour towards you or this type of misogyny towards other women before you got pregnant, or did the pregnancy flip a switch in him?

    • @angeliquemarquez6549
      @angeliquemarquez6549 Před 4 měsíci +4

      ​@@woboznzNo he didn't show this before I got pregnant. He doesn't have a great relationship with his mother because she put him and his siblings through hell. When I had the mood swings while pregnant he would say I was mean to him and honestly I wasn't . He didn't care to understand what women go through when I tried to explain it

    • @angeliquemarquez6549
      @angeliquemarquez6549 Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@shashamarie4760It'll be 8 years of marriage this year . 10 years together total.

  • @joanntebo2835
    @joanntebo2835 Před 3 lety +45

    I felt for Andrew because I have watched a family member who was vital, active and a force to be reckoned with, deal with a spinal cord injury that has left her a quadriplegic. She has fought pain, depression, doctors and caregivers who did little. Some even told her she would not live 5 years - she would likely die of infection. Fast forward, her husband takes great care of her. She has a few good doctors. They travel. She has an ATV that is rigged with a harness and adaptive tech to let her few arm muscles that work let her drive off road. She has done a tandem sky dive. (Her former spinal cord advisor did too, and asked, "What's gonna happen? I already broke my neck!") Her good advisor told her to get well over the next two years. Then, have something to do and to work for. Andrew, there is life ahead! It can still be an adventure.

  • @gabriellacallahan2649
    @gabriellacallahan2649 Před rokem +13

    I greatly empathize with the man who has been injured. I have dealt 20 years of pain from an automobile accident. My ❤ goes out to his situation.

  • @Songbird36able
    @Songbird36able Před 3 lety +32

    She left and went back. That means you can leave. LEAVE LADY!!! He keeps saying "wife". She's a girlfriend if he acknowledges her as that.

    • @jessicadominguez1315
      @jessicadominguez1315 Před 3 lety +5

      Lol bc she's playing the part of a wife with no legal protections. Now she won't get any part of their house or any alimony.
      I hope she goes to her father's house again and stays this time. I hope Dr. Delony's words stay with her. It's a big deal imo that he flat out told her to leave, he doesn't say that.

    • @Songbird36able
      @Songbird36able Před 3 lety +1

      @@jessicadominguez1315 Absolutely right!

  • @LOADING...o.o.o
    @LOADING...o.o.o Před 4 měsíci +9

    @29:41 Writing down is such a great advice. My sister told me to write down my trauma backward/opposite. I used to have trust issues. I wrote down, "I'm healthy, I trust in men, and I trust my boyfriend." Now it helped me a lot.

  • @laurahano7448
    @laurahano7448 Před 3 lety +51

    Andrew in Los Angeles: Wishing you luck in finding your new purpose.

  • @rachelgooden9981
    @rachelgooden9981 Před 3 lety +141

    I love how Deloney dealt with Andrew’s case. I feel so sad for Andrew’. I heard the pain in his voice. I’m sending positivity his way . I hope he catches a break. Sigh.
    I hope he’s with the Ramsey programme and doesn’t have financial issues to make things worse.

    • @Danny-sx6cj
      @Danny-sx6cj Před 2 lety

      💯

    • @debbielockhart7762
      @debbielockhart7762 Před 8 měsíci

      People don't have to follow Ramsey to be financially well. I disagree with a lot of Ramsey's methods.

  • @ldaniel2023
    @ldaniel2023 Před 4 měsíci +6

    When you hear other people’s problems, makes you realize your own problems aren’t that bad. Grateful for this channel. 🙏

  • @sweetyukibo
    @sweetyukibo Před 3 lety +76

    To Nikki: He WILL leave you for a younger, fitter model. GET OUT NOW. HE NEEDS YOU, until he finds some other chick to take care of him

  • @BigE-qx1jb
    @BigE-qx1jb Před 4 měsíci +5

    I was married for 14 years we divorced 5 years ago and I jumped back into a relationship, as this relationship went on I realized that I was the reason for the divorce and I’ll never change and now 4.5 years later this relationship is over and I’ll never change, I’m not a cheater or anything like that I just have problem with communication so I think it’s time for me to be alone I’m 52 and I learned life does go on and spend time with me

  • @jessicaneal8553
    @jessicaneal8553 Před 2 lety +19

    My to do list includes feed baby, make lunches, eat lunch, make dinner, change nappies (diapers). Then I have the optional things after that if I can: read books to kids, clean, do dishes, tidy toys, laundry on, laundry dry, laundry folded, laundry away. It helps a lot to cross things off, and write what else you do as it comes up- that way you know, and others can see exactly what a day looks like.

  • @karydiaz74
    @karydiaz74 Před 2 lety +17

    Oh I hurt for Nikki 🥺 she needs to leave!! This is a narcissistic behavior from his so called "partner" can't stand men like that 😤

  • @roxybaaybee
    @roxybaaybee Před 3 lety +31

    I feel for Niki. No one deserves this from any one, especially a guy whose sole purpose is to make you and your kids feel happy and safe. it’s true that kids will absorb their environment, I grew up with parents that never separated but they should’ve. I would prefer to have seen both my parents happy apart. It ruined all my siblings views on marriage and our relationships, and consequently our relationships with our own kids.

  • @danikathacker8549
    @danikathacker8549 Před 4 měsíci +11

    The man in the wheel chair is so anointed and called by God. And those suicidal dreams are an attach from the enemy. He needs to pray like Job, and then heal and start working in his calling. That’s how you KNOW you’re called by God is when the enemy tries to take you out.

  • @tomdrummy4984
    @tomdrummy4984 Před 3 lety +80

    Your soul will tell you when relationship is over.
    Think of the person, and your soul will tell you.
    Oh yes, it’s real......deep, but real.
    Your soul guides you when you are quiet, and listen

    • @Brenduh03
      @Brenduh03 Před 2 lety

      I would have to disagree…

    • @Dannniellleee
      @Dannniellleee Před 2 lety +4

      I agree. Once you learn to listen to it!

    • @rachelwyatt6030
      @rachelwyatt6030 Před rokem +1

      How can I tell the difference of my heart, mind or soul when asking questions?

    • @voltatech7772
      @voltatech7772 Před rokem +2

      Agreed! I so enjoy when he’s gone and dread seeing him driving up. Time for him to go!

    • @evalisabowers8898
      @evalisabowers8898 Před 4 měsíci +5

      Agree! I love that you made this comment. It speaks to me. I often get clarity and perspective about my situation in the small time after I wake up in the morning. If I don’t write it down, things get clouded again as the day progresses and I don’t understand my situation again. I have wondered what that phenomenon is. You explained that very succinctly. Makes sense. Thank you commenter

  • @neogbfe3587
    @neogbfe3587 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Never understood individuals that stay tied to an ex partner. Heal and separate, have integrity, and respect for yourself and others. No breaks, space or trial separations, take a risk and develop some courage to move on.

  • @Shannonmari
    @Shannonmari Před 3 měsíci +6

    My heart broke for Nikki and her two kids, that she's putting up with this Neanderthal! I literally shed tears listening to this.... I hope she's realized she's BETTER than this and leaves!! If she were my daughter, I'd tell her to come home with those two babies.

  • @veronicamoo6380
    @veronicamoo6380 Před 2 měsíci +2

    He needs deliverance. The enemy is trying to oppress that young man. Prayers for him !!!

  • @timmy5948
    @timmy5948 Před 9 měsíci +9

    Omg alieshas story is my own currently! Seperated still living together. There are so many feeling still floating around. We have the best days sometimes and the spark comes back. It's so tiring. I want to be worthy of someone's love.

    • @NaeK188
      @NaeK188 Před 3 měsíci

      You ARE worthy. Even in the moments you don’t FEEL it, feelings can be misleading.

  • @Christian-gb8zf
    @Christian-gb8zf Před 5 měsíci +3

    I was 28 and had my foot and ankle were crushed by a car. It was just one of them, not both. It took 5 years. I will never run again. But I can walk normally, I wear compression socks and I currently work on a farm. You can really do whatever you believe you can. Move more and more! It takes YEARS. You can do it! I believe in you.

  • @Mrs.Buttercup_
    @Mrs.Buttercup_ Před 3 lety +158

    I have to say... every time I wash dishes I say to myself it's time to listen to Delony.😂

  • @stacyannjohnson4219
    @stacyannjohnson4219 Před 3 lety +42

    She went from laughing to crying now that is enough of enough. 😭😭😭 I think she is depressed.

    • @HenryPaulThe3rd
      @HenryPaulThe3rd Před 3 lety +7

      That went from 0-100 real quick

    • @nicoled5797
      @nicoled5797 Před 3 lety +6

      Been there, done that, she’s definitely depressed.

    • @Emc_Squared
      @Emc_Squared Před 3 měsíci

      Someone finally understands. It’s a coping mechanism for her, because she is scared of what it all really means. I hope she gets the courage she needs to leave.

  • @constancemiller3753
    @constancemiller3753 Před 3 lety +16

    I respect how Andrew and John had a real conversation about moving on versus sitting down. 🐢

  • @rachelhelman2098
    @rachelhelman2098 Před 2 lety +73

    Super emotional listening to Andrew's story. John, you are so amazing, getting into the problem, emotion and mapping out the rout to the solution. I'm so inspired listening to you. How incredible, you have the ability to change people's perspectives so that in turn they can change their path. What a gift you have x

    • @Jkaye13
      @Jkaye13 Před 5 měsíci

      I completely agree!! 👍🏻

  • @jennifert2953
    @jennifert2953 Před 2 lety +8

    I would beg the young mother to remember what has been said. He is teaching his girls that this is what marriage is. This is how we treat each other. I wasted my entire life. My children are everything to me. And that part of my life is awesome. My utilities got cut too, stop laughing. It’s not funny. You will wake up at 50 and realize love will never come my way. Don’t waste you life kid.

  • @mlovespring7892
    @mlovespring7892 Před 3 lety +31

    Dr Jonh Daloney is doing a miracle work. We are all so appreciative for all that you do. God blessed you! 🙏🙏🙏

  • @LivingAble
    @LivingAble Před 3 lety +65

    I don't know if this would be of any help and I can't deal with it from like the PTSD part but my CZcams channel is where I show how I do things from a wheelchair. It may help the gentleman with the hurt feet to do some things sitting. I live independently I can work and completely take care of myself from a physical standpoint (pun intended) all from sitting. He will obviously need help to deal with the pain physically and mentally but from a task perspective there are ways. And I'm more than happy to talk to him or his wife and be of encouragement

    • @callmecordelia7181
      @callmecordelia7181 Před 3 lety +2

      Good for you! I hope he checks out your channel!

    • @chezlou812
      @chezlou812 Před 3 lety +3

      Such a lovely offer 💖 I hope he sees this and checks out your channel!

    • @LivingAble
      @LivingAble Před 3 lety +4

      @@chezlou812 thx I hope he will reach out to me

  • @kerry-annmcpherson1011
    @kerry-annmcpherson1011 Před 3 lety +29

    The tears are just rolling down my face as you called James. So awesome. Such a therapeutic show

  • @djlazylee
    @djlazylee Před 2 lety +10

    I agree, I love your show. For someone with so many credentials, you are so down to earth and easy to relate to. Good luck and I wish you continued success.

  • @pattythomas9405
    @pattythomas9405 Před 3 lety +16

    It would be cool if for once you didn't feel insecure about naming the show after yourself. Or being forced to name it after yourself or whatever. You have earned the title of doctor. We tune to your show for that reason.

  • @Thegracemade
    @Thegracemade Před rokem +8

    Love how Dr John challenges and encourages Andrew! God still has a plan for you and can still use you sweet Andrew your testimony can change lives and touch so many❤ God Bless you - all the best!

  • @SarahBurnette1007
    @SarahBurnette1007 Před 2 měsíci +1

    My heart goes out to the 2nd caller who had his feet damaged and is disabled. Prayers for your healing friend 🧡 ❤

  • @Bigf00t100
    @Bigf00t100 Před 3 lety +55

    I love this show! You literally make me a better person with your wisdom and how you would approach situations. This needs to go on for 2 hours DAILY! Everyone has problems and has faced an array of them. Everyone would enjoy listening to this as everyone can relate to an extent or another

    • @jarelchico
      @jarelchico Před 3 lety

      I agree. 2 hours DAILY. There's so many of us out here so messed up...

  • @mariee.5912
    @mariee.5912 Před 2 lety +10

    Andrew, keep going. You can do it. You have a story to tell. You don't need to get up from that chair to be amazing. Don't give up you sound amazing.

  • @nmc1859
    @nmc1859 Před 2 lety +25

    I really feel for the young man who talked about the accident and also the loss of his brother. And also... have a feeling things are going to go well for him. What obstacles to overcome they are.. somehow I believe he can. 💖

  • @beezymommy7888
    @beezymommy7888 Před rokem +13

    I am now a fan. This show must be seen by many people. John is a good coach ❤️

  • @mariee.5912
    @mariee.5912 Před 2 lety +7

    Nikki, GET OUT!! John is right.

  • @jamidouglas4083
    @jamidouglas4083 Před 2 lety +9

    My heart goes out to Nikki. Now being a mom myself. Oh my goodness is it hard being home with not only 1 but two little ones...Sister..GO LIVE YOUR LIFE. There is so much more for you.

    • @potluck712
      @potluck712 Před 11 měsíci

      I’m not yet on Nikki’s story but am seeing this comment. Whats more than being a mother and loving your children? As in, why are you implying they are ruining her and her ability in life?

  • @KManwarren
    @KManwarren Před 2 lety +7

    This episode has me on my 3rd comment: if I was that new Mom's Mother, her selfish boyfriend would be in a world of hurt. I would go see him, ripped or not. Couldn't treat my daughter and grandbabies like that. A job interview?!? I got your interview. I would show him the door. Nikki needs a hug, some church, and some counseling IMMEDIATELY!

  • @lynncbryan
    @lynncbryan Před 3 lety +17

    Praying for you, Andrew!

  • @sherrikins3557
    @sherrikins3557 Před 3 lety +8

    For the guy that had the accident: I knew a guy in a wheelchair.. Vietnam war got his legs. He was the manager of a brokerage in freight..a boss.. Had alot of $, trucks, ran the whole dept, like owned it.. He had alot of big accounts. Alot of women liked him, too. My friend worked for him so I would see him when I went for lunch.

  • @vr8921
    @vr8921 Před rokem +6

    Omg that poor girl at the end, I sure hope she left that jerk

  • @jnikibbons5606
    @jnikibbons5606 Před 2 lety +12

    Nicky, girl, this man has failed his job interview, his training sessions and failed to meet his job expectations. Fire him and run the business yourself.

  • @nancyt6895
    @nancyt6895 Před 3 lety +76

    Dr. Deloney is doing some really good work. He keeps getting better and better.

  • @Shan0714SLS
    @Shan0714SLS Před 9 měsíci +5

    Thank you Dr. Delony for your brilliant approach to tough issues and help people answer their mountain. I love your direct approach, direct solutions and how you call people to their own action. Absolutely brilliant, beautiful, inspiring! Thank You! ❤🙏🏻

  • @kimm5555
    @kimm5555 Před 3 lety +5

    I love how you inspired the young man who became injured. I was inspired.

  • @whistlepiglet
    @whistlepiglet Před 3 lety +7

    Aleisha in North Carolina: I wish you healing and much love in your future. Take care of yourself and your babies.

  • @freetreebees
    @freetreebees Před rokem +6

    The first woman cheated on her husband and ruined her family. We shouldn't minimize cheating and talk to her aq if she hadn't done anything. The guy seems like a nice loving guy. He obviously still loves her and his daughters but he's hurt so he can't fully commit.

    • @anndeecosita3586
      @anndeecosita3586 Před 8 měsíci +7

      Dr. John didn’t minimize it. He said if the husband can’t forgive then they should both move on. Not live together as buddies who occasionally screw around. Also they had kids after the affair and so why have kids with her if he can no longer commit.

    • @brendarewan7441
      @brendarewan7441 Před 3 měsíci +2

      He didn’t minimize it. She paid for it with the divorce. Her husband is making her feel guilty for the rest of her life. Jesus forgives. She needs to move on so that she’s not living under his judgment all her life.

  • @thenutrientwhisperer3700
    @thenutrientwhisperer3700 Před 4 měsíci +3

    Wow John, you really outdid yourself this time. Nice wrap up to this video. Holding mothers up high the way you did. Thank you for your support. You are one of a kind.💝♥️

  • @wolfpack3812
    @wolfpack3812 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Massive congrats James. I truly hope by now it is 11 years… 💪I can do anything for a day. Love love love it

  • @Dutches-so3di
    @Dutches-so3di Před 5 měsíci +1

    I just want to say how happy I’m to have found this channel. I love the way Dr. John gives advice in all the shows. Great Job!!!! We all need this free therapy❤

  • @imjussayn7936
    @imjussayn7936 Před 4 měsíci +3

    BLESSINGS, COURAGE & STRENGTH to Andrew ❤❤❤❤

  • @OldManJeff
    @OldManJeff Před 4 měsíci +3

    I know you are referring to a business address. But I just imagined your wife opening the mail and seeing a piece of paper addressed to you that says, “CHEATER.” In sharpie from a woman in North Carolina. 😂

  • @makry123
    @makry123 Před 2 lety +3

    Dr. John thank you for being the best. I hope you see this!

  • @johnnypineappleseed
    @johnnypineappleseed Před 2 lety +10

    Hey James! Happy almost decade of sobriety man. I don’t know if johns gonna call you again this year, but we’re all still out here rooting for you man ◡̈

  • @harmonee_76
    @harmonee_76 Před rokem +3

    This is my new favorite channel!! I’m so glad I found y’all!!

  • @lethaldorito3426
    @lethaldorito3426 Před 3 lety +8

    These episodes have been slapping recently !

  • @SaystheTruth3
    @SaystheTruth3 Před rokem +3

    My heart goes out to Andrew... I pray he's starting to feeling more positive & achieving his goals. ❤️

  • @myaalberto2959
    @myaalberto2959 Před rokem +4

    Wow!!!! Holding space for Andrew🥰🤗🙏🏼. What an amazing podcast soo much insightfulness..it can be any of us in a split second life can take a detour!!!! Thank you so much Dr. D for pouring your heart out with your expertise on this call 🙏🏼.

  • @jasminegrisson5847
    @jasminegrisson5847 Před 3 lety +15

    "I don't know what day it is but I know it's somewhere in April"..... It's May 7th 😭😭😭😭

    • @janeddooee
      @janeddooee Před 3 lety +6

      They usually record the show a few weeks in advance 😄

  • @Jacqueline967
    @Jacqueline967 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I related to Andrews story so thank you for calling, and thank you for the advice!

  • @heatherhughes2454
    @heatherhughes2454 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you so much for this one. I had a back injury and got nerve damage. My foot is permanently immobile. That's the short of it. I went through depression and developed panic disorder. It was horrible. I'm doing better now. I've learn to get around and join in life. But this brought me to tears because I totally identify. Thanks for being vulnerable to get on this show and talk about it. You are not alone. I was 27 years old when it happened.

  • @newbeginnings9457
    @newbeginnings9457 Před 2 lety +4

    This Doc is Amazing! Really enjoy your motivation of others!

  • @TomiaMacQueen
    @TomiaMacQueen Před 3 lety +24

    You can do it Andrew!!! Keep living and loving! Find your God given purpose and go for it. Often, finding someone else for you to help makes a tremendous difference in ourselves.

  • @SofiUk0319
    @SofiUk0319 Před 11 měsíci +1

    I feel so much for the newly disabled man ❤ I love you sir, keep fighting your fight my love. I wish I could take all your pain from you ❤ horrible situation all around, God bless your brother too

  • @jonimitchell6962
    @jonimitchell6962 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I went thru a terrible trauma but when I finally realized the pain wasn't good but the lessons I learned could be a blessing to others and that gave the trauma and healing a purpose. It was when I started to heal. It took a long time but it worked.

  • @graceseward2217
    @graceseward2217 Před 3 měsíci +1

    The gentleman that called in about his feet ran over and disability my ears hear him .Thank you for being so brave I feel like you do .I have herredity angiodemia and is life threatening daily .keep going my friend you got me to reach out .thank you .

  • @apros2cents
    @apros2cents Před 4 měsíci

    I LOVE THIS GUY! Just ran across this channel and I think the advice you give people is so honest and accurate. Thank you

  • @jenniferchiang8759
    @jenniferchiang8759 Před 2 lety +3

    If I was the one run this talk show, there would be 10 boxes of tissues on the desk.... Amazing Dr. John and very very good wishes for you Andrew, so sorry, you will feel better day by day.

  • @maggiesproxton3884
    @maggiesproxton3884 Před 4 měsíci

    Loved the shout out in this episode. Encouraging to hear people on the other side of where people are calling in from!

  • @M_K_M_K_M_K
    @M_K_M_K_M_K Před 5 měsíci +3

    John, don’t let your wife find the letter addressed to you, with “cheater” on it 😂

  • @Songbird36able
    @Songbird36able Před 3 lety +78

    Why are ya'll not married? I've never understood dating for long periods of time, having children and not getting married. Her laughing about it is kind of annoying! You've hooked your star to this guy?! I don't believe she's going to leave. The laughing says it all. She's hears the truth, but she's not going anywhere.

    • @mscott1997
      @mscott1997 Před 3 lety +5

      Could be a form of reaction formation

    • @jefftX
      @jefftX Před 3 lety +6

      Marriage is a scam for all men. So maybe the man was smart enough to realize that? Think about it. A woman can cheat on a man and still take half of his belongings in a divorce. The ultimate scam, smart men don’t marry.

    • @BagsNBaguettes_327
      @BagsNBaguettes_327 Před 3 lety +29

      Laughing is her defense mechanism.

    • @nt3833
      @nt3833 Před 3 lety +23

      @@jefftX that’s fine if you feel that way. But then don’t have kids with the person!!

    • @unnamedchannel1237
      @unnamedchannel1237 Před 2 lety +4

      Marriage is based on religious beliefs. It is only governed by the lead of the religion in Christianity that would be god/Jesus. If you don’t have those religious beliefs then it is just a bit of paper and means nothing so why bother.

  • @charlotteboyett-napper4780

    It never heals. Move on and don’t make that same mistake again.