DO's and DON'Ts of DEPLOYMENT COMMUNICATION

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  • čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
  • Communicating while on deployment is tough. We must learn how to communicate properly. Learn things we should and should not say. And learn how to talk if a confrontation arises. Here are some tips for deployment communication. I also added in OPSEC rules!
    One thing I didn't mention is play some sort of game while writing letters or emailing to stay connected! those are fun and will having you EVEN MORE excited for when the next letter comes(:
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Komentáře • 127

  • @vladamirnotmyname1828
    @vladamirnotmyname1828 Před 7 lety +203

    Pro-tip: Don't say you're starting to feel distant. This will cause him to think you don't want to be with him anymore. That is my 2 cents. Take it for what it's worth.

  • @brib9015
    @brib9015 Před 6 lety +80

    My boyfriend is deploying for a year and this is my first deployment and I can't express how scared I am but this video actually helped a lot in trying to prepare for this! Thank you!

    • @brittany136
      @brittany136 Před 6 lety

      Bri B Just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. How are you doing?

    • @helenagutierrez2306
      @helenagutierrez2306 Před 6 lety

      Bri B when does he leave? I’m so glad this is a somewhat recent comment. My boyfriend just left this August and he’s leaving for 13 months...

    • @brittany136
      @brittany136 Před 6 lety

      @@helenagutierrez2306 My boyfriend is over seas right now. I'm doing okay I suppose. Everyone is still adjusting.
      How are you?

    • @natishascott2041
      @natishascott2041 Před 6 lety +4

      Jesus I would die if he leaves longer than 6-8 month

    • @pride-8009
      @pride-8009 Před 5 lety

      @@brittany136 How did things end up going?

  • @peepeepoopoo7182
    @peepeepoopoo7182 Před 5 lety +13

    i’m scared for my boyfriends deployment but I support him and what he does, i know it gets lonely a lot but remembering that your spouse loves you more than anything is really important and don’t let them being gone set you back

  • @lexiebernal5713
    @lexiebernal5713 Před 6 lety +26

    going on my 3rd deployment and I didn't even think about the geo-location on pictures! good tip!!!

  • @von-marieoliva4827
    @von-marieoliva4827 Před 4 lety +7

    Regarding feelings: I totally needed confirmation about being able to talk about how I feel right now! I've been so fearful about opening up and thought telling him was showing him I couldn't be strong enough to endure this..so thanks for explaining that

  • @jessishaw2500
    @jessishaw2500 Před 6 lety +27

    This channel is exactly what iv been looking for

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +1

      Yay! Glad you found it!💛

  • @mariahap7306
    @mariahap7306 Před 6 lety +9

    This is my 2nd deployment with my husband. All the stuff you have said is so accurate. Thank you for making this video for everyone else ❤

  • @jeffburnham6611
    @jeffburnham6611 Před 4 lety +6

    There is a reason why OPSEC is so important. It may seem like harmless info, but little bits of info from numerous sources often will give enemy agents of foreign countries the name of the unit, the length of deployment, the strength of the unit, the destination of the unit, and the reason for deployment. Also, its considered a violation of the UCMJ to discuss anything regarding unit deployments.

  • @oliviahartman4281
    @oliviahartman4281 Před 6 lety +9

    All your videos are very helpful! I just found out about my boyfriends deployment and it really hit me hard! These videos gave me faith that everything will be okay!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety

      Yay! Glad these are helping. Don't think about it until time gets closer. Enjoy your time together and you can do it!💕

  • @corinnemast13
    @corinnemast13 Před 5 lety +5

    These videos have been super helpful my boyfriend has just started his training for the military and it’s all really new to me and has caused a lot of emotional turmoil over the last two weeks trying to adjust, that you for sharing the part about feeling too because that’s always what I’m most worried about I’m really verbal about how I feel but I didn’t want to feel like I’m piling stuff on him. He will go on deployment next year and I want to make sure we’re ready.

    • @yeliflores565
      @yeliflores565 Před 5 lety

      corinne mast I feel mine just left for training a couple days ago. It’s super hard. Prayers/good wishes that all goes well for you guys!

  • @crazykitten4845
    @crazykitten4845 Před 2 lety +1

    My love is deployed for the next 3 years but I can't wait to see him 🖤 hopefully I will actually be able to go visit him before then but we will see 🥰 either way I pray that he stays safe and comfortable

  • @Lashedwithanna
    @Lashedwithanna Před 2 lety +1

    Omg I had no idea that you had to be so private with the info . I’m happy I haven’t said anything but you affirming it saved me the possibilities!

  • @nicoleivy8356
    @nicoleivy8356 Před 5 lety +35

    We’re you ever nervous or scared that one or both of you would be different when they came back?

    • @exmrsnowwomanscorned8369
      @exmrsnowwomanscorned8369 Před 4 lety +2

      I needed an answer to this..help..😭

    • @jazs2300
      @jazs2300 Před 3 lety +1

      Did you ever find out through personal experience (since it’s a year later after this comment was made)?

    • @braedenfaust8779
      @braedenfaust8779 Před 3 lety

      No my brother just went overseas and I’m really nervous that we will be completely different when he comes home

    • @jazs2300
      @jazs2300 Před 3 lety

      @@braedenfaust8779 did he change after boot camp?

    • @nicoleivy8356
      @nicoleivy8356 Před 3 lety

      I found through personal experience since this comment! He got back and dumped me for his step sister!

  • @Theredheadguru
    @Theredheadguru Před 7 lety +6

    This really helped especially the part about lack of communication and arguments! Thanks for the tips 😊

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 7 lety +2

      No problem! Glad it helped(:

  • @viancanunez2483
    @viancanunez2483 Před 6 lety +3

    This video helped put my mind at ease. My boyfriend is also in the Navy and is getting deployed and it’s going to be our first one as a couple so we don’t know what that’s going to be like. Thank you so much for the tips!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety

      Glad I could help. You've got this💕

  • @alineirakoze-dior
    @alineirakoze-dior Před 3 lety +1

    Wow idk if this is a coincidence or not but the way these kind of videos keep popping up on my recommendations is wild bc I kind of know this guy - my friends brother who is deployed and I love these tips💕

  • @Theredheadguru
    @Theredheadguru Před 7 lety +27

    Yay she did my request 😊

    • @linzsweezy3204
      @linzsweezy3204 Před 6 lety

      Thank you it has been so helpful i have been with my boyfriend for a month

  • @emilycochran2297
    @emilycochran2297 Před 6 lety +9

    Thank you so much for making this. I’m so nervous for my boyfriend’s first deployment 😬

  • @HeyLisaKay
    @HeyLisaKay Před 6 lety +7

    This helped so much! My husband is deployed & the communication has been awful & we still got 6ish more months to go 😥

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety

      Oh no! Hope things get better! Glad I could help!

    • @elledove6031
      @elledove6031 Před 5 lety

      😔 aww how long do you usually wait in order to communicate with him again?

  • @chistinekamler210
    @chistinekamler210 Před 4 lety +1

    thankyou for sharing your videos on commuications opsec rules and the recalation for being careful with leave messages on his phone

  • @marthaarlenesanchez3316
    @marthaarlenesanchez3316 Před 4 lety +4

    missing my husband a little extra today :( thank you for your tips! 🤍

  • @Shae6utter
    @Shae6utter Před 5 lety +21

    It sucks im pregnant every time my husband deploys it’s so hard 😭.

    • @meganrasey4377
      @meganrasey4377 Před 5 lety +3

      I had our 3rd baby by myself this deployment. So hard. Praying for you!

  • @A02army
    @A02army Před 6 lety +35

    you absolutely need to talk about death if your husband is going to somewhere that death is an actual concern. He should have a will and maybe a list of things you need from him I.E my wife does not want my clothes washed after I die that is in my will. Because if your significant other dies they wash all of his stuff. And my wife wants something that “smells” like me. I don’t know why but I respect that. I stumbled upon this and I get the vibe this is your first deployment?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +9

      I think maybe this was misinterpreted. And I should have been more clear. Wills, etc. definitely need to be discussed before deployment. I was mainly talking about the death of family members, other bad news. The point was to go through the red cross/the chain of command for anything relating to death that isn't about you or him. Thanks for making this clear in the comments though for others who may have this question!

    • @A02army
      @A02army Před 6 lety +2

      Ok I gotcha sorry if I came off a little overzealous. Keep having fun blogging away!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +1

      No problem! Thanks!

  • @aienjamir89
    @aienjamir89 Před 5 lety +1

    I very much needed this one about the feelings... thanks..

  • @mimisvida6264
    @mimisvida6264 Před 7 lety +3

    Great info. My bae is scheduled to come back until October 2017. Which is forever to me.

  • @Alexys808
    @Alexys808 Před 6 lety +1

    This was so helpful! My bf is currently away for work and I’ve never had this conversation with him yet. Thank you!

  • @RedeemedbyYAHUSHA
    @RedeemedbyYAHUSHA Před 5 lety +9

    It hasn’t been a week yet and it’s crazy bcs I’m not clingy but omg this is hard😭😭😭

    • @babyblinkrose8938
      @babyblinkrose8938 Před 4 lety +1

      Amoré Baskin same here 😭😭been a month without hearing and seeing my partner

  • @MikeandJess
    @MikeandJess Před 6 lety +4

    Thanks for the vid! Going on our first deployment with my fiancé

  • @justmerosie1349
    @justmerosie1349 Před 6 lety +1

    Britt! Thank you for making these videos.
    I Think you're Awesome 💞💝

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +2

      Thank you! 😊Glad you like my videos!

    • @justmerosie1349
      @justmerosie1349 Před 6 lety

      My name is Rosie! I Will be writing to you soon. Ty 💞

  • @jennifermelendez3446
    @jennifermelendez3446 Před 7 lety +2

    This helps a lot thank you

  • @emilyspencer5738
    @emilyspencer5738 Před 7 lety

    This is really helpful thank you for posting this and the other videos they are so helpful

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 7 lety

      No problem! Glad they help(:

  • @shirleyc9122
    @shirleyc9122 Před 3 lety +1

    What if I screenshot the photo would that change the location to where I screenshot it?

  • @magalyquinones3424
    @magalyquinones3424 Před 3 lety

    Hi Brit I love your video cause it has educational for me

  • @samthomas8801
    @samthomas8801 Před 7 lety +7

    I'm seeing my boyfriend next weekend to see him graduate from navy basic training. What should I expect and prepare for when he leaves for advanced training?

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 Před 7 lety +6

      Sam Thomas My soldier just got done with basic this past weekend. He is in the ARMY so I am unsure if things are necessarily the same. What I do know, however, is that they'll have access to their technology. This means phonecalls, video calls, and emails. Don't expect to get one every single day. They are studying, working out, etc. in order to prepare themselves to both graduate and deploy. It'll be super tough not being able to touch them or go on date nights but the communication you get is so much better than you got at basic. Keep your chin up and make sure you ask plenty of questions to engage a conversation talking about him and your feelings.

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 Před 7 lety +6

      Oh, and don't text them all the time. I usually send him a cute good morning but leaving him 20 messages a day is a little much. Believe me, I want to send him everything so I understand. And, unlike basic, you can send them small packages. Make sure they meet the guidelines (look up dos and don'ts). In general, I send him my favorite books with little notes inside. He tells me when he's done and I'll send him another. We also send each other cool songs we found so the other person can listen. You can make it fun just keep in mind how busy and dedicated they are. :)

    • @samthomas8801
      @samthomas8801 Před 7 lety +2

      Thank you so much this was incredibly helpful!!! :)

    • @shadysound6456
      @shadysound6456 Před 7 lety +1

      I'm so glad I could help!! It'll be tough but so worth it for the one you love!

    • @samthomas8801
      @samthomas8801 Před 7 lety +4

      Yeah it's hard but then I remind myself that it'll be worth it!!

  • @popeyethesailorboy8905

    Her intro pumps me up and makes me laugh so much lmao

  • @tashacook2451
    @tashacook2451 Před 3 lety

    Thanks so much

  • @rosshaslett362
    @rosshaslett362 Před 7 lety

    you are so right

  • @michellekabiling5369
    @michellekabiling5369 Před 3 lety

    Thank you

  • @Sarah_1123.
    @Sarah_1123. Před 2 lety

    What kind of code? We had an idea but I think it’s kinda basic so any suggestions would be very helpful!

  • @lanettacoppins685
    @lanettacoppins685 Před 6 lety

    Thanks for the info

  • @charasmarieplans5889
    @charasmarieplans5889 Před 6 lety +3

    I’m getting couple red flags first he wants me to send him money I m trying so hard to avoid it and 2nd I ask him if I could send him a care package and he said oh I have everything I need like ok buddy I also meant him online...
    He also told me this will be his last deployment and he’s done...
    I already told him I will be waiting for him to come back to see if there’s anything there who knows with him... he also said his wife died and his mom is taking care of his kid I’m so confused 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @Amy-fg6in
      @Amy-fg6in Před 6 lety +6

      Charasmarie Plans do you know him in real life? It sounds like a scammer. They don't need money, at all. My husband is deploying soon and they get paid, their food there is free. Sometimes people from different countries will scam women for money claiming they're "deployed" and they're not, at all. Feel free to message me on Instagram if you have one. Mine is xo.AmySarah.xo

    • @Amy-fg6in
      @Amy-fg6in Před 6 lety +5

      Also these men are not in the military or American. It's just a scam for money. Don't ever send money please!

    • @deshongray
      @deshongray Před 5 lety

      @@Amy-fg6in help!!

    • @shortnik11
      @shortnik11 Před 5 lety +1

      I met one online. Never asked me for money but I can’t call her only messages.

    • @maryhemz671
      @maryhemz671 Před 5 lety

      @@shortnik11 Yes me too what does that mean? It's a scam help lol.

  • @devorahfriedlander9139
    @devorahfriedlander9139 Před 7 lety +2

    Brit, love your videos! Quick question, how does your husband tell you he is coming home? Is it through a phone conversation or do you use a code? Thanks

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 7 lety +3

      Devorah Friedlander Yes! He tells me in code! It can be phone or email but it always has to be in code.

    • @devorahfriedlander9139
      @devorahfriedlander9139 Před 7 lety +1

      Brit+Con So interesting! I never knew that.

  • @Kaylae864
    @Kaylae864 Před 6 lety

    I just watch it I grow up in the Military from my dad in the Air Force and now my husband in the Army

  • @aprilmurzo1149
    @aprilmurzo1149 Před 4 lety +1

    When they are deployed, do they use GMAIL emails when sending business email to their family or loved ones?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 4 lety +1

      They can, but usually it’s a military email!

    • @aprilmurzo1149
      @aprilmurzo1149 Před 4 lety

      Brit+Con Thank you! :)

  • @wilbertriceboduo6572
    @wilbertriceboduo6572 Před 6 lety +3

    Do you have a business or “fan email” we can reach you at for advice?

  • @sumandalal2175
    @sumandalal2175 Před 5 lety

    i love ur vedios helped me a lot

  • @tymiracle4093
    @tymiracle4093 Před rokem

    What's the song in the intro called? It's catchy

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před rokem

      I believe it’s Higher by Unspoken!

  • @taylorodell7444
    @taylorodell7444 Před 6 lety +1

    I will be a military wife in the next year or so.
    I just want to know how do you find out when they come back from deployment? Does your spouse tell you or?

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +1

      Yes, my husband told me. Usually, within a month he will know and also the FRG will have a meeting to tell everyone when they come home.

    • @taylorodell7444
      @taylorodell7444 Před 6 lety

      Brit+Con awesome! Your videos are really helping me with what to expect and how to prepare for my loved one being away!

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety

      Good! Glad I can help 😃

  • @sha9269
    @sha9269 Před 5 lety

    As a newbie, this does jack for me. No location... GOT IT! NEXT

  • @courtneyg.6485
    @courtneyg.6485 Před 3 lety

    So does it depend on where they go if they can have phones right? First time deployment and dating a military guy. I'm nervous.

  • @jordangalloway6605
    @jordangalloway6605 Před 7 lety +8

    Who thumbed down this video!?

  • @brittany136
    @brittany136 Před 6 lety +3

    I just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. This is our first deployment 🙁

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 6 lety +2

      You got this! Really encourage you to go through my deployment series. You are not alone ❤️

    • @meganrasey4377
      @meganrasey4377 Před 5 lety

      Our 400 days is finally on down slope. It's hard but you're amazing. Grace on grace with grace sauce for yourself, every day, every minute!

  • @cenexes12
    @cenexes12 Před 6 lety

    if your man is overseas fighting in a combat zone the best thing you can do is bottle that shit up and keep it to yourself and not cause him to be stressed out about your shit cause a fucked up cluttered mind in a combat area will lead to him getting injured or killed due to you stressing him out and taking him off his focus. Ladies if you have a problem and are angry then get into a fight with you family or friends but due not put your loved one in harms way by making them mentally unstable and unfocused because they are worried about your problems

  • @kayleenestrada3836
    @kayleenestrada3836 Před 6 lety

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @rochebingco8159
    @rochebingco8159 Před 7 lety +1

    hi guys.. I'm just want to ask.. I meet only him on dating site..and he told if he want me to meet him. I should apply a form for his deployment,but said I need to pay for his form..someone can say if it is true or not..please guys thanks

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 7 lety +3

      czcams.com/video/SjuSVfTNgRE/video.html watch this video and read some of the comments. Bottom line. Service members will never ask for money if they are real. They are lying to get money.

    • @rochebingco8159
      @rochebingco8159 Před 7 lety

      +Brit+Con hi its me again..its means he was a fake USA army,coz he said I need to pay his form for deployment,so I don't need to believe him,but he really said he was not a fake

    • @BritCon2
      @BritCon2  Před 7 lety +2

      Roche Bingco I would just end communication with him. He's not a good guy.

    • @rochebingco8159
      @rochebingco8159 Před 7 lety +1

      +Brit+Con OK thanks

    • @jeahbrings1300
      @jeahbrings1300 Před 6 lety

      can i ask bout transit form girl needed pay wroth of 200 dollars for deployment

  • @MakaykayLAMB
    @MakaykayLAMB Před 6 lety

    Wish I'd of watched this video before. Lmao.