If you don't know THIS, you'll keep ending up with Narcissists
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00:00 introduction
01:03 Why you need to see everybody as a narcissist
01:24 Narcissist come as everything you have ever wished for
03:28 Narcissists weaponize radical honesty
05:28 Hyper rationalization
06:53 Look for long term patterns
07:56 Different narcissists in different fields
09:20 Relaxed vigilance
10:30 Become a curious observer
11:38 The conclusion
People who have never experienced narcissistic abuse have no idea what the survivors go through. Its a soul crushing experience
So true 💔
Many people live with narcissists and they don't know what they are. Being narcissistic has been normalized and I don't mean the ones who grew up in that environment only. Many people live in denial.
Demonic experience
Truth
Absolutely. I ended up hospitalized...not by choice, my doctor knew I couldnt handle it anymore...And it wasn't even my spouse! It was my brother inlaw and his wife..a narc couple. Bullied me to another level. They ruin the ENTIRE family.
Your stomach will get nauseous and queasy around evil people....never ignore these survival alarms.....
Yes! Please, do not ignore that! I did, and I ended up with stomach ulcers. Listen to your body!
I figured out when I am attracted to someone, they are most likely narcissistic… is it bad that I’m interested in breaking “them” down? I try with honesty and kindness, and they completely “fake fall for me”… and I am a chaste female. I know what my armor is now? I don’t want to turn into one, EVER.
My second husband, is a covert. I loved him truly, but I can also destroy when the monster comes out.
There's probably an "What did they say and did they just say what I think they said" aha moment we must smooth over and live through!
@@samiam7846 I think we would all like to destroy the toxic people in our lives like they do us!
Truly yes!
"These people know how to fake normalcy". No truer words have ever been spoken. Can't believe I fell for that act.
They can only do so if they've a target to shake their absurd shallow superiority thoughts onto AND also be getting away with it!
I fell for my sister in laws victim martyr saint BS for 40 years!!!!!!!
@@MJ-qb5ph I'm so sorry Hun....wish there was an easier way out with these emotional vultures
@@monicarai1497 Thanks. Family cult bullying almost led to suicide but a huge amount of inner work and you finally realize the scapegoat is the only sane one - they did not get their wish - to destroy you
But its difficult to act normal for long periods of time.
In doubt, don't engage. Period. The risk is simply too high.
It is a lonely road as a survivor. When you're surrounded by narcissistic elders, that too in a country like India where parents are put on a pedestal and worshipped, it is very easy to become an outcaste. You're seen as the crazy one even when you're speaking the truth. It takes immense courage to walk on this solitary path. Energy slumps an weak moments are bound to happen at some point or the other, but we must get up, dust ourselves and keep walking the path of 'truth'.
That must be very difficult to stand up against narcisism if it's the cultural norm that parents should be worshipped. I already find it a lonely road but I can't imagine how it is in the situation that you just described.
Same here in Mormonism.
If I mention my Narcissist mother to people they always say "Oh yea, I know all about that. My (blank) is one". They don't really have a clue.
They think it's someone who's grandiose when that is far from true with the covert.
Come to Canada, that pedestal's legs will soon be shortened!
@@LoveDancingLoveSinging❤ it is one yr since the Arabs killed the young woman who'se headscarf was lowered, 500 died in protests and 1/2 the women go without, aka you be the change, I woukd never marry an Indian, women must stay in the kitchen while the men smoke and party, women are smarten than men thus their need to keep us down!
Same as arabs.
Sometimes it feels like everyone really is 😢
This is how I feel a lot lately, having just gotten discarded by a narcissist. I try to move on and get to know new people, but now everyone looks like a narcissist. But also, I live in LA. And I've never seen so many narcissistic people in one town.
@@BlinkinFirefly😂
I wish I'd had this awareness training decades ago. Parents (who are not narcs) need to have it to raise abuse-resistant children.
As a child of a narc father that is my goal every day...to raise an narc spotting abuse poof child
Sometimes, I still make the mistake of talking with someone I don't know as if everyone is like me BUT THEY ARE NOT! My Cali neighbor said to me: "Not everyone is like you." When I look back, I think she meant it as more of a warning than anything else and wish I would've taken it that way.
I recently met a friend of a friend. Seemed pretty cool. AT FIRST!! The other day (I haven't seen her since then, but I will soon) she showed her real self, directed at me & very subtle. Snide comments, speaking over me, etc, etc.... what she doesn't know is that I've been married to one 31yrs!! I can smell a narc from a mile away!! Evil, hate filled, wicked creatures!! Male AND female!
Alot of people have b.s. agendas, sucks to be them! Even worse are people who think everyone is out to get them, that's an older paranoid narc!
This is a lesson that I am trying so Hard to learn.
I have learned that lesson the hard way. The hardest lessons make the biggest difference. Good luck to you.
I've been told the same thing....I too wish I had taken it as a warning ⚠️ but I hate the person it's made me become to protect myself.... hope you all are handling it better then me 🙏
Be indifferent...or neutral
Be respectful
Smile
And hold your boundaries
We have enough information
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Thank you for this. No more ignoring the red flags anymore.
I've just made a friend who has red-flagged me enough for me to see the whole relationship as fake and an attempt at securing supply.
all true . i tried for 40 years to fix my ex . it never happened. i can change/fix no one . protect your Soul
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My ex narc could have won an academy award. 😅 Thank you, Danish!!
Especially had your narc been the only judges!
A covert narc can “fake normalcy” for many years. If someone is charming, and too good to be true, they’re likely a narc. They can be exactly what you want them to be, as long as they are getting what they want - but the evil will destroy you, sooner or later.
So true, Danish. I've dealt with this all my life and I just can't wait to turn the key in my front door - get inside - and be by myself. They've all tried to destroy me in one way or another and I'm just so grateful that I no longer have to live with one. Thanks for the terrific work you do. You've helped me so much in the last few months. xxx
Yes,he cried and cried about his hard life-as an empath of course I felt sympathy.
He was so mentally cruel.
Yes.. I never knew that I would start to hate someone for crying. I still can see that face, twisting to cry, the slight tremor on jaw, mouth turning down, teary eyes looking up to me... And it wasn't real, never was
Back in 2012 My dad cried while sitting in his wheel chair post stroke saying he never thought his life would turn out like this. I felt absolutely no pity or joy. I am a compassionate health care provider to my patients but for him I only wanted him to stop. It felt fake. It's 2023 and I hear nothing has changed except he is even worse at 80 yrs old.
Thanks brother.
I request everyone to make notes from this channel.
Only this person, Dear Danish, has courage to speak truth.
Stay blessed brother.
the gaslighting is the worst, they discard you, then say , ''Why dont you want me"" its insane.
At this point- anyone who makes me feel yuck has to go- be it a job, a partner l, friend or family. I just ignore them. I cannot change for anyone.
@@jbrown2908yep. I won’t change. I answer to no one but god and my soul and I don’t go around hurting people no matter what the narcs in my life say. I’m hurting them by doing a puzzle?? Please. 😂
I once went out on a date with a woman who talked about how she had experienced narc rage from an an ex and how this ex (along with another ex) how they had gas lit her. I only spent a couple of hours with her and by the end date and based on her behaviours, I realised was gaslighting me and how is seriously suspected she was a narcissist but she was none the wiser 😂. Lucky escape hey…
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Yes we must listen and pay attention to our intuition
That's how he triggered my empathy actually in the beginning . He would talk shit bout his ex wife ALL THE TIME. Like oh she totured me. I started gaining weight and slipped into depression. And my empath instincts just kicked in.
I held back on the empathy when he talked about his ex's because you only know a story when you know both sides. I was not going to just believe anything he said. Besides, what he was saying didn't add up. Also, it's really none of my business and saw that he was violating her privacy by telling me certain things. I didn't think it was right and recognized he had a big mouth and would do the same to me if it didn't work out. I decided to not get involved in gossip and put up a boundary and told him not to talk to me about his ex's at all. He wouldn't stop because he was trying to make me jealous. I ended it and now he's running his big mouth about me...using me to make his new girlfriends jealous. Now I've got crazy women stalking me. These narcs are pathological liars. I see that they use the last woman to make the new one jealous. They use people even if your not around anymore. It's a strategy they use and the new one needs to not fall for it or let them manipulate you like that... he's a liar... it's to make you jealous and insecure!
@@homespace1268 Exactly. I found out what he was doing but much much later. It's hard when you're an empath. You wanna go round saving the world coz no one saved you. Oh well. Lesson learned.
@@homespace1268 But of course that's a different thing that his ex wife turned out to be a narc as well. I was like "I'm leaving. You guys enjoy this shit. I'm out". Best karma is to let them have each other
@@monicarai1497 Yes, the empath will use her logic and intuition to eventually figure things out. If the woman is a narc then they play the same games and probably harass both their ex's because they're both crazy, lacking in empathy and see nothing wrong with bullying people. A true empath needs to see through the bullshit and will have some empathy for the ex who is probably going through a lot of pain and went no contact with him.
@@monicarai1497Let's be honest about that saviour mentality: it itself is a form of narcissism. To imagine that you (or I) have the ability to save all and sundry is a bit crazy and represents, imo, a displaced need to work on and care for oneself.
I see almost everyone as a narcissist. Overly dramatic or very self absorbed. Until they prove me wrong. I’m a Schizoid and try to avoid people if I and when I can. I’m really much better alone. 😊❤
Why is being schizoid a personality disorder considering that schizoids don't harm anyone or themselves ?
It's always an idea when starting off with someone new to try a bit of constructive criticism. Narcs can only accept praise and flattery (for themselves) so this will certainly cause them an injury for which you will be punished. It's an easy way to begin the process of elimination.
LOVE this method!! I will do just that the next time I run into a certain person I've met recently. There are Always signs with these creatures!
Great idea!
@Todd.the.Wraith Wow, they really are delusional nutcases aren't they!?
@Todd.the.Wraithisn't that terrible, letting you know how unimportant they think you are yet happy to waste everyone's time!
@Todd.the.Wraith sounds like my mother. Her favorite go to is 'If I did/say that, I don't remember'
therefore, you should let it go & forget about it too. Blows my ever loving mind 🤯
I constantly ask questions and connect the dots! That's why narcs hate me.
Most narcissists are so extremely good at what they do, it's nearly impossible to spot them no matter how vigilant we are.
Yes, perhaps 20 years ago, some psychologists' estimated that 1 in 23 people are sociopaths - not only are they finding new & improved ways to use to prey upon others, the numbers could be more like 1 in 3 now.
😮😮 where are those stats? These people out here are nuts...
There are a lot more people on the planet now so imagine the numbers. My father who is narc and was a physician said to me when I was 16 "You will find out that half the world doesn't have good sense." That's was a warning that I dismissed because being out in the world surely had to be better than the abuse at home right? Wrong! Now I'm the healthcare provider. I have found many people have serious issues that are unchecked, undiagnosed and untreated for a multitude of reasons. Someone help us all.
@Grace4me111 No, those are invented or misremembered stats. Current research estimates that 4% of the US population are psychopaths, which means that 4 out of every 100 Americans you meet are psychopathic. The rates in other parts of the world are 1-2 per hundred. The number of sociopaths is harder to estimate, but it's nowhere close to 1 in 3 as that would almost instantly lead to the internal disintegration of society. It may well be, however, that we in the West are now seeing rates as high as 1 in 10, and that's very concerning.
Be vigilant, be observing
Oh, my God. This task is not going to be easy 😢. May God bless and protect all of us out there . Thanks for the explanation ❤
Every empath needs to know this.. A potential redflag is anyone who seems to have alot in common.. even want to talk about it.. your silence is the key to shutting them down & any information online, even rumors they can weaponize
It's sad that we have to be this way. I feel like I'm hypervigilent, I spot them everywhere now , but still fearful of being taken in by one. Which causes me to avoid new relationships
Be wary but don't shut yourself off. Never give more than you are willing to lose.
Relaxed vigilance and trusting your gut plus patience, attention and assumption that everybody can be a potential narcisist are good tools to use while discerning what we are dealing with. Devil always comes as your friend. Thank you for expert advice Danish. God bless you❤
Perfectly expressed, Danish, and keenly important advice for all to abide by! As the narc is the controller of the narrative, the master imitator, manipulator and ringleader of all whom he decides will play as his minions, it is imperative that we maintain a high level of vigilance in recognizing behaviors and language that reveal and unmask the narc. This is key to our survival, though it's damned unjust that we must do all the work and make the sacrifices to expose these freaks. If more people were aware of narc abuse, we could produce a collective clown show or perhaps hold "reveal parties" (much like those that are done to announce the sex of unborn babies) in communities where the narc has committed the most damage. A few years ago, an ex-wife of a narcissistic celebrity chef in NYC hired a small plane flying a banner that read "Bobby Flay is a serial liar and cheater." Millions read the message live that day and his professional reputation sank to new lows for a long time after. Still our priority as survivors and thrivers is protecting ourselves, our peace, joy, and anonymity. Thank u, Danish! How may we design this episode as a lecture or lesson plan for teachers and parents? ❤
What about telling a person no and waiting to see if they react in anger? Thats a way to tell
I’ve been in and out of therapy and coaching for the past 20 something years and in my experience with about a dozen or so coaches and therapists I’d say maybe 90% of them were high in npd traits. Respecting the fact that I am not a professional and coming from what I have learned and applying it to my experiences that’s where I’m at on this right now. The main clue that is repeating is invalidation and devaluation while working through traumatic events or while expressing feeling about things. I have gotten really fast at seeing them for what they are in the past couple years. It’s very difficult to have your gaurd up in a space that we are told is to be universally safe.
I do all I can to avoid contact being that I was raised in a narcissistic family system, I can hold my ground for a while then just the right amount of stimulus and I can go into fawning and other not so great states of mind and it can take me weeks and or months pending on the duration of the situation to get myself back in line.
If you become reliant on the narcissist to meet your emotional needs you will find it difficult to end the relationship. The remedy is to meet your own emotional needs. Then you will be able to walk away when they become disrespectful. You won't NEED them to make you feel validated or loved because you are already getting this from yourself. Learn how to do this so you are able to walk away when they don't treat you right. NO second chances. They either respect you or they don't. 🤷 ❤
Very serious topic. It seems we have no way out. Scary. Sometimes, it seems I don't belong here in this world. Also it seems I have narcissist traits...
A narcissist has an unbelievable energy and health, a superb mental intelligence and a personality to impress all.
Can you believe my 70 year old mother in law has been manipulating everything in my life and no one but I know what her reality is .My married life is still being attacked by her.I believe she will never die and the story will end only with my death.I don't want to give up !She is the other woman in my life... She has full control over what I eat and wear...and who I meet.She has forced me into loneliness.surprizingly I am still Alive
Thank you. Leaving a narc is extremely lonely, especially if you have a child. I'm afraid of taking up with another and don't know who to trust.
Let people earn your trust. How do they treat others ? Do they need to control them ? Are they angry when they can't have things their way ? Do not rely on others to meet your emotional needs for acceptance and validation. Learn how to give it to yourself. Then you are not trapped by your own unmet needs. You will not be reliant on them so it will be easier to walk away if they disrespect you. ❤️
@@leanne123We all need acceptance and validation from others for the simple reason that we're social beings, a social species. We all need to feel accepted and valued. The trick is not to let that need drive one's behaviour, not to let it blind us.
A narcissist is a very dangerous creature. It can also be so insidious. As someone who has survived such a situation. Be careful, take your time, listen to your guts. Do you really feel safe and happy with this person. Is the person a pleasure to be with that you don't notice the time going by.? Is the person encouraging, grateful, appreciative, truthful. Put them on the casting chair. Observe, interview them, learn them. Take your time, never be rushed.
My former N boyfriend would always rush me. Always try to unseat me emotionally so I was off base. What a creeper.
Thanks Danish. This is so true! I’m an empath… narc mum and ex husband. Dated a ‘spiritually aware’ male who had lived in an ashram…used all that spiritual jargon against me. Another narc! In shock 😅 I thought I had found someone with the depth and awareness I wished for haha another wolf in sheeps clothing. 😮Watch out people!!
May the Lord keep u well and stable always
so many of us need your guidance
thank you
This is what my sister is like and to my surprise she’s now this self healer and when I opened up to her BS (with caution) just to see where she’s going with that, she of course suddenly attacked me with her bizarre blame game and lies about our childhood!
Same here 💯%
My sister is the same exact way!!!
Wow! Gaslights all the time to get access.
The trouble is, they are very sneeky. I waited 2 years to let my guard down... and then they showed their true colours. Cant win with these people.
I have listened to many of your pod casts and I think that this one is the rule that I will take to my heart and start living my life with upper most in my mind, basically trust no one till proved otherwise, best self protection ever, thank you Danish I truely appreciate your efforts in bringing information to people. ❤
i think as survivors of abuse from narcissism - or rather just survivors of abuse - moves us into co-dependant behaviour, that in it self is an ''i'm over hear'' neon light for narcissists. by the way Thankyou so much for this video - what you said at 2 min mark is SO true, and i have probably been around more narcissists that i previously knew (grooming you based on your likes- that one)
Hello I really get this. This what I do . I never want to meet another ever. I'm constantly on guard for it now . There everywhere . I can't unsee it !
They are jealous people and users. They are very insecure. They copy people and they talk only about others never themselves. Those are the key things to look for to avoid Narcissists I've found.
Each time You discover how Evil 😈 Mean, Vicious, Awful and Extremely Dangerous: Narcissist Person Can be , 😢 💔 You are Aleays Shocked Again. You can Never Imagine How Demonic Narcissist Person can be and You are always Shocked Again and Sometimes you become Really Sick 😫 Devestated and Destroyed Again Over and Over because Sometimes Narcissists Pretend to be Normal for a short time. Efrat.
I was very hypervigilant and it was burning out my nervous system so I love the tip about grounding and centering my awareness in my body and observing from a place of relaxed awareness. This video just changed my life. Let the healing continue and the thriving begin❤
This is the best video you made
Because till now we used to try and identify a narcissist but finally I realized as you said we must see everyone with a little doubt.
💯 true
Thanks for everything danish
You are life saver
good points, and also there are people who don't quite add up, but to whom it never becomes clear who they are...- mostly though, 80 years of experience has shown me that a truly solid good person, whom you can rely on to be consistently honorable and good over time, actually good, that you can feel in your bones, is going to be very very rare - I've known two people like that in my life, and I consider myself really blessed and very fortunate to have know them and had the good fortune to have them in my life. you can ask yourself the question, "who would I trust my life with? - is there, even one, that you would do so without reservations? if there is, then you can compare other people you know with these true people, and get a better idea of whether you are sure who they are :)
Hahahaha!!! “Logic-ing “ the SHIT out of…..I LOOOOVE this and have recently noticed this w my step-daughter. Too funny that these ppl really think they’re so sly and we are so damn dumb to fall for the crazy hateful bullshit 😂
Took me a very long time to understand about this evil personality, since we do not think or feel like them. Our programming is simply totally different. All’s to say that I truly appreciate you spitting out the truth and helping us to see it all for what it really is, then to empower and protect our selves and future generations from these insane cycles
So true. Strange 😮times we are living in.
When he talks about narcs disguising themselves makes me think about the shape shifter types in films. When someone gets close the mask slips the tail pokes out of their cloak and they have a big grin over their shiny red faces. Might be a good battle plan. Intimacy always seems to root them out.
One piece of advice.. learn to listen with your eyes not your ears. Pay attention .. there are always red flags..don't be afraid to judge .even when you've asked all the right questions, it doesn't protect you from a narcissist because they really know how to groom. Don't allow yourself to be too desperate or lonely. A narcissist is very good at the trade.
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen on CZcams .
There is NO GUARANTEE one will NOT fall victim to a NARCISSIST ~ Sam Vaknin
yes! wisdom here! Thank you Danish! Thank you for being brave enough to say this truth out loud.
You just explained what frustrates me when I try to explain these things to people..This was missed.Bravo.
I guess in a nutshell what you're trying to say is "Err on the side of caution"
Yes. You got it
the evil one comes with a beautiful face
Now I understand why it’s Detroit VS Everybody🙌🏽💯 I don’t even believe in trust. I don’t share my special places with people anymore. I keep everything surface with outsiders. After what I’ve survived I’m on guard 24/7🤦🏽♀️😒
Logicing the SHIST out of everything!!! My covert narc hub.!!! And he was always so PROUD of himself for being so logical! What a donkey's behind! I just tune him out and walk away now.
I developed a technique for reading people. Probably developed it out of necessity when living at home. I can feel other people's energy and sometimes even their emotions. And since I've hitchhiked for decades, I learned to read people very quickly. I know in a split second of looking in the window whether I would get in a car with someone or not. It just takes practice. Read everyone you meet, and in time, see how accurate you are. Trust your instincts!
It does seem there are more narcs in the world, or many aren't faking normal so much anymore! I can't believe how many I work with.
This is so true. I can read folks now in no time. It's like I scan everyone I come in contact with and it's not done in a paranoid anxiety riddled way. It's like I have a built in security checkpoint.
@@swiftkarma4436 Exactly!
Excellent explanation. Thank you.
Logic-ing the sh-t out of everything. Good expression! 😂
This is the best advice! The best part about living thru my narcissistically abusive relationship, is that I not only had courage to leave but it changed me for the better and I almost feel like I “leveled up” as a human and my awareness is so much more intrinsic with in now. It’s so easy to live exactly as your speaking in this video once you have been thru it, but also spent the time really healing and learning from it. I hate to say I’m happy it happened to me because it was beyond horrific, but it did make me so much better and I’m thankful it could help me be a better me! Thanks Danish for helping people from these devils in disguise!!
I find you have the best insight into the narcissistic personality disorder. You completely describe these people. I watch all of your videos. After watching you and some other CZcamsrs I am getting educated on this personality types. It helps me to get not trapped and taken advantage of.
This video is GOLD. Such incredible summary of all one needs to know of the reality of how Narcs are. Every single thing you said resonates. It’s validating and empowering. Thank you for the video.
This is by far an unspoken truth by anyone. I really felt u spoke all the things that I was confused and expecting the other CZcamsrs who talk about narcissism to reveal this truth of how they can portray themselves to be good and genuine. Thank you once again bro. Very insightful!
Dear Danish, I have been devastated for years now, living in a void with a bunch of narcissists, parent, long term co-parenting ex and a recent ex. I have been pouring over narcissist videos online and must say I enjoy your videos the most. Thank you for your wise words. I'm completely shattered but after watching your videos, i reached out to a therapist to get help to get over this abusive, self-shattering sh*t I experienced. Thank you, thank you.
I have been observing people and the healing path has arrived for me. The maternal trauma I had shaped my life. I had to break those chains and go forward. I can now spot those evil narcissist. My Mom was one, her true self finally came out to me. Mom passed away four years ago, I work to heal came this year. Thank you Danish.
I was put off by this at first, (innocent until proven guilty?), but have decided you are right. People will show you who they are if you can be patient and listen and observe.
You can't give people the "benefit of the doubt". I was taught to do so and it only kept me in disrespectful relationships. To protect yourself you must never depend on others to fulfill your emotional needs. If you are relying on them then you are going to stay in disrespectful relationships. If they show you disrespect ONCE then you have to be able to walk away. NO second chances with your heart. They either respect you at all times or they don't. You are not their mother or father. You don't need to train them how to treat others with respect.
Yeah...I'm not ready to risk it. I've had more than enough of the "game". I'm good on my own, and as they say, "if ain't broke don't fix it". I'm broke "thanks to my narcissist, but I'm not broken. Should I meet someone, yes, they would have a bit of a challenge proving theirself to me.
Be around them long enough, the truth will be revealed. As soon as u see & feel it, don't doubt urself; move on & don't look back. Remember, when someone shows u who they are, believe it, the first time!
you are absolutely right. Anyone can be a suspect
Can't un-see this. I got away from a toxic and abusive 0.5 lifetime marriage 6 years ago, and often blame myself for seeing anyone new I come across as an individual on the spectrum. But I would rather be wrong than become stuck in yet another such horrible relationship! Good video, thank you ❤
❤DANISH you have helped me so much…My covert Narc cheated on me and I didn’t know for 2 years. So many lies! We have been married for 27 years with 5 children . He is a pilot. Yes I should have know better.. He was so charming. Actually almost to good to be true. He has told me many times he married me to raise his kids and for sex in the last 5 years . I have been trying to break the trauma bond for a year now. I thought it was a midlife crisis for so many years. I pretzels myself up to keep my kids from knowing. Thank God! I finally figured it out. It’s been a nightmare! Thanks to your videos I am waking up. I am stronger and wiser. I know I will be better off without him. Your a God sent! 🙏🏼
My ex narc.. 100% logic no real feelings. All acting. He should be nominated to Oscars for his role.
Thanks 😊 Danish for the information it's very helpful because due to my childhood I seen to pick narcissist I can now began to see I want healthy friends you're so right people who want to control their adult children are not healthy also children who want to control their parents every one has the right to choose Thanks for your videos 💖🍀😊💙🙏🙏 very helpful for those who are healing as myself 💙
Very good
You're always 💯 % right with such intrinsic details that we can save our lives.
This is so true. The so called spiritual gurus that groomed people follow. They can pick up and throw away victims easier and be covered by their unsuspecting followers
I agree with all that you’ve said Danish. However when I was dating my narcissist ex husband he was wearing his mask so he was putting on the theatrics I was young I believed it but all along I started to feel very unhappy and I had a strong gut feeling of unhappiness around him. They say to trust that gut feeling. Suddenly I did not want to continue seeing him but in those days our parent made us get married and they made me marry him. I never saw a single happy day after the marriage not one. Thank God he left and I slowly came back to life after being drained of all my energy by him. Now free as a bird and loving my life and children and grandchildren.
Being independent will save you from it.
Thanks
Thanks Banish. I am slowly learning how to not tip my hand. Being very careful. For me.
I literally used to watch videos about narcissist while dating my ex narcissist
I needed to hear this today
Wonderful advice ❤
The person I was supposed to be able to trust implicitly was my female doctor, MARRIED mother of FOUR, more than TEN YEARS younger than me! 👩🏼⚕️👺
FULL BLOWN NPD instead. If you can’t trust your primary care physician, who can you trust?
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As a healthcare provider I am truly sorry that happened to you. I hope you will be able to find a PCP you can trust.
@@swiftkarma4436 I tried this sexual assault to the police and they just laughed in my face.
Also common misbeliefs in my experience: if he doesn’t try to sleep with you for x weeks than he cannot be a narcissist. Sometimes they are willing to wait for a very long time. They consider it a challenge etc. What worked for me: encouraging people to talk by pretending you find things they say funny. And pretending you agree with their views. This way people shared many disgusting things, how they cheated on others etc because they thought that I don’t judge them. It’s just terrible that we have to live like this 😢
I am getting wayyy better at recognizing them...but it seems that every single person who ive ever met is a narcissist. The "helpful" narcissist who was giving me hypnosis was a narcissist and accused me of actually studying and learning how to be a narcissist after exploding and leaving twice and then not showing up to a meeting where I needed him! And now I dont want to meet anyone. And i mean, I literally dont want to speak to anyone ever again.
Yeah. My guy was a Helpful N. He helps women in this small town. And then helps himself to them once he’s embedded himself emotionally with them. He’s SO dangerous! It’s not funny and they have no idea! It’s awful. No contact is the only way. He has been doing this for decades. Married women ugly women crippled women. Fat women. Self conscious women. Traveling nurses especially. . Doesn’t matter to him. This is so sick !
@@rahasovereign9510I dated a helpful N and he too had no preference of woman. As long as she had energy he could take. It is sick.
U, ARE AMAZING!!!! AGAIN, HEAVEN sent U!!?
Relaxed vigilance…wow!
Yes very true that’s what I did after having narcissist parents, ex husband and in laws broke down and recovered I don’t get close to people as I’m so content with my life now not worth the risk. I have a few close friends but then I love my solitude.
Great advice 👍 Thank you 😊
Why does narcissism run in families? I did not grow up around my father’s family, but after getting to know them in adulthood I learned that they are all very narcissistic, it’s like the family culture, and the ones who are not narcissistic are very damaged and it’s obvious that they are subject to narcissistic abuse. I have nothing to do with them since educating myself about this personality disorder, but I wonder why there’s so many of them in one place.
Coming from a narc family I know it's a spiritual thing for us. There is so much backstory with my family that has to do with some of their spiritual practices. Let's just say Christianity was the cover.
@@swiftkarma4436 thanks for sharing this. I think it’s the same with my Dad’s family. Deep down inside I know it’s spiritual more than anything else. I could feel the molecules in the air changing in their presence, I kid you not, but I always dismissed it because I couldn’t make sense of it.
Thank you for your guidance 🙏
I love your videos and all the knowledge you provide on narcissism. This one was especially profound. Thank you!
Wow. My mom who is a pastor is a narcissist, ex that I’m in the process of ending things with is a covert narcissist. These realisations came through your videos & this video helps me move forward. You are amazing
i have red somewhere all humans have narcissism inside them! amounts of traits or levels that decides whether its a disorder or not ,, This approach is Absolutely useful and effective..thats how the nature of narcissism is actually..thankyou danish
I am watching this video again because it is so spot on! We need to assume all are narcissists until we are proven wrong. Thanks Danish!
Guilty until proven innocent. I learned from the best my husband.