Narcissistic Abuse explained in 60 seconds
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- čas přidán 17. 09. 2022
- Narcissistic Abuse explained in 60 seconds. Trailer of the documentary 'Surviving Narcissists and Pyschopaths' Find it on my channel. To create awareness of Narcissistic Abuse, for the survivors and for others to recognise it.
Narcissism, narcissists, psychopaths. With Sam Vaknin, Jan Storms and Mjon van Oers.
When you finally realize the narcissist needs you more than you need them, you can heal. And when you feel disgusted that a good sign you will be ok.
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I was married to a narcissistic sociopath for 20 years. I divorced him 30 years ago. I came to realize, years after I divorced him, that when we met, I was already mentally damaged goods. The perfect narcissist prey. I've done typical counseling, but my issues were deep. Nothing really helped until I was treated for PTSD. That was the turning point for me. I will carry my mental scars till death. I have not been in a romantic relationship with a man in 30 years. I've had to rely on myself and that keeps me mentally safe knowing no man in my life = no mental anguish by way of abuse. He is still a living, breathing, horrible man. I have no contact with him. I have heard through the grape vine that he has not changed.
Same here, also diagnosed with PTSD
@@OffTheWagons ....I hope life now blesses you Miss Mia. I see so many abusive men mistreating their wives and children. It's horrible. And now in the news, the poor girl that was stomped to death in an Iranian jail just because her hair was sticking out of her hijab. The women are now protesting to the max. They are so fed up. Some have ripped off their hijabs and shaving their heads in protest of the insane treatment of women. I bless them in their plight . I live in the United States, we are supposed to be protected from abuse of men, but you can't see the injuries, emotional wounds and scars these narcissistic men inflict. I have physically survived but haven't healed completely in 30 plus years. Sad.
@@MissPrissy6688 ❤️ bless you too my friend
I’m so sorry, glad the therapy helped. I found EMDR to be extremely helpful. There’s a channel on CZcams called refugee from narcissism & people write in their stories & he gives you his opinions & you’ll find comfort in the comment section. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@MissPrissy6688 😔🥺
My mother - the first narc in my life.
Mine too
37 almost 38 years old just now realizing what type of monster I was fighting...
Maybe now that I know the type of monster it is, I can now acquire the skills/weapons to defeat it
with me it was my dad :-/
@@cortneypayton6473 I didn't realize what my mother was until after she passed away. I so wish i had figured it out while she was still alive.
Got called crazy so many times, I actually thought I was going crazy with his games.
My ex-husband did all of these things to me. It took me years of planning my escape but I DID IT without any support because in those days nobody ever talked about narcassists because their behavior was accepted as NORMAL. I THANK GOD for helping to give me courage and strength to walk away all on my own and never looked back. Zero contact was the answer...when he followed me and tried to beat me in a parking lot I had him charged. I wanted away from friends and family that were connected to him as well. I have since created a MAGICAL life filled with joy and true happiness 😊
i am very happy for you! i know the suffering of being with a narc for 40 years!
@ Teresa Fraser . When you say "in those days" , I'm wondering more or less what years you are talking about ? I'm attempting to track when Narcissistic Abuse became more discussed in society and social media. I'd appreciate your input . Thanks in advance.
@@ninaromm5491 This was in 1983
I am so happy for you!! Wishing you only the best going forward and many, many years of excellent health, lots of love and happiness always.
Good for you. Came of age in 70s. But male wanted me to live in the 1850s.
He wanted me and everyone else to believe that I had mental health issues.. When he left for the new supply, I was able to heal and within time realized I was actually very much sane and healthy, when I was no longer around him.
Same. And it didn’t take long at all. Less than a year. That’s after being married for 27 year.
I couldn’t figure out why I was so exhausted. Now I know. I noticed my energy and motivation began returning about one month after her left. 🙌🏻
Yes! Good for you! I'm so happy that you're happy and healthy again. I think all of us realize this that when we were faulted and minimized by these people, they were actually our greatest strength we were being faulted for. At least that was my experience. Between the mother psychopath, and the psychopath I married, they hated all the things that turned out to be my greatest strength and best assets about myself. I wish healing and recovery for every single victim Survivor out there. You deserve better. You are not a scapegoat to carry anyone else's sins or bad behavior. You are black stallions and you are glorious!
@@bonniekerr4964❤❤ Exactly the truth sister. So happy for you. Hugs.
When their desperate, deranged and envious hangers on try to compete with you and spread rumours about you. Unless people have been there, they won't know.
Wow this is the best video on CZcams I've watched to explain what a Narcissist is, please i advise anyone to watch and learn.
I was married to a narcissist for 20 years
Narc free for 3 years now and i can finally ive in peace ✌️
Then hey are you here still watching videos
Not all the time because it's too depressing, but i watched enough to be able to teach others, and to remind me that I'm not the only one who went threw this terrible ordeal with a narcissist.
@@marywilsonvocalist2181 sometimes watching helps you not to forget and become a prey ever again.
I personally will be watching theses videos for the rest of my life and I feel no way about that. Watching empowers me every day.
All of it is correct and I became astonished at the way others prefer to believe the lies. It gets worse and worse with time, just mean, vicious and hateful. They will use others to triangulate and isolate you. Until you start to believe that you are crazy, that they must be right. It starts as a small joke or comment, until it isn't.
I was called crazy every day for years .
Eyes are demonic
True! The girl I was with was turely demonic.. now she was raised by her father, who was what I suspect was a narcissist, and was most definitely a abuser.. physically and mentally. I assume it sort of transfers to the child, like when someone who was sexually abused turns out grows up to do the same.. But that being said, it still isnt acceptable.. She knows that she is damaged herself.. she knows she has self-esteem/self confidence issues.. she always acknowledges that she has anger problems and can't handle or control her emotions. And after we've had a bad fight, and shes upset and crying and im upset and crying, she'll being up the fact that.. I CAN handle and are able to control my anger and emotions and am able to operate in life without constant outbursts and freakouts, so she says I should be the "bigger" person, or should be more mature and not snap back at her, or do the things that I and her both know will trigger these outbursts and general anger.. and in a way I do actually agree with that.. but the thing is.. she isn't doing anything to treat her mental health issues.. isn't taking medication... Doing drugs..
*meth
*opiates
Being the main substances.
(we are both addicts, which OBVIOUSLY exasperates the whole situation ten-fold.)
Especially methamphetamine.
Im not sure what my point is.. I suppose im just telling my situation/story..
But your comment is so very true.. her eyes when shes in her anger/freakout mode.. oh my god is it truly scary.. I cant put it in better words then you have already.. Demonic. Souless. Evil.
@@cjware316she got probably bpd
Being married to a narcissistic bipolar for 7 years will drive you insane. Really. I'm actually mentally disabled from the controlling, gaslighting, flat out abuse. Luckily i finally figured out how to make him leave me. It's been 7 years since that day, and I still cannot relax. 🥺
PTSD i guess
@@more444store6 thanks. I keep trying to read. Used to be my greatest love, before he ripped up all my books. One day maybe. Meanwhile he just spent 2 weeks in involuntarily psych hold for threatening to kill me. That relaxing isn't happening anytime soon....
@@thekingschild2116 oh yeah. Still have to sleep w a light on so i know im not with him when i wake up.
Stay strong, take it day by day and one day you will wake up and the memories will be so vague and eventually be filled with new positive ones. God Bless 🏖️
He told people I had dementia and was schizophrenic. Guy was delusional himself so think it was some projection
Often times we never know what is happening until we are healed and can turn around and look back and realize that what was happening is exactly what is on this list. I now consider myself having been very strong for surviving all of it and breaking free. It has left many scars in some thing I continue to work on but I am no longer that victim. He still the same person trying but no longer has control over me.
I am so proud of you. Keep it up. I'm healing slowly...but surely. WHEW!😊
It’s a spiritual battle between good and evil. God deals only in Truth. satan mixes lies with truth to confuse us.
Amen ❤
@@brittanydw The biggest deception has actually been over worship. Specifically the day of rest. Remember the fourth commandment KJV is reminding us of Genesis 2:2&3. Jesus kept the seventh day sabbath rest even the forty days after His resurrection. It was roman emperor Constantine in 321 A.D. that “ changed “ it to sun day after generations of extreme Christian persecution. He “ thought to change times” because he was a sun worshipper! It’s satan’s attempt to usurp worship due only to our Creator God. We have all been deceived by the pagan sun day tradition. Jesus said don’t be deceived. And Come out of her My people! Sabbath is not sun day. This will be our last test. They will soon present sun day rest by Force of law as the “solution “ for all these current world events. Save the planet….. Jesus saves individuals. After we have all chosen Jesus or barrabus then the 7 last plagues. And Jesus returns for His faithful commandment keeping remnant church! Glory to God!
I met a broken woman, who had 5 children, men all committed suicide, and she expects the same from me.... The hitting, yelling, isolation.... I'm too strong
Yup he called me crazy and drama
All of that. Now I'm trying to rebuild from nothing after losing everything.
God will restore you. Jeremiah 30:17
yeah, being called crazy by a crazy person??
Good to see more info dissemination cause narcs are horrible
Exactly, I've been dealing with this for far too long...God has delivered me out of this pit of hell .
That’s definitely what he did to me I’m completely isolated and extremely insecure now and I gained weight lost myself I’m trying slowly now to get myself back together again😪
Rooting for you take care of yourself.
@@di4085 things are finally coming together again ☺️
12 years I had no idea what direction was up what was happening I was always on pins and needles if I fought back I he would be silent and act like a victimized child frost me only be nice to me when he wanted sex or chested it was like being in a tornado. It's only been 6 months but I'm calm and finding myself and peace and happiness every day I'll never go back to him.
With a Psychopath for 10 months, 10 years ago. Friends believe She tried to poison me-huge regret no blood test. Breakthrough for me was a book explaining the 20 traits. It took 2 years to get over, sometimes staring in a darkened room wondering why I felt so empty.
Going through with my narcissist mother was hell her being nice then being a utter evil bitch behind close doors .she had threatened me and I told her I will call the police is a bloody nightmare
Thank you 🙏🏼 Saving lives 💯%
She went nuts when I took a day trip out with the boys, told I was never aloud to do that again or she would go & went nuts, she is now gone!
If incase this thing that just happend gets realybad .. it's not me .. she does it all , and blames me for everything ...i can take it .. but don't threathen my mother , and go to her house again ..or keep the promise .. you just made me screaming all over the neigborhood i will i know i will never be able to react on internet again .. 💯🔥🐍
Stay strong everybody
My son to a tee! Having no contact with him is the only way that’s allowed me to live my life without threat and find happiness.
Do they know they’re doing this? Also, in the case of covert/vulnerable narcissists, do THEY know they’re doing it?
Yes. It’s a pattern that works for them. You aren’t the first, you are the one they are doing it to at this moment. If you put a stop to it, if you put up boundaries watch how fast everything changes and you’re useless to them.
Yes they do but they truly believe there is nothing wrong about it and actually you attacked them first.. There reality is disordered..
Not really. It's their reality. They have no feelings towards it one way or the other. They don't feel things the way you do. They are just repeating patterns they learnt long ago. We are also repeating patterns. Of abandonment, neglect, people pleasing, so we settle for this. Until we finally work on our own issues, we probably will fall into the same traps. Knowledge of self is top priority along with not abandoning ourselves!
Raised by a covert malignant pathological narc dad! Went no contact 10 yesrs ago. NOW BEST LIFE EVER!! He drove my mom to a nervous breakdown! Then blamed HER for being weak!
Gaslighting is the worst form of abuse!
All victims of Narcissistic Abuse & all Targeted Individuals need to watch the full movie 💯🎥🎯🔥
They always wear shades 😂. No really tho! Weird. Anyways the "they want u to always behave the same way" is spot on. They panic that u might change up or be someone else because all of their hard work studying u goes out the window 😂. But we are all multiple moods and personas in one! So it's impossible to fully capture who someone is. It'll just endlessly drive them nuts. Such fools. They really need God ❤
You don't need God when you think you ARE God. And that is the crux of the matter really.
@@aqua6613 they're sooo insecure they wish they are 😂. That's their problem as well.
Same with au1ists and wearing shades
@@hardmurakami true
They are demons not human
Been there Soooo many times! I just can’t! There isn’t enough love in the world!
All true
Good reminder, thank you! Saw this documentary about two years ago. Always good to revisit scientific facts and case studies. We learn something every time and somehow that attenuates the intensity of, or the confusion over, our own experiences
My adult son, a TBI Survivor, is now deeply, entirely narcissistic. Totally and completely. After being slammed into the blacktop by a literal speeding Tow Truck-as a pedestrian.
He j u s t attacked me physically not 5 minutes ago.
I'm alright.
Shaken up badly. Besides all the red marks.
And I'm s u p e r pissed. Emotionally hurt.
"Gaslighting is a process to rendering an other person mentally ill. And that is, of course, the worse thing you can do to a person."
He texted me, "Are you out of your mind?" I said I didn't know my mind came up with the idea.
#gaslightiing
He said I had to behave as he requested.
I asked what was that?
To respect him and respect his property.
When he had shown me zero respect.
Bless you for this honest video. Such a help
So powerful
I was told I was crazy countless times. She told me I needed therapy and I felt like I was actually insane when I would tell her I didn't need it. Now I need it from being with her ha. How the turn tables
I’ve watched this documentary
It’s excellent
This is so heartbreaking 😢Stay strong everyone!
You have to behave in a certain way.. My childhood, especially my brother.. Damn..
This is so true
I've been there.. And I did the best thing ever..! I left her..! For my highest good..!
Narcissists choose the best people to abuse until they don't - usually after we figure them out. Then, they settle for whatever they can get and ultimately find themselves with people just like them. Narcissists create their own karma trying to be yours. But, you didn't deserve that karma, even though you caught some of it by being in their vicinity. Once you choose you, karma is free to find its rightful owner, the one who created it. ❤🙏✝️
Gaslighting is something else, you mean breadcrumbing... but yes they will gaslight all your efforts...
Evade from them" they will be fubar dementia case years later...
This video shows me I being abuse. What should I do
Look into some of the (anti) narcissist coaches like Traceface-it on CZcams or some others on you tube and start making a game plan.
You deserve to be happy.
RUN !!!!
Knowledge is power, learn about it as much as possible. Know what you are dealing with.
I too was married to a sociopath narcissist for 14 years. Divorced him 3 years ago. But the after effects are all there PTSD, GAD, and just severe anxiety overall.. all due to the gaslighting, manipulation, smear campaign, flying monkeys and the list goes on
These demons psychopaths narcissists make me sick 😢😢😢glad I am finally divorced and remarried a kind man ❤❤❤
I watched this documentary and this is exactly my boyfriend. I can't believe in this day and age I'm held hostage in a relationship because he won't leave. Now he's got me financially dependent upon him . Even though he lives on my property . All of our friends are ours . It sucks.
You're screwed if you stay and take the abuse, or leave and take the rage, smear campaign, stalking etc
Yes all true 😢
I think my brother in law was like this.
There is no way to behave that’s good enough or can stop the rage. If you found one it be your fault for manipulating as controlling their life and you’d be selfish for even considering wanting to be safe because how dare you say I ever hurt you!
The craziest 🙄 thing when your father and mother are narcissist and your husband knock narc
U got 3 monsters
My baby dad 💯
The only voice worth listening to in this clip was the one at the end that was Sam Vaknin
Where is the full video?
Hi Shelby, you can find the full video on my channel.
It’s on her channel on CZcams
the message is lost with the music volume
Yes bv
No joke. My brother died. I struggle to be. To just be.
Where to watch this documentary
Hi! You can watch the documentary on my channel.
@@AlettaMeijer thank you!!!
Where is link to this movie???
All of it
Hey his mother is too...I..told her. About her problem. And told her I don't care to be around you. Are we clear....then. 1. Week later. Someonelse told her too.....
Where is the long version❓❓❓
Hi Jaiya, you can find the full version on my channel
@@AlettaMeijer
Cool
Thank you
Will you give Sam Vaknin credit?
Its a copyright violation!
Please check the documentary on narcissistic abuse on my channel. I have interviewed Sam for this documentary specifically. This is just a snippet to guide people there.
While I think the increasing awareness is good, narcissistic abuse cannot be explained nor understood in 60 seconds. There is far more to it. Please research it and understand it in more detail even if you don't believe this has affected you so far.
@samvaknin please credit professor sam vaknin voice in this clip
Ttrue
I have had the neighbor gang members to handle that problem and I would become the master!
Watch what now and where??
This is a trailer of a documentary on narcissistic abuse that you can find on my channel
What did the older woman say?
But they're never capable of reason
Are people still not knowing the days we are in ,the apocalypse is truly here judgment day and karma is here as the lord separates the wheat from the chaff, times up ole cronos father time time is coming demons, then eternity to repent and beg for mercy from themselves hence eternity in hell, nature restored 🙏♥️😇
Yes we are. I was a narcissist until yesterday, I gave my life to Christ, will be baptized on Friday, and I will forever forsake jealousy control rage lies. It can be cured, but it's the most painful process you can ever be involved with. Either that or certain hell
It's funny that you used the background voice of Sam Vaknin talking about gaslighting while the very same professor Sam Vaknin tells that narcissists don't Gaslight, psychopaths do. This video demonstrates an example of what word salad is
Well they can be both. They are both Borderline Personality Disorders. So yes there are cross overs and traits.
@@sandrabentley8111 no. He specifically underlined that psychopaths aka antisocial PD do gaslight, NPD confabulate. The difference being that NPD believe their own confabulstions and ASPD intentionally lie to make a person believe smth which is not and distrust their own feelings and conclusions - they gaslight
@@sandrabentley8111 BPD is smth completely different than NPD or ASPD, they both most definitely aren’t BPD, they all are Cluster B you probably intended to say or CPTSD 🤷🏻♂️
@@tptarh I always thought Narcissism was a Borderline Personality Disorder. NBPD
@@sandrabentley8111 well according to DSM 5, it’s not. And common sense suggests that if two disorders have two different names then those are different disorders. For example the difference is that BPD has emotional empathy while NPD managed to develop only cold empathy. BPD is a collapsed NPD, when a child as a response to absent mother tries to develop aggressive narcissistic defenses, gets confronted and has no other choice as to fall back and develop emotional empathy. But you are right they do overlap a lot.
Impossible to explain in 60 seconds.
Police did this to me
I tell him you get a check not me so your the one
Reactive abuse, that I miss so everyone thinks
That you are the narcist
Can you be a narcissist but not show all these signs. I had someone in my life but he wasn't raised to cuss or yell, he was feminine and weak.
Yes, the weak ones can be passive aggressive. It only shows when you get really close to them. To the public, they seem like harmless angels.
This is my former girlfriend
God Gave Noah the Rainbow Sign
❤️🌈🙏🔥📡🎶🌎☀️💥🛡️
No More Water but Fire Next Time
Oh yeah the lies
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