Age 40 and still living with my parents.
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- čas přidán 13. 02. 2019
- If you'd asked me if I would still be living at home with my parents at the age 40 twenty years ago, my answer would most probably have been a most definite no!
My ideal situation for the future back then would have been married with children, my own home and hopefully, have a good job that pays the bills.
As it turns out though, life has taken me in a totally different direction and I am still living at home with my parents.
In today's video, I talk about how this situation has affected me in the past and how I am now choosing to view that situation in a more positive light.
You see, It's not the situation, it's how we choose to look at it that changes the game for us.
If you want to find out more about me and how I am creating a lifestyle and business online then visit me at:
thelifestylezen.com/
Mate. Your parents/parent is still alive. Count your blessings. Please guys as long as you have a roof over your head. Stay blessed.
True your parents don't bug you ,so you should be happy, also it's for free it's at the cost of independence and privacy
At least he's getting a small amount of income from CZcams
@@mypapaya590 tf lol
Good to say if you have decent caring parents. I was brought up in an abusive household where.. There basically was no love. It was one mans operation and if you did not agree with that you got smacked.
@@clopper3753 I'm so sorry you went through this💔
I am 48, almost 49 and still live at home. My role is slowly turning into caregiving for both my parents. I am blessed that my parents are still alive and I have an opportunity to help them out. I don't care what others may say about me always living at home. I am happy.
you scoring some good points with the man upstairs
And why do you still live with your parents at that age?...
@@tompowers4013 for some people, they can’t get a good job even with a good work ethic or a clean record.
I don’t live at home and I’m 40 but that don’t mean I can’t possibly relate. It took me a long time to get a job in healthcare due to not having friends that work in those places and I refused to relocate.
Not all who live at home should be considered losers. Our society also has moved too too fast and forgot to assist others.
@@tompowers4013 Many reasons.
@@tompowers4013 I lived at home until I was 38 because I had a very bad crack cocaine addiction I'm 43 now and Im married with my own apartment been clean almost 5 years
I lived with my parents for 39 years. Sadly they both parents away, not together but years apart. My dad in 2003 of a heart attack in his sleep and my mom in 2011 of colon cancer. Now I’m 47 and I’ve been living alone for 8 years now in their house still. I had to remodel and redecorate the house so it can have my own style. I never got married and never had kids. Now I live alone.
Jay Lookie it’s never too late man, try tinder or other websites
I'm 44 and I'm going to have almost the same situation your in. I know it doesn't get any easier for us getting older but I understand.
I suppose your life is miserable
@U ti L Not at all. I do have friends, health, some money and my family. I'm totally okay. 😂
@U ti L whatever. You have no idea of who I am nor do I know you, and I'm quite far from being interested in what you have to say. Keep preaching your psychology talks. That'll get you far, dude. See ya.
This calmed me down a lot. I'm 31 years old living home with my Mom AGAIN and let me tell you...it is not pleasant. I'm trying to be patient and remind myself this is a transition. Thank you for easing my stress.
Hey, I can understand. I broke up with an ex i was living with after an 8 year relationship and had to move in with family. I dont like it, the atmosphere can at times be tense but i have to be here atleast another 2 years to be able to save for a deposit on a house. Just have to be patient and wait it out.
@@MyAeq I'm glad someone knows what I'm living through. 8 years? Wow...I'm so sorry. We'll get through this with patience and quiet walks outside. 🙏
@@theauntofdragons at least your sexy
@@Doors067 idk how this is a perk but it did make me laugh out loud lol.
@@theauntofdragons ha 😂that's good.
This kind of thing happens to a number of men. Life is getting more difficult out there. I'm currently in the same situation. It's horrible and humiliating.
@Scott Ferguson And potentially frustrating!
i hope youre doin ok
cant really understand it. ive applied to places but dont hear. maybe im just a pussy and won't walk in to places
@@nesxd4637 pretty well. Still living with the folks. Embarrassing.
@@wrddd3914 Exactly, a lot of this embarrassment is self imposed. If your parents aren't pushing you to leave why does one feel this incessant shame or embarrassment to still be living with their parents? It's live with parents and save a boat load of money, or scrounge around a slum potentially risking my future because I'm do shady things to survive.
I was in similar situation. Was 32 living in my parents house trying to go to school. School dodn't work out, so I packed up all my shit and went to Arizona, got a few jobs until I landed a decent one. Now I have a house, a wife, and a kid. Moral is, if your location sucks, move. It's hard, it's very scary, but you got to do it to survive.
I am in the Portland Oregon and all I have to sai is, dont believe the hipe.. its horrible in most parts. So much I want to move on mi own to go to Dallas Texas. Mi mom and stepdad wanted 2 do this more than I did at the root of it. I once lived in FL. I have the problem of not being able to stai on mi own and i often fall at mi moms merci.. its a horrible wai 2 live. This time it has to fall right and thats whi Im picking TX.. a more southern environment could actualli do me good and keep me out of coming back to them again.
AYEEEEEE
What job did you end up in?
@@nerad1994 I work in aerospace
@@LongLeggedOne It works moved from So.California to Houston, TX in 2018. It's not the end all cure all. But at least you can get your own place a stable job. And most important you can hold your head up and live with dignity.
Appreciate the video. I'm 35 living at home and single and not feeling all that great about it. Don't feel I've lived as much as I could have.
I'm 37, single, live with mom, work as an engineer, earn tonnes of money, investing wisely on the stock market, No girlfriend, no kids, no mortgage or other loans. Life is good. Mom is happy. I pay the bills.
@@heyyo162 wow!
@@heyyo162 Goals. Meanwhile the rest is rushing to get children without a proper foundation.
You still got time bro, don't feel you missed out, think if how you can get the best out of your life down your current path
@@randomquestion7592 Who said China? Lol.
My brother is 42 and had a breakdown in his 20s, lives with his parents for financial reasons..,. He's tired with alot of things. Jobs are a struggle..
I'm 48 and still live at home. Not what I envisioned for myself when I graduated high school. During my senoir year I was in a horrible car accident and ever since then I've dealt with crippling depression,anxiety,cuttting and suicidal thoughts. Despite being on tons of meds and seeing lots of doctors/therapists over the years,I still struggle. I'm really scared of my future. But I haven't given up yet. I keep trying to find a better job and hopefully someday move out and improve my life. I'm at least hoping anyway.
I am 41 going on 42 and still live home. I also have lots of mental issues dude. How are you doing now?
Sunshine chocolate nuts and exercise help make seratonin the happy hormone naturally - beating depression
God helps me too
🙏🙏
Im 35 and still at home with my mother and let me tell you, its humiliating! The looks and smirks you get when people find out, as a man, deep down on some level it hurts your pride and your ego that youre not able to stand on your own 2 feet without "mommys assistance" as someone in my life once told me.
Ive had to turn down dates when women have asked me out because i feel so ashamed and afraid of them finding out i still live at home. I cant take it anymore personally, im working towards getting my own place.
Bur for anyone that still lives at home, as long as you are able ro bear it, stay as long as possible. For me though its time
Its them looks and smirks that forced many ppl to move out
You live with you mother , your mother lives with you same thing
Be proud
Living with family has its pros and cons. The way I see it, is if its for financial, educational or other reasons then yeah, no problems with it. When it comes down to it for me personally: I don't care if someone lives at home or not IF they are doing something with their life, employed and not being a mooch or a loser and is striving regardless for at least something.
It’s sad that the western white world is like this but other countries it isn’t people leave home when they find a lover and marry and get their own place but today people don’t want to do that they would rather have someone get a place and move in with them and not pay bills 😂💀
@@ironwolfosiris Exactly my feelings are the same.
I needed this video at 29! As sad a reality as it is, this could be a strong possibility that I could be living with my parents at age 40, and as a single man with no relationship. Some people are destined to stay with their parents so they can look after them into old age, as a moral responsibility. I also have autism so being at home at age 40 is a very strong possibility and I cannot sugarcoat it!!
I'm 39 still at home, I'm paying my debt and saving..
@lisa mac I turn 39 in June, I'm medically career retired from the Army with 13 - 1/2 years and a single father with 50/50 split parental custody of my daughter. After moving back to VA with intentions to get my daughter and I our own place, I decided to help my self by helping my parents and my brother get out of the situation they were caught up in. In the house now that we moved into back in 2015, my pops pays the rent and I pay all the other bills but I help my mom take care or tend to my father because he's disabled, has dementia and has a heart health issue. I still can't wait to get my own place soon, so while over the last 7 years I been helping my parents get into position to finally buy a house as well as getting my finances / credit straight and business standing to get a place for my daughter and I. Granted I initially said "I'll give this process 2-3 years..." NOPE it's been about 7 years now since 2014 and I was so depressed feeling worthless coming from being on my own since leaving at the age of 18 but I've grown to let go and not pay attention to the negativity of others looking at me from face value judging without context. I was well into at least 20k in school debt also but since then I've gotten that down to 9k since 2012. Sorry for the lengthy comment reply but all in all I feel like everybody with the intent to change their situation goes through it and if the last resort is having to move back in with parents or family or friends for that matter has to happen then so be it.
@@JAYFLOPROBEATS amen to you than thanks for the comment because we do get down at times but we know what we doing
@@BrownskinbambiRN you're welcome... and exactly most I feel that talk trash or prejudge only wish they had the ability to "reset" their situations. I feel that people that jump on that judgement narrative know that 9/10 chances they can't move back home and they have to justify that idea by making the idea of leaving with parents feel like a down play
@@JAYFLOPROBEATS at least we have a home to live in ya know
@@JAYFLOPROBEATS and I know many folks who pay rent or own home that say they wish they could go back to their parents house and do this and that
I know this is a year old so I don’t know if you are still living with them but I can totally relate this video. 35 and still at home
It is nice to know that some people like me still live at their parents, have a nice day.
Again this is a year old, I'm 30, working, making good money and still living with my parents. Which is not that bad considering I'm of Italian and Egyptian heritage. I also contribute to groceries and stuff. I just don't know why should I leave home with no plans of getting married or having childs. It would be a lose-lose situation for me.
@zerothehero3426 same boat man don't plan on getting married or having kids think paying all that extra rent just to be alone would be a stupid move love hanging out with my parents and friends
I'm 40 and still living with my parents, obviously I am helping with bills and chores
Sound like a child.
@@wcb5440 .....who hurt you little girl?
I'm 36 in a similar boat for a long time - it's really grim, no joy out of life really and just trying to get through each day. I just accepted the nature of life is to suffer - we all suffer in different ways of course, and some more than others. I gave up expectations out of life really now, it just is what it is.
Don't give up. I have many friends making the best of whatever their situations are. I am now seeing many people living in RV's trailers, suv etc and they are making it work, nothing wrong with helping your parents pay for things, and it is less costly either way .
I still live with my parents. Don't really see a good reason to struggle on my own. The house will get passed on to me anyways when they're gone. Plus I can keep them company and help take care of them as they age
Biinnggooo & don’t forget whatever gets passed down from the grandmother 80 (in my case)
That's a great perspective to have. I would much rather inherit my home than put a major down payment on a new house.
you've got some valid points there.
@@Jane_Toussaint23 I bet you'd sing a different tune if your parents lived in an old run down poor man's house. All I'll be inheriting is a roof.
Sounds like pure incompetence and laziness to me.
I'm currently in the same situation too and it's not easier as a divorced female. I'm 40 and feel like I still get treated as a child by my parent's. I've been divorced for 12 yrs now, no kids. I had a great adventure on my own living around to 5 different state's and also taking myself to Maui for a few month's. Now all my confidence is gone. I feel angry with God right now because I don't understand why I'm back at my parent's at the age of 40. Feeling very lost and confused, but I guess that's how a lot of us are feeling now during these time's. I love being independent and taking care of myself like I had been doing for so long. I pray I get a new perspective like you quickly because it's been tough. It's so unfair that I had to leave a place that I loved.
I suggest watching Kevin Samuels on yt.
Don’t watch Kevin
Your life and everything else has already completely happened one way or another. How we appreciate the experience our souls have is what's important, wherever you are
It all systematically design that way inflation keeps going high but the paychecks. Housing is a big problem
How are you doing after 2 years passed?
This is the same thing to me, except I'm 24 and my mum is over 60... I'm pretty much screwed if she's gone.
Same, 22 here and living with my 68 year old dad and I'll finish my bachelor's degree when I am 27 and probably move out around 30. So I am feeding him fruits and nuts every day so he stays healthy.
I'm 32 and I've lived with my parents for the past 4 years. People treat me like I'm worse than a child molestor and people keep insisting that I don't spend any money. I've been tempted to move out and live on the streets, just to shut people up. I hate society.
Even if I had the money to move out and I had financial security, I would be miserable moving out. I would be lonely.
All people are lonely all the time, after all the conciousness inside of your skull is the only thing that you will ever experience the world with. Just move out for fucks sake it's hard at first but it gets better and after a time you will be so used to having your own personal space that you actually prefer having your own home.
I just moved out and I’m 29. I was living with my mom, as I got older i realized that I couldn’t be here and actually live the life I wanted to. As much as I love my mother, living there also had its embarrassing moments. Family members around my age range we’re all moving out getting there own place. Once I was able to get a better job I moved out. Also, with the lonely part, Don’t get me wrong, I have friends, I have girls I’ve brought over, so on and so forth but there were times I was lonely. The feeling is weird and it’s still there, but you’ll get over it. The only way to conquer that is either have your friend crash at your house for free to allay the loneliness (which I highly doubt anyone would do). Or just get a girlfriend and she moves in, which isn’t a bad idea but I’m not ready for a relationship right now lol and I kind of enjoy my peace and quiet moments those are the best
I know what you mean, I am 26 and still living with my parents. I can’t find reliable people to live with also my state is expensive. Don’t let anyone make you feel like crap because of personal preference
If i could i would push the button and destroy entire planet and shitty people in it
Who cares what people think it's none of their business how you live your life. A lot of adults are living at home since the cost of living is off the charts you're not alone. Don't try and go broke and live on the streets and have nothing just to impress someone.
32 and still living with my mommy!
No wife, no kids and lots of money!
@@Bone74838 Let me introduce you to my mom
@@Zolega89 I'll take a rain check thank you.
@@Bone74838 It doesn't rain
@@Bone74838 Also, who said that I will finde a woman?
I never had one and Is am okay with it!
@@Zolega89 Fair enough. Live and let live.
33 years old, living in my moms garage for the past two years. Yeah I have couch hopped a bit in the past, worked odd jobs, lived in my van. I have been an oregonian all my life and if you live here in the northwest things are just getting worse as far as the cost of rent,housing and finding work.
dsteward85 yeah I totally agree .here in reno Nevada it’s becoming really expensive with all the Californians moving down here 💀🤦🏻♀️
Man it’s just so hard to survive on your own today. We millennials have it bad in this era. That’s why I get irritated when a boomer tells me “I was out of my parent’s house at 18” well you lived in an easier time sooo...
Is it the only state in the world, move even further, even another country if you have to, there will always be an excuse
Just visited Portland. It's ruffffff but things will change because they already have. Our souls are just experiencing what has already happened. Things get better and worse too because they already have
@@noone3496 and that real bad. I hat new transplant making it worse for other well to ni win win situation as someone as they come everything goes up for them they no place to run
I lived alone in my early 20s, all those monthly rentals, utilities and maintenance fees all went down the toilet. Moved back in with my parents late 20s. Paid for groceries and utilities, had much more leftover money which I invested. Accumulated much more wealth now in my 30s. To hell what other people think about you.
My son, mid-30's, lives at home, and is saving money for a down payment on a house. Nothing wrong with that at all.
@@Europa1749 you need kick that boy out or he'll never be a man
@@blobtv7444 like it's as easy as that?
@@blobtv7444 No. If i ever have kids i won't kick them out by force if they lived with us untill an old age! It will ruin our relationship complectly! And i know my parents wont ever do something like that to me! Parenting dosen't stop at age 18. It stops when the parents both die.
@UCvDweZ_gRuFXkzBHTxOlY3Q Being a man has got nothing to do with who you live with. Pissing your money away unessecarrily doesn't make you a man either you idiot.
I'm 49 and live with my mom. I only lived elsewhere for 2 years. It's crippling and disabling. I always struggled with jobs. I have an associates degree so it's not like I'm a bum. I've always had full time jobs and have never been unemployed.
Perhaps your mom enjoys your company. Then just contribute with the rent and help with cleaning and buying food.
Because of your location it probably way to high to get your own spit i understand ur situation its now systematically set up that way finding housing is a struggle its not easy and affordable nowadays its real sad
Wow after reading these comments I thought I was the only one over 40 still living with parents. It’s always so easy for us to get a big house and split the bills than to struggle alone. I’m a single mom but sometimes I wish I had my own kitchen, pantry space etc. I’m never married and always said I would move out when I got married. Well it doesn’t seem like I’m going to get married so I need to figur e out how. I’m over it, I need my own place.
Your perspective is wrong . Just because you have an associates degree, means you're not a bum ? Like come on . I know people without a college degree and live life just fine. Gotta stop defining yourself by societal standards .
Ross, youre brave for making this video. People who critic you or bully/mock you for living at home with their parents are narcissits. They ALWAYS project their inner insecurities onto others. So if they call you a loser, thats because they feel like a loser internally, due to their past. Most narcs are created by living with abusive parents. So they either left early or got kicked out of their childhood homes by their parents. So when they meet/see someone who still lives with their parents, they start feeling doubt about themselves and must project that doubt onto the person who is happy with living with their parents. They will come up with any excuses too to criticize. They want you to feel shame, but thats because they are ashamed of themselves, either currently or shamed about their own childhood and must project it onto others. If you react negatively, they know it worked and you took hold of their shame.
I’m 31. I did not expect to be living with my mom at this age (I moved out when I got married and moved back after my divorce). I think living at home for me stems from a combination of 2 things: 1. I don’t see the harm in living with my mom (she’d actually prefer I stay as she enjoys the company) and 2. I don’t see any real benefits of not living with her.
As for your friend, if a guy living at home with his parents is below her standards, she should stop dating below her standards because her standard becomes what she accepts. Kudos to her if she is good enough to get the type of guy she actually wants.
I totally agree
I'm 45 and I live with my mum. I went from living with my Dad to moving into a council flat with my mum. I never learnt or had that push to become independent.
In many ways my mum has always been overprotective over me and I think that affected my confidence.
I've worked in mainly temporary jobs but trying to find ways to become independently wealthy.
As soon as my sister was old enough she moved out of my parents house then I took her room. My Dad then took in lodgers so eventually me and my mum got our own flat.
But right now I'm kind of an unofficial carer as she has health problems.
I would love to have my own place but I'm scared I'll fall behind with Bills. Dont know what I will do when she passes. :-(
Save money if you can.
Get a job with prospects if you can
See if you can stay in her home when she passes away
Have a plan
🙏✝️
Don't feel bad, I'm 41 and also living at home. I have a brother and sister who found their soul mates and have kids. I on the other hand have had nothing bad luck with relationships. Never been married no kids. And on top of that I have this rare autoimmune disease. Life can be so unfair. Sure I love my parents but I never imagined nothing like this😐 Unfortunately their is no time machine lol
As someone who is medically unique, I feel your pain.
Bless you thing are getting better for you z
Unfortunately things are just getting worse. If you draw a short straw when it comes to the game of life, there is nothing you can do other than resign yourself to your fate.
At home with parents, not at home with parents, what does it matter? As long as you are moving in a forward direction and your parents don't mind, I don't see the big deal. Only in western culture is it so frowned upon for people to be living with their parents even after 18. Everyone needs to be an early consumer in America, it's quite sad.
Right how is living with your parents any different than living with roommates still paying the share and the costs plus housing and renting so expensive not everyone has high paying jobs with college degrees.
@@briancalifornia1 when I first moved out I lived with my best friend. We are still like brothers, however living together was kinda chaotic at times. It’s best to get your own condo or something.
@@briancalifornia1 Your parents will love you no matter what you do (especially your mother). Your roommates won’t. This is the difference.
@@briancalifornia1 i think its better Cause it gives you a sense of responsibility and feeling like an adult having to pay your bills
This is exactly it. It's just a marketing tactic to get people to go into debt and then go into more debt to fill the house they didn't need.
I live wirh my parents in my 30s I have mild autistic special needs.I never had a relationship before .I dont take lfie serious.I ALWAYS happy and focus on the present .I Necer had a job before I left school at 13 constantly buillee online outside.I struggle to make friends.my own.age.I have no income.not even pocket money.I cry everyday even when I go out I ALWAYS get mistaken for being 13 or younger just because of my needs
My brother is the same way. He’s 18 now. I’m still at home too, I’m 21. Worried for my life, worried for his. I will make sure we get through. I hope you get through.
Respect the honesty, thanks for sharing part of your story
I'm 35 and still live at home. In my 20's I was working on eduction and honestly didn't feel pressure or any type of insecurity with living at home. In addition I was saving a tonne of money and could travel etc. The last couple of years though it has felt increasingly like I'm missing out on certain things in life and am feeling the need for that level of independence of moving out. I think it comes to a point in life where everyone feels like this, could be at 18 or 40, everyone is different. I think it is easy to tell yourself (I do it) that my situation won't be that different when I move out, and the day to day probably wont be all that different, but emotionally and mentally it must be a huge positive change. There is also a huge social stigma for men to be at home past say 30. Anyway I'm very anxious but have been looking at lots of properties the last few months, and can feel that I'll be moving out very soon.
People lose sight of the reason why they're still at home. I was in that situation until the age of 34, the reason being difficulty getting a permanent job which paid enough cash to meet the cost of living and then the resulting mental health problems which accrued from joblessness, extended periods of isolation, poor social networks and yes, social stigma. I had a good level of education, BA Hons in Philosophy from a top university but had zero careers advice, contacts and didn't know what to do with it so bummed around in all manner of unsuitable jobs for many years, interspersed with periods of unemployment. While you can't hold others responsible for your success/failure, having supportive figures at a key who are able to give you some positive input is a huge advantage, hence why aspirational parents fork out so much for their children's education. There are also toxic parenting dynamics, and some paricularly self-absorbed, narcissistic parents don't want to facilitate their children's independence -it's a dark place man. However, now 43, moved job and area, met my intended and much happier. It's true you remain arrested I believe if you never leave home and strike out on your own but it's hard man without an income (hence why we call it'Capitalism') If you can't afford to buy a home you will end up being someone else's cash cow by renting, but even so I believe it's essential for psychological growth to be your own person with the confidence that brings. It isn't natural for adult men to live with their parents really, that's just a fact - in nature your parents die and you're meant to stand on your own but the Capitalist economic system militates against that for a lot of people. Sorry if this sounds harsh but it's the brutal truth.
Im 55 and live with my mum. We both get on fine. Two people can live cheaper than one. My mum is safe whilst i am there. I work hard and we both have loads of money. The
system system wants you debted up to the eyballs and poor.
As a woman, I agree with safety in numbers too. My mom feels rhe same way
34, going back to college, in therapy, struggling with anxiety and no way of moving out. Sucks but thank the Gods for my parents
My dad is really impatient when it comes to get me out of house, but I just get to college and I’m still young, plus I’m still scared of living alone.
At least my mom still cares for me and she said she will help me start without going broke, but maybe for a few years because now most jobs are closed due to Covid-19 and I hope it will end otherwise my goal will fail.
Its all about the location because getting your own place is expensive especially in California . Lots of people renting rooms instead of getting their own spot most are moving back with parents
Thats almost everywhere now. This video guys is most likely in England and probably not London. So its not just California its everywhere I think
I’m 26 years old living at home and I feel like shit, I can’t wait to leave here and have my own
Same
Do it. House share or get a bedsit. It won't be that bad
@@singIeservingfriend I’ve lived with other people it’s not for me. I also have a 3 year old with me. But Just to update I got my savings up. I’m currently looking at 2 bedrooms, I’ll be outta here any day now 😉👍🏾
@@noahjenks2012 Are you out now?
Your weird go get a job
i live at home with my parents i'm 41 and happy as a clam, and ill stay at home till my parents pass. besides! i'd rather have a dog than a woman who will make my life a living hell
@Teodric how do u know that he doesn't have a job did he say that? Stop assuming things
@Teodric moving out isn't as easy as ur saying and it's not for everyone, it takes a lot for a person to move out and live on their own, and if he's happy to live with his parents at 41, then why do u see a problem?
Wonky
Dream Dream Serene facts
You'll find a non feministt narcassist woman. Stability will settle for you. There's nothing wrong living with mama and papa.
Don't feel bad I am in exactly the same I think this is becoming just a normal now
Thank you for the encouragement.
I'm 35 and still living at home.. Are there any channels or a discord group or something, for people in our position to talk?
I would go absolutely insane.
My parents are awesome. I built my own house on a trailer and have it parked on their land. I pay rent. I pay all my own bills and work full time. I enjoy spending time with my parents and want to enjoy our time together while they are still alive (in their late 60s). Their house will be mine when they die anyway so why leave? I've lived on my own before and it was nothing but struggle and loneliness, now with all the money I save, I have gone on vacations around the world. It's one thing if living at home is toxic but if not, try to see the good aspects. People who say you NEED to move out obviously don't have good relationships with their parents or have bought into capitalist bs of "everyone needs to buy a house".
@@suzymoon2067 Sorry to hear about your mom. But it is great that you were able to spend her last years with her. I'm sure you'll find someone cool to live with. 😁
I wish I had my parents, your lucky your parents are alive, enjoy them spend time with them , both my parents died when I was ( 18-22) I wish I could live with my parents
I don't think there is anything wrong living with your parents no matter how old you are. In Asia, it is very common to live with your parents until you get married or just decide to move out. Alot of my asian friends in U.S are still still living with their parents.
The issue is being dependent to your parents and being afraid to grow up. Especially, if it's a toxic environment, but you still decide to stay because you're afraid of hardships in the real world.
If you're working, and helping with the bills, doing some chores, able to save more money and most importantly healthy environment. Nothing is wrong with that. But if you're in a toxic environment, manipulative parents, parents making you feel guilty, reliance on your parents doing your laundry, cooking your food, and you feel trapped because of your own insecurity and parents not wanting you to leave. For your own well being, make a plan where you can be independent.
I can live with my dad, and if he sees me doing something with my life, he'll be proud of me and push me to get better. But if I live with my mom, it's very toxic, no personal space, loud, negativity, needy type of environment. Dude, no bueno amigo.
True - Asian adults always living with parents. I'm Asian and over 40s too and happy living with my parents feel more company and safety. Unlike my British friends have their own houses after moved out of their parents for independence except about 3 of them are happy living with their parents and siblings. One told me about the family is more important living with you. Family always care and support you. And also saved you from any trouble (forget keys - use doorbell) and your life (heart attack - they will call or take you to hospital). What a blessing with the family. Alone is not safely. Thanks to my cousin taught me.
Very good. I'm an old man now and I realize the situation is a different one these days. But when I grew up, it was quite normal for people to NEVER move out. They would live with their parents, have kids of their own, eventually the parents would move to a different part of the building to be cared for by their kids and sometimes watch the grandkids. Then the next generation would grow up in that house, and so on. It was quite normal, just three generations ago, where I grew up. Even in the 60s and 70s. Even now, many do not move out until they marry - which is happening quite late now, in the 30s, sometimes 40s.
Yep same here in Finland back then. I remember when i was a kid back in the early 80's my neighbours had their grandmother living in their attic. They had made a whole apartment for here there with several rooms and cooking place and separate bathroom etc. I remember she would always come out on the balcony and curse at us when we were eating off of the red wine berry bushes. But those where the days where there was no real social infrastructure for elderly care. Today there are nursing homes and elderly folks homes where there is staff and equipment and everything to care for an elderly persons needs. Also back then salaries was very different. You could afford having a person at home taking care of the kids and the old and the other out working. Today that is impossible. And more rightfully everyone has a right to make a life for themselves. To take care of old people is really a full time job and who knows for how long they will live. You will waste 10 - 20 years caring for a person that could be better of in a nursing home with 24/7 better caring. No.
@@lauraelizabeth3088 Yeah tbh I think the moving out thing is mostly a USAmerican thing. It's both a symptom of American success and of the mindset that made that success possible. But the time for that mindset "throw my kids into the cold water, now swim or drown", that time has come and gone I believe. I agree with you. It doesn't work like that anymore in this century. cheers.
This was a relief to watch. I'm 27 and my mom and I live with my Aunt and Uncle. We both have been living with them for 3 years now right after when my mom and I sold our house early 2018 because we couldn't afford it. It was sad and heartbreaking as we both had to say goodbye to our house of almost 20 years. But I guess a lot of people take the time to grow at their own pace and settle somewhere else.
I am 44 and after my dad passed away 10 years ago, my mom moved in into my small apartment (she is living in the living room)... I am single, and I didn't have any dates or so in that time.
I am the only child and love my mom but it would be better that she could live alone. But she has only a small cleaning job, not enough to get own apartment, and she doesn't want to get help from social care.
I thought of getting her some cheap apartment, but I am not earning that much to pay for 2 apartments.... No idea how to deal with this. I feel angry and lost if I think about this. A lottery win would be the answer. Maybe some of you have an idea what we could do.
Pray if you don't already it's a good place to start
Rest in God and be inspired by God
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my boss lived at home till he got married he said if the woman didnt like it she wasnt for him
So many people with sad comments like damn! Living with parents can be great, I live with my girlfriend inside my moms house 16 years already =) The monthly cost are extreme low and we could not imagine suffering and working several weeks just to pay the landlord to live for a month.. Let alone doing the shopping and side costs of living alone.. I can do what I like, working part time here and there and have so much free time to explore things that have my interest and I can just save for purchases quickly and we can all divide in tasks for daily chores like cleaning, cooking ect.. I feel like normal people are just slaves in there own rat race trying to fit the 'perfect' picture which behind the scenes looks allot like torture if u ask me.. We also do not want kids with this unstable future this world offers, so that is solved.. We get happiness from other things just being there for ourselves for example, we have time to think, relax and what not, we really are blessed and rich like this, because remember free time is worth the most amount of money.. The house is already being payed for and in my heritage, so one day we will live on our own but until then we have so many benefits I can go on and on about.. When we really need some privacy feeling, we can just take sweet vacations worth every penny - the perspective of what is right or wrong is just in the eye of the beholder.. Most people that laugh about it are just jealous suffering from there own choices and misery's - I do have respect for people who have no choice and do not have the luxury like we do.. Cheers!
Exactly. I lived on my own for a decade, moved back in, built my own completely separate house in their yard. I have money for great vacations my friends could only dream of and I love having coffee with the rents and discussion the news in the morning on our shared patio. It really all depends on your relationship with your family and your perspective, like you said.
lol, so you’re a loser. lol.
My,god you are a loser. 100% loser, lolol. And you’re putting this online on video???? You should be embarrassed.
I live at home in 30s. Sometimes I feel I’m being judged however I am smart I save money I cook for them. Their house is a lot nicer than most shit hole I’d be in.
I also have a medical issue.
If I didn’t live here it would be mostly vacant and go to waste.
I am 55. I lived at home with my parents all my life. I still live in the family home since they passed away.
I’ve been studying the Word of God a lot, a spiritual awakening is what you need, living at home is not bad man.
I found God -Jesus Christ saved me in January 2020. I was near death. Depressed after a horrible relationship with my ex.
I'm still working on improving and work has been difficult. Especially with covid and my own limitations. I am actually in major debt yet not worried about it as I know it will be okay.
I trust God and know it will all work out.
I am blessed and content.
shut up its about tiem simple minded people likew you stop believing in religion bullshit
@@sexydudeuk2172 Religion is not stupid. It brings hope to the lives of those in need and a guiding hand to a goal, it may look ridiculous to you but to many it helped them gain a better life.
@@bradleye1964 🙏 Amen
@@BadEconomyOfficial so by Gods goodness and prayers answered found a nice job got hired on full benefits and hopefully find a place asap.
Or I could be fired... end up homeless... I'd still praise God best I can.
Hi, Ross. I can relate. I am just a few years younger than you, but am in the same situation. Maybe worse. I subbed.
Hey Andy, Nice to hear from you and thanks for your comment. It's not always easy to find a way out of this situation. For me, I had to start looking at what I was doing that was causing it to continue and also to really look at what value I had gained from it. The only power we really have in our lives lies within us but sometimes it just takes a while to find it. Whatever your issues might be they can always be overcome so don't give up. Keep on watching and hope I can continue to give you value that will help you to gain insight and improve your life for the better.
@@mrrossthatcher Thank you. I agree. It seems i have to build from the ground up every few years, but thank goodness I am resilient enough to put in effort each time to be better than before. Keeping hope that we nice guys finally win at life and consistently.
No worries Andy! Just know my friend that through your own experiences and what you learn from them is how you will help yourself to become stronger and if you then choose you can also help others with that insight.
I have a book recommendation for you, this is the book that literally turned my life around when I read it and got me out of depression.
It is:
Ask and it is given by Jerry and Esther Hicks.
If you haven't already read it then I thoroughly recommend it. 😉🙂
@@ANDYDAVIRGO It's important NOT to be too nice! Sometimes, you MUST be assertive AND, ultimately, remember that nobody owes you anything AND, more importantly, you don't owe them anything! The point being, sometimes, your own needs take a priority over other's, especially if they're the type who'll try to use you (in which case, I suggest have very little to do with such people if you can't avoid them entirely)!
@@mrrossthatcher do you have a gf ??
I make less than 20/hr and live in new england. How am I supposed to live on that, or ever hope to provide for a family?
In mid 40s - it's getting far more common for many reasons. We don't stick with or fit in with all the traditional values anymore and other things maybe more important than what's considered the 'norm'. For example you maybe focused on entrepreneur type projects and creative outlets or have a job with antisocial hours or shifts.
Ross buddy this will be me in about 2 years time so thanks for making this video so I don't have to. Honestly you're a lot more positive about it than I am. I went to college, and although I got a 4-year degree, I struggled in my chosen field. Jobs I've had since have been abusive situations where I've accumulated injuries and worsened the arthritis I've had since I was a teenager. Had one relationship that might be considered long term, but fell apart shortly after the original covid lock down. Honestly a job and a relationship are the last things I need right now, it's very difficult for me to let anyone get close to me, but I still have a painful longing to share an emotional bond with a woman who understands me. Or, I'd at least like to have a cat, but my mom doesn't want to let me have one, which at my age sounds like the stupidest reason for not having something. I really don't get out of bed much, and fentanyl O/D sometimes doesn't sound like a bad way to go. But that would be awful for my mom, I still remember her reaction when I wrote a su*cide letter in 5th grade. I just remembered her crying and crying and then our dog got me out of that depression and i had a real soul mate for a precious few years. I don't remember my dad having any reaction in particular to that episode, he doesn't talk to me very much.
Anyway I'm beginning to look into options for therapy, if anyone reads this entire essay, thank you, you're a kind soul.
I wish you all the best and I hope life takes you on a better journey! We're all on different paths
@@azzababy Thank you for the encouragement, Arian, I appreciate you taking the time to reply!
At your own pace sir.😀😀
BeBlessed!
Im 37 and still live at home. I went to college, held jobs, etc.... its just impossible to build a normal life anymore. Even my parents are cool with it, we both mutually agree times have changed, and my generation is simply not going to have the same lives they had. I guess anything is possible, but I don't even think of marrying or having children anymore, I have lived so much of my life without it, it seems not possible to have it anymore. Even some old friends of mine who married in their early 20s had horrible divorces, alot of them tell me in the end I won because my life is simple. Also, I became a religious person and in general that has led me to a less materialistic life. I just feel society has changed and I dont have a place in it, but at some level I am at peace.
Thank you. I needed to hear this. I just left the military at 31 (served only four years) and had to move back in with my parens for 4 months. Now I'm moving north to Graduate school (paid by the government). They're kind but they still make me feel bad because I don't have a stable job, I'm not married and I have no kids.
You got 4yrs military so you got something to account for your time.
Nothing wrong with it. People care too much about other people's opinions when they have nothing to do with them in their life.
Glad it is alot of pepole in the same situation. I am 35 years old and still live with my parentes. Beacuse i am musician and plays bass in a Rock Band Called Hollow Ilusion from Norway 🇳🇴 . And music is my passion and goals i want to make it in the music industry and career. Recording records, and be om concerts tour in the world. I simply Don't afford to live alone and pay so much. But i am not ashed, just lucky to embrace my time with them ♥️🙏🎵🎶🎸🥁🎼
🙏💛 Were all on different paths.
I am 47 and i am back living at my mothers house as a result of Covid ..I was living abroad for years .. then when pandemic hit and i thought OK .. I better go home for while and wait it out . .. initially I thought it would be just for a few weeks... but im still here over a year later !! .. Its not ideal .. but at least i have a roof over my head and its rent free .. obviously i would prefer not to be here but what can i do ? ..I miss having my own place and the privacy that comes with that .. I guess theres many people in a similar boat to myself due to corona virus .. its not that easy anymore to move out and get an apartment, or share with others .. , also the option of going live and work abroad is extremely difficult right now . I dont want to beat myself up over it ..it feels a bit odd.. but i just see it as shelter from the storm .. this is a crazy and unprecedented situation we are in ..cant wait to get my own place again though
This happened to me too. I was living abroad. But I didn't choose to leave. My job closed down and I lost a lot of money. My boss wouldn't give me a release letter to get another job. I didn't think I had enough money to hang out 8 months not working, until I could legally work again. So, I felt like i had no choice but to go back. It sucks. 7 months now and still no one has hired me.
Family is supposed to have each other’s back. However when you’re living in someone’s house you can’t do whatever you want. My 24 year old tries to take more liberties than me. Not cool, otherwise I got her back completely.
I'm 35 years old chronically ill recently diagnosed with autism. and pots . have no social life.. I'm depending on illness benefit. I don't have a job never went to primary school and secondary school.... it gets lonely to be honest
The day a person begins to become an adult is the day they move out of their parents home . Live as a child , be treated as a child # Kidult
Amen. I moved out at age 20 and never looked back. I am now 42. And guess what... I am not a millionaire and did not f the prom queen but my life turned out alright.
Sounds like someone had a bad childhood 😂
@@MrMountainchrisMany of us had. There is nothing salutary about not being able to move away from your parents as an adult, because salaries around the world are not commensurate with the level of expenditure needed to live. So many parents are impossible to live with because they are intolerable, they interfere in everything and still pretend to own you. Above a certain age, living with parents is not really mentally healthy. Your consciousness narrows and you become stubborn.
I live alone, but I have a partner, and I don't live with him because I need my own living space. And I need privacy and I couldn't bear it if someone at 33 still held me to account as if I were a 5-year-old child. And yes, I am having a hard time paying my bills, but that is the price of freedom.
My mom lives with me. Not the other way around. I'm 38 and every day of my life is misery.
This has been my experience
I moved out of my moms mobile home when I was 20, did not have a friend or gf to move in with, just took a leap of faith and rented a room in a house from a total stranger online, because I was so eager to "grow up and join the real world", I was working and going to community college at the same time. I lived with different roommates for 7 years, never cared much for my roommates, was busy all the time and to make it more awkward, my family would just drop by and visit, not telling the land lord (I do not think my family was ready for me to be out on my own, not then, not now in my mid 30s)
I had my own apartment from age 27 to 30, but every year, the rent would go up by $100 a month, in 2011 it was $1100 a month for a small, 1950s era apartment, in 2014 they wanted $1400 a month for a one bedroom, could not afford it if I worked 7 days a week
Now, I live with my dad. Sometimes I mention I want to move out on my own, but he legit asks me "but why do you want to live on your own?" as if even as a grown man, the idea that an adult would want some independence is insane, as if no one does that. Then it hit me, my (divorced) parents go on and on about how lonely they are (they are very much hippies from the 1970s, there thinking is very emotional).
Living with your parents is no longer as stigmatized as it once was as a man or woman who "failed to launch". I think people are more or less okay living in packed house (parents, roomates or a small apartment for a family of 4) , their biggest fear is being alone (the emotional issues are always over emphasized over money or some practical obstacle).
I think the next question is, do American even need or want to grow up? Buy a house, no, it would be easier to inherit your parents house. Get married, no, divorce rate is too high, plus, you and the spouse could probobly never afford a decent house (student loans and rising costs of houses). How about go out and see the world? No, look at what the illegals, rape gangs and rising crime in south American and Europe, the world is not as safe as it was.
Moving out of your parents house was something to talk about 2 or more generations ago. Today, its all about sofas in the basement, game cube, comfortable smells and chicken tendies.
hahaha game cube, thats giving me 1999 vibes. I felt every word you said man. Thanks for sharing that. I did have a question, while you were in your 20s and going to school was it rough mentally with all those things going on in your life at that time?
@@redpilledcoper5054 Very much so. I remember being 19 and it was my mom and I living in a Condo. I remember my mom saying one day, out of no where " why don't you travel". At the time I was making minimum wage and my mom did not work, no one in my family had money to travel.
So yeah, worked my way through college through my 20s ( yet people around me were going on about how I must be gettng so many girls). Ha, women, as if they would want to date me. I am broke, have no privacy and look like Bill Gates uglier brother.
Anyway, thanks for the comment
@@drop_messages6226 I feel you 100 percent man. Thank you for sharing that. College was difficult for me too due to other reasons but im sure the pain was close to the same level. I dont know what to tell you to cheer your mood, I could say hang in there but then I wouldnt be practicing what im preaching cause my future looks grim too. We in this together man
@@redpilledcoper5054 With the quarantine, I have had more time to listen to podcasts and read. One thing I have thought about is how different the last 3 generations were in terms of experience (ww2 , baby boomers and the gen Y). I live in an city that is stupid expensive, but people will live in their van and brag about the weather (again with the emotional arguments, people hardly use logic out here). My grandparents generation talk about how much they had to save and work, how hard it was, not to mention knowing a lot of your friends died in ww2. The baby boomers were the Vietnam war generation, they actually felt ashamed of their country and would rather smoke pot and get a job later ( I cannot put my finger on it, but I have never meet a baby boomer who ever struggled to find a job, they could be a long haired hippe drop out and yet still do okay)
I spent years working my way through college, thinking it would lead to something ( people around me would say small brained htings like, why don't I just take time off, or, I bet you get laid all the time). If you are a broke as a joke, working class college kid, and ugly too boot, nah man, women will keep their distance, I would know.
Also, when I say my parents visited, I do not just mean say hi. They would come inside, critique the land lords decor and sometimes even spend the night in my tiny guest bedroom, because being cozy and all that.
I am in my mid 30s, I am college educated, have been working full time since I was 16 but the economy is so weak, a person with a normal full time job cannot make it on their own, unless you want to live in an RV.
This video struck a cord with me. When the man talks about its like a mallet to beat himself up, I feel his pain. People who are still working age (18 - 55) do not plan or think they will even join the middle class in any real sense. The days of working your way up the ladder, buying a modest home in some quiet suburb, not possible for most Americans. You can tell this man has little dignity left, not because he is lazy or stupid, he just knows he is fighting an uphill battle.
I could write all day about how I feel about it, but I think this video captures the typical struggle of a normal, working class guy who knows he is fighting to keep what little dignity he has left. Chin up man, I guess we can say we are lucky to not be homeless.
Oh and about the "why don't you travel " comment. My mom traveled to Mexico and Spain when she was in college, her dad had a decent paying job at tha time, so trips like that were affordable and he liked to spoil her. My parents never planned for my future, college loans all the way.
@@drop_messages6226 you’re well versed.
I live at home too.. I understand feeling shame. I dont have friends and I don't really have an interest in dating.
Having a hard time because im having organ failure and prevents me from working. Living at home until i find something that works gonna be 39 soon
Tbh I think thie stigma is 10x harder for men @parents than women. Many reasons it happens is financial, sometimes emotional or because parents are elderly & need help. Personally I think those that perpetuate the negativity are jealous that those @parents aren't struggling financially like they are & have the security & connection from their parents as an adult child. It's a cruel world & if all involved are comfortable with the situation why do others put it down? You're no less of an adult if you're contributing to household bills & repairs & have a job to support your personal bills as well. It's refreshing to know there's adult kids who assist their parents thru their elder/changing stages of life. Screw what others say-do what's best for you!
Trust me, it's not easier for girls. I think more guys are mommy babies. Most girls are independent.
@@shannon2748 No its the other way round.
Ive always said that as quiet as its kept, a lot of folks who make they say something negative lile this guys co worker are jealous because misery needs company. They are mad because they know how much they would be able to save if they could and they also know it says a lot about your family/home environment not being toxic.
Ross, its not too late to move out. You should take that first step towards independence, it will be the most rewarding aspect of your life once you succeed. You dont really mature until you step foot outside into the real world.
I don’t find that to be true for everyone. Plenty of bums and deadbeats who don’t live with their parents.
Thanks man i am same position now. However i dont have a job now. But want to start on some business ventures.
*Literally 1 % people who are reading.....May you parents live happily healthily for more then 💯 years😇❤️💙❤️🙏😇*
Well, I'm 43 and about to move back in with mom, but that's because Im about to become a long haul trucker and if I'm only going to be home 6 days per month I just don't see a point in continuing to pay for an apartment if I don't have to. Im gonna move back in with mom for a couple years and save up as much money as possible until I have enough experience to get a route that gets me home nightly. In a couple years Ill be set.
30 still living with parents after two years of breaking up with my ex and I’m working but for some reason can’t move out and it’s depressing
Only reason why I'm leaving with my mom is cause of her financial status ! Since my dad passed away he left me with his obligation. I'm 37 & dont have the full mobility unlike when my dad was around
Me and my parents split all the bills and I do all the cleaning and cooking and decorating and I bought new TVs and a projector and built a home cinema and do all the yard work, and my parents borrow money from me all the time! But in everyone's eyes I'm a loser who lives at home still at 38, but I'm still single too and don't drive and collect ssi, I look normal I guess but I wear a hat for 20 years because I have severe scalp eczema and hair loss and lupus and my eyes are bad even with glasses , its really hard honestly I really envy ppl who have it easy and I miss being in love and feeling human , I'm really stuck living off ssi and after bills I have 80 a month , I just don't know how to get ahead plus my scalp itches so bad and I feel ugly , life seriously isn't fair , what's the point of living even for me at least
There is no treatment that can make your conditions easier on you?
If so, maybe it can help you with not only that but self esteem too. And that is noticable and people will want to hang out with you.
It is not about how we look, but it does make q difference, not only on others but also on how you feel.
I hope life gets easier on you!
Sounds like you are a roommate who is helpig your parents and that ia definitley not a loser
Hey mate dont fret i as well live at home with no job and on top of that i dont not have a car......its sll my fault ....however my father pased away he had cancer ....my mom also found out she had cancer 3 weeks later ...my world has crashed down on me ...ive always been a loser ive never had been good at anything other than being great at not being good at anything......none the less somewhere there must be a purpose for me somehwere becuase i havent killed myself "yet "
Allthough its not going to be much as a fun time like the rest of my life that has passed has been ....obviously joking about that... .however you have a purpose and without a doubt im positve you are smart.....i know i have nothing.....i was at one point by myself .on my own . However once things went downhill i had no choice but to move back home....needless to say the 13 years i lived at the house or home i was merely only renting ....i would have bought the house off if the landlord would have told me he was going to sell it....funny thing is he did sell it but he waited until i left......i have had a life long spand of screwovers ... and im sure there is more waiting for me
.. i am happy for you amd youre situation hopefully it will get better..
Unfortunately for loser .p.o.s like myself the only thing i look forward to is death....at least i will be at peace ...not made fun of or laughed at cussed at or spit on decived or mislead again....anyways im sure once my moms has gone to heaven to be with my father ...my life will have ended anyways ......i wish the best for everyone
PEACE AND BLESSINGS FOR THOSE WHO HAVE STRENGTH TO FIGHT IN LIFE 🙏🏼I PRAY FOR YOU....SUCKERS LIKE ME WELL THE WHOLE WORLD COULD PRAY AND IT WOULDNT MATTER......... .THE DIFFERENCE IS I ACCEPT MY LIFE FOR WHAT IT IS .......MAKING A CHANGE IS EASIER SAID THEN DONE.....BUT NONE THE LESS CHANGE WILL COME JUST NOTHING GOOD.
MAY GOD SHED HIS BLANKET OF HOPE ON EVERYONE
I hope you will find strenght in these hard times and the best of luck.
Stay strong man and god bless your spirit. I am also like you ..i am overambitious and delusional person with no job, no car, short, shy ,Lonely...
One of my best friends ever still lives with his mom at 40yo . Chill dude.
I really like him. Since he has no gf atm and shares the costs of this really cheap flat with his mum, i am greedy sometimes. 1 wife 2 kids and an overprived 105 qm home.
No more hookers and cocaine.😇
Its crazy how much your story sounds just like mine.
Thank you
I lived alone in my studio apartment for more than a year in 2015. I did everything on my own, got a job on my own, found a place on my own. 6 years later, after financial issues, pandemic, etc...I'm back at "home".
Lol you're just a coward.
@@EternalLogos Lol I bet you never served or even traveled over seas in your life.
@@snoozy04 only losers join the military because they were shitty civilians that didn't have a purpose and end up coming back with ptsd you stupid fuck.
@@EternalLogos Sorry to spoil your "theory" but that's not what happened to me. You don't impress me either bruh, you're just another shit talker with an empty ass youtube account.
@@snoozy04 WELL EXCUSE ME. I didn't know you're on your menstrual cycle. I know you're woman since you can't take a joke. Lmao😆😆😆😆😆
Mate I understand. The cost of living is ridiculous. Trying to get a mortgage and they want a high deposit is just stupid. There's nothing to be embarrassed at all. Everyone needs there own space to think straight away from your parents to have a social life.
People think just because you live with your parents you're not independent thats not true as long as you're supporting yourself paying your bills and financially independent. Houses are so damn expensive and paying rent is over 1,000 dollars month ridiculous you're not saving anything. A lot of people don't have high paying jobs with college degrees to to able to afford it. They end up inheriting their parents house when they are gone.
Son is always welcome place he grew up but when your purpose or dream comes including leaving parents its destiny
Youre a good man. Same here 15 years. Healthy meals. Sleep. Got sober. Meditation. No criminal. Not around rapists or addicts. Warmth. Real love . Lots of new sexy girlfriends. Good job. Having laughs. Being cool. Good fashion. Successful perspective. No depression. Vegetarian. Way more able to come with life. No lieing around me. Wealthiest. Cats and dogs . Lessons learnt are priceless
I wish I could live with family. It’s nuts trying to find a place to live with strangers. Stay close to family if they are okay to be around. Save money.
My female cousin who is 40 years old lives with my aunt and uncle. She now regrets it because her brothers are allowed to bring their girlfriends over to live there, but she cannot bring her partner whom she has dated for a long time to live there too. What she regrets the most is not having a career, even though she has a job, because she cannot do whatever she wants. And now with quarantine (due to the wuhan coronavirus) in the way, she might have to wait a couple of years to start a career.
Im 35 and loving with my folks. But they're not providing for me. I cook dinner for the family, I run errands, Mom is a cancer survivor, and Dad is basically crippled. I take care of them as much as they help me.
I dont live a free ride.
Yeah keep telling yourself that
moving out in my area is very expensive
Same! SF Bay Area!
Look for another area, the world is huge
Also entrepreneur who moved in w my mom after being very successful engineer. I just tel my mom she’s my first investor
Good video. 👍
There are so many circumstances in life for some people to live with parents . We Indian know this better .
Out of curiousity, if it brought you so much pain and embarrassment living at home, why did you do it for so long?
Not judging, I'm 31 and live at home. Ive lived with women in the past and also done the whole 'go to work and come home to an empty home' thing but it turns out me and my parents prefer each others company. They don't want me to leave lol. They live in a council house which I will end up buying next year so technically they will end up living with me in the end which doesn't seem as bad lol.
Personally, i never cared about other peoples opinions of me, don't be embarrassed, if your parents didn't want you there, you wouldn't be there.
Narcissists love putting others down, Ross mentions his coworker brings it up and it felt negative, she clearly has some negative side to herself, she is likely doubting her own life too. But yes, people who bully others for staying at home with parents are high in narcissism, they cant look internally either, because they refuse. They will never self improve. It's a fact that narcissists grew up with horrible, abusive parents, so they left as soon as they could or we kicked out by their parents. So they naturally hate on those who still live with their parents because THEY KNOW those people are living with good parents who care for them. They are jealous of those people and therefore must try to ruin their happiness and make themselves doubt.
@@croissantlover1 im taking my masters and then in the future i wanna buy a big house so i can live with my parents. I love them because they cared and still care for me. No one has showed me unconditional love like them especially my mother.
@@HeadCaptian Same here, I love my parents too and feel the same way as you. I wish you the best. And remember, if someone talks negatively to you, no matter what the subject is, your life choices etc, only you know what is best for yourself and your loved ones. If someone insults or criticize you/your choices, you have to look at the source, the person who says such negative things to you. It has nothing to do with you, has everything to do with the insulter. An example: "Why are you living with your parents?!" = "I grew up with bad parents and never felt loved, so I hate others who live still with their parents, I'm Jealous of them."
@@croissantlover1 - Facts. I will do you one better though...as quiet as its kept, a lot of people are jealous of this living arrangement because they know you save tons of money this way, also it says a lot about your relationahip with your supportive family. She knew to say that in his presence and wanted a reaction because she most likely is jealous. Miaery needs company!
@@ecclairmayo4153 Fully agree with you! People like her though are dangerous on some level, because it shows how she has no empathy or care for him/others. The best thing to do is not react/take in what they say and use it as them stating openly that theres something wrong with them and just leave them to their own devices without responding and focus oneself on just living happy.
I resonate with this SO hard. People don't understand how easy it is to fall through the cracks. I moved out at 18 and did pretty well for years, but things fell apart around 26 and I had to move back home. I felt like a total loser, until an old friend reached out and got me a job with the company he worked for, and once again I was back out on my own.
At 35 I'd finished an overseas job and moved back home for what was supposed to be only a month or so. That was February of 2020.
Once the covid lockdowns hit, I was stuck, quite literally. After they lifted several years later, I was a different person. Lost, depressed, and hopeless. I've made several failed attempts to move back out, but all have failed. I'm now nearing 40 and I can't see how I'll ever get back out on my own again.
It's destroyed my confidence, my social life, my dating life, my career prospects, all of which just reinforce the depression spiral. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
I’m coming up to 37 and have never moved out despite going to university. I thought I’d stay at home and afterwards get a job and move. But unfortunately my late 20s wasn’t kind to me. I tried to do work in a field which is so sporadic that I stopped because of financial instability and also I had a traumatic event at 30. Plus I worked in a minimum wage job for a long time because my confidence went down so much and the traumatic event was so visible in my head that I didn’t seek professional help.
I have dated numerous women overtime and still feel shame. Yes I am insecure and have had to work through it and fight inside my head that I’m not the so-called stereotype mummy’s boy by going to the gym and dressing very macho.
I dated one woman who accepted me for who I was and she was great but I finished the relationship because I didn’t feel there was enough between us and she lived a distance from me which wasn’t handy because of work. But we still talk.
Recently I was talking to a woman on a dating site and said that I was temporarily going to live in my elderly relatives house whilst they come to my parents because they need our help. She was quite shocked and asked me how long I lived with them so I deleted her because I felt I was being mocked and that insecurity manifested.
Honestly I’m sick of people’s judgements because of the material possessions we don’t have i.e a house. Mortgage and rents in the area I live are extortionate and I wouldn’t have any money left after everything is paid off.
We’re not made of money otherwise we wouldn’t be talking about this and people ought to be empathetic and understanding of others. I’ve been on nice solo holidays but I couldn’t do it if I was on my own and for me that time away is important. I am sorry there are people who don’t have a roof over their head or have no family but I’m lucky.
I’m not a failure except probably in the eyes of the macho alpha male/woman type who are in senior roles who can get as much pleasure with the money they earn etc.
25 years old here, still living with parents. i always compare myself to my friends who are now financially independent. i can only contribute about 160usd a month to them (i work in a 3rd world country) and it always makes me guilty that i am still trapped in this situation. i can't stick to a job, no lasting relationships and a lot of self-doubt.
Dont worry about it... I know a 35 year old woman who is still virgin. Lives with her parents, no job and obsesses about Japanese anime. Want her nr?
Hang in there and keep trying. Don't give up things will get better🌸 maybe look into getting more work or higher paid work if you can? Start from there, you got this!
there so Many Homeless Tents every where
I’m 40 n still at my parents house to bro don’t quit
Nothing to complain about, my friend. I am 47 and live at home. House is long paid off and I assist my mom with daily responsibilities and work from home as an IT professional. Additionally, I have a personality of a loner, so why would I try to get into a relationship when I like spending time alone and doing what I want and when I want. And yes, I can also get laid when I want, because countless women online or at the bars are seeking action underneath the cloak of the gibberish they write. So in closing, the keys are health and happiness!