Society's Unrealistic Beauty Standards Are Making Women Suffer
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- čas přidán 30. 08. 2023
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Everyday women are put under pressure to attain the standards implemented to them in society. Society has held harsh beauty standards for women for years. As the decades go on, the standards have just gotten worse and it is becoming physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausting to adhere to these said standards. In this video, we will be discussing society's harsh beauty standards for women.
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Its sad to see young kids like myself hating on their bodies instead of going outside and living a carefree life and in my opinion social media has a huge effect on kids these days
I ruined so much of my younger years hating my body when I wasn’t fat and nothing was wrong with me. Just comparing myself to other people like celebs
You shouldn’t feel ashamed about yourself at all honey. You are a child there is no need to grow faster. You are all beautiful and naive. Please don’t push yourself to be “beautiful” which is so nonsense everyone has a different beauty. Love yourself and live your best life at all times. Remember that our only value is not beauty it is our heart! Have a nice day❤❤❤❤
True. Even myself I feel anxious to even go to the store . I wish I can stop but I just can't help it , that people are looking at me and judging me. I'm horrified of school.
Not to mention you aren't even fully grown. I'm 23 and my body is still evolving. Going under the knife messes with a growing body, it's so sad to see its effects on many women facing insecurities.
hasn’t this been a thing since the very first social media like you “think”
Women need to understand how much power we have. We can crash these industries overnight if we choose not to play their game. We need to stop letting them tell us who to be and be proud of who we are. That’s how this shit collapses
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100% agree! I still do my nails bc I like having nails and I color my hair because I like having wild colors in my hair lol but outside of that I don’t play to the male gaze anymore. I save so much time and money lol. Nothing wrong with wanting to feel confident and doing what makes you happy but when it becomes something you’re doing for other people’s approval that’s when it’s a problem.
Alicia Keys anyone? 💃🏾
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Bodies should not be a trend ever, but unfortunately now a days ppl change their bodies like they do their clothes.
Plus as the years go by society up the standards. For example, it never really was a stardard to have your nails done. We as women have the power to say no to these standards. I know plenty of women who do not adhere to them and still have great opportunities. It is your mindset and how you carry yourself that makes a difference in my opinion even if there is a truth to the pretty privilege. Women do not need to buy all these things to be beautiful anyway.
Nobody can win forever if at all with these standards. It's ridiculous...
My mother would have superficial standards for me as a young girl and woman, unfortunately...
That’s the whole point - you’ll never win. The point is to keep you overwhelmed and distracted that you’re not a true threat to people in power
off topic, but you were seriously born to make these videos, you have an amazing way of presenting your opinions and ideas
Wow thank you sooo much. You guys literally make my day every single day. My worst days feel sooo much better when I see comments like this. Just thank you love for the support and accolades ❤️
Wow. Well put. And I agree. 😊
@@ToniBryanneTVwhy in the world would you promote a site like this, especially when you know many of your audience are minors? Sorry but that makes you part of the problem smh. How sad how some ppl do everything for money
The videos themselves are shallow too sadly
That’s why I gave up trying to appeal to others. Sometimes I wear the same shit for more than a day if I didn’t sweat in it. I only dress up if I want to. I only wax thread etc when I want to. I only do what I want to do for myself and stopped listening to whatever anyone says about me because quite frankly they’re irrelevant to my existence. Beauty standards are dumb as fuck and the day everyone realizes that and stops trying to appeal to it the better society will be
Same.
Agreed 😊
I kept trying to keep up with the skincare routines and my face broke out sooooo bad. Now I only use 2 products at night and one product in the AM & my skin is the best ever. If I said oh I only use these two things SOMETIMES 3 I’d be clowned.
That’s actually crazy to be clowned for something that works for you. Sometimes simplicity is best for some key word *some* . People shame others for no reason at times 🤦🏾♀️
Dermatologists give simple skin care products and routines even. They never tell patients to use these ulta or Sephora products because they’re not medical grads effective
I totally get you. I have the driest skin possible and can't wear makeup cause it breaks me out so soap and moisturiser are my go to.
girl same, i only use two products but i still say that to people, tbh i don’t care if people think that my skincare routine is not a skincare routine
@@ludobel473 Whatever works for you works for you, don’t worry about them. Some have 8 step skin care routine and still don’t have it figured out.
omg, when it comes to women's hygiene and smelling good... I can shower everyday and use deodorant and still smell so bad and sweat so much and it's even worse when I'm on my period, like there's still definitely this idea in society that women shouldn't sweat much or have smelly sweat and I've just given up because if it's ten degrees outside I'm sweating and smelling. Hygiene for me is about feeling clean not being perceived as clean anymore
I will get sick with body ordor. I believe in using deodorant and petfume. But don't take it to extremes. It is important to look nice.
You should go in to your Dr. There are medications that can help you. I would try the one online I can't remember the name but I'm sure if you look up oder protection for women you will find it.
i agree because this issue is becoming worse and worse and this doesn't change if we don't change
" sweat pants , hair tied , chillin w no makeup on , that's when you're the prettiest i hope tht u dnt take it wrong" REAL , appearance is really not all
I love that I can take care of myself while not spending a ton. You really don’t need the majority of that stuff you’re seeing being sold on tik tok!
Its a good day when Toni Bryanne uploads
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it really is
I hate that a woman who enjoys taking care of herself and looking good is seen as vain, superficial or doing it for validation. I enjoy being a woman and keeping up with my maintenance because it makes me feel good while also being fun! Investing in yourself is always the best investment
I don’t mind that but do you put the same amount of energy towards the inside of your body? I see way too many women spending thousands on hair, nails, make-up, surgery, etc. eating hot Cheetos for breakfast, downing alcohol every night, and avoiding the gym like the plague. If half these people spent as much time on improving their insides (Personality included), they wouldn’t even need all this BS on the outside.
@@GraduateJLN Of course. Health is wealth and I’m pescatarian. meal prep weekly, take supplements, workout 6 days a week among other things as well. I don’t even remember the last time I had fast food.
@@azaria4447 That’s great! But I think it’s weird for the people that don’t. Is it not ass backwards to put so much effort into the exterior of your body, while polluting and ignoring the interior?
@@GraduateJLN agreed, I don’t get it either. you can buy an aesthetically pleasing body but you can’t buy a healthy body
And I hate that a woman who shows her natural self is called ugly and not good enough
This video made me think of pink tax. When women’s products are priced higher even if they are the same as men. This can go with the quality too. If you have ever noticed men’s deodorant has more or a smell and often lasts longer than women’s even though women’s is more expensive.
Same thing with cologne.
Yes I have noticed that
I remember growing up and seeing cousin get offended because ppl would ask her of she was black even tho she was black because being white was a beauty standard i remember even trying to bleach her own skin
If we do to much, we are judged. If we to not enough, we are judged. Prices for beauty products are more expensive for woman then men. So it’s like society wants us to feel insecure so that we keep buying new products. I think it’s a circle.
I like taking care of myself and I’m always ‘put together’ when I leave my home. That’s how I feel my best. But I don’t like that other women feel that pressure.
Also I think we need to lift each other up, not destroy one and other! 🙄
blame the men in this case Andrew Tate for making rating culture existent and for making young boys think they need to be with women who dont look mid whatever that means literally this world is becoming dumb because of all these dumb labels like what the hell is mid every women is beautiful we carry humans for 9 months just to be called mid
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6:51 hi former ‘ugly’ yeah pretty privilege is real and the difference in treatment I’ve received since my glow up is crazy
I think the problem with skincare and beauty communities is that they promote overconsumption. you only need the basics for a good skincare routine (cleanser, serum, moisturiser and sunscreen) but they add even more steps and active ingredients to theirs and make the rest of us feel that we need a 10 step skincare routine to have great skin.
Yeah I peeped that too
I went to Sephora... I'm 35, and I saw a slew of preteen's looking at skin care....I don't remember that being a part of my childhood and I have great skin. Let kids be kids.
Yes pretty privilege is real. I have been told I should model, although I credit my appearance to my brain, as I am an artist interested in fashion and makeup. I am able to do my own nails, hair, just about anything beauty related. I used to be extremely unattractive, I was hideous. Now, sometimes in person I don't even look "real" I look like a cartoon character or some sort of fake photoshop like human being and I can walk in any store and get "discounts". I'll give you an example of my daily discounts, I was not charged for guacamole or double meat at chipotle, I asked a Starbucks barista for a water cup and he gave me a trenta cup instead of small water cup you're supposed to receive, I received free hash browns at Dunkin Donuts. Loitered in a park when it was closed, my bag chain was stuck in a park bench and security helped me remove it. I had to use the bathroom at taco bell, which you have to make a purchase in order to use, the cashier printed me a receipt without me spending money, giving me access to the bathroom. Strange how I'm exempt from regular occurrences and get free stuff? I was NEVER treated with basic humanity when I was ugly. I'm treated better during simple interactions, however when I wasn't pretty I never received this "special treatment", such as free discounts and legal exemptions. I have also received far better marks on my academics due to my appearance. I can receive dozens of compliments on a daily basis, but when I was ugly, I rarely heard how amazing and special I was. People treated me like dirt on their shoe, I'll never forget how fake and shitty people were.
is this a joke or troll?
@@sashatla I'm going with troll.
Girl stop 😂
Women (generally) get paid less than men as it is. Then we have these beauty standards which increases our expenses and widens the gender financial gap.
Loving yourself means treating yourself with kindness, respect, and care, just like you would with a close friend. It's about accepting and embracing who you are, flaws and all. Here's how to do it in simple terms:
Positive Self-Talk: Be mindful of your inner voice. Replace self-criticism with words of encouragement. Treat yourself kindly and avoid negative thoughts.
Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being. Get enough rest, eat well, and engage in activities that make you happy.
Set Boundaries: Learn to say "no" when needed. Don't overcommit and prioritize your needs, so you don't feel overwhelmed.
Celebrate Achievements: Whether big or small, acknowledge your accomplishments. It boosts your self-esteem and reminds you of your capabilities.
Embrace Imperfections: Nobody's perfect. Accept your flaws and understand that they make you unique. Don't compare yourself to others.
Surround Yourself with Positivity: Spend time with people who uplift you and avoid those who bring you
I’ve almost ever since I can remember had body dysmorphic disorder (eventually got diagnosed.) and I can honestly say the television media and social media definitely had a impact on my disorder and my mental health. Now as an adult I don’t have social media accounts and stay away from tabloids and watch LIMITED amount of tv because it was really making me feel insecure and hurt for no reason it was almost like I was inflicting this pain on myself without even knowing and now that I’m off it I feel so much more clearity and feel less pressure to feel perfect.
Have been struggling with an eating disorder for years. Trying to get better as currently, resources for professional help arent available.
It's taken so much from me, sometimes I catch myself and wonder if I'll ever get to the point of feeling like just me. All of this started when I was only 10 and I'm going onto 16 this year, now in recovery.
The beauty standards pushed so hard onto women are awful. I never should have been that young and worrying about my body, I didnt even know algebra or had a phone
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SO FREAKIN TRUE!
I have a friend who was on the bachelor. And she said they we’re supposed to change every day(have makeup on, smell good etc.), and if someone wasn’t they wouldn’t get much screen time. And he wore the same suit EACH NIGHT!
Ugh ,i am so tired of society
What worked for me was setting a boundary w/ beauty. So I would have things that I absolutely was not going to do
Such as *never* spend $300 on hair and makeup, never get cosmetic surgery, take only 15mins max doing makeup
And thats helped immensely w/ my self image and my wallet! I love looking and feeling beautiful. But I don't like being held to a ridiculous standard by having boundaries it protects me fro getting out of control
Sometimes looking to good can be intimidating for many people. Looking low maintenance can make you look more approachable for some shy people.
I am 16 years old. I also discuss a little about beauty standards on my channel. As someone who takes a psychology class, we may want to conform to peer pressure like these subjects because of a sense of connection. In reality people needs to understand that we shouldn’t connect because of looks, we should connect with each other for who we are. This influence our values and our values tend to be shitty. It makes me think in further questioning, ‘’ why do we want to be accepted by those who don’t accept themselves‘’ ( a domino effect). Many of us is way to hyper fixed on looking the best instead of becoming the best.
Honestly, to me, I think the main issue is that women replicate the societal pressures put on women and keeps it in a constant cycle. We are our own worst enemy. If we stopped trying so hard to be 100% perfect all the time to fit into the pressures, the pressures will decline. The expectations will begin to fall apart. Another thing is that the negative comments you get if you don't look a certain way, more often than not, come from other women (at least from my experience). Men often don't care if you wear your hair in a messy bun or wear trainers and no makeup. I've gone years now wearing next to no makeup daily with a morning routine of washing my face, using an eye cream if the skin around my eyes are extra dry or slightly puffy and then an SPF moisturiser and that's it.
Everything else is actually quite necessary, especially if you have a nighttime skincare routine. I've become comfortable wearing no makeup and my outfits now are mainly chunky boots, black sports leggings and a hoodie or oversized jacket over a plain black top. The need to dress up all the time just isn't there for me anymore. I'm comfortable in myself in that regards and don't feel like I need to try and fit any pressures anymore. Don't get me wrong, I still hate my weight and have body issues but I stopped giving a cr*p about what society thinks now and if we all started having that mindset we can actually make a difference in reducing pressures and easing pressure for future generations. Instead, more and more women are posting highly edited photos on social media, getting unneeded work done and replicating the expectations and then complaining about it when it affects more and more women.
I’ve had so many men give me crap for wearing baggy clothes
For all the people in the comments who don’t know about the hygiene of vaginas it’s not bc someone is dirty. Things that can effect the smell… hormones, what you’re eating, are you hydrated, illness, period, have you had a baby, and just genetics in general so if you’re 🐱 is smelling off it’s not your fault and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.
It’s really sad seeing how I get treated when I have makeup on vs don’t
I always look forward to your videos Toni your so confident and amazing.....absolutely love this topic.Please can you do a video on the early 20's life of love,work,studying and figuring out who you are after leaving high school
I do agree it’s verrrryyy extra when I see self care tiktoks and they do actually use 3 different wash clothes, 2 different soaps, etc. 😂 but of course we all just want to smell good/fresh but people do judge if you don’t go the extra mile or use things they use
Back to back uploads I love it ❤
I always get excited to see a new video from you! They are SO well done and topics that need to be touched on!💕
Girl you look good! The hair, makeup, outfit is giving 🤍
Pretty privilege is 100% a real thing, I used to be about 25 pounds heavier, which made me look larger, but since losing that weight I’ve been treated way differently, especially by men. People who never used to talk to me will now talk to me, it’s crazy how much of a difference your appearance makes.
Absolutely true.
Uhh I LOVE when you upload ❤️
When Toni uploads my days are brighter
It’s so true, you dress up well and people treat you better
Seriously obsessed with your channel. Thank you for educating & offering different perspectives & critical thinking. You are so incredible!! Keep being your authentic self bc you are so incredible 🩷
Hi Toni.
I just found your channel very recently and I am finding it so insightful and helpful. ❤
I...live in a totally different bubble.
I know exactly two women who do stuff like regular hair dresser and manicure appointments.
The most women I know get their nails done maybe every four years to treat themselves. Or go to the hair salon maybe two times a year. I personally do everything on my own.
It's not like the people around me don't have the money, it's more a about priorities in life.
Note: I think my comment sounds more negative than it was meant to be, I'm just fascinated by the beauty bubble.
I think that people who spent a lot of time on social media might think that all these beauty treatments are the norm. Just like young girls thinking that their favorite celebrity/influencer look like their posts in everyday life. They usually don't understand that it's just for the picture.
So many people need to realise that make up especially is put on for so many different reasons. Like i’m 18 and I literally only put it on cause I look 14 without it 😭 like some people may want to put it on just to enhance their features or something personal like it’s not just for the male gaze
Love YOUR Hair Toni ❤
Hi Toni love your videos so much!! They’ve always highlighted deep rooted issues and made me more aware and slowly change my lifestyle. I hope to see a video on men’s standards (lifestyle, beauty etc) and how it has affected everyone else.
I love your videos 💜💜 you always have the best takes
Go Toni! beautiful and very hardworking young woman.
I am hooked on your channel! This content is is very well done! Just found it today!
I hate that women in society are basically not allowed to sweat. Luckily I never have stinky sweat but if it's really hot out and you're a woman and you have a sweat mark seeping through when it's 90 outside, it's considered unladylike
Came here after I saw the viral "what my mom uses to look this good at 50" youtube shorts and constantly thought about this. This constant self-comparison to other women you see on social media (with or without physical/digital enhancement) is very unhealthy. But it's like I am programmed to think about it.
Yes rad fems said it all along, keep preaching truth❤
I first learned a that “beauty is pain” around age 10. While sitting in my old aunties kitchen getting burned from a press and curl 😌
Loving your beautiful hair. 😍
Random but-this hairrrr😍you look gorgeous!
I like your channel. I subscribed, I hope you make more good information and entertaining videos so I can learn so much more.
Younger women don’t need all this stuff. A good moisturizer is all you need as well as sunscreen and staying away from tanning. 7 or 8 products is ridiculous. This expense on beauty products, etc. is much worse than it was in the 1940s and 1950s. Women were more frugal then, but they still looked good and dressed up to leave the house.
Hey toni! Can you pleaseeeee tell me where you got your hair from in this video? It matches your hair texture and mine perfectly. I NEED! 💙
Can you do a video about toxic masculinity next ?
100% Trueeee
Bro I wish more people would talk about how this isn’t a unique issue and even tho it sucks, we’re 10000% better than where we came. Like this often gets lumped in with the “kids are crazy these days!” mentality. Like bro we’re in the hangover phase from what those who came before got drunk off of. Like it used to be we didn’t even talk about this stuff openly. I really feel like most insecurities we have are from our parents and the generations before them. It’s the tainted knowledge that’s been passed down and we’re trying to distill out of our systems.
😭😭as a 15 year old who has been body shamed this was really helpful
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Idk about pretty privilege but skinny privilege 10000% a thing. I was very skinny when I was in the throws of my eating disorder and I was treated so good by everyone it was honestly scary.
As a metrosexual man, I cannot imagine what stress and money y’all women go through to look good always! I’m even struggling having all my skincare stuff 😭
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Tbh you can’t win if your fat.. body positivity or not
The $2,000 that girl pays to look good almost every two weeks could clear my debt 😭 even though that money would help me, I am grateful for where I’m at and I’m grateful life has showed me ways to be humble and appreciate my life even if I don’t have a lot of money. I still have food in my stomach, shelter, family that love me and most importantly, a body that keeps me going and all my five senses. There is always something to be grateful for ♥️
I dress up at home. I feel good when I look great at home. ❤ I work from home and most of my classes (law student). So I love looking great at home. The way I dress at home, is the way I will go out to the supermarket.
Because I’m a lot at home since the pandemic, I’m really into interior design. 😂 I’m busy changing my kitchen and bought loads of stuff.
Great video
I use water😂😂....just water & vaseline😂
Dont use too much vaseline, is made from crude oil...gasoline
I live on the reservation, us women are mainly all in sweats, shorts & overgrown t shirts lol no pressure to be out there.
Cat was 🐈 in the back ✨
Not the cat disappearing in the beginning 😭
Lookism is why I dress up, use makeup, do my hair and have had plastic surgery
I would love to know your opinion on the TLC show Extreme Cheapskate
I'm always amazing at our capalist society. Advertisers and influencers maje up problems just so they can sell us something we don't need. I agree with comnenter who said we women have so much power. We don't have to do everything SM throws at us to be self confident.
I wear like 5 products in the morning and do a mask at least once a week. I don't have pretty privilege but it would be nice though! I would loooove to see the video about hygiene Olympics in the black community and the role female rap plays in it as well
This might be rude or insensitive or something but no one is forcing anyone to look like the beauty “standard”, I don’t think real people in like real life expect that
I’m a girl and I have also like struggled with my body image and my looks and stuff
I think it depends on where you live or your job/career. I’m in a rural town and I don’t feel the need to look a particular way.
Early ❤❤
Here before a thousand views
Hi what is your fave perfume
I never clicked so fast lol
Excelente
not you said a hat AND a mask girl i’m sick 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
If women stopped buying beauty products the economy would literally collapse lmao
If women said "no" en masse, this wouldn't even be an issue.
What song is on the intro and outro?
I don't want to scare you, but, it appears your cat may have some teleportation abilities.
Who did your hair!!???
I also think it’s all ridiculous and the only enhancements a woman should need is their eyebrows done and maybe their lip. Somebody tell me who was the first man on this planet to tell a women that she was gorgeous with makeup on
I think it’s a lot of projection going on when the beauty standards. Along with FOMO and “keeping up with the Jones’s” Comparison is the killer of all joy⚡️It’s a lot of people worried about people who not even worried about themselves. Like if people lived and let live along with doing the internal work on themselves I think everyone would be a lot further. I just found your channel and I like your voice and your presence so good work to ya❤️❤️❤️
Most people aren't ugly just poor no one is going around spending $1000 on botox and hair removal
Some girls are just vain 🤩 and some girls are humble with their appearance
wait you should use different wash clothes bc you don't want to wash your face, body and areas with the same cloth just incase something is left behind and moved somewhere else...like cross contamination
Skip to 3:22 to actually start the video
I dont overstand why women needs to shave..and am a woman..i dont wear makeup and my face as discoloration an i dont care..am not knocking women who wears makeup..society told us how to see ourselves to make money off us and its sad
Theses videos are wsaaaay to short I feel like it’s so much left unsaid feels rushed good content o just wish it was longer it’s very surface
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