Video není dostupné.
Omlouváme se.
How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse | Sadhguru | The Healing Waves
Vložit
- čas přidán 8. 06. 2021
- How to deal with a cheating spouse is a must watch speech by Sadhguru.
This will help you deal with relationships weather someone is cheating or not. It will help you recognize what a full life is. Sadhguru looks at how human relationships are not absolute, and are always variable, and need a lot of attention. He explains that the need for a relationship is because people are under the illusion that they are half a life that cannot be without another. You are more. You are a whole life. Watch to the end.
Many thanks to everyone for listening and for leaving your comment.
If you want to make suggestions please feel free to do so in the comments.
__________________________________________________
Don't forget to Like and Subscribe to get all new publications and music:
Come find me on Facebook, Instagram and The Clubhouse
/ kelly.holcomb.714
__________________________________________________
#Sadhguru #fearlessfriday #fear #thehealingwaves
If anything resonates with you please let me know in the comments below. 👇 No more illusions!
It is better to know now! I understand the mechanics and these variables are just too difficult ☹️ to pay attention to. I imagine it’s not impossible but with everything you invest something worthwhile should be coming my way. That is even in the form of dishonest truth to help me grow. Namaste 🙏
@@magaan4717 1 Z
Very true
A😅@@TheYUNGBUCK03
Animals are more faithful than humans. They need to be loved unconditionally.
Lol yes they are
Animals n kids
Absolutely true❤
Absolutely strongly agreed
It's still extraction isn't it? We all are agreeing with this only because animals are faithful, so there's a condition to it right? How can we love them unconditionally, if we are loving them because they are faithful?
Epic lines said by Sadhguru:
@9:30
Don't say that someone has cheated on you, just say that someone has pushed you to ultimate reality from an illusionary state.
We must thank that person 🙏
Yes we must!
💯
S
Bullshit excuses.
Cheating is WRONG.
DO you REALLY want to be with somebody else? Just be honest with everybody - first of all: yourself - and GO to the person that brings you more benefits than the previous one.
@@rodica69 Just don't need to accept what all told by someone. What you feel good for you, is good for you. Let us be clear about this and make it clear to other as well. it makes life simple.
Relationships will never be absolute...so true
It is a hard realization when you are going through it. This truth is liberating for those who catch on to it.
🕉🙏🏽
@@TheHealingWaves 👍
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day according to religious.
If you want to do what you want. Just leave you don’t have to hurt someone just exit the relationship you not happy with.
I agree 1,000,000%. Though the people doing the hurting, in many of the cases, either want to hurt someone to make themselves feel better for things that have been done to them in the past or they have been taught that it's ok to do those things by watching it being done to others with no consequences. Seems the damaged continues to damage! The ones who are not trying to heal and change sadly, many of them either don't know they're damaged or don't want to heal from it.
Unfortunately, that's out of our control.. All we are left is to accept that it is their way of response.. 😢
Love does't lasts forever. If a partner wants a relationship with somebody else, it's OK. AS LONG AS SHE/HE EXITS THE RELATIONSHIP AND GOES TO BE HAPPY WITH THAT SOMEBODY ELSE.
Because hiding, lying, spending the family's budget to have fun with somebody else (= stealing money), not being emotionally and physically available for the actual partner (and children, often enough) is definitively WRONG.
Yes! I feel it’s VERY WRONG! Everyone gets hurt and many times the pain will last longer than we think it does. Especially with the children and grandchildren. Thanks for commenting
So true! People can do as they please but yes exit the relationship don't stay and keep hurting people! Many do this... stay in the relationship because you're the loving, faithful and the secure one and they want to have lovers... this hurts the wife... if she happens to know and even if they didn't know (intuitively they still know)
So the best is take the highway when you see that the other does whatever... 👏👏👏👏👌👌👌🤗🤗🤗
Very true👍
Yes, yes! I just posted 3 more relating to this and they are a must watch!
My partner of the past ten years got involved with a woman he hooked up online but refused to leave me alone at the same time. He’s so greedy that he wanted to keep both of us around, like having his cake and eat it too! Therefore, I’ve encountered massive amount of lying and gas lighting and anger from him, so much that I have to walk out of his life completely. These days too many people are doing that to their spouses instead of gracefully ending a relationship while they found someone else. I can’t understand why!
"When your illusions are broken it means that life is bringing you closer to reality." ... Sadhguru
I can't forget that... Amazing!
Yes! Thanks for sharing that!
بالخطأ دخل عصفور إلى البيت
عنوة أغلقت النوافذ
و فتحت له قفص صدري
The most wisest and honest response to a very tragic event in life ❤
Actually the other becomes the door to the divine. My experience, it's the ending of a karma and opening of a door. One has to be 🙏 grateful.
Gratitude all the time! 🙏 Thanks for sharing
Yes it takes lots of skills and attention. Emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually from both partners. Human relationship is variable but God's absolute. Thank you Sadhguru🙏
100% on all you said! 🙏
Very simple, if someone cannot tolarate other, just be away and live on their own. Then they are free to do what they want to do. Apply equally for all.
Yes so true
Thats a wonderful proposition .... I just wonder did you hear that some married people have children ???? Where do they belong in this solution of yours ?...
And by the way. Its not of right conduct all the times... Some repeating offenders will find excuses...
@@sudeshnam1672 absolutely true
@@nikkisimgekar8288 I just hate it when people dismiss other people's feelings... Like it can b switched on or off..
You know Nikki, every festival is painful for such families.
@@sudeshnam1672 Sadly many cheaters don’t consider that when they cheat. It hurts everyone involved especially the children and if your older grandchildren. It does cause trauma to all involved. It’s one of the worst things that can happen to a family. Some can work it out but repeating offenders…… you must leave! That situation is toxic for all and will bring many issues for the children throughout their lives. Never stay for the kids because it can only hurt them more and they will grow up with the wrong view on relationships in most cases. I posted a few videos on this in the relationship playlist. The one called “Before you cheat” talks about this and many people don’t realize how it affects their families. However sadhguru is correct, we can not control what others do. That’s just a fact of life.
"....you might have understood it was absolute when understandings were broken. " This makes me cry. Cheating is also an art that fortunately or unfortunately all humans are not masters with. The few ill-blessed are the most vulnerables and experience real hell in life. But, but its very heartening to believe how one cheats when his/her partner puts all his/her whole precious life at the former's disposal. Its crushing inside.
Yes it is. Glad you commented
Grey hair is a crown of glory.🙏✨
I don't wish any pain on anyone who cheated on my they knew not what they was doing to me. I forgive and still wish them the best
The ability to forgive and wish them the best shows a lot about who you are, the amazing soul you have. I am that way as well. The world needs more forgiveness! ❤️🙏
I wanna be like you or have the mindset of Sadhguru and spiritual gurus who are able to handle pain.. Betrayal pain is too overwhelming 😢for me 😭
I love this! The illusion is fueled by people thinking they own their partners and then reality comes, because people do what they want, they were not owned from the very onset. A partner chooses to be faithful and give you that reality that's its possible not just by virtue of dating.
People can do what they want to do but can put your life in danger by doing what they want to do. Imagine someone cheating get sexually disease in bring it to you because they do what they want.
@@jackiejeanphilippe6052 I understand 😥❤️🩹if you have found it out, excuse yourself as much as possible
"This is complete life packed with the Creator and Creation" - Did you hear that?
Anyone having any infidelity problem should make verification and tackle it at once. I was once full of doubts about my partner. Until I had to verify and clear it all, did my heart got some peace. So best to find out about your partner.
How?
What if u get to know your doubt was correct and your partner has made a mistake
I'll tell. Just look at all the signs. Phone.
@lavanyaratna6697
Then the choice is now up to you. Whatever you choose will not be easy. However, it's no ones choice but you and your partner. I would suggest starting here: czcams.com/video/eqPKOicOLlc/video.html
There is a part 2 to this as well. Here is a short playlist that will help:
czcams.com/play/PLLY3hT9-3cf8dUPaIKZ0Jx7nG2bGqK7SK.html
I will make videos answering many of the questions asked in the comments.
I will post a video soon in reference to how to clear your doubts about your partner and get...... Infidelity verification and post the link or links here:
Everyone wants, servents, drivers, milkman, spouse, children's, and almost everyone to be loyal and honest except ourself. This is our desire to get the best and we all internally knowing what is the best. But we Always forget everyone have same feelings not just ourselves. So either everyone changes or stop expecting best.
Absolutely right! We all need to realize that none of us will ever match up to other’s expectations even though we are all perfectly made.
You are wise thats clear in your answer
Exactly right. 👏😍
Thank you Satguru for making me realize the importance of myself within me .
Someone is opening a spiritual dimension for you, they are making you realize how fragile it all is.
True!
It's a blessing to have realized this
The person who cheats has No remorse bc they're doing WHAT THEY WANT TO DO, not what U want them to do.
This is the best video. I will share this any opportunity I can. This aligns with the book of Proverbs...."Wisdom is the principle thing; in all your GETTING, GET UNDERSTANDING." We lose it (composure), break it, rip it, snatch it, take it, hide it, destroy it bc we believe revenge is the way. I'll show him/her. We transform into another being - - - the being that was never healed from childhood trauma.
We ACT OUT seemingly from someone cheating, but what I found out about myself was that I was lashing out bc of abandonment & rejection issues from my dad leaving my life at 5. I got the revelation in my 50's.
Thank you again Sadghuru, I guess you can take it as a blessing. It's time you look deeper, rather than reaching and trying to fix someone else. Somebody is opening up a spiritual dimension for you. You're amazing and never cease to amaze me. Yes, I get it now. ❤
True true true... If we forget god they are still there, they are absolute...
Yes he is
Thank you so much for sharing Sadhguru~s wisdom with us. ♥
Your very welcome.
Appreciate you sharing this, sadhguru's wisdom always helps me!
Oh yes. This one was a refreshing view on the subject that I could relate to and very true.
🕉🙏🏽
Haha God the absolute relationship 😅😅😅 yea, so true for many people who can't put enough efforts and energy or alertness towards humans around them to make relationships beautiful.
One way high way the love of God.
Yes, I have woke up from my illusions. Thanks Sadhguru!
Grey hair full of wisdom ❤❤❤
Ys
Let them gooooo,
Don't stay any longer with a person who cheating you.
Almost every time. Yes. Because they will do it again. There are very few exceptions.
How about the commitment?
How about people’s Discipline off sacrifice for one another?
Yes. True love is all about respect, commitment and the discipline of sacrifice for each other. To many forget about that and do what they want to do. His words helped me remember I only have control over what I do, not anyone else. No matter how much we’d like to have our spouses on the same page of commitment as us many times some just choose to do what they want to
I agree with you. Those saying "love" doesn't last don't understand it. The truth is few people can actually live the meaning of love. When I finally found the meaning of love, I even knew in my human nature it will be very difficult for me because love goes beyond feelings and emotions. We are finding loving people very difficult these days because we are supposed to love without expecting anything in return and that's the truest form of love.
Truth is, I cannot even make this sacrifice and that is our problem these dsys
@Brenda Brown, so very true! I feel that the foundation of true love is respect and that’s what everything else stands on. I posted a video about “what is true love” and added a story to it to help others understand that commitment and the sacrifice that comes with it. I think these days it’s hard to trust because of so much lack of respect and trust for others. That may come because many people don’t respect and trust themselves enough. We have to love ourselves first before we can give it to another. That takes building and healing ourselves from the things we have had done to us and things that were said to us all our lives. I’ll post another video on this but I do have a few that may help. There about being happy and the ones about being controlled. So glad you left this comment and know you are not alone in your truth! At least you can own your truth and that’s saying a lot!!
Dear Sadguru, all that you said changed my life, my perspectives . Thank you! ^-^
He helped me as well. So I wanted to share with everyone to extend the insights.
Relationships are about relating and understanding. If you can't understand you can't relate.
You can only understand a message to the degree that you are able to understand the deeper patterns that are playing out in yourself, and in all relationships.
When you understand the energetic dynamics and the archetypal roles that play out between the feminine and masculine, you will start to think very differently about cheating and the role you have played in creating that reality for yourself.
That may sound twisted if you never look beyond the story that is playing out to see your patterns.
This made more sense than counseling…
All relationships end; best to stay out of them.
Or for those who want a family and relationship, remember not to live in an illusionary state and understand the commitment and work that has to be put in before you do.
That will end the human race
Very knowledgeable person we have to learn from guruji a lot
He does have a lot of knowledge
It’s hard feeling when spouse cheat .. but if they have kids or kid , who will take care of them .. need some solutions .. no one can forget their past .. past ruin there present and future .. if you go to court .. too much hassle and money .. we need to change person from innner self. ..
Ultimate reality from an illusionary state 🎊
Sadhguru is the Greatest Wise Man in our lifetime! It’s Better to realize that you are Complete on your own and not needing anybody else! And then you can attract someone just like you!
i really wish this can be written as well in English for us to read and hear him at the same time rather than just listening to him alone, i hardly hear him.
You got it! I’ll put in the words for you. Thank you for asking
This is so beautifull 🙏
Thank you master Sadhguru 🌱🟢
I needed to hear this ,! Thank you for an ancouraginh word
Just wanted to let you know you are not alone! Hope the rest of the relationship play list helps as well. Let me know if they do and let me know if there’s a video (subject) you would like to hear about
🙏🏽✅💪🏾👍🏽💪🏾
Thank you. You made me see life in a different way.🙏🙏
Thank you for watching 🙏
Thank you for sharing this, enjoyed the laughing at the beginning :) Good points
Glad you enjoyed it!
Beautiful speech..transform not extracting...
Its serious subject why people r laughing
Nothing in this creation is 100% perfect and straight. Expecting what's not there creates tensions and mental agony. Marriage and other customs are arranged to avoid conflicts to the minimal in the society. But remember, no civilization or education or sacred scriptures can prevent what's intrinsic in nature. After all we all are part of nature. But, being humans we try our best to stick to the 'written ethics and laws.' But, above all these only Nature is ultimate. Jai Sriram. 💐
True
Humans by nature can't survive allow, they need companions. It's easier said than done to not expect or care or whatsoever in a relationship, whether it's parents, siblings or partners. We expect certain effort cos we feel we will do the same in return. Indeed it's true that we reach a deeper level of understanding and spiritual awakening when faced with painful situation, but nobody deserves to be cheated. Cheating is the lowest form of energy.
So very True! You are also right by saying, it is easier said than done. I have always taught my children, do to others what you would want done to you. Love them, forgive them, learn from them and if you must leave them, wish them the best and move on.
Many won’t do the same in return. This helps us to understand that we can’t change anyone’s choices. It’s not our fault they do what they do, like cheat. Which can help us to move on to someone who will treat us better. Cause we deserve better! Thank you so much for commenting on this Saleha!
Tit_ for_ tat.
@@nalinibisnauth8491 yes
"Relationships is not absolute",..thats what I just learn.. base on your comment..you are basically putting expecting other for your wants and needs, and in return you want to do the same for them...in other words your happiness is external.. an outside source controls your happiness when it should be internal.
@@ujayet Not exactly. If someone are together, it could be any number or in any relation, there will be expectations. denieing the fact and sidepassing dose not help any one. If someone want zero expectations, one should live alone. ( Don't spoil tother's life)
Beautiful said so true thank u Sadhgrue🙏🏾🙏🏽🙏🏾🌷
Yes true. He does has a way with words. 🙏
Somebody is pushing me to the ultimate reality from an illustrationary state.
I want to let you know you are not alone. It hurts when you get pushed. Can make you so angry. Now I’m glad I was pushed. It’s freeing and I no longer allow anyone to control my happiness. I’m a whole life and so are you!
@@TheHealingWaves so true
Very interesting!!!! thanks for sharing Kelly!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you Sadhguru...
Absolute freedom from thoughts
Sadhguru ji you are clearing cobwebs
The Great Sadguru, you are superb with your answers! Love from Mauritius.
thank you for watching
Art of wisdom
Yes
This helped me so much ❤
Sadhguru thanks for making me to realize 🌺🙏🙏
This helped me understand better as well
I got married 5 years ago. My husband is a calm and kind person. But unfortunately he cheated on me with one lady at his office. I found out that and he admitted his mistake and promised me it will never happen and i forgave him. We started a happy life and now I have 2 year old baby. Yesterday I happened to see a flirting message on my husband's work phone and it was the same woman. Now he is begging for forgiveness and Asking for one last chance. What should I do. Am so confused. He is a good father but not a good husband. Help me pls
I am.suffering this delima for 20 years
Same with me..I feel helpless sometimes.
Leave that stupid
Woooow, such a big topic, thanks for sharing
Yes it is.
God is not dead, he is a life.
Great words of wisdom.
I agree! Thank you for commenting
Thank you sadguru❤🎉🎉😊😊so so much
That was so......profound!
Yes it is
Thanks Sir!
hmmmmmm, hope no one needs to go through it though; but it's a great share!! 🐾😍💖
Some do anyway without the choice. I just hope it helps someone else.
Hi
What if they ask for forgiveness and reconciliation? Whom and how to trust? Very easy to give-in specially if you have children
Great inspirations
Yes agree!
Thank you. SAdguru..
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thanks for watching!
You are really awesome!!, Sadguruji🙏🙏🙏🙏
I want to be pregnant, how do I make that happen for me. I have faith, I pray, I believe but still waiting
Everything happens when and how it needs to. If it is meant for you it will happen. You are on a path that is unknown till you get there. Trust in the universe, god because it/he always has your back.
Thank you Guruji. You saved me!!
Sadhguru, tell me why we are chasing this idealistic forms and we're thinking that ideals will full our emptiness!?
Because of this hunger to the perfection we are ready to do it all what is in our power... But we're forgot in all that searching one thing.. That all answers must be in our nature to gloryfide whenever we want something for return.. And that is truly what we called speculation, not pure desire for the truth...🌬️🌀🌌
Many don’t really want to hear the truth. The truth about others is ok but the truth about themselves is not. We must all look inside and see ourselves for who we are and be accepting of ourselves first and foremost. And own our own mess
A man is only an accessory not a necessary
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for Sadguru 🌸🙏
You are very welcome 🙏
Brave little Indian boy
Isn't it awful how often people espouse advice on stuff such as this and right off the bat it's "she did this, well you did that. NO. Sometimes its more like this shortly after we got together
-She started getting in between my self and my relationships external to her any way she could, getting their numbers, calling my friends, intercepting my calls, not letting me talk to my friends or my family. Completely isolating me making me feel constantly unsafe and alone.
-I would catch her taking pictures of my family and friends and copying them to her conputer without permission, in fact I told her to delete them verbally and in writing. At one point I manually deleted them.
-She breaks into all my computers using screen share and other tricks that i dont fully understand.
-If I dont lock my office she will get my passwords and break into everything again, also she will scramble snd destroy my long term work.
-needless yo say whenever i mention any of this its "youre crazy youre paranoid!"
-Intercepts my mail
-came home pregnant from a trip home,
I could go on and on. Why not leave, because i cant, yet. Gottta bide my time and try to grow enough to get out
I do thank my ex husband he wasn't for me and have rest of my life to live in PEACE
I completely understand and resonate with that
Loved what you said...
His words helped me when I went through this.
Really really, the best of the best pearls of wisdom! Gave me such an aha moment!!! Thank you Sadhguru 🙏💚🤍
Me too!
Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
@9:33, lolll 😅 sadhguru,you show that there is a positive side to everything, ultimate, pranams🙏
Yes he does
But we also need practical solution. How to deal practically, what level of betray is enough for divorce .
Absolutely Brilliant 👏
Yes definitely
Salutations sir
Thank you so much for those wise words,a different perspective on human nature
I am liberated today🍀
It was the same for me when I first heard it
Wisdom ❤
Generally Healthy mentally woman will produce healthy man which, he become a healthy husband and will have healthy relationship (family)
Thank you!🙏💜✨
My pleasure!🙏💖
That was such a good message
Yes it was. It gives you something to reflect on that's for sure.
This is the worst pain that one can give to other who loved the most. I faced this worst situation got into trauma, so many things has happened. For me I'm still breathing because of grace. If you're an Isha mediator - Then im alive one and only bcs of Devi Bhairavi. I don't want to get into that.
Apart from that I followed few others things. It might be useful for others whoever facing similar kind of issue.
Below are the important things you need to follow to minimise your suffering
1. Food - Eat only satvic food, it's very very important. Try to clean your colon often. Best is use kadukai every night.
2. Don't watch any nonsense movie like action, crime, horror, love, romance . See only comedy and animations.
3. If you're practising Yoga and Meditation it's a best medicine, jus keep doing it.
4. Travel - jus take a car or bike, jus go to greenary place.
5. Animals - If you have domestic animals or pets just spend sometime with them.
6. Workout , do exercises a lot ,not heavy lifting. Sing, dance until you become tiered.
7. Games - Go outside and play.
8. Make new friends, meet new people.
9. Talk talk talk talk to your friends, family members who listens to you.
10. Focus on your work and health.
Warning: Don't get into any addiction. You'll spoil your brain further. Jus stay away from that.
I followed these very very cautiously and came out. I still have the pain that most loved one did that to me but we can avoid suffering.
Keep in mind.. your peace of mind is important, these kind of persons are not worth for you. Cry as much as you can and Jus move away. Don't even think to talk to them, they'll take it for granted.
They betrayed bcs they didn't value you and your relationship. Without commitment and love this relationship will not work.
Definitely you'll get far far better person, you'll meet far better people.
Inner strength is important.
Yet very hell, painful
Cheated on me bcos the person .. made me feel ... that he /she is the one .. but . Yes u are right though ...
So true
As per studies women cheat much more percentage than men mainly because women need emotional connection and most men these days are so busy and ignore the partner until they look elsewhere and cheat on the husband. So never blame the person who cheat and the real culprit is the partner who does not maintain the effort to maintain the garden and wait until the weeds take over. Never blame the cheater they also have emotional feeling to be taken care. ❤️
So why do the cheaters stay with their faithful partners if their needs are not met? Lying and hiding behind their backs. It is not fair, not respectful. Those poor cheaters can meet their own needs without hiding, but openly. Talk and go where your needs are met.
@@tsvetitsvetkova1059 Why get married and spoil innocent wife life if the husband want to ignore the partners need. Ignoring and not understanding partners need is the ultimate cruelty and slavery, it's against the nature and they will never be forgiven by nature and humanity. Nelson Mandela very rightly said “When a man is denied the right to live the life he believes in, he has no choice but to become an outlaw.” His views have much substance in them. No one is born criminal; it is the circumstances that make one so
Cheating is an obvious option for cheaters.
Big respect for you sir.
Yes
If his life is completely away from any relationships then he can't be punished ok. But if not so like this he then there a need to protect girl child. Other wise, is the society balanced.
If I’m reading this correctly. I feel this is ment for all. Male and female so yes there will be balance because both do these things.
Beautiful
As the saying goes the grass is always greener on the other side but the reality is every marriage has to be wrked on ,nurtured by both the partners cannot keep changing partners like a pair of shoes .Marriage bed should be respected by both partners and worked on then only can it be lasting till death do us depart 🙏
So very true! It is work and on both sides. Everything you said is 200% true!!! Thank you for sharing this message! Many need to hear it. 🙏
His reality.
Thank you sadguru ji
Stay single while you still are! Be careful what you wish for
Thanks for watching!
Thank you very much
You are very welcome and thank you for watching. This understanding changed my life for the better and I hope it does for you too