How to Never Run out of Things to Say - Keep a Conversation Flowing!
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Are you trying to have a conversation with your crush or anyone else you may be nervous around and struggle with coming up with things to talk about? In this video we will give you a simple method to rely on when you fallback to small talk. There are 4 main small talk examples that will lead you to a better, more interesting conversation with anyone. Learn how to never run out of things to say with the FORD Method.
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F: Family
O: Occupation
R: Recreation
D: Dreams
The simplicity of these four topics can be used to start and keep a conversation going with anyone, anywhere. I know a lot of my audience struggles with social awkwardness and especially with people that are attractive, but with some practice, you’ll get great at resorting to these. Small talk can be especially awkward if there is no direction of it. The FORD method will give you a sense of direction to ensure the conversation flows smoothly! Special thanks to ImprovementPill for this amazing video!
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"so what's your occupation?"
"no, you're supposed to start with family"
"... oh, right, okay"
+kirjian xD
ecks dee
kirjian lol man!😂
😂😂😂😂 omg!
😂😂
You know you've met the right person when you can be silent and not feel pressured to chatter away mindlessly.
Truth!
thank god someone else thought it, most of these topics are off limits for strangers anymore honestly no one wants to talk about their family with randos…..
It's a different context, the video is about stranger
[Pulp fiction]
....
Facts
"Im a teacher"
"When I was younger, I wanted to become a teacher, theres something fullfilling in inspiring others"
"Oh, then why didnt you?"
"Cause thats a lie, I cant stand children"
Going great so far
it actually might work lol
lmao
How many of your siblings did you teach recreationally?
That's a great line tbh. If I were that woman I would laugh out loud and appreciate your humor and your attempt to create rapport despite you hating my job
Hack: don't lie, and say you respect it and how you assume it's very fulfilling... The trick isn't to be a fake spineless nice guy lol
Me: Titanic.
Person: What?
Me: Sorry, not a good ice breaker.
lol perfect ice breaker
Not A Potato haha
Not A Potato The struggle is real😂
Not A Potato 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Not A Potato ahahahahaha LMFAOOOO made my day
haahahah
imagine this:
youre on your first date with a girl. its the middle of the night. youre wearing all black. youre in a empty street and you ask her: is there something you wanna do before you die?
Moon Emoji
😂
Moon Emoji Yea lol
then you both hear "death comes"
Yolostabber99 *in Reapers voice*
First date?
That's my ice-breaker line.
Me, watching this to figure out how to make friends at work:
"So, what do you do for a living?"
"...Bro, we're both here."
Then talk about bigger like there dreams in the future
How'd that project go your team was working on? Are you still having to suffer through that long inefficient process your team had? Etc
Imagine approaching a random person and say "You see that guy over there? He really reminds me of my older brother, who's always energetic and not afraid to let loose. I feel like older sibling are all like that. Do you have any siblings?" By the end of this line, person will be gone already.
Not only that, you made your brother sound more interesting than yourself. Haha
@@pooroldlu W wingman
That line sounded like something an AI would say.
"Hey do you see that guy over there?"
"Yeah"
"I see him too we both have Good eyes"
“Hey do you luke to sleep”
She : “umm yes? I guess”
“Cool! Me too lets sleep with each other tonight”
@@neilnair5388 i could deadass use this thanks
Really lolli PUP
Whose eyes are prettier, yours or mine?
this is something i would actually say
I find "what's something you'd like to do before you die" is best asked on night strolls through the woods or near a secluded lake.
swiftrian nope nope nope
This particularly happened to me last summer when I went camping with 2 girls on an island on a lake, when one of them asked me what I'd like to do before I die, I said some stupid shit, but when I asked her what she'd like to do she said «to make love one last time»...
Hahahaha!
Bad Badger kllljjk no hi
Just tried this on a kayaking trip in the everglades and she jumped out of the boat.... So, I guess there is a bad place to ask this.
The most important thing to know is that you don't have to always be the one keeping the conversation going. If you're the only one asking questions theres a big chance the other person simply doesn't want to talk to you, so go find someone who does, you'll have a much better time.
Unless you are in customer service where you are practically forced to talk no matter what.
Most accurate comment I have ever seen
The problem is when you literally never encounter anyone who takes any interest in you and wants initiate or continue a conversation with you beyond the absolute minimum
I get what you're saying, but I also think just because someone isn't conversing much with you doesn't always mean they're not interested. As an introvert I hate it when people I genuinely like assume that I don't like them.
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986I feel that on such a personal level, I always try to make conversation but I get the most bland responses and it never seems like they are interested
It absolutely blows my mind that some people can just do all of this naturally. It's a painstaking thought process for me every time, and I end up relentlessly focusing on how to have a conversation instead of listening and actually remembering what the person is actually saying.
I'm not that skilled in conversations either, but I think I probably just need to let myself experience it more so I can get used to the nuances. I have heard the skill of conversing compared to the skill of speaking in a language, and I think that is somewhat of an accurate comparison because it's kinda something you have to get used to. A baby learns language through its exposure to it, and I think the skill of conversation works somewhat similarly, so if you haven't had a lot of experience with it in the past, you might have to let yourself spend more time with it to be able to learn the things that work and the things that don't.
If you’re in the occupation mode, I’ve asked “What is the biggest problem in your job?” Be careful because you might get someone who just goes off venting, but you might ask them about solutions they’ve tried. If they haven’t tried any, maybe you’re just talking to a complainer.
Fr
read robert green’s “laws of human nature” it’ll help u focus on the person who’s talking instead of focusing on urself
I feel that. I have moments where I overthink absolutely everything and hyperanalyse myself to my core in order to create/refine my mental frameworks for reconciling with my immediate reality and the nature of existence... My anxiety can make social interactions difficult at times
-You look like you come from a big family
-Why? Cause I'm black?
* Awkward silence *
In that case, you're screwed, there's no way out. lol
Not at all. Just reply "No, because I stalk you on Facebook."
Mordal1222 you're right, she will be amazed by your charm
no, because ur mother and father are black
U are fine on the other hand
Me: "Hey, want a drink?"
Girl: "Uh. No, thanks..."
Me: "Wow, you know when I was younger I always wanted to buy drinks for strangers. There's something about gifting others that's very fulfilling!"
Girl: "I-"
Me: "You look like you're from a big family!"
juliettokki I spit out my drink when I read this cause I laughed too hard
Luna Lovely Me 3 wtf Xd
rofl
juliettokki 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 kill me
I'm crying, I can't stop laughing!!!
Really, the key to any successful engagement is to actively listen to the person. They'll leave you "ins" all the time consciously or subconsciously. Attentive listeners will pick up on those openings and jump in.
The issue isn't that people are unattentive, but that they just don't have enough experience in talking to strangers and get overwhelmed by overthinking. With practice they can get more used to talking to strangers, but there needs to be a starting point, these videos help people get a foothold in conversations in the beginning of their self improvement journey and after a while when they get more comfortable, conversations become much easier.
But how do you actually keep it going is my question. You ask a question, they answer....you nod and say cool...now what?
@@arronprestwich2813 easy enough. Make a habit to reply with something more interesting than a nod and cool. Express an opinion or change the topic. Fr all it takes is a willingness to listen and to express your own thoughts, and a little bit of practice to wrap it all together
"There's nothing stronger than family"
- Dom
'My family is dead, is your family dead?'
leneay bro 😂😂😂
leneay 😂😂
Clorox Bleach hey didn't u leave a comment on a vid about that guy responding to feminist questions saying "feminist drink me" 😂😂
are you Sasuke?
Mathew SHURTLEFF_thunderridge yes especially when i was younger i always wanted them gone there's something about a dead family thats very fulfilling
Her: I support gay rights.
Me: (trying to impress her) I'm gay.
This is genius.
CRYINGGG
Ha ha ha, This is crazy
Gustavo Gutierrez never laughed so hard omg this comment goes so many ways
Dude...!
Thanks CZcams for recommending me this video, this was the best comment section i have seen
My four favorite topics to discuss with people I’ve just met….divisive politics, bathroom misadventures, religion and spiders. Works like a charm 👍
"What's something you'd like to do before you die?"
Now THAT's a killer conversation starter!
HAHA that is what I was thinking. Go up to girl in a bar, "What would you like to do before you die." *Intense stare*
*holding her arm firmly*
Mario Habijanec i was at the photograph and i needed just 1 picture it took like 2 minutes, before i paid she asked me what my dream is, well it was pretty awkward indeed
Mario Habijanec , I say gangbang and they run away so fast 😂😂😂
Mario Habijanec you literally killed me bra :DDDDD
I imagine me with the Family topic like:
Me: Do you have Kids?
Stranger: No.
Me: Want some?
baseleader 😂😂😂😂
baseleader you deserve a Nobel !
baseleader what are the kids pricetags
That's a pick-up line an old Bollywood movie. Guy to girl - "I wish to have a few cute kids of my own. Would you like to be their mom?"
Stranger: Not with you creep!
I like how this format is slightly reminiscent of a past, present, to future progression. Talk about your family (past), work and hobbies (present), and dreams (future).
Remembering it this way seems to work for me.
The best advice I have is to only say positive things and just talk about the first thing that comes to your mind. The main reason that people run out of things to say is that they are deleting what not to say in their heads. The more you think about it the more you are overthinking. If they don't like you they don't like you, who cares. It took me forever to figure this out.
First thing coming to mind with Person A: "Wow, your hair is so long. Have you always kept it that way?"
First thing with Person B: "I see you are wearing a red shirt. Red really stands out. Do you like wearing red more than other colors?"
First thing C: "Ah, petite build, yeah, I definitely relate to the slender element. Do you have a petite family too?"
First Thing D: "I suffer from social anxiety and don't know what to say sometimes, but I got advice to just say the first thing that comes to mind. What do you think?"
I'll tell you: All four likely think I'm a freaking creep. Word spreads at the company, school (especially school), org, group, etc., and now after probably even just two or three of these four interactions I'm toast socially and conceivably in my career progression, academic rep, etc.
The point of not overthinking is valid, but underthinking is most definitely much worse.
@@closethockeyfan5284 Lol I mean even if you said that they would probably think you were just being funny. But yeah maybe let them start to conversation then respond with the first thing if you are way out there like that lol.
Thanks for the advice peenhead9938
"So you got family ?"
"I hate them."
"Oh... hum what do you do for a living ?"
"I'm unemployed."
"And what do you want to do ?"
"Nothing."
"Like... No occupation ?"
"I sleep a lot."
"So any particular dream ?"
"Yes, of going back to bed."
Kotuko Halliday
Using the same method that proved that fire burns I guess
This is my life.
"Haha that's interesting, I love to sleep too...what I enjoy more about sleeping is sleeping with someone next to me, want to sleep together tonight?" "I'd love too". *Boom* it's that simple
yuch1102 it would turn her on more if you said you should get off your lazy ass and get a job and some goals n dreams n shit ya little brat. they love those tought father types cuz theyre so rare these days.
well I will reply, "yeah, I had those dream of constant waking up and I'm still dreaming, it's so confusing"
My life is one long awkward silence.
...sooooo........yeeeeeeah......................
you can talk to me if you want :).
Oh and btw, i hope this comment section will be full of animal profiles, me and other guys actually did it before, an animal kingdom~!
that got wierd quick
weird ass m'fers
Same.
This is one of the best conversation guides I’ve ever seen on YT! Well structured, easy to follow, concrete topics suggested!
Just had a convo with a girl 4 days straight. Thank you
90% of my conversations:
Me:"HI"
girl:"get the fuck out of here"
Yasuo no wonder man you are yasuo, if i was a girl i would also tell you to fuck off. *annoyed mumbling about yasuo mains*
Santino Rubano fuck yas mains xdxd
yasuo mains smh
That girl has some strange grammar.
Yasuo lmaooooo
Best conversation starter:
"Who did you vote for?"
Fuzzy Noodle no no no no no no no no no no no
well I don't live in america so no...haha
Fuzzy Noodle It'll start a conversation, alright.
I'm not from America, too. But when I met some new America friends, I did asked them that. Lol it worked. Thanks Trump for that.
That has 2 sides for me. Either I get along very well with the person or I'll look at them the same way again. If there was a third one it would be: get away from me.
As someone with ASD who has a tough time with social interaction/small talk, this was really helpful!
“Do you have any siblings?”
“No”
“Do you ever wish you had one?”
“Well I’ve always wanted a brother; maybe you can help with that”
*dies inside
😆
oh man this is underrated HAHA
Bangs her mum
"Sure thing!"
(proceeds to date her mom instead)
Interview mode is the worst when you catch yourself doing it, you know you fked up bad.
relafen66 The best way to get out of it is to shift your thinking. Instead of asking them about facts, ask them about perspective. For example, in the teacher scenario they gave, you, as a (presumably non-) teacher could benefit from their unique perspective on adding/taking away the arts, common core, etc. I met an old man with a no-till farming hat on, and asked him to explain the process. Even if they're ranting about something, it means you're paying attention to something they care about, listening when they have a lot to say, and you'll learn something in the process.
don't hate yourself for it, sometimes it can mean that the person you're talking to isn't very engaged in the conversation and doesn't know how to hold one properly, they should ask questions back so they are breaking up the monotony of one person asking them
Neb88. I don't like when people ask me about my occupation it is very annoying and boring to talk about work all the time with new people
Overhearing a date go into interview mode is awkward enough for me to take my coffee outside : |
Neb88 fuck I do it a lot.
So I started with "you look like you come from a big family." She said "Not all Mexicans do." Then I panicked and remembered your advice and asked "What do you want to do before you die?"
Long story short I got a restraining order and think I'm on some sort of list now...
Angel Blkraptor lol
Lmao 😂
Angel Blkraptor LOL!
Angel Blkraptor HAhahaha Cant stop laughting bro
lmfaooo
Why are you recommending this to me, CZcams? If you’re implying my people skills are trash… you’re gosh-darn right.
Some people find "What do you do for a living?" actually an offensive question. Especially if they are someone like a housewife, are unemployed, or don't like talking about their job, you're basically forcing them to say "nothing" or talk about a topic they hate, which then again makes them feel bad.
ME: “Hey what’s wrong”
Her: “My Dog Died the other day”
Me: “Yeah they do that”
haha theodd1sout reference
Me:I would say what really when?
Her: Today about a hour ago
Me: do u mind if I ask how
Her: yes I mind
Comments beat video lol
omg 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"it be like that sometimes"
"You look like you come from a family."
Bruce Wayne unlike you, Bruce Wayne
"You look like you come from a mother"
"What up girl? Is it just me or are you alive...??"
LMFAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I just lost it laughing
So far, this is one of the best channels that I have learned a lot from. I'm also in the field in Psychology (still in school) and very fascinated about the human mind and behaviors. Great job!
I find one of my biggest turnoffs is people who almost immediately ask what you do for a living as soon as they meet you or very quickly after a few other questions. I prefer someone who says something about me personally (positive of course) or ask me about hobbies and other interests I have outside of work. These are the basis friendships and relationships are really based on. People who ask what you do for a living in my eyes are usually those who have no life or really any interests outside of work, those trying to impress you with their hi status job/career or gold diggers looking for a potential mate with 💸 to support them in an extravagant lifestyle.
That guy over there has a social security number, my brother also has a social security number. What is your social security number?
this comment deserves more likes
Jackie Jikariti dkm
Jackie Jikariti i'm dying :'D
Jackie Jikariti it 10296105
I laughed way too hard at this XD
Me: look at that guy over there he reminds me of my brother with autism.
Her: That is my boyfriend...
Me: So what is your dream
Wander Nauta these comments are getting me DECEASED 😂😂😭😭
I have now become *NEUTRALIZED*
Lmao
yo wtf I'm dead 😂
Wander Nauta LMFAO
And always remember to laugh with them, I feel like any conversation is better if you’re both laughing and smiling, even if it’s super deep.
Ask them something about themselves if you can't think of anything else. Everyone's favorite topic is to talk about themselves. This will give you other things to ask questions on as they are talking
Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: I'm good, how are you?
Me: I'm great, how about you?
*Mission Failed*
iver omg hahaha
oh hell nahhh
Mission failed, we get em' next time!
I've done this before while delivering pizza. Shit was awkward as hell
H
Me: "Hey, have we met?"
Girl: "I don't think so."
Me: "That guy on the dance floor reminds me of when my older brother tried to quit his occupation but dialed the wrong phone number. Do you have a phone number?"
Benjamin Hershey I see what you did there 😈😈
smooth af
Benjamin Hershey e
that's a pretty good tactic to pickup bitches yeasah
loool
I'm very bad at social, like really bad. But one thing I noticed that works is trying to understand the other person. So like why questions, how they think, their thoughts on a matter. It makes the other person feel like you care about them which in turn makes them care about you. It also helps alleviate some of the boredom I feel with casual surface level conversation.
3:10 Never ask a teacher "What school do you teach at?" unless you want to get corrected. Instead, ask "At what school do you teach?" Better yet, "Where do you teach?" You never end a sentence with a preposition.
me: hey how are you
girl: you watched that youtube video didnt you
happens all the time
LOL xD
I read this and instantly said "Oh shit"
Hahahaha awesome
Rule lol... Don't ruin this for me😁
Boy: Do you like dogs
Girl: Yes, I like them
Boy: My dad is a dog
*China would like to know your dog's location*
Cryo Gaming mr peabody and sherman
Most underrated comment of all time
So.... Who let the dog aut??
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Who....and he ate it
Don't get it
"you look like you come from a big family"
sounds like a clean way of saying their mum sleeps around.
Now that I'm a little older, I can make small talk upon first meeting someone or several people, but what I have trouble with is the next time I see them or the time after that or after that. Unless there is genuinely something interesting to talk about (like at work with coworkers), I just feel like a salesman.
*girl crying because she found out she was adopted*
"Do you wish you had a family?"
Dam
dark mate, love it
Usually orphans are happy they are adopted..
Lmao
JAjskaja
This video has the funniest comment section ever.
Agreed.
+Ur Boi so true 😂
Ur Boi lol have you read the comment section in ansel elgort's music video thief?
True.
I knew that before watching the vid
This was a really great video! It was concise but full of meaningful commentary. I am hoping to engage in better conversations in general, and I am using the sauna at the public pool to chip away at some of the rust on my interpersonal skills!
if you dont have friends, you dont need to keep a conversation going 👍
another win for me!!1!!!!!!
Me: So do you like rock climbing?
Her: I'm leaving and I'm taking the kids.
Me: I like rock climbing too
Bling Money 😂😂😂😂
This comment is waaaay too underated 🤣
Karen stop!
HAHA
tHis iS nOT a mEMe, tHeIRe mY kIDs toO
"Why do you think I come from a big family?"
"Because you're brown."
Washy Rose that was great 😂😂😂😂
I like, Hey you look like you come from a family that is responsible for western imperialism and the destruction of humanity.
thank you for the tears :D
+David Monroy
Honestly, if a single family was responsible for all that, there would probably be a lot of interesting stories to tell. It would be like Extra History's interpretation of Walpole times a thousand.
like the rothchilds?
I needed this for talking to certain people. Sometimes it'll start out great, and then end awkwardly, because I didn't frame it right.
These videos are helping me open up to other people. Thanks a lot.
Me: “You look like you come from a big family.”
Her: “Why would you say that?”
Me: “Because you’re big, and big people tend to be obese which can be genetic.”
Her: “Obesity doesn’t run in my family...”
Me: “No one runs in your family.”
Last line killed me deader than a dead man. lmfao 😆😆😆
Lmfao
Hahaha goood one xD
AHAHHA
Broo😂😂😂😂😂
Person A: "What's your family like?"
Person B: "I'm an orphan"
*Awkward silence*
Hey look someone who's as bad at conversation as me!
"Hey I've always wanted to be an orphan! What do you enjoy about it?"
"When did you decide to be an orphan?"
Omg I laughed so hard at this
I like the TANK method.
Thankfulness
Appreciation
New Changes
Kind Encouragement
Like most of these life hack type vids, there are some things you need before you start. For these tips to be applicable you have to have already initiated a convo and apply them as soon as the convo starts to die down.
See that guy sitting over there? Yeah haha my brother always sits, how often do you sit?
Ahahahahhahaa
whats your favourite position when sitting? mine is when i sit on half of the chair so i can fart comfortably.
OK this is too funny
I think I legitimately will use this. It's funny.
TheMeggow I sit all the time...on the couch and watch CZcams videos
Me: why do you like rock climbing so much?
Her: idk
Me: k
Brandon Johnson instead ask what got you into rock climbing? how long have you been into rock climbing?
Davide Zamblera Interview mode is when you ask questions consecutively ...
ahahahah
Should've played around a bit and said: "Aw come on! There's a reason for everything!"
Brandon Johnson ikr, then u have Nothing to say anymore and i dont like it lol
I wasn't afraid about getting lost of running topics in conversation. But I had started one relationship where she was initially very interested in me and she got into relationship with me. But there were many awkward silences in the later stage. Mostly we didn't had much of anything to talk about, and she left me for that. And sometimes I believe it's my problem and I was the one because of which we didn't had topics to talk and now it is one of my worst fears of not having things to talk. Even tho I'm able to talk for long with my best friends:)
this is the first actual helpful video on how to talk to someone, thanks!
Me: "Have you ever thought of becoming an artist?"
Her: "WTF. Who are you and how did you get into my house?!"
I love the comment section 🤣
Sounds like my average date night.
God bless
Damn dawg!
Yeah. That how did you get in my house a question always derails my conversations. I like to start out with " hey, does this pair of boxers smell like chloroform?).
and avoid the RAPE method:
R: Religion
A: Abortion
P: Politics
E: Economics
Demethus give this man Nobel piece of prize
That's what I delve straight into lol. Anything controversial makes for good conversation to me. Plus it's a fast way to see if you align with them on a lot of issues.. they will come up sooner or later.. easier to be with someone who you can get along with in these areas.. my partner and I happened to be on the same page with all of it.. But yea most people don't enjoy that and prefer to avoid it for as long as possible and avoid it even then, especially on the first few dates or hangout sessions.
Edit over 6 years later:
Coming back to this, these are actually EXTREMELY important topics that should be addressed well before getting into a relationship with someone.
Then after that, they can be perfectly fine and enjoyable topics (keeping in mind what the other person enjoys talking about, but with relationships it does need to be addressed).
at least these topics wouldn't make me fall asleep immediately ;)
Demethus I love talking about religion and politics when a boy talks about these I find him immediatly interesting
Demethus and also the rape itself
Well.... I had no idea about this method but I am glad to know I do this naturally anyway! Now I know why people say I am very easy to talk to! The Dreams thing is the biggest one as well... thats when they change from mildly interested to... wow... this guy would make an amazing supportive partner.
Thank you for sharing these knowledge so that I could finally ask strangers about their social security number and credit card info! Much appreciated
im going to assume this is where all the overthinking introverts gather.
Me too.
Haha then i'm one of them
hey there, nice to meet you 👋
Do you have a big family
Well hello there 😂
hello wassup
Me: "You look like you're from a big family!"
Her: "My family is dead"
Me: "Cool, like Sasuke's family"
LMAO xD
Jacob Avraham XD!!!
HAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAAHA
Jacob Avraham omg lmfao!!!!
You sir, made my fucking day.
This video has helped me so much over the years. Thanks!
This is one of the most hilarious comment sections I’ve ever seen
Her: *Breathes*
Me: “So you like oxygen too?”
Lmfaoooo
"We have so much in common".
Nah I like nitrogen mixed with my oxygen
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
me: you look like you come from a big family
girl: why do you think that
me: I have to go the bathroom
That's actually a good and fun way to keep the conversation
Me: Because you're on the chunky side, so your family probably have similar diets to you, fatass
😭
iNathh oh my gosh 😂
e.i mccool HAHAHAHAHA LMAO
"What do you like to do?"
"I like summer days on my yacht!"
"Ah that's cool! I would looove to have my own yacht."
"It IS cool! I worked hard for it!"
"What's something you'd like to do before you die?"
"Wh-"
The key to any convo being successful is having a goal. Asking her out on a date, just saying hi, encouraging, etc. You need a plan in my opinion. Without it its just a conversation.
i usually break the ice by slipping and falling straight on it
I shoot it'
with my gun
GUNS
"i have hypothermiaa"
I just go straight in there with a conversation about the fundamental absurdity of our transient existence. Death unites us all.
sound fun :)
That is so me.
Albeit usually, it's just me, having those conversations with my own conscience
Andy Brice
We were like you
and
You will be like us
Note of dead ones
Dark Bear Didn't they used to have that written at the entrance to graveyards?
Andy Brice
I don't know, I don't live in place where english is spoken
I also don't go to graveyards very often
Thanks for making this video. I was quite sad but then i started reading these comments and i had never laughed so hard while being alone before ever. This comment section is a laughter pill.
By the way , do you have a family?
I'm autistic and I just found out I've been following most of the tips in this video all by myself for a long time. Good to know my insight is really good haha
Me: “How’s your day been?”
Her: “Good, wbu.”
Me: “Same.”
Silence
Good, wbu?
@@SS-lv6to then it Just Repeats in Circles XD
Im good. how about you?
Oh im good. And you?
Im doing good? What about you?
Your issue is one-word answers. I know it's hard, but try elaborating more on how you feel or why you think a certain thing. Even though it's risky, a good quality conversation and even relationship could come from it!
@@vantablack4079 It's actually not even risky. You literally have nothing to lose. Worst case scenario you'll feel a little discomfort for a moment if things don't go as you'd hoped, but so what? That's nothing.
Me
Saying something stupid like "You look like you come from a big family", will make it obvious that you're trying to make small talk, and terrible at it. Like when a bad salesman is trying his rehearsed pitch and you know where it's headed even before he finishes his first sentence.
MadPotty01 exactly, these tips are for small talks.
Daniel Chang Yeah but he means small talk that makes you want to never talk to that person again. You want to have an interesting conversation, not something boring that's the same bullshit that you get asked by random people that you don't give a shit about. And those lines make the conversation sound forced, as much as this video is trying to be helpful.
who even wants to hear that? I look like I come from a big family? what, do I look like i was raised without enough money or attention? cheers mate
Yeah but on the other hand, you can ask a seemingly dumb question that then starts a chain reaction of new conversation topics. Sure, maybe that sounds a bit contrived, however everything you say doesn't need to be some amazing, deep, thoughtful shit.
This whole video would make your convo sound like a rehearsed and stilted sales pitch tbf...
mostly i'm a quiet person but with right people that makes me feel comfortable i can be talkative and things come to my mind to say and enjoy two-side conversation...in my country nobody likes to talk about their family or mostly about their jobs and they take it offensive..i think all around the world people can find different ways to comunicate with each other.
I've always heard, make the conversation about the other person. You added to that a little bit, with the idea of focusing on them, but adding your own quips in between questions to add to the conversation and make it feel more natural. Like when you were describing rock climbing, it is still focused on the other person but you added the detail of "I have always found that interesting"
I usually open with "I bet I could body you at Mario Kart"
Sex immediately follows.
anjun Hahaha
I love to body people at Mario Kart.
bad sex lol
How is "body" a verb? And who's this Mario Kart?
mustang6172 "body" is shorthand for "send them home in a bodybag," used to describe a crushing defeat, usually in a fighting game, but other communities have picked it up.
*Guy having a heart attack
Me “is anyone here a doctor”
Girl “ I am”
Me “My dad is also a doctor we have a lot in common”
Girl “He’s dying-
Me “That guy over there reminds me of my older brother he also has a heart”
Girl “….”
Me “You look like you come from a big family”
Last line was gold 🤣
😅😅😅
😂 and with this situation, you now have a story to tell.
Lol
🤣🤣🤣
the way you explained is just simple but its usually so informative and very useful I guess for an introvert like me thanks a lot :)
Great pro tips ! Thank you for the video!
Me: "Hey, that guy on the dance floor doesn't remind me of my brother, because I don't have a brother. Do you also not have a brother?"
Her: "uhh, no?"
Me: "Do you ever wish you didn't not have a brother?"
me: because I can make that happen *pulls out pocket knife*
Onion Cutting Ninja such a gentleman are you serial killer that aspire by the president action and words and also play video games, I have same tension you should keep on your dream
@@SaltoDaKid man, would've made a great sarcastic comment if it wasnt on a two month old dark sattire comment and I could actually understand a thing u said
This comment is my favorite 😂
Out of every one this is best hahaha
Hey guys, Practical Psychology here and I am super pumped.."
I then proceed to mute the video and scroll down to the comments where I end up laughing my fucking ass off
+Alex Landeros oh man I know 😂
Alex Landeros I'm doing a giveaway , who do you think should get the Rolex
717 Mercedes Oh, I want the "Rolex" that you don't even have.
Alex Landeros yes exactly😂😂😂
Alex Landeros i feel you man xD
Silence isnt awkward, it shows the person is appropriately analyzing my last bit of speech and fomring a response based on my whole message, when i get too fast replies it implies the other person is thinking more of their part of the convo then what im saying. It should be 50/50
Love this mahn
"Are you a jew?"
works every time.
Flashoons
"Are you a jew?"
"Yes why do you ask?"
"Because you're flamin' hot"
Nah Preston you gotta lure them into a false sense of security before going /pol/tard on them. Say something like "My granddad died in Dachau." Then when they respond to it you say something like "yeah, his superior officer had him shot because he got caught fucking one of the prisoners."
***** 😭😭😭
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What happens if they say yes?
Me: nice shoes.
girl: thanks
me: ......
*End of conversation*
MrMark940 dude, "nice shoes" isn't exactly a good conversation starter. This one's your fault.
MrMark940 scott pilgrim refference?
"What brand are they?"
"Are they comfortable?"
"Is that your favorite color?"
"What could've happen
"What brand are they?" / are you blind?
"Are they comfortable?" /duuuh why you think i'm wearing it
"Is that your favorite color?" / why you interrogating me, gtfo!!!
Do you realise how much of a fatal damage that could be?
Me: Nice shoes.
Girl: Thanks.
Me: No problem. My older brother wears shoes as part of his occupation as a school teacher. I love rock climbing, which I also need to wear shoes for, but my dream is to play bass in a rock band. Do you have siblings or an occupation or recreation or dreams?
they need to start teaching stuff like this in school. Things that actually matter
These are terrific fundamentals that the average person can use to build rapport in new environments, or improve on the existing one. There are times when you come across someone who is highly standoffish though. Depending on how important it is to gain relations with that person, you may need to skillfully dig deeper. There are many corporate psychologists that do that type of work daily.
Its called FORD because it never works when you want it to.
hahahhaha perfect comment
Oh jeez too good
You win
Alright this comment is win
Holy damn