5 signs that a Narcissist or toxic person may be cheating on you | The Narcissists' Code Ep 605
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- 5 signs that a Narcissist or toxic person may be cheating on you
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Thank you so much
Lee looking like a giant red flag for this video. So fitting for the topic😂 🚩
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Love to F...? No control
Signs your narc is cheating: He’s sitting there alive and breathing. 🙄😂
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Yep
I was going to say the same thing.
Lik😂😂😂
Oh my gosh, so true. Thank you for inspiring me to genuinely laugh! 🤣
1: random love bombing 🙋🏻♀️
2: disconnecting from you 🙋🏻♀️
3: manufacturing arguments and disagreements so they can leave 🙋🏻♀️
4: accusing you of cheating
5: if they cheated before 🙋🏻♀️
Wow, so many exes in this. I would add: they stop having sex with you; start telling you they need time to themselves; they go out on the town without telling your or inviting you.
Each one has been an alcoholic too. I learned my lesson with the last one and don’t touch anyone with an addiction.
This…
Smart
Mine too!! Alcohol was always an issue. They used it to justify their bs
Wow this is so my story
A Narcissist on crack
As a Retired combat Marine I want to tell you that as what you are doing is just as important as any warrior on the battlefield. You are waging warfare against cheater on the digital battlefield. You are defending and protecting the most vulnerable of our society against these predators and cheaters. Keep up the good work *Johnsonspy* .
How *Johnsonspy* was able to help me access my boyfriends phone activities is just so brilliant. I'm recommending him to everyone, he always complete any job given to him without complications. He earned my trust completely 💯
Correct 👌🏻✅
When you feel that distance and neglect. You begin to withdraw to protect yourself from hurt.
I saw something that said, "Just think. Someone is with your ex and they think they've hit the love lottery". OMG! That is so true. That's why it's funny 🤣
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Maybe they have. You ever thought that what may have not been for you may very well be fir someone else??
Absolutely. Lottery from he**.
Lol😂 exactly...& they think their HIS one & only...NOT..😂
Ikr! Hi, from Chicago South Side!
They screw differently. They all the sudden touch you differently.
Yep or no contact. No kissing. Exactly.
Bingo!
Yup! Mine started doing sexual things new that he had NEVER.. NEVER did before...i realized my bestie had told my guys brother to do this & that when they dated....he went back to his ex...I found out my guy was screwing her after his brother..she had a new man !!!!
I was married to a narcissist for 3 years. He was treating very bad. I had intuition that he is cheating on me. I found out his secrety phone and I encountered he was cheating on me plus he was texting dozens of women. I divorced him straight away ! Please do not accept cheating. Exactly they accuse you of cheating. The good thing is that my life has drastically changed. I am happy again working hard on me and my career. Please love yourself and keep away from a narccist there is no life with them.
None whatsoever!
Thanks for your response. I don't know why but I keep thinking about should I reconcile with my ex husband? I've seen 4 different therapist and they all told me that I was in a toxic and emotionally abusive marriage. He did so many mean things to me. I need to cut all ties to him and block him completely but I'm having a hard time moving forward. 😕
Exactly 💯, no life with them thank God I'm out.
...yes, they are sickos!
@@joycehemminger7611 how have you been lately? I hope you're doing better nowadays.
The number one sign as a female is if your ph balance gets thrown off
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Crazy but True 🤦🏿♀️
True
True
😲 been going through that! Out of nowhere.
Biggest sign: He promises you he's not cheating.
Yes, yes he wanted some space and swears he’s not cheating OK like I’m really gonna believe that damn.
Yes girl, he swore on his grandmother's grave he wasn't cheating even when the proof was right there
@Michelle Cortes He was always swearing on his kids, on his mama, on his grandmama, knowing the whole entire time he was lying. Just proves they have no heart at all.
The amount of times I asked if there was someone else before finding proof. He couldn't deny it anymore 🙄
@@jaclynns.jungle I always told him that if there was someone else he was free to go. I'd rather him be with who he wants and not who his tolerating. Stupid me, actually thought he'd be honest. Luckily we had no kids. Our relationship only lasted 2 years. Situationship I guess we should call it
watch out for that arguing for no reason. gives them an excuse to leave and an excuse to not answer their phone because they are “mad at you”. they are going to go cheat lol
You are so right, I am going through this . He starts accusing me of crap that is not true, just so he can get mad and leave for a while.
Karla, And you're with him because...? ಠ_ʖಠ
Ladies please trust your intuition 🙏
"They tired and they stink" - I hollered 😅🤣😂
Facts 🤮😷
Hindsight hits HARD! When he started grooming a new supply behind my back, he started getting extra cocky, and being extra hurtful to me. I can literally pinpoint it. Save yourself, BAIL!! Lee is the BEST!!
Wow, so accurate. Going through that now.
@@palapalak.8907 I am sorry to hear that
@tiffanyfox5187 lies....
Thank you. I swim everyday... workout daily.
IDK how I will get through this. God has a plan.
@@palapalak.8907Hopefully you can get away and out?
That happened to me spot on
Narcissistic seem to be drawn to us empaths like a magnet but we empaths even if we feel something change like a subtle wind we still need some proof before we decide to end it completely. We will always give the benefit of the doubt. We will always forgive until we have absolute proof and that’s why narcissist hide it so well because they know from past experience what to do the next time
THISSSSSS ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
You can forgive from a distance. Don't let them use and abuse you ever. You deserve 100 percent better treatment ❤
"PROJECTION" IS #1 game plan of the narcissists!
He always said he didn't cheat but has had many emotional affairs with his so called female friends and I'm finally glad I'm not alone in thinking he was still cheating
I've been suspicious of my ex and his so called female friends but he would never let me see messages he would say we would look at the messages together, but then he'd grab the phone from me and get angry ...so obvious what a knob
They lead double lives and enjoy every second
I recently left my narcissistic husband of 14 years due to financial deceit as well as emotional, mental, & spiritual abuse. I HIGHLY suspect he cheated on me, but I do not have physical proof. Here’s what I do know: 1. He stopped sleeping in our bed within the first year of our marriage. He blamed it on the bed. We bought so many beds and none were ever good enough. I begged him time and time again to try again, but he refused. He then started blaming me for him not sleeping in the bed bc to him I was the one who picked out the beds, which is completely false. 2. He has a 2nd phone for work. 3. He’s accused me of cheating a few times. He even asked me why and who I was dressing up for when I got ready for work. 4. I discovered financial deceit of several thousands of dollars. He claimed it was for “us”. 5. He had a problem with porn in the past. 6. When being intimate, he didn’t want the full act; he only wanted the hand service. 7. He always blamed me for our intimacy problems. 8. He called me crazy so many times and said I needed help bc I was the one with the problem.
Only wanted hand service he must be gay..
I am going through all this now being together 16 years two babies and I suspect he is cheating no proof but the nasty comments he is always right. I recently had 2 utis
I'm glad you left. It's not worth the pain
They are NUTS. 4 days free and so HAPPY after 8 mths of pure hell and lies.
I feel like you are writing my story.
They cheat for different reasons one reason is to get you upset with them so this way they have a reason to push you away which is one of their goals.
Every time my narc gave me that burst of love bombing I caught the texts & emails IMMEDIATELY
The #1 way I would know that my dude was cheating would be when he was extremely nice to me! The nicer he was to me would tell me just how scandalous he was being. So, anytime he would ever be overly nice it was heartbreaking.
If they get angry about every little thing 😮
“She spanked her own self” wtf!?? Omg I’m dead 😂🤦♀️😵😵
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
Well said..but they know they are doing wrong and hurting you they don't care it gives them high yo like a drug..sex is not all they get fix from...
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Yep he did all of those things. I could always tell because he would treat me differently, all of a sudden he no longer complimented me, no more affection, no “I love you” anymore, he ignored me, was constantly short tempered and everything I did was wrong, was never home and he definitely would purposely start fights to leave and many other things. He would also always bring up the girl in conversation out of the blue when he never talked about girls generally in a conversation. He even brought every one of his flaves(as I call them as in flavor of the month) to my house and said they were “just friends” which I’m sure was to triangulate with me and them. He once even blamed me for his cheating because I “pushed him to them”. And because I’m good at finding out ways to get the evidence and he would get sloppy I would present to him a chance to come clean before I showed him the evidence and he never once told me the truth even with the proof in his face. I now just trust my instincts and his behavior as proof but I no longer allow him to treat me as such because we have been separated(still married) for a good while now and after a ton of research about narcs I see right through how manipulation games.
This drives me absolutely crazy because I know in my heart I would never do the things I'm constantly accused of and he always thinks im lying about the most smallest things that don't even be worth lying about sometimes
You have to remember that your rational empathetic brain doesn’t think like theirs. Don’t go crazy trying to wrap your brain around a narcs brain. It’s energy that is wasted
Omg yes! I was blamed all the time. My x finds a few comments I made on FB to friends and discarded me but for two years I was blamed.
Looks like he is cheating then. Projecting on you, making you deny it so you cannot ask him if he is cheating. He just turns it around.
Thats called deflection and projection. He is telling on himself. And many times narcholes do this knowing that theyre basically telling you what they do and laughing on the inside because they think youre too stupid to figure it out. Its not stupidity. Youre a normal rational person with a good heart who wont ever be able to comprehend how anybody could do such things. And thats why the narcissist hates you. Youll want to call him out because now that you know youll start to see. But dont do that. If youre able to I say leave. Dont say a word and run like the wind blows and dont look back!!! Before you get in deeper. Because I 1000000% promise you its going to get worse, and worse, and.... It doesnt get better, he will not change. Youll be left in shambles only for him to come back and do it again and give no shits what so ever the effects his crap has had on you. He doesnt have the capacity to love. Yep its sad. But its even more sad to give so much to someone and not have it returned (other than when he is acting to get what he wants then it goes back to hell for you). Best wishes to you. I hope you can see you deserve so much better for yourself than he will ever give you (like stds, stress that kills, premature aging, debt, etc, etc, etc)
my ex narcissist accuse me of cheating all the time calling me a liar and everything under the sun i went to the hospital to find out i was right he gave std's i told him about it his crazy behind had the nerve to say my ex whom i havent seen in 4 years gave it to me aint that crazy he knew he was out cheating and took accountability
I never got the guilt hug
Just the sexually transmitted Infection.
Scratches on their back and said its from doing yard work and rubbing against bushes... 😂
There personally changes you can see the difference in there behavior 😮
Dating app Narcissists are the worst kind!!
You have a gut feeling
These are all true. I’d like to add #compulsive-lying #wordsalad #gaslighting to throw you off the scent. Empaths are truth-seekers. Mine ex would be like….”Look! There’s a squirrel!” Or “Where did you get that giant basket?” So many times I would just say, “Fool! I see you!!!!”
#3 And when he couldn't leave by me. He would sulk act bored uninterested till u let them go outside
My problem is I can see through even the most subtle changes and nuances in behavior and this causes me to always know what’s happening in my relationship before they even tell me or I discover it. I can also feel what others are feeling. It’s very disappointing. My current bf that I keep breaking up with but he keeps coming back, does a lot of future faking talking about grand things he’s going to do for me. It’s offensive because he thinks I’m that stupid. I’m sick of it. I want to be totally done.
I sympathize with you I know it’s hard. I went through the same thing. He was perfect on paper minus a few things that were off. Shift of energy in talking or texting with no real answer when you ask them. Had to stop trying and love me more.
1million percent!! If someone wants to cheat they will.
Lee works hard to make himself a better man.
However, if he has cheated on his wife, then there is no hope for anyone with NPD.
My child’s father wasn’t a cheater. I had to push him on another woman to get the hell away from me lol the woman he went to and me are friends now. She always say, “why the fuck you give him to me?” Lol
GIRLL!!! 😆😆😆lmaoooo
They say "we need to talk" they may be cheating on you
Mine did all these, gave me his pass to his phone to create a false sense of security but it was apparent he was erasing messages. You can tell there's missing parts in conversations . He would use the locator and always turned it off when he was cheating then made up some BS excuse about how the locator wasn't working right so he just turned it off. Or he would say his phone died when he had plenty of battery life
What if I STOPPED the physical intimacy? I broke up with him but we lived 7 more months together to live out the lease. (He was a truck driver so only there 5 days a month) He always said he'd never cheat.
But
he became emotionally unavailable out of the blue. ( because I didn't expect it)
He gave me everything he knew I would love for valentines day. And I stopped sleeping with him and broke up in December. Valentine's day you know is in February. However, around the end of March he told me over the phone he was seeing someone else.
He later said he only said that to upset me.
He even had someone pretend to be her. (I didn't believe him) However, in April/May he did have someone because THIS time he talked to them again on facetime in front of me in our apartment but I couldn't see her. He never let me see her.
It hurt but I prayed for strength.
By May I had discovered he was a narcissist and I knew there WOULD BE NO WAY I WOULD EVER REMAIN WITH HIM.
I even told him what I learned and that once we're separated he'll #NEVER, #EVER, #EEEEEVER HEAR MY VOICE OR SEE ME IN PERSON AGAIN. HE BETTER LOOK A PICTURE!
YOU SEE I'M A SUPER EMPATH if you may...And he couldn't control me.
Nor could he bring me down. He tried, he raged, he gaslighted from the beginning, he was the perpetual victim, he was nice and wonderful to other people, especially my family but I did what some don't. I STILL SAID HE DOESN'T TREAT ME NICE.
WHAT YOU ALL SEE IS AS FAKE AS HIS his face or Milli Vanilli in the 90s!
This is what I see him as now...
A mean, unhappy, never to BE happy, weak, #sillylilsad sadistic emotional predator.
And I have been NO CONTACT for 2 years and 7 months.
He has called, spoke to my brother, bought a phone to call me, I immediately hung up. Uggggh!!!
He caused me to waste almost 3 years of MY LIFE. I'll be 60 in 7 days...So glad I don't look or feel like it.
No thanks to that narcissistic Little man.
All thanks to "#GOD" and my STRENGTH IN HIM.("GOD" that is) lol
Wow you don't look your age , whats the secret .
@@kennethrobinson1672 Thank you so much!
No secret. But you CAN learn to live Agelessly. I teach how with my personal trainer business.
Yes to God be All the Praise and Glory Always in Christ Jesus 🙏
Omg I am seeing these signs. I know something is not right but I cannot put my finger on it or I just brush it aside trying not to think that way. But now my intuition eyes are really opening more. Thanks
you’re welcome
My ex definitely did these things. Especially the stupid arguments over really stupid things. He didn't accuse me of cheating but instead tried to argue that my neighbor was hitting on me.
And I spit laughed at "they are working out with someone else"
The day after Thanksgiving he started a huge argument so I would leave his house. It was crazy!!! After Christmas he had a pretty comforter, 2 soft New pillows and new bathroom towels. I KNEW! I got rid of it All as I went home to my house.
That roommate part though🙆🏻♀️
My ex-husband did all these things from day one except start an argument and leave. Instead he would say he was going play pool with his buddies. Leave at 8:00 pm and wouldn't come home until 6:00 am. Also another strategy was he always had a part time job as a bartender or security at the club at night in addition to his 9-5 job during the week. This kinda of part-time work made him available to single women although it is ludricous for a college educated person who is a manager on there full time job to work at a club. So I never really saw him.
You are so on point it’s incredible! I can’t stand that out of nowhere affection. I would seriously be like get away from me. It would be so awkward and disturbing. Gone for hours, then come home with flowers. 🙄 I started just throwing them in the trash whenever he would pull that crap.
I love how Lee can make a traumatic experience like signs of cheating lighter with humor. Pulling an argument from thin air👈🏾that part. This is done to justify their actions y'all 👏🏾 Straight delusional & unable to take accountability for their actions.
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Exactly. All through the 12 years . Even from the very beginning . The amount of times he done this . Was unbelievable. This had me baffled. Because I literally did nothing on this man . But love him . Started arguments out of nothing . I kept scratching my head . But it never made sense
@@antoinettegorman8833 wow, you are not alone. It's like being stuck in the twilight zone.
100%
Lee, you must have been a fly on my walls 😂 because my ex-narc did every one of these except #4. He never accused me of cheating because he said I was not that type of person who would go out and cheat, and that I was a good girl. 🤣🤣🤣
20 years married my ex told my 15 year old daughter she cheated on me 8 years ago. I had no idea at all. Is she lying who the heck knows. My kids and I just figured out she’s been lying about everything for at least 10 years. I’ll take it as true. She for sure cheated that I know about.
The antennas had me smiling so hard😅
Yup experienced all the above. Yeah he was cheating. Thank God I have been NarcFreeLiving for 3 months no contact and I’m healing and becoming whole 🙏🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽
Amen 🙏 prayers 🙏 to you.
Cheating phones!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏👏 this is 1000000% a thing. Because I didnt see it at first doesn’t mean it didn’t exist the whole time
I had a feeling he was a narcissist but after watching you it's like I absolutely know now. Everything you have said he has done over and over. I am so grateful I found you because it just validates what I was feeling was true. I broke up with him he sent me a picture of some beautiful woman that he said God had blessed him with and I laughed because there's no way and then I blocked him I've had two restraining orders on him. So I feel he is afraid to come around which is good for me which I'm sure he'll pop up somewhere down the line. I am blessed that I found you thank you so much, you rock!
i’ve definitely dealt with this before. Just out of nowhere all of a sudden feels like I’m being loved then I always was suspicious because I wondered what was done or what is it going to be required?
A petty argument so they can leave and go somewhere else
One of the only sources I rely is yours because you are a narcissist and you are stating how they act. Thank you!!
There is no conscience that's why they do what they do
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true
All the above! Listen to Lee..AND your. INTUITION..
Omg its scary how this is so relevant to my life ..
An i hate when im right.
Your videos have validated so many of my feelings that I’ve had over the years. Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Great message. Both of my parents were narcissists. These signs are so true! Keep up the good work.
Mine told me to check his phone any time but he had separate social media accounts that I was blocked on and he’d erase and log out everyday before he got home but won’t divorce or leave. 😡😡😡
Oh, they will NEVER be the one to leave or divorce. Ever. Which is why I stayed for an additional 22 years in the hopes I was right/wrong/ he would change/my working on myself would change things.
That last one....me working on myself.....THAT changed things. I began to recognize what was going on and who he really is.
I finally ended it and got out. After 36 years.
I feel SO much better now.
Let it be less important in your eyes. Focus less on him and more on you. That's what will really freak them out. Reverse that shit. Two can play that game.
I’m just so sick of the back and forth. I’m tired of breaking up with them and getting back together.
Stop allowing it. Walk away and be done.
Thank goodness I went celibate when I suspected he was up to no good. I have enough health issues, didn't need an STD.
Engery speaks louder than words 👏 🙌
Yes my husband had two phones and I caught him 💯👿☠️🤥🤥🤥🤥🤥🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩💯💯💯💯
Check, check, check, check an check. This waste man I dated did ALL of this! This video is spot on. 👌 It threw me off as it was happening, he confused me - made up arguments and accused me of cheating and I knew he was cheating based on his behavior and the STD. Then 2 years later I met the person he cheated on me with.
oh my goodness
Sorry that happened to you
Mine projected all the time. How sad. Yeah single mom who respects myself and she knows it,didn’t have time to cheat but was accused of cheating almost every week. Yeap she was cheating. Yeap they cheated before on another partner but said how disgusted infidelity was. They also had two phones 😮😢😢😢😢. My heart ❤
Narcs set the rules and guidelines but it's for the other person they break the rules all the time
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Wow!! This was eye opening!! Actually hurts to hear this!! I've noticed every one of these behaviors in my 25 year massage!! I just ended that toxic disaster!!
Very informative thanks for sharing! Love your videos ❤so accurate and spot on
I'm a 61 year old woman I've been with 4 different narcissist the 1st one I had of childwidth after we broke up because he was showing behavior that i could not accept so I'd laugh and then i found out i was pregnant nevertheless dont have a baby with this person i repeat do not have a baby with this person
You telling the complete truth!! Thanks!
My ex husband accused me of cheating. I got a letter from a woman saying that she had an affair with him. When I showed him the letter he said it was fake and someone was just trying to ruin his reputation. Twice during our marriage I got an STD. I was not the one cheating and he was the only one that I was intimate with. And then women would text him, call him, send him gifts and come to our house to visit him. When I said that those things hurt me he said that they were just friends and I was being a drama queen.
I hear ya girl!!
My mim a joyce and my middle name joyce
Not common❤
@@Joanjett1013 thanks for your response. My ex husband also accused me of cheating and I DIDN'T understand why he thought that. Because I was always running our businesses or home taking care of our children. I NEVER spent time away on my own. But he would go away about every weekend doing his hobbies. Or so he said. I had so many people who told me that he was cheating on me because a man that was gone so much and wasn't spending time with me and our kids was very likely being unfaithful.
What a jerk
Wow!!! You literally are so spot on.
Living with a narcissist is disorienting because they distort reality to fit their agenda. I'm in a contact state disarray, never knowing much version of my husband is going to walk in the door at the end of the day. I never feel safe to simply be me. One of the reasons why I am so confused right now is because I thought I had married the perfect man. He was everything I'd ever wanted in a man and in the beginning presented himself as my biggest fan and supporter. He was charming, loving, passionate, and attentive to my every need, both emotional and physical. Until he wasn't. Until a side of him popped up every so often that threw me off balance, he started to cheat, he was so protective of his phone, yesterday I got in contact with a hacker here who helped cloned his phone and that gave me access to his text messages and social media without touching his phone, I wanted to be sure if my suspicion was right or wrong, I still can't believe what I saw today, he's cheating with several women, I've made up my mind not to be with him anymore cause this is the height of it all, I'm sure so many women are in a similar situation and you deserve to know if you're being cheated on, here's the private investigator information, you can get in touch with him on Instagram by searching his username
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The emotional abuse was terrible and she was definitely cheating…a lot.
Mines knew I knew. I just didn't say anything until I rolled upon him. Boiiiii, the look on his face could have killed him. He couldn't say nothing but look straight ahead...
Outstanding and very helpful and enlightening!
I feel like you had a camera in my home. I wish I saw this before putting him out a month ago. Now I'm filing for divorce. HS sweetheart of 35 years and 13 years of marriage. #spotOn
True facts…. Those flags mentioned are definitely on target! Thank you Lee.
Love bombing happened in the beginning and anytime he was trying to get me back. When it comes to cheating he always treated me even worse when that was happening. I didn’t always know at the time that was happening but i found out later.
I love your msg in your videos. You are just spot on with practically every one I watch. You may be a Narcissist but you are helping so many ppl including me. My sad story (marriage) has been going 24yrs weak. It's been horrible quite frankly, I was a spunky, out going,motivated, positive, happy young woman. Slowly turned into a lonely,self conscious, cure craving, friendless person. But I was a fighter and would stand my ground an try to go toe to toe with him and eventually gained(took) my freedom back only to be completely ignored unless he was mad or needed something frm me. It also took a sad toll on me to which I heard about Narcissist and started reading and learning and then u tube and found you and les Carter and realized I've done all I can do to make this a successful marriage (it's him) I will never be enuf or be able to make him happy and for that I feel peace in walking away so that I can find someone who will match my excitement for life, and love like I do, the yen to my yang lol. Thank you so much. We literally hv had some of the exact arguments u spoke of and he did exactly the things u said. Coincidence I think not! I hv a genuine Narc I tried to make a happy life with. I'm still happy on the inside he can't put my LiGhT oUt! He just dimed it when he was around 😝 chin up survivors life is still out there, try not to make it wait too long. Life is GOOD🤪
I'm in the same boat Amanda parsons. Married almost 19 years next month and I'm def getting out this year. The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful career this month and the love bombing started out of nowhere we weren't speaking for weeks until I told him of my new job. God willing I will be gone by May 2023.
You two are living my life, just in other homes. Too bad it's so isolating with a narcissist, because I sure wish I'd compared notes sooner. Still, cheers to our NEXT 20 years, may they be so much better than the last 20 have been. 🥳
Dr. Ramani is good too
Discernment should be used way prior to committing to a narcissistic mindset. Based on what folk have to say about "narcassist". Who in their right mind would committ to anyone with odd behaviors.
They wear poker faces and don’t show their true colors until they know you’re invested already.
@Rhiannah F poker face?!?!?!?.......sounds like you really believe in a poker face, than the power that *drives discernment. If you're easily fooled, that's a choice. Folk have a tendancy of revealing what they *hide (emphasis on hide). Ain't no way anyone should be able to blindly go into a relationship with someone that doesn't mean them well. If you fall for their performance and charade, you (as in whomever) likely desired and was whooed by whatever pretenses they extended.
@@junglekutz5625 I do believe that people pretend to be something they aren’t until they get what they want. I mean, why would a person with genuine intentions NOT fall for a good guy act? I personally don’t expect anyone to manipulate me because I’m not intending on manipulating anyone. The only people who expect not to trust someone are people who should not be trusted themselves. 😂
It’s easy to overlook the red flags when you’re already emotionally invested and they start to show.
Since you’re so sure about yourself and your opinion why are you even here? I’m not being funny or facetious, I’m actually wondering.
@@junglekutz5625 it has nothing to do with being easily fooled. You sound like a narcissist yourself. 😂
I wish we had to site to post these photos of these people. I would always just let it go. Thinking if he keep it in the streets and don't bring it home we good. I was 20 then. 🤦🏾♀️
Yes thank you! No one better to listen to than him him self and cutlos to you!
i appreciate it
Argument to just emotionally leave- so the rest of the night no talk.
You are spot on!!! My ex did all of the above!!! When I wouldn’t take the bait, He even would say the kids we’re stressing him so much he had to go out! Cheater cheater so gross 🤮
Definitely resonates especially when intuition has kicked in but can't get away with his lies. Have given him no reason to cheat. It's just his hypocritical nature.
He can keep doing him when it's best to walk away and let him have his cake.
100% true - So much toxic behaviour. Another note is.... theywere be society's standards a 'success' - a good job, highly paid position..... but as a person they were so toxic.
Spent 28 years with one. You are spot on.
Yup, the Random love bombing is how they tell on themselves that they're doing something behind your back. They get super excited for no reason and are happy for no reason even if they just slapped you in the face--it could be because of that, but more than likely it's because they think they are getting away with something behind your back. It's just so manipulative and heartbreaking.
He do this to focus solely on his work.. I would beg for him give me attention.. Well I accepted it is the way it is.. When I got a job I would focus on my work too.. He would track my phone through an app during the day to see where I am but he goes out at 8 at night and come back at 4 the morning drunk as hell.. He would think I cheat on him when I work.. Meanwhile I win incentives bc my sales I do. He thinks I am cheating and sleeping around when I'm at work🤦🏻♀️but see I think he is guilty of cheating and flirting with other women when I'm not around especially at his job.
What you said at 8:20 is what I said halfway through it, and it just got more relateble from there, all from the same person.
You on point with all the cheating signs experience all with my ex in the 4 years we were together love ur videos
Thank you 4 clarification and confirmation emotional cheating is cheating!!!
I HAD AN EX WHO WOULD COME GOME AFTER WORK AND PICK A FIGHT SO HE COULD LEAVE TO GO PLAY POKER. ONCE I REALIZED THE PATTERN I WOULD SAY, " JUST GO, NO NEED TO AGGRAVATE ME."
He distance from me and I can’t touch him too,argue with me,I always have that experience! Everything you said 1000% true!