How Trauma Changes Your Thinking
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I talked in a previous video about how trauma affects how you store memories. Traumatic experiences can also affect how you perceive things and cause you to have what we call cognitive distortions.
These distortions are especially present in people who develop post-traumatic stress disorder from an event, but you don’t need to have that diagnosis for your thinking to be skewed from a traumatic experience or experiences. This video looks at four ways trauma can change your thinking.
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Ames, D. L., & Fiske, S. T. (2013). Intentional harms are worse, even when they're not. Psychological science, 24(9), 1755-1762. doi.org/10.1177/0956797613480507
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6:53 “Fear followed by avoidance of things related to the fear makes the fear grow bigger and sometimes morph into other fears.” This hit hard. I hope I get better.
I wish you all the best ❤
@@birgitbranderrasmussen Thank you for your kind words
My ex was abusive in every way possible. He would sneak up on me and attack me when I got home as I walked from my car to my house. He would drive super close behind me try to swerve my car off the road with his car so that I would crash. He even climbed my 2nd story balcony to see if I was cheating. I was never allowed to get a restraining order because he’s a cop and was ignored once law enforcement found out he’s “one of them.” I’ve been 5 years no contact and he finally left me alone about 2 years ago, but I still am on high alter everywhere I go. Don’t know if I could ever trust a man again. Been in therapy for years but sometimes I feel like that only helps by having a witness that knows all of my horror stories in case he decides to come back to punish me for leaving him... I’m not posting this as a pitty party or trying to get sympathy. I’m not sad that it happened these days. I’m just very angry… My advice is as soon as you see the first red flag 🚩, RUN and block that person. Cut off all ties. There were so many red flags I naively ignored and that’s what haunts me most times. That I should’ve been smarter and made better logical choices. Always go with what you know than what you feel because making decisions based solely on love and hope can do more harm than good. Stay safe.🖤
Aww babes I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, life it’s so unfair I swear. But I hear you and see you and I know you will trust men again and he will reward you all the joy you lost because of this psycho xx
I need a stunt gun asap ngl
We tend to ignore red flags because we want to see good in people. Please don't beat yourself up. You're super strong for surviving that sick asshole and recognising the abuse that happened to you. I hope you heal and get to feel better everyday.
Which sorta of red flags do you think we should watch for ? Thank you 💗
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As someone whose being trained in Psychology,she’s really good and I look up to her! Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks a lot Diana! All the best with your training 👍🏽
I totally concur.
Excellent A+ status
If you are not listening already to him, listen to, Professor Sam Vaknin.
“Being trained in psychology”? Lol how does that work?
Damn, I have avoidant and paranoid personality traits and that resonate deep. Living with constant fear and anxiety is not fun at all. I almost lost my job and failed college multiple times because of this. It's so hard to overcome the paranoid thoughts and fear. Sometimes, last year I was just sitting in my bath petrified of the future. I almost became alcoholic. Ativan worked greatly to calm my anxiety attack at job.
@lLuminousMoonl I'm like this!! I stress whenever my husband is away from me. I didn't realize it was such a problem until I stayed a night away and I was panicking the entire time. I'm pregnant so I've been really struggling with anxiety over the future and trying to get/feel better about possibly being alone or trusting him being away from me.
@@ms.d5195 exercise and diet help the most honestly. Vitamin D too! I take vitamin D & K2 along with some other vitamins and prenatal. I noticed a huge difference in mood.
I was recently diagnosed with Depression, Anxiety and PTSD and I almost lost my job because I would constantly have panic attacks (I’m closing shift) I started therapy and Anxiety meds and I haven’t had a panic attack in Months and I was able to get out of my comfort zone!! I downloaded a dating app and make friends there!
It took a lot of errors, some medication was giving me sucidal thoughts and another one was making me supeeer numb but I found the right dose and medication for me and I’m very functional now!
Oh I’m in the process of Becoming the boss of everyone too!! About to get a raise and everything it took some months but definitely there’s always a way u should definitely seek professional help and give a peep talk to yourself
Be careful of Ativan it should be used less then two weeks
@@user-tn2pz7ze2o sounds like you have attachment distress...seek therapy...
I’m sure I saw this today for a reason.. My dad was killed by a drunk driver in front of my house, picking up my daughter Holly Joy..she blames herself, had 10 months of residential treatment, so victorious! Less than 6 months later she was diagnosed with cancer at 15 and I lost her at 21..she left me 10 years ago and I’m breaking now…my psychiatrist only prescribed medications which was a very bad thing…..thank you so much for this video, as it is me😭My name is Ronnie….of course I used my Holly’s name for this…
Tenderest condolences, Ronnie. I'm so sorry.
Therapy time
That is the single most tragic fucking thing I've ever heard of in my life. You deserve all the mental health support and love in this world.
I lost my husband when I was 32 after a gun accident in our livingroom (it was not suicide)
I am now 42, live with my mom, have acquaintances but no real friends and have become a hermit. Living on a small island and being self employed helps with this lifestyle. I just don't want to lose anyone anymore. It's easier being alone.
Art helps a lot though!
this is one of the only channels I've ever seen that translates psychiatric knowledge to the general public without really watering it down. Grade A psychoeducation.
When you go through enough traumatic experiences it can lead to what’s known as “Analysis Paralysis”. Essentially becoming unable to make future decisions due to the negative outcomes from past decisions. This coupled with traumatic experiences intentionally caused by others leaves one utterly hopeless. Unable to process the conflicting cognitive dissonance distortions leads to paralysis.
At age 10, I felt hatred, anger, & confusion after experiencing my very first heartbreak when my narcissistic mother gave my dog away while I was at school one day. The loss was an unexpected & incomprehensible traumatic experience for me.
I got home from school one day & my stomach dropped, Sassy was missing, my dog was gone. After seeing me cry & searching everywhere to no avail, my neighbor finally told me what happened. I didn’t understand why my parent would do this, as she gave me no warnings or indications that this would occur. When she got home from work I asked her why. She avoided me for hrs telling me to leave her alone & stop my crying over “nonsense”.
Later that night she finally answered however, it was w/a slap to my face & her yelling at me to stop me “pestering her about the stupid dog” as she’s the adult & im the child she can do whatever. This made me cry even more, & to stop me from crying she gave me beating in my room w/her hands & a belt telling me to shut up & go to bed or she will “give me something truly worth crying for”.
The bottomless pit created by this wound has made avoid getting close to anyone due to fears of them either taking away something that I love, or me losing them. Both of which I’ve already experienced in mid 20s adding more fuel to my paranoia where now as I’m in my early 20s I avoid evry1 & everything.
I’m sending you positive vibes and thoughts and I hope you might consider getting a pet again. I had a similar mother and I find animals way more emotionally safe than people. It’s now a constant in my life, I am never without a pet in my life and I go from there. When I’m feeling okay I give ppl a chance, but when not, my dogs are very comforting. If that makes sense. I’m rooting for you. ♥️
I use the 54321 grounding technique and breathing exercises. Also I count back from 100 by 7. These practices really help.
Very good Little Lulu. I like the 54321 too, it's so simple.
Count back from 100 by 7? Aight Stephen Hawking go'on with your bad self 👀
@@o-wolf LOL I know right? Wonderful skill ... I am going to count backwards by 5 .... possibly 1 depending on how bad the PTSD is that day ...
@@MyKrabi You know what's interesting? that method peaked my interest due to my own strange interwoven relationship with PTSD trauma &math
I developed (I think) brain damage from a brain related injury &didn't realise (until many years later) that my numerical ability &ability to concentrate on general had diminished severely.. throughout highschool I just assumed I wasn't good at or disliked math/numbers &kept telling myself this (perhaps as a coping mechanism) it was only MUCH later after talking to old friends/teachers etc that they reminded me how much I excelled at math from an early age up until 12/13 (around the time of my accident)
then after some digging up of old notebooks &journals I could prettymuch SEE the stark diff in the before &after the accident all across my work even in terms of my writing skill (both prose &strangely my actual handwriting) which post accident looking back had devolved to an almost childlike state..
My work in school suffered greatly my concentration was nil &while I grasped concepts I just couldn't focus for any substantial amount of time &after a while I just wanted to get it over with &get out.
Many years later my abstract intelligence has somewhat recovered &I'm considered intelligent by friends &family I can hold indepth or at least inquisitive debates on a variety of different subjects..
But I now unfortunately am barely able do basic times tables (something which became a source of great shame &self loathing for a while) &though I was once able to complex long division in my head (with an aid of my trusty invisible pad lol) now I just lose track get frustrated &give up.
@@DrTraceyMarks counting back from 100 by 7 stops rumination when trying to fall asleep.
I've still got PTSD for almost 20yrs after I lost my daddy tragically at 7yrs old in June 2002. His new intoxicated gf shot him in his heart point blank and got away with it! Sadly, it was a Huge Cover Up. My poor mom fought it for almost 9yrs but had NO LUCK! 💔💔I was in a BAD car accident in 8 2016. Nearly killed me bc of the negligent driver running a red light. Had to have Emergency Surgery that saved my Life. I still have PTSD over that as well. It's just HORRIBLE! Be safe y'all.
Dr Marks, I'd love to have on as my therapist..You're kind, intelligent, and patient. If only everyone could find a Dr just like you, we'd all be feeling much better! Bless you and yours Dr Marks.
Will those poor kids that got shot that made it out alive, will they have depression, pure anxiety and PTSD guaranteed by default because of the shock??? I don’t know how 8 through 11yr olds are going to deal with these harsh realities that just took place yesterday.
No doubt they will be haunted by the experience for the rest of their lives.
Technically it will all depend on the individual. Unfortunately, however, many of those kids I assume will be affected by the issues you listed for a while
I wonder if we will call them monsters when that trauma makes one of them do something terrible? I wonder if we will be able to recognize that all lives have context, or if we will throw that context away the moment it complicates things.
@@TubeytimeMaybe it is easier to forget that we all have our own histories that influence our decisions in life, and especially easy to forget for those individuals that make terrible choices…but in the end, it is not our past that forced the decisions we make. We all have a choice.
@@Tubeytime I don’t feel all that bad for the shooters. They made that choice. The least society can do is try and make it easier for the next generation of kids, whatever that may be exactly, so that their decision making skills will be stronger and driven with wisdom, right?
Thanks for this video. Just today I had a terrible anxiety attack when a stranger started talking to me and I felt awful afterwards because I think he was just trying to be friendly but I couldn't control my thoughts/reaction. This has happened to me too many times now.
For context, I grew up in a country that transformed from a democracy to a dictatorship and you couldn't trust officials anymore and it's atrocious . That also destroyed the economy and crime skyrocketed. I experienced mugs. I also experienced a rape that had further consequences. Now I live in a really safe country for a couple of years. But I just feel I can't feel safe like most people do here. It's awful.
😔 abandonment is hard to heal from but I know I’ll get there
Dr Marks, Could you address the effects of bullying on future behavior? I am assuming that bullying/teasing is traumatic and regular, for instance bullying that occurs at school or work. Also, are there different responses to bullying depending on the victim's age when it occurs, for instance childhood, teens, young adult, etc?
Thanks for this suggestion this is a very important topic. I'll look into this.
I'd be interested in this as well. These videos are proving to be very informative for analyzing my behavior after a workplace bullying experience in 2019.
And coping skills some have while others don't
I'd be very interested in this as well. My daughter was severely bullied all the way through elementary and middle school. She now has anxiety and depression and is on meds for it.
It ruined me and has made me so paranoid heading out because I don't want to be recognized by someone I use to work with. I overthink everything about whether people are looking at me, if they recognize me etc. It sucks.
I have experienced physical trauma and it has definitely changed my way of thinking. Thank you for this video. 💖🌟
You're welcome April 😊
I’m in tears. I feel validated from this. Thank you!
Trauma in some cases may cause extreme behavioural changes. The person may become fearful and paranoid. He may become somewhat schizophrenic, believing that he's seen or heard threats to himself and, despite family and friends believing that such threats aren't real, he can't be convinced otherwise. The person does not even recognise that he's ill or has any problem, and so refuses to seek help.
Yes! Long term journaling can be a good self-therapy if you are in a situation where you can't get help. I wish everyone had a Dr. Marks.
My parents divorced when I was baby and my mother left me to live with my grandparents, what I wouldn't change for anything.. I remember looking some movie and sentence "People always leave" and that stuck in my head since.. I was 12 years old... So more than half of my life..
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@Sam Smith don't know movie but very good that sentence..
Things are finally healing, goals being met, dynamics are coming about that are a perfect fit, for my beloved, created family members.. so I'm suddenly terrified something will destroy it... scared of catastrophic loss, now that overcoming many traumatic years of PAS, Narc abuse effects...my family deserves this good, hard won..now I'm just terrified, as a mom and grandmother
Speaking of avoiding I’ve been avoiding watching your videos because they just make me realize things that I wasn’t expecting to face again but that being said thank you for making these videos they make me feel less alone 😊💕
😳 She just explain how my brain works. Thank you, I have so much to work on but this video just helped me to be more aware of my trauma responses!
I store certain events in my memory. The events are scarred in my brain. I relive them and sometimes I have to scream to throw something or slap myself , do anything to break the flashback , if I don’t it fills me with the worst feelings. Some of these memories are seeing pets dying in agony, accidentally killing my lizard when I was very young, shooting an arrow from a bow straight up in the sky when my little brother was right next to me. To name a few. I can’t undo them, just add more to the pile of things that haunt me. Death will bring silence and peace.
Thank you. Myself and children have severe PTSD all these points are so relatable, we will certainly try some of the techniques whilst waiting for more therapy.
Thank you
I have cptsd and it is a struggle getting close to people and my thinking/memory whew I've been taking Magnesium l threonate thanks to your video and b12 which had been helpful but my mind isn't how it used to be. Honestly I would love to sue or get some type of retribution for the changes they have caused
Have the vitamins helped your memory/thinking? Or you’re sueing because it made things worse?
She likely means she wishes to sue those who caused her hurt.
Taking legal action sounds like it would feel good. There is a lot of research that says it could make you feel worse. Realizing that it didn't help you deepens your sense of loss. Do the hard therapy that will make more of a difference.
@@Cathy-xi8cb I think in many cases it's not just about closure, it's possible the person they're suing may be an extreme danger to others, and it's better to at least get your case out. Even if you lose, other people will hear about it and be aware. I think that's what matters most
When she was going through the journaling is the way I work through situations with my reactive dog. He unfortunately has some pretty bad experiences I’m working to figure out how to help him, these are the steps I go through. it does help figuring out a situation you don’t feel control in.
You are a good teacher, Dr Marks. I am healing from c-ptsd and have experienced all this (and more, to do with memory). For the first time in a few years, I feel hopeful that I can recover or at least transform my trials into victories. Thank you for your good work.
Whoa this was a good video. Especially in light of the recent headlines. I feel like we are all living with some sort of a trauma 😕
She’s so straight on. Been learning this stuff through my trauma therapist. I love your videos as they go in depths.
what ı wrote in the past made me realize that ı was mentally dysfunctional at then due to highly emotional and unbalanced way of thinking or maybe "not thinking" at all. ı try to think and act on logic each and everyday of my life these days thanks to the self evaluation ı made. ı am not ashamed of myself because ı was far away from my true identity and now ı am perfectly capable of seeing gaps in beetween the logic and expression ı made at then. ı hope everyone become more aware and understanding about human psychology and wont stigmatize people who encountures some difficulties in life and have no idea how to deal with them effectively.
Our house burnt down, and as an artist musician and collector of books i lost all. We lost three cats and two dogstwomyears ago. And i still grieve.
Dr. Tracy is that auntie that you admire so much because she seems to always have the right answer for everything. ❤️
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for your work.
Thankyou for all your help. 💖🌸
Oh my goodness. You're always right on time with your videos. Thank you.
I've encountered trauma as a child with an abusive alcoholic father. A sexual assault from a friend as a pre teen. I was in the army and there was stuff there. I've tried stuff, taken a lot of different medications. I still struggle with stuff harm and suicidal ideation. I'm still here, but it's getting harder lately.
Please know that what happened to you isn't your fault. The fact that you are still with us, shows that you have a will to live and to keep pushing. Please know that there is help available and many of us do care. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experience.
You must find a way to clear your mind about the fact that all those people that hurt you are on their own journey, and somehow find forgiveness. Otherwise they win! You can't let them steal even one more minute of your peace.
@@christietanner8216 way easier said than done. But I appreciate the advice.
I hope you look into nervous system dysregulation and the polyvagal theory. Those are all trauma responses trapped in the body. You would need to do a body based trauma therpay than mind based therpay to bring the body back into homestasis.
@@ritaevergreen7234 that makes sense, I truly don't the VA cares enough to go that route.
Can intensive bullying in school later develop into some kind of PTSD or cognitive distortions? I tried many therapies, but when mentioning bullying professionals didn´´t take it as a big problem, even though for me it was a 7 year inferno. As always, many thanks for your videos. They have been like a godsend for psychoeducation. Even though I am under professional care, I can educate myself and better understand what is going on.
Could be, i feel similar
Although in my case it were two or three short but intense phases of bullying
Same thing has happened to me. None of my therapists have taken my bullying as something important, even though I still have nightmares about it. They're like: well, it's been years since you graduated, so you should let it go. However, I still have some of that trauma, as in my case, were 13 years of intense and horrible bullying
Yes it can
I was bullied not only in primary but also secondary but I was too insecure to be known as a bullied again so i soldierd on later to be diagnosed with ADHD depression anxiety self loathing severe social anxiety, I really struggled, especially when it came to girlfriends, no word of a lie Bungie jumping would give me less anxiety, I'd always second guess myself and try to please everyone almost desperate for approval, because the years of bullying stripped all if any self esteem I had no confidence, only stress, anxiety and constant fear, hesitation, certain people that remind me of some of the bully people uk know them as chavs, put me in a state of defense, on edge
Bullying can fuck you up man because it happens right at the start of your life when your still working out left from right, it will stump you before you've even had a chance to bud
Ripple effect
It ABSOLUTELY CAN...
That said, it doesn't necessarily have to. Everyone has their (different) own limits and psychological armor. It's what makes psychological care and healing difficult.
What's probably going to surprise you is that just about EVERYBODY got bullied at some point or another in school... Kids are ruthless and can smell fear like little animals. They lack the sensibilities and judgment of adults, and when they find something funny, they'll ALL have to chip in their individual "two cents" to say something funny and add to the "fun"... To the single poor individual in the center of attention, this comes across as everyone picking on them... EVEN the "good natured" kids who wouldn't dream of being malicious get roped in by their wish to be fun and funny, and while there isn't necessarily any remarkably bad intentions, the fact that every kid likes to be a comedian at some level still "mounds up" and impresses the single kid "with a problem" with the malice of even a violent attack...
To the "professionals"... It's easy to be dismissive. Many of them got into their field for their own healing reasons. Self healing leads to a little education and that inspires curiosity to more... gaining the power over their own minds and insecurities leads them to WANT to help others and feel more powerful for themselves, too... BUT it comes with "baggage".
SO they find it difficult to see someone with "lesser" historical accounts as having the same issue they dealt with. "That's nothing. When I was getting bullied..." as it were. It doesn't necessarily make them "bad" at their jobs, but it doesn't seem like helpful to YOU... and that's what's important here.
The best advice is "Don't shut up." about it. Participate in the therapies and rituals they recommend, of course... BUT bring up the bullying if you feel the trauma is related to it, and SEEK to get the healing you need. They may still VERY WELL have good reasons and solid advice about your other issues, and those may be better treated BEFORE facing down the traumas from bullying and what that's done "in damage"... BUT don't give up.
I had my share of bullying, too... Violently, even. I've since grown up and spent 30 years riding motorcycles through a dozen or more different countries... AND I'd still rather ride than breathe, as if that's even a choice... BUT there have been situations. I've been to more than a "rodeo" or two, figuratively. I've always been able to get back on the bike, though... I've lost friends both in the sense of death and in the sense of ending the relationship, to the sport. Some of those instances have legitimately been traumatizing. I've spent months shaking all over whenever I got on the bike and just doing the low-speed drills to prove to myself that the world won't come crashing to an end because I decided to ride a motorcycle again... SO while I've always been able to get back to it, it has NOT always been just as easy or as simple as throwing my leg over the bike and taking off "business as usual"... Trauma does that to you.
I'm a bit more of a loner, even as an "ambivert" because of the crap in my child-hood... BUT I've refused to let that tear me down and push people away from me. They can still be decent... I just let myself take MY time to warm up to them... AND I'll always LOVE my "Me-time". SO... I've got a motorcycle, and I'm not going to be afraid to hop on the thing for a ride when people start getting on my last ragged nerve.
I don't know how helpful this is for y'all... BUT I hope its either entertaining or comforting as much as it's informative or otherwise beneficent. Keep it BETWEEN the ditches, and wheelie-side down, now. Ya' hear? ;o)
This is right on the mark. Thank you for this and all of your videos. 🙏
Dr. Tracy, it’s a serve you read my mind. Exactly how I feel right now. Paranoid, avoiding, I just went through a difficult situation and I can’t even think straight. Thank you for your information God bless you. You’re awesome!
Thank you so much Dr. Marks for yet another helpful resource. You are superduper awesome! :)
Thank you so much for a clear and detailed explanation of what I was experiencing🌻
I am SO grateful I found your channel.
I'm so glad I found this channel.
It's been helping a lot. Thank you so very much!
I always learn so much from your videos. Thank you.
This video is so necessary, thank you Dr. Marks! Wishing you the best. 🙏🏾💛🙏🏾
As always many, many thanks! You're truly a gift to those with mental health issues! By all means keep them coming!
This is so important, and this was done exceptionally well! Thank you for sharing this 🙏 I needed this.
Made it very easy to understand. Thank you Doctor.
Dr. Marks, thank you so much for what you do on your channel! There have been many times where you have helped me process challenging situations I have been in. I appreciate you!
Omg this is how I feel exactly wel explained dr !!
Thank you. I needed this today and I'm sure many others do too.
Yay so happy to see you have a book! Congratulations 🎉
Trauma rewired my brain quite a lot. I became asexual for humans, lost my gender identity, and developed objectum relationships (amongst other things). Most other objectum sexuals I speak too also have traumatic pasts.
Everyone has a traumatic past
Wait a moment. For humans? And you're sexual attracted to...?
@@erismana2105 Everyone suffers. Not everyone develops PTSD or CPTSD.
@@aanimavilis1492 I'm in a longterm relationship with two tulpas, a doll, and several cushions. Trauma made me a caedsexual (asexual through trauma) and an objectum (someone attracted to, or in a relationship with, objects or concepts).
I love your videos, you’ve helped me so much during the pandemic, where I was forced to go deep into my trauma. You’re great at synthesizing information and communicating it clearly and briefly. Thank you for wha you do. Love from Mexico ☁️✨
Thank you for sharing your wisdom 💚
U are a great woman putting this information out there..thank u very much
Dr. Marks, Your video on trauma prompts me to write. I have a neighbor that walks into my home behind closed doors without knocking, and comes over every time I have contractors working on my house, and entering behind closed doors.. I hinted that he can't come into my home thinking he would get it; Finally I told him to stop and he became unbelievably enraged. There was no chance for me to speak to him. And now he is taunting me, calling me names etc and for a over a year, always acting like a child. The police have told him to stay off my property but won't take care of his bullying "freedom of speech". they explained as he is on his property. Though I ignore him, he has continued for a year and not sure when he will go into a rage again, and directed at me. His hate for me is obvious. And Obviously he has a personally disorder, very childish and focuses on me and won't give up. Clearly he needs help but I always encounter his name calling and childish behavior if he sees me. I am targeted. When I ignore him, he becomes absolutely enraged, calls me names for awhile then lets up but it always starts up again. .His rage was something I have never experienced and scared he will eventually become violent. His continued taunting is frightening in regard to his mental state. I have even sought counseling as I fear he will turn his rage into violence until he is satisfied with his anger, and all is centered about my not having done anything. I have been told to move and in that process. Comments? Is he a narcissist or have a personality disorder that can't be helped. He is in his late 70's and I am a senior as well.
This was extremely helpful for my driving anxiety issues.
I love everything you post. 😍 Thank you for everything. Especially for the worksheets and resources on your website. May God bless you. I have a therapist , but I'm grateful to also have your education videos here for free. I pray that your sales of all your products sail through the roof.
Thank you Dr Marks
I do journal when I’m well
These are some great ideas to add to it😊
I’ve just signed up to your website.
I didn’t no you had one until today.
Looking forward to reading through it 💕🇬🇧
Thank you Dr. Tracy, always informative, may God bless you always.
Thank you Dr. Marks.
WOW...Thank you for this video! I've been given handouts about cognitive distortion, but no one has ever explained it as clearly as this. I really appreciate this. Been trying to heal from past trauma for years and just never really understood, even with therapy, how to get past it.
Another great video. So grateful.
Thank you for all your videos Dr! You truly are a gem on CZcams. May you be covered in blessings.
Thank you for your work. You are a blessing
Helpful and timely. Thank you. Especially the person to person trauma and self blame.
I appreciated this episode. Related: Have you covered the topic of hypervigilence as a result of repeated trauma?
I love the way you explain things. You have a great gift for breaking down complicated concepts and making them easy to understand. Your videos have been helpful to my healing journey.
thank you so much,very helpful
You're amazing! Just wanted to say that. People like you are needed.
UNH!!!!!!!
no words other than...THANK YOU!!!!
Thanks for the video, Dr. Marks. I always feel comforted and understood by your videos about trauma.
Thanks Tracy❤
Some of the flawed ways of thinking you mentioned made perfect sense to me even as I watched this video. Thanks for teaching me something!
Your videos always lead me to decluttering my mind. Finding your channel has been a blessing 🙌✨️
I appreciate this so much, ive been hearing a lot about journaling but didn't understand how to go about it. Thank you so much 🙏
Thanks for sharing this videos 🙂
Thank you for this! Great reminders for me to ground myself and not to avoid.
Thank you for the video
I’m so excited for the book!
I luv your content, it helps me to understand how my therapist is able to see me and help me.
Excellent video Dr. Marks. Thank you for making it simple for everyone to understand what are sometimes feelings and behaviors that can be difficult to understand and address. Dr. Marks could you perhaps talk about body image/dysmorphia/eating disorders and how they are sometimes related to traumatic experiences? Thank you.
This information is really valuable! thank you 🙏
You are a blessing to many of us✨
This is such a great video! 🙌
As a trauma survivor who has held several of these distortions (and am still in the process of resolving) and has had several very unhealthy coping mechanisms over the years, it was interesting to have it explored in such a simple, almost clinical way. Another great video
I have all of the above Tracey. I could tell you all the reasons why I grew up feeling like the world is a cruel and violent place. Also why I am helpless and powerless to protect myself. Why people leave and/or forget you.
So all of the above.
Thank you I really needed this. Pre ordering my book today
Wonderful thank you! ❤️ Good to see you too. I've missed seeing your comments.
You are an excellent professional with excellent teaching skills! Accompanying people towards autonomy also requires this ability to transmit. Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks for sharing.
As a PsyD student, your videos are really helpful! I would love a video about EMDR. :)
Thank you so much Dr. Tracey this video is very helpful.
Glad it was helpful! 👍🏽
Yes. Thanks❣️
Like the color awareness grounding technique!!
Thank God for this channel Auntie this just brighten up my day, anyways God bless you Auntie and your beautiful family
Thank you; Sista
thank you, this video has made me feel less crazy
Love this deep dive into that negative beliefs about self and world part of PTSD and cPTSD, and general developmental trauma and how it impinges on personality. We often glance over this in checklist DSM based diagnostics but it's really the hear to healing is addressing these distortions. Note Prolonged Exposure moves the needle on these beliefs as well, evn if you are not addressing them directly. Often information that you did your best, you are competent are not guilty, not powerless- but this information is in the very memory you are avoiding. Ie- "oh yeah I did what anyone else would've done" when processing this memory in PE.