Why You Need to Stop Chasing Women

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  • čas přidán 9. 06. 2017
  • The video is about how "chasing" and "pursuing" what you want from women will never work. Getting affection, love and sex all starts with you knowing you're good enough without needing her to confirm that for you.
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  • @marciobranco6192
    @marciobranco6192 Před 4 lety +27

    You will lose a lot of money chasing women, but you will never lose women chasing money.

  • @MikeJr9284
    @MikeJr9284 Před 6 lety +705

    I remember chasing women in middle and high school. Honestly, I regretted it. Thank for the advice.

    • @christo3635
      @christo3635 Před 6 lety +35

      The Engie That Cried Nope. I think we all regret it.. Lol

    • @MikeJr9284
      @MikeJr9284 Před 6 lety +33

      BBGRed20 3 words: rejection, anxiety and academics. The academics part is super important to me since I’m currently in college and my main goal is to get my degree rather than a girlfriend.

    • @BlaximilianD00d
      @BlaximilianD00d Před 6 lety +7

      Me too. It makes you look like a creep

    • @richporter8828
      @richporter8828 Před 6 lety +3

      thats facts

    • @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749
  • @angeliquenomade4353
    @angeliquenomade4353 Před 6 lety +12

    I am a woman; & here is my point of view: It's more than this..... Men & women are lonelier than ever..... No one is chasing no one anymore..... Solitude reign over majority of single people. No one trust's no one anymore. Too much has been tried, too much has been said... Without faith, respect, & commitment ; union between men & women is bound to encounter serious problems.

    • @Uiscebeatha565
      @Uiscebeatha565 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Isn't it much easier for women though to meet someone ?

  • @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749

    i don't know why i'm here but you're so right man :)

    • @adamleon9128
      @adamleon9128 Před 6 lety +1

      szczęście jest koloru czarnego
      Same lol

    • @soytupapi6762
      @soytupapi6762 Před 6 lety +5

      Be honest both you guys wanted to come & hear this.

    • @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749
      @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749 Před 6 lety +3

      don't look at these type of videos but this time i was curious what he is about. He talks sense, just it :)

    • @soytupapi6762
      @soytupapi6762 Před 6 lety

      szczęście jest koloru czarnego hey at least your honest about it.

    • @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749
      @szczesciejestkoloruczarneg749 Před 6 lety

      it's not a top secret thing for me. I don't clear browser's history after this. Probably i tell my friends about this vid :o

  • @Calibos2015
    @Calibos2015 Před 6 lety +253

    At last somebody who gives wise advise without expecting something from anybody

    • @reacher2526
      @reacher2526 Před 6 lety +3

      Coach Corey Wayne are excellent I agree.

    • @christopher9727
      @christopher9727 Před 4 měsíci

      ...
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  • @malcolmnicoll1165
    @malcolmnicoll1165 Před 6 lety +116

    So true. Every time I chased women, it was disastrous. When I stopped, I had them practically eating out of my hand. I later learned that women basically want a man who is more of a "male" than she is, and that chasing is basically a feminine/submissive quality-a big turn-off to feminine women.

    • @JSiracusan
      @JSiracusan Před 3 lety +4

      thus the female lion. Brilliant!

    • @thumerman2683
      @thumerman2683 Před 2 lety +1

      How did you get rid of neediness

    • @malcolmnicoll1165
      @malcolmnicoll1165 Před 2 lety +10

      @@thumerman2683 Love yourself. Stay in your own frame. Take her off a pedestal.

    • @mml1224
      @mml1224 Před 11 měsíci +1

      so dont rub her feet at nite?
      @@malcolmnicoll1165

    • @johnjordan6736
      @johnjordan6736 Před 5 měsíci

      Cool story bro

  • @megabojan1993
    @megabojan1993 Před 5 lety +20

    I stopped chasing women 14 years ago. Best decision of my life.

    • @cemu1065
      @cemu1065 Před měsícem +1

      Hallelujah. Same here. 12yrs for myself and never felt happier. You don't need a woman to define yourself. 👍✌️👏👏

  • @rknine7998
    @rknine7998 Před 6 lety +30

    It's important for young men NOT to look on the outside physical attraction of a woman but instead to tune-in into themselves and to develop themselves.

  • @rolsonDotcom
    @rolsonDotcom Před 6 lety +300

    My dad died when I was 13. Really affected me deeply but I'm realizing that doesn't define me.

    • @gelol2403
      @gelol2403 Před 6 lety

      R O Hey man I feel your pain, read the book wild at heart by John elderedge. It will reveal and heel the pain

    • @stephonedmond5809
      @stephonedmond5809 Před 6 lety

      how old are you ? and that is very painful im sorry you had to go through that

    • @vitolibido
      @vitolibido Před 6 lety +1

      Everything in this world or that happens to you defines you.. you dad plays a small part in defining you

    • @hjsegui
      @hjsegui Před 6 lety

      Sorry about that. Your are right about..even with him is up to you..

    • @alexbielovich
      @alexbielovich Před 6 lety

      My dad was never around but I was surrounded by women growing up. I think that's why I don't want for approval or validation from women. It's more from my male friends and older male colleagues that I need approval from.

  • @truthbetold6496
    @truthbetold6496 Před 6 lety +263

    This is why lots of younger women will go for older men, confidence stability and more.
    Chasing women is a waste of energy, even worst if you are a man and go online dating.

    • @AdamYoudell
      @AdamYoudell Před 6 lety +66

      Online dating is only about women getting attention. It's a complete waste of time for men

    • @robinpennineguy9791
      @robinpennineguy9791 Před 6 lety +14

      Adam Youdell very true to much games going on and so boring most women can't hold a interesting chat online dating today it's usually HI that's it lol 😂

    • @eddyecho
      @eddyecho Před 6 lety +26

      younger women go after older men because usually they have more money. Most young women are not smart enough to begin to understand the concepts of self confidence and stability.

    • @ManPursueExcellence
      @ManPursueExcellence Před 6 lety +8

      eddyecho
      Right on. Today’s young women mistake vanity for confidence.

    • @mimianastasia2699
      @mimianastasia2699 Před 6 lety

      Adam Youdell not all..cause I hate fake profile and fake people,and the result is fake love.so I'm stick on being real .online or not..he's lucky to have me if he's also real.i may not have that perfection of physical beauty ,I may not that smart woman,but all I can give is being loyal ,trusted and caring.😊

  • @pops1pops178
    @pops1pops178 Před 6 lety +262

    my life is so much better when removing lust and going after women

    • @scarlethottie3955
      @scarlethottie3955 Před 6 lety +4

      pops1 pops1 good for you.🙏

    • @majik31401
      @majik31401 Před 6 lety +6

      ITS A MANS MANS WORLD BUT IT WOULDN'T BE NOTHIN WITHOUT A WOMAN OR GIRL

    • @majik31401
      @majik31401 Před 6 lety +3

      A WOMAN NEEDS LOVE MUCH AS A MAN DOES

    • @hooligan5518
      @hooligan5518 Před 6 lety +9

      +TYRONE PERKIN A woman or girl is what I like to descripe as iceing on a cake, like your life its already good, like the cake it's already good a woman is only a topping on that.

    • @ajayv4924
      @ajayv4924 Před 6 lety

      Yes .

  • @coiledsteel8344
    @coiledsteel8344 Před 6 lety +109

    Steve thanks! I wish i had your wisdom at 27 that i now have at 67. I lost all to manipulating, gold diggers - could easily been millionaire before now!

  • @GUITARTIME2024
    @GUITARTIME2024 Před 6 lety +78

    I like the phrase "stop chasing affection". Its much clearer and more direct than the more generic "chasing women" concept.

    • @reallychosen8976
      @reallychosen8976 Před 6 lety +1

      raleighman3000 yeah really good point

    • @christopher9727
      @christopher9727 Před 4 měsíci

      . ..
      Jesus Christ is the only hope in this world no other gods will lead you to heaven
      There is no security or hope with out Jesus Christ in this world come and repent of all sins today
      Today is the day of salvation come to the loving savior Today repent and do not go to hell
      Come to Jesus Christ today
      Jesus Christ is only way to heaven
      Repent and follow him today seek his heart Jesus Christ can fill the emptiness he can fill the void
      Heaven and hell is real cone to the loving savior today
      Today is the day of salvation tomorrow might be to late come to the loving savior today
      Holy Spirit Can give you peace guidance and purpose and the Lord will
      John 3:16-21
      16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. 18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. 21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
      Mark 1.15
      15 And saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel.
      2 Peter 3:9
      The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
      Hebrews 11:6
      6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
      Jesus

  • @tim8468
    @tim8468 Před 6 lety +41

    Thank you, Sir. I felt like I just received a life lesson from my Dad, whom has been dead for 21 years. I needed that.

    • @ryanvtec3885
      @ryanvtec3885 Před 5 lety +1

      my dad is alive but he never truely taught me to be a man partially because he isnt one

    • @canofspam9357
      @canofspam9357 Před 3 měsíci

      Sorry for your loss

  • @ThinkingAtheist88
    @ThinkingAtheist88 Před 6 lety +103

    Damn, where was this man and his advice 15 years ago?? I wish i knew half of what i know now about years ago about women. This man spoke words of wisdom that every young men need to hear. Thanks for sharing this video.

    • @bookreviewnerd8260
      @bookreviewnerd8260 Před 6 lety +3

      love god

    • @narrowpath2474
      @narrowpath2474 Před 6 lety +2

      Um probably living life learning experiences wisdom and knowledge to get to the level to make this video.

    • @ldeezyh1169
      @ldeezyh1169 Před 6 lety +1

      The Internet, and definitely YT wasn't like it is now 15yrs ago.

  • @newzombie1
    @newzombie1 Před 6 lety +32

    This video is exactly what I needed tonight,
    I've just gotten out of a relationship, I'm 35 years old and I realize that I haven't been single since I was in high school, and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I felt like I needed a woman somebody around to make me feel Worthy or fulfilled. I think I've been scared to be alone, but I really think it's time for me to figure out and find out who I am before I can love or try to love anybody else thanks man for this video.

    • @ryanvtec3885
      @ryanvtec3885 Před 5 lety +1

      hey at least you know you can a woman when ever you want.

    • @chaintedgrind5094
      @chaintedgrind5094 Před rokem

      Leonel, what happend? it's been 4 years. I'm facing the same situation that why im asking

  • @FromPanictoParis
    @FromPanictoParis Před 6 lety +415

    This was fantastic
    What I needed to hear at this stage of my life

  • @midnightrider7648
    @midnightrider7648 Před 6 lety +183

    I'm in my mid 50's now. I never got married, but i was devastated when a relationship ended with a woman who i thought loved me. I don't pursue women like i once did. It's funny how women seem a bit more interested in me now that i display a nonchalant attitude. I really like being self sufficient. This guy is right, don't rely on women to build yourself up, but it's not wrong to have a relationship with a woman as long as it doesn't define you or sustain your self worth.

    • @deandrehall3044
      @deandrehall3044 Před 6 lety +4

      midnight rider truth brother glad you realized that

    • @coomohit
      @coomohit Před 6 lety +4

      this is me too mate.Same age never wed.Exactly same story and now same outlook

    • @LewisRacing90
      @LewisRacing90 Před 6 lety +4

      midnight rider watch Mgtow videos before getting in relationships with women.

    • @legendarygamingchannel805
      @legendarygamingchannel805 Před 6 lety

      midnight rider don’t be a bitch and glo up

    • @midnightrider7648
      @midnightrider7648 Před 6 lety +7

      LegendaryGamingChannel: ok tough guy. At least i'm not a pussy who has to constantly be with a woman.

  • @rayrayrayrayrayray4271
    @rayrayrayrayrayray4271 Před 6 lety +168

    A man with sense finally........I feel a woman doesn't know what they want and when they do get it .. There still not happy with what they thought they wanted

    • @Strange9952
      @Strange9952 Před 6 lety +1

      Rayrayray Rayrayray who cares if she doesn't know what she wants

    • @AdamYoudell
      @AdamYoudell Před 6 lety +16

      It's because they want many different things that don't go together.

    • @ideclareww3fu354
      @ideclareww3fu354 Před 6 lety

      Rayrayray Rayrayray .they don't even know what size exactly they prefer.

    • @inrptn
      @inrptn Před 6 lety +5

      Women are not logical and rational. They are emotion-driven / emotion-based. They will only stick to a logical rational plan (made by a man, ofc) as long as they are feeling emotionally satisfied with it. As soon as they are not satisfied emotionally they will dump it, no matter how long years of work it took to achieve.

    • @ryanvtec3885
      @ryanvtec3885 Před 5 lety +1

      woman are emotional they flip flop on how they feel everyday. Men are supposed to be direct and know what they want. This all goes back to the old days men and woman complete each other.

  • @HighTicket2Freedom
    @HighTicket2Freedom Před 6 lety +20

    Not sure why this was recommended to me but I completely agree with this!
    In my high school years, I remember hearing so many people around me say that they "need" a relationship with someone when the primary focus should be improving your own life first, before depending on others.

  • @kingjahk1
    @kingjahk1 Před 6 lety +4

    By not chasing, and self-improvement, I was sent my love and we cherish the simplest things. Great talk!

  • @jamesidakula1705
    @jamesidakula1705 Před 6 lety +33

    Thank you. Your words came at just the right time. Take care.

  • @That_Guy_Izzy
    @That_Guy_Izzy Před 6 lety +3

    This could not be more true... I truly wish I knew all of this when I was in my twenties. Great video!

  • @uncleelmer
    @uncleelmer Před 6 lety +4

    So true, Steve. Self love is the best love and if you don't love yourself you will not be giving love to anyone else. Good point, Steve.

  • @perrionhurd7509
    @perrionhurd7509 Před 6 lety +37

    I've never really had that problem, because I've always known that escaping the horrors of poverty is the only goal worth pursuing.

  • @lesliedasilva9080
    @lesliedasilva9080 Před 6 lety +7

    I'm a woman, and I appreciate that you are sending this message to men ! I am a daughter, mother and
    a friend of a man, and i want them to feel confident of who they are:))

  • @nothingsixsixsix
    @nothingsixsixsix Před 6 lety +40

    Well if you live in an urban inner city as I have my entire life I can say with certainty and experience that a real good way to get set up which could even cost you your life, is to chase women in this environment.
    You've been warned.

  • @travisbakeriii3053
    @travisbakeriii3053 Před 6 lety +1

    Steve I want to add something. Your videos are so real. The background, the imperfectness, your cutoff head. Don't change a thing about your production. This is innately you, and innately us. That's why you're so relatable, in addition to your content. Love you man.

  • @mickadatwist1620
    @mickadatwist1620 Před 6 lety +8

    im so happy without chasing at 40! This is a great video Sir, short and pithy. Hope many young turks will view it start asking questions

  • @appetizersfosho2944
    @appetizersfosho2944 Před 6 lety +51

    Learning young... I’m 16 and love your insight it’s so true

    • @purpleflorencesunsetssunse9519
      @purpleflorencesunsetssunse9519 Před 6 lety

      Thomas OG-BOSS Also check out Brent Smith at Attract Hotter Women. He has been advocating this same approach for years.

  • @raulyduenas6898
    @raulyduenas6898 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you brother. I am really going through it. After 15 years of being with someone that finally just kick me out I have never realized that my thirteen-year-old inside me was wanting approval and acting out because I wasn't getting it. You're right! I need to fill my bucket by myself for myself. Thank you so much for your wisdom and sharing. I hope to maybe someday go to when he retreats. I live in Kansas to help her pursue her dream) but I'm originally from California. I have absolutely no friends and no Brotherhood so your videos are invaluable. Thanks again.

    • @Goodguys2Greatmen
      @Goodguys2Greatmen  Před 5 lety

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  • @lululemon1981
    @lululemon1981 Před 6 lety +1

    Just what I needed to hear! Thanks for lifting my spirits through this somewhat dark time.

  • @jerryjamesz
    @jerryjamesz Před 4 lety +7

    I watched this video like a year ago and didnt really care much for it... but I was a lot dumber a year ago and now I understand what this guy is talking about. Powerful stuff. Stop desperately chasing things in life in the hope they will make you happy. Instead be grounded in your own energy and gratitude and experience of life. 🙏❤🙌

  • @rowsdower12
    @rowsdower12 Před 6 lety +5

    This is pure gold. So true. Goes beyond dating.

  • @muganzironaldfavour
    @muganzironaldfavour Před 3 lety

    Brother Steve, you are the best in what you are doing. You are coaching men to be themselves; equipping us to be happy and self reliant from the inside out. I am proud of you brother.

  • @mikegeeguitarman8991
    @mikegeeguitarman8991 Před 6 lety

    good solid advice buddy..came to the same conclusions some time ago and instantly started to feel better. Neediness and desperation leaves you vulnerable and wide open to manipulation so we all need to be very careful if we are in that very dangerous place!

  • @roskichan3001
    @roskichan3001 Před 6 lety +14

    I'm not really a huge fan of having any relationship but I learn something today! Woohoo!

  • @johnnybgoode1950
    @johnnybgoode1950 Před 6 lety +8

    Looking to resolve issues inside yourself by looking for things outside yourself is always a mistake.

  • @iamfrankcaceres
    @iamfrankcaceres Před 2 lety +1

    I’m going to listen to this video for a whole month. It made me feel much better

  • @A.F.9322
    @A.F.9322 Před 6 lety +1

    Thank you Mr. Horsmon. Wise words from a wise man. It's great for you to share your insights to younger men who lack direction or an understanding of what it means to be a man.

  • @michaelsmith2004
    @michaelsmith2004 Před 6 lety +8

    Very well said and a very inspiring video. Work on yourself gentlemen. Don't chase approval from women. Do what you love. Take a trip, learn to play guitar. Find peace within yourself.

  • @ireneugeba5282
    @ireneugeba5282 Před 6 lety +11

    This is so true. But the point is chasing people in general is not good. No one will respect you. Good video.

  • @josephreese664
    @josephreese664 Před 5 lety

    One of the greatest things about this video is that at the end of this wonderful message the sun comes out shining !!😁

  • @lovetofly32
    @lovetofly32 Před 6 lety

    I think I found my new youtube mens coach!! Thank you for being clean! Im so sick of listening to all these imoral people swearing and talking about hooking up and all that.

  • @superack8622
    @superack8622 Před 6 lety +12

    i should of heard this 15 years ago..
    Wasted Thousands of Dollars Chasing Women...

  • @cjvalverde7660
    @cjvalverde7660 Před 6 lety +3

    When you said I was okay I teared up

  • @nhollowayiii
    @nhollowayiii Před 6 lety

    Never considered a spritual perspective like this. This hit home big time. Thanks.

  • @benjaminbutton2097
    @benjaminbutton2097 Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you for making this video and saying these things loud.. Now i see the connection between my fathers hate toward me and today chasing women like nothing else matters. There are holles in my soul that can be filled only by women's affection... now it makes moee sense!

  • @coff33guy80
    @coff33guy80 Před 6 lety +8

    Great Advice.
    Exactly what I needed to hear
    At the stage I'm at in Life.
    Work hard
    Better myself
    Pursue my dreams.
    Just do my own thing
    & forget about chasing approval & acceptance & Love from women.
    I gotta love & trust myself.
    God Bless you all.

    • @Hydroy
      @Hydroy Před 6 lety +2

      Ryan Mack 🔥💯👌

  • @coreytron5382
    @coreytron5382 Před 6 lety +61

    powerful message

  • @Eleven-dk4be
    @Eleven-dk4be Před 6 lety

    I'm listening to this at the gym man and these words are golden words. Much love from Albuquerque, NM! 🇺🇸

  • @hermescarlito3533
    @hermescarlito3533 Před 6 lety +1

    Thanks for this video !!! We are the change we seek!

  • @Electux777
    @Electux777 Před 6 lety +20

    Thank you, I need to heard this. I been chasing this one lady for over a year. I recently threw in the towel because it was emotionally draining me and I wasn't getting the results I wanted for her. Watching this video has naturally gave me a clear understanding of what I was doing was wrong.

    • @screenname8833
      @screenname8833 Před 6 lety +4

      J P u got plenty of females in this world why the hell are u wasting your precious time on one bitch?!Don't be a fool

    • @Electux777
      @Electux777 Před 6 lety +12

      Thomas Tom my stupidity and putting her on a pedestal which was my mistake. My lack of love for myself and desperation for not wanting to be alone has blinded me of my actions.

    • @screenname8833
      @screenname8833 Před 6 lety +4

      J P find sth that you love to do and direct your love towards that,e.g.start working out

    • @AntonioWolfpack
      @AntonioWolfpack Před 6 lety

      John Doe exactly

  • @zwelethuntshangase6028
    @zwelethuntshangase6028 Před 6 lety +17

    Such Knowledge. Much Love from South Africa.

  • @rekhyt0712
    @rekhyt0712 Před 5 lety

    This was exactly what I needed to hear at exactly the right time. Thanks Brother.

  • @christopherwalker6056
    @christopherwalker6056 Před 6 lety

    This was a great video. Great advice. I have been guilty of that. Used to have a gf that always made me feel SO good. Always stroking my ego. Always telling me how handsome I was, how good in bed,, etc. I ended up breaking up with her because she started getting super jealous and insecure always thinking I was seeing someone else.. It got to the point where she became paranoid and appeared to be having a nervous breakdown. Now being single I miss that way that she made me feel. But man, I needed to hear that, what you said regarding where our self worth comes from. That it doesn't come from women. Thank you sir. God bless!

  • @mr.d.572
    @mr.d.572 Před 6 lety +5

    This is great stuff. I'm in my mid-50's, and I'm finding how true all this is. The problem is I know it in my head, but inside I still have romantic notions about love partnership, and commitment. But I've been amazed by how hard it is to find a woman who will accept and value you for who you are. I was dating someone who recently dumped me, just because our political and theological views didn't completely line up and it was stressing her out. I'm sitting there thinking, that's what's most important to you? I have no problem having opinion or even some values differences with someone I'm pursuing a relationship with, because I'm just happy to find someone who I am mostly compatible with. But basically, my character, integrity, commitment, personality, honesty, and all my other good qualities didn't count for much of anything in the end.
    I think you need a certain amount of gratitude, humility, and empathy to find and maintain a real relationship. But I'm not finding much of that out there at all.

    • @becca9586
      @becca9586 Před 2 lety

      Those were her core values and you didn't share that with her. Neither of you should change to fit the other. if you don't sharethe same common ground, your relationship would be rocky, at best.

  • @JCarlos.556
    @JCarlos.556 Před 6 lety +109

    Great advice...listen to this man kids

  • @VinayKumar-db4qz
    @VinayKumar-db4qz Před 6 lety +2

    I needed to hear this from someone, thank you.

  • @mziqbal2003
    @mziqbal2003 Před 6 lety +1

    Steve thank you for spreading beautiful words on improving family life and relationships. I believe love for your family reflects in your more in your action that can not be simply put together in words. It's a kind of responsibility we need to take that gives our families comfort, solace and security. Like a tall and green shady 🌲 giving shades to the people below. I can understand men can not simply ignore the inner child but we need to understand we can not force someone into our lives but we can give them all the comfort and need or at least try our best to get them. Listen to them with open mind and heart give them space, love them, give them hope, shelter them like a castle. Like Lion protect his Pride. ☺💓👍

  • @honsheun
    @honsheun Před 6 lety +10

    Thank you for the video. I've watched quite some videos on the same topic, but you did a great job in explaining the deep root cause like a friend. I have have whole new perspective about the chasing inertia and how to beat it. Thanks again

    • @Goodguys2Greatmen
      @Goodguys2Greatmen  Před 6 lety

      You're welcome...friend! Thanks for the comment and feedback.

  • @jesserochon3103
    @jesserochon3103 Před 6 lety +28

    Give this man 5 gold stars ^^^^^

  • @patrickjlouis6651
    @patrickjlouis6651 Před 6 lety

    Thank you your words are coming to me when I need them the most. Keep up the good work Sir.

  • @scentland4753
    @scentland4753 Před 6 lety

    I totally agree, very good message that should be heard by many more folks out there!

  • @leoreutov6659
    @leoreutov6659 Před 6 lety +6

    Solid points. This is what guys need to hear not some joke pick up artist and there shady ways. You want women? Become a real man! Women will chase you! Im still young but beginning to understand that. I chased alot of girls but once i started working on myself, trying to become a man. Already some girls giving me their numbers. But i dont even text them back lol busy making progress.

  • @adamleon9128
    @adamleon9128 Před 6 lety +22

    Idk why this was recommended to me but I'm not disappointed lol

  • @lionlegacy6652
    @lionlegacy6652 Před 6 lety

    I needed this video along time ago. My life would be so different. Well I can take it forward into life from now on. God Bless you for the video.

  • @pearmtn7788
    @pearmtn7788 Před 3 lety

    I just came across this and see that it’s 3 years old. When the truth is revealed, time is not a factor; the truth is timeless. What we are all looking for is already within us. Thanks Steve.

    • @Goodguys2Greatmen
      @Goodguys2Greatmen  Před 3 lety

      Welcome to the community, Pearmtn! There is so much more to discover in this place. Check out goodguys2greatmen.com if you want to dive in deeper with us. Many options to connect with men exactly like yourself. Lotta love, Steve

  • @Alrokako
    @Alrokako Před 6 lety +29

    Invest an build your own self worth don't focus on women no matter how long it takes to get some, just make do whatever you can to build yourself up financially, spiritually, or wherever you haveyou think you need to and it will attract them them to you.

    • @Alrokako
      @Alrokako Před 6 lety +4

      John Doe Yeah some will but you gotta be smart enough to see them type. Then you got other women who wont need any of your money because they got their own.

    • @majik31401
      @majik31401 Před 6 lety +2

      Aldo Vice A MAN CAN'T BE TOO FREEHEARTED TOO INFATUATED MESMERIZED BY MISS ELITE DIVA WHOS HIGH MAINTENANCE

    • @claudiomonreal2466
      @claudiomonreal2466 Před 6 lety

      Aldo Vice really good advice brother

  • @TRUTHTELLER-zy4iz
    @TRUTHTELLER-zy4iz Před 6 lety +62

    Typical advice on becoming you own person and not really caring what other people think because people gonna think and say what they want. Good vid bro

  • @joecampbell4199
    @joecampbell4199 Před 6 lety

    Wise words you really touched on something a lot of men feel and have no idea why.

  • @keifx2126
    @keifx2126 Před 6 lety +1

    Steve you are smart sir, and thanks for the video, the message is very well needed.

  • @chrischambers4538
    @chrischambers4538 Před 6 lety +192

    I agree, i feel like im at that point in my life. I've been single for a long time, and very content with it. I've gotten to know myself and who I am, and im very happy with who've i've become. I love my family my job and myself. Now I want a woman whom I can share everything with. Im not needy or over pursuing. I dont text or call like a stalker or anything. Its just so hard to find a good one thats wants me as much as i want them. I guess I just gotta keep trying until something sticks

    • @fozlurrahman7052
      @fozlurrahman7052 Před 6 lety +15

      Good luck on your journey, im in the same boat.

    • @joshuaman01
      @joshuaman01 Před 6 lety +13

      Yeah me too, Good luck to us I'm a believer so if it's God's will for sure it will be worth the wait.

    • @JoseSanchez-bp7xz
      @JoseSanchez-bp7xz Před 6 lety +3

      chris chambers
      I can relate. My girlfriend at this moment is dying of stage 4 breast cancer. It started with
      Her breast’s and went to her bones. 12 years and she’s about to lose the battle. BTW
      I’m an American, and white, and I just made up this name. Any good women out there?
      Please respond if you read this. Thanks.

    • @emmanuelkofyagyapong6382
      @emmanuelkofyagyapong6382 Před 6 lety

      chris chambers this is so true.

    • @selflit
      @selflit Před 6 lety +3

      Jose Sanchez try searching for medical marijuana and make her consider going on diet to be proven to help with all sorts of cancers like Vegan or Keto (inform yourself more ofc) that may be the last hope

  • @wowerman
    @wowerman Před 6 lety +10

    I have been single for last 7 years.I flex my brain and muscles every day to reach life goals.I can cook and mend trousers.I am very driven person.No woman needed to keep giving me drama everyday.Women dropped with values hence I am not interested

  • @richardepstein6104
    @richardepstein6104 Před 6 lety

    Right on brother, great honest and truthful delivery. Really refreshing.

  • @user-uh5wr2fv1m
    @user-uh5wr2fv1m Před 6 lety

    Immediately hit on the like button just for the title; before watching the content of the video itself. I've been a non-chaser of women myself all my life. I've always been a very restrained guy and taken pride of being so.

  • @volijay1019
    @volijay1019 Před 6 lety +5

    Preach my brother preach!

  • @gno_0ne
    @gno_0ne Před 6 lety +6

    Excellent content.
    Think like you're royalty and live in abundance.

  • @bachelardrejouit4820
    @bachelardrejouit4820 Před 6 lety

    Thank you so much, Mr. Steve Horsmon. That was so wise and deep.

  • @hstlehard9684
    @hstlehard9684 Před 6 lety

    I'm 23 years old and I find this useful. It's like parenting to me, coming from and elderly guy like you. Thanks alot.

  • @Way_Of_The_Light
    @Way_Of_The_Light Před 6 lety +5

    Great video! Thank you!

  • @arpeggiomeister
    @arpeggiomeister Před 6 lety +13

    Fantastic video!!! There is little help for men out there because of the false pretenses imposed on them by society. Women only have to go as far as the local newsstand. Magazines like Cosmopolitan have tons of advice from dating to sex, etc. Women are very open about their problems but men are not. There is a major stigma out there for men seeking help. Men are supposed to be uber confident, never have any problems picking up women, never have sexual problems, and the list goes on and on. The internet is changing that but there is a long way to go.

    • @wildreamuh1
      @wildreamuh1 Před 6 lety +1

      arpeggiomeister yes!!! The society murders men in my female eyes. I feel how twisted men’s arms are in this society and am very sorry for them.. but it’s a two way street.. cuz women are twisted by society too..

  • @ronaldwilliams9635
    @ronaldwilliams9635 Před 6 lety

    Thank you man, I thought I was the only one, this helps me know that I need to focus on me as a man. The rest will come. Thank you.

  • @jamesspencer9406
    @jamesspencer9406 Před 5 lety +2

    This is an excellent video, everything makes sense and is explained perfectly!

  • @TexasEmperor
    @TexasEmperor Před 6 lety +11

    Why ain't you my father...I would have benefited from someone like you growing up. My dad told me chase smh!

  • @MsFishingdog
    @MsFishingdog Před 6 lety +3

    great video. well said.

  • @kevinl4771
    @kevinl4771 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Ageless wisdom. Thanks for your message 🙏

  • @johnpauluwimana578
    @johnpauluwimana578 Před 6 lety +2

    That is right and smart. I appreciated that. Let's chase our own values in stead of chasing women because a woman is not designed to satisfy our feelings.

  • @lsporter88
    @lsporter88 Před 6 lety +10

    Absolutely right.

  • @TheHereigoagain
    @TheHereigoagain Před 6 lety +16

    The screwing your hoping to get is not worth the screwing your going to get!!

    • @oaklandsoldier5920
      @oaklandsoldier5920 Před 6 lety

      TheHereigoagain thats real talk

    • @jasonbotting3666
      @jasonbotting3666 Před 6 lety

      You got that right!!

    • @ianm8218
      @ianm8218 Před 3 lety

      More guys need to see this comment

    • @TheHereigoagain
      @TheHereigoagain Před 3 lety

      @@ianm8218 I’ve seen friends and family men that is lose their jobs, their homes, their kids, their finances and even their freedom over some demon possessed biatchhhhh! And us men can get so stupid and stubborn over that furry little hole and the fear of being alone! A little loneliness won’t kill you but the wrong woman in your little fe can literally kill you! These days I’m about to turn 60 and I know that I’d rather be alone and live in peace than to allow a self absorbed, bipolar psychotic bottomless pit of a narcissist into my life! No! And I try to spread the word to our brothers out there especially the younger fellas! Thank you for your comment brother. God bless you!

  • @lionlegacy6652
    @lionlegacy6652 Před 6 lety

    I needed this video along time ago. My life would be different. God Bless you for the video. I can take this blessed advice with me in the future.

  • @trustfund82
    @trustfund82 Před 6 lety

    I thought that was a green screen background until the sun came out lol. Awesome video!

  • @Kryptdegen
    @Kryptdegen Před 6 lety +6

    I dont know how i stumbled on this video but i think you might be right

  • @Thestorm48
    @Thestorm48 Před 6 lety +4

    Awesome video

  • @PeterMusic
    @PeterMusic Před 6 lety

    wow, the way you explain is so natural. and honest.

  • @dustywarren946
    @dustywarren946 Před 6 lety +1

    Great advise I'm currently going thru a tuff time with my so called relationship and need to hear something like this to help me gain my self worth back!.. great advise! Once again and thank you!!

    • @Goodguys2Greatmen
      @Goodguys2Greatmen  Před 6 lety +1

      you're welcome, Dusty. Stay strong. Have a mission BIGGER than worrying about if someone likes you. Be with those who support and inspire you. And give that back to them.

  • @cliffwest5617
    @cliffwest5617 Před 6 lety +9

    Self reliance is where it's at, but I confess , I didn't discover it until I was an older man , actually in my early 60's. Boys , dont wait , find your inner self today! I found things about myself I didn't realize. Go ahead , be your own best friend.

    • @willpowerman8817
      @willpowerman8817 Před 5 lety

      God bless you Cliff. I always pray to God for self reliance, it is literally the foundation of strength

    • @ryanvtec3885
      @ryanvtec3885 Před 5 lety

      im 26 looking to make big changes in my life, partially due to loosing another girl that hit home. Im going to better myself for me and so i never feel like again

  • @razer0072073
    @razer0072073 Před 6 lety +35

    You look like Johan Cruyff lol

  • @cricket4you330
    @cricket4you330 Před 5 lety +1

    Guys listen to this man this could be one the best advice you will ever hear!

  • @FascinatingMr
    @FascinatingMr Před 6 lety

    Great video. I wish I had known this concept years ago. But, it's not too late. I'm still young.