Parental Emotional Control: Training Up A Child Without Yelling (Pro 22:6)
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- čas přidán 21. 10. 2017
- Yelling if at all, rarely solves a situation. A recent study by the National Institutes of Health has shown that yelling has long-term effects, like anxiety, low self-esteem and increased aggression. However on the other hand, having control over our emotions (i.e. a calm but resolute demeanor) is reassuring and makes our children feel loved while being "disciplined" for their bad behavior. Don't get me wrong, yelling can be a powerful tool for special situations, if it's rooted in love and not our frustration. #TeachTrainTransform #SavingBoys
"We don't multitask. One thing at a time. Slow down."
THIS is such a powerful lesson in self calming through thoughtful action.
As a girl raised in a military house, this reminds me of my dad calling us his soldiers! My dad was a Sargent major but he NEVER yelled at us (as girls). More young people need love and discipline like this everyday in every aspect of their lives!!! Bless you for sharing this! Please keep sharing more!!
Think for a second - sol dier, soul dier. Soul die. Dead soul.
bro please keep dropping knowledge like this we need it as black men
As black men? Wisdom is universal, we all need this.
@@WybjornVR I agree. Every man would benefit from having this wise, loving, and powerful understanding within us.
It is not just needed to and for black men, we need it for all men period. No matter what color or social standards, rich or poor. All men need wisdom to pass onto their children which is the next generation and future of mankind.
True Story . .
As someone who was also raised in a yelling environment (there was no beating or to harsh yelling or words) I wish I could have parents like this
Sleeping Bag Kid I did too and it did not help me at all
This makes me wish I had a dad smh.
Boffano Olano he also came from a great place of pain. He did better in his next round.
Most dads are shit so you are not missing on anything
@@Solitude507 That’s such an untrue comment.
@@Solitude507 I’ve just re read your comment and I feel really sorry for you and your experience. I hope The Journey your on gets better.
@@peterking7165 thanks brother, i appreciate
I remember I loved when my dad would wake me up for school because he would do this.
I’m a 65 year old married woman who is raising an 12 year old (all of his life), this is after having raised four older adults. But you’re never too old to learn and want to thank you for this excellent tutorial and look forward to more from you✌🏽. Thanks
ima try this I have an 9 year old son.i love this man his wife and son is blessed
Great video, considering I came from a family that yelled. GREAT job Dad! :)
I love the brah, bro brah, 10 mins to get ready bro, at the end. You guys are like bros. My son is on the way & i hope to be like this with him....
Don't hope for it but rather instead simply be it. Be his father and be his bro. Be his mentor and role model while being his best friend.
I wish you a great fatherhood and that you and your coming son gets to share and experienced the best life has to offer for you.
Bless
Love how he calls his son brother 🤣. What a cool dad!
Being a father of a 4 month old son, first child that my girlfriend and I have, things get into a struggle at times. There’s a long road ahead of us, but with this I know has already helped us in the future. Much love and respect! ❤️
god bless you and your family 💕
this is very helpful for me in my inner child healing work. I can go back and treat my child self like this, so that he feels empowered and like we are a team working together, rather than a power struggle where the two options (obey/rebel) do not feel empowering
Wow what a Super Dad and that young gentleman is gonna be a super star father as well! I gotta rework my methods.
God bless you ! I have seen way too many parenting styles where kids are being mindlessly yelled at and hit .. you have an amazing style where you are firm but loving. Amazing job !
Most excellent and from a father ... this is Love. What I am trying to do is retrain my children in deportment with the principal of looking, aligning, and moving. Amazingly this principal carries over in all areas of living.
One thing to note is you were giving your son a double message telling him to move quickly but not telling him how. One thing in the hands at a time and an expression I recently heard applies 6 comes before 7. Or translated first things first.
I do appreciate your comment on the art of orderliness. The men in my life sons, fathers appreciate beauty without loosing their masculinity.
Excellent parenting!
Where was this when I was growing up??? 😭
Seriously…if only I had a dad like this.
But I have God as my Father teaching me now. My dad failed in training me so the Lord had to present himself as an example for what it means for myself to be a real man. Just like his example shows you as a woman how to be a real woman, not like most women today.
@@stevenl1706 Exactly!
God bless you for what you do for these boys! Im absolutely wowed by your youtube channel. The world needs more people like you in it!
Well done! This is the kind of stuff that is being lost. The focus has shifted to making sure kids are happy, not understanding that the focus needs to be on loving, consistent training to prepare for life.
This made me cry such a beautiful display of love!
I was raised getting hit and yelled at but I watch videos like these to learn better. Thank you.
I just love this!! I am notorious for yelling in the mornings. I Definitely have to do better. Thank you!!🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing. My 18 year old son found this and sent it to me to watch. I appreciate the lessons.
Hello :) I wanted to post/comment just to say you're an amazing dude. I wish more people had the same type of attitude, discipline, and understanding that you do. I'm sure your son is going to grow up and be an amazing man also. I hope someday I can be as great of a father as you are, to my future son or daughter! Much love.
This is how you should parent your children. There’s no need to yell and put them down. Just encourage them and show them love when they do right. Much love to you brother and I hope you and your son are doing well.
Thank thank thank you!!!!!! God bless you! I’m going to put this in practice starting tomorrow.
what a handsome, intelligent young black son, bless u for your content. i dont have kids but me and fiance plan on having kids and i learn a lot from you, and 70% of the time I learn a valuable lesson myself. Keep up the blessed work u do Brother!!
I read Hebrews 3:13. I see without exhorting, the enemy gets a foothold. This explains a lot in regards to my family dynamic. There is more that I need to do in terms of lifting up my family. Thank you for sharing. Blessings Brother.
If you could be so kind as to share this young man's age, I'd be very grateful 🙏🏾
This is a beautiful demonstration of love. Thank you for showing us the way.
Amazing father. Kid’s gonna grow up to become something real special.
You sir have opened my eyes to be a better model for my son. I dare not say role model, because I am still trying to figure out my 'role' and learn. After watching this, I now see how to be assertive, without the yelling, to be patient with my child, because without patience you're robbing them of their confidence, and the feeling of seeing things thru pay off . Gracias
THis video helps me be more conscientious of time and tasks and getting things accomplished in a good fashion. I think of it when I am getting ready and showering and doing dishes and stuff.
Most “dads” don’t know how to be fathers. I think it’s very honorable how this man dealt with his son. My boy is going on 2 and I’m already setting the groundwork for him in this perverse and adulterous generation. Thank you sir for demonstrating what TRUE fatherhood looks like…it ain’t yelling and screaming at them and just whooping them into obedience, that’s just gonna grow a harvest of rebellion later on. Great job brother, God bless you and your family.
This is absolutely beautiful! Spectacular job parenting your son!
Your calmness... is beautiful.
You sir are doing such an amazing job
Beautiful Boy💙
What an adorable little boy. You can see how proud he was of himself in the end. This is perfect! Thanks for showing this. I am planning my children and I am learning the appropriate way to treat them. I cringe when I hear parents yelling at their children or hitting them. It’s totally unnecessary. I’d rather send my children off with no anxiety and feeling loved and encouraged. Good job on mindful parenting!
When you want so desperately to break the chains and the cycle to change and move different than the former generations but you just don’t know WHAT to DO differently. GOD is good and He hears us y’all. YHWH HEARS OUR PRAYERS AND KNOWS OUR HEARTS! You don’t know how much I needed THIS, sir.
Yep !! I wish I had a father imagine a dad . .
Thank you for posting this. I appreciate you!
Excellent Parent and Father...
Awesome! Great job!
I saw this years ago, didn’t know this was on YT. Searched it just now to prove a point and watching it now I almost cried, that’s a big deal for me. My father was an absolute tyrant. People, if you want your children to disrespect and hold you in contempt then do the opposite of this man. Why doesn’t this video have millions of views?
This is amazing, I’m glad I clicked on this this❤️👏
As the minute hand advances, fewer and fewer people on the planet understand the purpose of this video. From that perspective, I inhabit hell. But I'm strong and I'm altruistic. I'm christian. Let's change this world, one idiot at a time. This channel deserved to have at least 50x+ subscribers. Greetings from Brazil.
May there be a special place in heaven for u. God bless.
I love how your dealing with him
Loving his desk! Dope!
Your kid will be successful in the future
Honestly, I have no idea what to do with my son. But this is a good place to begin. Thank you
I hope this kid understands how lucky he is to have you as a father god bless you and your family brother man
Tarek Abukare I'm so blessed to have him for a son
This is awesome! Keep up the great work!
Good stuff here. Two thumbs up
love this!
Thank you so much.
Awesome!!!
I enjoyed the boys response at the end.😁💯
Yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!! I think it's time for you to write a book.
I love this ❤
Astounding
I came here because I'm tired of yelling ... Its not helping the situation nor my health .. I want the up most best for my children .. That's all I want .. Thank you for the video
This is good brother. Inspiring.
That made me happy inside to the child’s reaction at the end. Pure joy. 🤗
Great father. Mad fucking respect
Your a beautiful man brotha. I salute you
This is amazing 😉
i love this my man! great man you are!!
love your videos! very inspirational
yet i do have to say this, that oatmeal will be easier to eat out of a bowl LOL ( just had to give you a hard time a bit lol)
Great discipline for your Son...
Wish i had a person that i could call a dad, my stepdad mentally abused me and broke my things even if i do a little slip up which almost led me to commit suicide, but there is no point crying for it, it is what it is, you don't focus on the things you can't change, you do on the thinks you can, if anyone who had the same ,,father figure'' you don't have to become that person that's been forged by insults, you've got this!!
This is the fundamental solution to almost all societal problems.
Once you master the fundamentals. Only then will you gain a more permanent solution.
More videos PLEASE I hate to demean my child!!
Happy Father’s Day!!!!!!!
Nice!
I am going to try this. My issue is getting my youngest to even wake up without me picking him up and putting him on his feet.
Just brain storming...he might need to go to bed earlier. I know when i let my middle child just sleep till he wakes up on his own in the week end he sleeps for 10 hrs. So if i want him to easily wake-up on his own at a certain time I have to get him to bed 9-10 hrs before that.
@@swazti8630 that was part of it and he had a vitamin D issue too at that time I lived in a cold region.
you are amazing
I’m working so hard on this
You've got a new subscriber
NatalieGouche thanks Natalie!!!!
❤️
Pressure also causes anxiety
Omg the father or community I wish I had.
This is unfortunately what many households of color are missing. This kind of parenting takes : patience, skill and kindness and confidence. It's hard to do
My 11 year old asked: “how did he wake him up?”
Good question 🌝
I would like to talk to you.....I have some questions, need some help.....
Whatever works.
Weres my dad?? 😭
Hebrews 3:13
These Videos should be part of sex education in Elementary, Middle and High school. If students can see this they can help there parents to parent. Also be shown to gain knowledge before a child is conceived.
Jesus is Lord Amen!❤️✝️
David Goggins is watching
one thing as a black men ,we never lke is hearing women wiht loudscreamign.
I want my son to be friends with your son. :)
*0:38** who puts their shirt in the underwear?*
Was he worried about disappointing you 😂
At his age, he is old enough to have privacy, he doesn’t need you standing there watching him get dressed :)❤️
Holy Jesus - Today black people are more white than white people white :D Good spirit over there!
You could even teach brits how to be brit :D