Why men have no business treating women like Queens,marrying young & accepting unrealistic standards
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- Do you think it’s true women will easily forgive a cheating wealthy man and quickly divorce a poor man? Do you also think men have no business marrying early and should highly prioritize building their finances rather than engaging in relationships where they invest so much in a woman who will leave them at some point?
Do you also think toxic masculinity is a myth?
Well, do share your thoughts on today’s conversation where we host Unplug author, Jacob Aliet
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Hapa umeleta convo ya power sana
I must give this conversation the credit it deserves: it was an interesting one.
Every time I consume any sort of content, I try to seive it through various lenses: whether it syncs with my spiritual man, what is its truth value, should I adopt it and if so why?Yet still honour and appreciate that it is someone's opinion.
Having said that....Do I agree that love is conditional?Totally.Both subtly and expressly.
I like looking at human beings first from a place of them being spiritual beings or soulish beings for some people, before I look at what differentiates them in terms of gender. If what you do or treat another human would hurt you emotionally if it were done to you, then do not do it, regardless of what the other gender is : In my opinion, this answers the question of cheating not having the same magnitude for men and women.
About men not having to consult women: From where I sit, a woman feels confident in his man when he makes decisions, but what makes her feel seen, acknowledged and involved in a realtionship is when she is looped in those decisions.Wisdom disctates that the man will present it to the woman in a manner not to suggest that he is unsure of his decisions, but one to communicate that "hey, this is what I want to do, how do you feel about it".If she has a contrary opinion, a knowledgeable woman knows how best that should be put across in a manner not to bruise his ego, or make him question his ability to make judgements. It is matter of balance, wisdom, knowledge and knowing that you are also dealling with another being with emotions.
Lastly, I feel like if a man;s purpose originates from a woman being in his life, then he never had a purpose in the first place, and it actually is not a purpose: maybe some sort of responsibility that he takes on by the virtue of she coming into her life.
All said , it was interesting getting a glimpse into how a man views various aspects of life
He's allover the place, dodging questions to cover some insecurities, low-key narcissist and chauvinist. I might agree men who marry after 40 to an emotionally mature woman have a chance at a stable marriage.
Awesome initiative for such conversation. However i feel one man cannot speak for all/most men. Maybe such a topic would have a sit down with other men too in a panel Pastor T, Benjamin Zulu and other men for a holistic view of the gender. Otherwise the conversation feels slightly incomplete.
He is a type of a narcissist, akae na mamake 😅😅
Man this guy is our Kenyan top G 🎉 Stoic to the core
Man full of wisdom👍
Am actually relieved we have such a guy to instill the game into young cats coz they're really in dire times
If you first passed by the comment section before listening to this story
Acha hizo. Ulijuaje😂.
Hey, that is our signature as Kenyans.
I know mehn😂😂😂, the topic by itself is likely to cause chaos😅
My take from this conversation is;
There’s nothing wrong with a woman being career oriented.
A man needs to be moulded into strong man with authority and confidence. When the right woman comes into his life, she will naturally submit. She will naturally feel safe and protected. She will naturally feel at peace and loved.
So the society needs to invest in raising strong willed men who will not be trumped upon and diminished.
Of course there’s nothing wrong with women being career-oriented. What’s wrong is the fallacious logic that career-oriented and wife are both mutually inclusive. The existence of one effectively annuls the existence or the other.
Correct, you got the lessons well. A strong man is good for women, he will never abuse his wife
Are there women left who think like this? You are a masterpiece!
its not supposed to be a comparison between men and women....its about the man being a better version of themselves.....
100%✓✓
Best conversation I have seen on CZcams this year… Do more of such Lynn. The men in this generation need to hear men who they can relate to talk about things they can relate to.
Absolutely 💯
This man is telling us what reality is.....I need the book
Available at text book center, Nairobi
‘You cannot negotiate genuine desire’. ~Jacob Aliet ~
That's from Rollo Tomassi
Rollo Tomassi
That's not his quote though
Rollo said negotiated desire leads to obligated compliance. I got that one
@@wekesaemmanuel4074 so he should not use it?
He should come back and teach us how to raise the young boys so that they don't end up in this mess. I have listened to the entire conversation and its quite thought provoking and kaukweli flani hapo 😊
It’s actually very simple Rachel: Raising young ones (boys or girls) is primarily the father’s job. Controversial, but true. Involve the fathers in raising them, and they’ll turn out well…and if the fathers don’t want to be involved, then stop having children with men who haven’t matured into the man-role yet.
As the gentleman said, roles are key. Women should understand that there are roles that only men can play in their children's lives, both boys and girls regardless of what a 'good' mother you are. Problem is they want to punish men by keeping them away from their children. If the father is not available, look for a responsible uncle and be intentional in making them part of the kids' lives.
women cannot raised men
Guys! Please know your mate, know who you are marrying and why. Just don't take generalization as gospel truth. Seek marriages that have lasted and you will find out, some of the things you are being fed are not the full truth. Truth sometimes is not glamorized or romanticized. If you base your whole marriage around finances and that's the only thing that counts remember money comes, money goes. Dear Lord!
Wewe wako anagongwa inje
Well said.
I love this words of wisdom
@@yvonnenakirija Me too. That's what it's all about actually, knowing your mate and being self aware.
Wisdom
He is making very valuable points....My own uncle educated a certain lady and was left now turned drunkard....People will never understand some things until it hits home
So why couldn't he educate himself too. Too lazy I guess, just wanted to impress her.
@@bonitaweekes4366 he was stupid to place her interest above himself
Ladies live in the moment.
Women place men's interest above themselves all the time and when we tell them not to y'all shame us .Women have educated men and paid their bills foolishly as well .@@shelmithmumbi6884
this is straight and onto the point.
His talking the truth if you listen very carefully to him you will understand that his talking what is absolutely right kabisa I agree with him,my gal Lynn uko juu tu Sana
True
The last time I was this glued to the Screen was in 2007 December when watching election results. The conversation was Powerful and very interesting. I loved how he was giving supporting evidence in each case. I hope all men will get this link. Kudos LNN and Aliet
I've never been treated like a queen. In fact I'm usually the one treating a man like a king and contributing the most financially, emotionally, etc. I don't know why I attract men who need help, I always wanted a man like my dad, hardworking, reliable, a great provider, protector, etc. After dealing with needy, selfish men for many years, I decided never to date again. I've been single and celibate for 14 years. I'll never look back.
"I don't know why I attract men who need help..." Don't you think this is a you problem? Stop looking for broken wings to fix. Look for men like your dad, hardworking, reliable and great providers. Giving up doesn't take away your innate need for connection, it just leaves you always feeling a gap. That is why you are here opening up roho to the universe anonymously despite pretending to be okay among company.
@@MegaMie77 what if one never had a dad in their life
What? Maybe you are the problem.
Work on your self . Don’t be giving it all in your relationship, get a therapist who will guide you and you will attract the best person in your life
Maybe you can recommend some good s*x toys because being celibate for 14 yrs is NO joke!!!!
Someone explain to me why men want traditional women but do not want to be traditional men. They want us to be traditional in doing chores and serving them, but still we become modern by paying part of the bills. If they are told to be 100% providers and care for a woman, they would not. So, they want a traditional wife taking on modern responsibilities, while they only stay only modern in their paying of bills.
You're smart! Thank you!!!
True, it's hypocritical
Its the opposite
They want submissive providers. Ridiculous!
Do you provide 50 50 in your house?
This man is making sense...just try thinking with logic not emotions and at least be above 30yrs ....you will see his point
Thanks darling you are one in a million 🌹
Exactly he makes a lot of sense
“A man’s cheating doesn’t destroy a home” was a saying a heard and resented all through my growing up years in Zambia, it made me decide, I would never stay with a man who has no discipline on who and where he takes his clothes off.
Did he marry you as virginity woman you never had any displine you in the first place coz no man would cheat with the right attitude and respective woman question yourself
@@DouglasOira not sure I understand what you are talking about. By the way I have never been cheated on, but never did I ever say yes to men, who had no vision for their own life. Very happy with my Viking man. A man with no self respect, is not difficult to spot, look to yourself.
Wow!
The western culture labled polygamy as "cheating" but it was very legal and God permitted it. The same western culture is pushing what God calls sin(homosexuality)into our lives.
@@DouglasOirakizungu kizungumkuti😅
Jacob need to be protected 24/7 by the government,he's full of blessings to men in society,he says what many fear to say,we celebrate you Sir,spread the word
Men need to elect him chairman..Kibe vice chairman...and international Andrew Tate...yaani men scream as there is a demonic attack.
Absolutely 💯
you are chauvinistic this is a mad man that leaves in the medeavah
Woow im loving this man. A wife and a husband is a role. Very on point
That's exactly how Milles Munroe defined marriage! Great
@Ordinary8030 he needs to teach the so called men of God. Most preachers wives are the most miserable for sure. Some have walked out they couldn't take it anymore.
This man is speaking the truth but this needs maturity to understand.
thank you
Very true
Soo true; an open flexible mindset 👌
Very true,... It needs more mature individuals
Which truth
At least once in this show we have a man that speaks sense to the young men in this country. Men should guard their frame.
There is no such thing as guarding your frame. It is hogwash
Lynn, I appreciate your approach to interviewing individuals who may challenge conventional norms, actively engaging with them while maintaining an open mind. It’s essential to embrace diverse perspectives and discern what resonates with us. These discussions offer valuable learning opportunities.
Regarding the evolution of gender dynamics, understanding historical behaviors is important, but we must acknowledge the changing times. Women today are educated and financially independent, shaping new societal norms. Rather than longing for the past, it’s crucial for men to adapt and foster successful relationships with these empowered women. Ignoring this reality is counterproductive.
I agree that women are attracted to men with a sense of purpose, but balance is key. When one’s purpose consumes them, neglecting their family, relationships suffer. Treating an independent woman with respect involves investing time and building emotional connections, not just financial gestures.
Absolutely!!!
Spot on!
@ Jacob....Respecting and honoring women as equals isn't about spoiling or complimenting them-it's about recognizing their inherent worth and value in society. The era of viewing women as mere complements to men is outdated. Treating women like queens means acknowledging their autonomy, capabilities, and contributions.
We will never be equal, read your Bible, that's where the problem starts.
Yes in Hollywood and in the movies…
If you need autonomy, don't get married or hook up with men
If you're autonomous then you don't need a man. You basically mean that you can fully take care of yourself and all of your needs.
Say it louder.. huyu jamaa aende akiendaga. 😂😂😂
You only understand him at a maturity perspective he makes sense in everything he's saying the problem with our generation they are going down on earth to please ladies and having high expectations in return
Dust is their portion
Women should also not please men .Then we will have. Couples who enter relationship not wanting to ease each other then
We are complicating Marriage. Marriage is basically getting a life partner who is coming to make your life bearable.
Really???
see thats the problem. if it was that simple we would be having 100% of marriages lasting for life but current statistics show that 50% of marriages end up in divorce both in the world and wait for it.... in the church. simple huh...
No
Agreed. The fact that his narrative resonates with so many people highlights how broken families have been normalised. He has a few interesting points but he's jaded.
Any person who listen to Aliet and take his opinion as truth is doomed.... and if they're married the marriage will fail. Dead On Arrival.
Excellent points that every Man needs to hear. Key Take-Aways;
1. Men should take up the burden of performance
2. Everyone should know and understand their role in a Marriage/Relationship
3. Desire cannot be negotiated
4. Women are born with Value. Men have to create their own Value and should spend their time wisely
5. If you treat her like a Queen, she'll treat you like a fan
6. A Woman should complement a man but not be his Focus
Let me order the Books now @ Nuria Bookstore.
No 4: Women are born with Value.....; but please note that the value usually has a very short timeframe (window).
@@sammykinoti1615lies….thats what the society has labeled it !!!!
He is telling bits and pieces of truth that are interspersed with lots of generalization and stereotypes but it is wise to note his ideas.
Absolutely💯
Perfect analysis
True
I like that this comment came from a man
Agreed. I accept about 30% of what he says,and he can totally speak on men as he's a man,but all this talk of women r this that n the other...hapo mdio tunaachiana. Anyway he's out to make his mullah
Am just 23 and I agree with this man 😊I swear......he said it all🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Good age for marriage 🥰 come
A very good age for marriege b4 u get spoiled out there
Don't agree with this man you will be misguided don't.
Good for you
She should reject truth?@@nishamillicent614
Good conversation. Just because you consult her, it doesn't mean that it takes away from the man as a decision maker.
Such ideas about men and women are put forward by people who see things in binary terms.A lot of the things this guy says is just plain human nature....even in life if one is not assertive people tend to trample on us.
Kindly Lynn bring Benjamin Zulu on this show
Atapata time kweli
We want Zulu this one no
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣anaburn@@wachairman7657
Great idea
Because Benjamin Zulu appeals to women
I agree 100% 50 50 has never been the way.. women want someone who is above them in everything
I agree with Aliet 💯. Men need to build their masculine frame if families have to survive. The man must take leadership and give the direction that he wants his home to take. The woman is there to support.
I feel sorry for his wife. Just imagine what will happen when she hits 40. According to him, she's not worthy. The masculine framework got him in a chokehold. When I hear men like this, I think they can't be experiencing a happy life because their concern is bondage.
You are definitely over 40 and your time has passed. Hopefully the younger women can take his advice and not fall for the feminist propaganda.
@@tony99765😂😂😂
Uweeeh!!!!🤔
@@tony99765 Silly rabbit. Actually, married for 26 years, have two children, a house, a $350K family income per year, DMV inhabitant, and a full feminist because I believe everyone deserves to live a full life.
@nicolej615…..this is the guy who calls women who are above 40 spent cartridges. He’s a narcissist….
He’s a living example of his father how he treated his 3 wives.
And 28 kids 😅😅😅
But some men/women change and do not want to treat their spouses like their father/mother. Unfortunately, he is stuck in a rut where the norm is disrespect, maltreatment, etc. I wonder if his daughter was treated like his reasoning, whether he would think it is OK. Sad!!!
He must have been a hard working person to raise such a family . Men prefer responsibility over happiness
Sounds a narcissist
Far from it. Jacob is a father to two lovely kids and is married to one wife that he's not made attempts to hide from his followers.
Lynn, the title is giving goosebumps 😂
I agree with this man on a most points, he has some insight
Woman will mostly gravitate towards an alpha male who handles his business out there and also holds it down in the home. We also understand a man is a human being with real emotions and feelings so no problem if they can be vulnerable at times. Masculine and Feminine energy its like Ying and Yang very complementary to each other. There are no slave and master syndrome in that.
Over the years I've become very alive to Narcissisms and Obvert Narcissism by continuous observation of people. This guest today is speaking based off of the example of having grown up in a polygamous home with three mothers and how he watched his father navigate that set up. A woman who is okay with that kind of ideology will naturally agree to his ideologies. For me its a very big NO particularly on how he downplays and even rubbishes the need to view women as equal human beings rather than tools for men to play about with.
I believe as a woman know yourself the way Lynn said do the work on you and secure your bag hunny. The man you desire will come along and compliment you. And that will be one beautiful partnership. Ladies just don't settle for a man who views life from this type of Lense when you know your desire is to be with a different type.
I also don't understand the bitterness that the men who are pro his ideologies choose to spew on women who disagree with this ideology. Boss, abusing or typing demeaning comments to a woman who doesn't embrace this line of thought only demonstrates your emotional immaturity. It in no way or form changes your desirability to the person you are disrespecting whom you don't even know honestly outside of a comment.
Anyway, great job Lynn. I also agreed with some few nuggets from him. Most of his ideologies i don't agree with because they don't align with my value system. I'm also very weary of someone who approaches anything in life with an entitlement attitude and tries to diminish the essence of another human being based off of toxic gendered roles and expectations. Traditional Man was for Traditional woman. Don't be a modern man who marries a modern woman but desiring her to take up traditionally roles. That's hypocrisy on steroids.
Exactly...this is just based from his experience.Its not everyone's reality. Also he sounds like he wants women to enable and agree to some bad behaviors men do in the name of that's how men are.
My thoughts exactly. You beat me to this!
Exactly his blaming women on everything, Lynn handled the whole situation well asking him questions on our behalf , it's so sad😢😢 how he sees women and he has a daughter. Good job Lynn 💯
I like the way Lynn just laughs at the absurdity of some of these arguments. He has a daughter thank God. He will see.
See what? If you can't raise your daughters,don't think others can't.Stay away with your imagined threat.
I agree with you. We need to understand that there is no homogenous group called man or woman. Our boundaries as individuals are so different
@@davidotega4550 he doesn't think men should marry educated women. yet he takes his daughter to school. yet his wife is very educated. will he tell her not to go to university in order to bag a husband? will he tell her not to pursue a career of her dreams? as the OP said, HE HAS A DAUGHTER THANK GOD. HE WILL SEE!!!
More like i feel sorry for her if these are the "values" he's teaching her
if men follow what this gentleman is saying ....we will reduce divorce with a very big margin....
True. The Western Media keeps promoting a lifestyle that tends to end in divorce.
@@leewambui8064western media are the ones telling our men to cheat and abandon their children whistle infecting women with HIV
Akiii
Evidence?....what people need is more psychological education.
@@leewambui8064we don't have to blame anyone for divorce.
Jacob is erudite, very articulate, grounded, and knowledgeable. I like the way he is eclectic
I'm a woman but today this man has come out to speak for the boychild kudos.. Women we have become so demanding yet when men demand we don't do as they want. Women have forgotten to be submissive. Let the man lead..
As a man know your purpose and you will glow.. jipende Baba
@lucykibunja953 : I Agree with you as a married woman for 18 years I'm with this man 90%
Exactly! "Boy child" therein lies the problem. Too many boys speaking up for boys!
We want a man who's talking on behalf of men/adults in general.
When you're used to mediocrity, you'll happily allow mediocrity.
@@svt3Wait till your wife grows all the kids. She will be out of there or you will have matured and realized she’s important to you.
@@catherinek3409 I'm a woman mother of 3 teenagers happily married for almost 18 years and I live in Australia where there's creators of feminists i have live here for 20+years but their feminism's and some of their law has never change my beliefs and I knows a lot of white women who are agree with a lot of Andrew Tate beliefs and their against of cultures and laws has change and we do blame they media for spreading immoral and dirt cultures and african anything started in western country they embrace it
@@svt3 Andrew Tate is going on trial for trafficking. He’s just a smart guy who identified a niche and is exploiting it. I have also been married for over 20 years it’s a normal marriage I do most of the feminine roles and he does his part. I like being the traditional wife. My husband is an alpha male and I just found ways to control his alpha personality. I have managed him and treats me like a queen and he thinks he has everything under control but he doesn’t. The key-is making men feel like they’re in charge. As for western culture, society’s evolve nothing stays the same men like him are fighting change and there’s no way to stop the only thing that’s constant which is change. You are just dreaming of you think our way living will ever return.
MASCULINE FRAME!!...This is the key word here.4get about tall, black,,,,bla bla bla.. Been married for 25yrs and we fight like always just bcoz he wants to maintain his masculine frame and this makes me love him more😂
A man and half that one, extend my greetings to him Kudos!
Lynn, I thoroughly enjoyed this interview. Jacob speak a lot of hard truths 💯, has well researched arguments and holds frame the way a man should. Respect Bruv 👊🏾
Vuruteni stool I give you a sober balance advise: Human beings are human being, male, female and all…this issue of grouping women as a single entity will drive you straight to divorce or treating men as a single entity will equally drive you straight to divorce. Treat your person as they come….Women are abusive and women cheat but not all women are abusive and cheat, men are abusive and cheat but not all men…
Not many will understand your comment. Wisdom you got. There is no uniform way of dealing with men/women. Understand a human being, deal with the human....
Exactly, stereotyping is a dangerous train of thought.Each individual has a different mindset based on the set of principles and values that they decide to live by,one can't just go about generalizing groups of people
as if they are all single-minded......come on!
What sort of twisted mindset is he operating on? This is sickening to say the least.
Generalization has been so much misleading and damaging to generations. We have been conditioned by "the rising red pill" communities to believe that there is a single type of men and women. I believe each and every human being's character is determined by how he/she was raised and the environment she/he grew in. Those who experienced childhood traumas and have not healed sadly are still broken and hurting. Those who have healed / working towards healing becomes whole. In summary, we cannot generalise and put all men/women in one basket and come up with a conclusion. Let us just heal and do the right thing for the sake of our clear consciousness. No choice has no consequence. Have seen men and women who used to be in a red pill community come out and say its so draining because they became slaves to validating brokenness.
@@aluochireneI hope you said that during femicide protest, because how comes when a man kills a woman it's femicide but, when a woman kills a man no gender labels?
@@wanjirumuthee3024you could have said that during femicide protest,why when a man kills a woman is a femicide but when a woman kills a man no gender labels?
Get Benjamin Zulu next
I second you
I join the request❤he’s the only one in Kenya who is eligible and learned in this matter.
Great idea
Alete huyu ata mimi I agree
By Public Demand!
Sincerely, I don't know how I feel about this discussion. I agree partly and disagree partly.
Me too
Try to listen carefully and you will understand what he is talking about . Listen with open mind!! Do not judge
What do you agree with and disagree with. Perhaps you can be helped 😀
Maybe because you see it as a Truth but it's painful to agree with him .
Me too..I got stuck at "men go for beauty".. what of brains?
Amerix followers like me see a lot of sense in this man.
Yeey Jacob Aliet unplugged is here let me take my pen and paper ready to take notes
I had this type of a man who thinks like him and how he views women guess what i divorced him and he could not believe.
I'm curious, did you ever get married henceforth?
Congrats😂😂
@@MambetOfficialmost likely not. That's why she's lost in the 'glory' of the divorce. That man is lucky to have lost her I am sure.
@@JeremiahBaracka thank you and I'm doing fine.
@@onduruomolo475 stop bringing your spiritual things in people's life I'm glorifying divorce so what kasikie vibaya na huku kwenu.
I would love to read his books! Thanks for the most truthful conversation Lynn!!
Thanks Lynn from bringing the guest. He has actually said it all, know your role as a man. I hate men who depend a lot in their wives and this 50 50 had lead to al lot of divorces. Women love men who understands their roles.
He did not say that women should not pay bills. Such men still expect their women to contribute to the bills.
Sometimes, I wonder. Women want to work and earn their money but hate to contribute to any bill. You want to rely on someone's else money while working at the same time complaining they dont provide. Can you take a moment and think what it means to be a leech. Even back in the days our fathers used to work and send money while mothers used to go to the garden and ensure it was all managed. But all in all he did not say Women should not contribute anything.
This was the most uncomfortable episode to watch here on LNN. I felt like the guy was telling the men what us women are always told not to tolerate in men so I wonder if it's misleading the next generation of men. Being a boy mom I wouldn't appreciate my son consuming this guys content but again there is talk which is cheap I wanna see him and his wife in action then compare notes. I noticed everytime you asked about bringing it home and asking about his marriage particularly there was some pause🤔 anyway having said that here are my last two things I appreciate that he passed his message across very respectfully and not in a defensive way he was incharge of his emotions and before I drop the mic if this conversation was our first conversation on a date with him I would def text my friend for a fake emergency call and there wouldn't be a subsequent date. But good job Lynn for having this conversation sometimes even the hard ones need to be heard
I've tried so hard to be open-minded while listening to his views / ideology but I still don't agree with him!
Glad my hubby treats me like a queen, I thank God daily for Him. To each their own!💃💃😊
😂😂
😂 😂😂is your husband ndirangu?
This guy is ANDREW TATE wannabe, he clearly doesnt know any facts about what he's taking about.
I just laughed when he started comparing real life situations i.e marriage with superheroes, ati superman nkt
I feel like giving Lyn a kiss Thank you for bringing a real man on the podcast Listen and be wise
No opinion is 100 percent right.
In a Godly marriage, it’s important for a man to maintain his manly frame while showing love and care for his wife. This means balancing assertiveness with understanding, being decisive yet empathetic. It’s also true that certain desires and core values cannot be negotiated, and it’s crucial for both partners to communicate openly and respectfully about their needs and boundaries while honoring each other’s differences.
I agree with what the author says.
First, I like the calmness of this guy even as he is delivering very debatable statements.
One of the best informative show. The other side of men has been explained and highlighted well.
Keep up LNN.
Painfull pill to swallow as a woman but I completely agree with him💯💯
I dont like reading books that are not Christian inspired but i would buy his books. Alll of them. This man need to teach the so called pastors on marriage. Very very insightful. You can fix many marriages.
Leadership is about influence not command and control. This guy sees Women like children who need to be controlled or else they will take over . That just shows you how powerful men think women are . But what he fails to understand is that Men and Women are EQUAL IN VALUE BUT DIFFERENT IN PURPOSE..thank you lynn for this conversation ❤, but wueh sema kuwa triggered i honestly think this guy is a perfect example of Toxic masculinity.
And that influence need a command, afterall how does influence results goals?
I pity the wife of this man he is so controlling
He is a cheat and shallow
His ideas will resonate to people who think in black and white... conservative types...but reality is more nuanced....what studies does he base his ideas on apart from his 'personal observation '...we need to encourage a research culture in our country.
❤only the mature ones will understand this,personally, I like it
A man has to know he is a king for him to be confident to treat his wife as a queen. If he is not confident of the title of king, he will think of himself as a subject!!!!!!
I dont know if I am misjudging him but no. I couldn't even finish watching. No matter how many truths he might have said,he seems to be seeing women in a certain way
He never said anything bad about women. Asking men to be strong doesn't weak women make. You all have been indoctrinated by feminism.
Me too I can't even listen to him I read more of comments then I quit so misleading
Kataeni ukweli kabisa!
He sees women as objects and not a human being !?? Hess a walking red carpet not even a flag
We need more of Jacob. He has much to teach both men and women. This is insightful.
What a thought provoking, Eye opening and Refreshing conversation.🤔
Unpacked, Unplugged and Unshackled! There is definitely need for a paneled comeback of this! Good job LNN. Thank you so much for hosting Mr Jacob Aliet. 👏👌🙏
Aki Lynn, kindly bring men who are okay with empowering women, accept career oriented women who have dreams, ambitious and understand that women have been fighting for sooo long to be heard, be regarded as human beings with their own individuality and perceptions and people with rights. I didn't watch the video, but it's caption just said enough of what I was about to listen to. Allow me to say, nobody has any obligation to say how another human being should be treated or when they should decide to marry. This is a low blow for you, as a woman too and I won't apologize for saying it.
You need to listen to the interview and stop being emotional. Jacob is rooting for men to be men for stable families. The title should not mislead you.
It's a sober discussion.
What is the problem with being emotional about a topic that affects human beings who have had to fight hard to be heard? I was sharing my perspective and opinion. I don't think you are in any position to tell me how I should feel about anything.
@@kndirui Exactly how wise is it to share your opinions and perspective about something you’ve yourself admitted that you didn’t bother to partake in listening??? Your own argument defeats itself!
A wise mind is able to entertain an idea (or in this case, the guest’s arguments) without accepting it. Listening FIRST, would’ve been your way of entertaining without accepting. You want us to believe you are very knowledgeable about the topic and know everything or enough to refute the topic offhandedly?? C’mon now!
How can you comment on a video you haven't watched? Be serious.
@@kndirui what’s the problem, you ask, of being emotional about a topic? Exactly THAT!
Emotions play no part in the exploration of any topic. What’s of interest, in any discussion, is exploration and discussion in the interests of finding the TRUTH; and that is where LOGIC, or rules that govern proper reasoning, comes to play, NOT emotions! Using emotions to facilitate a discussion is employing the wrong fuel. Emotions do have their place, though.
Attraction exist, love is an illusion we subject yourselves into....Attraction is real...sexual tension is real...love is not..
Weuh! This guy oozes knowledge, wisdom and experience. He sounds so well read, real and yes love the controversies which in actuality are practical.
This man talks sense it requires alot of maturity to accept the truth.
😂 please. It is either you agree or not. Has got nothing to do with maturity.
Facts 💯😊
I agree
No he is a male Chauvinist.
The BEST topic so far this year from Lynn Ngugi. I think this man is the best Boychild in kenya so far . Lynn plz send him straight to meet Wamuratha senator or our 1st Lady Gachagua they have something in common. His body language shows he was ready to tackle the woman in Lynn any question from Lynn he answers ....goid question ...meaning he was expecting the challenges from Lynn he was ready to be put down by Lynn and this made Lynn to came in tough on him but she was kind of seeing hes making sence. 50 50 for you both was good just listening to you both . Bravooooo
Anytime we go out of scripture there can't be a genuine true answer.Movie's are from the enemy the king of this world and they can never give the right perspective of life.
100%
What of people that existed BC ( before Christ ) they had their ways of life. Be logical and open minded. Not myopic.
@@wycliffepoet5201Christ existed before creation ,He manifested in human form in the new Testament ,but throughout the scripture Christ was
@@This_girl_sylvia you're right. But point is, don't limit this to scripture alone. Diversify your mind. That's what I meant
And this is that agent
The guy is really a good speaker, he has a strong command in English and incredible stream of thought.
1 Corinthians 7:27-28
If you are not married, do not try to find a wife. But if you decide to marry, you have not sinned. And if a girl who has never married decides to marry, she has not sinned. But those who marry will have trouble in this life, and I want you to be free from trouble.
Why is he contracting himself by saying that men are attracted to beauty and youth, but also saying that women shouldn't be spending all that money on things that make them look beautiful?
You want to attract more men even after getting married 😅😅
@@leonardkinyua2524women do it for themselves and for men !??
These male is a grifter.
@@leonardkinyua2524 you need to remain attractive to your husband
He's only addressing male grievances as if women don't have theirs.
Very interesting conversation.. There are some things that make sense and others that are misleading.. My take away is, take what makes sense and is likely to build your home and leave the rest alone. For example, if am supposed to be a compliment to my husband then he is right to consult me about major decisions to enrich the outcome rather than decide on his own. With regards to roles it makes sense but it's not a straight line, that will differ from family to family. Thank you Lynn for bringing the guest on board.
This exactly!! It's not a one size fits all,and when religion or patriarchy tties to make ot so,it results in chaos and pain
From what i heard there is time where women get fed up by being consulted everytime then they start questionning your ability as a man
Lynn this topic was long overdue. Men must never show weakness.. so insightful!!! Bring him again
The problem is that men have become more concerned with pleasing women at the expense of protecting and leading.
All can coexist
@@carolinewainaina4426 No, they can’t. They’re practically mutually exclusive.
@@carolinewainaina4426life is never about trying to please the other person...its a mutual coexistence where both the man and the woman are appreciating one another and working to always improve their relationship
Because many men are simps
@@philbertranji4636THEN DONT EXPECT YOUR WIFE TO PLEASE YOU .
The man's purpose is not the woman. Tell them. The more you consult the more you lose your position as a man. Man must take the lead. If a man starts asking you for money should be a great redflag. He is just saying to you, you will be the bread winner. Please women dont give your boyfriend money. He's reversing roles that you cant subject yourself to such. We women become so desperate we settle for a househusband. A weak man is a turn off and has lost his manhood. I personally cant stand that
You are over Simple.....is the Culture we are living with ours??? At best we are all Confused.
This man has dropped some hard truths!! 💯
Isaiah 4:1
"In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!”
This is coming very soon.
More empowered women in the marketplace than there are available men that meet their set standards
Jacob be telling people the hard truth hapa
This is insightful. His craft is just legit. I loved this discussion. One of the best episodes so far...
Unfortunately these concepts are only well understood by guys nearing thirty and those above. Younger boys have to learn the hard way.
I am listening to this and I don’t see what y’all are seeing! But I like that Lynn is pushing back on some of the 🤯🤯 ideas he is pushing. Don’t let anyone define what masculinity is to you as a man! So many things I could nitpick but yooooh! Hapana
“In the midst of deceit, speaking the truth is a revolutionary act” Someone said. The amount of denial out there is extra.
22.49 I'm already tired.Who will tell people that men and women are human beings and if they take time to know each other,value each other as human beings and have mutual respect ,that's it.
General rules,gender roles and norms cannot and will not work anymore.
There is nothing like women this,men that.Taking care of ones health is a must for all.Both men and women need to know themselves,have boundaries.
And every human being has a purpose.
Hizo story ni za jaba
Very true,Jacob might have a point in some evolutionary traits however he assumes people behave the way they do just because of gender.
This man trully learnt how to live as a man and how to treat women from his father. He hasn't even tried to evolve and still lives with his father's generation mind-set.
I will always remind any parent who cares to listern that, IT IS NOT SO MUCH WHAT WE TELL OUR CHILDREN TO DO. IT IS RATHER WHAT THEY OBSERVE FROM US. Simple
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He claims that women “ have been taught” does it also mean that “ men have been taught” ama atasema now I’m seeking ‘equality’.
My take ..he has no tangible content.. Ana-ji- contradict some parts. Lakini wueh.. people have diverse ways of thinking.
Absolutely even when asked about his marriage he is contrasting he says dont treat women like queens yeye wake ako mpaka Na house gal she doesn't even cook or do any housechores
My thoughts exactly.
Either that or he's using controversy to sell like Amerix....this content appeals to people who think in black and white....he just out opinions with no references to research.
My Papa treated my Mother As QUEEN ! My Dad Purposed ! You Purpose How To Treat People, Not Just Opposite Sex ! Its Beautiful When Men Humble To Be Vulnerable To Women !
Shukran Lynn
This is word... purpose to treat people well.Thank you
@@moyowangutu1774how does a woman treat a man like a king?
@@moyowangutu1774how did your mum became a queen?
Men should never be vulnerable,period
The hardest pill for Aliet to swallow is he can't control all women as he wish he would. Out here every human being will do as they please however much noise you make😂😂.
Wow,am pleased to see there are women out here thinks like you
Woman Listen, NO MAN HAS TIME FOR CONTROLLING A WOMAN ..You trying to make women not accountable..Sema Not everywoman is respective and submissive ..Why Would a man control a woman Lol
His message is not for Women, it's for Men..He knows women don't take accountability unlike us Men.
😂😂😂😂😂let me laugh ohh
@@Kevin_aceemen also do not take accountability. Especially when they cheat, ever heard of men saying I slipped and fell on her?
I now believe Men should marry at 32-36 ,after gaining capability and marry women in 22-24, before they become toxic from hurt .
Older men want to marry young and naive women so that you abuse them, that's how patriarchy works
🤣🤣🤣🤣 exactly.. At that age ni easy to manipulate them na hii story si ya mwanamke above 35 haki.
@@christinec740A hurt spouse is like US after Covid ukisikia mtu akikohoa unaogopa. She judge you with their experience not your character.
Wacha nicheke😂😂
@@faithmwangi687 Kwa nini
Lynn this guy is a no, not in the 21st century, very negative on the side of women and a lot of generalization he is misleading
That’s what I thought, so much generalisation, and most against women!!! Misogynistic and narcissistic tendencies 🤦🏾.
I have to say this loud.. This man is intelligent. I love his ideologies and how he is putting out his massage. The use of words and vile amejieeka congrats to his wife
I love this conversation. Lynn you are really representing the girl child very well. Much love from Uganda.
👏👏👏👏a lot of sense. As a woman , I wish I had this information before marriage! Talk of gender roles! Mine have been reversed for 15years!
Poor guy totally lost in his words....even the bible says love your wife. When you love you are respected.
This is the first show I became attentive and listened to every bit of it. As a psychologist and a reader, I appreciate Jacob bigtime. He must have read UNPLUGGED ALPHA, THE RATIONAL MALE, THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A FUCK, 48 LAWS OF POWER. A lot of wisdom has been spewed and its an inspiration to this generation. Big up Lynn for bringing such talents to us!
1. We've had so many people giving us different theories that probably won't even work when you try to apply in your life ,Apply the theory that works in your life, people love ❤️ differently people live differently, just know the role to play as a man and just know the role to play as a woman ,Be a Man,Be a Woman..
2. The only Problem is people don't know their roles that is what is making things so complicated we are twisting and complicating things because people don't know how to play their roles... The moment we solve that, things will start to become better,until then...✌️
Wooow. We need men like him in society. Talking the truth.
THANK YOU Lynn Ngugi for an alternative view. This is my favorite episode to date. The guest is very right in his opinion. We need to hear the other side of the coin sometimes. Not every woman who comes here and plays victim is a victim. Many times, the women are very cruel and toxic women who played a part in the downfall of their relationships.
These generalizations don't make sense. Toxic masculinity exists, and that's why when women are too submissive men think they're stupid and loh and behold, they begin hunting. Times are changing and so are we, both men and women are working and women do double fulltime jobs caring for their children. Treat your woman not necessarily like a queen but with love and respect. Allow the woman to pursue her goals, lead but don't control, you don't own a robot. Cry when you're hurt or when she is, you're a man not a robot, even Jesus the King of the universe wept. Do dishes when you make them dirty, you didn't marry a maid- you married a wife, your rib and support system. Treat her with love.❤😊
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You are describing fiction. But never what you will get from an African men ! Choose Celibacy or go to convent earlier !
@@okellojustine2715 and I sure can't marry an African, sounds like modern slavery 😂😂😂
Very true....any woman who thinks being submissive to men makes them loyal....you'll be surprised men chasing after very bitchy women with the looks.