LOSING A PARENT: my husband opens up about losing his Dad
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- čas přidán 5. 07. 2024
- Nolan agreed to share a peek into his journey through the grief in losing his Dad, as well as sharing memories about his father.
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0:00 Intro
0:38 guys and their knives!
2:05 describing who Dad was
3:49 talking about dad's passion
5:58 a special remembrance
6:54 share the story behind his passing
12:19 what do you wish you could tell him now?
13:12 how did you process grief?
15:26 how has losing a parent affected how you parent?
16:25 what are some of your memories of dad?
17:39 character traits you admired in your dad?
18:47 do you have any advice for someone that lost a parent?
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I love the soft spokenness of Nolan. You just know he is a Godly faithful man by the way he talks and what he talks about. Oh my, that baby picture of him looks just like Lexi!!! Nolan, I am sorry for your loss. Your dad sounded like a very special man and you are carrying on his legacy.
I so appreciate your husband sharing about the loss of his dad and his grieving process.
You are a pleasure to watch together. Nolan is a natural in front of the camera.
My husband's father passed when I was pregnant with our 3rd and we know first hand that odd feeling when some of our children will have memories forever and others won't have any at all...we are so thankful for the home videos he left us reading from story books so the kids could always see/hear him. Now my mom is diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer and waiting on biopsies of her tonsils/thyroid 😔 we are still praying for healing but also so thankful that for all the sorrow here, there is MORE rejoicing on the other side of the veil and we will someday take part in it ♥
Dear Nolan, thank you for sharing this with us! I'm really touched from your words and your love to your father! And by the way, the knife looks great😉! God bless you and your family🙏! Greetings from Germany 🙋🏼
The greatest pain I have ever known is the day my mother died. It's been a while now, but I can still tear up from missing her.
I can only imagine 😪 so sorry for your loss
@@theMennoniteMom Thank you so much
I feel the same it’s been 5 years but seems like yesterday still cry when I think about her
My heart goes out to you, so young to lose his dad, of course losing at any age is hard. I lost my mom in August 2020 she was 83 but it was still hard as she had Alzheimer’s for 10 yrs. Miss her so much. 💜
Hey! I know you from Dee’s channel. How great to see you on this channel….Janine is amazing isn’t she?
@@marciejones3538 Hi Marcie! Yep love Janine! And Dee!
My Dad passed away in 1990 and even now sometimes I tear up thinking about the circumstances of it, the what-ifs, the what-could-have-beens. I'm sorry for your loss, Nolan. Keep talking about it, keep your memories alive.
My lovely Daddy passed in 2004
My wonderful Mummy passed in 2019.
I am 67, but I miss my parents so badly, and even though I have come to a place of peace with the situation , I have days still when I struggle.
I loved hearing Nolan talking about his Dad, and it is clear how much respect and love he has for him.
Watching Nolan as a Dad to Xanda and Lexi, it is obvious he had a great role model.
Thank you for sharing, Nolan .
I love telling people about my Dad too (and Mum of course) but as Daddy's little girl I can still hear his voice telling me to keep up on a walk or singing together while we were doing dishes together on a Sunday after lunch.
God Bless you all.
And thanks again for sharing
Love from Janice 🇬🇧 xxx
Thank you both so much for doing this ! Hearing about your dear father in law and how Nolan dealt with the loss really helped me , as sad as the grief and loss for you both what a loving impact he made in his family is a light . Seeing your loving and wholesome marriage is so good for my soul . ❤️🙏
My husband lost both of his parents. His mom passed away of a massive heart attack in 2012. His dad passed away a couple of years ago of Alzheimer's disease. It's been awhile now, but I know he still thinks about his parents a lot.
His parents were both born in 1936. They were both born on the farm in the Midwest. His mom became a high school teacher and his dad became a TWA airline pilot after retiring from the Air Force.They ended up in California where my husband was born. California was their beloved state. They raised my husband as an only child and went to a Methodist church every Sunday. They were avid travelers. My husband has been all over Europe because of this. He has been to far more places in his lifetime than I have ever seen.
Listening to Nolan talk about his dad's love for trucks reminds me of my father in law's love for airplanes and helicopters.
The last time I saw my father in law, he was wearing a diaper and sitting in a secured nursing facility in Missouri. He still had some of his memories at that point. It's hard to watch people decline like that. He was a person who valued his independence and having to move half way across the country and give up his home and independence was very hard for him. At least, though, he is buried next to his wife in California.
Thank you for sharing. I just lost my daddy at 98 years old and me being 56, its still not easy. I thought he would always be here. Im happy that I know he is with Our heavenly Father
I’m so happy you’re back on utube, I missed your time off. I enjoy so much watching you and your family. No one likes to see someone struggle and I was so pleased when you were able to make peace with being on utube and how you wanted so much to be able to Bless others with your channel and keep your family as top priority, and I really think that you’ve done that. Thank You and your family for what you do and your heart.🙏♥️
That was wonderful! So nice to hear your husband talk, and he is so kind.
Thank you for sharing your story, Nolan. So glad you were with your dad at the last. We always wish we could have had more time. Thank you for the husband you are and the dad you are to your two children.
Such a beautiful story, thank you for sharing Nolan! I’m a Canadian gal here from Manitoba who has been following your channel for quite some time. I lost my dad in June of 2021, he had just turned 73 the month before. We were right in the middle of Covid, and because my mom had been exposed to someone with Covid, she was not able to be there in the hospital when he passed away. One of my sisters and I were able to be there with him when he passed. The grieving process is different for each and every one of us and we all grieve in our own way. I will always have memories of my dad as been a kind, loving and compassionate man who I had a lot of respect for.
I'm also a Canadian "Mennonite" gal in Manitoba. I've been following your CZcams channel for a few years and really appreciate you both!
Thank You so much for sharing your life with us! ❤
I loved hearing Nolan talk fondly of his Dad. I lost my Dad 29 years ago and my Mum 9 years ago and I can tell you the grief never leaves however you learn to manage the peaks and valleys.
Thank you for telling us about your Dad, Nolan.
We lost my father-in-law unexpectedly in May on his 75th birthday. It has been so very hard for my husband. My FIL was the kindest, big hearted, giving, loving and hard working man, ever. He will always be missed! ♡
Great job Nolan. I prayed for your family during all that time. Glad you shared your story. My husband loves that knife store as well. We have to shop everytime we go there. Ty for sharing. Xander looks just like Nolan. Love your sweet family.
We so appreciated your prayers. Thank you. That's interesting you go to that store as well
I love listening to your husband talk. He has a calm spirit and is very soothing. I lost my mom 10 years ago. She lived in Israel and my sister and I with our kids went to see her and two months later she was gone. We knew it was coming but yet I wasn’t ready. It’s still hard but the pain isn’t raw anymore. Knowing she’s with God now makes it easier.
I'm sorry for your loss 😪 it's a difficult road to walk.
Nolan is so profound & a wonderful speaker. Thank you for covering this topic. Grief is different for everyone but always helpful to know we arent alone & how others view the process.
Bless you Nolan! Thank you for sharing with us. It can’t have been easy. 🙏You have an incredible husband and father for your children ❤ So sorry that you all had to experience this loss. Much love Xx
What a beautiful tribute to your dad, Nolan.
Nolan, thank you for sharing your heart. You honor him being the man you are!
Thank you Nolan for sharing this with us. You are a wonderful speaker . Grief is different for all of us, being able to deal with it is so much better when you know and love Jesus.
I also wanted to mention how the love of your Dad is so awesome! My Dad is from Italy but has the same values as well as my husband. God Bless your beautiful family!
Thank you for sharing Nolan! Welcome to East Tennessee & my neck of the woods! ❤️
Nolan thanks for sharing. I had to say goodbye to my parents and it's amazing how much you remember everything they did for me
Thank you, Nolan for sharing your story. About your dad.
It touched my heart.
God bless you and your family.❤❤❤❤
Wonderful memories of his father. Thank you so much for sharing. I think it truly helps with grieving. Enjoy your time and have a great weekend.
Thank you for sharing your love for your Dad, Nolan. ❤
Nolan, THankYou for sharing!!! You are a well spoken man and I venture to say you learned about being a great man, husband and daddy from your honored father. Beautiful thing to inherit from a man you cared so much about🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing Nolan. It is a sad fact that we don’t see how much our parents put into our lives until we can look back .
I am a Mennonite Bretheren ("old school" MB, I suppose!). I lost my dad in 1993 as a teenager. I understood all of this talk, and appreciate you sharing from "our" typical way of managing emotionally around grief. Thank you.
Thanks Nolan for sharing. I’m the age his dad was 63 so of course I think he was young. Each day is a privilege.
I want to thank Nolan for sharing his story about your dad! Very moving!
Thanks Nolan for sharing these memories with us. Grief often is mirrored by the relationship you had with your father. Your children will have powerful memories of you. May the Lord bless you and fill your quiver full!
Thank you both for sharing. We lost my brother a few weeks ago. He would’ve been 63 in September. And you’re so right… grief looks different for everyone. God bless your precious family ♥️
Nice to see both of you together in this video. My sympathies. Thank you for sharing. May the Lord keep you and you family.
Dear Mennonite mom,I stayed with u right thru ur journey,all d stops and d snow storm and d heartbreak at d end of ur journey ,I especially enjoyed hearing d choir singing Angel Band at d end,that hymn was played at my mom’s funeral so it hit me in d heart,B comforted both of U and God bless u all from Trinidad!🙏
You are so kind. Thank you God bless!
I had just started following you a few months before this happened. Jeannine, you are my hero for driving alone, sick clear across the country towing a camper!!!! Anyway, Nolan, thank you for sharing your story about your dad, you were so blessed with a good man as your earthly father. I lost my mom last october and it hurts as much now as it did the day of her death....grief is definitely different for everyone. I never experienced someone dying really close to me....like my mom. So it is really hurts...thank goodness I have a few voicemails with her telling she loved me...
I'm so sorry for your loss, the pain is indescribable. Sending hugs as you grieve the loss of your mom 🫂
Thank you Nolan for sharing.
Thank you Nolan for sharing your story. I lost my dad when I was 11. It was hard then, and I didn’t understand at the time how to help my mom through her grief. Love and blessings to your beautiful family.
Great interview. Thank you for sharing. I love that area - used to live there!
My husband passed away in November 2020 after 53 years of marriage. (Today is our anniversary 9/01/1967). It’s true about being on autopilot the first weeks, than reality hits when you want to tell him something and remember he’s not there, or when it hit me that I was now the dreaded word “widow.” But I was blessed with a Christian husband who was also a pastor and a great father and grandfather who taught all of us many things. I think that is the most important legacy to leave for children and grandchildren.
This was very nice. Easy to tell what a nice man your husband is. My father has passed as well. We are fortunate to know that we will see them again!!
Thank you so much for sharing your heart with us. As you said, we all handle grief in a different way. There is no time limit on grief. There will always be something that will come into out thoughts that will trigger sadness, tears. May God bless you and your family.
Nice truck restoration and loved all these beloved memories. My father went through chemo then hit with CoVID and passed while I was visiting him. I was vaccinated so I was willing to be with him. I know exactly how it torments your mind by wanting to say things before they pass. My dad had hearing aids but broke day before he passed away so he couldn't hear anything. I'm still grieving, it hits hard all of a sudden and I keep going to point I wish I'd been stronger and said this or that and yelled it in his ear. I have to keep reminding myself they knew by my actions they knew I loved them. When he had the hearing aid in his ear and heard me to I told him if I tapped 3 times on his hand that was me saying "I love you." He smiled. So when he died, I kept doing that every few minutes. Don't beat yourself up. They know. Thanks so much for sharing... I'm bawling like a baby. Someday maybe I can reflect and not cry or feel abandoned or sad on holidays because I have to resort to memories and feeling sorry for myself because I can't make a phone call to wish say happy Thanksgiving. I have to switch to thinking about how others are suffering from losing that same parent. It'll take me years I already know. Death of loved ones certainly changed me. I appreciate the ones that live even more now because I fear they'll pass.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m very sorry for your loss. My dad died at age 57 and it’s really tough when they are relatively young. Glad you were able to speak with him toward the end.
I'm sorry to hear that. It is so hard when they are young
I lost my dad back in September 1976. He was an amazing dad,that loved his 6 kids dearly. I was his oldest and blessed him with 2 amazing grandsons that he bonded with,before he passed. My son's loved him and my oldest was 4 and my youngest was 3. It broke their hearts so much. I miss him,but,have lots and lots of amazing memories. That's what I carry in my heart deep inside and when I just need some time with God,his memories comes out. Thanks again Nolan for sharing.
Thank you for sharing!! Both my parents are gone including a sister, but it sure is comforting to know we will see them again!! God Bless!!
Such a comfort! I'm sorry for your loss
Beautiful tribute
Nolan, thanks for doing this. It was nice to hear you talk about your dad. Those memories keeps us going. I lost my parents 16 months apart. It was hard for me to lose them both. We are 7 boys 1 girl and huge extended families. We got each other through the real tough parts, then we focused on the future. I know they watch over us.
You are a fine young father, just like your dad.❤
That's difficult losing your parents so close together. I'm sorry.
Nolan, Thank you for sharing. I lost my dad over 50 years ago and I w as only 15. You are so correct about the hurt never leaves but you do learn to live with the loss. Memories are so important so make them good. Great job discussing this subject.
I can't imagine how difficult that had to have been for you 😪
Thank You for sharing your story. My sympathies to you. I grew up a few mile from Martin’s Tile yard. I drove by it many times. I still live in the area. I never thought I would have any connection to your family when I started following The Mennonite Mom. God Bless you as you raise your own family I am sure your father would be proud of you!
How interesting is that?! I'll have to tell Nolan 😀 had you known before that he was connected to that?
Thanks for sharing your story about your dad. I lost my 68 y/o healthy dad 8.2020 from covid. My dad loved driving truck and I'm thankful for the memories I have of going with dad on the truck.
I'm sorry for your loss 😪 covid struck so randomly I feel. People that seemed so healthy really getting hit and others not as healthy doing fine. Nolans dad seemed quite healthy as well.
Sometimes losing a parent affects you in different ways. My Mom died at age 59 of lupus and massive infection. She was sick most of my life, so I grieved for what we never had. My Dad just celebrated his 91st. birthday. He’s in a veteran’s nursing home. He has dementia as a result of a stroke. I keep praying that the Lord will take him before he gets to where he doesn’t recognize his family.
My mom was 54 when she passed and my 2 boys have no,memory of her as they were 3 and 10 months. My husband’s mom passed at 50 when he was 17 so I never knew her. We know where they are and that they would be very proud of how we raised our children. We certainly miss all the memories that they would have made with both their grandmothers . God bless you and your family.
Just a girl from Ontario.
Thank you for sharing your story.
This was beautiful! My Daddy passed away two months ago and I feel like I am still in the autopilot phase of grief. He had just turned 72 and it was a shock to us all. I am thankful for my circle of friends that have rallied around me and they just let me cry when I want to cry and laugh when I want to laugh. The first two weeks after his death my brother and I (along with our children) would sit in the living room with Mama and we would just share all the memories. Even last night Mama and I were talking and new memories came flooding into the conversation. I want that shirt y'all saw! "Normal isn't coming back but Jesus is!"
Hi Janine / we connected a bit through this time / my husband was in the hospital w Covid at the same time... now I'm walking this grief journey of losing my mom. I think miss her more all the time. We lost her in December/ my life will never be the same ❤ thanks for sharing this little glimpse inside ur own journeys
Miss your dad so much Nolan. Think about him all the time and still can't believe he's gone. Every time I see a hay truck.... Glad you all are doing well. Love from the Scotts.
Thank you Josh! It means a lot to hear from others how much they miss him. Nolan
My heart goes out to you...I lost my dad to cancer in July of 2020 at the age of 66...he battled cancer and parkinson's for 20yrs and I don't have many memories of him being healthy. I miss him everyday but could never wish him back!
I'm so sorry for your loss
This was so nice of Nolan to share his dad with us. I’m sure he had a lot more wonderful memories of him. Nolan’s dad sound like a wonderful man with many good values. Especially raising his children n a Christian life. Unfortunately I feel his dad died far to young. I like to believe he would of conquered the cancer but it was covid that took him away far to soon.
He answered many good questions. I lost both of my parents over 20ty yrs ago n to this day I wish I could call my mama up on the phone. Wish I paid more attention when she was cooking something that liked. I’m always forgetting something in the recipe. But I’m thankful I had those few moments with them when they passed.
Thank you again Nolan for sharing.
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We never stop missing them 😪
Thank you for this video! My husband lost his dad 6 years ago, right before we had our last baby. We watched this video together and he enjoyed seeing another (young) mans perspective.
I'm sorry for your loss. It's a difficult path to walk 😪
Nolan thanks for sharing your memories of your dad. You had a great bond with your dad. He sound like an amazing dad and parent and family man who loved the Lord and serve God fully. He had a great journey on his daily walk. Now you are a dan. Your an amazing dad. Y'all have been blessed with 2 wonderful and amazing children. You know I truly enjoy watching and listening to y'all and your videos. Love is an amazing part of our lives. Y'all are like y'all's parents, teachers,mom and dad and serve God obediently. Thank you for y'all's time y'all share with us. ❤❤❤
Very touching thank you for sharing
Very moving episode. Nolan is definitely the "Proverbs 31 family man" if such a scripture existed. Just wanted to let you know that interviewing is definitely one of your gifts. These chats you have been sharing lately are a real blessing to listen to. 🙏☕🌎
Thank you for that... I'm glad you enjoy them. Yes, Nolan is such a great dad. So blessed to have him
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Very nice.
Thanks friends.
Looking forward to watching.
❤ xo
Lost my Dad in 2010, my Momma 2021. Grieving is so hard, waves of emotions.
Take care.
Sending hugs 🫂
Thank you for sharing with us .
I'm 65 and I lost my parents in 2015, 2020 an I am still grieving and cry at times. I miss them so much it hurts . You where really brave to open up thank you for sharing
I'm sorry for your loss. It's never easy 😪
Thanks for sharing Nolan,
Nolan, thank you for sharing your thoughts & feelings. Losing my parents was one of the most traumatic times in my life. I'm thankful for the time I had with them & have great comfort they were both Christians, and I will be with them again!
So interesting listening to you, my ears perked up when I heard u were from Kitchener. We visit St. Jacobs market twice a year. Just awesome to hear your dad’s memory.
Nolan is such a great father & husband. He’s gotten so much more comfortable in front of the camera! We enjoy seeing you, but we also enjoy seeing your family!
Thank you for sharing your story Nolan!😊
Yes he truly has 😀 and we don't know what we'd do without him
@@theMennoniteMom thank you Jesus for God fearing men, who can be leaders of the home! I always tell my husband the same thing, idk what I’d do without him ❤️
@@theMennoniteMomalso! I wanted to say that you two compliment each other ❤ beautiful couple!
Thank you, This is an awesome video! God bless 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing your strory. He sounds like an amazing man. 🤍
I lost my dad in 2021. He was a former Marine. Miss him 🤍
So sorry for your loss 😪
I know the feeling about losing a parent. I lost my daddy July 3 2011 & then my mom Oct 19 2016. When my daddy got sick I took care of him & then my mom. I miss them both everyday. My mom was my shopping buddy & crafting. My daddy taught me to do things by doing it with me.
What a lovely conversation.
I love your family! Blessings to you all ❤️
Bless you both ❤
I sure did enjoy this video. My mom passed last Oct.of colon cancer. I miss her everyday. Thanks Nolan. God Bless! Enjoy that knife!
I'm so sorry 😞 sending 🫂
Thank you for sharing I lost my Dad almost 10 years ago and still not over it.
I'm so sorry 😞
Your father is shown by his son and family ❤ a good man .
My mom was the same and I was just telling my daughter about her. She used a paper map for our trips and it wasn’t a road trip with mom unless we got lost at least once 😀I treasure these memories!
OMG We love the Smoky Mountain's. My husband and I love Smoky Mountain Knife Works. We have been to the store twice. I enjoyed the kitchen items section. Great vlog!
Oh Janine, I so much enjoy the inclusion of your husband & letting him talk without interrupting him. He is such an intriguing man & you’re very blessed to have him. 😊
Thank you. Yes I am very blessed. I couldn't live without him 🥰 I hope to have him on more... but our endings and weekends are often so full it becomes a challenge 🤪
Our parents are invincible to us. They are our heroes. We never think a sickness is going to take them. They can do anything or defeat anything💕 so we don't expect it when it happens. So sorry for your loss. What a dash to leave behind.
So very well put into words. You are right!
I lost my parents at a young age, it was very hard, thanks Nolan for sharing
I cannot imagine what you've been thru. I'm so sorry 😞 😢
WELCOME TO TENNESSEE!!! WHOO HOO! Nolan, your dad left too soon...heartbreaking...but what precious memories! What a beautiful legacy of a good Christian life and strong worth ethic.
Those trucks must be worth a fortune.
Thank you for sharing
I'm sorry your family has had to experience this. It's strange to me that this video came out today bcuz it's my father in laws birthday today & he passed away in 2018. I was never close to him, but watching my husband struggle with the loss of his father was something I was grateful I was a part of but one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Like you said in your other video, you don't mean to complain, but it's not easy watching your strong, brave, loving husband grieve & hurt knowing there's not a single thing you can do other than be there. 💛 I know I always say this, but I feel like this video was meant to come out on Dells (my father in law) birthday so I could take the time with my husband & kids to remember the good memories. God bless you 🙏 & thank you for sharing your life with us.
That is special 🥲 I know what you mean, I wasn't close to my FIL either, but it's so hard to see your spouse have to walk that journey 😪
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This was heart warming ❤
By the way yellow looks so great on you!
Thank you!
We love the Smokey Mountains! It’s our favorite vacation spot. The Knife Works Store is my husband’s favorite store as well!
That's interesting! 🙂
Your husband is a great guy - but you already know that. He is, and will be, a great father. You are blessed (and highly favored).
Yes he truly is 😀 thank you
I personally don't know how, I will feel when that happens. I just lost a very dear aunt, who was a role model to me. I am personally not close to my parents; that hurts. I have tried to resolve that while they are alive, but always get hurt by them again. I just try and forgive them and stay away.
Nolan, thank you for sharing with us some of the memories of your dad. I lost my husband in feb.of 2022 to stage 4 cancer. He was 58. Then i lost my mom. Jan. Of this year. Grief is hard. I miss them both so much. So thankful both were christians.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 😪 you've been walking a hard path
@@theMennoniteMom God has blessed me and gave me strength.
Thank you, Nolan, for sharing your story. It's not easy losing a parent, I lost my mom last year to cancer. Through several decades, my mom first cad colon cancer then servived it, and then she also got the Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma cancer survived that and then years later at age 83 her colon cancer came back and passed away at 84, ohh how I miss her so much everyday 😢
Really appreciate you telling your story.
Nolan looks very much like my Ginter cousins., just wondering if Nolan and you speaks low German?
I'm sorry for your loss 😪 it's never easy to say goodbye. Thank you for sharing. No we don't speak German but we are of German decent
Such wise and insightful responses to such thoughtful, relevant and meaningful questions.
" 'Normal' is not coming back, but Jesus is." Truer words . . .
God bless you Nolan. Losing a parent is hard at any age. You are so blessed to have a great dad. I did too. I truly believe love forms us into a more beautiful person. It's why God the father son and holy spirit are so real to me. They are love
Great video thanks for sharing yeah my dad passed in 2016. 92. And mom passed 2018 74. Still seems not real. I took care of both. Remember and thankful for the last memories that I went out of my way to have with them.
I'm sorry for your loss. 😪 it's never easy and bless you for caring for them in their older years.
I sit with iced mama Java. Yesss! Always with memories. Great coffee!!!!