AITA For Refusing To Apologize To My Parents Poly Partner.
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- čas přidán 23. 11. 2023
- AITA for refusing to apologize to my parents poly partner?(u/AITA_polyparents in Am I the Asshole?) sry I mention wrong subreddit in the video
OOP's parent's poly partner tries to parent OOP, and luckily one parent still has OOP's back.(u/wormhole222) in r/BestofRedditorUpdates
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Nice to see a situation where the parents actually take up for their child rather than the third party for once.
The poly fruitloop parents were on the verge of destroying their relationship with the daughter because of their selfish needs.
That’s crazy. Not the Polly fruitloop parents lmao
This is literally the same as when a step-parent is consistently overstepping. The only difference is the parents never broke up.
@@SapphWolfYou’re MAD💀
@@aperfectcircle0219 Nah, I can just see the primary issue is that the girlfriend is stepping over boundaries both OP and the parents (primarily the mom) were setting. That's the primary reason OP stated she wasn't comfortable around the girlfriend. They broke up and she moved out.
Change the situation to the parents are separated and dad moved his new girlfriend in and everything plays out pretty much exactly as it did in this story.
Only difference is we're used to divorces where mom or dad move in their new partner. We're not used to hearing mom *and* dad moved *their* girlfriend in. So the former we wouldn't bat an eye at while the latter seems make everyone's collective heads explode.
Fruitloop
Creative way of being homophobic my friend
Them moving this person in is so disgusting. Selfish parents who care more about their sexual gratification then they do about their child's mental state.
I can never understand the poly thing.. Especially when you have a child at home.. Its not like the parents were poly from the beginning, so how can someone be just ready to accept things out of nowherev
thats slut culture for you... these days if your not fucking everything that moves your basically in the wrong. got a wife? you better be willing to share her. these "parents" at least woke up and realized how toxic this shit is but then again they didnt and odds are they both will be fucking the mail man next. they'll probably try to get their daughter to join eventually to because thats how these degenerates work. boundaries, respect, loyalty, and honesty dont exist to these types of people. obviously maddison wasnt getting them off properly otherwise they would have sided with her. give it 5 years and they'll try seducing their own daughter. odds are they'll try fucking their grand kids to if they ever get any.
Ok time for me opinion:
1. If you want to add another person into your marriage, you need couple counseling, because there is a deeper issue there.
2. Never have a poly relationship while you have a kid in your house. It is confusing to your kid and it might lead them to resent you.
3. If you are going to be poly with a kid, remind your partners that they are not ever going to parent them.
You may think Madison moving in with her young didn’t affect the OP but I actually had a similar (albeit different circumstance) situation with my mom and her ex fiancé. Shortly after my parents divorced my mom came out as lesbian and a month later she moved her at the time girlfriend into the apartment. Because I was a young age at the time I didn’t quite understand what was going on and I thought I was indifferent but as time went on and she tried to possess a more parental role and turned my life into living hell I realized that something like that really affects your mental health and is honestly highly manipulative.
Now hold on a second!!!!! Poly parents that took their daughter's side and are trying to get out of that messed up lifestyle through communication and counseling like normal, mature, and responsible adults? BLASPHEMY!!! xD Glad everything worked out for OP :)
Imagine moving your "poly partner" into your house, with your kid.
Damn they actually listened. Wow this is actually refreshing.
Suspiciously proprietal, Madison
Poly relationships are hard enough to begin with but with a kid in the mix there was going to be a battle of egos eventually. Given the glare Madison gave OP at the end, it makes one wonder what exact grudge Madison held.
Tbh this is the same as having an adoptive parent mixed with having an overbearing parent. Dating a parent for a few years doesn't make you a parent automatically. Advice in general is best given when prompted or when its clear that a kid is making a mistake (pov be messy in the latter case but hey, do best you can and all that). I don't think the poly thing complicates things that much for a child if done properly.. but if the child doesn't want a third parent that should be respected.
My friend was in a situation where everything turned out okay. Well both of her parents had a poly partner named Gracie and my friend bonded with Gracie more than her dad. My friend asked her mom if she can invite Gracie to her middle school graduation. Her mom said why don't want to invite your dad well my friend said no she has no interest of inviting him. Eventually it came out that her dad was cheating on her mom with 3 other women. The divorce was messy and her dad had to pay child support and alimony to her mom. After that Gracie is been involved in my friend's life. My friend wanted to be a engineer like Gracie and what makes Gracie way better than my friend's dad she asked my friend what is her plans after high school. Her dad not once asked what my friend wanted to do after high school.
If you’re gonna be depraved and selfish enough to indulge in a poly lifestyle, at the very least wait for your children to be grown and let them have a normal childhood.
As for me i don't forgive those who make choices choices are non fixable but if it was a mistake which can be fixed those i can forgive
This relationships never work, much less if you have kids. It might be kind of cool for a while, but taking care of one girlfriend is difficult enough, two? That sounds like it would get old real quick. Even more so if you have kids.
Poly relationships are harder than monogamous relationships yes, but they're not impossible. It certainly stretches you thinner, but you also have more support. Yes, you have 2 partners to take care of instead of 1, but the flip side is that instead of just 1 partner supporting you, you have 2 partners supporting you. Poly relationships are pretty fragile in the way that it takes a lot less for them to break, and if the partners aren't all supporting each other equally it'll never work out, but with the right partners, it can work fine for people.
@@evanchauvey5417 I disagree. I mean, maybe some exceptions, a very small amount, do work.
And they may work short term, but what about long term? How often does the poly relationship ends up with all of them growing all together and still happily together? It’s either never or almost never.
Which is why I would never recommend that and will never say it’s fine. I think it only hurts more people if they are made to believe this could work when it almost never does. To the exceptions, good for them, but to everyone else I would not encourage something that has around 1% chance of working, if not less.
@@andynorck2389 how many poly relationships you encountered in your life? Like what proof of your percentage except that you feel like it and have a certain idea of these relationships in your head? (And aita posts or advice posts don't count cause by these posts no relationship ever is healthy and work out and everyone is cheating or abusing (and I'm not talking just about poly but even monogamous or non romantic posts, they all are written when something is bad so if you look only at them that everything seems bad and depressing))
Have you ever tried to research more about poly relationships and find good stories about these relationships?
Just keep in mind when you judge poly relationships that not all monogamous relationships end well and how high divorce rating is, there are bad people everywhere but there are also good people everywhere, and like monogamous one there are bad and good poly relationships
People just prefer to remember bad one cause it proves their beliefs
And also how often happy people stay quiet and don't share their stories cause they spend time enjoying their lives
Definitely not cool mom behavior
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I'm once again here before the video uploaded🫠
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Poly relationships can’t workout. Never have never will
And yet people manage it all the time despite your ignorance on the subject.
@@SapphWolf just because a bad idea works for a while doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
@@johnangel8361exactly especially when children are involved
@@johnangel8361 Sure, if you call 50+ year relationships "a little while." Your inability to fathom three or more people having a longterm, stable relationship together doesn't make what you say true.
@@SapphWolf doesn’t happen
Having a poly relationship is fine, but wait until the kids are out of the house
or start as poly from the start and make sure everyone is on the same page about how to raise children
Or just have a proper relationship, because having a poly relationship is not actually fine.
@@nidhoggstrike is not actually fine becuase... you said so?
@@ShiNijuuAKL Because relationships are not just about the participants and their joy, family(note: not the individual) is the fundamental building block of society and upholds vital functions. Thousands of years and hundreds of civlizations has shown that the stability and predictability caused by monogamy is more important than what makes us happy as individuals. I doubt my reasoning convinces you, but for what it's worth; I actually practice what I preach. Edit: grammatical mistake corrected.
@@nidhoggstrike I would like some studies on those statements. And not simple like "well, monogamous civilizations did better" but something that explain why, and then we can see if that still applies to the current world, which has changed dramatically from what it was even a century ago, hell, even decades ago.
Also, why should I care about a society that doesn't share my values? wouldn't I instead change society so that it can function properly even if people are more free and happier? Unless there's a fundamental contradiction between allowing polygamy and a functional society then just accepting how things are is really stupid and a braindead mentality and can only lead to stagnation instead of progress
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OPs parents are sickos bringing that around their minor child
Seriously degenerates worried someone else is degenerate
I really hope when she gets of age she has nothing to do with her parents. Their “lifestyle will ruin her life.🤷♂️
The father pulled a fast one, didn't he?
Wooo... another round of shit on polyamarous people. Look at the situation objectively and what was happening here is no different than when a new step-parent is overstepping and trying to parent their partner's kid.
The fact that they were poly is almost completely irrelevant yet that's what everyone is harping on and not the overstepping girlfriend which was the actual problem.
Shut it, freak
It's disappointing. And I appreciate the effort sapph but these comment sections are always hetnorm cesspits, save your sanity!
it's completely relevant what story did you hear. the kid was a great responsible young adult. Her parents invite some new figure in purely out of selfishness despite the kid making it clear she was not comfortable. then that figure felt she had some authority over the kid directing her as if the kid had shown some sign she can't be trusted. then that figure felt slighted went to the dad who instantly was on the 3rd figures side. the great kid now in an awkward uncomfortable state in what should be the safest place in the world for her. Yeah, they were finally decent at the end choosing the kid, but it should not have been an issue in the first place. I don't personally care what perverts do behind closed doors, but kids should not be exposed to it. perhaps if the kid came after the relationship with the 3rd person and it did not implode like these relationships more often than not tend to do then the 3rd figure could have some measure of authority but that's neither here nor there. Point is the parents choose this third person over their kid initially bringing about the situation. " Step-parents overstepping" is completely unrelated. parenting experts agree that both parents need to be firmly in charge in blended families. if you are a single parent and marry someone and expect that partner to live with, provide, and help raise your kid without letting them have authority to punish or reward them they will not be respected and it's a clear sign that the stepparent is not trusted. Not to mention marrying someone that your kids are uncomfortable around then expecting the child to respect that new person is also beyond awful and selfish. if parents wanted to invite this 3rd person in as a parent that would still be bizarre but at least then it would be understood by all they had authority, but no they were clearly there to fill a much different function proven further with how easily they were able to remove the 3rd person when it came down to it.
@@647586What the??! What do you mean hetnorm cesspit?! Seriously 😂? How far have you gone off the deep end? Is having a normal,healthy family dynamic outdated now? Stop speaking from your genitals and use your brain
why is it always furrys who defend this obviously unviable lifestyle?
As someone who is polyamorous, the comments on this video are really hateful towards a lifestyle that literally just means we are able to love more than one person equally in a romantic setting. Yes the parents of this video are trash but no, you don't get to hate on an entire group of people just because THESE particular parents are part of that group. Most of you commenters need to do better.✌
@@Redesign24 Spoken like someone who's been with fake polyamorous people that cheat on their partners. Or a closeted sex addict who hates because of previous trauma. I wonder, which are you? Maybe you just need to try it, how do you KNOW you don't like it if you haven't tried? You don't have to be scared, we'll take great care of you.😂 Come stop by my place hun,😂 lemme change your mind with some lovin.😘
*Edit: Here I originally had written something hurtful and stupid, and I regret those words.*
But I still think that hurtful and inconsiderate is not the same as hateful. Hateful is when somebody gloat over suicide rates. What we are in this thread is just being jerks.
@@nidhoggstrike Dude, was gonna say that I appreciate you taking back what you said but, what you said was on another level of f*cked up. Are you saying that you willingly will not love your children equally? Because if so, then there's really no hope for someone like you and you should fix that.
I can never understand the poly thing.. Especially when you have a child at home.. Its not like the parents were poly from the beginning, so how can someone be just ready to accept things out of nowherev
its slut culture which is basically just modern america. if your not getting your wife off properly she can cheat on you with whoever she wants and as a man you have 2 choices... lie and act like your fine with it or join in and eventually get used to it. if you decide to have a spine and file for divorce you will lose everything.