the secret to being Attractive AF “Choose Yourself Instead”
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00:00 Intro
01:35 Why do people choose people that don't choose them?
01:56 How do you choose yourself?
03:24 What it means to choose yourself
04:40 How to attract your desired relationship
06:19 Become aware of your beliefs
07:51 Reflect back on your childhood
09:05 The power of vulnerability
11:25 The more vulnerable the more attractive
13:23 Join the challenge!
So you clicked onto this video for a reason, and I'm just gonna come out here and say it, this isn't the easiest thing to share with you. And there's a lot of transformation that can come from realizing this though.
If you are attract emotionally unavailable people into your life, it's because at a certain level you are emotionally unavailable.
Now, I know this is hard to hear, and I had to swallow this pill, and it was not easy pill to swallow, okay?
Here I was experiencing relationships where the people I would attract would be emotionally unavailable, and then I had this story, oh, they're just not emotionally present, they're avoiding doing the work, they're not choosing me.
And deep down what I eventually realized is that I would only attract that because it's a mirror of my own energy. I was also emotionally unavailable and that's why I was attracting someone that was emotionally unavailable, because it was a mirrored direct reflection.
So you might ask yourself now, okay Aaron, well, you're saying I have this thing where I'm actually emotionally unavailable, I thought it was them, but how do I actually become more emotionally available so that I attract emotionally available love, or I go deeper in my relationship or whatever it is?
How do I actually do that? Now, for me, what I had to learn to do is this one phrase changed everything. And I posted this on Instagram recently and I had so many people ask me about this and this is why I'm making the video.
And basically what it was is I said, why do people choose people that don't choose them? And a lot of times people will choose people that are emotionally unavailable that can't choose them, why do you do that?
Well, the reason we choose people that don't choose us is because we're not choosing ourselves. And then people say, Aaron, how do you choose yourself?
I got so many dms of questions about this, how do you choose yourself? How do I choose yourself? Well, I'll share with you what I did, and even just recently, within the last couple months, I've began choosing myself in a way unlike anything I've ever done before.
Now I'm moving into a phase of my life where I feel very empowered.
I'm moving from just making CZcams videos into running live events, I'm stepping into the unknown, I feel just so much like power beginning to like unleash within me.
And as this has been happening, I've been questioning why I believed what I believed. I've been questioning why I believed people are just emotionally unavailable, believing I deserve emotional unavailability, why I am also like afraid or had that afraid energy around emotional availability to where I would like keep it at bay.
And what I've realized is there was just so much of my life that I lived in survival mode where it's like my nervous system wouldn't understand what that emotional availability is even if it was there.
And what I've had to do recently is look at this and realize that a lot of times what I would do is distract myself from doing my own work by projecting it onto other people and saying, this person's not emotionally available.
This person's not present. And then I would be like be able to put the work to the side.
But what I've realized is that the key to me being in my own magnetic energy, the key to me feeling more emotionally available and attracting emotionally available people was when I began choosing myself, choosing myself meaning also appreciating myself.
This meant like realizing that what I really enjoy, one of the parts of my life I really enjoy is I like being alone.
Now, this doesn't mean that I won't be in a relationship, or I don't want a relationship or anything, this means I started appreciating being in my own energy, literally like at nighttime, I love learning things, I love watching certain things, I love learning and watching CZcams videos, I love reading, I love meditating.
Like my subconscious I believe is very active. I love dreaming. And I've realized I do love being in my own energy, and before that I never realized how much I appreciated myself.
I never realized how much I appreciated being alone, not lonely, alone, they're different. Lonely is like, ooh, you don't feel that one with everything and you think there's a problem, when you're alone you can be completely content in your own energy. - Zábava
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You got my phone tapped??? You speaking the contents of my heart.thank you for your commentary on vulnerability and choosing ones self....
Being vulnerable is a super power, I recognize society confuse vulnerability with victimization.... total opposites.
Right on aaron...
I'm having trouble w understanding a lot of this online stuff,I have only a phone but couldn't get on the free podcast and workshop. I really love and resonate w these videos but having trouble making connections. What should I do ?
Needed this
sometime we miss share things with somebody when is nice. mamifers survive in groups. Oxitocyn in brain sometimes is necesary and healthy.
After my divorce, I was desperate to find love. But now I’m really just wanting to fully love myself and I do enjoy being alone as well. I no longer feel alone
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
God bless you ❤️
yes i totally agree, i think it’s because we are so use to receiving love from someone else that we go out looking for it right after the break up but we fail to see at the moment that we can give ourselves that love!
Same here!!
Yes the secret to find love is to love yourself fully and deeply.. Self love attracts true love into our life
YUP. I love being alone and watching documentaries/reading/studying. It’s so peaceful.
Soo true!! Mee to and have since young like 8-9 years old, never got into family guy and that stuff
yes!! my favorite time is alone time 🥰
Me Too ❤
Same. Now, how cool would it be to have a partner who also enjoyed these things. We could just be alone together. 😂
@@prinzkosmo9437 lol
U attract who u are.
Choose urself .
Enjoy being alone .
Become aware of ur traumas and realise that it's not ur fault that it turned out the way it turned out.
Become aware of the energy u r embodying.
It's ok to rebel ppl and make room for new one.
It takes courage to be vulnerable and authentic.
Allow urself to step into new you .
You
Your
You are
You’re
Leaving these here for you
"It takes courage to be vulnerable and authentic" Strange, this lesson seems to be popping up into my life a lot as of late. I keep hearing it over and over, in one form or another.
Thank you this is an encouraging message
I felt like choosing myself was a form of narcissism. I've always been a people pleaser and choosing them over myself. It's been extremely difficult to set boundaries and not steamroll other people's boundaries because so. I still struggle with this. It's difficult when you spend 32 years choosing everyone except yourself.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
I feel this. I´m in the exact same struggle right now. But I know this is the way! We can make it, there is no turning back :)
This! So true
Yes,when your boundaries were invaded as a child,you become invasive.
Yes when I give a fuck about manipulating to get what I want I feel like fucking shit cause I’m not being me it’s a complete disrespect to my own natural sense of self confidence, also got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this that you might like too 😈🔥💪🏋️♂️☯️
I enjoy being alone too much because I value my energy and who I give it to. Codependency and neediness is always unattractive. My ex husband was the definition of emotionally unavailable because that’s what my parents gave us. This is so important because until you can heal your self worth and abandonment issues then you’ll cling to people who treat you with disrespect.
I'm choosing myself! The more I grow as a person the more I really enjoy my alone time. It's also like I'm almost addicted to learning new things.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
I think "society" puts alot of value on being in a relationship .I'm 55 I've only just started to enjoy being single .I used to look everywhere else for my needs ,now I look to me 🤗
Finally Found emotional available man. So according to this, I must have grown as a person. He and i talk about our feelings and insecurities etc.
It's new, fresh, for me. First time a man and not a boy, i cry because I'm so happy.. i feel secure and Safe with him, because we can talk about every experience we have together...
We are putting in the work together, never had this before..
Thank you for this👌
After experiencing a relationship with a narcissist most of this is very relatable, when you feel so unworthy that anyone showing you love is almost miraculous to you, then some people might take advantage of that, just because they can. You need to feel worthy of the best things in life, and you don't need anyone else to validate that.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
That's very true.
🎉🎉🎉 that’s the ultimate thing to bring it all to ahead! I’ve been in recovery for 17 years, and for the first few years, things were getting better and better in my life. Then I contracted Lyme disease, lost my health and ability to work and location all at the same time! bouncing around for four years trying to get better, met my borderline/narcissist ex in 2015. Right in the middle of the most excruciating illness imaginable. Every single thing that I’ve been through shit twisted around, used as knives and ammunition to try to destroy my life. Ran into a few more of these in the past eight years as well. And I’m like “WTF God? I’ve been doing everything right and you just keep punishing me, destroying every inch of my life…“ being in recovery, I was look at my part in things first, and really couldn’t figure it out. For years and years things just got progressively worse while I tried to keep everything together with bubble, gun and duct tape for the sake of my daughter. Ultimately, continued, seeking and trying to find out what my part is in all this. And I think it all comes down to self-love. Although I was trying to live my life, I was still operating under a lot of the spoken and unspoken rules of my family and society, many of which I’ve known are not true for me for years or decades. But I had no other map to go by in recovery, or so, I thought! But it has been a wild journey of being taken advantage of, abused, and betrayed in every imaginable way. Try to just have the tiniest bit of a healthy boundary with these creatures, and they act like somebody’s dropping nukes on them.
So clearly explained. Amen ❤ Thank u.
Yes when I give a fuck about manipulating to get what I want I feel like fucking shit cause I’m not being me it’s a complete disrespect to my own natural sense of self confidence, also got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this that you might like too 😈🔥💪🏋️♂️☯️
If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward
Martin Luther King said this and I always found it profound.
I ❤️ being by myself so much I can’t even imagine being in a relationship ever again 😅 The freedom, the time, the space….I love it all 🤩😄
Your videos have helped me so much. I spent years being a people pleaser and as an empath I did nothing but attract narcissists. Choosing myself and setting boundaries has been life changing. There’s no going back now ❤
*We accept the love we think we deserve*
So true Aaron . I was emotionally unavailable. So kept on attracting same type of person over and over.
Different face , same scenario.
Yes , thank you for teaching me to chose myself. I wasn't.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
The minute I started standing and owning my vulnerability is the minute I found my life long power with out the need for guilt or shame. My vulnerability is my power now and it feels good to release that and tell that story now
We are attracted to the very qualities in others that we have disowned in ourselves
I started applying these ideas a couple of years ago and fell so in love with myself. My alone time is everything to me. It started to lean into avoidant/reclusive territory in the last few months. Now I am looking to find that balance of choosing myself and letting others in when I KNOW for sure they are genuine and good. It’s a process
After my divorce last year I stopped continuing my CZcams channel on spirituality and self help. I was doing great. I didn’t feel worthy of success anymore because of a failed marriage. Thank you for this. I’m going to get back at filming and finish writing my book to be published! Much love ❤️
LET’S GO!!
Lessons are blessings
Take care and shine bright
Do it little by little go for it
Yes there was a moment where I was fully in that and then put sourced some power in a codependent way that reminded me of my former self, and it was a such an extreme violation of my integrity that I totally recked myself, to think that I grew up like that, but yes it comes from within first. Also I’ve got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this sort of thing that you might like too 🔥💪🏋️♂️🏋️♂️👍🎉☯️💥🕺🏻
Well done ❤
is magical when you connect and love yourself soddenly everyone love me new people wants my presence I choose me , love yourself first , is a journey a process each day .
I'm going for this . Thank you
Bro the moment you said "it's probably because you're emotionally unavailable". It hit me right in the face. I am too reluctant to be vulnerable emotionally and take a chance of connecting on that level because I always believed being emotional is foolish for a man and it is so in many areas of life, but there are some where we must let go. I haven't been doing that but has been expecting others to be emotionally available to me. huh.....
I love myself so much I don't spend any time with the people from my past. I feel so sorry for my younger self for not choosing her sooner. But I keep learning and improving and I have much better friends and also a beautiful kind lover now ❤
i was kinda attracted to someone few months ago..and i felt butterflies when that person was near me or touches me..but one day that person kinda disrespected me..and that person's brother also disrespected me..i nearly cried that day...from that day,i never went to theirs...i respect myself enough to just let go ppl who isn't worth to be in my life. I'M ENOUGH AND CAN LIVE MY ENTIRE LIFE HAPPILY WITH MY OWN SELF. MY DREAMS AND ME ARE VERY IMPORTANT THAN ANYONE AND I DON'T MIND IF SOMEONE CALLS ME NARCISSIST OR ANYTHING.I LOVE ME & I TAKE CARE OF MYSELF EVERYDAY AND I FORGIVE MYSELF EVERYDAY:)
What you heal in yourself you heal in the collective. Thank you, Aaron! 💛💫✨️
I love myself. I love being alone. I love my energy. I appreciate myself but maybe not enough. I love learning.
I totally enjoy being alone. Most people are not honest with themselves on a multidimensional level. They don't choose themselves and ignore the parts of themselves that need healing and support. I understand that the subconscious is not somewhere most are willing to go. Because of social shaming and the misconceptions others create can be suggestive and inceptive. So the parts of our pyshe that need to be liberated from pain are ignored with a great cost to our vitality and in return we age and die not knowing a thing.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
Hey everyone, just wanted to remind you all that you are amazing and capable of achieving anything you set your mind to! 💪🌟👊 Keep up the great work!
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
Yes. A few days ago going through a deeper phase while spiraling upward in my ascension as I do with my team in nonphysical, I was told 'The only thing wrong with you is you believe there is something wrong with you." So many of us in pain who have withdrawn and are shielding our hearts without realizing it, thinking this is our natural state and that we are being loving when we are really so much more. Love you, Aaron. This is so brilliant. You are an amazing person. This planet is lucky to have you at this time in human ascension. You came here taking on the issues of alignment and you move through them these challenges showering lightcodes as you go.
This is me. I love being alone and dreaming and watching CZcams and learning learning learning. I got so lost in a “twin flame journey “ constantly chasing and I’m like no- I’m the vibes - I am awesome to be around. I validate myself . I show myself consistent affection and attention.
I just attracted someone emotionally unavailable, but I am SO available - my heart is practically on my sleeve! In fact the whole relationship, I felt like I made myself too available and that made him lose interest
Exactly. Your emotionallly unavailable to YOURSELF. you rather bend over backwards for him so therefore abandoned yourself. There for your not emotionally available to yourself. This man saw you put him above you. Therefore he treated you like you treat yourself. You set the standard, you teach others how to teach you. When he showed you a lukewarm kinda love. You accepted it. You put up with it = You played yourself. Men will be thriving and adoring you and emotionally available to you when you treat yourself exceptional. Of your putting up with crapen snigger at you and they lose attraction to you...ask yourself what attitude and vibration you had when he started to get Intrested in you?? I bet you were beamin with self confidance yeah!? But then you got insecure and unsure of yourself when he showed you hot and cold behavior yeah ? This happend to me last year. I dropped the ball. The minute I realised I was putting him above me and he was inconsistent is the minute I should of cut him off full throttle... But no..I was crazy about him so I left him breadcrumb me along. Eventually after a year of dating he left me. Because I was willing to be a doormat for him and it was a turn off to him. Not the powerful and confidant woman he met who held all the cards. I played myself. I should of respected myself instead of giving 13 chances.... At that point he was just testing me to see how much I'd sacrifice myself for him. I was a placeholder.. I went fron a powerful queen to a placeholder 🥴 I was not emotionally available to myself and then that was a real turn off to him. So that is where my work is.... But I wanna just add normal, kind and mature people don't go around breadcrumbing and testing other humans... So I think it's safe to say I dodged a bullet ❤❤❤❤ wising you such healing. I'm going though this breakup since Christmas and it was complete torture for the first 3 months ...I am getting my self esteem back day by day❤
@@sunnysunflower5513 you described that so well 🙏🏻🙏🏻. Wish you all the best.
@@sunnysunflower5513 Reading that was like looking in a mirror as in I was in your shoes
This answer is so powerful & helpful!! I have just started to see how I always seem to put the guy on some type of pedestal. And the fear of it falling apart & him losing interest, ends up manifesting. Sucks! But thanks for these words. I have saved them to my phone as a reminder to myself. 💕
@sunnysunflower5513 omg!!! You described me to a T!!! This comment is spot on!!! Thank you for reminding me to choose myself no matter what ❤
I'm trying to leave a narcissist after 8 years. I feel like an empty shell. Thank you for helping so many of us to navigate past trauma. I always feel so elevated after listening to you. ❤❤ 🌌
Familial also comes from Latin ‘famulus’ meaning slave, kind of like being a slave to habits lol. I feel one key to healing from narcissistic relationships is realizing putting yourself first doesn’t make you a narcissist
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
Are you ok? You don't look well. Hope you're happy
Lol yeah she is ok.
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@@happycamper2210 what are you talking about? Are you talking about how narcissists project their own stuff onto other people and/or try to gaslight?
Omg!!! I love being in my own energy too!I love being alone. I love the sound of silence. I love making art, reading , listening to music , etc. Yet , I would love to one day find a partner that is also self reliant so that we can come together and then apart.
With that said, as of now I feel emotionally unavailable bc there are other areas of my life that needs my full attention. I can’t see myself partnering with another human being without projection my financial immaturities and instability on the other person. For now , I’ll rather work on growing myself up alone.
It is the 100%truth!!! I had to heal & step away from dating. Men are chasing me down at this bc I don’t care and I am busy doing my hobbies & creating my artwork
Dayumn this is what i wanna do from now on 🙏🏻😩
Delusional 😂
I am so happy U said u like being alone with yourself cuz that's exactly where I'm at. I stepped away from a 13yr relationship that was decent but I felt the call to be alone with myself. I absolutely love being alone. I love watching my videos cuz I'm always wanting to learn, I love meditation and reading books. In my relationship I was scared of being alone but I'm so happy I am now. I'm learning to appreciate myself.
I used to be this way as well. I couldn’t sit still with myself ever. Feeling like I was “missing” something. Until I evolved with 6 years of sloughing to reveal I adore my solitude, my alignment & space to simply be. Appreciate this confirmation. ❤
Omg it's crazy how you talk about the same things I realize at the same time, It's uncanny! I just realized I was emotionally unavailable on some level too. I found that out by exploring my attachement style. I'm always there for people, it's more that I don't open up about my feelings, my pain, I don't like being vulnerable. But I would be annoyed and irritated by those who are closed off not realizing that I was recognizing parts of myself but worse because I atleast give empathy to others. I do this as a way to kerp the spotlight off me.
That part about a parent not being there and the feeling the child carry’s around really hit home. I wish I didn’t feel that way, it’s so frustrating and unhealthy.
I whole heartedly resonate, I went into a situation where I was not ready for a relationship neither was the other. We managed to find ourselves in a web of situationship until I had the courage to walk away… it was hard but I’m happy that I’ve been able to recognise this and now focus internally!
You're very authentic. Keep doing your thing.
Yes I like to be alone. I understand what you're saying. You will find everything you are looking for within yourself. People are just mirrors that trigger everything in you. When you are aware of it. Will you see everything differently. The road is definitely not an easy one. By continuing to work on yourself you will continue to heal and experience more inner peace within yourself.❤🙏
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
Lonelyness is the absence of 'the other', being alone the presence of yourself..
Recently have adopted the idea of "I am the one" and today's video just had secured it, wondrous to be on this page to reflect on my existential 'vulnerability'🙏🏻Feelings projected on another person to be returned un accepted was heavy, damp, manipulative, angry and hollow, which is when I realized why it deserved 'No, thank you'. That's when I start taking care of deserted self I had been abandoning , looking for another person. After all, a person other than myself won't have to be a 'medium' to feel a human being.
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
I totally attract emotionally unavailable people and so many narcissists. It’s crazy! but Atleast now I can quickly recognize it and end it instead of hanging around like I always did. I am where I am and that’s fine for now. Baby steps 🫂
You are traumatized you must try to accept your past . And accept your past self and ofcource never give up hope because your new self wil be the most beautiful person. And wil attract the right person that really belongs to you .
You don't attract narcissists. You just have some triggers from your past that make you attracted to emotionally unavailable people and your trauma probably does not allow you to catch red flags when you meet someone. I've been there and once you start to heal, you'll get better at it.
We are the same but I recently changed by meditating so long and understanding.
Narcissistic people wil try to bring you down but that means they are less
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Me too😢
Your authenticity, openess and vulnerability is inspiring. Thank you!
I think it's only because your not choosing yourself because I know I've been emotionally available but not been choosing myself. That's why I don't receive someone that is emotionally available
I choose myself . And everything will come .
I feel like we re the same people!!!!!!! You are so awesome and have opened my eyes to so much!!!! This healing journey is wild
You know your right and it is hard for me to hear that all this time I have been emotionally unavailable and it’s hitting me hard today! I thought all these years why am I attracting toxic partners or this past relationship wouldn’t commit to me. And it hit me today with the words your saying .
Yes not lonely but alone
I’m turning 50 on the 22nd. And I need to flip the script. I have been so trusting and empathic for too long and then I end up guessing what everyone is thinking. I’m over it.
I’ve started practicing putting myself and my needs first instead of being a sponge to everyone else.
I would like to raise my vibration though everyday and make that the reason for getting up each day.
I have changed a lot ever since I found this channel. Thank you Aaron 👍
You’re speaking into my presence and how I’ve been energetically feeling
Extremely true!!! Life lessons karmic relationships twin flames soul mates n eternal soulmates n flames. Knowing u don't need another to find your self worth which heals co dependcy issues. Setting assertive boundaries with clear communication. Can I recommend a book Louise Hay Heal your Body, n The Secret (Power).
I love this. I have literally come to this realization very recently. Thank you for the confirmation, and the time taken to share.x Love and light❤
I'm in the middle of the emotional freedom course & it's amazing so far. Thank you so much for your energy.
This is literally the third video of yours ive watched and YOU, my friend, ARE HELPING ME! Thank you!
Love you Aaron. I always come back to your videos when I’m in need of peace and clarity. Thank you🌷
We accept the love we think we deserve❤
Feeling the exact same shift in my own life - all of a sudden I'm so excited to be on my own and explore all these things I'm excited about that I never knew I desired this whole time
ᴛʜᴀɴᴋs ғᴏʀ ᴡᴀᴛᴄʜɪɴɢ😊,, ᴡʀɪᴛᴇ ᴍʀ ғʀᴇᴅᴇʀɪᴄᴋ ɴᴏᴡ, 📝ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡʜᴀᴛ sᴀᴘ ʟɪɴᴇ 𝟏𝟔𝟎𝟐𝟗𝟔𝟗𝟒𝟒𝟎𝟓, ᴛᴏ ᴘᴀʀᴛɪᴄɪᴘᴀᴛᴇ ɪɴ ᴏᴜʀ ᴄᴜʀʀᴇɴᴛ ɪɴᴠsᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴍᴇɴᴛᴏʀsʜɪᴘ ɪɴsɪɢʜᴛs, ᴛᴇʟʟ ʜɪᴍ ɪ sᴇɴᴛ ʏᴏᴜ😊
SAME here yay 🎉❤ What a time to be alive!
Your content is becoming better and better each video!!! It’s like watching my own evolution being mirrored. Thank you ❤
This is so true for me. I'm on this journey right now and it's so freeing. Thank you for sharing this! Its a confirmation that I'm on the right path! I really needed to do the self work and drop the 'story'. Very excited for the future ❤ Thanks!
Love you Aaron man. This might be the best video you've ever put out that hits my core, and you explain a path that as of these past 2 months I am beginning to take. Thank you!
I don’t need anybody, I love being by myself!
I’ve really enjoy my own company and have started to choose myself over others and learning to say no more and setting better boundaries. I’ve been watching you for years and your videos always resonate with me at the right time. So helpful!!! Thank you!
I swear I needed this video so much this morning! Always right on time Aaron. You have helped me more then anyone else out there! Thank you for this and thank the universe for you ♥️
Aaron, I truly feel lucky and is really grateful to have come across your channel years ago. Whenever a post/video of you pops up for me I know it was meant for me to watch and uplevel in some way. Thank you!!
This really spoke to me. I love being alone
This video did resonate with me as both my parents were unavailable emotionally and I do attract that type too. I too love being alone but not being lonely and I’m going to be more vulnerable with a guy I’ve been seeing for a few months. Thanks Aaron x
Thread of thoughts are all integrated watching this. Thanks. This clarity and alignment is what I needed. God bless you!
So true! I choose myself. You rock, Aaron. I love being in my own energy and my own company. Still working my way out of survival mode honestly. Much love
Man!!! you hit the nail in the head... I am almost at same stage, it changed 2 years ago. I promised myself I will not close my heart again, doesn't matter who is with me or not, or what life/people brings or teaches me.. I will decide what I need to learn and what I need to discard, but I will remain open and free soul anyway!
Showing vulnerability is one of the greatest gift you can give to another 💫🙏💫
I needed to hear this so bad. These are exactly the fragmented thoughts and emotions I have been trying to wrap my head around and you’ve managed to thread it all together in a way that has helped me make sense of what to do next, thank you
Aaron, you have changed my life. Thank you.
Cuz we love you Aaron ❣️💜❣️✝️
Your videos and highest vibration meditation have changed. My. Life. Truly!!
I'm late but i just wanted to drop in to say that I've never profoundly related to a CZcams video before and the idea of the independent self explains to me why it feels right to stand in my own truth.
Thank you for speaking to the hard truth of emotional unavailability. Thank you for drawing the distinction between self-confidence and narcissism, which many well- meaning truth seekers fear they're floating into when they apply the slightest boundaries.
Just watched the whole video this is the best video I have seen from you. Really cleared all my stuff.
This was medicine for my heart and soul! Divinely timed! 🙌🏻🧘♀️🫶🏻💗🧚🏻♀️
wow this was 1000% what i need to see right now!
Looking good Aaron! You’re shining from the inside out with that self love ❤
Thank you for being so genuine with us of how we can really change our lives… I finally had the epiphany that I need to choose myself!!! I choose myself ❤❤❤❤
I can't thank you enough for how you've helped me grow in the last few years.
Im glad we're both on this side of our Abraham Hicks days.
Its crazy i am watching this video now, because since i got rejected again these are exactly thoughts that come to my mind.. i should fall in love with myself and get obsessed with myself and things i'm doing instead of anybody else.. i didn't see the issue and guys kept on being distant an unavailable since months.. finally it starts making sense.. it's not all only about father issues 😅. Dayumn Aaron you're really send from heaven.. 🙏🏻 Your videos always make so much sense.
I rewatch this video! It helps! I think sometimes it felt familiar with unavailable people and on some level as weird as it sounds it felt safe.
Thank youuu❤ your videos comforted me a lot 🙏🏻
Aaron, you are truly appreciated ❤
I AM THE ONE!!! Thank you for giving some tips Aaron, which really helps.
I love your energy✨
Awesome- thank you. 😊 I needed- to hear this, today. Right now- 💜
Yes me too. Love ya Aaron.
I needed that, specially today
Thanks for sharing ❤
wow very important info! Thank you!
In the past year, I've realized almost everything you are SAYING DUDE. This makes me so happy. I was obsessed with core beliefs and attachment styles. People are not informed on that like they should be. THANK YOU for spreading this information. Thank you thank you thank you because you are the voice for the voiceless. You're wording everything in a way that makes so much sense for people to understand and its 😗🤌 chefs kiss dude. Love love love. Keep doing what you're doing. Cause you're doing amazing.
Thank you. I really relate to your videos. I think it’s true what you say. I attract emotionally unavailable people for a reason; and it’s a flat line when people approach me wanting something. Now that I’m aware; I will heal. ❤🙏♥️
I feel like I know this. I really do. But for some reason I still feel emptiness and stagnancy every day. I want to feel alive and involved again. I'm trying.
The universe helps me to have love, peace and confidence within to understand who is good for my soul and who isn't. Love ya, handsome Aaron❤
Gonna watch this over and over