@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneI think part of what you said is true, I may need therapy...I've learned many don't live to tell their story about narcissism
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonethanks for your video, I was discarded on a cold November evening, with the clothes on my back with nowhere to go after rehabbing an entire property...
Please advise me, this narcissistic person made use of me and dumped me.now he's married and he gave a new number to his wife and he too taken new number. She message me
When you are silent and not saying anything to the narcissist, you are not giving them what they want. They want you to react and engage with them because your reactions give them fuel. By not acknowledging them, you are retaking your power and not stooping to their level.
I have had to dig harder and deeper than I ever have had to do to get through this. It has taken a serious toll on me. It also has strengthened me. It's taken 8 months to get to this point where I am finally able to sleep, not stuck in a loop and feeling more and more healthy everyday. Stay strong. The pain eases and gets easier to deal with in time
It's not that I wanted to tell them everything but they have a seducing spirit that's released from the narcissist to you that compels you to lower your defenses and and give them the ammo they need to destroy you with later in the discard. They are a walking portal of evil spirits, and when you find out like on your program what they are your no longer interested in allowing your life force to be taken. Silence wins!
When you speak they are offended. When you are silent they are offended. It really doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, they will be offended and retaliate whether that be overtly or covertly.
Amen to that! First time dealing with a narcissistic 34 year old step son. He's now forbidden me and his father from seeing our four grandchildren. So sad that he is using the kids as a pawn but I've learned that's what they do. They will use anyone for their own personal gain including their own children. I've gone no contact and it's the most freeing I have felt in the last years of my marriage to his father.
The realization that those you love, don't have your best interest at heart.... Makes us go silent, it's one of the most painful experiences...but makes us go within...and reclaim who we truly are🌞
After many years in a narcissist marriage, I learnt to be on a delay in answering, talking, incase I said the wrong thing, or kept my face straight, every movement, because it would cause an argument. Take care ❤ try and leave, it will be hard, especially if you have family home, children, commitments, this narcissistic life will never change. I wish you a better, calm, peaceful life.
I left my narcissist husband after 21 years. I knew that i would die if i stayed w/ him. It’s been 12 years since i left. Im still healing. I don’t date because i don’t trust anyone and i can smell a narcissist from a mile away. Most people who are attracted to me are narcissists because they can smell my empathy from a mile away. I choose a single life. It gets lonely but i would rather be lonely than abused. It’s obvious i haven’t healed completely but i have friends and family so im not completely alone. Thank you for this video. You sound like you are healed. I hope someday i can say that i am completely healed. ❤
Narcissist pull you away from your hobbies. Immerse yourself in them. I enjoyed collecting sports cards so I have been going to shows and meeting new people. Stay strong mam. 💪
@@landanwoodard7569 I learned this first hand just recently. I wanted to volunteer with music coaching practice . I figured it was the narc coming out when they protested , and then insulted me about it . Later they side tracked by pointing out how I divide my time too thin with everything . That is definitely a true point. However , the source of the opposition comes from them not getting all of my time .
I walked away from my narcissist and went silent 14 months ago. I had never done anything of the sort to anyone before, and knew nothing about narcissism at the time. I only knew that I deserved to be treated way better than what my so-called “friend” was offering. Since then, I’ve studied narcissism extensively, and have learned how my own behaviors made me vulnerable to his actions. Great video, Andrew. You’re right - the narcissist cares nothing about anyone but themselves. Going silent is the only way to re-take your power!
Being the child of a narcissistic parent sucks....she's still so cruel at age 76. No contact again just started and now the love bombs. This is so difficult.
@comebackliza7897 Right there with you. Mine tried to use my young children. ❤️ We know better now, that's what matters. 👏👏👏👏 This is my first year with no contact. It's so terribly hard. My children deserve better because I know better! Thank you for letting me know I am not alone. ❤️
Genetics and training in children from a narcissistic mother who also inherited it can make them behave as narcissists too. I have experienced that and a good solution as Andrew says here is to counter with silence to them and be free to live happier. You are so right @carebearhighaf.
My boss Jackie has created a toxic environment for me. I was going to quit my job but now I am staying at my job to see her fall flat on her face. It will happen.
This DOES need to be taught in school! Imagine the heartache and lost years that would never have happened had we not had to spend all of that time and energy trying to figure out something we didn't even know existed!
When you meet a narcissist, they are evaluating you and they ask themselves. What does this lovely person have to offer me? What is their financial situation? How naïve are they? What can I get from them? Narcs may put on their charm but luckily, we all are getting educated now. Thankfully, I can see a narc coming at me a mile away, and I have zero tolerance for any narcissist.
I understand what you're saying but what if is somebody that really wants to get to know you how else are they supposed to know you if they cannot ask questions of you to see what interests you I'm not trying to be pessimistic but how would you go about if somebody is trying to know you because they really like you?
I left my narcissistic partner when he wasn’t home. Big surprise! My neighbour told me he didn’t get out of bed for 3 weeks! He has no idea where I am. That’s some powerful silence! 👋
Me and my ex live in the same town, always right there everywhere I go. He's working on a house next door to me it's very annoying! I kicked him out 4 months ago!
I feel for you 💕 try putting men’s boots at your front door and men’s clothes on the line (big clothes) 😂 give the impression there’s a man at your place. I hope he moves on.
Your silence kills them. They experience a situation they cannot understand. How comes they have no power over you?? This is terror for them. Let them boil in their own juice with your silence.
"These people are crawling all over the planet" Wow!!! And we lived our whole lives not knowing. There is no way this was not intentionaly kept a secret. I studied a lot of Psychology in College, and this should have been taught on the first day of class!
The word of the Lord Jesus began schools and teaching this and there were no fights, arguing or shooting. Kids would really love to learn about this too. It helps them to be well adjusted and it teaches them how to think not what to think.
I’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for 57 years, endured mental and verbal abuse almost daily. It’s taken me forever to realize exactly what the treatment actually means. I’ve tried to leave a number of times, even tried to take my own life, but each time I’m guilt tripped by other family members because of the effect it’ll have on my grandkids. I’m so done pleasing everyone. All I want is to be alone so I can enjoy the last years of my life in peace and be relieved of the tension in my body.
I hope you're able to leave. Your grand kids will thank you for it when they finally start dating. My mum didn't leave my dad but she should have. I'm paying for it, single at 46, because I only date narcissists and of course it never works but I haven't broken the pattern yet. Better to see the example set in a parent.
God has your grandchildren. God has you in this. Your vows of marriage are not greater then the people who made them. God is always concerned about people. He is concerned about whether our husbands treat us treacherously. Mal 2:14-16 Even the prudent see evil and hide from it. Prov 22:3 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thine own understanding. In All they ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy paths. Prov 3:5-6
The narcissist loves to hide in plain sight. They think they're so clever and no ones on to them but NEWSFLASH The world is waking up to narcissism. Keep up the fine work Andrew
I Googled "why do people lie" after my sister and brother stole my inheritance and were bad mouthing me behind my back. My mother was a narcissist so they bought into her example. I refused to lie, bad mouth, steal from anyone. I aspired to be like my dad who was a super empath! It took me 77 years to figure out that I am not the problem. They are narcissist! Hallelujah. I am healing very fast after going no contact 2 x years ago. 🎉
Wow your story is the same as mine. Tortured by the narcissist for years. Born into it. Nobody believes u. Then u doubt urself. I'm 50 one year no contact still need to heal. ❤love to you
@@user-nd6so7yg2yI think you're going a little overboard. They were simply asking a question about the inheritance. I'm sure they aren't ignoring what was done to her or how she was treated by family. Ans you're a "mental health" expert?? 🤦🏽♀️
My ex narc told me people told him he was crazy for being with me, and everyone in our city hates me, also he said I would never find anyone like him.. I smiled and said Thank you Jesus!! I have been silent for three weeks!! I’m so glad God open my eyes and I see all the evil!! He even called me names while I’m trying to heal from the unexpected death of my son!! So glad to be on my path of healing!!
To me, the biggest sign of a narcissist is that they malign - undermine you. Passive aggression is their favorite tool to keep you down. Real love lifts you up, supports you, nourishes and nurtures you, forgives and allows, wants to see you happy. If this isn’t your relationship, get out of it asap.
YES ANDREW THEY'VE DONT EVERYTHING YOU STATED,BUT THERE'S A PRICE TO PAY FOR THAT ARROGANT, PRIDEFUL, GRANDIOSE, OPPORTUNISTIC, JEALOUS,ENVIOUS,SHAPE SHIPPTER,HATER,CHEATER,LEACH,NO EMPATHY,LUSTFULL,HATER OF GOOD,LIAR,INSECURE,NEVER TAKES RESPONSIBILITY,PLAY THE VICTM,WOLF IN SHEEP CLOTHING
And they are unable to acknowledge their condition because it’s a personality disorder (neurosis) that they are not able to correct. It’s impossible for even a psychiatrist to treat because the person has NO insight into their problem. They think everyone else is off base, never them.
My ex narc husband used God as a mask to look good in front of people.. how? He was a Vicar (Reverend) When I tell ppl you can see from their face how shocked they were. My divorce was finalised last week & I’m completely zero contact and it feels good! He was a classic Narc who was mentally & physically abusive. There are plenty of Narcs in the church trust me I’ve seen them they love the attention it brings them. Not all are but there are quite a few
Outside, to others he is a friendly, happy, cheeky person, but as soon as the front door closes he is a sullen, moody, prolific adulterer and psychological, emotional bully who shouts me down when he knows what I am going to say, because he knows it is the truth, I have learnt that not answering when I know he is gunning for a row etc limits him. He has convinced people that I am the adulterer, because I don’t meet/know them he gets away with lying, he knows I cannot fight it. I am stuck living with him because we both own equal shares of our house, but he refuses to sell/buy me out, I cannot leave if I have nowhere to live and no money to live on, and he knows it, all of my money is tied up in this house. But listening and learning on how to live with a narcissistic bully is helping me cope until such times I can leave with what I am entitled to.
I completely agree. However, so often those that take pretend to help others out, and persuade others that this is the truth. I share your view of how it should be.
To solve the problem givers need to stop continuing to give to the worlds Narc... Giving cautiously instead and not getting sucked into the Narcs victimhood mentality because its a trap used to exploit and take from others and allow the Narc to not have to be responsible and be a propetual child to act like one.
Thank God I am out of that relationship, divorced, no contact. Stress is now minimal, lost 30 lb- that weight was protection and resultant from cortisol from constant stress. Feel at peace now, Thank you Andrew. Now these videos are a reminder of where I was. Your info helped me get out. Free at last!! Still healing. Loving my inner child. Built new boundaries, feels like a castle with a moat. Single and staying that way. No more.
That’s right, people thrive in healthy relationship and those who are getting abuse fall into depression, panic, despair the health starts deteriorate and yes your body naturally starts to protect itself from excess cortisol so you begin gaining weight.
She actually admitted her life goes round and round in circles two years before I was set free,now I'm a work in progress,it's not been easy I can say! But so much better,god is good all the time❤
Easier said than done when you have been in a trauma bond relationship with a spouse who is a narcissist for 40+ years always being made to feel you don’t deserve better😟 it takes a lot of counseling, introspection and sheer guts to finally realize you are the victim, not the other way round and the only way to escape is to close your mind and your door to them.
The Trouble is when they come to visit.. They think I am a captive target, and just keep up their Monolog.. I don't say dam all, but they so FULL of their RUBBISH...
@@sharonyoung2041Well said Sharon. Silence is a tool we use I believe to stop taking the bait, but that alone won't fix them; it just gives us a little peace.
I'm an empath. He told everyone he got a good one this time when we first met I tolerated his gaslighting and mind games for 4 years. But he went too far and I ghosted him for 2 months. Then he decided to end the relationship and I calmly walked away and went no contact again. That was 9 months ago. His flying monkeys kept telling me he made a mistake and he was miserable. I blocked them too.
True after a lot of suffering and feeling lost because I didn't t know why he s behaving in a strange way. I used to cry get angry to falling in the abym of depression. Now that I understand his motives I decided to withdraw and keep silent and never tell him my plans. To my surprise I see him shrinking and become polite and totally absent
"They dont deserve one minute of our attention "...your videos are powerful Andrew..so good to see a person reclaim their love of life despite the past❤👏👏👏❤
I walked away from a narcissist 20+ years ago only to go through it again with my daughter 😢. I’m trying to find peace again and heal, having to walk away from my own child. It’s important to get therapy and heal, you are worthy of a happy life.
What you have explained in this video describes most of my relatives. These evil psychotic narcos are the main reason why so many families are broken up in this world.
😂 Like I've told mine...The devil didn't even want you and that's why he kicked you out of hell and now you're up here making me miserable!!!! Go back home!!!
@@clareespina4018 yes it sounded that way and looked that way on her face bc she thought it was. Kinda funny , and she was looking forward to all the new fake games in the future , transactions , and the chase … she always said to me as well “ I can’t win with you “ . And I had no idea what she was talking about it . I told her it is not about winning it’s not a game .
You just described me and my narcissistic spouse. Took me 17 years to figure out what was wrong with him. I’m still diving deeper into the rabbit hole. So glad I found you. ✔️👍💜
I'm 17 years married to a narci (I call him a narci 'nar'sea') husband. It's also gotten physical were he feels so angry he shoved me down then gets more angry and keeps repeating that I did it to myself. He's cheated by getting into a emotional relationship with his coworker and he would tell his friend he can't wait to have sex with her but I caught all this before those two got any closer to be comfortable enough to do so yet. He only stopped working with her and talking to her because I told him I was exposing those two and her own boyfriend can get involved and who knows what would have happened to my narci husband 🤕 He really knows how to pretend that things never happened or existed and gets all his emotions in to make him believable. I keep getting told I'm going to be homeless and I'm reminded how useless I am. I'm disabled btw. I'm in the part of realizing what he is and I'm not the bad guy that I used to believe I was. I'm breaking out of the cycles of getting my feelings hurt and then blaming myself for it then being sorry for him . Baby steps for me.
I have left the narcissist ex so many times over the past 15 years. I end up feeling sorry for him, go back, then leave. His powerful hooving tactic has always been money and incredible charm. Always short lived. He has zero emotional connection, always has. 26 yrs of a toxic cycle gone forever.
December 27th made 7 months narc free for me. I blocked all contact, and wow has my life only gotten better each and everyday. If you can, no contact is the way to go.
Hi Andrew your words always ring true. You are the perfect example of what no contact and finding the healing path brings into our lives. You sound clear, strong and healthy. God bless.
You describe my drug addicted narc daughter and my flying monkeys grandsons. I endured years of abuse, both physical and mental. My mother has a fatal stroke induced by the stress my daughter put her through. My daughter stole my inheritance. I kept trying to forgive and help. Went into debt, such long story. What kept me stuck was the memories of what she was. The person now is not who she was and I kept helping her in the hopes that I would get my once loving, caring, kind daughter back. I realize now it will never happen. Like you mentioned, she wanted to drag me down to her level, to take everything from me, and she even took my car and hit something, didn't tell me. The list goes on and I'm at a point where I'm done. She and her drug addict husband are living without electricity, no running water, and no vehicle out in a rural area. It's cold here now in South Carolina, but as far as I'm concerned, they can freeze to death. It makes me cry a lot because it is my daughter, but she and her husband are nothing but parasites that are sucking the life out of me. Time to get into survival mode.
It's sad to have daughter that's a narcissist. I tried to fix her for year's. She finally told me I will never fix her. She came close to destroying my life. I've finally said goodbye to her.
I too have a narcissistic daughter. Got me to cosign her school loans and then quit her third year and sent a nasty text that said she wanted me out of her life. Left me with the tuition bill. Never saw it coming. What you saw was your daughter's mask and hoping to get her "old self" back won't happen because deep down they don't know who they are, so you never see the same person twice. It hurts but letting her go is the right thing. Stay strong and know that her decisions and predicaments are made of her own free will. God bless.
Dude this shit fired me up. Had the "lightbulb" moment last year and realized I was raised and manipulated by narcissists for 35 years. Went NC and they are not handling it well. Oh well. Chin up chumps! Thanks for these vids, they are supportive and enlightening
Let him her go, leave them behind, and continue your happy life journey… I learnt to say no, set my boundaries and let go … it’s great. Do it. 🙏🏼🌷all the best. Act
This person has no right to abuse you & you deserve to be happy. Keep learning about narcissism and you will find your way out. No contact was the answer for me. 🕊️
The beautiful rain is indeed so peaceful. Thank you for your important messages, they really do help so very much. 🙏🦋What narcs do is emotional murder. I wish they could be legally prosecuted for their destructive abuse.
Thank you so much. You are so correct about our inner light. Rage against the dying of the light. If our conscience reflects on the Eternal Light that created us we can perceive it from our limited human perspective as Angelic Virtues. When our consciences are humbly aligned with God's Holy Will, we confidently follow God's Holy Will like the Charge of the Light Brigade - here are some of the deeper facets of the Eternal Divine Refection of Christ's Love. The Lord rebuke our pride. The Lord bless our humility. The Lord rebuke our greed. The Lord bless our charity. The Lord rebuke our wrath. The Lord bless our kindness. The Lord rebuke our envy. The Lord bless our patience. The Lord rebuke our lust. The Lord bless our chastity. The Lord rebuke our gluttony. The Lord bless our temperance. The Lord rebuke our sloth. The Lord bless our diligence. Be blessed, sir. This multi-faceted perception of God should not be conflated with God Himself. This is our human perception of our experiences of God’s interaction with us. But as James 1:17 yet states, every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. As 1 John 1:5 states, this then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
Well said. A classic narc sign is someone who cannot be single and needs to always have a partner. A relationship that enss needs quite a bif of time to heal and reflect. People who jump into another relationship quickly scare me. 😮
Nothing more spiritual than being in the Heart of Nature and enjoying it. Makes you feel alive just by "being." Andrew, you've worked hard, giving us the clear demarcation line- We are on one side of that line, free to be ourselves without the drudgery of listening to meaningless judgement , suffering the soul damaging and blood sucking of resources by these Narcissists. The other side of the line- Narcissists. I love the rain . The rain sounds can calm and quiet the mind. 👍🤲🌨☔
My brother my name is Michael I live in Portland oregon, I was discarded 4 months ago after 12 years of marriage after an argument my wife walked down the road I assumed to cool off and I haven't talked to her since, I was devastated I still am but I'm coming out of this trauma, I love this woman with everything I had I married her imperfections I had no idea what narcissistic was, but thanks to your video this is huge my friend I appreciate this so much that you put these videos out. This is just another part of understanding what I was going through and it really is a part of closure to me. Thank you man much love goes out to you I appreciate you so much keep up putting these videos out man you're helping people that are devastated because of Narcs!!! They are cruel
I just wanted to reiterate this is Michael again from Portland Oregon brother I went through the exact same thing you did surgeries she left me on the side of the road broke down in a motorhome with me and my cat in one of the drug-infested rat infested parts of Portland the biggest city in Oregon. She left, I threatened to commit suicide and she didn't even respond, that did it, I knew then she didn't love me like I did her,I literally saved this woman's life. Anyway thanks again I sure appreciate you brother. And I'm sorry you went through what I did, your story is just like mine!!! THANK YOU!
Threatening to commit suicide is a form of manipulation, & emotionally abusive!. My partner has been threatening suicide periodically for years, everytime he engages in irresponsible,immature behaviour,&,is called-out on same! Aggresively storming off, informing his family that he's going out somewhere to kill himself. We're left in a panic, worried sick! Always comes back hours,days later though. Emotional cruelty!
Thank you for this video. I thank God everyday for getting me out of this narcissistic relationship!!! Blessings to you for helping others through your videos.
I love rain too! Im glad to hear you are doing ok again..its so sad how another person can have such a huge impact on our lives in such a sneaky way..so happy you are here helping us work our way out of these messes with these narcs! The struggle is real. EDUCATE YOURSELF EVERYONE!
oh the freedom of not being in those relationships again. I've been healed from them...but sad to watch others being taken in. God is faithful and I believe someday they will be exposed. Great Video...
Wow! You described exactly what I went through. I was discarded, and one of his new girlfriends messaged me and told me he was a narcissist. That's when I did my research. One phrase that helped me a lot was, "The only way to win with a narcissist is not to play the game". I've stayed silent for years now even though he still tries to message me every now and then. I've healed and set my boundaries. I've also stayed single. Maybe I'm still a little scared, but that's ok. I'm happy. Thank you for this video. I'm glad you came out and healed as well. God Bless!
Andrew a heartfelt thank you for your passion, your personal sacrifice, and your determination to spread the message around the world about the devastating effects of Narcissistic Abuse!!!
The longer you stay the harder it will be to break free, the narcs drag you deeper and deeper into the abyss. Glad to hear someone saying that they love the rain 🌧️
It was a huge,huge, betrayal,,,but big lessons learned,,hard work But my life is now been transformed into a Better consciousness,,,,and I still have Empathy and Love for mankind,,,They didn't Take that or My Soul,,T.y. ANDREW ❤❤✨✨
No one, NO ONE can articulate these things unless they’ve been through it themselves. Great video. Very encouraging. I’m so sorry for the emotional abuse you endured to have this knowledge. I’ve been suffering in a marriage with a narcissist for almost 20 years, and I am just really surrendering to the facts of who my husband is now after learning about narcissism a few years ago online. It is an incredibly difficult journey. It is unfathomable how you can make someone hate you, just by wanting to give and receive love with each other and desire honesty and loyalty. They only want forbidden fruit. Nothing irritates them more than you wanting a healthy relationship. I am still in this marriage with children, but I am reclaiming my power through silence and living my life without waiting for him anymore. He seems confused…
I just start digging into what I’ve been living with. I have chronic pain from an auto immune issue and he just loves when I’m down. Never understood why he would bring me down when I was having a great pain free day. NOW I DO. It all makes so much sense. I too am still in this relationship due to children, but will be working slowly at the solution. I just couldn’t understand why I was able to get along with everyone else, but always had issues with only him. Thank you for the videos Andrew, I hope to be over the mountain and in the healing phase soon. Ty!
"A walking apology" describes how I felt most of the time. This is the best video I've seen on narcissistic abuse. Thank you for enlightening others and me. I've crossed over the bridge and met myself again. I like her!
Your videos are so helpful. I know he’s a horrible person and sometimes it’s so difficult not to open his texts and ignore him and I know his messages will be toxic and belittling but my love for him was real, even though I know the person I loved doesn’t exist. I still sometimes hold on to the false hope that he can change. Thank you for helping me stay strong. This is probably the most painful and difficult thing I’ve ever experienced. Thank you so very much and I’m so sorry you had to go through it to help people like me. ❤
Thank you 😊 for sharing your wisdom. I was raised with a narcissistic mother and brother’s. I was the black sheep. I decided to remove myself from the equation and that was the best thing I could do for myself. I have no contact with my family. I have Peace in my life and it feels so good. And yes this is a difficult journey but I am healing ❤️🩹 and moving forward in my healing ❤️🩹 journey. Sending strength and encouragement to all on this task. I LOVE YOU 😘 💋
I do NOT need the narc... wow... it feels good to be able to say that... I am worth more than how I was treated. 🕊😊 that is a beautiful misty, raindrenched background 🌫 ✌️❤
@emilywilson7308 I just checked my Facebook account because I have a few family and friends that I sometimes reply to when I receive a notification. Otherwise, I avoid it like the plague...lol. too much drama and too many unsavory characters trying to take advantage of unsuspecting people. I received a message from someone who assumed another new identity, I suspected it was the same person that has repeatedly been trying to contact me, and I keep blocking 🚫 him. The information on the profile tells me that it is the same person. He wrote me a text on the comments section and called me honey... honestly..... it was an old post. I haven't updated or added any new posts in over a year. I didn't like that he called me honey and wanted to slap his face, but I took a deep breath, let it out slowly, and exited without wasting my energy on a response. Holiday hoover... and I will sleep just fine, and I have been making friends at church... healthy friendships 💖 I hope you have had a good day today. Take care of yourself Emily.
A lot of people ask me why I married my ex that was a narcissist but before we married he done everything right, then the day we got married and was on our honeymoon it started. I didnt chew my food right, dress or talk the right way. He told me I was an embarrassment in anything I did including being a mother and wife. He could never keep a steady job because of his attitude and after a while he sat a home while I worked 3 jobs and he never helped with house cleaning because that was womens work. And so didn't fix anything. But whatever broke was my fault. I found out one thing that I'm alot stronger than I thought or I wouldn't have made it otherwise. And anyone thats going or gone through that needs to remember. Your stronger than you thought you were! 🙏💋
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneboth of my siblings are severe narcissist and my mother was a Grandiose Narcissist , ,oral history about our Grandmother show that she was a malevolent narcissist , , ,🥶😬🥶😔
You are on fire 🔥 What you accept is what you get. Remember that you only get one chance to live, one chance to love and one chance to learn. Be blessed.
Hello Andrew. Your message brought tears to my eyes. Recently freed myself from a toxic relationship and my wounds are still very raw. Thank you for your wise, validating and encouraging words. Namaste 🙏🏽
Congratulations to you!! Yes the wounds are very raw and don’t think for a second that this is not normal. It is very normal and you will get better!!!
Never go back.. no matter what Never! Please know if they suck you back in for round 2 or 3 it only gets worse and harder to get out again, they are predator and think like predators so they stay steps ahead behind the scenes. Please know they will try to suck you back in and will promise you all the things you wanted ,but know these are only Lies, you will be 'punished ' for leaving them and they have been waiting for the perfect moment to hurt you for bruising their ego. Know they are all the same and their behavior predictable, they are not special, they are in truth a demon with the potential even to kill their victims, please keep yourself safe and give them zero amount of your time nor attention regards of what they say, even illnesses they will lie about to trap you, you deserve real love safety and freedom, none of which will ever come from your narc. Many Blessings!
Keep fighting for your happiness, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel ❤ I never thought I would find happiness again but I did. I am single and more happy and satisfied with my life than I ever was during my relationship.
You are speaking the truth!!! I am officially today New Years 35 years into narcissistic abuse. I am in a very similar situation. The isolation. No contact eventually is so relieving to yourself and you see yourself!!There is every possibility that you can get out. Lean on God. Really, lean on him.
I have zero contact with the narcs that were in my life. At first it was really hard and in my mind I saw it only as protection and I felt a lot of guilt. Now it's changed into empowerment, validation, clarity, a place of self love and respect I have never experienced in my life. I also went through the abandonment of so-called friends. I was alone. Outside of 1 friend, no one gave a damn. The monkeys only called to find out the bullshit to gossip about it. I had gotten down to 98 lbs. and was so outside of my body, in the twisted brain fog that I didn't realize I was becoming physically ill bc of the abuse of my x narc/husband. After 4 years of healing, I am healthier than I've ever been! I am so one with my Creator and the universe, peaceful and still within myself and my surroundings. All of the heartache, pain, confusion, doubt, fear has been acknowledged and hasn't put me back in their prison in a very long time. Never again. I love you all! Thanks for the listen and know to always have hope and always believe there is truth and happiness waiting for you.
The rain is actually tears from others who left this earth they are responding to those left behind by tears. 😭 Amen Brother 🙏 you sharing your story. You are a strong soul thanks for sharing your story. I can relate its called the. BOHICA EFFECT. 🏃 RUN 💃
Hi Andrew! I love the sound of the rain! Very soothing! I too, chose to walk away! The text messages finally stopped when I did not acknowledge him existence I felt free! He stopped after a while! I felt happier! Thank you!
You are spot on! I lost my love for being out in the rain too, and so much more. I actually lost myself…who I had been. When I became “aware”, the disbelief, grief and devastation was life-threatening and crippling emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, and the loss is vast, but channels like yours have been the life blood I needed to wrap my head around what just happened, and begin to heal. It led me to reaching out for help. The beauty and hope for the future now, now that I’m “aware”, is like a huge ray of warm light enveloping me. Getting through it was rough but on this side, I’m an upgraded version of the old me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Namaste.❤
Bless you Andrew..only a person who has been with a narc knows the complete cruelty we go through..it's like nothing u ever dealt with before..have to be with one to understand what they are capable of..most won't believe us
True! I never had any idea such people existed! Now I can identify them around me. “Acquaintances” who i am sure are a nightmare to be in a relationship with. And friends who I now see clearly are that way with their spouses! Awful. Peace is better! Get out/stay out.
I like your perspective and the way you explain. So many friends and family don’t realize I went head to head with evil. He fractured my face in his final rage fit and I won, I’m done, gone and healing. I year ago. Thank you for the video! It’s the high five I deserve after what I overcame.
Narc ex broke my jaw and he went to jail. Sent a message via a friend he wanted to reconcile when he got out I said no I’ve moved on . I’ve healed and learned boundaries . I also went no contact with my narc mum. Glad you have moved on and living your best life well done 🤣
Brilliant! Destructive & parasitic are definitely adjectives I agree with. I could add the phrase “soulless beings” to that list too. Thank you for helping me/the collective heal!💯🩵🙏🏼
Oh Andrew! How right you are! My narcissist, husband’s favorite name for me is, “Hey”. he doesn’t like calling me by my real name. This is been going on for quite a while and he’s never been empathetic to me. we’ve been married almost 42 years and I’m not happy. he doesn’t like making me happy in a personal way. So sad😵💫😖😟
OMG Andrew! I'm so sorry that you had to go through such a horrible experience!!😢😢😢 I'm so glad your still here. Your doing amazing things with this negative experience. Thank you for that.❤
Yep discarded two years ago but I had realised what he was before he left. I had stopped giving away my power to him. I had learned he was a taker and boundary crasher . I am now silent towards him and very glad he left. I don’t talk much about it because unless you have gone through it you just wouldn’t get it. He has new supply. I do pray for his new supply that she will see faster than I did. 12 years!! I am a narc survivor and I give God thanks for this. God kept me sane and showed me what was going on. Your videos are important to people who need validation and beginning their healing journey. It’s amazing being free from this, I am so full of gratitude❤
Dear Andrew, Your clear cut way about this is exactly what I needed for my peace of mind today. Here in Germany we’re big about Advent… all the weeks leading up to Christmas… and it’s hard with the memories of the family, even if they’re an evil lot. My stepfather and all the flying monkeys in my family excluded me from my mother’s funeral this summer… and now it’s my first Christmas without her. Of course the rest of the family all make sure I know how they all happily celebrate together - and ohhh how willingly they would welcome me back into the fold if only I would apologize for my wrongdoing (of calling out my stepfather for betraying my mother while she was on her deathbed). Oh well… It’s just very soothing to have your reassurance in this dark time. I hope you have a lovely holiday season!
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you speak so much truth that has helped me so much. I appreciate you. Have had many narcissistic people in my life and all that you say I do instinctively. Praise. Keep up the blessings and teachings! Much love. Also I miss NC. Hope to come back soon. To the beautiful blue ridge.
You’re awesome, Andrew ❤. You went through this alone & I did too. You describe the years OC hell to a T. Thank you for your videos-for letting me know that I’m NOT totally alone & that someone else understands the parasitic monster I had to waste money having cremated after he died. I had to spend the last 2 years of his dishonest, cowardly life as his caretaker as he was dying of kidney cancer. I’m so glad he’s gone, and I’ve risen from the ashes like a phoenix, like you ❤.
This is the most eye-opening accurate 100% spot on description of the relationship I used to be in.
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It is very accurate, and breaking this trauma bond is very difficult when my heart is still telling me that I love her, it's all crazy stuff
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneI think part of what you said is true, I may need therapy...I've learned many don't live to tell their story about narcissism
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonethanks for your video, I was discarded on a cold November evening, with the clothes on my back with nowhere to go after rehabbing an entire property...
Please advise me, this narcissistic person made use of me and dumped me.now he's married and he gave a new number to his wife and he too taken new number. She message me
When you are silent and not saying anything to the narcissist, you are not giving them what they want. They want you to react and engage with them because your reactions give them fuel. By not acknowledging them, you are retaking your power and not stooping to their level.
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Absolutely,they have no influence or control no more, Silence is my currency,
I agree
I have had to dig harder and deeper than I ever have had to do to get through this. It has taken a serious toll on me. It also has strengthened me. It's taken 8 months to get to this point where I am finally able to sleep, not stuck in a loop and feeling more and more healthy everyday. Stay strong. The pain eases and gets easier to deal with in time
It's not that I wanted to tell them everything but they have a seducing spirit that's released from the narcissist to you that compels you to lower your defenses and and give them the ammo they need to destroy you with later in the discard. They are a walking portal of evil spirits, and when you find out like on your program what they are your no longer interested in allowing your life force to be taken. Silence wins!
When you speak they are offended. When you are silent they are offended. It really doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, they will be offended and retaliate whether that be overtly or covertly.
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So very true!
Well said!
Silence. Game over. Personal freedom. Thank you Lord.
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Amen all glory to our lord God 🙏
Amen to that! First time dealing with a narcissistic 34 year old step son. He's now forbidden me and his father from seeing our four grandchildren. So sad that he is using the kids as a pawn but I've learned that's what they do. They will use anyone for their own personal gain including their own children. I've gone no contact and it's the most freeing I have felt in the last years of my marriage to his father.
@@lisawilson7332 Amen sister. I know exactly how u feel. I stay in my faith.
With narcissists everything is about THEM! … and what’s in it for THEM!!
So selfish.
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They are very selfish and when you call them out on it they try to palm it off like it was a joke and that us the empath can't take a joke
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The realization that those you love, don't have your best interest at heart....
Makes us go silent, it's one of the most painful experiences...but makes us go within...and reclaim who we truly are🌞
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Great reply.
Oh I love this. Thank you. Going within and reclaiming is right ❤
Yes! Thank you!
Sometimes saying nothing says everything.
Or at least it should right? Lol in my experience no then comes the accusations . It’s just unbelievable to me
A lot of answers in silence, I do it so often.
I told the culprit, "I'm happy, by not allowing you ( ..the Narcissist,) to create drama in my life."
After many years in a narcissist marriage, I learnt to be on a delay in answering, talking, incase I said the wrong thing, or kept my face straight, every movement, because it would cause an argument.
Take care ❤ try and leave, it will be hard, especially if you have family home, children, commitments, this narcissistic life will never change.
I wish you a better, calm, peaceful life.
I left my narcissist husband after 21 years. I knew that i would die if i stayed w/ him. It’s been 12 years since i left. Im still healing. I don’t date because i don’t trust anyone and i can smell a narcissist from a mile away. Most people who are attracted to me are narcissists because they can smell my empathy from a mile away. I choose a single life. It gets lonely but i would rather be lonely than abused. It’s obvious i haven’t healed completely but i have friends and family so im not completely alone. Thank you for this video. You sound like you are healed. I hope someday i can say that i am completely healed. ❤
Narcissist pull you away from your hobbies. Immerse yourself in them. I enjoyed collecting sports cards so I have been going to shows and meeting new people. Stay strong mam. 💪
I have same story❤
Because you are an empath.
Try somatic healing, EMDR, and tapping . It will help you to heal x
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I learned this first hand just recently.
I wanted to volunteer with music coaching practice .
I figured it was the narc coming out when they protested , and then insulted me about it .
Later they side tracked by pointing out how I divide my time too thin with everything .
That is definitely a true point. However , the source of the opposition comes from them not getting all of my time .
I walked away from my narcissist and went silent 14 months ago. I had never done anything of the sort to anyone before, and knew nothing about narcissism at the time. I only knew that I deserved to be treated way better than what my so-called “friend” was offering. Since then, I’ve studied narcissism extensively, and have learned how my own behaviors made me vulnerable to his actions. Great video, Andrew. You’re right - the narcissist cares nothing about anyone but themselves. Going silent is the only way to re-take your power!
Having a child with a narcissist is the worse shit you can do !
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I feel this comment. Please know that you're not alone. We survived, where others have not. That means something. Love and light to you and yours. ❤
Being the child of a narcissistic parent sucks....she's still so cruel at age 76. No contact again just started and now the love bombs. This is so difficult.
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Right there with you. Mine tried to use my young children. ❤️ We know better now, that's what matters. 👏👏👏👏 This is my first year with no contact. It's so terribly hard. My children deserve better because I know better!
Thank you for letting me know I am not alone. ❤️
Genetics and training in children from a narcissistic mother who also inherited it can make them behave as narcissists too. I have experienced that and a good solution as Andrew says here is to counter with silence to them and be free to live happier. You are so right @carebearhighaf.
Silence, inaccessibility, distance, and strict boundaries.
The ultimate defense (and ironically, offense) against psycho narcissists.😐
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💯 Facts!! Speaking Truth.
Yep except they also have really strong boundaries. I think that is how the difficulties start.
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My boss Jackie has created a toxic environment for me. I was going to quit my job but now I am staying at my job to see her fall flat on her face. It will happen.
This DOES need to be taught in school! Imagine the heartache and lost years that would never have happened had we not had to spend all of that time and energy trying to figure out something we didn't even know existed!
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I agree.
SO TRUE!!
When you meet a narcissist, they are evaluating you and they ask themselves. What does this lovely person have to offer me? What is their financial situation? How naïve are they? What can I get from them? Narcs may put on their charm but luckily, we all are getting educated now. Thankfully, I can see a narc coming at me a mile away, and I have zero tolerance for any narcissist.
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I understand what you're saying but what if is somebody that really wants to get to know you how else are they supposed to know you if they cannot ask questions of you to see what interests you I'm not trying to be pessimistic but how would you go about if somebody is trying to know you because they really like you?
I left my narcissistic partner when he wasn’t home. Big surprise! My neighbour told me he didn’t get out of bed for 3 weeks! He has no idea where I am. That’s some powerful silence! 👋
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Me and my ex live in the same town, always right there everywhere I go. He's working on a house next door to me it's very annoying! I kicked him out 4 months ago!
I feel for you 💕 try putting men’s boots at your front door and men’s clothes on the line (big clothes) 😂 give the impression there’s a man at your place. I hope he moves on.
Well done..
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Your silence kills them. They experience a situation they cannot understand. How comes they have no power over you?? This is terror for them. Let them boil in their own juice with your silence.
I Agreed
"These people are crawling all over the planet"
Wow!!! And we lived our whole lives not knowing.
There is no way this was not intentionaly kept a secret.
I studied a lot of Psychology in College, and this should have been taught on the first day of class!
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The word of the Lord Jesus began schools and teaching this and there were no fights, arguing or shooting. Kids would really love to learn about this too. It helps them to be well adjusted and it teaches them how to think not what to think.
It’s actually in the Bible…it’s call a Leviathan Spirit. In the the book of Job… coming straight from the pit of hell. These people need deliverance.😢
CZcams has been a life saver mentally for many. But also has TONS of narcissists on here too taking all the attention away from authentic beings
I’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for 57 years, endured mental and verbal abuse almost daily. It’s taken me forever to realize exactly what the treatment actually means. I’ve tried to leave a number of times, even tried to take my own life, but each time I’m guilt tripped by other family members because of the effect it’ll have on my grandkids. I’m so done pleasing everyone. All I want is to be alone so I can enjoy the last years of my life in peace and be relieved of the tension in my body.
Im in sMe situation! 20 yrs though. Im planning to get away from him. Getting my inner peace back.
I hope you're able to leave. Your grand kids will thank you for it when they finally start dating. My mum didn't leave my dad but she should have. I'm paying for it, single at 46, because I only date narcissists and of course it never works but I haven't broken the pattern yet. Better to see the example set in a parent.
God has your grandchildren. God has you in this. Your vows of marriage are not greater then the people who made them. God is always concerned about people. He is concerned about whether our husbands treat us treacherously. Mal 2:14-16
Even the prudent see evil and hide from it. Prov 22:3
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thine own understanding. In All they ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy paths. Prov 3:5-6
Exactly, do it ! God gives us only so much time! Live the rest of it your way. 🙏❤️
Our stories are the same.
The narcissist loves to hide in plain sight. They think they're so clever and no ones on to them but NEWSFLASH The world is waking up to narcissism. Keep up the fine work Andrew
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I’m starting to wonder if narcs are one big satanic cult.
My mom is one, my family. I'm heartbroken. Why did they turn out this way
They are clever! I know so many people that lives with a narcissistic. Even the ones against narcissistics like your self have one at home
Thanks for explaining.
I Googled "why do people lie" after my sister and brother stole my inheritance and were bad mouthing me behind my back. My mother was a narcissist so they bought into her example. I refused to lie, bad mouth, steal from anyone. I aspired to be like my dad who was a super empath! It took me 77 years to figure out that I am not the problem. They are narcissist! Hallelujah. I am healing very fast after going no contact 2 x years ago. 🎉
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You can't sue them for stealing your inheritance?
Wow your story is the same as mine. Tortured by the narcissist for years. Born into it. Nobody believes u. Then u doubt urself. I'm 50 one year no contact still need to heal. ❤love to you
She isn't talking about money she is talking about betrayal and honesty.
@@user-nd6so7yg2yI think you're going a little overboard. They were simply asking a question about the inheritance. I'm sure they aren't ignoring what was done to her or how she was treated by family.
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My ex narc told me people told him he was crazy for being with me, and everyone in our city hates me, also he said I would never find anyone like him.. I smiled and said Thank you Jesus!! I have been silent for three weeks!! I’m so glad God open my eyes and I see all the evil!! He even called me names while I’m trying to heal from the unexpected death of my son!! So glad to be on my path of healing!!
My condolences 💐🕊️❤️🩹😘
So sorry for your loss. Stay strong!
My condolences. May The Lord comfort you during your time of mourning. 😢😢😢
Freedom from the narcissist is a beautiful thing ❤ definitely stay silent. Responding to them just gives them more fuel to use against you.
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To me, the biggest sign of a narcissist is that they malign - undermine you. Passive aggression is their favorite tool to keep you down. Real love lifts you up, supports you, nourishes and nurtures you, forgives and allows, wants to see you happy. If this isn’t your relationship, get out of it asap.
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YES ANDREW THEY'VE DONT EVERYTHING YOU STATED,BUT THERE'S A PRICE TO PAY FOR THAT ARROGANT, PRIDEFUL, GRANDIOSE, OPPORTUNISTIC, JEALOUS,ENVIOUS,SHAPE SHIPPTER,HATER,CHEATER,LEACH,NO EMPATHY,LUSTFULL,HATER OF GOOD,LIAR,INSECURE,NEVER TAKES RESPONSIBILITY,PLAY THE VICTM,WOLF IN SHEEP CLOTHING
We must walk away from the narcissists and leave them alone in silence. Only God can help a narcissist. Thank you 🙏 Andrew 😊 God bless you❤
Even god can’t help them if they don’t acknowledge their conditions
And they are unable to acknowledge their condition because it’s a personality disorder (neurosis) that they are not able to correct. It’s impossible for even a psychiatrist to treat because the person has NO insight into their problem. They think everyone else is off base, never them.
My ex narc husband used God as a mask to look good in front of people.. how? He was a Vicar (Reverend) When I tell ppl you can see from their face how shocked they were. My divorce was finalised last week & I’m completely zero contact and it feels good! He was a classic Narc who was mentally & physically abusive. There are plenty of Narcs in the church trust me I’ve seen them they love the attention it brings them. Not all are but there are quite a few
@@e.gedeon8681agreed!! Because they have to want to help themselves!!
They need not acknowledge anything to God, He knows all!@@e.gedeon8681
Outside, to others he is a friendly, happy, cheeky person, but as soon as the front door closes he is a sullen, moody, prolific adulterer and psychological, emotional bully who shouts me down when he knows what I am going to say, because he knows it is the truth, I have learnt that not answering when I know he is gunning for a row etc limits him. He has convinced people that I am the adulterer, because I don’t meet/know them he gets away with lying, he knows I cannot fight it.
I am stuck living with him because we both own equal shares of our house, but he refuses to sell/buy me out, I cannot leave if I have nowhere to live and no money to live on, and he knows it, all of my money is tied up in this house.
But listening and learning on how to live with a narcissistic bully is helping me cope until such times I can leave with what I am entitled to.
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I completely agree.
However, so often those that take pretend to help others out, and persuade others that this is the truth.
I share your view of how it should be.
Agreed
To solve the problem givers need to stop continuing to give to the worlds Narc...
Giving cautiously instead and not getting sucked into the Narcs victimhood mentality because its a trap used to exploit and take from others and allow the Narc to not have to be responsible and be a propetual child to act like one.
@@thomasdonau5140that's the difference between wishful thinking and reality. Narcs LOVE wishful thinkers!
Silence means....Game is over!!
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Wow it took me a long time to get over it now I’m silence I don’t care what he saying. I am so happy I agree 100% with you the game is over !
Thank God I am out of that relationship, divorced, no contact. Stress is now minimal, lost 30 lb- that weight was protection and resultant from cortisol from constant stress. Feel at peace now, Thank you Andrew. Now these videos are a reminder of where I was. Your info helped me get out. Free at last!! Still healing. Loving my inner child. Built new boundaries, feels like a castle with a moat. Single and staying that way. No more.
Me too😅
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That’s right, people thrive in healthy relationship and those who are getting abuse fall into depression, panic, despair the health starts deteriorate and yes your body naturally starts to protect itself from excess cortisol so you begin gaining weight.
Did you have children with him?
She actually admitted her life goes round and round in circles two years before I was set free,now I'm a work in progress,it's not been easy I can say! But so much better,god is good all the time❤
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As soon as you identify a person is a narcissist... go "no contact". Problem solved.
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Easier said than done when you have been in a trauma bond relationship with a spouse who is a narcissist for 40+ years always being made to feel you don’t deserve better😟 it takes a lot of counseling, introspection and sheer guts to finally realize you are the victim, not the other way round and the only way to escape is to close your mind and your door to them.
@@sharonyoung2041 Everything is "easier said than done". It takes "effort" to DO something. That's what life is.
The Trouble is when they come to visit..
They think I am a captive target, and just keep up their Monolog..
I don't say dam all, but they so FULL of their RUBBISH...
@@sharonyoung2041Well said Sharon. Silence is a tool we use I believe to stop taking the bait, but that alone won't fix them; it just gives us a little peace.
I'm an empath. He told everyone he got a good one this time when we first met I tolerated his gaslighting and mind games for 4 years. But he went too far and I ghosted him for 2 months. Then he decided to end the relationship and I calmly walked away and went no contact again. That was 9 months ago. His flying monkeys kept telling me he made a mistake and he was miserable. I blocked them too.
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True after a lot of suffering and feeling lost because I didn't t know why he s behaving in a strange way. I used to cry get angry to falling in the abym of depression. Now that I understand his motives I decided to withdraw and keep silent and never tell him my plans. To my surprise I see him shrinking and become polite and totally absent
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I was the best thing that has happened to him....24 years later i got out.....freedom is the best.
I am a psychiatrist. This is the most awesome video ever. Spot on! Thanks Andrew.
"They dont deserve one minute of our attention "...your videos are powerful Andrew..so good to see a person reclaim their love of life despite the past❤👏👏👏❤
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There is absolutely nothing that can truly make the narcissist happy.
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I would think that your silence means they KNOW you know. And you are not buying the BS anymore 😇
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Doesn’t seem like it. They keep trying anyway, after almost a year of gray rocking.
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I walked away from a narcissist 20+ years ago only to go through it again with my daughter 😢. I’m trying to find peace again and heal, having to walk away from my own child. It’s important to get therapy and heal, you are worthy of a happy life.
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What you have explained in this video describes most of my relatives. These evil psychotic narcos are the main reason why so many families are broken up in this world.
One of the last things the narcissist said to me with a grin was “So many people want me “
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😂 Like I've told mine...The devil didn't even want you and that's why he kicked you out of hell and now you're up here making me miserable!!!!
Go back home!!!
“They want the fake me”- says the narcissist
@@clareespina4018 yes it sounded that way and looked that way on her face bc she thought it was. Kinda funny , and she was looking forward to all the new fake games in the future , transactions , and the chase … she always said to me as well “ I can’t win with you “ . And I had no idea what she was talking about it . I told her it is not about winning it’s not a game .
The narc is so unaware they don't realize how ignorant they sound.😂
You just described me and my narcissistic spouse. Took me 17 years to figure out what was wrong with him. I’m still diving deeper into the rabbit hole. So glad I found you. ✔️👍💜
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Good for you. 22 years and i got out this summer. Healing and peaceful😊
I stuck at it for 12 years, until 3 months ago.
Took me 55years to realise what I was married to. Now living my best life. Thank you Andrew, I’m so glad I found your channel ❤🌞
I'm 17 years married to a narci (I call him a narci 'nar'sea') husband.
It's also gotten physical were he feels so angry he shoved me down then gets more angry and keeps repeating that I did it to myself. He's cheated by getting into a emotional relationship with his coworker and he would tell his friend he can't wait to have sex with her but I caught all this before those two got any closer to be comfortable enough to do so yet. He only stopped working with her and talking to her because I told him I was exposing those two and her own boyfriend can get involved and who knows what would have happened to my narci husband 🤕
He really knows how to pretend that things never happened or existed and gets all his emotions in to make him believable. I keep getting told I'm going to be homeless and I'm reminded how useless I am. I'm disabled btw.
I'm in the part of realizing what he is and I'm not the bad guy that I used to believe I was. I'm breaking out of the cycles of getting my feelings hurt and then blaming myself for it then being sorry for him .
Baby steps for me.
I have left the narcissist ex so many times over the past 15 years. I end up feeling sorry for him, go back, then leave. His powerful hooving tactic has always been money and incredible charm. Always short lived. He has zero emotional connection, always has.
26 yrs of a toxic cycle gone forever.
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did he procreate?
December 27th made 7 months narc free for me. I blocked all contact, and wow has my life only gotten better each and everyday. If you can, no contact is the way to go.
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Hi Andrew your words always ring true. You are the perfect example of what no contact and finding the healing path brings into our lives. You sound clear, strong and healthy. God bless.
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My silence means: "I Don’t Care"
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You describe my drug addicted narc daughter and my flying monkeys grandsons. I endured years of abuse, both physical and mental. My mother has a fatal stroke induced by the stress my daughter put her through. My daughter stole my inheritance. I kept trying to forgive and help. Went into debt, such long story. What kept me stuck was the memories of what she was. The person now is not who she was and I kept helping her in the hopes that I would get my once loving, caring, kind daughter back. I realize now it will never happen. Like you mentioned, she wanted to drag me down to her level, to take everything from me, and she even took my car and hit something, didn't tell me. The list goes on and I'm at a point where I'm done. She and her drug addict husband are living without electricity, no running water, and no vehicle out in a rural area. It's cold here now in South Carolina, but as far as I'm concerned, they can freeze to death. It makes me cry a lot because it is my daughter, but she and her husband are nothing but parasites that are sucking the life out of me. Time to get into survival mode.
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It's sad to have daughter that's a narcissist. I tried to fix her for year's. She finally told me I will never fix her. She came close to destroying my life. I've finally said goodbye to her.
I too have a narcissistic daughter. Got me to cosign her school loans and then quit her third year and sent a nasty text that said she wanted me out of her life. Left me with the tuition bill. Never saw it coming. What you saw was your daughter's mask and hoping to get her "old self" back won't happen because deep down they don't know who they are, so you never see the same person twice. It hurts but letting her go is the right thing. Stay strong and know that her decisions and predicaments are made of her own free will. God bless.
Dude this shit fired me up. Had the "lightbulb" moment last year and realized I was raised and manipulated by narcissists for 35 years. Went NC and they are not handling it well. Oh well. Chin up chumps! Thanks for these vids, they are supportive and enlightening
SILENCE IS GOLDEN! GOD BLESS! LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE WITH THE BEST AROUND YOU! NO LESS
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I'm so very broken by the narcissist in my life. Yours is the only voice saying anything that encourages me right now. Thank you, Andrew 🥺💗
Me too... Hugs sis ❤
Stay strong
Let him her go, leave them behind, and continue your happy life journey… I learnt to say no, set my boundaries and let go … it’s great. Do it. 🙏🏼🌷all the best. Act
This person has no right to abuse you & you deserve to be happy. Keep learning about narcissism and you will find your way out. No contact was the answer for me. 🕊️
Two more voices that will help you heal are, Dr Romani, who spent her entire career studying narcs. And Dr Phil.
I’ve had a life of being surrounded by these horrible people. I’m becoming an expert in dealing with them ..
Great presentation .
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I’m in the storm myself! I spend most my time outside. I live in the mountains 🏔️ and the fresh air, wind and rain 🌧️ is healing. ❤️🎰💕
The beautiful rain is indeed so peaceful. Thank you for your important messages, they really do help so very much. 🙏🦋What narcs do is emotional murder. I wish they could be legally prosecuted for their destructive abuse.
They are prosecuted by God in the spirit realm. 🙏🤍🪽
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Years of confusion. Life can be peaceful❤
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Thank you so much. You are so correct about our inner light. Rage against the dying of the light. If our conscience reflects on the Eternal Light that created us we can perceive it from our limited human perspective as Angelic Virtues. When our consciences are humbly aligned with God's Holy Will, we confidently follow God's Holy Will like the Charge of the Light Brigade - here are some of the deeper facets of the Eternal Divine Refection of Christ's Love.
The Lord rebuke our pride. The Lord bless our humility.
The Lord rebuke our greed. The Lord bless our charity.
The Lord rebuke our wrath. The Lord bless our kindness.
The Lord rebuke our envy. The Lord bless our patience.
The Lord rebuke our lust. The Lord bless our chastity.
The Lord rebuke our gluttony. The Lord bless our temperance.
The Lord rebuke our sloth. The Lord bless our diligence.
Be blessed, sir. This multi-faceted perception of God should not be conflated with God Himself. This is our human perception of our experiences of God’s interaction with us. But as James 1:17 yet states, every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. As 1 John 1:5 states, this then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
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Well said. A classic narc sign is someone who cannot be single and needs to always have a partner. A relationship that enss needs quite a bif of time to heal and reflect. People who jump into another relationship quickly scare me. 😮
That’s not necessarily true. Lots of narcissists are single.
@@terencehennegan1439 there's always someone on the back burner trust me. relationship hoppers are disconnected go their own well being.
High, low. Pushed, pulled... He did that to me.
It was hard to get my mind off the narc/trauma bond
I'm out now!
I'm thriving again
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Nothing more spiritual than being in the Heart of Nature and enjoying it. Makes you feel alive just by "being."
Andrew, you've worked hard, giving us the clear demarcation line- We are on one side of that line, free to be ourselves without the drudgery of listening to meaningless judgement , suffering the soul damaging and blood sucking of resources by these Narcissists. The other side of the line- Narcissists.
I love the rain . The rain sounds can calm and quiet the mind. 👍🤲🌨☔
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You are my people.
Thankful that you made it through. Good is stronger than evil, I have always believed.❤
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My brother my name is Michael I live in Portland oregon, I was discarded 4 months ago after 12 years of marriage after an argument my wife walked down the road I assumed to cool off and I haven't talked to her since, I was devastated I still am but I'm coming out of this trauma, I love this woman with everything I had I married her imperfections I had no idea what narcissistic was, but thanks to your video this is huge my friend I appreciate this so much that you put these videos out. This is just another part of understanding what I was going through and it really is a part of closure to me. Thank you man much love goes out to you I appreciate you so much keep up putting these videos out man you're helping people that are devastated because of Narcs!!! They are cruel
I just wanted to reiterate this is Michael again from Portland Oregon brother I went through the exact same thing you did surgeries she left me on the side of the road broke down in a motorhome with me and my cat in one of the drug-infested rat infested parts of Portland the biggest city in Oregon. She left, I threatened to commit suicide and she didn't even respond, that did it, I knew then she didn't love me like I did her,I literally saved this woman's life. Anyway thanks again I sure appreciate you brother. And I'm sorry you went through what I did, your story is just like mine!!! THANK YOU!
Threatening to commit suicide is a form of manipulation, & emotionally abusive!. My partner has been threatening suicide periodically for years, everytime he engages in irresponsible,immature behaviour,&,is called-out on same! Aggresively storming off, informing his family that he's going out somewhere to kill himself. We're left in a panic, worried sick! Always comes back hours,days later though. Emotional cruelty!
Thank you for this video. I thank God everyday for getting me out of this narcissistic relationship!!! Blessings to you for helping others through your videos.
I love rain too! Im glad to hear you are doing ok again..its so sad how another person can have such a huge impact on our lives in such a sneaky way..so happy you are here helping us work our way out of these messes with these narcs! The struggle is real. EDUCATE YOURSELF EVERYONE!
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Young people, please listen to Andrew. Stay out, please. You deserve lovely love.❣️
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oh the freedom of not being in those relationships again. I've been healed from them...but sad to watch others being taken in. God is faithful and I believe someday they will be exposed. Great Video...
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Wow! You described exactly what I went through. I was discarded, and one of his new girlfriends messaged me and told me he was a narcissist. That's when I did my research. One phrase that helped me a lot was, "The only way to win with a narcissist is not to play the game". I've stayed silent for years now even though he still tries to message me every now and then. I've healed and set my boundaries. I've also stayed single. Maybe I'm still a little scared, but that's ok. I'm happy. Thank you for this video. I'm glad you came out and healed as well. God Bless!
Andrew a heartfelt thank you for your passion, your personal sacrifice, and your determination to spread the message around the world about the devastating effects of Narcissistic Abuse!!!
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Checkmate - Game Over! Thank you Andrew for your suggestions and guidance - total silence - no contact. One step at a time.❤🙏🏻
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give yourself grace. forgive them not because they deserve it but because you did NOT deserve what they did! ❤
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The longer you stay the harder it will be to break free, the narcs drag you deeper and deeper into the abyss.
Glad to hear someone saying that they love the rain 🌧️
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It was a huge,huge, betrayal,,,but big lessons learned,,hard work But my life is now been transformed into a Better consciousness,,,,and I still have Empathy and Love for mankind,,,They didn't Take that or My Soul,,T.y. ANDREW ❤❤✨✨
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonemy silence is my currency,,t.y.Andrew for your help and inspiration,,Namaste ANDREW ❤️
Game Over Narcissists...
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Excellent video, thank you Andrew 🙏
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Checkmate. Bingo 👍
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No one, NO ONE can articulate these things unless they’ve been through it themselves. Great video. Very encouraging. I’m so sorry for the emotional abuse you endured to have this knowledge. I’ve been suffering in a marriage with a narcissist for almost 20 years, and I am just really surrendering to the facts of who my husband is now after learning about narcissism a few years ago online. It is an incredibly difficult journey. It is unfathomable how you can make someone hate you, just by wanting to give and receive love with each other and desire honesty and loyalty. They only want forbidden fruit. Nothing irritates them more than you wanting a healthy relationship. I am still in this marriage with children, but I am reclaiming my power through silence and living my life without waiting for him anymore. He seems confused…
I just start digging into what I’ve been living with. I have chronic pain from an auto immune issue and he just loves when I’m down. Never understood why he would bring me down when I was having a great pain free day. NOW I DO. It all makes so much sense. I too am still in this relationship due to children, but will be working slowly at the solution. I just couldn’t understand why I was able to get along with everyone else, but always had issues with only him. Thank you for the videos Andrew, I hope to be over the mountain and in the healing phase soon. Ty!
"A walking apology" describes how I felt most of the time. This is the best video I've seen on narcissistic abuse. Thank you for enlightening others and me. I've crossed over the bridge and met myself again. I like her!
I learned this from another video.
1. D-don’t Defend yourself.
2. E-don’t Explain yourself.
3. A-don’t Apologize
4. L-Don’t Lie.
“DEAL”
@@gb3776 thank you! Take good care.
Your videos are so helpful. I know he’s a horrible person and sometimes it’s so difficult not to open his texts and ignore him and I know his messages will be toxic and belittling but my love for him was real, even though I know the person I loved doesn’t exist. I still sometimes hold on to the false hope that he can change. Thank you for helping me stay strong. This is probably the most painful and difficult thing I’ve ever experienced. Thank you so very much and I’m so sorry you had to go through it to help people like me. ❤
" ... even though I know the person I loved doesn’t exist." --- That statement alone, speaks of how far you've come
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Please block them everywhere so that their texts don’t cause you pain. 😢
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Truly, No Contact is the best thing you can do for yourself - and him. And DO NOT respond to a hoover! Nuf said! Blessings.
Please know you’re not alone. I feel the same 😢❤
I really needed to hear this today!
I love the rain also!
Silence is golden! THANKYOU for reminder Andrew!
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Andrew, you know this exquisitely painful, scarred landscape so well. You're helping so many through this forum. Thanks, man.
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Thank you 😊 for sharing your wisdom. I was raised with a narcissistic mother and brother’s. I was the black sheep. I decided to remove myself from the equation and that was the best thing I could do for myself. I have no contact with my family. I have Peace in my life and it feels so good. And yes this is a difficult journey but I am healing ❤️🩹 and moving forward in my healing ❤️🩹 journey. Sending strength and encouragement to all on this task. I LOVE YOU 😘 💋
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I do NOT need the narc... wow... it feels good to be able to say that... I am worth more than how I was treated. 🕊😊 that is a beautiful misty, raindrenched background 🌫 ✌️❤
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@emilywilson7308 I just checked my Facebook account because I have a few family and friends that I sometimes reply to when I receive a notification. Otherwise, I avoid it like the plague...lol. too much drama and too many unsavory characters trying to take advantage of unsuspecting people. I received a message from someone who assumed another new identity, I suspected it was the same person that has repeatedly been trying to contact me, and I keep blocking 🚫 him. The information on the profile tells me that it is the same person. He wrote me a text on the comments section and called me honey... honestly..... it was an old post. I haven't updated or added any new posts in over a year. I didn't like that he called me honey and wanted to slap his face, but I took a deep breath, let it out slowly, and exited without wasting my energy on a response. Holiday hoover... and I will sleep just fine, and I have been making friends at church... healthy friendships 💖 I hope you have had a good day today. Take care of yourself Emily.
Loving this from London, I am definitely enjoying the silence. My healing has come❤❤
Heal sis, I'm healing from Belfast
Sending u love from London, we got this 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
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A lot of people ask me why I married my ex that was a narcissist but before we married he done everything right, then the day we got married and was on our honeymoon it started. I didnt chew my food right, dress or talk the right way. He told me I was an embarrassment in anything I did including being a mother and wife. He could never keep a steady job because of his attitude and after a while he sat a home while I worked 3 jobs and he never helped with house cleaning because that was womens work. And so didn't fix anything. But whatever broke was my fault. I found out one thing that I'm alot stronger than I thought or I wouldn't have made it otherwise. And anyone thats going or gone through that needs to remember. Your stronger than you thought you were! 🙏💋
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneboth of my siblings are severe narcissist and my mother was a Grandiose Narcissist , ,oral history about our Grandmother show that she was a malevolent narcissist , , ,🥶😬🥶😔
You are on fire 🔥
What you accept is what you get.
Remember that you only get one chance to live, one chance to love and one chance to learn. Be blessed.
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Hello Andrew. Your message brought tears to my eyes. Recently freed myself from a toxic relationship and my wounds are still very raw. Thank you for your wise, validating and encouraging words.
Namaste 🙏🏽
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Congratulations to you!! Yes the wounds are very raw and don’t think for a second that this is not normal. It is very normal and you will get better!!!
I will certainly ask God to help you in your healing. I know those raw wounds ... He is a compassionate Healer.
Never go back.. no matter what Never! Please know if they suck you back in for round 2 or 3 it only gets worse and harder to get out again, they are predator and think like predators so they stay steps ahead behind the scenes. Please know they will try to suck you back in and will promise you all the things you wanted ,but know these are only Lies, you will be 'punished ' for leaving them and they have been waiting for the perfect moment to hurt you for bruising their ego. Know they are all the same and their behavior predictable, they are not special, they are in truth a demon with the potential even to kill their victims, please keep yourself safe and give them zero amount of your time nor attention regards of what they say, even illnesses they will lie about to trap you, you deserve real love safety and freedom, none of which will ever come from your narc. Many Blessings!
It takes time to get through the trauma...
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Keep fighting for your happiness, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel ❤ I never thought I would find happiness again but I did. I am single and more happy and satisfied with my life than I ever was during my relationship.
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You are speaking the truth!!! I am officially today New Years 35 years into narcissistic abuse. I am in a very similar situation. The isolation. No contact eventually is so relieving to yourself and you see yourself!!There is every possibility that you can get out. Lean on God. Really, lean on him.
great stuff, I have been so beat down to the point of having a brain hemmorage. these narcissists are super evil.
The same thing happened to the actress Sharon Stone. When you look at her x ,no doubt there.
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Please take care, sendind you hugs. 🥰💕💕
I have zero contact with the narcs that were in my life. At first it was really hard and in my mind I saw it only as protection and I felt a lot of guilt. Now it's changed into empowerment, validation, clarity, a place of self love and respect I have never experienced in my life. I also went through the abandonment of so-called friends. I was alone. Outside of 1 friend, no one gave a damn. The monkeys only called to find out the bullshit to gossip about it. I had gotten down to 98 lbs. and was so outside of my body, in the twisted brain fog that I didn't realize I was becoming physically ill bc of the abuse of my x narc/husband. After 4 years of healing, I am healthier than I've ever been! I am so one with my Creator and the universe, peaceful and still within myself and my surroundings. All of the heartache, pain, confusion, doubt, fear has been acknowledged and hasn't put me back in their prison in a very long time. Never again. I love you all! Thanks for the listen and know to always have hope and always believe there is truth and happiness waiting for you.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thanks for your videos Andrew! You are changing lives for the highest and best good for everyone here! God bless 🙏🙌✨💫🌞
I agree and I am guessing many of the mean ones were jealous. Jealousy should not be minimized it causes people to behave in evil ways.@@odeltor8703
love the word parasite - that's exactly what he is! He discarded me June 2022 - good riddance! Thanks for your wisdom!!
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The rain is actually tears from others who left this earth they are responding to those left behind by tears. 😭 Amen Brother 🙏 you sharing your story. You are a strong soul thanks for sharing your story. I can relate its called the. BOHICA EFFECT. 🏃 RUN 💃
Hi Andrew! I love the sound of the rain! Very soothing! I too, chose to walk away! The text messages finally stopped when I did not acknowledge him existence I felt free! He stopped after a while! I felt happier! Thank you!
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OMG, be safe! ⛈️❤❤❤ you! And yes, love the rain too!
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Spot on! Glad to remove myself from that toxic relationship… I read a book some time ago called, “Hurt People, hurt people”.
You are spot on! I lost my love for being out in the rain too, and so much more. I actually lost myself…who I had been. When I became “aware”, the disbelief, grief and devastation was life-threatening and crippling emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, and the loss is vast, but channels like yours have been the life blood I needed to wrap my head around what just happened, and begin to heal. It led me to reaching out for help. The beauty and hope for the future now, now that I’m “aware”, is like a huge ray of warm light enveloping me. Getting through it was rough but on this side, I’m an upgraded version of the old me. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. Namaste.❤
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You look so healthy, even in that rain, I too love the rain..
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Don’t get sick out in that rain, Andrew! Thank you for your continued commitment!
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Ain’t nobody never got sick from the rain That’s just a trigger if you’re immune health is not optimal
Bless you Andrew..only a person who has been with a narc knows the complete cruelty we go through..it's like nothing u ever dealt with before..have to be with one to understand what they are capable of..most won't believe us
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True! I never had any idea such people existed! Now I can identify them around me. “Acquaintances” who i am sure are a nightmare to be in a relationship with. And friends who I now see clearly are that way with their spouses! Awful. Peace is better! Get out/stay out.
I like your perspective and the way you explain. So many friends and family don’t realize I went head to head with evil. He fractured my face in his final rage fit and I won, I’m done, gone and healing. I year ago.
Thank you for the video! It’s the high five I deserve after what I overcame.
Narc ex broke my jaw and he went to jail. Sent a message via a friend he wanted to reconcile when he got out I said no I’ve moved on . I’ve healed and learned boundaries . I also went no contact with my narc mum. Glad you have moved on and living your best life well done 🤣
Brilliant! Destructive & parasitic are definitely adjectives I agree with. I could add the phrase “soulless beings” to that list too. Thank you for helping me/the collective heal!💯🩵🙏🏼
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Andrew you are on fire today apart from the rain 🔥🔥☔️💧☔️
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Oh Andrew! How right you are! My narcissist, husband’s favorite name for me is, “Hey”. he doesn’t like calling me by my real name. This is been going on for quite a while and he’s never been empathetic to me. we’ve been married almost 42 years and I’m not happy. he doesn’t like making me happy in a personal way. So sad😵💫😖😟
OMG Andrew! I'm so sorry that you had to go through such a horrible experience!!😢😢😢 I'm so glad your still here. Your doing amazing things with this negative experience. Thank you for that.❤
Yep discarded two years ago but I had realised what he was before he left. I had stopped giving away my power to him. I had learned he was a taker and boundary crasher . I am now silent towards him and very glad he left. I don’t talk much about it because unless you have gone through it you just wouldn’t get it. He has new supply. I do pray for his new supply that she will see faster than I did. 12 years!! I am a narc survivor and I give God thanks for this. God kept me sane and showed me what was going on. Your videos are important to people who need validation and beginning their healing journey. It’s amazing being free from this, I am so full of gratitude❤
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Dear Andrew, Your clear cut way about this is exactly what I needed for my peace of mind today. Here in Germany we’re big about Advent… all the weeks leading up to Christmas… and it’s hard with the memories of the family, even if they’re an evil lot. My stepfather and all the flying monkeys in my family excluded me from my mother’s funeral this summer… and now it’s my first Christmas without her. Of course the rest of the family all make sure I know how they all happily celebrate together - and ohhh how willingly they would welcome me back into the fold if only I would apologize for my wrongdoing (of calling out my stepfather for betraying my mother while she was on her deathbed). Oh well… It’s just very soothing to have your reassurance in this dark time. I hope you have a lovely holiday season!
I have learned that people in general don't want the truth.
I am a truth- teller too and it gets me in trouble.🔆
@@emilywilson7308 A proverb from Mongolia (of all countries 😅) says that if you want to tell the truth you should have a fast horse 🐴 😅
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@@macareuxmoine😆 true. I like that quote 😆
@@macareuxmoine😂 That's a great proverb!
God bless you and all watching this. ❤ this hits me beautifully!
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you speak so much truth that has helped me so much. I appreciate you. Have had many narcissistic people in my life and all that you say I do instinctively. Praise. Keep up the blessings and teachings! Much love. Also I miss NC. Hope to come back soon. To the beautiful blue ridge.
You’re awesome, Andrew ❤. You went through this alone & I did too. You describe the years OC hell to a T. Thank you for your videos-for letting me know that I’m NOT totally alone & that someone else understands the parasitic monster I had to waste money having cremated after he died. I had to spend the last 2 years of his dishonest, cowardly life as his caretaker as he was dying of kidney cancer. I’m so glad he’s gone, and I’ve risen from the ashes like a phoenix, like you ❤.