fr fr whats her deal? If there is a kid over, related or not, if we are doing something i'm including them. Its called being a nice and generous person
I can't imagine how that OP felt in that story. Plus, it makes no sense. When OP's sister married the BIL, then they all became family. I bet the Grandma just didn't want to deal with kids that weren't of her own flesh and blood, which is a load of BS.
i've seen that happen in several families, but even at much earlier ages (like under 5 years old!), with a strong sense of competition (divide and conquer), often resulting in the children adopting the same kind of behavior patterns of the grandparents ...
Story 1... how exactly was OP supposed to turn in his baking uniform "freshly cleaned" at the END of his last 14-hour work day? Either he'd need to work that final day out of uniform so the clothes stay clean, boss man didn't think the logistics of his request through, or he planned to fire OP for turning in a dirty uniform. I think option 2 or 3 are way more likely.
you missed the obvious one combe back after the last sift and return it clean then, probable when picking up their final pay check. Though why the heck did;t the hahe a locker room such that you come into work in street cloath, change in the locker room to clean cooking uniform, to start shift? That what I had to do
@@geraldgrenier8132 Insert joke here about "Lockers being too expensive and requiring workers to have actual private room for changing". Oh wait, that has happened in few places... No joke, I've seen a workplace where they only had a changing room for men, despite there being three women in the workplace, 'cause it was "too much of a hassle to get another room empty for them". Which turned really funny when two of said ladies changed at home but then just barged into men's changing room to store their stuff and make passing talk about how 'the sausages were so tiny at meat store today, they should get new ones on the menu' as they walked by two half-naked or naked guys at a time. Expect to get to see women in their underwear? Prepare for them to see you in same situation. And never, EVER expect person not to have a witty tongue when they're mistreated.
"I don't talk to strangers" LMAO! 🤣🤣🤣 I wish I could see that woman's face when she heard OP saying this. I had an opposite experience when my cousin's grandparents welcomed me and my brother and from the first moment told us to call them grandma and grandpa. We were seven or eight years old when we first met them. Grandma was uber excited then that she got to have more grandkids and one of them was a girl [my cousin is a guy]. She went immediately from "I have one grandkid" to "I have three grandkids". I wish everyone to have grandparents like this.
My long-passed grandma (bless her kindness) would basically greet her 'four grandkids' whenever me, my sister and our two friends would visit. To her, our friends were equally loved as we were, as long as they took on any responsibilities that we were expected too (clean up after ourselves, help with firewood, stuff like that). And this wasn't specific two friends, we could bring basically anyone along and she'd treat them as her 'grandkids for the visit'. And it's not like we brought friends over weekly, it was like maybe once or twice a year due to distance and trouble of bringing extra people along.
This is nice. I haven't had any grandparents for six years, but my eldest aunt has almost adopted me as a grandkid and that feeling of belonging is quite valuable. Your story reminds me even more of my cousin's grandma ("Grandma K"). I haven't seen her since she moved up north several years ago, but for a time in my early adolescence, I saw a lot of her and got invited on a lot of outings with her and my cousin. She had three sons and one grandson, so I'm pretty sure when she gifted me some vintage jewelry, it was a gift that she would have liked to have given her own daughter or granddaughter. I was (and am) flattered. I was a little jealous of my cousin who got stuff like Pokémon games, but still flattered! According to my aunt earlier this week, Grandma K seems to be pushing along just fine in that rural town up north where she lives with her brother.
My step kids mom does this. But even farther, she expects other people to do all the “work” parts of parenting. Like teaching boundaries, structure, teaching the kids literally everything. It’s awful.
This is typical for Karens. It's never *their* fault it must the *OTHERS* fault for why everything is going wrong! And the famous line, "Don't Parent my Kid!" Okay, I won't. "Why aren't you Parenting my kid?!"
For story 3: In Ontario, Canada, there’s this new law called “the right to disconnect” law. Which is defined as the right of an employee not to be expected to engage in business activity outside of scheduled work hours including answering work calls, emails, or other work-related communications. This means your boss can’t contact you during your personal time. Off duty means OFF DUTY.
I'm a teacher and despite not being paid during the summer they expect us to still periodically check our email. Sometimes it's extremely important information so it's not like we can just wait until the school year starts. And also our principals will email us at like 7pm to tell us about a meeting the next morning. I refuse to check anything after I'm done for the day so if I don't make it to the meetings oh well, maybe tell us about it BEFORE we leave. Teachers get zero work/life balance.
@@empressmarowynn I remember my mother dealing with this, she was rotatory teacher, aka she taught a specific field in three different schools at same time, and out of those three only one had principal with brains for "maybe I should deal with everything during workdays and only send messages when it is extremely crucial, like if there's been a fire in the evening or stuff like that". Other two for years just expected people to do work after they were done, and had a bad habit of finishing their work at like 5-6pm before sending it forward. This meant that instead of doing the stuff at school, at worst times my mom had to deal with work calls and organizing time tables at 7pm while *also* taking care of two under-ten-year-olds. Luckily at one point all the teachers just said "F it" and as a group decided not to answer these calls after 5pm, aka "the time teacher was expected to be somewhat reachable past work".
@@Elhvir I'm in pre-k now and our program supervisors love to email us at like 8pm things like "I need this specific info from you by 3pm tomorrow" and then when I get to work I check my email to see it, only to learn that the info they needed I had left at home because I wasn't aware I needed it. Well too bad you're gonna have to wait another day because you should have emailed me during my contracted work hours. If I'm not getting paid for it then I'm not working. I love my job but I'm an employee, not a volunteer.
@@empressmarowynn Yup, I'd get it if it was like "hey we're honestly going to be neck-deep in piss ALL OF US if we can't get this info by tomorrow because remains of digested food product hit the rotating air-moving condition system" that you'd fix it and get it done. But if it's just "I was lazy and forgot to tell you this during work hours", it's management's problem for not getting info to you in time.
First Story: This is why I think parents shouldn’t hire their kids to work for them if they intend to give them special treatment. Also, what the boss said was dumb af Second Story: Imagine expecting the people trying to keep UR kid safe to apologize for doing just that? Also how is anything the kid done was their fault? That is insane Third Story: Bro why don’t these bosses learn? The moment OP asked for what they said in writing should’ve been an immediate red flag lmaoo Fourth Story: Lmaooo clearly they had no idea what they was doing Fifth Story: I mean he wanted OP to make an example soooo Sixth Story: I would’ve done the same thing and would never give the grandma any treatment. She don’t see OP and her kids as family then why should OP see her has family and do whatever she wants?
My brother hired his teenage daughter to work at his dance studio, but he actually seems to hold her to a higher standard than anyone else, because he doesn’t want anyone accusing him of favoritism.
Last story: The sister shouldn't have told OP to knock it off. The grandmother showed OP her true colours and got what she deserved. Clearly only wants to benefit when it suits her. People like that are disgusting.
Story 2 : I would've told the child " I'm sorry you don't have an actual parent " " I'm sorry you're raised as a spoiled brat " " I'm sorry no one actually cares enough to teach you right from wrong and that being a thief is wrong".. Story 3 : Talk about "dumb and dumber" ( the boss and the district manager).. Last story : that "grandma" is such a dirtbag.. if I was op and the sister tells me to knock it off I would respond with " nahhh you knock it off she's you're family not mine"..
Last Story: “Grandma” started that fight, not OPs fault if the grandma can’t take what she dishes out. Plus, OP doesn’t deserve to take abuse from a ‘stranger’ old enough to know better (how to treat a 13-yr/old).
@@kristianthe1st859It is the most common kind of theft. People wonder why some think the current system needs to just be torn down, this is why. It is so common for employers to blatantly steal from employees that it is known by basically any person who has a head on their shoulders.
"Can you put that in an email" should raise some red flags. It means someone is trying to mark their trail. Why would someone NEED to mark their trail if what you were doing wasn't incredibly dumb?
@@959_MC he is saying if someone asks you to send an email explaining what you want done, then you should consider the consequences of getting it done. Not once did he say don't CYA
@@Resavian He's saying "if an employee asks you to put it in writing, clearly you must be in the wrong about something" Especially judging the comment we are replying to, it seems the message (that is communicated) is that you should only CYA when a boss is doing something shady, it should just be a habit.
And yet, about every Cooperate Company will do just that b/c if ignoring the safety concerns means they don't have to fork over money b/c you know, "Time is money!" Then they'll just gladly ignore it! Then it's the *Shocked Pikachu Face* when something *does* go wrong!
"We know what we're doing." Clearly not, when your sound system is bad enough that outside help is being provided to you. If you're superiors called in an E-4 to help 1st Sergeant do his own job, you messed up. Getting the general pissed off as well, and you might not have your rank for very long.
Usually it means "I" don't know what I'm doing. Ignoring anyone who raises valid concerns about something is never wrong, but when brought to a leader who ignores it, the problem is the leaders not yours.
@@benwagner5089 Very true. Many "assume" their rank entitles them to overlook the information provided by a lower ranked person. Often it backfires. Of course, when you have a knowledgeable person of rank, they'll listen first, find out why you have concerns, and then make a decision.
It makes me so mad when parents neglect their children and then blame others for what said neglected children do. It's your responsibility as a parent to make sure your child is safe and well behaved, not others.
This, so much this. There's a big difference between "I am stern with kids 'cause it's my job" and "looking at phone so don't care if you get hit". In first case, tough cookies for you parent, have ice water of reality on face. You were the bad influence on child. Like at an indoor playground, two kids are bouncing on a trampoline when the place has big "only one person at a time" -sign right above them, and when told not to do it their parents go "these workers are such rasists" instead of, you know, telling their kids that they did wrong. Basically these parents are reinforcing to kids that they can do whatever they want and parents will never discipline them as well as come to their rescue if anyone ELSE tries to discipline them.
Dude my dad’s first wife was like the grandma in the last story. She would take her kids on shopping sprees with my dads money and then begrudgingly get me one thing “so I can’t say I didn’t get anything” She also threatened to beat me several times because I knew if I got one thing then I couldn’t get a second so if my step siblings got something like cotton candy, I would look at it or them to work up the courage to ask, and my “selfishness and ungratefulness” irked her soul because “she didn’t have to get me anything.” Eventually I stopped asking her for anything and would whisper basic requests to my dad or stepsisters, and they would take care of me.
I'm so sorry to hear that and I'm glad you aren't in this situation anymore. Selfish adults don't realize how damaging to a child behavior like this can be.
@@Dekubud Dude it was so bad that if I got like a bite of something, my stepsisters would say, "you can have more" and I would look at my dad's first wife, then back to them and shake my head no. They'd then give me a piece they felt was appropriate for my size so that it was of their own volition and I couldn't get in trouble.
@@shelby8101 Bless my dad, he stopped exposing me to her unsupervised when it became evident I was being harmed (he was in the Navy when 9/11 happened, which unfortunately meant he didn't get to see me much since he was always out to sea), and took the brunt of my teenage anger and feelings of abandonment, and he patiently waited and loved me anyway until I was old enough to understand.
As an archer what that entitleled girl did was super dangerous even the most basic arrows can kill if they go into your head, love the MC you gave to the mother kill them with kindness (which btw is what my bow is called lol)
Yeah Bows are one of the oldest weapons of war known to man (they literally pre-date metal working in any shape or form) and first forms of arrows were sharpened sticks with fletchings (before they started adding sharpened pieces of stone to the tip) and those were used to kill things, so yes even at it's most basic a proper bows is lethal if the arrow hits the wrong spot and there isn't many "right spots" on the human body.
@@SampoPaalanen why I went into archery not just for the sport but for the history the weapon had in shaping humanity in terms of warfare alongside the stone tied to a stick spear which allowed us to survive by hunting and warding off those that could kill us. I mean sure reading and watching them is one thing but to be there firing it yourself is just something so special for a war historian, plus with the right group of people it's a joyful competition
It's just plain child neglect. She let her daughter walk around ALONE around possibly dangerous activities and then got mad at the other adults for not parenting HER child
You literally can't stop people from quitting lmao. Even if your contract says you need to give this or that before quitting, they literally can't stop you. They put that in your contract as a fear game, and it's not legally enforceable
@@confettiveda2460 Also forcing people to keep working in federal jobs is why we all joke that federal workers do nothing. Why put in any effort when you are being fucked over regardless?
Job contracts are absolutely enforceable and you will be taken to court and lose having to pay out in the terms of contract violation, that also works the other way around, remember folks, not every job is an "at will" employment pay close attention to your employment contract because it is legally binding on both sides
People need to realize that, unless you have signed something saying you will give two weeks' notice, you don't have to. You can quit with zero notice. It's just a courtesy that employers pretend is some kind of law. If they say it's store policy, feel free to say, "Fuck your policy." Quitting on the spot won't help get a good reference, but it's highly unlikely you'd be using the toxic boss as a reference anyway.
That may well depend on what country you are in. In this story several things make me feel this was not in the US. A 14 y/o working a 14 hour shift on weekends? Then the mention of a 4 week notice required after 2 years being "policy". Policy or law? One strange word usage was referring to the mesh cap as a fedora. Who in the US has used the word fedora since JFK was President except in joking? Nothing definite just makes me think this wasnt the US so maybe there is in fact such a law somewhere. But you are exactly right, no need to give notice except as a courtesy. Plus in many jobs as soon as you give notice you are immediately terminated so apparently even that courtesy doesnt work both ways.
Glenn Rishton last I checked, forcing someone to do labour against their will is called slavery even if you compensate them. Slavery is, technically, illegal in every country in the world (the continued practice is more hidden in some countries than others). As far as I'm concerned, making someone work two weeks after they have revoked their consent to labour is duress and, therefore, slavery.
@@theskyisteal8346 Read the original post that I was responding to. Words like sign something requiring you give two weeks notice.That is not slavery that is specific performance required by the terms of the contract. A contract agreed to and signed by both parties. Then my responding post gave a couple of examples of why I thought this may have not been in the US.
My department in every command I was in was required to set up the sound system for every ceremony and Formal GQ's. For years they said, nope don't need you. To me the system sounded Horrible. Mind you this was set up in a Hangar with horrible audio acoustics for a 2 speaker system, not intelligible. Finally in my last command I set up the system (my choice as the supervisor) though it took me a little longer. I ran 4 speakers extended out and around the sitting area. The ones helping me said it would cause feedback. When I was done testing people were surprised that even with music they could hear the words of a song. Yes there was still bounce and echo, but the speaker positioning allowed a lower over all volume and reduced echo in turn providing a better listening experience. Walking through the sitting and standing area the sound was clear and intelligible audio all around. After fine tuning during the rehearsal and a no problem during the ceremony I was informed that I would be the only one setting up the system moving forward. Having even general knowledge of sound systems can make a big difference compared to those only setting up stereos.
@@chrish7336 A little knowledge goes a long way. Too many people "assume" they know everything, but in reality, they are only showing what little they do know. I worked with a lot of military in my 38 years working for the Army. It always surprised me when some officer actually paid attention to the things we were trying to inform him or her about. Most general officers were pretty good to work with, but some would have been fragged if they were in any combat zone. I served active duty during Vietnam.
Second Story: I work in a school library. I'm at the high school level now. When I worked at the elementary level we had kids come in to the book fairs with $50 and $100 bills. We always called the parents to verify that they had really sent their child with that amount of money. Invariably the child had stolen money from their parent and the parent hadn't noticed until we called. Always check with parents if the amount a child is spending doesn't seem reasonable. Few parents will trust their 5-10 year old child with large bills.
Former Cop. 10 hour shifts. Usually log on 10-15 minutes prior to shift start to check emails and recent relevant cases (unpaid time). One night I logged out of service at 0156. Shift ended at 0200. Sgt. comes and screams at me out in front of the crew that "your shift ends at 0200 and you better not log out early again." Roger that...2 Days later come in for shift ( in the station 20 minutes prior to shift start) and the same Sgt. asks me a few questions about a call from the day prior. Since my shift didn't start until 1600, and per contract, asking me to do work PRIOR to my start time, I was entitled to a 3 hour minimum call back at time and 1/2. He about lost his mind when the approval came to him. Screamed at me again, but I pointed out my shift starts at 1600, not 1545, so GFY. It got approved and he never said another word to me. What a Richard Cranium. His worry about 4 minutes at the end of a 10 hour shift cost the City 3 hours of OT. It didn't have to be like that and had he not been a ass, I would have never even considered putting in OT for that, but hey, "rules are rules."
Yeah if I was the parent of the last story I would of chewed her out honestly. That simply is extremely disrespectful and hateful to an innocent child, given she was making it a point to exclude her. She seriously needs a attitude adjustment, or simply not be allowed to be around their kids until she treats OP with the respect that she deserves.
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Can we give BIL some awesome guy points in that last story? Encouraging OP for calling out the entitled grandma like that, and even calling out his own mothers toxic traits like, "Look Ma, if you can't take it then don't dish it!"
6:45 HR and the VP agreed with OP because NOT paying them for the phone calls is ILLEGAL. ESPECIALLY when you claim they're "on call" and it was their day off. Know your rights.
Also if they didn't pay them, 2 things would've happened. 1. OP could effortlessly sue them for lossed wages and rightfully so 2. Afterwards the company would get federal charges for violating labor laws for not pay them for the on call labor
Not once have I ever talked to a member of the military and had them tell me a positive story about an interaction with a superior. How they function is a miracle.
That last story really got to me, when my niece was young my dad would come pick her up for visits, she has siblings a year or so younger than her ( her mums other boyfriends, my niece is my older brothers) my dad would take them too of they asked to come. Christmas,they got gifts, birthdays, just because my dad felt like it gifts, sweets,trips to the park. When he died they came to the funeral with my niece. It takes so little to make kids happy, I don't understand anyone who'd on purpose hurt them
It is hard to understand. Most kids just want to be loved, to be accepted, to have someone who will listen to them -without judging them. Most adults have a hard time since they don't have someone, they can really talk things over with unconditionally. Being a parent is a challenge. Many adults can't stand the challenge, but many others do and they do it well.
People like that grandma make my blood boil. I have 3 step children and my dad was just like "YES! 3 IN ONE SWOOP!". He treated them like his own from day one. I miss him.
If you're such a horrible person that you buy every kid but one ice cream, you don't deserve "respect for your elders" (Like for real it's Ice cream. Its not like you can't afford to take a random extra kid to disney parks, it's two bucks more or less for a cone of ice cream, thats really no difference. For real.)
"Grandma " : treats op like crap because op "isn't family ". Op: responds in kind. "Grandma ": "why are you treating me like crap " " what did I do so wrong to you"??..
Last Story: i would've just kept it going just to make it stick, and if anyone tells me to knock it off ill still keep going and add in "who the fuck are you stranger" or "do i know you stranger? u must be mistaken by another person that is my family member" Edit: i came up the last part after some thinking
My Grandma's ex-husband was the same as the Grandma in the last story. IMy father was the oldest of fout children but from a prior relationship. All through my childhood I was forced to call this POS "Grandpa", yet during the holidays, summers, birthdays, etc. I had to endure the "he's not my grandchild, if he wants something, Grandma can pay." Fine, whatever. Finally, Christmas break my senior year of high schooll, we had a large fanily event (and actually the last in the last 40 years). This man brought presens for every one of his grandkids, nothing for me. I expected this. But when he said "hi", I answered "hello first name". He stopped and looked at me. He said "WHAT did you call me?" I repeated, "hello first name". He. Lost. It. "How dare you disrespect me, I am Grandpa and you WILL call me that." I replied, "why should I call you Grandpa when you nsistantly remind everyone I nm NOT your grandson. No more. Your name is first hame. I'm being respectful. THAT's what I will call you." He then walked over and slapped me across the face. He yelled "YOU WILL RESPECT ME." I just smiled and said "you EVER tocuch me again and you WILL regret it." He slapped me again, this time drawing blood from my mouth. Next ting everyone saw was this POS lying on the floor crying 'MY NOSE, MY NOSE"......I leaned over and "told you that you'd regret it. And by the way F---YOU and the old hag you're sleeping with." I left. One punch, i broke his nose and brusied his right eye." He wanted to have me charged, but my Grandma said if he did, she'd charge him with child abuse. I only sw him once more before he died, but that's a story for another day.
So, here's a little lesson in microeconomics: Sony sells their Playstations at a loss. Sounds like bad business, right? WRONG! Because of all the related stuff they sell, they make way more money the more people own a playstation. And, when you have one gaming system, you usually stick to that one. This is actually quite a common business strategy. Sell one item at a loss, then make money on all the other stuff they buy once they start being your customer. That manager is the epitome of wasting dollars to save pennies. I diagnose them with a distinct lack of vision ^.^ (EDIT: I know that's not what happened here, in fact, it's even worse. But that did remind me of that fun fact.)
Story one: a PSA from RSlash: NEVER eff with the IT guys, and if anyone says, “Can you send that to me in an email?”, reconsider if what you’re requesting is really all that smart! 😆Bakery story: I worked in a snack shop (3 kinds of sandwiches, 2 coffee cakes, chips, lemonade, sodas and coffees) and the owner had to have an operation which required 2 months off for rehab post surgery. His wife, who knew nada about food service or how the snack shop ran, decided to make lots of changes. Sandwiches were now to be made to order. We had been making 30 each of our daily sandwiches, divided between sourdough, wheat, and rye. They got lettuce, tomato and a pickle all pre-wrapped. Our profit was $2/sandwich. We sold out daily, and often had to make more. Our coffee cakes (3 of both kinds) were going to be bought offsite. Everyone loved our coffee cakes, and we made $1.75 on every slice. We always sold out of those as well, with many private orders for a whole coffee cake by customers around holidays. It wasn’t unusual to have an order for 3-5 cakes for an ordinary weekend. Wifey started getting the coffee cakes at the wholesale grocery supply. Our profit went from $1.75 to $.70. Our sandwiches went from selling 90-125/day to selling 50-60 because we had to make them to order. We were located in a big high rise of both residential, hotel and offices. We also sold homemade soup (2 kinds daily) which she eliminated because it was “too messy”. The owner hobbled in after about 3 weeks, saw what was going on, and told his wife he needed her at home to help him with his rehabilitation. She was clueless! Nice enough, but clearly, no math genius! We went back to our usual way, all our customers were very relieved, and that little snack shop managed to send 2 kids to Harvard, (1 lawyer international law, 1 biomedical engineer), pay off their house in 10 years, go on vacations, and make scholarships for needy inner city kids. Don’t mess with what ain’t broke!😛
Rslash, the reason people aren't listening to that alarm bell when someone asks for something in writing is because it is a common sense thing and I'm sure you've heard the saying "common sense isn't so common anymore ".
Funny story, for the third story, I do the exact same thing. Whenever they have a change of command ceremony, I set it up. Normally, there are super easy to set up though. I don't know how someone can mess it up, with me (an E3) being able to set it up 1st time with no issue.
My grandma (92) has a friend that lives with her in the same nursing home. Apparently, her friend always made a distinction between her "real" grandkids and "the adopted ones". Now her family never visit her, not even for things like Christmas, while my grandma gets picked up every weekend to spend time with her kids, grandkids, and even great-grandkids. What goes around comes around.
Lol SPC OP, sounds like you're at FT Hood. Take comfort in knowing that SGM will retire soon and be the "get off my lawn!" Guy. I remember while I was at Airborne School, 2 SGMs stood at the door of the PX at Benning, sharking PVTs as they came off the checkout line on a Saturday morning. Apparently it was the weekend between basic and "AIT" for the Infantry guys. Spit was flying and knife hands were chopping and as a SGT, I knew not to make eye contact. Since this was a Saturday, a "day off" (lol) I learned quickly as I exited the store that these 2 guys just had nothing better to do than wake up early and harass Soldiers...no families that hated them, not neighbors to annoy, no sports on TV to yell at refs ... I say that because one of them said it while yelling at some 18 yo troop "I ain't got nothing better to do that come and yell at you mother f***s!" That made me laugh (quietly and only after I walked out of ear shot of this chaos) and was a good life lesson on the type of leaders I didn't want to be.
I especially love the military stories. There seems to be no end of hilarious and petty-as-hell malicious compliance stories coming from a culture of strict hierarchy and a plentitude of low-ranking enlisted soldiers who are placed into no-win, ridiculous situations.
The military is a small microcosm of our society. It is much more organized than the civilian businesses, but all business operations have similar stories if you can find someone who is willing to tell them.
RE: The third story. At my current job, we had an old boss who would never go on record about anything. If we tried to talk to him about anything, he would try to have an in-person conversation in the parking lot and never wrote anything down. If he was given a new task by the higher ups, he'd call us in the middle of the evening and hand it off to us over the phone instead of sending us an email. Well, that didn't sit right with us, since in my line of work, you live and die by what's recorded and what isn't. So, we decided to do something about it. We kept doing our jobs, and anything that was super important went directly to the higher ups so they could sign off on it. All the stuff our boss was trying to pass off onto us, however, was left to sit and fester. Eventually the higher ups noticed the stuff they'd asked our boss to get done wasn't getting done. Our boss tried to say that he had told us to do it, and that we were just lazy. That didn't work - we made sure to keep doing our jobs because we knew we were being recorded, and we made sure to bring the head honchos in directly whenever something serious happened. The only things that weren't getting done was the stuff *our boss* was supposed to be doing, and there was no record he ever asked us or trained us to do those things. It took almost four years, but they finally let him go.
Archery: I’m surprised minors were allowed to sign up on their own. I’m in a club & no archer is allowed to participate unless they have a safety waiver on file w/ the coaches. And minors have to have parents/guardians sign their forms. And along with that is training on when we can and can’t be on the field of course.
That grandma made me so mad because I had a relative through my step-dad like that. They called her Grandma Dye-Dye because he name was Diane and her thing was taking her grandkids out to ty-dye their own shirts any chance she got. I one time asked if I could go because she was gathering up a lot of my relatives on her side, and she claimed “I only take the girls out to dye clothes, so you’re not allowed.” 2 hours later, she came back with all my female relatives, and 3 of my male relatives as well, all with brand new shirts they’d ty-dyed themselves. My mom saw them, then looked at me and asked “You didn’t wanna go, too? I thought for sure you’d want to make a shirt like that for your grandma back home, she wear nothing but ty-dye and she’d love something you made for her.” Diane’s face went into an instant panic when I looked right at her and said “She claimed she only takes the girls out so I wasn’t allowed to go.” Unfortunately I was only like 10 or 11 years old so Diane made up some excuse about “he must have misunderstood me” and both my mom and my step-dad bought it. After that I refused to go on any trips to go visit my step-dad’s family because she wasn’t the only one who constantly did their best to leave me out of everything they could and my mom and step-dad refusing to see ruined the trips for me.
@@bugatti7760 I'm usually long awake by the 8am (my timezone) he uploads and getting ready for a nap. Not to mention I listen to his podcast to fall asleep to :)
Story 1: God, imagine what could've gone through the customer's heads seeing a half-naked teenager angrily storm out of the boss's office with said boss screaming at the aforementioned half-naked teen that they'll never work again. The implications alone would be enough to start asking questions...
This is the story about my son's grandmother and my son. So this woman and her husband decided that my son isn't family. Now my son's grandmother is obviously my husband's mother so that makes them family. Well for years they would buy hundreds of dollars of gifts for their kids and spend $20 on my son. The reason? Because he wasn't family. So over the years they've taken trips gone out of state and the reason my son can't go? Because he's not family. One year one of the two children that my mother-in-law had was having a birthday. There were only three kids there and they were all within a Year's age of each other. Well the family brought gifts for the other two kids but nothing for my son. Now mind you this was the youngest child's birthday. The excuse was that the family had missed the other child's birthday so they brought gifts for her. Well they had also miss my son's birthday and he is family to my mother-in-law at least. So my thinking is the only reason that they invited us to come there is so they could humiliate us. At one point my mother-in-law got drunk and told me to take my bastard child and carry my fat ass back to town. After that we decided way low contact was the best. Now my kids 18 years old and he finally understands that they don't see him as family. He's just her son's son. I don't know but to me the whole thing seems pretty f***** up
That reminds me of a boss who told my wife to violate ethics for his corrupt money making scheme against company and state law. She asked for it in writing. It didn’t come and neither was she his fall guy. Guess he had to try someone who was a rube. The issue was shared and no one touched it with a ten foot pole.
the grandmother one was the best. It reminds me of my pos uncle and his pillheaded (now ex) wife (let's call them Uncle Manchild and Aunt Jackass). I have an adopted sister (who I just call my sister) who tried to connect with my family because her biological mother and brothers rejected her. Well, everyone, except Uncle Manchild and Aunt Jackass, welcomed her into the family. When I was staying with my mother for a while (as I was keeping my distance from Uncle Manchild as he and I had been going at it a lot), I learned that my sister came to visit my grandparents (on Thanksgiving) and she brought her kids (my niece and nephews) with her. She ran into Aunt Jackass and cheerfully told her "Hi, Aunt Jackass" and Aunt Jackass went "I'm not your aunt. You're not family." And it hurt my sister. My granddaddy retorted and said to Aunt Jackass "well, if she's not family, then you're not family either" and it pissed her and Uncle Manchild off. Of course, I was even more pissed off when I learned of this so I thought of a way of getting under their skin myself and when December hit, an opportunity presented itself. I was given a $1000 gift certificate for a grocery store by one of my best friends and I used it all for the grocery shopping. I went to my grandparents with some food they liked and gave it to them. When Aunt Jackass and Uncle Manchild asked me where was THEIR food, I retorted with "Sorry, but I only brought food for family and neither of you are family." And they were pissed. My grandmother didn't understand why I said that until my dad reminded her of what they said to my sister. After I left, from what I was told, Uncle Manchild demanded that I respect him and Aunt Jackass and to learn manners and acknowledge that my sister wasn't family. He was shut down by my granddaddy.
What I absolutely love about that last story is that the BIL, the actual son of that grandma is the one that laughed about it and seemingly had no problem at all with the attitude that OP had towards his own mother...
Last Story: One of my neighbors babysat and would take those kids and her kids to McDonald's but only buy food for her kids. I can't imagine doing that, so cold.
That last story... I'm not really a grandma yet, but my son's girlfriend has a son from a previous relationship. Her kid is not related to me in anyway, but I have begun to see him as possibly becoming my step-grandson in the future. So, even though he's not my "family" through blood, he's part of my CHOSEN family, and will remain so for the rest of my life. That kid had the right idea in returning the "not family" bit. That "grandma" doesn't get to have it both ways! Maybe the "stranger" part was a little too far, but if "grandma" won't treat the kid the same as the rest, then the kid shouldn't be expected to treat HER the same, either! My mom's mom had the right idea in the wrong way: hate everyone equally...
Last story: Just for the ending, she didn't even have to buy OP an ice cream or anything, the LEAST she could have done was just bring OP to the park! It would have cost nothing!
Story 1: That boss was doing HELLA illegal shit making OP cover his daughter. OP was 14 working 14 hour shifts. It is ABSOLUTELY against the law for minors to work more than 8 hours in a day, including their mandatory breaks. This guy is super lucky OP didn't bring criminal charges on his ass, because child labor laws are taken VERY seriously. He could've been served a hefty fine or had his whole business investigated
My wife of 40 tears is still somewhat irritated with me for leaving the army when I did. She was pregnant and we could have used the steady income. But I felt I had to get out before I got in trouble for insubordination. I worked as an in-patient psychiatric technician, had years of experience, solid education background, and some small talent for therapy. But I was outranked by a new graduate of the program who had spent 10 years in the motor pool before passing the in-patient course ON HIS THIRD AND FINAL TRY! He was an E6 to my E4. And I had to take his nonsensical orders, watch him do damage to vulnerable patients, and find new and exciting ways to enjoy the Army's then policy of the "2 beer lunch!" At that he was less of a danger than the newly minted psychiatric doctors(Lieutenants) with no empathy or talent for dealing with people!
Last story: I was thinking the Grandma was just being cheap since she didn't want to get OP toys or ice cream like the other kids but why ask about the park if she wasn't going to include OP? That's is just mean. The park wouldn't cost her anything. OP was obviously raised right though bc even though she didn't get anything she was still happy for the other kids and was respectful to the Grandma even though treated differently.
The mom in the archery story is a Karen, but she was right on one point: Allowing a child to use a dangerous weapon without even parental consent is a terrible idea for many reasons.
The second story is a bit too close to home for me, when I was in middle school, we were shooting archery and one of the kids that used to torment me every day was in my class, when everybody was done shooting their arrows and went to go get them, he went into the storage closet where they're stored lined up his shot and shot me in the leg Long story short I had to get surgery to get it removed and the kid was expelled permanently I still cringe every time I think about it
That kid should have been sent for psychiatric eval and/or sent to juvie. That is assault with a deadly weapon, POSSIBLY premeditated attempted murder. Holy shit.
Oh goodness, as an E-4 who works with battalion level staff and who's attended his fair share of change of command ceremonies, this story is fucking hilarious
In boy scout camp we did archery and the instructor told us if one of us was stupid enough to walk out while people are still shooting arrows even after explaining why we shouldn't that we need to remain completely still and let them take care of it and if we're running around screaming with an arrow in the butt they'd knock us out with a rock just to get us to stop flailing long enough to attempt saving our life. We all laughed and she looked at us straight faced ( I'm serious. )
Back when I was in the Army I was working help desk in Kuwait. I ended up having to do a back up on the 2-Star General's work computer in the command center. These desks the computers were on were low enough that I had to crouch down while the General basically watched over my back and at the time I was only a Specialist (E-4) so you better believe I was the only enlisted person in the room. I ended up having to leave and go back to my work station for a minute to check on some tickets that were coming in and I get pulled aside by a Colonel who tells me that I need to be more formal and I was being disrespectful to the General which really confused because I was trying my best not to stand out and the only thing I could think of was that I wasn't standing at attention when I was working on the computer. I asked the Colonel what he meant and he said that was exactly the issue. I then ask him if it would be better to basically be bent over at a 45-ish degree so I could still type on the computer. I then see the gears turning in his head and he tells me to just go back to what I was doing. It's a stupidish story but that could of had the potential to ruin my entire stay for the rest of the deployment if I got on the bad sides of all those officers...
" 'Just send that to me in writing' is code for 'I'm about to massively screw you over'." You're probably right about the vast majority of cases. I'm glad to provide an exception: My boss asked me to research a thing, and I asked for it in writing so I don't forget. That's it. No malicious intent on either side. It happens.
I had to start asking for things in writing since I was being directly tasked by the Director of my organization, but I still needed to let my supervisor know what was going on. My supervisor was on my case for not getting things completed, so I made a spreadsheet of all the tasks and assignments I had been given and who had given them. It took him aback, since he had no idea of how much work I had been assigned. After that, I updated the spreadsheet every week and he would scrub it so I could actually get some things completed. He was one of the best supervisors I've ever had.
I'm generally quiet, yet can be quiet a conversationalist when it comes to telling anecdotes and such. A friend of mine tends to lean towards being very entitled. At one point I was told that my friend literally tunes me out when I'm speaking. I was a little taking a bath, but not super surprised, considering this person's entitled behaviour overall. About a week later I was hand washing some dishes in the sink, focused on the task at hand. My friend asked, "Why are you moping?" What? I said, "I'm not moping, I'm just washing dishes." "It's just, you're being really quiet," she said. "So?" I replied flatly. "You told me you tune out anything I say anyway." Almost surprisingly, my friend was suddenly a bit embarrassed, she'd nearly contrite, and [almost] apologized, saying she shouldn't have worded it that way...
2.nd story: Since it uses € I assume it happened in Europe. In Germany kids under 7 are not able to do any business. Between 7 and 17 you are allowed to handle money you own/ earned and you can do transactions that are common for your age. One could argue that spending 40€ on sweets is not common for people that age and then the store would be liable. If the kid was under 7 the parents would be entitled to a full refund because the kid is not able do do binding contracts.
That's the thing with the army, they look at rank and treat you "accordingly" my buddy who was a small arms repairer worked in his family's gun shop forever and knew his trade, our brigade had a TON of M4s which were constantly misfiring and civilian contractors spent MONTHS trying to figure out why these 1000s of m4s were junk, he figured out the issue in hours but was told to kick rocks, so he waited 2 weeks before bringing it up again.. he got an ARCOM lol
@@fredk.2001 it's been like 4 years, but it was something with the way the different materials were machined/the tolerances, in the firing pin, and bolt carrier and when they wore down it would cause too big of "gaps" or something like that and not connect, if that makes sense?
's@@syrupchugger4266 It makes sense. Just like the original M-16, which didn't work very well in Vietnam (or anywhere else it was needed for a combat situation). First, troops were told "it doesn't require maintenance", then the Army used the wrong type of powder (ball instead of the long grain the mfg. specified), and last but not least, no cleaning tools were provided or even manufactured. Once the Army fixed these issues, the M-16 worked fine and still works well, considering the weapon was fielded in the mid-1960's.
Story 3: if your employee has a day, do NOT call them unless they give you permission and/or it is a REAL emergency ... it is their day off and let them enjoy it. I had a former Manager do this regularly to me before i escalated it to the District Manager = long story short, i was transferred to another site and shortly after the Manager was fired for embezzlement
That Grandma sounds like mine, only I am her Grandkid. Some people just shouldn't be parents...or grandparents. She never showed love to either of her boys despite many attempts at helping and taking care of her. She'd be dead without my bro holding c-spine in the snow for hours after her accident. (He was a first responder) She just loved her girls and their kids. They all stole from her and treated her like crap. I don't hold hard feelings because what goes around comes around. We are all pretty loving and a family while that bunch are all jerks to eachother and unhappy and alone. Last laugh has been keeping me entertained for years.
For that last one, I always get a chuckle from the people who say they aren't family. Here's the thing, they are family, by law. Obviously the mean old granny meant blood relatives when she said 'family', but technically she's extended family, the same as OP.
That grandma made me so mad. I would understand not spoiling OP like her grandkids, but no Ice cream and no trip to the park? That’s ridiculous.
fr fr whats her deal? If there is a kid over, related or not, if we are doing something i'm including them. Its called being a nice and generous person
I can't imagine how that OP felt in that story. Plus, it makes no sense. When OP's sister married the BIL, then they all became family. I bet the Grandma just didn't want to deal with kids that weren't of her own flesh and blood, which is a load of BS.
forget the ice cream why ask hey do you like the park if you aren't going to invite the person
mmkay so not buying ice cream is mean.
But not taking her to the park... a park. That's free. And OP will probably keep an eye on the others.
i've seen that happen in several families, but even at much earlier ages (like under 5 years old!), with a strong sense of competition (divide and conquer), often resulting in the children adopting the same kind of behavior patterns of the grandparents ...
Story 1... how exactly was OP supposed to turn in his baking uniform "freshly cleaned" at the END of his last 14-hour work day? Either he'd need to work that final day out of uniform so the clothes stay clean, boss man didn't think the logistics of his request through, or he planned to fire OP for turning in a dirty uniform. I think option 2 or 3 are way more likely.
I was thinking the same thing.
you missed the obvious one combe back after the last sift and return it clean then, probable when picking up their final pay check.
Though why the heck did;t the hahe a locker room such that you come into work in street cloath, change in the locker room to clean cooking uniform, to start shift? That what I had to do
@@geraldgrenier8132 Insert joke here about "Lockers being too expensive and requiring workers to have actual private room for changing".
Oh wait, that has happened in few places... No joke, I've seen a workplace where they only had a changing room for men, despite there being three women in the workplace, 'cause it was "too much of a hassle to get another room empty for them". Which turned really funny when two of said ladies changed at home but then just barged into men's changing room to store their stuff and make passing talk about how 'the sausages were so tiny at meat store today, they should get new ones on the menu' as they walked by two half-naked or naked guys at a time.
Expect to get to see women in their underwear? Prepare for them to see you in same situation. And never, EVER expect person not to have a witty tongue when they're mistreated.
"I don't talk to strangers" LMAO! 🤣🤣🤣 I wish I could see that woman's face when she heard OP saying this.
I had an opposite experience when my cousin's grandparents welcomed me and my brother and from the first moment told us to call them grandma and grandpa. We were seven or eight years old when we first met them. Grandma was uber excited then that she got to have more grandkids and one of them was a girl [my cousin is a guy]. She went immediately from "I have one grandkid" to "I have three grandkids". I wish everyone to have grandparents like this.
My long-passed grandma (bless her kindness) would basically greet her 'four grandkids' whenever me, my sister and our two friends would visit. To her, our friends were equally loved as we were, as long as they took on any responsibilities that we were expected too (clean up after ourselves, help with firewood, stuff like that). And this wasn't specific two friends, we could bring basically anyone along and she'd treat them as her 'grandkids for the visit'. And it's not like we brought friends over weekly, it was like maybe once or twice a year due to distance and trouble of bringing extra people along.
@@Elhvir although i'm a guy, i want to do this when i'm old and my daughter chooses to have kids 💪
This is nice. I haven't had any grandparents for six years, but my eldest aunt has almost adopted me as a grandkid and that feeling of belonging is quite valuable.
Your story reminds me even more of my cousin's grandma ("Grandma K"). I haven't seen her since she moved up north several years ago, but for a time in my early adolescence, I saw a lot of her and got invited on a lot of outings with her and my cousin. She had three sons and one grandson, so I'm pretty sure when she gifted me some vintage jewelry, it was a gift that she would have liked to have given her own daughter or granddaughter. I was (and am) flattered. I was a little jealous of my cousin who got stuff like Pokémon games, but still flattered!
According to my aunt earlier this week, Grandma K seems to be pushing along just fine in that rural town up north where she lives with her brother.
Story 2: Looks like she (the mom) doesn't want to accept that she's doing a terrible job raising her kid and is blaming everyone else.
Totally agree.
Blame Canada
@@Gatsmask_FGC I remember that song
My step kids mom does this. But even farther, she expects other people to do all the “work” parts of parenting. Like teaching boundaries, structure, teaching the kids literally everything. It’s awful.
This is typical for Karens. It's never *their* fault it must the *OTHERS* fault for why everything is going wrong! And the famous line, "Don't Parent my Kid!" Okay, I won't. "Why aren't you Parenting my kid?!"
For story 3: In Ontario, Canada, there’s this new law called “the right to disconnect” law. Which is defined as the right of an employee not to be expected to engage in business activity outside of scheduled work hours including answering work calls, emails, or other work-related communications.
This means your boss can’t contact you during your personal time. Off duty means OFF DUTY.
I'm a teacher and despite not being paid during the summer they expect us to still periodically check our email. Sometimes it's extremely important information so it's not like we can just wait until the school year starts. And also our principals will email us at like 7pm to tell us about a meeting the next morning. I refuse to check anything after I'm done for the day so if I don't make it to the meetings oh well, maybe tell us about it BEFORE we leave. Teachers get zero work/life balance.
@@empressmarowynn I remember my mother dealing with this, she was rotatory teacher, aka she taught a specific field in three different schools at same time, and out of those three only one had principal with brains for "maybe I should deal with everything during workdays and only send messages when it is extremely crucial, like if there's been a fire in the evening or stuff like that".
Other two for years just expected people to do work after they were done, and had a bad habit of finishing their work at like 5-6pm before sending it forward. This meant that instead of doing the stuff at school, at worst times my mom had to deal with work calls and organizing time tables at 7pm while *also* taking care of two under-ten-year-olds. Luckily at one point all the teachers just said "F it" and as a group decided not to answer these calls after 5pm, aka "the time teacher was expected to be somewhat reachable past work".
@@Elhvir I'm in pre-k now and our program supervisors love to email us at like 8pm things like "I need this specific info from you by 3pm tomorrow" and then when I get to work I check my email to see it, only to learn that the info they needed I had left at home because I wasn't aware I needed it. Well too bad you're gonna have to wait another day because you should have emailed me during my contracted work hours. If I'm not getting paid for it then I'm not working. I love my job but I'm an employee, not a volunteer.
@@empressmarowynn Yup, I'd get it if it was like "hey we're honestly going to be neck-deep in piss ALL OF US if we can't get this info by tomorrow because remains of digested food product hit the rotating air-moving condition system" that you'd fix it and get it done. But if it's just "I was lazy and forgot to tell you this during work hours", it's management's problem for not getting info to you in time.
OP's response in the last story made me so happy. I had a step grandma who acted like this. Didn't realize how messed up it was till I was an adult.
First Story: This is why I think parents shouldn’t hire their kids to work for them if they intend to give them special treatment. Also, what the boss said was dumb af
Second Story: Imagine expecting the people trying to keep UR kid safe to apologize for doing just that? Also how is anything the kid done was their fault? That is insane
Third Story: Bro why don’t these bosses learn? The moment OP asked for what they said in writing should’ve been an immediate red flag lmaoo
Fourth Story: Lmaooo clearly they had no idea what they was doing
Fifth Story: I mean he wanted OP to make an example soooo
Sixth Story: I would’ve done the same thing and would never give the grandma any treatment. She don’t see OP and her kids as family then why should OP see her has family and do whatever she wants?
Family and business do not mix
@@Monasaurus_Rex sometimes it does sadly
My brother hired his teenage daughter to work at his dance studio, but he actually seems to hold her to a higher standard than anyone else, because he doesn’t want anyone accusing him of favoritism.
Yeah like it's literally the law that you're allowed to quit whenever.
Sounds like the mom is just in denial that she’s a shit parent
Last story: The sister shouldn't have told OP to knock it off. The grandmother showed OP her true colours and got what she deserved. Clearly only wants to benefit when it suits her. People like that are disgusting.
This! My reply would be for the sister to go **** herself.
Damn right
Story 2 : I would've told the child " I'm sorry you don't have an actual parent " " I'm sorry you're raised as a spoiled brat " " I'm sorry no one actually cares enough to teach you right from wrong and that being a thief is wrong"..
Story 3 : Talk about "dumb and dumber" ( the boss and the district manager)..
Last story : that "grandma" is such a dirtbag.. if I was op and the sister tells me to knock it off I would respond with " nahhh you knock it off she's you're family not mine"..
Ouch
Last Story: “Grandma” started that fight, not OPs fault if the grandma can’t take what she dishes out. Plus, OP doesn’t deserve to take abuse from a ‘stranger’ old enough to know better (how to treat a 13-yr/old).
Usually "no more overtime" means "you still have to work overtime. We're just not gonna pay you for it anymore."
Funny how thats basically the boss in the story wanted op to stay but surprised when he left
Don't ever do that.that is wage theft.if that is ever "expected" have it written down and show it to a labor lawyer
Called... Illegal!!
@@kristianthe1st859It is the most common kind of theft. People wonder why some think the current system needs to just be torn down, this is why. It is so common for employers to blatantly steal from employees that it is known by basically any person who has a head on their shoulders.
"Can you put that in an email" should raise some red flags. It means someone is trying to mark their trail. Why would someone NEED to mark their trail if what you were doing wasn't incredibly dumb?
Bosses: “Sweet Victory, yeah!”
The golden ticket of a good malicious compliance story: ironclad evidence of CYA
CYA is just a good habit, I hate how rslash is trying to turn it into a thing to be scared of.
@@959_MC he is saying if someone asks you to send an email explaining what you want done, then you should consider the consequences of getting it done. Not once did he say don't CYA
@@Resavian He's saying "if an employee asks you to put it in writing, clearly you must be in the wrong about something"
Especially judging the comment we are replying to, it seems the message (that is communicated) is that you should only CYA when a boss is doing something shady, it should just be a habit.
Story 4: "We know what we're doing" usually precedes disaster. If someone is bringing up safety concerns, don't ignore them!
Me: who's stupid enough to do that
Also me:
And yet, about every Cooperate Company will do just that b/c if ignoring the safety concerns means they don't have to fork over money b/c you know, "Time is money!" Then they'll just gladly ignore it! Then it's the *Shocked Pikachu Face* when something *does* go wrong!
"We know what we're doing."
Clearly not, when your sound system is bad enough that outside help is being provided to you. If you're superiors called in an E-4 to help 1st Sergeant do his own job, you messed up. Getting the general pissed off as well, and you might not have your rank for very long.
Usually it means "I" don't know what I'm doing. Ignoring anyone who raises valid concerns about something is never wrong, but when brought to a leader who ignores it, the problem is the leaders not yours.
@@benwagner5089 Very true. Many "assume" their rank entitles them to overlook the information provided by a lower ranked person. Often it backfires. Of course, when you have a knowledgeable person of rank, they'll listen first, find out why you have concerns, and then make a decision.
It makes me so mad when parents neglect their children and then blame others for what said neglected children do. It's your responsibility as a parent to make sure your child is safe and well behaved, not others.
This, so much this.
There's a big difference between "I am stern with kids 'cause it's my job" and "looking at phone so don't care if you get hit". In first case, tough cookies for you parent, have ice water of reality on face. You were the bad influence on child. Like at an indoor playground, two kids are bouncing on a trampoline when the place has big "only one person at a time" -sign right above them, and when told not to do it their parents go "these workers are such rasists" instead of, you know, telling their kids that they did wrong. Basically these parents are reinforcing to kids that they can do whatever they want and parents will never discipline them as well as come to their rescue if anyone ELSE tries to discipline them.
Dude my dad’s first wife was like the grandma in the last story. She would take her kids on shopping sprees with my dads money and then begrudgingly get me one thing “so I can’t say I didn’t get anything”
She also threatened to beat me several times because I knew if I got one thing then I couldn’t get a second so if my step siblings got something like cotton candy, I would look at it or them to work up the courage to ask, and my “selfishness and ungratefulness” irked her soul because “she didn’t have to get me anything.”
Eventually I stopped asking her for anything and would whisper basic requests to my dad or stepsisters, and they would take care of me.
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry. That is absolutely not okay.
I'm so sorry to hear that and I'm glad you aren't in this situation anymore. Selfish adults don't realize how damaging to a child behavior like this can be.
@@Dekubud Dude it was so bad that if I got like a bite of something, my stepsisters would say, "you can have more" and I would look at my dad's first wife, then back to them and shake my head no. They'd then give me a piece they felt was appropriate for my size so that it was of their own volition and I couldn't get in trouble.
@@shelby8101 Bless my dad, he stopped exposing me to her unsupervised when it became evident I was being harmed (he was in the Navy when 9/11 happened, which unfortunately meant he didn't get to see me much since he was always out to sea), and took the brunt of my teenage anger and feelings of abandonment, and he patiently waited and loved me anyway until I was old enough to understand.
@@AlexRising_ how quickly did you're dad divorce the witch ??
As an archer what that entitleled girl did was super dangerous even the most basic arrows can kill if they go into your head, love the MC you gave to the mother kill them with kindness (which btw is what my bow is called lol)
I read that as "that is what my boy is called" and I was like damn that is an interesting name 😂
@@deithlan KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS, YOU GET OVER HERE RIGHT NOW BEFORE THAT DOG BITES YOU
Yeah Bows are one of the oldest weapons of war known to man (they literally pre-date metal working in any shape or form) and first forms of arrows were sharpened sticks with fletchings (before they started adding sharpened pieces of stone to the tip) and those were used to kill things, so yes even at it's most basic a proper bows is lethal if the arrow hits the wrong spot and there isn't many "right spots" on the human body.
@@SampoPaalanen why I went into archery not just for the sport but for the history the weapon had in shaping humanity in terms of warfare alongside the stone tied to a stick spear which allowed us to survive by hunting and warding off those that could kill us. I mean sure reading and watching them is one thing but to be there firing it yourself is just something so special for a war historian, plus with the right group of people it's a joyful competition
It's just plain child neglect. She let her daughter walk around ALONE around possibly dangerous activities and then got mad at the other adults for not parenting HER child
I wouldn't have "knocked it off" even if the sister asked to. She said I'm not family, so she can take those words with her to the grave.
You literally can't stop people from quitting lmao. Even if your contract says you need to give this or that before quitting, they literally can't stop you. They put that in your contract as a fear game, and it's not legally enforceable
Always remember: The notice period is a _courtesy._ (Non-federal) Jobs can't force you to keep working.
@@confettiveda2460 Also forcing people to keep working in federal jobs is why we all joke that federal workers do nothing. Why put in any effort when you are being fucked over regardless?
Job contracts are absolutely enforceable and you will be taken to court and lose having to pay out in the terms of contract violation, that also works the other way around, remember folks, not every job is an "at will" employment pay close attention to your employment contract because it is legally binding on both sides
@@midorisetsuna7334 I'm sure you are correct however, A teenager working weekends in a bakery is not a contract position.
@@midorisetsuna7334 Illegal clauses are, BY DEFINITION, unenforceable.
"It's our policy that you have to give 4 weeks notice"
"Well, it's the government's policy that I don't. BYE!"
It is pretty interesting that OP wasn't "family" to the grandma until it inconvenienced her
She’s only family when she needs a servant/maid
People need to realize that, unless you have signed something saying you will give two weeks' notice, you don't have to. You can quit with zero notice. It's just a courtesy that employers pretend is some kind of law. If they say it's store policy, feel free to say, "Fuck your policy."
Quitting on the spot won't help get a good reference, but it's highly unlikely you'd be using the toxic boss as a reference anyway.
That may well depend on what country you are in. In this story several things make me feel this was not in the US. A 14 y/o working a 14 hour shift on weekends? Then the mention of a 4 week notice required after 2 years being "policy". Policy or law? One strange word usage was referring to the mesh cap as a fedora. Who in the US has used the word fedora since JFK was President except in joking? Nothing definite just makes me think this wasnt the US so maybe there is in fact such a law somewhere.
But you are exactly right, no need to give notice except as a courtesy. Plus in many jobs as soon as you give notice you are immediately terminated so apparently even that courtesy doesnt work both ways.
@@glennrishton5679 regarding fedoras: you seem to have either forgotten or missed the fedora/trillby trend a decade or two ago.
@@chrislangtiw6395 Good point and yes I did miss that. I am more a Bowler and Panama guy.
Glenn Rishton last I checked, forcing someone to do labour against their will is called slavery even if you compensate them. Slavery is, technically, illegal in every country in the world (the continued practice is more hidden in some countries than others). As far as I'm concerned, making someone work two weeks after they have revoked their consent to labour is duress and, therefore, slavery.
@@theskyisteal8346 Read the original post that I was responding to. Words like sign something requiring you give two weeks notice.That is not slavery that is specific performance required by the terms of the contract. A contract agreed to and signed by both parties. Then my responding post gave a couple of examples of why I thought this may have not been in the US.
Sergeant Major: "We don't need you, so f*ck off."
OP: "Alright." *f-cks off*
Speakers: **Malfunctions**
Seargant Major: **Shocked Pikachu Face**
My department in every command I was in was required to set up the sound system for every ceremony and Formal GQ's. For years they said, nope don't need you. To me the system sounded Horrible. Mind you this was set up in a Hangar with horrible audio acoustics for a 2 speaker system, not intelligible.
Finally in my last command I set up the system (my choice as the supervisor) though it took me a little longer. I ran 4 speakers extended out and around the sitting area. The ones helping me said it would cause feedback. When I was done testing people were surprised that even with music they could hear the words of a song. Yes there was still bounce and echo, but the speaker positioning allowed a lower over all volume and reduced echo in turn providing a better listening experience.
Walking through the sitting and standing area the sound was clear and intelligible audio all around. After fine tuning during the rehearsal and a no problem during the ceremony I was informed that I would be the only one setting up the system moving forward.
Having even general knowledge of sound systems can make a big difference compared to those only setting up stereos.
@@chrish7336 A little knowledge goes a long way. Too many people "assume" they know everything, but in reality, they are only showing what little they do know. I worked with a lot of military in my 38 years working for the Army. It always surprised me when some officer actually paid attention to the things we were trying to inform him or her about. Most general officers were pretty good to work with, but some would have been fragged if they were in any combat zone. I served active duty during Vietnam.
@@Harry-zz2oh thank you for your service
Second Story: I work in a school library. I'm at the high school level now. When I worked at the elementary level we had kids come in to the book fairs with $50 and $100 bills. We always called the parents to verify that they had really sent their child with that amount of money. Invariably the child had stolen money from their parent and the parent hadn't noticed until we called. Always check with parents if the amount a child is spending doesn't seem reasonable. Few parents will trust their 5-10 year old child with large bills.
Heck, I don't trust myself with large bills, let alone a child.
Every time I hear "No overtime allowed. No exceptions", I already know it's going to backfire horribly on the manager.
Former Cop. 10 hour shifts. Usually log on 10-15 minutes prior to shift start to check emails and recent relevant cases (unpaid time). One night I logged out of service at 0156. Shift ended at 0200. Sgt. comes and screams at me out in front of the crew that "your shift ends at 0200 and you better not log out early again." Roger that...2 Days later come in for shift ( in the station 20 minutes prior to shift start) and the same Sgt. asks me a few questions about a call from the day prior. Since my shift didn't start until 1600, and per contract, asking me to do work PRIOR to my start time, I was entitled to a 3 hour minimum call back at time and 1/2. He about lost his mind when the approval came to him. Screamed at me again, but I pointed out my shift starts at 1600, not 1545, so GFY. It got approved and he never said another word to me. What a Richard Cranium. His worry about 4 minutes at the end of a 10 hour shift cost the City 3 hours of OT. It didn't have to be like that and had he not been a ass, I would have never even considered putting in OT for that, but hey, "rules are rules."
Pay them, because a lawsuit will cost more!
But why?
Because it will cost more, and I'm your boss!
(Probably how it went down! 🤣)
Yeah if I was the parent of the last story I would of chewed her out honestly. That simply is extremely disrespectful and hateful to an innocent child, given she was making it a point to exclude her. She seriously needs a attitude adjustment, or simply not be allowed to be around their kids until she treats OP with the respect that she deserves.
You know a guy is ready to throw down when shirt comes off. And you know it’s going to be crazy when other stuff comes off too.
This is my favorite reddit reading channel his voice is so soothing and his videos helps me fall asleep (pretty sure im an insomniac or whatever) he has no annoying intro and he says funny stuff that makes me laugh i know he won't see this but i don't really care anyway my point is rslash is the best reddit reading youtuber out there. Hope you all have a great night, day or afternoon.
Can we give BIL some awesome guy points in that last story? Encouraging OP for calling out the entitled grandma like that, and even calling out his own mothers toxic traits like,
"Look Ma, if you can't take it then don't dish it!"
6:45 HR and the VP agreed with OP because NOT paying them for the phone calls is ILLEGAL. ESPECIALLY when you claim they're "on call" and it was their day off.
Know your rights.
Also if they didn't pay them, 2 things would've happened.
1. OP could effortlessly sue them for lossed wages and rightfully so
2. Afterwards the company would get federal charges for violating labor laws for not pay them for the on call labor
1st story: That aint being a "pestilent teenager", thats imposing your right to NOT be abusive by a piece of sh-t of a boss.
I hope that everyone is having a good Wednesday!
No you.
it's Wednesday my dudes
Not once have I ever talked to a member of the military and had them tell me a positive story about an interaction with a superior. How they function is a miracle.
I love the brother in law's reaction in the last story.
That last story really got to me, when my niece was young my dad would come pick her up for visits, she has siblings a year or so younger than her ( her mums other boyfriends, my niece is my older brothers) my dad would take them too of they asked to come. Christmas,they got gifts, birthdays, just because my dad felt like it gifts, sweets,trips to the park.
When he died they came to the funeral with my niece.
It takes so little to make kids happy, I don't understand anyone who'd on purpose hurt them
It is hard to understand. Most kids just want to be loved, to be accepted, to have someone who will listen to them -without judging them. Most adults have a hard time since they don't have someone, they can really talk things over with unconditionally. Being a parent is a challenge. Many adults can't stand the challenge, but many others do and they do it well.
"Raised to respect your elders" always means "raised to bow down to a maniacal adults irrational demands"
People like that grandma make my blood boil. I have 3 step children and my dad was just like "YES! 3 IN ONE SWOOP!". He treated them like his own from day one. I miss him.
If you have to call people when they're on vacation because the business can't run without them, that should be a sign that they need to be paid more.
"Of course not, she's not family."
"Well, neither are they, since your son is not the dad, but you still got them stuff."
Instant heart attack.
It blows my mind that bosses think you should work for free. It’s your day off if work is working you then they need to pay.
"You are on the Baker Black List."
Oh yeah... I got that BBL... 😏
If you're such a horrible person that you buy every kid but one ice cream, you don't deserve "respect for your elders"
(Like for real it's Ice cream. Its not like you can't afford to take a random extra kid to disney parks, it's two bucks more or less for a cone of ice cream, thats really no difference. For real.)
"Grandma " : treats op like crap because op "isn't family ".
Op: responds in kind.
"Grandma ": "why are you treating me like crap " " what did I do so wrong to you"??..
Last Story: i would've just kept it going just to make it stick, and if anyone tells me to knock it off ill still keep going and add in "who the fuck are you stranger" or "do i know you stranger? u must be mistaken by another person that is my family member"
Edit: i came up the last part after some thinking
Same here..
I would’ve set my baker’s uniform on his desk, sat on it, went *pssssssssssshhhh* “Pressssssed iiiiiiiiit” and THEN walked out 😂
My Grandma's ex-husband was the same as the Grandma in the last story. IMy father was the oldest of fout children but from a prior relationship. All through my childhood I was forced to call this POS "Grandpa", yet during the holidays, summers, birthdays, etc. I had to endure the "he's not my grandchild, if he wants something, Grandma can pay." Fine, whatever. Finally, Christmas break my senior year of high schooll, we had a large fanily event (and actually the last in the last 40 years). This man brought presens for every one of his grandkids, nothing for me. I expected this. But when he said "hi", I answered "hello first name". He stopped and looked at me. He said "WHAT did you call me?" I repeated, "hello first name". He. Lost. It. "How dare you disrespect me, I am Grandpa and you WILL call me that." I replied, "why should I call you Grandpa when you nsistantly remind everyone I nm NOT your grandson. No more. Your name is first hame. I'm being respectful. THAT's what I will call you." He then walked over and slapped me across the face. He yelled "YOU WILL RESPECT ME." I just smiled and said "you EVER tocuch me again and you WILL regret it." He slapped me again, this time drawing blood from my mouth. Next ting everyone saw was this POS lying on the floor crying 'MY NOSE, MY NOSE"......I leaned over and "told you that you'd regret it. And by the way F---YOU and the old hag you're sleeping with." I left. One punch, i broke his nose and brusied his right eye." He wanted to have me charged, but my Grandma said if he did, she'd charge him with child abuse. I only sw him once more before he died, but that's a story for another day.
In the last story, when OP’s sister told her to “knock it off” I would have replied “is that one [pointing] going to change her attitude?”
3rd story when will people learn if they ask for it in writing you're probably doing something wrong/illegal
"You'll never find a job"
Funny. My old boss also told me that when i quit my first job. I've found a new one that same month
So, here's a little lesson in microeconomics:
Sony sells their Playstations at a loss. Sounds like bad business, right? WRONG!
Because of all the related stuff they sell, they make way more money the more people own a playstation.
And, when you have one gaming system, you usually stick to that one. This is actually quite a common business strategy. Sell one item at a loss, then make money on all the other stuff they buy once they start being your customer.
That manager is the epitome of wasting dollars to save pennies. I diagnose them with a distinct lack of vision ^.^
(EDIT: I know that's not what happened here, in fact, it's even worse. But that did remind me of that fun fact.)
in other words, ya gotta spend money to make money
Printers are the most egregious example of this practice.
@@andredunbar3773 Very true. The ink is the least expensive item to produce, but the price in the store is expensive.
Story one: a PSA from RSlash: NEVER eff with the IT guys, and if anyone says, “Can you send that to me in an email?”, reconsider if what you’re requesting is really all that smart! 😆Bakery story: I worked in a snack shop (3 kinds of sandwiches, 2 coffee cakes, chips, lemonade, sodas and coffees) and the owner had to have an operation which required 2 months off for rehab post surgery. His wife, who knew nada about food service or how the snack shop ran, decided to make lots of changes. Sandwiches were now to be made to order. We had been making 30 each of our daily sandwiches, divided between sourdough, wheat, and rye. They got lettuce, tomato and a pickle all pre-wrapped. Our profit was $2/sandwich. We sold out daily, and often had to make more. Our coffee cakes (3 of both kinds) were going to be bought offsite. Everyone loved our coffee cakes, and we made $1.75 on every slice. We always sold out of those as well, with many private orders for a whole coffee cake by customers around holidays. It wasn’t unusual to have an order for 3-5 cakes for an ordinary weekend. Wifey started getting the coffee cakes at the wholesale grocery supply. Our profit went from $1.75 to $.70. Our sandwiches went from selling 90-125/day to selling 50-60 because we had to make them to order. We were located in a big high rise of both residential, hotel and offices. We also sold homemade soup (2 kinds daily) which she eliminated because it was “too messy”. The owner hobbled in after about 3 weeks, saw what was going on, and told his wife he needed her at home to help him with his rehabilitation. She was clueless! Nice enough, but clearly, no math genius! We went back to our usual way, all our customers were very relieved, and that little snack shop managed to send 2 kids to Harvard, (1 lawyer international law, 1 biomedical engineer), pay off their house in 10 years, go on vacations, and make scholarships for needy inner city kids. Don’t mess with what ain’t broke!😛
"Sorry I don't talk to strangers" Brilliant! I wish I had that much wit as a teenager.
Rslash, the reason people aren't listening to that alarm bell when someone asks for something in writing is because it is a common sense thing and I'm sure you've heard the saying "common sense isn't so common anymore ".
I simply state "Common sense isn't"
@@fredk.2001 that works too
Funny story, for the third story, I do the exact same thing. Whenever they have a change of command ceremony, I set it up. Normally, there are super easy to set up though. I don't know how someone can mess it up, with me (an E3) being able to set it up 1st time with no issue.
My grandma (92) has a friend that lives with her in the same nursing home. Apparently, her friend always made a distinction between her "real" grandkids and "the adopted ones". Now her family never visit her, not even for things like Christmas, while my grandma gets picked up every weekend to spend time with her kids, grandkids, and even great-grandkids. What goes around comes around.
Lol SPC OP, sounds like you're at FT Hood. Take comfort in knowing that SGM will retire soon and be the "get off my lawn!" Guy.
I remember while I was at Airborne School, 2 SGMs stood at the door of the PX at Benning, sharking PVTs as they came off the checkout line on a Saturday morning. Apparently it was the weekend between basic and "AIT" for the Infantry guys. Spit was flying and knife hands were chopping and as a SGT, I knew not to make eye contact. Since this was a Saturday, a "day off" (lol) I learned quickly as I exited the store that these 2 guys just had nothing better to do than wake up early and harass Soldiers...no families that hated them, not neighbors to annoy, no sports on TV to yell at refs ... I say that because one of them said it while yelling at some 18 yo troop "I ain't got nothing better to do that come and yell at you mother f***s!"
That made me laugh (quietly and only after I walked out of ear shot of this chaos) and was a good life lesson on the type of leaders I didn't want to be.
I especially love the military stories. There seems to be no end of hilarious and petty-as-hell malicious compliance stories coming from a culture of strict hierarchy and a plentitude of low-ranking enlisted soldiers who are placed into no-win, ridiculous situations.
The military is a small microcosm of our society. It is much more organized than the civilian businesses, but all business operations have similar stories if you can find someone who is willing to tell them.
RE: The third story. At my current job, we had an old boss who would never go on record about anything. If we tried to talk to him about anything, he would try to have an in-person conversation in the parking lot and never wrote anything down. If he was given a new task by the higher ups, he'd call us in the middle of the evening and hand it off to us over the phone instead of sending us an email.
Well, that didn't sit right with us, since in my line of work, you live and die by what's recorded and what isn't. So, we decided to do something about it. We kept doing our jobs, and anything that was super important went directly to the higher ups so they could sign off on it. All the stuff our boss was trying to pass off onto us, however, was left to sit and fester.
Eventually the higher ups noticed the stuff they'd asked our boss to get done wasn't getting done. Our boss tried to say that he had told us to do it, and that we were just lazy. That didn't work - we made sure to keep doing our jobs because we knew we were being recorded, and we made sure to bring the head honchos in directly whenever something serious happened. The only things that weren't getting done was the stuff *our boss* was supposed to be doing, and there was no record he ever asked us or trained us to do those things.
It took almost four years, but they finally let him go.
"how DARE you let my Daughter Misbehave"
Like what? They dropping subliminal messages that makes her Misbehave?
Sounds like bad Parenting to me
Archery: I’m surprised minors were allowed to sign up on their own.
I’m in a club & no archer is allowed to participate unless they have a safety waiver on file w/ the coaches. And minors have to have parents/guardians sign their forms.
And along with that is training on when we can and can’t be on the field of course.
That grandma made me so mad because I had a relative through my step-dad like that. They called her Grandma Dye-Dye because he name was Diane and her thing was taking her grandkids out to ty-dye their own shirts any chance she got. I one time asked if I could go because she was gathering up a lot of my relatives on her side, and she claimed “I only take the girls out to dye clothes, so you’re not allowed.” 2 hours later, she came back with all my female relatives, and 3 of my male relatives as well, all with brand new shirts they’d ty-dyed themselves. My mom saw them, then looked at me and asked “You didn’t wanna go, too? I thought for sure you’d want to make a shirt like that for your grandma back home, she wear nothing but ty-dye and she’d love something you made for her.” Diane’s face went into an instant panic when I looked right at her and said “She claimed she only takes the girls out so I wasn’t allowed to go.” Unfortunately I was only like 10 or 11 years old so Diane made up some excuse about “he must have misunderstood me” and both my mom and my step-dad bought it. After that I refused to go on any trips to go visit my step-dad’s family because she wasn’t the only one who constantly did their best to leave me out of everything they could and my mom and step-dad refusing to see ruined the trips for me.
I'm glad to have such a great youtuber to put on to sleep ♥
This is how I wake up. 7 AM for me
@@bugatti7760 I'm usually long awake by the 8am (my timezone) he uploads and getting ready for a nap. Not to mention I listen to his podcast to fall asleep to :)
I worked at a summer camp during my HS years and I can admit this does happen and I’ve wetness it
Story 1: God, imagine what could've gone through the customer's heads seeing a half-naked teenager angrily storm out of the boss's office with said boss screaming at the aforementioned half-naked teen that they'll never work again. The implications alone would be enough to start asking questions...
The first guy can still be a butcher or candle stick maker
This is the story about my son's grandmother and my son. So this woman and her husband decided that my son isn't family. Now my son's grandmother is obviously my husband's mother so that makes them family. Well for years they would buy hundreds of dollars of gifts for their kids and spend $20 on my son. The reason? Because he wasn't family. So over the years they've taken trips gone out of state and the reason my son can't go? Because he's not family. One year one of the two children that my mother-in-law had was having a birthday. There were only three kids there and they were all within a Year's age of each other. Well the family brought gifts for the other two kids but nothing for my son. Now mind you this was the youngest child's birthday. The excuse was that the family had missed the other child's birthday so they brought gifts for her. Well they had also miss my son's birthday and he is family to my mother-in-law at least. So my thinking is the only reason that they invited us to come there is so they could humiliate us. At one point my mother-in-law got drunk and told me to take my bastard child and carry my fat ass back to town. After that we decided way low contact was the best. Now my kids 18 years old and he finally understands that they don't see him as family. He's just her son's son. I don't know but to me the whole thing seems pretty f***** up
That reminds me of a boss who told my wife to violate ethics for his corrupt money making scheme against company and state law. She asked for it in writing. It didn’t come and neither was she his fall guy. Guess he had to try someone who was a rube. The issue was shared and no one touched it with a ten foot pole.
the grandmother one was the best. It reminds me of my pos uncle and his pillheaded (now ex) wife (let's call them Uncle Manchild and Aunt Jackass). I have an adopted sister (who I just call my sister) who tried to connect with my family because her biological mother and brothers rejected her. Well, everyone, except Uncle Manchild and Aunt Jackass, welcomed her into the family. When I was staying with my mother for a while (as I was keeping my distance from Uncle Manchild as he and I had been going at it a lot), I learned that my sister came to visit my grandparents (on Thanksgiving) and she brought her kids (my niece and nephews) with her. She ran into Aunt Jackass and cheerfully told her "Hi, Aunt Jackass" and Aunt Jackass went "I'm not your aunt. You're not family." And it hurt my sister. My granddaddy retorted and said to Aunt Jackass "well, if she's not family, then you're not family either" and it pissed her and Uncle Manchild off. Of course, I was even more pissed off when I learned of this so I thought of a way of getting under their skin myself and when December hit, an opportunity presented itself. I was given a $1000 gift certificate for a grocery store by one of my best friends and I used it all for the grocery shopping. I went to my grandparents with some food they liked and gave it to them. When Aunt Jackass and Uncle Manchild asked me where was THEIR food, I retorted with "Sorry, but I only brought food for family and neither of you are family." And they were pissed. My grandmother didn't understand why I said that until my dad reminded her of what they said to my sister. After I left, from what I was told, Uncle Manchild demanded that I respect him and Aunt Jackass and to learn manners and acknowledge that my sister wasn't family. He was shut down by my granddaddy.
What I absolutely love about that last story is that the BIL, the actual son of that grandma is the one that laughed about it and seemingly had no problem at all with the attitude that OP had towards his own mother...
I kept asking my boss to give me things in writing. He finally told me to stop asking….so I asked for that in writing lol
I was worried that I was going to hear about someone getting shot with an arrow while listening to story two, ngl
It would have served the little brat right if she’d gotten an arrow in her butt when she went running out to collect hers.
Last Story: One of my neighbors babysat and would take those kids and her kids to McDonald's but only buy food for her kids. I can't imagine doing that, so cold.
i love listening to these while solving rubiks cubes of all sorts
ty for the content
What's more expensive adding an extra hour to a person's schedule or paying overtime about the same I would say
That last story... I'm not really a grandma yet, but my son's girlfriend has a son from a previous relationship. Her kid is not related to me in anyway, but I have begun to see him as possibly becoming my step-grandson in the future. So, even though he's not my "family" through blood, he's part of my CHOSEN family, and will remain so for the rest of my life. That kid had the right idea in returning the "not family" bit. That "grandma" doesn't get to have it both ways! Maybe the "stranger" part was a little too far, but if "grandma" won't treat the kid the same as the rest, then the kid shouldn't be expected to treat HER the same, either! My mom's mom had the right idea in the wrong way: hate everyone equally...
Last story: Just for the ending, she didn't even have to buy OP an ice cream or anything, the LEAST she could have done was just bring OP to the park! It would have cost nothing!
Buy the kid ice cream, or take them to the park. Taking them to the park doesn't cost anything extra.
That would be called being a decent human being.. that "Grandma " is a POS..
Story 1: That boss was doing HELLA illegal shit making OP cover his daughter. OP was 14 working 14 hour shifts. It is ABSOLUTELY against the law for minors to work more than 8 hours in a day, including their mandatory breaks. This guy is super lucky OP didn't bring criminal charges on his ass, because child labor laws are taken VERY seriously. He could've been served a hefty fine or had his whole business investigated
Yesss! Malicious Compliance ftw!
Story 4: Don't mess with the E4 mafia. They're lucky he didn't tweak it to be worse in revenge.
My wife of 40 tears is still somewhat irritated with me for leaving the army when I did. She was pregnant and we could have used the steady income.
But I felt I had to get out before I got in trouble for insubordination.
I worked as an in-patient psychiatric technician, had years of experience, solid education background, and some small talent for therapy. But I was outranked by a new graduate of the program who had spent 10 years in the motor pool before passing the in-patient course ON HIS THIRD AND FINAL TRY!
He was an E6 to my E4.
And I had to take his nonsensical orders, watch him do damage to vulnerable patients, and find new and exciting ways to enjoy the Army's then policy of the "2 beer lunch!"
At that he was less of a danger than the newly minted psychiatric doctors(Lieutenants) with no empathy or talent for dealing with people!
Last story: I was thinking the Grandma was just being cheap since she didn't want to get OP toys or ice cream like the other kids but why ask about the park if she wasn't going to include OP? That's is just mean. The park wouldn't cost her anything. OP was obviously raised right though bc even though she didn't get anything she was still happy for the other kids and was respectful to the Grandma even though treated differently.
Moral of these stories: "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes"
The mom in the archery story is a Karen, but she was right on one point: Allowing a child to use a dangerous weapon without even parental consent is a terrible idea for many reasons.
A 14 year old working 14 hour days? Where are her parents? Pretty sure this breaks some child labor laws.
The second story is a bit too close to home for me, when I was in middle school, we were shooting archery and one of the kids that used to torment me every day was in my class, when everybody was done shooting their arrows and went to go get them, he went into the storage closet where they're stored lined up his shot and shot me in the leg
Long story short I had to get surgery to get it removed and the kid was expelled permanently
I still cringe every time I think about it
That kid should have been sent for psychiatric eval and/or sent to juvie.
That is assault with a deadly weapon, POSSIBLY premeditated attempted murder. Holy shit.
Oh goodness, as an E-4 who works with battalion level staff and who's attended his fair share of change of command ceremonies, this story is fucking hilarious
Good morning Rslash!!!
In boy scout camp we did archery and the instructor told us if one of us was stupid enough to walk out while people are still shooting arrows even after explaining why we shouldn't that we need to remain completely still and let them take care of it and if we're running around screaming with an arrow in the butt they'd knock us out with a rock just to get us to stop flailing long enough to attempt saving our life. We all laughed and she looked at us straight faced
( I'm serious. )
Back when I was in the Army I was working help desk in Kuwait. I ended up having to do a back up on the 2-Star General's work computer in the command center. These desks the computers were on were low enough that I had to crouch down while the General basically watched over my back and at the time I was only a Specialist (E-4) so you better believe I was the only enlisted person in the room. I ended up having to leave and go back to my work station for a minute to check on some tickets that were coming in and I get pulled aside by a Colonel who tells me that I need to be more formal and I was being disrespectful to the General which really confused because I was trying my best not to stand out and the only thing I could think of was that I wasn't standing at attention when I was working on the computer. I asked the Colonel what he meant and he said that was exactly the issue. I then ask him if it would be better to basically be bent over at a 45-ish degree so I could still type on the computer. I then see the gears turning in his head and he tells me to just go back to what I was doing. It's a stupidish story but that could of had the potential to ruin my entire stay for the rest of the deployment if I got on the bad sides of all those officers...
" 'Just send that to me in writing' is code for 'I'm about to massively screw you over'."
You're probably right about the vast majority of cases. I'm glad to provide an exception: My boss asked me to research a thing, and I asked for it in writing so I don't forget. That's it. No malicious intent on either side. It happens.
I had to start asking for things in writing since I was being directly tasked by the Director of my organization, but I still needed to let my supervisor know what was going on. My supervisor was on my case for not getting things completed, so I made a spreadsheet of all the tasks and assignments I had been given and who had given them. It took him aback, since he had no idea of how much work I had been assigned. After that, I updated the spreadsheet every week and he would scrub it so I could actually get some things completed. He was one of the best supervisors I've ever had.
I'm generally quiet, yet can be quiet a conversationalist when it comes to telling anecdotes and such.
A friend of mine tends to lean towards being very entitled. At one point I was told that my friend literally tunes me out when I'm speaking. I was a little taking a bath, but not super surprised, considering this person's entitled behaviour overall.
About a week later I was hand washing some dishes in the sink, focused on the task at hand. My friend asked, "Why are you moping?"
What? I said, "I'm not moping, I'm just washing dishes."
"It's just, you're being really quiet," she said.
"So?" I replied flatly. "You told me you tune out anything I say anyway."
Almost surprisingly, my friend was suddenly a bit embarrassed, she'd nearly contrite, and [almost] apologized, saying she shouldn't have worded it that way...
Story 1, I would have ran out of the building screaming don't touch me anymore while yelling for help.
2.nd story: Since it uses € I assume it happened in Europe. In Germany kids under 7 are not able to do any business. Between 7 and 17 you are allowed to handle money you own/ earned and you can do transactions that are common for your age. One could argue that spending 40€ on sweets is not common for people that age and then the store would be liable. If the kid was under 7 the parents would be entitled to a full refund because the kid is not able do do binding contracts.
Obviously the mother is a pos in any way.
Story 6: what did that manager expect no overtime pay no overtime work
That's the thing with the army, they look at rank and treat you "accordingly" my buddy who was a small arms repairer worked in his family's gun shop forever and knew his trade, our brigade had a TON of M4s which were constantly misfiring and civilian contractors spent MONTHS trying to figure out why these 1000s of m4s were junk, he figured out the issue in hours but was told to kick rocks, so he waited 2 weeks before bringing it up again.. he got an ARCOM lol
What was the fix?
@@fredk.2001 it's been like 4 years, but it was something with the way the different materials were machined/the tolerances, in the firing pin, and bolt carrier and when they wore down it would cause too big of "gaps" or something like that and not connect, if that makes sense?
's@@syrupchugger4266 It makes sense. Just like the original M-16, which didn't work very well in Vietnam (or anywhere else it was needed for a combat situation). First, troops were told "it doesn't require maintenance", then the Army used the wrong type of powder (ball instead of the long grain the mfg. specified), and last but not least, no cleaning tools were provided or even manufactured. Once the Army fixed these issues, the M-16 worked fine and still works well, considering the weapon was fielded in the mid-1960's.
Story 2: Entitled Kid's "sorry" sounds like Squidward trying to apologize to Spongebob.
During the last story why didn't opie's sister tell the grandmother to knock it off before it got to this level.
Wow, I'm early! Good morning RSlash!
Story 3: if your employee has a day, do NOT call them unless they give you permission and/or it is a REAL emergency ... it is their day off and let them enjoy it.
I had a former Manager do this regularly to me before i escalated it to the District Manager = long story short, i was transferred to another site and shortly after the Manager was fired for embezzlement
That Grandma sounds like mine, only I am her Grandkid. Some people just shouldn't be parents...or grandparents. She never showed love to either of her boys despite many attempts at helping and taking care of her. She'd be dead without my bro holding c-spine in the snow for hours after her accident. (He was a first responder) She just loved her girls and their kids. They all stole from her and treated her like crap. I don't hold hard feelings because what goes around comes around. We are all pretty loving and a family while that bunch are all jerks to eachother and unhappy and alone. Last laugh has been keeping me entertained for years.
For that last one, I always get a chuckle from the people who say they aren't family. Here's the thing, they are family, by law. Obviously the mean old granny meant blood relatives when she said 'family', but technically she's extended family, the same as OP.