How To Master DETACHMENT & Build Your Self Esteem
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
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How To Master DETACHMENT & Build Your Self Esteem
How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation!
Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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I saw when people boo her, she didn`t do nothing, but when they cheer her a nice smile popped up :)
Good awareness... 👌
I think that you right I would feel the same, becasue it comes from the world "SHAME'' like one time people by my side and i am happy and other one is not smily face beacause people hate me
@@EranMesilati Either way you are on your side, and when you think of that it takes all the weight off…
@@licho2941 its all about spending time with yourself and get it strong and connected inside out then the world outside change
I don't agree, I actually noticed a smile on her during the boo, and she was looking straight ahead at the crowd. During the cheer she seemed more withdrawn, sort of hiding and her smile seemed a little off.
Julien, I’m Ali I went through the mentoring about a month/2 months ago. I want to let you know that I’m seeing spectacular results from releasing, it’s so insane I can’t even believe it. To anyone reading this it’s a testimonial that proves Julien knows his shit and his letting go method really works. Forever grateful and blessed thank you Julien🙏
Hey, man! That's AMAZING to hear! So happy for you!! 🙌
Much love father J💚💚
Do you have any key takeaways you have learnt? I'm on the journey myself
Can I get your snap or way of contact I wanna ask you some questions
@@obi-wankenobi1419 You can’t solve you’re emotional problems analytically, you solve/heal them by feeling. Also you need to use different introspection techniques to become aware of deep rooted stuff. And also taking your time with releasing and extending the meditations not just rushing through them. This is just a couple but I’ve been following Julien since 2020 and simply knew what he was talking about, but now I’ve actually experienced it. You can’t do this alone I suggest you join his mentoring as you’ll be guided and mentored and make sure you’re applying his teachings correctly:)
Hi! This was me in Amsterdam. It was a wonderful experience and very scary but eye opening at the same time :)
I feel this was a particularly insightful video, because (caution: approval) you did a good job answereing back and sharing your view and understanding.
Particularly around 6:00 and 15:00, and at the same time you didn't shy away from saying "i don't feel right now, i freeze".
I could sense, when he asked you why you were "scared by him", that might have been so, because he is a guy who worked so much on himself and on letting go and to him it seems so easy, yet its not that easy for you especially on stage.
Maybe one feels bad for not having achieved the same things yet, somehow feeling bad about feeling bad and not just being able to work through it on the spot.
I have a friend of mine, like my uncle i never had somehow, who is quite a mindset and coping mentor to me, but i sometimes struggle not to feel bad and judged about me struggeling and not being able to incoorporate the advice and just be like him.
But in the end its just hard and honest work we have in front of us, and results come up in the process.
The obligatory screaming part was especially great to see, as i could really feel the toughness of the situation and that he pushed you.
You were nearly fed up and thinking "duh, obviously just let go.. if it was that easy dude, tell me something new".
But i think that was quite the necessary level of inner anger or frustration to answer to the question "why am i really not able to scream?" and push through and be yourself.
This was really, as i said, helpful to watch.
Sorry for rambling.
It's been 1 year i have been watching julien videos to be honest i've never seen any girl more cute than you. you have a great hidden energy inside i hope you find it✊
I saw you were basically the only one taking notes there as well, respect!
@@Ahmed_R_46 ty!
Good job ✌🏻
I think we’re so attached to approval from others is because they may be the link to our survival for food, water, social status etc…. That’s why it’s hard to break
Yeah, approval from the tribe versus banishment from the tribe. The latter almost certainly meaning death if we go back to the time we were still living as hunter gatherers.
You always appear at the right exact time man.
Glad to hear my content is helpful with what you're going through! 🙏
I always felt that this issue goes deeper than simply being ego driven. We have this primal survival instinct that creates a need to be accepted and to feel that we are part of a community. That's why being rejected sometimes creates a feeling of dread, as if we are in danger of dying.
"The bird sleeps peacefully not because it trust the branch, but because it trusts it's ability to fly!" - this works for me, by cultivating competence and gathering as much experience as possible creates a basis in reality for confidence to take root, and that confidence that I can survive on my own is what helps me not care about what other people think/say. The problem is that I never feel safe enough: economically, emotionally, or physically.
The trap you're falling into here is that you're cultivating situational confidence VS core confidence... Watch this: czcams.com/video/qRnX09SYiDs/video.html 👌
@@JulienHimself thank you, very informative!
Wow! That last yell was louder. Seems like she didn’t want to be the only one yelling. Proud of her. This was great.
Julien your teaching’s have truly changed my life. For all my life I felt like I wasn’t good enough but loving myself and feeling good enough is the foundation of my life and nothing affects my self worth, thank you Julian 👊💪
Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress! 🔥👊
I came back to this video four times and I cannot hold back longer, I have to write it out...
First of all, I have to get this out of the picture: I cannot be more creeped out by myself how incredibly beautiful I find her. Although, it doesnt matter. I also LOVE her hair, but that doesnt matter either.
She seems to be exceptionally clever. I am not an expert by any means, but the way she handles herself, her thoughts, makes me think of her as a science major of some sort.
Either way, I really hope, she finds what she is looking for and never logic her life into anything harmful. I hope she is at least as OK as she states, but I have a bad feeling, but I might be just self-reflecting.
Logic is a great tool, but you have to be in peace with, and be kind to yourself too.
Thank god we got Julien in this universe the guy changes people's life!
🙏🙏
Yes!
I love the message and what it's about. Though, there was once a study from japan where an experiment was held with waterplants being cursed at regularly or saying beloved things regularly. The plants which were being cursed at began to die and to rot and the other ones were getting stronger. I do believe there is power in words and frequencies they convey - but at the same time you still decide what has power over you.
that’s absolutely false and never happened lmao, if you actually knew how science worked you would realise that that is impossible. words do not effect plants lmaooo.
I agree, that study got debunked, just another example where they wanted the hipothesis to be true so they interpreted the data in a way that justified the original premise.
Masaru Emotos experiments still hold true. Words matter.
Things do change when they're observed, and it also depends on the intention behind the observation. Check out the double slit experiment. Julien's message is very helpful, although I agree that outside influence DOES change you initially (booing evokes shame, natural human survival strategy)... But having a secure sense of self acts as an anchor through those feelings of elation or fear.
Been struggling with social anxiety since forever. Last week I started going at a cafe and I started talking to the girl working there. I started joking and asking her about herself,her job etc. The 3rd time I went I kept the same tactic and at some point I asked her out but she ignored my offer. The other day, I met a girl via social media. We met in person she stayed for 30 minutes then when I asked her for our next date she said she was busy twice. I'm sad and angry at the same time. But I understand that I can do nothing about it. I just give up wear my sunglasses at all times and keep endorsing myself
Im a brown belt in my karate class, which means that sometimes my sensei will allow me to lead the class. I remember this one time when I was trying to teach the class how to do a kia, and I was very surprised by how few were willing to do it. Then I remembered how I first learned how to kia and how ridiculous it made me feel. However, after a while of shouting like that, I've let go of that embarrassment. I think I might recommend some of my classmates this video as I think it might greatly help them. I enjoyed watching it.
Why don't you try and teach them the way that Julien is? Pass it on yourself, you have the knowledge. It would be more impactful that way and empower your students.
What helped me get to this point was self love. Being there for myself, understanding and having compassion for myself, makes it easier not to rely on others for emotional regulation. I enjoy when people like me, I observe the feelings of fear when they dont, but there is a stillness of security within myself underneath those waves on the surface. I think thats what Julien is pointing at in this exercise
This girl is stunning
This channel deserves so much more exposure and it's actually so necessary in these times.
Saving the world, one seminar at a time. Thanks Julien 👏
Julien i love these people on stage videos, please make them even more frequent!!!
"You still you" save my day from rejected moment, Thanks Julien 🙂
I'm grateful that this channel popped up in my yt feed
So interesting to listen and watch. You post at divine timings, it's resonating 100%! I'm gratefull for being alive in the same time as Julien and the rest of the people who are teaching me, shining a Light, giving me that 'Ah..is this how it is' moment
These exercises are so meaningful and powerful. The "giving yourself permission" and resistance is crazy. Good for the participant for sticking with it and awesome for Julien to continuing to push, but in small steps. Love this stuff.
You brought one of the last puzzle pieces to me, or CZcams or what ever - both (you are *not* your algorithm!!)
but jokes aside: Thank you man and to the girl - You both delivered an answer to me I was creeping around for very long now. "Permission granted!"
So much value value given for free thank you
Hello Julian, the fear of disapproval I and most people I speak experience is not that the sunglasses do meet approval but the fact that that because of that they will be put in the drawer or thrown away. That means careers, life opportunities and benefits for us and our love ones.
We are so caught up in struggling in life that we want to make it easier on ourselves
Yoo Julien,
Im letting go for 2 yrs now and found out a week ago about cocoa.
It helps so much with processing emotions I highly recommend trying it out!!!
I use about 20g raw cocoa powder and its crazy how it helps!!!
Hey, Julien happy belated Easter!
“yeah, you’re big and you’re shape” there’s something so funny about that 4:24
Julien I've passed my exam and I wanna scream so loudddd 😂 scared of the lecturer's couldn't do it lol❤
Shes beautiful ❤😊
Self esteem to me comes from social exercises. And also praying and getting out of the isolated comfort zone.
Great work Mr. Tyler Durden!
no Tyler was the other guy. IYKYK
Vibration matters my friend.
I really want to join your course hope this year i do
Your videos Helped me tremendously
Glad to hear my free content has been so helpful! Just wait until you experience my premium content in my courses... 😉
Time and space are functions of ones conceptual scheme, consciousness is the fundamental reality
Only take advice from someone you want to be like? Evaluate the person giving the advice and make sure you want to be like them. Is this guy a good role model? Have a blessed day! Get that confidence!
I don’t like him, he is way too brutal to me
@@didiermauricelbg brutal in what way? Just trying to explore your opinion a bit more. I'm still trying to decide personally if he's actually in it to help people or if it's all about money/status/power. It's kind of difficult to tell. But it sure does look like he has a fun life!
@@WTHPOPL i think he is manipulative, he kinda force people to say things they didn’t want to say, he push them in a way, I think when you are vulnerable and on stage in front of a lot of people you may be influenced. You can’t think deeply about yourself and give an answer in a second. The situation is such that he can easily put words in peoples mouth and to me it’s uncomfortable to see. I see a lot of video when the people on stage try to tell him what they actually mean and he just turn the conversation and don’t listen to them, and they try again to explain but still he doesn’t listen and say things for them.
@@WTHPOPL why does he make her untied her hair? In middle of the stage, in front of everyone. To me it’s just a strategy to make her feel vulnerable and to rattled her, so she can’t think properly, so he could manipulate her.
i dont know that i need that 💙
Glad this was impactful for you!
My relationship with the present: Watching Julien video full of lookers as participant from top ranked polluted city that actually ruins our facial appearance. Yet I should tell my self its the best life I could've gotten.
Julien, I smile as a coping mechanism, I can never say no to people, and i research body language in the middle of the night. That is to say, I mask a LOT. I want to be more true to myself, but I don't know specifically how. Everything's in a barrel with a lid that won't budge. where, specifically, would I start unmasking?
HOLYYY SHIT @THE ALARM THIBG
JULIEN UR A WIZARDDDDD!!!!
#GENIUS
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Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥
Boom! 🔥🔥🔥
I'm kind of scared right now cause I'm going to travel for a better Job opportunity, and my family is against it.
Basically because of my safety and They don't know the Job I'm going for.
I've always been close to my mom and it feels as if I'm hurting her by going any way, I made a promise to her that I'll be responsible, I'm not used to doing something and people not agreeing with it.
Thank you for reading, I just needed to get it off my chest, I know I'm going to be fine and it'll work out, just that the fear of traveling alone for the first time at 21 is scary.
Thank you Julien, I know what you probably would say. THIS IS FOR ME ❤️🔥
Check in with yourself every time it rains.
Me, in the UK.
Every 5 minutes it is then!
Hi julien, i am having troubles becoming life of the party i want to be popular in class and i want everyone to know my name and everyone to like me any tips?
observations don’t change things
Does when someone doing the letting go , feels light but after a while tire??
Notification squad !!
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Gotta get that clap
25:45 should i do this exercise at home where my parents are sleep and let go of the bad feelings I would feel when they punish me 😆?
Can anyone find what her necklace is? Im in love
Man, I'm very balanced in several areas of my life, but what unbalances me the most is my neighbor's dog barking, it irritates me deeply, I don't know how to deal with this hatred that sin Faced with something so stupid, I feel very ridiculous because my quality of life is greatly impacted by this and I don't know how to deal with it.
Julien you remind me of Mickey Rourke in the 80s!
Letting go of letting go? Been stuck on it for awhile
11:55 Exactly
Julien My Dude, you should make a collab/video with Matt Cross (M*) from The 33 Secrets 👍👊😎
I kid you not, I have added jackets like the one Julien is wearing to my Pinterest board of clothing I would like to sew and wear 😂
I am not able to figure out how to thank you 🙏
so people used to talk to me like in my age group and now its like I dont exist when Im out and about doing my own thing
as soon as they booed i feel devastating and uneasy, but i dont feel any on the clap
Best thing to master detachment, do some special k. Do a couple rails, your good to go.
have you ever tried to do the screaming exercise, and they scream loud on the first go?
asking the real questions
2:24 why does bro walking out look photoshoped/edited into the video at this moment? 😂
I can confirm he's real, I was behind him and he was talking through Julien and then Julien berated him. He turned red as a tomato--I would feel bad for him but he then tried to make a point out of it again later lol. Very clear instance of ego problems
@@rubenmeijerink4266so they cut that part out huh?
i can relate to her i m tomboy too and i feel like i am going against the norm or society and i feel everybody hates me for that .
hey the actual person in the video here! The thing is what I've realized that if you dress and express the way you feel most like yourself it'll work like a magnet. Attracting the people that fit with you and repel the people who do not fit with you. It makes making friends all the more easier.
when u think you are born with the "second bad" personality. '
your confident starts going down. (comes from your childhood)
Basically she became cute and people treat her better. Im bulky with beard and average looking and people treat me like im a threat so I cope with people by being people pleaser
"Why are you not giving yourself permission?" I asked myself this but im scared of making myself vulnerable :(
When I was a child when I got smacked I mocked my parents to do it again until the wooden spoon broked then I laughed and slammed the door. I didnt look for approval then and not now as an adult. I was the bad child of the three.
AAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaagggghhhhh...that feels better!🤣
Bro I feel like crap what do I do
I wonder whether i radicalize your teachings, maybe I'm taking them too far or i simply misunderstood your teachings from the start, why do i need to confirm whether I'm doing good or not why don't i take my word for things? Do i perhaps dont trust myself, in letting go what should i do, am i thinking too much? i wonder whether i need to realize that i think too hard or i don't think hard enough ? Do i need to realize anything? A world where i have to take the word of others not my own that is a world i have chose to live in but can i choose to live in one where i know my word is enough ,there it is again the word enough i seem to somehow always come to this am i doing enough am i good enough , why do i even have to make you a question im getting angry just thinking about it, why do you believe you are not enough why do you believe there's always something wrong with you, always something to fix can you imagine such a world were you are good enough and this can never be questioned you simply are by the mere fact that you exist, a world were there's nothing to fix because theres nothing wrong with you
19:24
How can you compare yourself to a pair of glasses? Humans have emotions/energy/frequency while the sunglasses don't.
we love the big you are😂😂😂😂
Link me that jacket lol
like everything it's a choice wow so supriseed. Wake up
Julien bro, HOW, do you not care about how everything affects you? Like you say, wear clothes that will trigger you, and then learn to LET GO of that, so it doesn’t affect yourself.
How do you, “Let go”, of something that matters? Like, I don’t get it. How do I simply not care, about wearing a ratty old t-shirt at a wedding dinner party? Why should we disassociate with how, clothing, which is an extension of our body, aka an extension of our self, affects us? And how is it even possible to not let everything affect you? Do you just practice it so much, it doesn’t matter anymore? How does your choice of clothing at a certain point, “not matter”? Doesn’t everything matter? Why not just wear clothes we love and feel good in? Why should we make it “not matter”? Why not take it a step further and cut off your arm. Doesn’t it “not matter” bro? Why let that arm affect us? Don’t be a slave to having 2 arms bro?
Letting go is a process
Done at a quiet place similar to meditation
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I came to this conclusion
no matter what you did or will do or does, people find you less attractive unless you copy their interests or give them the control button of your life
Even you did so
They will find another hole to still make you under their mercy
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Some of us didnt get enough oxytocin in childhood, so...
You remind me of the Ken version of Weird Barbie.
He's missing something. I'm not sure exactly how to put it, but others' approval does matter to some degree. It matters less today, with our hugely interconnected yet largely anonymous society, but for most of human history, survival has depended to a large degree on the approval of our peers. Loss of approval still means loss of opportunities today. He has a point, but he's completely dismissing a whole counterpoint that's actually legitimate and important that I would like to hear him address.
She's so cute
thx :)
27:11 I want to say that she is brave
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Idk if this is healthy or fuel for mental disorders
Lol that dress or whatever is sooo gay looking
why does that trigger you?
@@rubenmeijerink4266 it just looks really dumb. He's dressing like a fool to try and show that he doesn't care about what people think.
I like it
Wtf dude are you actually wearing a... skirt !?!
He looks so comfy! I wonder where I can get one
@@lewislake5128 In your mommas dresser
Julien dresses like a They/them
Still a category.
@@misshearttree for people who want to feel special
He dresses like what he wants to wear? And it shows with what he says who cares? I am so glad I found his videos!
@@angelbollin8171 I like his videos too but his fashion sense is off lol
@@ryanm9565he does it to trigger emotions in himself to let go. That’s why he dresses very extreme.
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