How Richie Reseda Found The Courage to Choose Himself Over Patriarchal Prison Culture

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  • čas přidán 10. 03. 2021
  • #whatsunderneath #blackvoices #richiereseda
    To support Richie’s work to abolish prisons and patriarchy, please donate to Success Stories here: www.successstoriesprogram.org/
    Despite growing up in a world that told him from early childhood that he had to conform to the dark clothing colors and violent behavior of traditional masculinity, Richie’s colorful style and powerfully gentle spirit could not be crushed. The odds embedded in systemic racism were stacked against him from early childhood, as he noticed people fearful of him at 10 years old and was arrested for simply being late to class in grade school. Swimming against the tide of white supremacy ultimately led Richie to an arrest for robbing a pharmacy, a crime normally treated to a sentence of 2-6 years, which for him shockingly became an initial 150 years to life. But between the fervent support of the BLM organizing community and Richie’s unwavering faith in his authentic self, 7 harrowing years in the belly of patriarchal prison culture turned into a moment of vulnerable leadership and heroism.
    From prison, Richie launched Success Stories, an organization which provides “an alternative to prisons that builds safer communities by delivering feminist programming to people who have caused harm,” where he teaches toxic masculinity workshops to incarcerated young men. This vocation reduced Richie’s own prison sentence by introducing a bill that became Proposition 57, which allows inmates to earn time off of their sentence by going to rehabilitative programs like Success Stories.
    Today Richie is a prison abolitionist and feminist who visits prisons to speak about the psychological prison of patriarchy while wearing shades of pink and his favorite Hello Kitty shirts, courageously showing the world what real freedom looks like.
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Komentáře • 294

  • @oscarmosh
    @oscarmosh Před 3 lety +77

    I've learned in relationships to ask for what I want, and it's even ok if the other person says no, it doesn't mean I don't deserve it, just means is not gonna come from them.

  • @user-eh6md6bj2i
    @user-eh6md6bj2i Před 3 lety +103

    I love him 😭 What a kind, generous, thoughtful spirit he has. The US prison system is an abomination. I'm happy that people like Richie and so many others are fighting for change. I hope in my lifetime there'll be an enormous shift in how society treats the people who need help the most.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +3

      It really is an abomination. We hope so too.

  • @sjameswilson
    @sjameswilson Před 3 lety +51

    “They’re just fighting for the only love they get.” Daaaamn. Simple words to say such big truth. This is great.

  • @TheRealHermioneW
    @TheRealHermioneW Před 3 lety +272

    The beginning of his story is the most shocking to me. Imagine being arrested for playing rough and being late to class?! This is why cops don't belong in schools smh

    • @lordjoyous
      @lordjoyous Před 3 lety +7

      Right it’s so evil

    • @louisdewit4429
      @louisdewit4429 Před 3 lety +1

      Perhaps rough means beating some-one’s teeth out ? Perhaps even racist ? A white girl ? Just wondering.

    • @AliRaza-dc2yq
      @AliRaza-dc2yq Před 3 lety +10

      @@louisdewit4429 Your first assumption is that he beat a poor lil white girls teeth out??

    • @bobsalamone9798
      @bobsalamone9798 Před 3 lety +3

      @@AliRaza-dc2yq dude is clearly trolling. Try not to give people like that the satisfaction of your reacting, it’s what they’re after!

    • @withyoctopus
      @withyoctopus Před 3 lety +1

      My school experience was the polar opposite. Violence, destruction, abuse and no consequences because tHey aRe chILDren

  • @looli1327
    @looli1327 Před 3 lety +107

    What a powerful example of how choosing authenticity is transformative♥️

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      The ultimate!

    • @JusDion
      @JusDion Před 3 lety

      Is it authentic?

    • @JusDion
      @JusDion Před 3 lety

      It seems like instead of creating his own style he just decided to wear what is traditionally marketed towards women... Seems like most the comments are conditioned to nod their heads in agreement.

    • @mandachris7146
      @mandachris7146 Před 3 lety +2

      @@JusDion conditioned?? No. Clothes are genderless. Pink doesn’t mean it’s only for females. He’s authentic.

  • @toomuchEva
    @toomuchEva Před 3 lety +55

    The emotional awareness and intelligence... WOW!

  • @mikk5540
    @mikk5540 Před 3 lety +225

    Wow, I could listen to him for hours! The journey and the work he’s done (and are doing). It’s amazing!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +3

      So glad it resonated with you!

    • @petermartin2924
      @petermartin2924 Před 3 lety +1

      I am sure he could talk about himself non stop for about 48hours if you want

    • @mikk5540
      @mikk5540 Před 3 lety +10

      @@petermartin2924 I wouldn’t complain 😄

  • @JustJRR
    @JustJRR Před 3 lety +84

    He said some really profound things here. ❤🙏🏾

  • @hungeroflions
    @hungeroflions Před 3 lety +66

    Such an amazing story. "Justice" in North America is so so so broken. I see some people waking up, but there is so much education still to be done.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +2

      Agreed! Glad his story resonates with you

  • @BaileyDerby
    @BaileyDerby Před 3 lety +33

    what a miracle that he survived hell and used the experience to reach self actualization. incredible human

  • @marvinraphaelmonfort8289
    @marvinraphaelmonfort8289 Před 3 lety +55

    heartbreaking how the system is. glad people like richie are doing the work they do to change things. 🖤

  • @allenmaa7064
    @allenmaa7064 Před 3 lety +9

    "The change of events only God could write..." genius. You can see the boy in the man, not that he is immature - but he found again the brilliance and radiance he was meant to share with our world before his boyhood was interrupted.

  • @mariebakerlee2930
    @mariebakerlee2930 Před 3 lety +50

    He's awesome. I love how he folds his clothes.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +5

      SAME! Lover that you noticed that!

    • @mariebakerlee2930
      @mariebakerlee2930 Před 3 lety +3

      @@StyleLikeU1 So many of your interviewees just drop their clothes on the floor. He is extremely neat.

    • @ChelseaSpeak3
      @ChelseaSpeak3 Před 3 lety +5

      a lot of times that is a habit from prison. You can get punished for any kind of messiness, so it becomes a life or death situation to be neat. I hope he's just a tidy person though.

    • @minervagalvez4748
      @minervagalvez4748 Před 2 lety +3

      Prison Habit to fold clothes perfectly or else.

  • @serenity6831
    @serenity6831 Před 3 lety +91

    He seems like such a sweet soul, who's made great mistakes, as many of us have. I'm glad for everything they've done at Success Stories

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      we are too!

    • @gdubbs680
      @gdubbs680 Před 3 lety +1

      He's not the only sweet soul who's made mistakes. He's also a brave soul.

  • @picassofriend3289
    @picassofriend3289 Před 3 lety +23

    As a Black Man, my soul has been touch!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +2

      So happy this video resonated with you!💓

  • @samandros3451
    @samandros3451 Před 3 lety +11

    Smart young man. MANY more people need to hear this. Interesting that he refuses to use the word "bitch" even in this context.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you for supporting Richie and our channel!💗

  • @malcriada6508
    @malcriada6508 Před 3 lety +9

    I remember watching a clip of him in prison doing workshop about toxic masculinity. Happy to see him still fighting.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you for supporting him then and now. xoxo

  • @billymccaughey3741
    @billymccaughey3741 Před 3 lety +5

    Absolutely loved this young man. Only wish him the best of life. We all learn from our experiences, and grow. His words are powerful. Onward and upward ⬆️. ♥️

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So glad you enjoyed the interview❤️❤️Thank you for watching!

  • @cultoflaura
    @cultoflaura Před 3 lety +7

    This dude is awesome, and the work he's a part of is so so important. People like him give me hope.

  • @UKLeonie
    @UKLeonie Před 3 lety +12

    Listen dude is soooo on point, I SERIOUSLY am going to follow him for sure.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      He's incredible! As is his non profit, Success Stories!

  • @pluviophile._.j
    @pluviophile._.j Před 3 lety +9

    This message is so precious and he's so beautiful, especially the things he says. And I love the way he's folding his clothes :)

  • @leahhh95
    @leahhh95 Před 3 lety +11

    hes such a great story teller

  • @MrNobody-Nobody
    @MrNobody-Nobody Před 3 lety +6

    As an artist in India, having lived the experiences of Institutional discrimination, this Dude has all my love and respect. Also he is such a balm to our aching hearts under the weight of critical theory. I would definitely ask him out on a date ❤️😽
    Stylelikeu - loads of hugs and love and massive respect for your work. The world needs this. Wish you guys all the success and peace.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you so much, sending lots of love to you! ❤️

  • @anthonyprather1670
    @anthonyprather1670 Před 3 lety +6

    What an awesome Channel to come across! Richie is lovely, keen, and beautiful! Thank you for sharing your story Richie. People’s experiences are truly a wonder, and only they can live to tell about. Everybody’s journey must be appreciated.
    A happy day to all.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      Thank you and happy to have you here!! xo

  • @itsmehaley2
    @itsmehaley2 Před 3 lety +8

    This was such a powerful interview. Thank you for the work you do.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you for witnessing and receiving it!

  • @BakaNeBaka
    @BakaNeBaka Před 3 lety +7

    This is a great talk which isn't a TED talk... Simply brilliant and inspiring!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So glad you enjoyed! Thanks for watching. xoxo

  • @lmpierri
    @lmpierri Před 3 lety +5

    Dearest Richie,
    You are an amazing man doing amazing things.
    You have taken adversity and turned it into positivity.
    I'm sure that everyday you are somehow making great changes in people who thought that their lives could not be changed.
    You are a kind caring and loving soul and always remember this.
    I am proud of you and thank you for your true honesty. Keep doing what you do to bring out the best in us all.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      What a beautiful note! Thank you for sharing

  • @rkeller8141
    @rkeller8141 Před 3 lety +4

    He is an excellent and gifted teacher.

  • @EmEm872
    @EmEm872 Před 3 lety +1

    Smiles, Richie, thankyou for sharing and being your authentic self.

  • @cathybugdale8077
    @cathybugdale8077 Před 2 lety

    Amazing interview.....thanks for sharing

  • @christopherdamien2248

    Richie Reseda shares with us several very important realities regarding the world as it has so far functioned (against so many of us). As he removes his clothes to bare his body, he also removes from our eyes the oppressive and dehumanizing masks which we have been taught to wear (and which we have taken with us to our grave). A beautiful episode, a beautiful moment, a beautiful human being shining in authenticity, Thank you.

  • @keonnaknight3544
    @keonnaknight3544 Před 3 lety +6

    This was so beautiful! I'm inspired by his spirit.

  • @PatriciaMurphyatjoyz
    @PatriciaMurphyatjoyz Před 2 lety +1

    "Building trust in myself" Huge respect to you young man.

  • @Themis103
    @Themis103 Před rokem

    Oh this resonates profoundly. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @carlirabon
    @carlirabon Před 3 lety +17

    Incredible ✨

  • @mikk5540
    @mikk5540 Před 3 lety +16

    Opened the app at just the right moment 🥰

  • @tanzwearirenefajardo6378

    Amazing thanks for sharing and love you’re authentic self❤️

  • @vidalismi9658
    @vidalismi9658 Před 3 lety +1

    He’s so powerful and positive. An inspiration

  • @mzm2644
    @mzm2644 Před 2 lety +1

    Wowww I really enjoyed how he shared his story. And I love how authentic he is, it's oozing all over.
    It's sooo attractive when someone is this vulnerable and authentic!!! 😍

  • @micah5847
    @micah5847 Před 3 lety +2

    Everything he said was so true and so needed to be heard in our society.
    Also, hes an incredibly beautiful guy with great style and great hair.

  • @terriewigfall5793
    @terriewigfall5793 Před 3 lety +3

    This interview was OUT.STANDING. I was not expecting anything I learned from this profound young man! I hope he can take this video and use in his work. The level of knowledge - truly revolutionary explanations of toxic masculinity, patriarchy - prison culture - is very impactful.
    What he fleshed out about why is it that young people (boys/men) turn to violence and we call them "monsters" - that what they are doing is trying to get love acceptance from wherever they can - and they get 'props' from other violent men etc for stabbing someone, hurting someone. This hit me in a particular lightbulb way because here in Philadelphia we are having an epidemic of young teenagers executing other young teenagers (young black men in the median age of 16 yrs old) - dozens. At least 1 reported each day on the news. And we are all at a loss to understand WHY. This explanation from someone who 'been there done that' is such an impactful insight to the outside onlookers like me. Clearly there's 'dysfunction' and anger etc -- but the impetus of the killings or violence is an outworking of some other losses. There was a phrase coined for young white mass shooters -- 'crying bullets' - acts of inner pain taken out on the world. The young man in the film though really reaching inside the mind and thought process because he lived it and articulates so powerfully.
    This was truly an awesome interview.

    • @elisagoodkind7694
      @elisagoodkind7694 Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you for such a thoughtful comment, glad Richie resonated with you xo

  • @juliameier7179
    @juliameier7179 Před 3 lety +3

    Thanks for sharing! This gives me a shitload of hope :)

  • @ariesk1001
    @ariesk1001 Před 3 lety

    This is an amazing channel. I just found it today and I’m so moved by these stories❣️

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you so much!💞💞We're so glad you're inspired by the stories. Don't forget to share our channel with people you love to inspire!

  • @samanthablomberg2559
    @samanthablomberg2559 Před 3 lety +4

    Congratulations on getting that movement through what a great guy enjoy your time out you deserve it sending lots of love keep working hard

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      Thank you for supporting Richie! xoxo

  • @__CJLORRAINE__
    @__CJLORRAINE__ Před 3 lety +4

    Very dope. Such an inspiration. I appreciate the candor. Beautiful message. 🤎

  • @D_A_Marv
    @D_A_Marv Před 3 lety +1

    He has such a captivating story, and I admire how he placed his clothing so neatly.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      ❤️❤️ Glad you enjoyed Richie's story🥰

  • @FINEDIAMOND
    @FINEDIAMOND Před 3 lety +3

    This interview was awesome! Man, what a life he's lived. I hope things only get better for him here on out.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      Thank you for supporting us and
      Richie!💓💓

  • @karengrice2303
    @karengrice2303 Před 3 lety

    I appreciate him sharing his story. So many people are so insulated from these issues because they don’t grow up in these circumstances. This work is important so we can begin to understand each other because the world we live in today is extremely complex and has become highly dysfunctional.

  • @envogue1
    @envogue1 Před 3 lety +5

    Thank you for this shared this with many of my male friends. Truly inspiring 🙏🏾🙏🏾🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +2

      Thank you so much for sharing and for being here! xo

  • @MiniM69
    @MiniM69 Před 3 lety

    That first statement is the realist statement I’ve ever heard. Much love to this person!

  • @ritabarreiros1
    @ritabarreiros1 Před 3 lety +3

    Amazing as always

  • @micellecoetsee3483
    @micellecoetsee3483 Před 2 lety

    What a wonderful, inspirational video StyleLikeU. Thank you Ritchie for sharing your story with us and may you be blessed in the work that you are doing, empowering others and your journey forward.

  • @carynneary8792
    @carynneary8792 Před 3 lety +12

    Wow, just Wow!

  • @pimdorrison4258
    @pimdorrison4258 Před 2 lety

    This is so important, everyone should watch this.

  • @thefreemanworldexperiment

    This was an especially insightful interview.

  • @lindabonomi7274
    @lindabonomi7274 Před 2 lety

    AMAZING conversation, amazing guy!

  • @jayinjaypee
    @jayinjaypee Před 3 lety +2

    Amazing communication skills on this magnificent human ❤️

  • @gradualuprisintheory
    @gradualuprisintheory Před 3 lety

    These are such great stories. His is so palpable. Its heartbreaking. He managed to evolve from the difficulty and heartbreak and that is so beautiful.

  • @emmawende96
    @emmawende96 Před 2 lety

    It's amazing how strong and confident you are now

  • @richardkarnes5286
    @richardkarnes5286 Před 3 lety +1

    I found this interview pretty much by chance and I am so glad that I stopped and listened. I hope that millions of Americans listen to what Richie has to say. If only we could fill our world with more courageous, thoughtful, spiritually beautiful men like Richie.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So happy you loved his story and his spirit 💖 Thank you for watching!

  • @leilaperez7811
    @leilaperez7811 Před 3 měsíci

    Thanks!

  • @MyWorldofFragrance
    @MyWorldofFragrance Před 3 lety +14

    This is iconic 🌹

  • @geradessielsimon6000
    @geradessielsimon6000 Před 3 lety

    Honor to you! For you good works,your story-testimony,gives me hope-expectations for my time of being heard!
    Went through prison-programming,etc.
    Didn’t understand the “stripping “ those of the oppressive-mindset had you subjected to,yet you again,as a more noble-minded soul,showed yourself truly Blessed above them!
    Greater still your way-by CHRISTJESUS,The One Who makes you FREE!
    My love be with you in The Highest!!!

  • @katehipkin1039
    @katehipkin1039 Před 3 lety +3

    Really interesting and uplifting story. Also, really appreciate his style!😻

  • @valerienash6425
    @valerienash6425 Před 2 lety

    this is so beautiful

  • @peachiepoopsie9598
    @peachiepoopsie9598 Před rokem

    What a beautiful person, fighting for something truly meaningful. ♥️ I love how neatly he folded all his stuff too 🙃 so cute x

  • @N3VLYNNN
    @N3VLYNNN Před 3 lety +1

    Thank u for sharing. This means a lot to me.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So glad you were moved ❤️ Thank you for watching!

  • @dania7124
    @dania7124 Před 3 lety +1

    Amazing video love his energy and the way he speaks

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So glad you loved the video and Richie! xoxo

  • @donaldlomax9406
    @donaldlomax9406 Před 3 lety

    So encouraging

  • @blkdeus2596
    @blkdeus2596 Před 3 lety

    Subscribed! Loved his story and him!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      So glad you enjoyed the video!! Thank you for your support💗

  • @twentyfly9428
    @twentyfly9428 Před 3 lety +2

    I’m loving his style! 👏🏽

  • @iBRiDGE380
    @iBRiDGE380 Před 2 lety

    Amazing.
    To feel sad that other see's you as an offender. That was beautiful.
    For your journey sir, ...your strength an gentleness, ...thank you.

  • @wondergold100
    @wondergold100 Před 3 lety +2

    So good I had to watch this twice.

  • @jc2delaga
    @jc2delaga Před 3 lety

    Good for U. Keep learning and loving urself everything else will fall in place. U r meant to live this life to the fullest until the end!

  • @CelineAdobea
    @CelineAdobea Před 3 lety +2

    loove this 🙌🏾🙏🏾👏🏾

  • @freedomwhisperssusurrosdel604

    Hi, I love these videos! Wanted to let you know that the captions are off. Thank you!

  • @Polex12345
    @Polex12345 Před 3 lety

    Love this wonderful deep voice👍❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @fionasedgwick7424
    @fionasedgwick7424 Před rokem

    What a brave young man who is doing something to educate people on mysogyny.

  • @sterratogrecale9265
    @sterratogrecale9265 Před 3 lety +1

    Yes yes yes work that heart-shaped sunglasses! 🙌🏼

  • @nelcam20
    @nelcam20 Před 3 lety

    This guy’s story really moved me!... It also gave me a lot to think about!!... Man do we have to change the way we perceive each other!!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      We're so happy to hear Richie's story inspired you!💗

  • @mglennmyers
    @mglennmyers Před 3 lety

    Brilliant !

  • @wendysalter
    @wendysalter Před 3 lety

    What an interesting man. Early experiences often show us our path, our role, our purpose. Richie is fascinating to listen to.

  • @biancaleger4720
    @biancaleger4720 Před 3 lety

    Such an incredible story!!!

  • @trufrtc5
    @trufrtc5 Před 3 lety

    Hes truly inspirational

  • @kaleok
    @kaleok Před 3 lety +6

    beautiful, thank you. A salute to the trans folx and drag queens who bravely paved the way for others to wear what they want and live with more authenticity.

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      Yes! Thank you for this❤️❤️So glad you enjoyed.

  • @wendylbranchfield7959
    @wendylbranchfield7959 Před 2 lety

    Bravo, Richie!!!! Blessings to you in your life and work!!!! 👌🏽🙏🏼👏

  • @Gabriel-ud5hu
    @Gabriel-ud5hu Před 3 lety +24

    I gotta say it this man is fine as hell. When he took his shirt off i made effort to concentrate on what he was saying lol

  • @monicafirestone2168
    @monicafirestone2168 Před 3 lety

    I appreciated that he folded his clothes so neatly. He is beautiful on the inside and outside.

  • @pinkkalisa
    @pinkkalisa Před 3 lety

    What a truly amazing man

  • @DoveDaniels
    @DoveDaniels Před 3 lety +1

    this is phenomenal...

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      Thank you for supporting us and Richie!💖

  • @Sarah-gj3op
    @Sarah-gj3op Před 3 lety +1

    Hey, the closed captions get funky at around 1:30. TY! 💗

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety +1

      We’re looking into it! Thanks for alerting us

  • @jasminerosewater3891
    @jasminerosewater3891 Před rokem

    His story about his first days out made me cry

  • @supboi5248
    @supboi5248 Před 3 lety

    Whan an amazing human being❤

  • @beyedoc
    @beyedoc Před 2 lety

    What an amazing human being

  • @hannewb
    @hannewb Před 3 lety +7

    wow this was an amazing interview!!! more abolitionists please @StyleLikeU , this is what we want and need to see!

  • @rigby37
    @rigby37 Před 3 lety

    What a great story and amazing person!

    • @StyleLikeU1
      @StyleLikeU1  Před 3 lety

      we're so glad you enjoyed and yes, he is!

  • @AlysOdyssey
    @AlysOdyssey Před 5 měsíci

    Beautiful soul 💞

  • @dondi2129
    @dondi2129 Před 3 lety +1

    Dope story. Cool tattoos.. nice style!

  • @jessieollinger
    @jessieollinger Před rokem

    Wow wow wow ❤️🔥❤️🔥🙏 so powerful 🐉🙌

  • @yes_anotherone3260
    @yes_anotherone3260 Před 2 lety

    His experience describes the school to prison pipeline. So many of our systems don't give us a chance.