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Komentáře • 163

  • @ShaunZachary
    @ShaunZachary  Před rokem +9

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  • @Simon-my8pv
    @Simon-my8pv Před rokem +83

    You didn’t lose her. You won yourself back.

    • @AndI0td763
      @AndI0td763 Před 8 měsíci +2

      That’s how I look at it now. When I was with my ex I felt like I couldn’t truly be myself. I wasn’t appreciated or respected. As men we place respect on such a high level, we not only want it we need it. And when our women do us wrong it’s hard to let that go. But the relationships that go this way should be easy to move on from, you lose the baggage that was holding you back and you gain back your freedom and honor and overall true self.

    • @yohannestesfaye2797
      @yohannestesfaye2797 Před měsícem

      That's so true

  • @davidnichols1568
    @davidnichols1568 Před 11 měsíci +42

    If you know you treated her well and she leaves. Let her go. It's her problem.

  • @davidrivas6412
    @davidrivas6412 Před rokem +56

    Nothing made this girl special. She offered no value or benefit in my life. All she did was drain me from my masculine energy and purpose so you're absolutely right. Keep up the good work and knowledge.

  • @davidsalinas676
    @davidsalinas676 Před 7 měsíci +8

    How could you lose someone that in her mind didn't even truly belong to you in the first place. She was for streets.

  • @Jaytheprofessor
    @Jaytheprofessor Před rokem +41

    Bro I could never fall in love with a woman again. Once I’ve learned female nature it’s a wrap !

  • @Djunturica
    @Djunturica Před 2 dny

    "Enjoy the ride while it's your turn". Wise words right there.

  • @TChalla-yg8bl
    @TChalla-yg8bl Před 10 měsíci +11

    we didnt lose her, we lost ourselves in the moment.remember, in the moment!

  • @lechehabi
    @lechehabi Před rokem +95

    I lost her just an hour ago.. This was just in time

    • @massacremaker634
      @massacremaker634 Před rokem +63

      No, she lost you

    • @daviti4611
      @daviti4611 Před rokem +8

      Same for me today

    • @mrredMavicair
      @mrredMavicair Před rokem

      I lost mine last month after 8 years " , the bitch cheated " with a ugly bastard "😲 I feel ashamed lol . Now she's crying and wants back" karma has come for her " I was upset at first to be honest but today I'm fitter and feel like I have peace ✌️ . Good luck to you fellas I'm sending you lots of good energy " you're always the prize. You just didn't see it .

    • @mrredMavicair
      @mrredMavicair Před rokem +4

      Sending much love " self made ninja , you'll be okay 👍 we've all been there .

    • @Davidchendavid
      @Davidchendavid Před rokem +12

      You just got an opportunity to upgrade yourself! Congrats on your new found freedom :)

  • @killiantitan3711
    @killiantitan3711 Před rokem +27

    There's nothing another human can do that you can't do for yourself. And look at it like this. Maybe she possibly saved you from herself, a worst fate.

  • @S8BASTIAN
    @S8BASTIAN Před rokem +34

    She lost me last week. Already made plans with another girl for this week. Thanks for the advice Shaun. #AbundanceMindset 🔒

  • @Fontestmartins
    @Fontestmartins Před 8 měsíci +9

    Brother your videos are helping me getting out of a deep depression about losing people

  • @HisaLight2mypath
    @HisaLight2mypath Před rokem +33

    get well soon.
    My friend used to say to me when I used to complain about a guy disappearing or distancing and I used to be worried that the person wasn't going to come back. She used to say "if he comes back good for him, if he doesn't come back good for me"
    And I think that's how we need to see ourselves with high self-esteem .

  • @Jaytheprofessor
    @Jaytheprofessor Před rokem +13

    Men need to focus on what they can control and not on what they can’t control. So many men have this beta mindset where they focus on women first and purpose second. Great video bro !

  • @user-lg4je8dl1c
    @user-lg4je8dl1c Před rokem +15

    Thank you brother I needed this one. 6 year relationship ended and I’m 29. I make 110K/yr. I helped her and went above and beyond for her. With kindness compassion, never cheated, never abused her. I hope she enjoys the streets. My bed is gunna be full with other ones that worship me. I’m a god!

  • @NeanderthalNatty
    @NeanderthalNatty Před 29 dny

    You beat yourself up over mistakes you made and she left because you messed it up. Be done with it but learn from your mistakes and get better.

  • @Tom-cp6yj
    @Tom-cp6yj Před rokem +16

    I needed to hear this!! The "one who got away" it happened over 4 years ago! At 41, I ain't got time for that..

  • @briangilbert137
    @briangilbert137 Před 7 měsíci +2

    If she left you she did you a favor! Shaun says it like it is. Move on to better opportunities. Believe in yourself!

  • @ntsikelelonkambule2299
    @ntsikelelonkambule2299 Před rokem +7

    I gotta admit Shaun, i once beat myself up over losing a girl....now i'm just focusing on being the best version of myself that i can be

  • @tonybryant8091
    @tonybryant8091 Před 21 dnem

    Great video man. Totally on point. I did exactly this for 3 weeks. Her loss I’m telling you. She isn’t worth your head space guys. They’re fickle creatures and don’t deserve your time.

  • @theintern9722
    @theintern9722 Před rokem +8

    i fucking like your message. Just got dumped and replaced and i needed this

  • @justareader____
    @justareader____ Před rokem +8

    FAX. I was working hard for us, saving up to get married, and she dipped for no reason. And she had a guy friend. Over time I realized she was a narcissist anyway, so I was actually liberated from her.

    • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274
      @rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Před rokem

      What did she do with her guy friend

    • @justareader____
      @justareader____ Před rokem +2

      @@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 nothing terrible as far as I know, but she pretended not to have time for our relationship (due to work) but in retrospect, she made time for him, and everything that wasn’t me.

  • @3oxisprimus848
    @3oxisprimus848 Před 11 měsíci +2

    5 months later, your fire burns brighter... MAXIMUM RESPECT BROTHER

  • @aayushh.4647
    @aayushh.4647 Před rokem +9

    i am the victim here and this video changed my mindset
    please dont stop posting videos.. thank you for opening my eyes.. she always lied to be about her friend and i caught her. today she left me because i was mad for it

  • @hatepic15
    @hatepic15 Před rokem +7

    I begged the other day and first heart break at 25 just learned just found your channel

  • @drewbruns2895
    @drewbruns2895 Před 3 měsíci

    It’s pretty bad when they pick 2/10 losers over quality valuable attractive men

  • @Boutdatfitness
    @Boutdatfitness Před rokem +4

    Purpose over her. What's more important Accomplishing a goal

  • @enyamnyame6185
    @enyamnyame6185 Před rokem +3

    I was not her’s , it was just her turn ❤

  • @mohimbrood5787
    @mohimbrood5787 Před rokem +9

    23 weeks ago she lost me. I truly liked this woman but it was her choice to ghost me completely. I guess she just took advantage of me. Anyways fuck this shit im done conplaining back on the grind. Thankyou bro

  • @kamilglaz4029
    @kamilglaz4029 Před rokem +16

    Thanks for all knowledge Shaun. I am 50 and this year is bringing me good breakthrough. You ar doing great work, keep going, respect. Stay peace.

    • @ShaunZachary
      @ShaunZachary  Před rokem +1

      Appreciate it bro 🙏🏼

    • @slayer5097
      @slayer5097 Před rokem +1

      damn lots of older guys in here...that goes to show, this shit universal

  • @scottmac3539
    @scottmac3539 Před rokem +3

    Abundance mentality all the way. Be comfortable and content in solitude. Don't be a slave to the neuro-chemical cocktail of "love". It can impair your reasoning and judgment

  • @invisibleevidence1970
    @invisibleevidence1970 Před rokem +6

    I LOST MY SELF AND VALUE IN THE PROCESS OF TRYING TO GET HER BACK , TO THE POINT THAT SHE BLOCKED ME .
    IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO REALIZE THAT I HAVE VALUE AND THAT SHE IS NOT ALL THAT I THOUGHT SHE IS DIFFERENT AND MY SOULMATE , I LEARNED A LOT.

  • @mrredMavicair
    @mrredMavicair Před rokem +3

    Much love to all my brothers " we've all been fucked " but we will be okay and come back " ✌️👍

  • @jerryc5743
    @jerryc5743 Před 5 měsíci +1

    11:13 - it had taken me a while to reach that place mentally. Admittedly there are days I still struggle. One of the ways I continue is that I helps is just asking myself, “what do I do, outside of career, that makes my own life be enough to make me happy regardless of who would want to share it?” I have taken up piano, sailing, do my workouts, nutrition and much more. In the end, I find myself kicking myself for putting so much value in having a woman in times past.

  • @rubenrios7463
    @rubenrios7463 Před rokem +10

    Another masterpiece. God bless you brother!

  • @LeeEverett1
    @LeeEverett1 Před 2 měsíci

    Really needed to hear this one. I did everything right for this girl I dated for 6 months. Was always in my masculine frame, led the relationship, was her shoulder to cry on, took her on weekend trips etc and she ended up ghosting me after I called her out for disrespectful behavior. She couldn't handle a guy calling her on her BS so she blocked me and didn't even formally end things.
    It stings like hell ngl but it's 100% her loss as I did nothing wrong.

    • @KW-gs2gp
      @KW-gs2gp Před měsícem

      She spared you a horrible divorce down the road.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 Před měsícem

      @@KW-gs2gp The irony is that she's already been divorced, her marriage lasted 9 months before she filed. Should have seen the red flag but she convinced me she was abused and that her ex was the problem.

  • @hollaatyomom
    @hollaatyomom Před 11 měsíci +2

    For me what made her special was the attention and effort she gave to me in the beginning of our relationship. She made me feel special and wanted. Of course after the honeymoon phase ended it started going to shit and she eventually broke up with me.

    • @LeeEverett1
      @LeeEverett1 Před 2 měsíci

      That's called love bombing, many narcissistic women do this at the beginning of a relationship. They make you feel special, like you're a king, tell you things like "I've never been so happy with someone before", the sex is usually amazing etc but it's all a facade and typically drops around the 4th month.

  • @mjsocks5929
    @mjsocks5929 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Already feeling better.

  • @sogtv9799
    @sogtv9799 Před rokem +4

    Real game on this channel

  • @simoncephas4474
    @simoncephas4474 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I'll call this Perspective golden, damn Shaun u amazing u saving us men from this wave of instability women are putting up with now

  • @fightingGibs
    @fightingGibs Před rokem +5

    Last year was horrible for me I was Blaming myself to death and drinking too much But This year I’ve Stopped drinking Started being a bit healthier And you’re right, it took me this long to figure out And a Woman that doesn’t appreciate The nice things you do for Her Is no good for nothing Took me a while to figure that out But when I figured out, I got left for a junkie, I was thinking to myself what kind of moron was I going out with? Thanks for this video helps me a lot And you’re right, I never lost her. She lost me big-time.

  • @liveslowlivesimple
    @liveslowlivesimple Před rokem +3

    1:40 subscribed lmao

  • @rickychan1047
    @rickychan1047 Před měsícem +1

    *Give this brother some love & respect, remember to LIKE & SUBSCRIBE! ✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻

  • @stevenpickard1358
    @stevenpickard1358 Před rokem +2

    You didn't give me the but Shaun voice in the video. "But Shaun I love her she cooks the best lasagna shaun"😂😂Great video I'm on that shit already but thanks for the guys who still need to hear this message

  • @arstl6122
    @arstl6122 Před 3 měsíci +1

    630 mark I needed to hear this everything you said was so raw n real 💯

  • @Keith-if6zv
    @Keith-if6zv Před rokem +3

    Wow, This was a hard video. One of your best Shaun… pay attention to this video.

  • @oscarsaucedo1310
    @oscarsaucedo1310 Před měsícem +1

    I never beat myself up when my exgirlfriend wanted to lose me my current exgirlfriend deanna mae bair was treating me bad so I ended the relationship right away

  • @cedricraphiel3339
    @cedricraphiel3339 Před rokem +3

    Most definitely we the prize especially if we great in many ways it's her lost let her go ..some better always will come great video 💪🏿

  • @jacknorton3771
    @jacknorton3771 Před rokem +2

    Great video again. This is exactly what happened to me and what I am going through. I walked away for a reason 7 months ago. In a few weeks I will be in a new place and moving forward. It was her loss.

  • @user-hd3rf5nh6f
    @user-hd3rf5nh6f Před 7 měsíci +1

    This what I needed to hear.

  • @12BY6
    @12BY6 Před 9 měsíci

    Shaun you are on point.when you challenge with what made her special...i came up empty... she didn't dp anything to improve me but ride with me and lay on her back..i am her trick.. my goal is to move the fuck on

  • @louay8273
    @louay8273 Před rokem +2

    youtube dose not show me your videos anymore idk why anyways I was trying to find you for more then 30 mn I m happy to see your videos again and I hope for you the best .keep it up king ♥

  • @Tstorm-il5ih
    @Tstorm-il5ih Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you. Needed this today

  • @tylersto9073
    @tylersto9073 Před rokem +1

    What makes her so special is that she retired her parents

  • @jelsandim2260
    @jelsandim2260 Před rokem +2

    shaun i have seen A LOT OF THESE TYPE OF CHANNEL BUT HANDS DOWN YOU ARE THE BEST

  • @TYE2020
    @TYE2020 Před rokem +2

    If your not ready to date you got plenty of time to get to know yourself more

  • @bobsee678
    @bobsee678 Před rokem +2

    Man that last minute was the bell ringer. Tired ass women 👍

  • @baseballdude21345
    @baseballdude21345 Před 8 měsíci

    I love this video. My girl is starting to be very critical of me and is questioning our relationship. I think the writing is on the wall and things may end soon. I keep beating myself that it is my fault that she is losing interest, but the right mentality to have is that she will lose out on a great guy if she ends up walking away. I am a great guy and have a lot of things going for me, and I can’t control how she feels about me, as feelings are so fickle. This video has just made me feel at peace with whatever may happen next.

  • @mooneyrj76
    @mooneyrj76 Před rokem

    Shaun is my new best friend. Modern women play a game that gets you to invest in them and then chase a bad investment. Fuxx that....I am learning to treat myself with respect.

  • @TheDavesloan81
    @TheDavesloan81 Před rokem +2

    Wow, I've just found you and watched this video and the other of not getting your ex back!!! I've been in a bad place over my ex and doing all of the behaviors you mentioned with the messages etc - not anymore, I love myself and dignity more than her and the game playing!!!! Big Love Shaun from the UK 👊
    Thank you brother

  • @dcjc67
    @dcjc67 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Your videos have opened my eyes to different perspectives thank you !

  • @ilarionastreos6823
    @ilarionastreos6823 Před rokem +4

    One of the best videos bro. Totally one of the best. I’m 45 years old and I’m not a beginner. However, your advice on how to see the subject was spot on.
    Thank you.

  • @jaybradley100
    @jaybradley100 Před rokem +3

    Str8 no chaser

  • @nomadhitch579
    @nomadhitch579 Před rokem +2

    Good shit as always man! Load up on some echinacea and garlic

  • @ninetail3dfox
    @ninetail3dfox Před rokem

    I lost mine,(again) a month ago, and went back to her rebound. I lost her last November. She just went back to me to check if she can still have me. What a fool I am.

    • @HolyRollerTV
      @HolyRollerTV Před rokem

      ..she wasnt yours, it was just your turn...

  • @valyav.2248
    @valyav.2248 Před 11 měsíci

    true 😪 I got a long list what makes them so special .

  • @Ash_Hudson
    @Ash_Hudson Před rokem +7

    I haven't watched the whole video yet (just about to) and I understand the mindset you're trying to instil in men, and it's a valid one, but isn't this also teaching delusion? Sometimes introspection is a good thing. I know you're speaking to people you expect to have some nuance, but a lot of the dudes here may have genuinely fucked up their relationships with girls and may keep repeating the same mistakes that turn women off, and if their attitude is "well, it's her loss" then they're no different to the entitled women who don't take accountability for themselves in relationships, the "know your worth" bitches who apparently never make mistakes. That said, I wouldn't want the opposite extreme either with dudes beating themselves up. Please correct me if I'm wrong, or maybe the video will do that.
    Nevermind. Watched the rest of the vid, and you get more into the nuance of it. Good vid, man.

  • @ryukiniko
    @ryukiniko Před 7 měsíci

    I,ll tell you how she special she is special for the streets

  • @kevindodgersguerra2927
    @kevindodgersguerra2927 Před rokem +2

    Hey bro I had this woman that used to be all over me and liked me super hard. We had a hiccup I stopped talking to her for months.... She came back to me telling me how she couldn't stop thinking about me and shit. I felt for it and told her I also missed her and couldn't stop thinking about her too. Now she straight up shows no interest in me anymore while I'm all up on her when I see her. Yeah she may text me and shit but it's all dry and different. But I've had it she is showing she doesn't feel the same anymore and I'm over here getting my hopes up. I'm done bro I'm done I will continue to try to ignore her now she got me where she wanted me.

    • @erict.9017
      @erict.9017 Před rokem +1

      Same happened to me.....we had a 7 month break and she loved bombed me then has been hot and cold and now she dosent know what she wants.....after love bombing me. Her new thing is staying out late and drinking and hanging with her friends like a immature little girl. Partially cause her friend is newly divorced. So yeah..... there is loss

  • @eagleswin3942
    @eagleswin3942 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Thanks Shaun you're the best bro!!!!!!

  • @rasheemthebestfirstone3274

    Great video💪🏽💪🏽

  • @burrito_chesterton
    @burrito_chesterton Před 14 dny

    What if you just dismissed a girl you really like, when she asked you to stay,? Can we still, in that condition, say You Did Nothing Wrong?
    Have you, sir, experienced similar blunder in your life?

  • @98.wintzz
    @98.wintzz Před rokem +1

    Perfect timing for this video

  • @nellth7136
    @nellth7136 Před rokem +1

    You know it

  • @Specsy
    @Specsy Před 5 měsíci +1

    she lost me

  • @JustpokerB
    @JustpokerB Před 9 měsíci +1

    Thank u bro

  • @jeromestanford1992
    @jeromestanford1992 Před rokem

    4:54 A general rule of life or a cliche “Never Say Never”. One never knows does one.

  • @mariotaylor9659
    @mariotaylor9659 Před rokem +1

    Facts fam 💯👏🏽❤️🔥

  • @pulemolise2957
    @pulemolise2957 Před 8 měsíci

    Brother Shaun with the clutch block to get the victory by a single point. The way we the good guys do not value ourselves is insane, its destructive. We invest so much in the women, all they do is show up and then we are sad about someone whom we have shown love (the person whom there is proof that she stands to be at a loss) but we are all crying over people who do nothing for us but simply show up and most likely if she left she was using you all along....and you are sad over losing her?

  • @biohazard6380
    @biohazard6380 Před rokem +1

    Thank you

  • @Extrapua
    @Extrapua Před rokem

    You are perfectly on time

  • @juanlaoss1063
    @juanlaoss1063 Před rokem +1

    Thank you man, appreciate you doing this video I needed it

  • @NabilxAiden
    @NabilxAiden Před 11 měsíci +1

    She lost a real one, mad bout my time wasted

  • @ryukiniko
    @ryukiniko Před 7 měsíci +1

    I lost so many why the Fuck should I care bout her

  • @paulsum2496
    @paulsum2496 Před 10 měsíci

    Great advice, straight to the point !

  • @rayologyxm
    @rayologyxm Před rokem

    Excellent video. On point. Well needed 💯

  • @sagemode1642
    @sagemode1642 Před rokem

    real talk

  • @alpacino5025
    @alpacino5025 Před rokem

    Bless Shaun

  • @MrIowahawks77
    @MrIowahawks77 Před rokem +3

    You are right. Thank you no needed to hear this. It’s been eating at me for months and for what. It hurts but it gotta move on

  • @giloises
    @giloises Před rokem

    Good one.

  • @thisthathighlife
    @thisthathighlife Před 2 měsíci

    she lost me❗️

  • @sangbejeanmarc3510
    @sangbejeanmarc3510 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Nothing mase her special. I wanted to save her telling to go to school focus on work achieving things getting the connections … she cheated on me and i am half broke thrying to plan things with her. She cheated on my while at work just after she told me how much she love me. Lool my fault .. her loss.

  • @angeltorracaofficial
    @angeltorracaofficial Před 11 měsíci

    True

  • @archexeros
    @archexeros Před rokem

    We broke up about two weeks ago I was in no contact for 11 days and got weak cuz started missing her. So I hit her up called, her and surprise surprise NO ANSWER just *crickets* she hang up on me in less than 5 minutes. Instantly regretted it and Now I’m feeling a lot shittier than I was before

  • @bootseytwofly9454
    @bootseytwofly9454 Před rokem +1

    💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

  • @pwrmvs247
    @pwrmvs247 Před rokem +1

    🤔🤔… nope, cant think of anything special. 😂
    keep killin it the content!

  • @ThaBibleBoy
    @ThaBibleBoy Před 4 měsíci +1

    Weird being here right now

  • @patrickcomack5259
    @patrickcomack5259 Před 3 měsíci

    You are a very talented person, Shaun; your videos are inspiring!! But you will fall in love again, and you are very angry; w/ that said, your anger drives these excellent videos, Sir; Peace my brother!! From the 305!!

  • @MetalHeadRed954
    @MetalHeadRed954 Před rokem

    It was the little things that she would do like spending time with me and the intimacy!

  • @KhmerGuy1988
    @KhmerGuy1988 Před rokem

    🙏🏼