For anyone feeling like a failure.
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 7. 06. 2024
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Timestamps:
Part I - 00:00
Archetypes - 01:34
The Fool - 2:20
Background on Tarot - 3:11
The Meaning of the Fool - 4:20
Sponsor - 7:20
Part II (The Courage to Be Disliked) - 8:20
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It is the big difference between being in your 20s and your 40s+, regarding validation. It is definitely a learning curve. Thats why aging is so great. You stop caring as much because, with time, you realize that validation is irrelevant. Good feedback can be as toxic as bad feedback. Because you rely on others to define who you are. And you need that in you 20s because you dont know yourself yet. The 20s are sooo hard. We have sooo much to figure out and learn and we are sooo impatient. We cant rush the process.
Very true!
I was thinking the same as I watched this perspective. I remember being at times paralyzed by fear of what others thought of me. In my fifties, I have never felt so free in my own skin. Nathaniel, you are so wise beyond your 25 years!
Iâm 41 and after being destroyed by ppl, I am finally free. I do not care anymore. This is the best feeling ever. I regret even thinking about other peoples opinions about me. I see how stupid and illogical it was.
From a 51 year old I agree 100%!
From a 52 year old, I absolutely agree! Ageing is liberating.
5:19 "Life actually doesn't just have to be about success and failure. It can simply be a serious of experiences to be had."
So then.... Not having experiences would be a failure. There are always needs, goals, etc. And fulfilling or reaching them; regardless of how humble is still a success.
We can be successful at running a business, raising a family, growing a flower, cooking a meal, being lazy, and being homeless. It's all the same process. Where we focus our energy, time, and skill, is where we succeed. Or... The entire opposite analogy and we fail. But that's the nuts and bolts of it.
so powerful
"Be a fool. You will come out the other side knowing something new." I literally wrote this for myself just a few weeks ago. I've started a new job that often leaves me feeling silly and useless. It takes so much effort to even ask a question- I'm so terrified of being dumb. But that's the only way any of this will be worth it. Thank you for a stellar video
ive been trying to build up the courage to apply at this job near me, and your comment gave me the peace of mind i needed. thank you stranger
"Be a fool. You will come out the other side knowing something new"
I think this will be my "sentence of the year" for 2023
Pure magic. Nathaniel, you are the wisest 25-year-old I've ever seen. Please, keep up your work.
- 48 year old fool
I echo that as a nearly 60 year old fool. Your insights are very important.
let's not exaggerate PS. and you're xx young, age is just a word :-)
âDo not harden your heart, your heart needs no protection!â Ahh loved it this so much! That poem was incredible so much wisdom inside it
I loved it, too. ',,, your heart needs no protection1'
This video. Is honestly. A piece of art. Please never stop making videos on such topics. The whole topic resonated with me. Even the comment section is so interesting to read because you get to know everyone's different interpretations.
"The fool didn't know it was impossible, so he did it."
It has been my favourite quote ever since I came across it.
I read Tarot and have a few decks. Everyday I pull one card for guidance. This morning I pulled the fool card. And now I see your video talking about the fool archetype. I just love when synchronicities like this happen.
was a synchronicity for me too! i've been reading + pulling tarot cards too and these days illustrating my own, starting with the Major Arcana and thus the Fool. last night was also reading a book that started with the actual profound symbolism of the fool. and clicked on Nathaniel's video today. it's so cool!!
Needing people's validation has been an internal struggle for me. I realized that whether or not I get the validation I was looking for, I feel heavy on the inside. My happiness depended on how other people react. It is impossible for us to control others' judgements and reactions toward us. So, when I try to orchestrate getting approval from people, it feels draining. I have been reminding myself that people's opinions are not my responsibility, and I now put my focus on living my life the way I prefer, moment by moment.
Validation is a tricky part of our life. Having none of it or depending too much on it can be damaging for our mental health. But, having some of it is needed for our mental survival. It is indeed a double edge sword.
Well saidđ
So true
You are one of the few people on the whole web who touches my soul and my priorities in life, thank you for your content, we need more of the down to earth contents!
Can we just admire how vulnerable he is being, infront of thousands of people.
I wish I had that courage!
You just validated him.
The point is that we can't just be applauded because we did something. He ( @nathanieldrew ) speaks in a way that his ideas automatically invite an informed audience to question those ideas - duality and dialectic. If we don't question, none of us grows (including him). He plans on having a "salon;" that can't exist without the back and forth of challenge. If he (or anyone) never hears (and entertains) opinions that differ he's just shouting into an echo chamber. I'm proud to be a part, in my small way, of his global salon; and I will always bring to the table what life has shown me. That intermingling is, as they say, fire.
Social media has given us access to instant validation from people weâve never met, it can get addicting. Iâm trying to switch my mindset to chase deeper community connections online rather than just validation from numbers.
I concur with your sentiment 100%âĄ
Australia.
Well said. Social media ruined social relationships even more. I feel socially inept because I'm so addicted to social media. I come off awkward now when I try socializing. And this makes me even more fearful of being rejected.
00:40 THANK YOU. This is so rare for people in the media to actually admit. It's always "I went through this, but IÂŽm over it now", which defeats the purpose of trying to level with someone and connect with your audience. Being vulnerable in the present moment is what makes a good role model in my opinion.
Nathaniel. In sobriety we learn the hard way that "What people think of us is NONE of our business !!"
"Life is an open world game. Make the most out of it. Explore the unknowns and Thrive my friend"
I am putting this here as this is the reminder we need to not let ourselves sink into the compulsive thought patterns we usually do.
More power to you. â€đȘ
The production quality Nathaniel has in his videos take his story telling to a whole new level. Thank you for being the life coach/big brother we all need
I agree! his content, topic, and production quality has vastly improved. I am thrilled witnessing his evolution
I have been feeling down lately with chasing my dreams. I finish my service in the Army and people judged me for getting out and chasing a dream :/ thank you. Nathaniel again for these great videos.
Thanks so much for this video! This exact day I'm watching it I had a therapy session about the way I see failure and how I end up being extremely hard on myself just for being afraid of others' opinions and criticisms. Please continue doing what you do, you are certainly helping thousands of people in their self-awareness journey...me included. Ps: this is the first comment on a CZcams video in ages, maybe that's me starting to be a fool!!
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Nathaniel, as a fellow human being struggling to find my way in this world, I really needed to hear this. Thank you. đđ»
I think anytime we play a fool in our life, we are actually showing the most authentic version of ourselves. It's never easy, but we always seem to grow the most and become a fuller version of who we already are. Thank you for sharing and shining light!!
The way you talk and articulate yourself to your audience is truly a gift. this is what you were put on this earth to do. thank you for sharing!!
Dude. I've watched you for a long time. Your most recent videos are speaking to my soul. So appreciative to you and for your willingness to share.
I couldnât agree more, Nathanielâs hitting a new tier
This was a a massive help. All my girlfriends abandoned me and criticized me and put names on me in this last year of college. I do not know their reasons, but I have no hate for no one. And thanks this was a beautiful reminder. A big fan of u I am it's been years. You never fail to inspire and help my little world. Much love .
I like the poem in the final part. Itâs beautiful and empowering. Also like the idea of âfoolâ by Jung, very vivid and useful concept to see failure
As someone wise once said : âIâm not what I think I am, Iâm not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.â
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Wow man you deserve to have the brightest future for speaking to the souls of so many
Took a listen to this while waking up this morning with a heavy heart, feeling like a failure. Grateful I'm not the only one!
2:27
If someone ridicules you for being wrong, ask them why they ridicule, you think when I admit I am wrong this is something I feel negatively about? It is a development, the fact they see it as anything else tells a lot more about them and their fear of failure then it does mean, tell them to look within themselves - they're revealing their failures and their veiw on them - shame.
seriously!! how could such a young have so much wisdom????
You're fortunate to be figuring this out at a young age. Too many people spend their whole life worrying about what others think, when in reality most of them are thinking about themselves and not about you. Be who you are and follow your own path; the people who truly do care will respect you for it.
Just as you said it, now be the fool, who stops you,...he gives hope and energy of liberty
There is a saying, people in their 20-30"s care what people think, people in their 40's realize that it isn't important to care what people think, and people in their 50's and beyond realize that nobody really cared about them to begin with.
So you were in the Netherlands . I recognized my old street and the river Vecht near Breukelen. Amazing choice for a powerfull message.
I love how you always post a video of exactly what's been on my mind lately. Thanks for being you Nathaniel, you've been one of my greatest inspirations to put myself out there. Perhaps the "need for validation" is actually a good thing in moderation because it gives us the drive to keep putting ourselves out into the world, hence inspiring others around us to rise up into our highest potential. đ€
Seeking Validation sometimes comes from a deep sense of insecurity.. when we know our potential we no longer need acceptance or validation from othersâŠâ€
Beautiful Nathaniel! You Dare to be a Creator and a Maverick! Takes guts man, takes guts!! Critic's often are found sitting in the armchair!
To be the fool deal with pain is needed. Deal with harm thrown at you. Not everyone will but some so so a great inner strength needs to be developed. That strength is the one that keeps you bigger than the haters. You allow yourself to be a fool when you can love yours self and know how to push yourself up no matter what happens around you.
I've never heard Tarot pronounced that way, with the emphasis on the first syllable. Interesting... âđȘđœđđđœâ
Iâve spent many years worrying what others think of me, why they donât like me & what I can do about it. Your last comment resonated so much because I realised I canât change what someone thinks. I can however do as much as I can to minimise any contact with those individuals, ignore their put downs & finally do whatâs right for me.đ
I'm in my 40s now and while I definitely still need validation it's lessemed drastically from my earlier years. "I used to walk into a room and wonder if they would like me. Now I walk into a room and wonder if I will like them."
..but you will be free" That was beautiful Nathaniel
âThe fool does not wait for permissionâ might be one of the greatest insights Iâve ever heard
As a Tarot lover and Nathaniel enthusiast, I sooo enjoyed this. Studying the symbology of Tarot is a wild and interesting dive.
I felt inspired to comment a few days later again. I really love you, from one soul to another. You have a way with words that's uncanny to people in my immediate environment and this just feels so on the nose with who I've been throughout my life and the way you've strung this story together, perfectly depicts the kind of explanation I've only longed to communicate with those around me to nether understand my inherent nature. Again, thank you for being you! You inspire so many of us to get outside of our comfort zone! Thank you for that! â€ïž
Thank you for this beautiful piece of work!
This reminds me of the book "The Courage to Be Disliked" that interprets the theories of Alfred Adler, which I think resonate with your idea of 'FOOL'
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âA few words on Godâ is your best video.
I jus had to say it.
It's a perspective shift with age. First you care about your image, then you don't and later yet, you understand that nobody really cared, cause everybody is thinking about themselves most of the time.
Everyone is spitting wisdom here and there!!! Ok!!! The misery goes on and on! The suffering goes on and on! Just try to reduce it often! Hypotheses wonât fix anything! And yea itâs just an exaggerated, ignorant hypotheses mostly!!!! All the talkings! Shit wonât stop! The inevitable and the uncontrolled (which is most of life) wonât stop to affect usâŠâŠâŠ!!! Difficulties, complication, oppression, pain, enslaving!!! Most things do that hardly!!!
Iâm really grateful for you Nathaniel. Itâs special to have a place on the Internet where I can consume Content like this.
So great perspective - life doesn't actually have to be about success and failure rather it can be a series of experiences†thank you!
There's something so beautiful and captivating about the way you share your content, it speak to the deepest parts of me, entertains me, teaches me..... I could watch u for hours and not get bored!
Wow! The poetic ending... that was so good. Thank you Nathan for all your curiosity, your pursuit of meaning & your quality content. Keep it up.
The last part left me in tears. Thank you.
Nathan, this video is gold. Thank you.
THIS. VIDEO.
I donât know if this is just a âright place, right timeâ coincidence, but I havenât loved a video like this in a long, long time.
Great video! The fool is an explorer or an adventurer. He or she is extremely curious and doesnât care what others think. The fool is basically unstoppable.
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Just what I needed for today. Thank you for this video, Nathaniel. That means a lot to me. Your videos are masterpieces. Thank you, from ur biggest fan in Brazil.
your videos are so inspiring man, keep doing what youâre doing.
Thank you for your closing words đ„șâ€ïž
Best video I've seen on your channel, love the energy you're bringing!
Thank you. And such beautiful words at the end
Heâs a good soul. Bless him !
Sadly, some of us embody failure and are synonymous with it.
Beautifully done, Nathaniel.
That was excellent-one of your best! I will be rewatching this again and again.
this video really spoke to me, thank you for those powerful words, and for all your other content. so uplifting and really helping me through a dark time. very inspiring! also, I love your second channel, please keep experimenting!
So beautiful! I could feel that the poem in Part II comes right from the heart and goes straight to the heart.
This video helped me tremendously, thank you Nathaniel.
This is just art. Thanksâ€ïž
Your videos are my favourite on this platform, the depth, the meaning, the vulnerability, the authenticity, and the wisdom ..you are so inspiring.
Thank you for that one Nathan, and this was the first time that you brought me to tears because of how much you spoke to my heart with this reminder
Gosh your words are beautiful. Thank you for "The Courage to be Disliked." It brought me to tears and was so moving.
This was layered, deep, and creative. One of your best.
The poem at the end is absolutely incredible. Please release this online somewhere so we can read it again and again!
Wowwwww i was not expecting u to go that route and im so happy you have shared this to a bigger audience than those who talk about tarot do!
what a topic man, amazing, more important now than ever before. such a remainder. please keep making these. once again, superb topic. thank you so much nathaniel
This is an epic video... Your whole thinking, the things you say, your ideas are articulated so eloquently.. Keep doing what you do Nathaniel... FYI part 2 especially poiinent
Nathan, as someone who is on a similar point in life as you are, your videos have always been illuminating and timely. I have also struggled with validation my whole life and only recently started realizing how unsustainable and unhealthy it can be. This video was a much needed and the timing couldn't have been more perfect. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and lessons about life! Keep up the good work!
Incredible quality and very thought provoking, thank you.
This beautiful video reminds me of my favorite quote:
"Often times, a person will think they know you by piecing together tiny facts and arranging those pieces into a puzzle that makes sense to them. If we donât know ourselves very well, weâll mistakenly believe them, and drift toward where they tell us to swim, only to drown in our own confusion. Hereâs the truth: itâs important to take the necessary steps to find out who you are. Because you hold endless depths below the surface of a few facts and pieces and past decisions. You arenât only the ripples others can see. You are made of oceans.â - Victoria Erickson
Damn it Nathaniel. That poem at the end made me fucking cry! But thank you. I see a lot of myself in you, I relate deeply to so many of the topics you talk about, and honestly this video came at a perfect time for me. It gave me a lot to think about and I feel a bit more clarity. So thank you for being a "friend" on the internet that I can turn to from time to time. I hope someday I get to properly thank you in person :)
I saw your video and opened it in a background tab to watch later because I knew this one was gonna hit home. Great video.
I cannot be grateful enough to watch this video in a right moment⊠thank you for a masterpiece!
This is one of my favorite videos! Will definitely save for later
I love a lot of your content, but this one and its message, is definitely one of my favorites and one that millions of people should listen! Will definitely be sharing this video with anyone willing to listen! Thank you again and again for your thoughtful reflections and courageous sharing so that we may all reflect, challenge and learn alongside you!
What a liberating nugget of wisdom. Much needed perspective. Thanks for that, Nathaniel. đâ€
Your poem at the end of this video brought me tears, really remarkable notions you make in it. Thank you for sharing
This video is arttttt, the music, your honesty, nature.. â€â€â€â€
This interpretation of Tarot has completely changed how I see it, I always avoided it as 'silly magic cards'
Nathaniel thank you for being you!
I cant express enough just how inspiring this video is. I come back to it as this is a reminder of what life is for me
one of the most beautiful videos!! and so amazing and inspiring words at the end!!!
the synchronicity of this video. been thinking bout this recently
also great poem in the end đ
Welcome to the Netherlands! Inspiring to see you address topics Iâm pondering on as well.
This video made me cry. I loved it so much it made me emotional. Thank you.
You made me cry! Thank you for the kind and true words at the end!
I really love your soundtrack/ music in your videos, they're so haunting đ„°
This video is definitely a masterpiece, so poetic and talked so much with my soul, thank you for it! really
My god, your work is so goooood !!!