Signs Someone's NOT Mentally Strong, Just Acting Tough
Vložit
- čas přidán 13. 04. 2024
- Spotting signs of someone who might not be as mentally strong as they appear? Here's the scoop on distinguishing between tough acts and genuine mental strength. It's easy to mistake bravado for resilience, but true mental strength goes beyond just putting on a tough front. Look out for signs like avoiding challenges, blaming others for setbacks, or lacking emotional resilience. If you're recognizing these signs in yourself, don't worry - there are steps you can take to strengthen your mental fortitude. By embracing self-help techniques, fostering personal growth, and facing challenges head-on, you can stop being mentally weak and cultivate genuine resilience from within.
#mindset #personalgrowth
Writer: Ananya Sawarkar
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera / amandasilvera
Animator: L444
Disclaimer: This video is for informational and observational purposes only. It is also partially based on subjective opinion. Should you feel that there is a sign of a deeper or more serious problem, please do not hesitate to reach out to a professional
REFERENCES: psych2go.net/signs-someones-not-mentally-strong-just-acting-tough/
0:48 - their self worth depends purely on what others think of them
1:58 - they think they can do anything
3:11 - hidden or denied insecurities
4:14 - their expressions are usually a put-on
5:39 - they try to control others
Hope this helps y'all out 💝💝💝
I have all of the signs 😔
Thanks for this. I'm still going to watch the rest of the video but I like knowing what's coming.
Thanks 💙💙
@@karma1507 yeah of course, you'll get more information that way hehe
@@liamdylan_yw8rv7 no prob 💪💝
One does not cry because they are weak. It’s because they’ve been strong for too long.
nah it's because i've been a loser for far too long
😭😭😭😭
fairy tail fan found 🤝
Credit to Jonny Depp for the phrase
🌟
People can put up a “tough” facade but they could really be vulnerable inside. It often takes time and deeper conversations to understand someone’s true mental state.
True as person who can relate to all of this i thought if i want to be perfect and reach all of my goals to protect my family i needed to anything but after watching this now i understand why i was acting like that and decided to visit a psychologist 😢
yeah, sometimes people just mask their true emotions to be socially acceptable, but on the inside they don't deny how they truly feel.
Could, you pu$$y
Strength is being aware of your emotions and then processing them. Not hiding them or running away
A lot of my problems would end up upsetting other people if I talked about them so I just pretend my job is the only thing that bothers me
It's important to find the 'right' people to talk to when it comes to problems. Better to have a couple of people you can trust to talk to and be there for them in return.
upset people?
I have a similar problem: my family always complain that I complain too much while I constantly get the short end of the stick and being the only person in the house that can fix things while I'm trying to do my own work. Any time I bring up that i feel underapreciate far too often with best very little privacy to myself.
I found it important to have someone who is able to listen to you
same
"Life is a painful disease, and death is the bitter medicine."
Buddy are you ok?
Sounds a bit concerning...
What the HECK?
That's one of the most pessimistic quote I have heard lately.
You have to change your attitude mate😅
@@Transformingprime Ok.
"We all get to die someday, but do we all get to live?"
"If you want to shine like the sun, first burn like the sun"
These are the most optimistic quotes I can think of.
Those are motivational quotes, not necessarily positive.
Instead of surfing through and posting quotes or one-liners , develop mental fortitude .
Learn to live with good, bad and everything in between.
@@Transformingprime thank you
I saw Akito from Fruits basket I had to watch. Fruits basket is such a good show for showing all signs of abuse and dealing with it. I know it's just a show, but it helped me get through some hard times when I was at rock bottom. Thank you♡
Also I loved the Roy Mustang scene♡
I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING!
I'm on like, my 3rd rewatch of fruits basket, and i am OBSESSED. Such a good show, anyone who's reading this GO WATCH IT ITS SO GOOD
(And I love FMAB too, Mustang's one of my favorite characters)
Agree, Fruits Basket really good reference for that & it's an inspiring show.
Legit I finished the anime yesterday and saw akito on thumbnail lol
Samee
My Transformers hyperfixation came back after watching Earthspark, and lemme tell ya, I *ended up identifying with the bad guys.* lol I mean, can you imagine living with people in a wartime scenario *every day* where if you don't act tough all the time you risk having someone report it to your higher ups and if that happens you're like to get a fusion cannon to the *face*? That is C-PTSD in the making.
I can tell these insecurities from my host mom who used to potrait herself as very strong and competent - which to her credit she actually is - but one time in the evening when I came down stairs, she cried as much as I would never imagined from that person.
That was really game changing and insightful for anything that came afterwards.
Yes, I see this in several people that I’m, unfortunately, related to. Have been distancing from them the last few years and my life is much better, more peaceful. Trying to surround myself with authentic people even if it’s only a few. Thanks for this video! Your description and explanation of the concept is simple, easy to follow. That’s the most effective to get the message to stick.
The point about controlling is a very good one. One thing a very controlling and insecure person will do is give people patronising, derogatory nick names without their permission and then refer to them by this nickname as they breezily put them down. They want everyone to be defined by the language they dish out to them.
I think some people deal with negative emotions internally and try to always be strong socially. Sometimes, it's not about faking emotions and not letting others see the problems, but dealing with it personally or with particular individuals rather than letting it be your mood the whole time while dealing with the pain.
People that are used to strongly negative emotions often have a sturdier level of emotional regulation. They bounce back, and move on quicker due to being used to accepting loss and enduring pain. Desensitisation and loss of touch with reality could be argued, but I think this happens only if you are unable to come to terms with and work through the problems adequately. Or if you feel that the losses made you lose your sense of control and agency over your own circumstances, and responsibility for your future.
Amanda is back whooop
I was that "happy" person and in actuality... I was acting happy all the time even during traumatic events because it was the only thing keeping me going, especially at times when I was surrounded by a lot of people who were waiting and willing to watch me fall with delight. However, I did eventually fall apart emotionally and mentally. I ended up having nervous breakdowns, and it did eventually make me emotionally hurt in turmoil. It helped for the short term and kept me going in the long run, unfortunately... It gave other people the wrong impression of me and didn't allow me to properly cope, have closure, and heal from it. I ended up paying for it when I was left behind by everyone I knew. I felt like I was shared in a million pieces and unable to be pieced together because I started to care less about everything and everyone at that point and time. I had tried to pick up all of the pieces only just to find myself falling apart.
That's tough bro...
After a bad breakup in 2019, I vowed to change myself. From that point on my way of life became rolling with the punches, enjoying what I do and being myself no matter what others think of it. It's still a work in progress and there's still plenty to learn, and this video reinforces to me that I chose the right path.
Thanks for helping us with these videos
This was how I was for the longest time then I finally got help now I am mentally strong and it's great to hear your voice again Amanda i missed you
Timestamps
1). Their self worth depends purely on what others think of them 0:46
2). They think they can do anything 1:56
3). Hidden or denied insecurities 3:09
4). Their expressions are usually a put-on 4:13
5). They try to control others 5:38
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
0:26 HERRO EVERYNYAN‼️
Oh my gaaawwwww
HAO ARE YOUU
How are you, I'm fine thank you
Oh my ghooddd
I think I want to be a bird
Great video
This is such a great video. It’s impossible to be “tough” all the time. Strength comes from slowly going through each step, sometimes pain, until they are strong enough to not hurt from things that would have hurt before. Everyone has insecurities or doubts, but the strong know that this doesn’t define them and they can always improve 🙂
This is reliable to me, I'd try mentally strong but those negative thoughts are still there
Your channel makes me feel tough!
Lol Akito is such a accurate character for this.
Azumanga cat! 😂
I always thought i was weak and broken because of my sensitivity that often causes bouts of anxiety, depression, overthinking, etc. I hide it through all my jobs because i didnt want to seem difficult or not focusing on work. My current job, i decided to be open and be me warts and all. Ive had many workmates tell me they love this new aspect about me and i now know that EVERY SINGLE PERSON struggles with something whether they show it or not. Just be you and shareyour true self with the world and know you are NEVER truely alone.❤
Even ur voice calms me down.
I love how there is Akito and just anime in your videos
Sometimes me and my girlfriend get into a disagreement or reach a sensitive topic that prompts her to stonewall me and put on an “I don’t care” face. This act makes me feel like conflict within our relationship doesn’t bother or affect her in anyway. I want to help her and put an end to her shutting me out. I know there is a deep reason behind her behavior and I cannot wait until I can help her identify and work it out with her. I love her. I really do. I’m ready to spend the rest of my life with this person. But in order to protect our longevity, we need to work together.
Your girlfriend should be comfortable around you, not "I don't care". Make her feel loved, cared for and appreciated, she probably has some feeling she must be hesitant to share, even to her boyfriend. Work it out peacefully
Nobody cares
This video literally described me, I thought I really was mentally strong, I should improve that.
This honestly might be me
I'm mentally not strong ❤
You should know that by saying that, you are at least mentally strong enough to admit that. I hope you have a great day and can feel every emotion. ❤
You are at least mentally strong to admit that and that's the first big step. I hope you have a great day and can express all of your emotions. ❤
@@user-cf2mi1uk4j thank 😊
@@user-cf2mi1uk4j aww thanks
This only reaffirms what I suspect of certain individuals at work - acting tough. But it's just that - an act.
They're brave enough to box Canelo Alvarez 🥊🥊 or Mike Tyson etc but not to ask forgiveness to the person they offended given they'll offend someone who cannot generate any type of consequence or "had nothing to lose" in their blind mind so they went ahead and did (or not do) what they did or didn't do. (My mom wouldn't be on my side given she had more to gain by siding with the other person... *So is everyone in this any bad path*
Remember, these are signs but they don't necessarily mean you have a weak mentality.
I talk for myself, I'm usually mentally tough and normally optimistic about stuff, but for these past few weeks I've been quite drained because of way too many problems happening at the same time... And too little time to actually process them xD
Sometimes it's fine to stay low or "under the radar" and just take some time for yourself.
First realistic comment.
Thanks 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
@@KomMartheCarolle-zm2pg haha thanks. Stay strong out there!
I've have friends that are like that for different reasons. But i do hope they realize what their doing and work through their emotions.
Mentally I'm strong because I learn to improve without pleasing others and I learnt to accept failure and try again and again and again until I succeed and I learn to bottle things up and move on quickly without feeling any emotion
Great video!
thank you so much
This whole title is like 1/3 of my personality and I’m trying not to hide my feelings so much.
Akito was an excellent choice for the thumbnail for the tittle, Thoru is who is actually mentally strong 🙂
Akito 😸 Fruits Basket 💜
I don't need anyone to tell me who I am. I just need people to reflect back to me how I am. Not for self worth but for self improvement.
You can't rely on others to reflect it back to you. You will be constantly disappointed. You are still placing the power with others. Look in a mirror and listen to that person.
0:10 that Hirohiko Araki style face was perfect.
You guys should make a video Limerence, it's a topic that not a lot of people know about but is very relevant especially to the type of people who watch this channel.I really hope you can make a video on it.
By the way, amazing video! :D
Never ghosted anyone, never tried to put down anyone, always been helpful to my friends and always been with them at their special/bad moments. Still don't have a single person who'd do even half of what i do for them😔
I think it is also a sign of a weak person who wants to be seen as tough when they imitate others and mock them. It is especially weak if they impersonate the other persons voice when that person has abnormal speech due to something they were born with that is in no way at all their fault. You can also tell weak people because they have different personas for different places they frequent. For instance they may act intellectual when their University Teachers are around but in their halls of residence at college they form a gang and start bullying people.
I wish I had a Person that I could trust to pour out My heart to without Them running to others to blab My secrets. I'm tired of acting tuff. 😭
Same problem
Uh...i see hurts somehow
I literally started watching jjba a few days ago and it is following me everywhere even in a mental health video aka 0:11
I'm reminded of two, polar-opposite characters from two of some of my favorite shows. Revy from Black Lagoon, and Midori from Toradora.
Revy is an overbearing tough act and Midori is suffocatingly happy and upbeat. Watching both of those characters slowly break down to reveal their real selves and philosophies are some of my favorite moments, and both aforementioned shows are full of different character arcs of similar quality.
Your videos are so helpful and you are so real I love your videos!!!
I swear everyone comments before they actually watch the video😂
GONE FISHING not has lighting ..?❤😊
If ur this guy, don't give up. Good people will always exist to help and be uplifted.
I like your video psych2go I really helpful to see
thank god
💛 💛
Hi psych2go. I know this is unrelated, but can you make a video about how to heal from emotional abuse? Like purely the actual healing part? Most of the stuff is how to identify it and what it is and how horrible it is and how it affects my health and not how to actually fix its effects like low self esteem, social anxiety, PTSD and just general lack of enthusiasm for life and people.
My dad was somewhat like this, so I have always seem through it. It always confuses me when someone points out someone like this in awe, while all I see is someone on the verge of actively harming themselves or others. Then I see them do that and people just brush it off.
I don't get it.
Damn , this hits deep
Alert: attention seekers in comments the first hour after the video post⚠️
One thing I learned that built my mental strength is learning, thus making it sort of religious. I refuse to be put down and prove I can do anything I put my mind to
They constantly say they endure alot
🤭🤭 Thank for the Mr. Mackey reference. This video is very informative and helpful
I’m here because of all the references.
You got me by the thumbnail.
Was not expecting a Fruits Basket reference yet here I am
I hate myself and this is such a waking up call. I am not OK, but I'm trying
Off topic but ,i kinda miss old animation style of psych2go 👉🏻👈🏻.... I don't hate this one but old one was so calming and nice 🤧
now that you say that i think i may be the last one i'm really not trying to do it its just something i do generally, for e.g when i'm in class with my friends ( there always talking, shopping online and just never listen to the teacher) i'm a bit bossy about them doing their work and getting them to focus, but know that i think of it, it really reflects how i feel. ( them not paying attention = me getting in trouble | not doing their work = me failing) i have grown up with two siblings who are very smart the oldest goes to a school for gifted and the other constantly gets straight A's, while me mainly getting b's i feel as though i'm not good enough and i need to match my siblings. ik i should not put that pressure on my self but i do it and i cant really stop ( btw my parents don't really care about my grades as long as i'm passing, they never put pressure on me, its only me who does it )
Idk man, i dpn't have a choice but to act tough. Like ya, I am soft and squishy on the inside like everyone else. But if I don't, they will kill me. Only the strong survive out here. Call it bravado or stupidity, but I know my worth. Just sucks that noone else will, just because I am ugly...
I think there might be a volume issue but still a great video
Use earphones
I've been doing these without even knowing...
Would appreciate not having this thrown in my face everyday…
I should be extra nice to my sister and myself because this video reminds me of her and me as well as I should be extra understanding of Akito again because of what happened to her in the manga and new version of Fruit Basket, but Everyone mentioned including myself should learn how to grow.
To a point I agree with some of these, but a lot of this can get a lot more complex than this video conveys.
For example, you might be someone who grew up with no friends, eating lunch alone, and grew to not care what others think as a survival instinct to cope with it. Not finding ways to socially adapt can lead to pretty bad situations. Is that method of not caring a strength? Maybe, but it's certainly more complex than just that alone.
💙💙
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY I JUST HAD TO GET UP AND LEAVE THE HOUSE BECAUSE MY MOTHER IS TREATING ME LIKE 💩, AND I FINE IT HARD TO BE AROUND SOMEBODY THAT DON'T LIKE OR LOVE THEIR ONLY SON/ AND KNOW BODY ELSE TO HELP HER OR DO ANYTHING FOR HER PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS I DON'T THINK I'M GOING TO MAKE IT THOUGHT THIS YEAR,TEE HAVE A BLESSED DAY, I'M NOT I WISH I WAS DEAD SO MY MOTHER WOULD BE HAPPY, TEE 💯🙏 I TRIED 🖤
IT'S FUCKED UP WHEN YOUR MOTHER DON'T LIKE OR LOVE YOU. TEE, HAVE A BLESSED DAY
HEY GOOD EVENING SELF, I JUST WANTED TO REMIND YOU THAT, I LOVE YOU AND ALWAYS WILL, SO PLEASE JUST FORGET ABOUT YOUR SO. CALLED. MOTHER , I LOVE YOU TEE 💯🙏💪🕳️🫂
Why did it feel like this whole video was throwing shade on a group of people who are just… struggling? Idk, this video just really felt like it was attacking certain people where they didn’t necessarily deserve to be attacked ? Like it’s the first time I felt like one of these videos was being really passive aggressive, I guess you could say? Idk, I just didn’t like the “vibe” here.
This had really helped me. Although, my friends see me as some loud and smart person with a big IQ and they think I’m tough and strong and only have *a* weakness and nothing more. I’ve had so many conversations with them about *relying on me to do stuff for them*. For example: telling them answers to a test or something or dealing with their enemies. On which I used to be some *shy girl with no big personality* and now people see me as some *scary person with a loud voice and smart brain* all because I got comfortable and opened myself up when all i had done was talk and talk and talk. They think I’m confident and once I tell them I’m afraid of heights and they laugh and say *“nice joke”.*
I really didn’t know what to do at this point so can someone give me advice?
I see these traits on display with many of my co-workers, and I often want to grab them by the shoulders and tell them to "knock it off already and be real". I guess its just too much fear of rejection getting in their way.
He's me fr.
The volume is too slow to understand.
Can you please try to increase the pitch little louder?
Use earphones?
Even then also it’s not v clear.
There is a lack of command in the speech.
The content is mind blowing.
However, the voice modulation could have been better.
These vids getting too real
It's been like 7 months I recovered from mental health issues that I faced last year due to academic pressure from my parents and now I feel kind of dizzy and sometimes an overflow of extreme hatred inside my mind
But, acting tough is the only thing I can do coz otherwise everyone around me will say that I'm just overreacting as they said last year
Yeah, there is no such thing like mental health in our India 😢
Damn
Even the thumbnail perfectly describes who i am
How long does it take for you to create an animated short film, what software and tools do you use
I'm really greatfull for Ur channel keep up the hard work❤
I'm the tough person. And let me tell you...
All of this is true..
Not akito!
i just felt judged throughout this whole vid 💀 but tbh i relate to both, but bc of past trauma i still do act tough
2 months ago i was like that but now no sign matches
Just a suggestion, the audio is a bit blur maybe..
love ur videos btw.
you can tell who ever was in charge of this video is an anime fan, great video XD
Akito on the thumbnail is real 😢
Akito Sohma from fruit basket anime
👍🏻
Can exist a case in wich a person could be perfectly be both type of person?
I'm trying to become mentally strong
Start by acknowledging that your *DIGNITY* your worth as a human being *does not depend on anything* but *just is* unconditionally.
Doesn't matter how people, luck or nature etc treats you ( nature cruel to me because I have autism schizoaffective paranoid and ADHD and who knows if what else)
*You don't have to prove nothing to nobody* not even to yourself. Your acting ethically mature is proof enough you want to be treated in a morally wholesome way you treat them ( people being chronologically unethical to you then want benefits or be respected are proving they don't want to be benefitted or respected)
*be ethical by being ALWAYS careful, acting normal being mature* your approach to things and to life factors.
Act normal,never let your enthusiasm over accelerate your demeanor, *that way* in a negative situation, act normal still and your nerves won't over accelerate your emotions so you can think clearly in tunnel vision.
Toward who is unethical to you, especially chronologically unethical to you,be normal,but be distant,if they persist in the path of being unethical to you,cut all bonds and as they don't exist (like they died)
You showing without proving you are more ethical than they are. *Remember* you won't be friends with everyone but you can be good acquaintances with everyone (or almost cuz always that hater with low self-esteem who may lie about you or twist facts about you making these look like a bad thing etc)
*It's a delightful journey* 🌱 you will have positive side effects grow on you ..
In my experience,when I started acting normal and stuff as a youngster, bullies' striking me wouldn't be painful like before to my body (tho it broke my heart the message it conveys; *that's why it's a lifelong journey living the correct wholesomely fit lifestyle* for mental reinforcement you will ever need in life.
*All this to start your path doing your part so nature can and will take it's course*
@@socalautisticman1975 thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in my mind and thanks for being such a helpful person :)
@@Polar_Bear_2007 that's what it's all about ; *the people* on the Internet 😎
The Father from Azumanga Daiou mentioned
Yes I am not mentally strong.. I just pretend like everything is OK 😢
Lol i love being called out in these videos
(I am trying to be more vulnerable and put down my masks for a bit now tho, so dw)
Because of the type person I am I end up alone because everyone leaves me 😢
Can I get a video about a lack of sleep pls
Yeah, i am definetly pretty weak