It’s like I dropped off the face of the earth. I’d rather be alone than be with people who are supposed to love and protect you just try to end your life. Keep strong and keep fighting my friend. ❤
@@gerryberg5466 It’s so crazy that by the time you finally leave you have to relearn your likes and dislikes and even hobbies. It’s painfully beautiful. We get to reinvent ourselves! ❤️
Agreed. Am much happier without them in my life, and felt more alone when they were in my life because I couldnt count on them to do anything except aggravate me and cause drama.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone The comment here "No response is a response". I heard once that when we REACT towards someone and say something like "you MADE me angry" you're giving that person power over you, power over your emotions which I have done all my life. I have been emotionally unstable all my life, and after having found this channel, I hope I can heal and become emotionally wise, level headed and mature.
I have gone zero contact. I have a box of photos, documents etc that I need to return to him. I have yet to mail it though. I don’t want to open the door to neither positive nor negative communication. I am torn as to how to get the box back to him without him thinking I am reaching out, or worse, that I am being nice to him/miss him. Nope!
Everything Andrew says is true. I've had one on one sessions with him and I have never been as understood so quickly by anyone. I can't recommend him enough as a therapist. I'm at a wellness retreat and all I want is a session with Andrew. So much pain has come up.
@@michelleelms9411 my question would be *why* do you have to return a box of photos and documents? Do you really need to? If it’s not absolutely necessary I wouldn’t bother. You’re agonising over something that may not even be required 🤔
EXACTLY. I had a "friend" who invited me to go out with her on a Saturday because she didn't have any plans. I sent a text on Saturday morning to see if she wanted to meet up in the afternoon. No response until Tuesday when she wanted something from me. I said, nope...you made plans to go out with me and then ghosted me. In her lying mind, she thought we made plans on Sunday and proceeded to tell me she had plans on Saturday to go on a wine and painting thing. She couldn't even bother to scroll up to my text to see I sent the meeting time on Saturday. I said, so you ghosted me so you could go out with your other friends to a wine event? She knew she was caught in a lie and I wasn't falling for her damage control BS. She even tried to tell me she respected my feelings. I told her, you really need to think about that because if she had ANY respect for me, she would have called or text to cancel. Yeah, we aren't friends anymore. I know the signs and I'm not falling for it.
@@TheDerangedBlood Just blocked two "friends" who were nothing but users. I gave and gave into the friendship and realized they would cancel and be late and never valued my time or had any respect for my loyalty. Bye narcs! Blessings to you!❤
Yes! I got a message from the Narc ending things, I know he expected a reaction. I never reply or question his actions. I am radio silent and I know it's killing him. He did it before and came back and confessed how depressed and sick he was. He begged for a second chance but because I set my boundaries he disappeared lol. It's neither here or there with me this time.
I wish I knew more about this before I started a relationship with him He was a completely different person at first until he got me trapped Upstate Just seeing a mountain triggers me I’ll get back to myself, almost there In the name of Jesus Christ Amen 🙏🏼
Don't defend yourself , explain , engage , or correct them. Don't call them out . . .😮 It's eye opening just how many there are . Circular conversations that turn into a tornado rage .
I'm beginning to think the world has more Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etc. than 'normal' healthy people. We need our own world to enjoy peace.😮
My Narc told me a few months ago, “ You will never know me. You have to peel back so many layers.” Well in my calling him out text , I said I peeled you like an onion.
I agree there should be classes in school focused on personality disorders, namely the cluster B's. Kids should be aware of how to identify mentally ill abusive people
You came into my life a few years ago right after I fought back a horrible Narccist and still fighting for my rights through court. I’m stronger now and much better. I will never get trapped again.
I went through it in court as well my daughter is now 34 wants nothing to do w him. He exposed himself in court and to his daughter just wait on it. They never truly win! The justice system is seeing them more now than ever. ❤ be strong 🙏💕
What's sad is that you don't just want to enjoy the movie, it's that you want to enjoy the movie with 'them'.. the person you thought you fell in love with, who never existed..😓
Oh my gosh I am learning so much from you Andrew. You describe the narcissist that yes, I didn't know what I was dealing with, So right on Every time. It's like So draining & confusing. Thank you you wonderful man and I hope you are having a Beautiful day 🌞
Yes! This is where I am. Letting go of him is no problem. Letting go of the persona he presented the first 6 months of a 3.5 year"relationship" is istill ncredibly painful. I have come to understand how important NC is for my healing.
They want you to accept the disrespect, the lies, the manipulation without questioning them. Questioning their behavior is not an option for the Narcissist. It’s their way or the highway. There is no negotiation, no conversation because they are not open to any of these.
They don’t see anybody as having their own autonomy. Everybody in their circle is just a snapshot of what they want them to be. Its their littke fantasy world and if you don’t play Then you have destroyed their little snapshot in their head, and it makes them go crazy. Everybody has a role to play in the narcissist life because they’re looking for their identity. It’s a very sick illness but unfortunately their victims suffer twice as much. I’m the mother of a 30 year old, female narcissist. I am going through it right now. I’ve been in her Stonewall discard phase for about 40 days. But this time it’s different because it’s starting to affect my physical and mental health like never before. I know it’s hard when it’s a partner or an extended family member, or a coworker but when it’s your child, it’s almost virtually impossible to close that door. The pain is ridiculous. And as a loving mom, all I’ve done is try to figure out where I went wrong believe me I’ve been studying this for six years. The only thing I came up with was that I may have overprotected her but still, if you knew the whole backstory you would be over protective too. But in the same vein, I had a strictness to me but I believe it was normal like do your homework can’t date till you’re 16. I think I was a pretty normal mom and I know I showed her all the love I have in my heart and now six years since she left she’s extorted over $20,000 from me and pretty much suck the life and joy out of me. But when I listen to these videos, it’s really not hard to put anybody in that seat whether it’s your child, your husband, wife, boyfriend, etc. the behaviors are exactly the same sadly they don’t. Care. If it’s their mom or even their own child, they really are borderline possessed.
My narc bought the house across the street from me and I have blocked every avenue for him to communicate with me. He sits on his front porch and stares at my house when he isn't at work. I am definitely tasked, tested and tried. I am proud of my silence. Once I finally understood the power of my silence my healing process was expedited significantly. 🙏💛
@@amiblack8294 I wish it were that simple. I've been here 15 years. He doesn't stay anywhere very long. I pretend he doesn't exist and I document/video anything concerning. Also our police department has a support system that knows everything & they keep a running journal on all of my concerns. It was so much worse when he first did it because I was absolutely mortified and reactive which he loved. Now I have black out curtains and stained glass window film on the front of my house and I use the rear entrance etc. It really is bazaar and hasn't been easy to endure or navigate by any means. My complete silence put the balance and control in my favor.
19:40 "Your silence does the talking for you. It really does. So close the chapter. Block them, delete them, etc." "Do not accept a Hoover. Understand that Narcissist just wants to keep you in a manipulation game. They want to keep you trap in that cycle." "The more people they keep in that abuse, the better off it is for them, and the worse off it is for you."
I fell for the, "Oh, he's just an old high school friend". For 15 years she cheated with him until I caught them together. I feel so dumb for falling for it
That's why I stay away from women with male "friends". A lot of these types do that to have men on the back burner ready to go for a monkeybranch, and for cheating.
Don't feel bad about it. You were masterfully manipulated. Of course you would not have known about it. Because you've never known people that do things like that. They're not like other people. Give yourself a break. At least you're out of it now, and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take care of yourself!
I understand how you feel.😢 My adult child caught their Dad cheating with his hs girlfriend. We are in our 50's. I had no idea- the humiliation, lies, devastation, etc. brought me to my knees at first. After some time and the most amazing support system, I realized I was way better than this and didn't deserve to be treated like trash. I wasn't the problem, he was. Two years later, I'm much happier and in an amazing place. I still have moments of sadness and reflection, but they are fewer and fewer each day. We are all worth SO much more. Don't let these fools ruin your life. YOU ARE AMAZING.
3 months full NC, your daily videos are a lifesaver Andrew. Possibly quite literally. Her behaviour was so shady I spent a year in therapy but have now risen from the ashes, a new low in life she sent me to, and I'm a better person for it. Thanks for your channel and thanks to this community x
Thanks Andrew- you are absolutely 💯 % correct. TIME is our most valuable asset. Don't waste your time or energy, once it's gone you can't get it back. Spend your time as carefully as you would spend your money. Please don't waste your time. 🙏 ❤️
Knowing when to be silent, honoring being silent and choosing to be silent- is also how you win and take your power back. Thank you Andrew for your tireless efforts, I appreciate it very much! ❤🙏🐬
today, I stripped off all of the acctrimonts of gold and precious metals that I had been gifted to me,from my fam and had them melted , all the talismans with everything.. Forgive yourself. Turn the page. No more!
"You are damned if you do, damned if you don't" Spot on Andrew.. Dont !! One of the most precious things I've discovered since refusing any narcissist to darken my day is the fact i will never explain myself to anyone, ever again. I have no need, i am me, i do the right thing, treat everyone with respect, that is all anyone needs to know. If someone demands more than this, they have the problem, not you Much love, everyone 😊
My daughter (40). After decades of trying to help her, lead her to health and light, love her through it all… I’m now choosing me. It’s painful. But I can’t allow it any longer. It tried desperately, for decades, to protect her from her father’s (narc) influences…and yet. She has become one. And I’m now letting it be. To protect my heart and my soul. To protect my peace. Sending love to all….❤
It took me a long time to realize my silence was so much louder than my words. But now that I know, it literally feels so powerful because I’m not giving any attention or energy to the narcissist, and our silence eats them up, they hate it! Stay strong! Thanks Andrew 🙏🏽
There is no need to explain, they are not able to understand and they will never change. Even if they know they have gone to far, they will do everything to glue their mask. Nothing has been done/said only for you, everything was just for their advantage.
Silence is a friend to those of us who’ve come through. Thank you for the reminders. There was a broad list of all the things the narcissists want…how about we don’t give them what they want and just keep silent. Learning this is invaluable. Stay warm everyone. Mighty chilly 🥶 these days 🙏❤️
Thank you Andrew! Your videos help me stay strong and stoic. I’ve started to feel indifferent at times, but it’s like an addiction and he’s still on my mind too often.
Please stay strong❤ I’d rather live on an abandoned island by myself then ever go back to my abuser! It’s been 2 yrs since I blocked him on everything and I just keep getting stronger😅 Thanks Andrew I watch you regularly!
Oh wow, I just commented on that. It's almost a year for me, I live in an area where there are a lot of natives, he is native, and there are tons of specials and there's all kinds of special things going on for natives, stories on PBS, etcetera. I can't tell you how many times a day I am reminded of him and it's a very very hard time for me. I just have to keep remembering all the bad things and just found it through my head that this man not only didn't love me, but deliberately caused me pain. Good luck to both of us, it's a new year, take care of yourself!🎉❤
As far as being fashionably late, making an entrance, I have a really great example. One time, he told me that he and his brother had rented a hotel room for a concert. And then he told me that his brother went home early and he wanted me to come over. Now for all I know, he had a woman in there before I went over there. Anyway, we got dressed to go downstairs for drinks, he asked me to wear a certain outfit, a very flowy outfit. Great big flowy palazzo pants and a Gauzy looking blouse. He got all dressed up in his black jeans black leather vest white shirt boots, with his long flowing black native hair which really contrasted with my short white hair. When we got to the door he said, there's a different entrance on the other side that has a long stairway that goes down right to the bar, I want to go in over there and make an entrance. And honestly, we did get a lot of attention, we were a striking couple with the way that we dressed in the way our looks complimented each other. We constantly got compliments about that. But yes for sure he had to make certain entrances. One time I think he forgot himself as we were going into our local bar, and as we got to the door, he said out loud, shoulders back chin up. He was speaking to me and telling me what I should do before we walked in, or else he was telling himself, and I just overheard him.. Yeah he was a real piece of work.
"The narcissist will come at you in different shapes and forms" and until you get the wisdom and apply it, this lesson will still be taught to you (us) over and over. Once we get this lesson and apply the knowledge, these narcs will be repelled and we will move onto the next Life lesson. Thank you, Andrew, for this great video with all the examples. Silence is a very powerful tool to deal with narcissists. I have seen from personal experience that silence isn't tolerated well by a narcissist. "Your silence does the talking for you." as you said in the video. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
The hardest part is knowing you fell in love with someone who didn’t exist. I’ve experienced it all, the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the mental abuse. But I’m finding it impossible to let go and move on. 😢
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone it’s comforting to know I’m not alone and sending much love to anyone going through this, but why do I still miss him and love him despite everything? Why can’t I just let go? I feel like I’m losing my mind. It’s so strange and hard. I enjoy your channel it gives me some comfort trying to understand it all.
@@sagenosnibor9173 thank you for your kind words. I’ll just take one day at a time. Baby steps. Just wish the pain would go away. It’s been over a year now.
I think you're Exactly Right Andrew...They do prefer negative supply it brings them happiness to keep you manipulated and miserable.. Even when they do you wrong and gas light you every morning and every night they will blame you. Beware!
"YOUR SILENCE is SINCERELY a SUPER POWER. YOUR SILENCE DOES THE TALKING FOR YOU... ITS MORE POWERFUL THAN YOUR WORDS. You want to be FOCUSING ON YOURSELF but PAYING ATTENTION, You want to be OBSERVANT, You want to be SILENT, You want to be STOIC, You want to be CENTERED, You want to be CALM, You want to be LIVING in THE PRESENT MOMENT, You want to be LEARNING THE LIFE LONG LESSONS FROM THE PAST NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP and APPLYING THEM TO PRESENT DAY , You DO NOT WANT TO BE PREDICTING THE FUTURE. -ANDREW (from the Beautiful Carolinas) aka SENSEI
My narc's partner told me she would be 30 mins late for a small gig in my village when I called at her house so I went by myself, Her anger was priceless, my satisfaction was golden
My narc continues to message me with how much he loves and misses me then turns right around and tries and make me feel sorry for him that I left. I refuse to answer and engage with him. He gets very angry when I don’t respond to him. He put me through hell and now that I’m finally free I won’t waste another minute on him. I have peace for the first time in my adult life.
This resonates with me Andrew because I got gaslit and intimacy withheld from me by my ex Mark. I never knew when his next rage fit was going to be. I got hit too. I am so glad I am not with him anymore.
My ex Mark is so narcissistic he is still badmouthing me to other people behind my back just to play the victim card…. Thank you for your videos Andrew. Reminds me that I am a woman of high worth and value and that I have a bright shining light. I deleted and blocked him from my phone and Cashapp. Namaste Andrew. I love you. ❤
My parents tormented me Most of my life !! Even when we always had distance !so I was a silent & stoic person,now they have left the planet, there is silence & peace !!! ,Its very strange that I can now break my own silence !!!!Its very strange To hear my voice again !!! To be free ...
Been 4 years now since I went no contact.. They've tried twice to hoover back.. Once a year and a half after breaking contact and recently from a new phone.. That's why I was going through all these videos again so I'm not tempted to message back.. Silence is golden
I was discarded after 34 years of marriage and have lost my entire support system after an extensive smear campaign. Unfortunately we will need to coexist as we are expecting our 1st grandchild in April. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for all of your videos and insight, I had no idea that this sort of evil even existed.
I don't "Coexist" with him and we have children, and grandchildren together. I'm strict NO CONTACT. I don't visit my children, and grandchildren at the same time that he visits them.
It’s been almost two years since the narc packed her bags , she tried contacting me different times and gets silence, now I enjoy my peace and being alone.
When you realize there is no reasoning with them, the nonsense that comes out of them at times is ridiculous. When you realize there is not one thing you can say at all the best thing you can do is stay is silent.
Coming up on one year February 25th. Be vigilant, stay vigilant, because, if you don't have him completely blocked from calling you, on facebook, blocked from texting you, you could fall back in and it's worse than ever. It happened to me about 3 years ago. I had not spoken to him in one year in 3 months, and instead of just blocking his number, I had completely removed it so I didn't recognize it when the call came through, I answered and just before I did I realized it was his number. I should have just hung up. It was my birthday, and you know how they just love to get you all emotional or catch you off-guard on special days to try to Hoover you back in. But, we ended up getting embroiled for only about 4 weeks, and of course he pulled his same garbage again. Don't go back don't go back don't go back! Good luck and congratulations on one year!
@@marcialussier2467 Thank you Marcia! You are right. I have left before and always got suckered in again believing his lies. 40 yrs and I've had enough. I needed this path to show me that they REALLY don't care💖 much love to you & all who are on this journey💖
I’m doing this right now it’s so difficult because I’m used to talking to this person and when I do they pick through everything criticize everything cut me off and turn around and walk and do something else when I’m trying to explain myself but when it’s their turn I have to have complete Surrender to them. I have to listen to every word they say they get real close and get in my feed I don’t know and I’just had it so I’m willing to be silent because every word I say is either wrong criticized or manipulated why this is now in my feet I don’t know, but I need this more than ever.
6 years no contact and only wish I had done it sooner. Life is peaceful, joyful and enjoyable without them. I walked away from my entire toxic, dysfunctional family but gained so many positive things in doing so :) Andrew is sooooo right about the Narcissist coming after you but you have to be strong and stand your ground which means maintain your silence. The first letter I got from my mother after going No Contact was her attempt at financial extortion. The last letter I received from my mother told me to burn in hell (among other things). A year later came the phone call from her flying monkey about the potential heart attack she was having at 2:00 in the morning. My silence spoke volumes then and still does now. I don't hate them; I refuse to hate anybody because that's not who I am. I choose to feel sorry for them and still wish them well in life but I'm not going to part of that life under any circumstances. Thank you for putting things in perspective, Andrew and giving people strength, education and support :)
Went through similar circumstances. It's surreal & mind blowing when u are disposed of so easily, w no remorse or atleast a clear explanation, by a parent, whether narc or not. Reptilian comes to mind....
I have been silent for 4 weeks and she came back last night. She sent me three texts, saying she misses me and other things. Then she called me. I didn’t respond or answer the phone call. This morning 9am she writes me a long goodbye text about how I make her smile and she’s been thinking about us for the past few weeks but that she’s going to delete my number. I haven’t responded. What is up with these people?? Stay strong.
Stay strong and ignore her, if you don't you'll have to go through it, again, the discard, the pain, until you learn it's all rinse and repeat, it's your ego you're giving into! Next time she'll fling you further read farther and your landing will hurt more, block her, end the game, she's not going to change!
I just want to cry. Almost this whole relationship (and we live together in my home) he just disappears for weeks saying he is working and won’t answer the phone and barely texts and never brings home any money. I deal with it bc I don’t want to be alone. When he is here, he is the most intimate person on earth and we do everything together. But there have been so many lies and manipulation wirh money. I don’t even want to say how much I have given him as I am so embarrassed. When I question him about money he gets angry but has his hands out all the time. I’m in therapy now, but sooo trauma bonded. I’m such an empath. Do I have to act like a Narc to get love?
Well, the narc finally got his wish that I "move on. "... lol. Silence is golden... a hard lesson to learn and has been hard to do because there was a time when I was like a ghost. Invisible until he had a use for me in order for him to get something useful for him from me. That was forced silence. I have learned to speak out, but at times, I become silent for introspection so I can focus on how to become a better version of my true authentic self.
You have been a major help in me realizing who I was dealing with after being discarded. The signs were there , but I was not conscious of what was going on at the time. Thank you sir for the videos, I appreciate it.
I blocked an ex-best friend 4 years ago and she’s tried to get the last word by texting me in a different number and I still didn’t respond and blocked that number too. She doesn’t my energy anymore after disrespecting boundaries, avoiding accountability, being manipulative and throwing me under the bus multiple times while appearing as a saint to others. I was blinded by it all and thought I might be overreacting like she’d claim. A major red flag that I missed was she’d pat herself on the back after we served food at a homeless shelter. I’m GLAD I don’t have to deal with her anymore!
No going back for more abuse. Time, energy, and effort go to those I have a mutual, reciprocal, respectful relationship with. Buh bye toxicity, and hello love! 💕 the only way.
Thanks to narcissists I now suffer with social anxiety ptsd and panic attacks when trying to sleep at night.All I wanted to do was achieve and push forward in life but narcissists will try and drag you down and distroy everything you have and get people on there side.
The Narcissist in my life is in God’s hands I understand I can’t help & get hurt anymore 😢 thank you Brother & community 🙏🏼 for the support, love & push toward healing ❤️🩹
My Narc mother has always treated my sisters better than me , because she’s has so much control over them , but not me . I once told her that I’m not asking your permission on how I should live my life . My Mother turned my sisters against me many years ago . I have low contact with her now .I would always feel so bad from either being around her or talking to her on the phone. Her voice along would make me cringe.
Silence and no contact is protection. I had a hoover and talked to him by phone. He was so sweet, so nice but it was clear what he wanted. Information, "friendship" and that I should do something for him. He wanted to tell me, that misses me although he had several new "one-time-supplies", that he has no money to pay the rent etc. Of course I am still his love of his life, of course we both are the dreamteam.. and he was in therapy which proofed that he is no narcissist only a bit manipulative....than I caught him lying. Immediately his mask felt off - screaming, shouting, using bad words before he hang of the phone. They will never change, their words are poison. It took me 2 weeks after the call to get this poison out of my head. The feeling of being abused was so present, the memories came back, just hearing this voice. He got what he wanted, he was back in my mind, I was thinking about him! I will definitely not brake the no contact again!
Andrew, I wish that were down there with you right now. It's cold here in south central Pennsylvania. 🥶 😅 But it's a good day to be narcissist free. 🙏😊
Thank you for your life affirming videos. I met my ex BF almost a year ago. He was the first man I became involved with in 6 yrs. I saw red flags in the beginning and stayed vigilant. 3 weeks ago, he handed me a bouquet of red flags. We were riding bikes. I had not been on a bike in 10 yrs. While we were riding, he took me on a steep path. I stopped myself from crashing by leaning on the fence at the top of the steep hill. A week later , we were riding around his neighborhood. He was behind me, went around me, and cut me off. I couldn't stop and hit his bike, which ended in me taking a horrible fall. I landed hard onto the pavement and fractured my wrist. I need my hands to work as I'm an Aesthetician. He knew I was starting a new job in a few days. When I crashed into his bike, he had a smirk on his face. At first I accepted it was just an accident. A few days later, we were driving in his car. He was going 45mph. He undid my seat belt and pretended to open the car door. We weren't arguing or fighting in any way. He laughed at me when I became scared He proceeded to tell me a horrific story about a friend of his who had a wife jump out of the car, and he ran over her, and she died. Alarms went off. It took me a day to process this. I ended our relationship right then and there. Of course, he called me crazy and accused me of overreacting. I went no contact. I'll never speak to him again. He will never see me nor hear my voice. His sister begged me to give him another chance. She let it slip he has BPD. She stated that due to his mental illness, I needed to be more accepting. I told her, "I'm done." The year of mental manipulation and covert abuse led up to me being injured to the point of losing 4 to 6 weeks of income. People, malignant abusers will not stop at emotional abuse if we let them. They will physically harm us if we are doing better than they think we should be. Please love yourself and watch for red flags.
Just went no contact with a narcissist guy I’ve been dating for 3 years. The words you speak couldn’t be more true! I spent so much time explaining myself. Constantly feeling interrogated. Why did I just hang up? Why didn’t I say I love you? On and on! The smear campaign is what I’m dealing with now! I am a serious empath and he took total advantage of me! Financially abused, mentally abused. This is a multiple of toxic relationships I’ve been in! The worse part, I taught him what to use against me!
OMG, you speaking so much volume!! He told me he healed and saw a therapist, ask for second chance, just when I was thinking about it, he disappear again. You know Narc very well! Thank you sir...
True True, one crazy thing I also experienced is, the X would wake me up in the middle of the night and accuse me of things I did in her dreams, I would have to explain myself to her on why I did what I did to her in her dreams. What was I thinking Hahaha
It’s like I dropped off the face of the earth. I’d rather be alone than be with people who are supposed to love and protect you just try to end your life. Keep strong and keep fighting my friend. ❤
I agree. I would rather be alone too. I am learning to love myself now.
@@gerryberg5466 It’s so crazy that by the time you finally leave you have to relearn your likes and dislikes and even hobbies. It’s painfully beautiful. We get to reinvent ourselves! ❤️
Agreed. Am much happier without them in my life, and felt more alone when they were in my life because I couldnt count on them to do anything except aggravate me and cause drama.
@@amiblack8294 It was actually MORE painful being around the fakes than being sick and alone. ❤️
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Remember no response is a response.
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No contact is sublime. ❤
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone The comment here "No response is a response". I heard once that when we REACT towards someone and say something like "you MADE me angry" you're giving that person power over you, power over your emotions which I have done all my life. I have been emotionally unstable all my life, and after having found this channel, I hope I can heal and become emotionally wise, level headed and mature.
"I'd rather learn how to adjust my life without you in it, than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespectfulness".
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Well said ,so true ,the constant walking all over me game really hurt me a lot😮😢
Poetic!!!
So did you?
Silence is golden 👍 The less you say the better - it gives them nothing to work with 😁
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I have gone zero contact. I have a box of photos, documents etc that I need to return to him. I have yet to mail it though. I don’t want to open the door to neither positive nor negative communication. I am torn as to how to get the box back to him without him thinking I am reaching out, or worse, that I am being nice to him/miss him. Nope!
Everything Andrew says is true. I've had one on one sessions with him and I have never been as understood so quickly by anyone. I can't recommend him enough as a therapist. I'm at a wellness retreat and all I want is a session with Andrew. So much pain has come up.
@@michelleelms9411just send it.. you don’t need to add any message, silence.
@@michelleelms9411 my question would be *why* do you have to return a box of photos and documents? Do you really need to? If it’s not absolutely necessary I wouldn’t bother. You’re agonising over something that may not even be required 🤔
"NEVER ALLOW SOMEONE TO BE YOUR PRIORITY WHILE ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE THEIR OPTION." Blessings to all! ❤
Yupe, that was me!!!!!
EXACTLY. I had a "friend" who invited me to go out with her on a Saturday because she didn't have any plans. I sent a text on Saturday morning to see if she wanted to meet up in the afternoon. No response until Tuesday when she wanted something from me. I said, nope...you made plans to go out with me and then ghosted me. In her lying mind, she thought we made plans on Sunday and proceeded to tell me she had plans on Saturday to go on a wine and painting thing. She couldn't even bother to scroll up to my text to see I sent the meeting time on Saturday.
I said, so you ghosted me so you could go out with your other friends to a wine event? She knew she was caught in a lie and I wasn't falling for her damage control BS. She even tried to tell me she respected my feelings. I told her, you really need to think about that because if she had ANY respect for me, she would have called or text to cancel.
Yeah, we aren't friends anymore. I know the signs and I'm not falling for it.
@@TheDerangedBlood Just blocked two "friends" who were nothing but users. I gave and gave into the friendship and realized they would cancel and be late and never valued my time or had any respect for my loyalty. Bye narcs! Blessings to you!❤
@@lourdesecheverria6209 We seriously need to find better friends. It seems almost impossible this day and age which is really, really sad.
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Narcissists crave attention and a reaction. This gives them fuel. By going silent, you are speaking to them in volumes by denying what they crave.
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Yessss!!!!👍🏼
For sure! The sweetest revenge. 💗
Yes! I got a message from the Narc ending things, I know he expected a reaction. I never reply or question his actions. I am radio silent and I know it's killing him. He did it before and came back and confessed how depressed and sick he was. He begged for a second chance but because I set my boundaries he disappeared lol. It's neither here or there with me this time.
Wishing so much I knew these things months ago. 😢
Silence suffocates the narcissist
Oh!!! That’s good. Great comment. Thankyou. I’m writing that down!!!😊
I wish I knew more about this before I started a relationship with him
He was a completely different person at first until he got me trapped Upstate
Just seeing a mountain triggers me
I’ll get back to myself, almost there
In the name of Jesus Christ
Amen 🙏🏼
I BLOCKED 🚫 THEM AND LEFT THE SCENE! HE CAN'T FIND ME!! GAMES OVER I WON 🏆...
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I thought same. they found a way in. I am strong. I did get away. and stayed away. and maintain my silent zero-contact..
Don't defend yourself , explain , engage , or correct them. Don't call them out . . .😮 It's eye opening just how many there are . Circular conversations that turn into a tornado rage .
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Yes. They can never be wrong. It’s a waste of time to try & reason w/them. It will get very ugly if you do.
been there it is never ending waste of time and energy
I'm beginning to think the world has more Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, etc. than 'normal' healthy people. We need our own world to enjoy peace.😮
NO POINT TO LET THEM GO FREE IN THEIR BEHAVIOR. GONNA CALL THE C*NT OUT AGAIN.
Classy is when a lot to say but chose to remain silent in front of fools.....
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The word classy - illustrates lacking it it.
Yes!!!
Yessss ! So hard to do however I’m doing it
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I discovered silence drives them crazy.
My Narc told me a few months ago, “ You will never know me. You have to peel back so many layers.” Well in my calling him out text , I said I peeled you like an onion.
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I would add to that - ‘You must know that opera song ‘ Mi mi mi mi mi mi..’
I agree there should be classes in school focused on personality disorders, namely the cluster B's. Kids should be aware of how to identify mentally ill abusive people
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That would expose the Politicians, Dr's, etc. They would rather they remained hidden.
You came into my life a few years ago right after I fought back a horrible Narccist and still fighting for my rights through court. I’m stronger now and much better. I will never get trapped again.
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They will try to break you mentally. You have to have pride.
You’re nutts
I went through it in court as well my daughter is now 34 wants nothing to do w him. He exposed himself in court and to his daughter just wait on it. They never truly win! The justice system is seeing them more now than ever. ❤ be strong 🙏💕
Silence and absence. And no communication. And stop romanticizing it🙏
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Lost many years for nothing. Glad to finally be free.
me too.
Me too.
Today was a good day. Feeling stronger. The hurt is less. Thank you Andrew and this wonderful family of kind people.
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What's sad is that you don't just want to enjoy the movie, it's that you want to enjoy the movie with 'them'.. the person you thought you fell in love with, who never existed..😓
Lots of sad things but it's not our fault!
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Oh my gosh I am learning so much from you Andrew. You describe the narcissist that yes, I didn't know what I was dealing with, So right on Every time. It's like So draining & confusing. Thank you you wonderful man and I hope you are having a Beautiful day 🌞
Yes! This is where I am. Letting go of him is no problem. Letting go of the persona he presented the first 6 months of a 3.5 year"relationship" is istill ncredibly painful. I have come to understand how important NC is for my healing.
They want you to accept the disrespect, the lies, the manipulation without questioning them. Questioning their behavior is not an option for the Narcissist. It’s their way or the highway. There is no negotiation, no conversation because they are not open to any of these.
They don’t see anybody as having their own autonomy. Everybody in their circle is just a snapshot of what they want them to be. Its their littke fantasy world and if you don’t play Then you have destroyed their little snapshot in their head, and it makes them go crazy. Everybody has a role to play in the narcissist life because they’re looking for their identity. It’s a very sick illness but unfortunately their victims suffer twice as much. I’m the mother of a 30 year old, female narcissist. I am going through it right now. I’ve been in her Stonewall discard phase for about 40 days. But this time it’s different because it’s starting to affect my physical and mental health like never before. I know it’s hard when it’s a partner or an extended family member, or a coworker but when it’s your child, it’s almost virtually impossible to close that door. The pain is ridiculous. And as a loving mom, all I’ve done is try to figure out where I went wrong believe me I’ve been studying this for six years. The only thing I came up with was that I may have overprotected her but still, if you knew the whole backstory you would be over protective too. But in the same vein, I had a strictness to me but I believe it was normal like do your homework can’t date till you’re 16. I think I was a pretty normal mom and I know I showed her all the love I have in my heart and now six years since she left she’s extorted over $20,000 from me and pretty much suck the life and joy out of me. But when I listen to these videos, it’s really not hard to put anybody in that seat whether it’s your child, your husband, wife, boyfriend, etc. the behaviors are exactly the same sadly they don’t. Care. If it’s their mom or even their own child, they really are borderline possessed.
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I DONT EVER want to loose my health AGAIN
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16 months no contact and divorce final last week to a total Narc. Best time of my life now. 🙏
Enjoy every moment of your hard fought freedom! You walked thru hell and made it out!!!
Enjoy your Freedom!
@@MM-kt4is thank you and all the best to you on Your journey 🙏
@@debbier9555 I am. And thank you so much.
My narc bought the house across the street from me and I have blocked every avenue for him to communicate with me. He sits on his front porch and stares at my house when he isn't at work. I am definitely tasked, tested and tried. I am proud of my silence. Once I finally understood the power of my silence my healing process was expedited significantly. 🙏💛
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Wow. How weird. It reminds me of my daughter's husband's ex wife buying a house 1/4 mile down the highway from them.
Oh my goodness, that is wild.
MOVE. Don't let this person steal another second of your peace.
@@amiblack8294 I wish it were that simple. I've been here 15 years. He doesn't stay anywhere very long. I pretend he doesn't exist and I document/video anything concerning. Also our police department has a support system that knows everything & they keep a running journal on all of my concerns. It was so much worse when he first did it because I was absolutely mortified and reactive which he loved. Now I have black out curtains and stained glass window film on the front of my house and I use the rear entrance etc. It really is bazaar and hasn't been easy to endure or navigate by any means. My complete silence put the balance and control in my favor.
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"Your silence does the talking for you. It really does.
So close the chapter.
Block them, delete them, etc."
"Do not accept a Hoover.
Understand that Narcissist just wants to keep you in a manipulation game.
They want to keep you trap in that cycle."
"The more people they keep in that abuse,
the better off it is for them,
and the worse off it is for you."
"Become dull,and boring and get off the radar" point taken 👍
I fell for the, "Oh, he's just an old high school friend". For 15 years she cheated with him until I caught them together. I feel so dumb for falling for it
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That's why I stay away from women with male "friends". A lot of these types do that to have men on the back burner ready to go for a monkeybranch, and for cheating.
Don't feel bad about it. You were masterfully manipulated. Of course you would not have known about it. Because you've never known people that do things like that. They're not like other people. Give yourself a break. At least you're out of it now, and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Take care of yourself!
It’s ok. You are expected to trust, and they are expected to be trustworthy.No failure on your part.😊
I understand how you feel.😢 My adult child caught their Dad cheating with his hs girlfriend. We are in our 50's. I had no idea- the humiliation, lies, devastation, etc. brought me to my knees at first. After some time and the most amazing support system, I realized I was way better than this and didn't deserve to be treated like trash. I wasn't the problem, he was. Two years later, I'm much happier and in an amazing place. I still have moments of sadness and reflection, but they are fewer and fewer each day. We are all worth SO much more. Don't let these fools ruin your life. YOU ARE AMAZING.
3 months full NC, your daily videos are a lifesaver Andrew. Possibly quite literally. Her behaviour was so shady I spent a year in therapy but have now risen from the ashes, a new low in life she sent me to, and I'm a better person for it. Thanks for your channel and thanks to this community x
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Well done on three months. I’m three years free, life does get better.
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Thanks Andrew- you are absolutely 💯 % correct. TIME is our most valuable asset. Don't waste your time or energy, once it's gone you can't get it back. Spend your time as carefully as you would spend your money. Please don't waste your time. 🙏 ❤️
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Knowing when to be silent,
honoring being silent and choosing to be silent-
is also how you win and take your power back.
Thank you Andrew for your tireless efforts, I appreciate it very much!
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today, I stripped off all of the acctrimonts of gold and precious metals that I had been gifted to me,from my fam and had them melted , all the talismans with everything.. Forgive yourself. Turn the page. No more!
"You are damned if you do, damned if you don't" Spot on Andrew.. Dont !!
One of the most precious things I've discovered since refusing any narcissist to darken my day is the fact i will never explain myself to anyone, ever again. I have no need, i am me, i do the right thing, treat everyone with respect, that is all anyone needs to know.
If someone demands more than this, they have the problem, not you
Much love, everyone 😊
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Well said! If anyone demands more, they have an agenda.....
My daughter (40). After decades of trying to help her, lead her to health and light, love her through it all…
I’m now choosing me. It’s painful. But I can’t allow it any longer. It tried desperately, for decades, to protect her from her father’s (narc) influences…and yet. She has become one.
And I’m now letting it be.
To protect my heart and my soul.
To protect my peace.
Sending love to all….❤
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And thank you Andrew for sharing your pain and healing, and for being a bright light! ⭐️❤️
It took me a long time to realize my silence was so much louder than my words. But now that I know, it literally feels so powerful because I’m not giving any attention or energy to the narcissist, and our silence eats them up, they hate it! Stay strong! Thanks Andrew 🙏🏽
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There is no need to explain, they are not able to understand and they will never change. Even if they know they have gone to far, they will do everything to glue their mask. Nothing has been done/said only for you, everything was just for their advantage.
My mom went through it my grandmother couldn't leave, the cycle ends with me. I am not afraid to walk this world alone.
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They do not appreciate what they have. Silence provides respite and breathing space from the derangued nonsense.
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I have gone silence, block, no contact and it’s the only safe way. This whole relationship has been hellish. I am hurting. This hurts so much.
There is light at the end of the tunnel!
Silence is a friend to those of us who’ve come through. Thank you for the reminders. There was a broad list of all the things the narcissists want…how about we don’t give them what they want and just keep silent. Learning this is invaluable. Stay warm everyone. Mighty chilly 🥶 these days
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Nothing near their cold, cold hearts though.
This video holds a powerful message about stillness and silence. One of your best Andrew. ❣️🙌✨️
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So true I did not know what a narcissist was and I was married to One but I was able to get divorced. Now I’m free.
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SILENCE IS THE BEST --AS THEY ARE IRRATIONAL and CANNOT EVER BE REASONED WITH!
Thank you Andrew! Your videos help me stay strong and stoic. I’ve started to feel indifferent at times, but it’s like an addiction and he’s still on my mind too often.
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Please stay strong❤ I’d rather live on an abandoned island by myself then ever go back to my abuser! It’s been 2 yrs since I blocked him on everything and I just keep getting stronger😅 Thanks Andrew I watch you regularly!
I tried no contact, I agree every time I get stronger it's like I learned so much about me too...
Oh wow, I just commented on that. It's almost a year for me, I live in an area where there are a lot of natives, he is native, and there are tons of specials and there's all kinds of special things going on for natives, stories on PBS, etcetera. I can't tell you how many times a day I am reminded of him and it's a very very hard time for me. I just have to keep remembering all the bad things and just found it through my head that this man not only didn't love me, but deliberately caused me pain. Good luck to both of us, it's a new year, take care of yourself!🎉❤
As far as being fashionably late, making an entrance, I have a really great example. One time, he told me that he and his brother had rented a hotel room for a concert. And then he told me that his brother went home early and he wanted me to come over. Now for all I know, he had a woman in there before I went over there. Anyway, we got dressed to go downstairs for drinks, he asked me to wear a certain outfit, a very flowy outfit. Great big flowy palazzo pants and a Gauzy looking blouse. He got all dressed up in his black jeans black leather vest white shirt boots, with his long flowing black native hair which really contrasted with my short white hair. When we got to the door he said, there's a different entrance on the other side that has a long stairway that goes down right to the bar, I want to go in over there and make an entrance. And honestly, we did get a lot of attention, we were a striking couple with the way that we dressed in the way our looks complimented each other. We constantly got compliments about that. But yes for sure he had to make certain entrances. One time I think he forgot himself as we were going into our local bar, and as we got to the door, he said out loud, shoulders back chin up. He was speaking to me and telling me what I should do before we walked in, or else he was telling himself, and I just overheard him.. Yeah he was a real piece of work.
"The narcissist will come at you in different shapes and forms" and until you get the wisdom and apply it, this lesson will still be taught to you (us) over and over. Once we get this lesson and apply the knowledge, these narcs will be repelled and we will move onto the next Life lesson. Thank you, Andrew, for this great video with all the examples. Silence is a very powerful tool to deal with narcissists. I have seen from personal experience that silence isn't tolerated well by a narcissist. "Your silence does the talking for you." as you said in the video. Namaste. 🙏 ❤️
They all say the same thing: “Hey, you completely dissapeared!”
No, I just don’t mess with you!
The hardest part is knowing you fell in love with someone who didn’t exist. I’ve experienced it all, the gaslighting, the silent treatment, the mental abuse. But I’m finding it impossible to let go and move on. 😢
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone it’s comforting to know I’m not alone and sending much love to anyone going through this, but why do I still miss him and love him despite everything? Why can’t I just let go? I feel like I’m losing my mind. It’s so strange and hard. I enjoy your channel it gives me some comfort trying to understand it all.
One day at a time is how we all make it through. God bless your healing journey 🙏🏽
@@sagenosnibor9173 thank you for your kind words. I’ll just take one day at a time. Baby steps. Just wish the pain would go away. It’s been over a year now.
Run, it will never get better, only gets worse
Daily dose of Andrew wisdom ✅💚
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The last 2 words of your sentence are my Dad's name lol.
@@paulwisdom1090 Love it!!!! And what a cool last name!!! 👏👏
I think you're Exactly Right Andrew...They do prefer negative supply it brings them happiness to keep you manipulated and miserable.. Even when they do you wrong and gas light you every morning and every night they will blame you. Beware!
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"YOUR SILENCE is SINCERELY a SUPER POWER.
YOUR SILENCE DOES THE TALKING FOR YOU... ITS MORE POWERFUL THAN YOUR WORDS.
You want to be FOCUSING ON YOURSELF but PAYING ATTENTION, You want to be OBSERVANT, You want to be SILENT, You want to be STOIC, You want to be CENTERED, You want to be CALM, You want to be LIVING in THE PRESENT MOMENT, You want to be LEARNING THE LIFE LONG LESSONS FROM THE PAST NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP and APPLYING THEM TO PRESENT DAY , You DO NOT WANT TO BE PREDICTING THE FUTURE.
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aka SENSEI
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“The pinnacle of indifference.” That’s where I am with my family now. It took 5 years but I’m at the top of that mountain!
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My narc's partner told me she would be 30 mins late for a small gig in my village when I called at her house so I went by myself, Her anger was priceless, my satisfaction was golden
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My narc continues to message me with how much he loves and misses me then turns right around and tries and make me feel sorry for him that I left. I refuse to answer and engage with him. He gets very angry when I don’t respond to him. He put me through hell and now that I’m finally free I won’t waste another minute on him. I have peace for the first time in my adult life.
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I see right through them now… especially gaslighting you into a reaction to blameshift.
I had the last word, by not having the last word.
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Love that!!!
It has been the best thing I have done radio silence,it’s so liberating.
Take care Andrew.
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Silence is golden...
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This resonates with me Andrew because I got gaslit and intimacy withheld from me by my ex Mark. I never knew when his next rage fit was going to be. I got hit too. I am so glad I am not with him anymore.
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Being late is a passive aggressive technique
My ex Mark is so narcissistic he is still badmouthing me to other people behind my back just to play the victim card…. Thank you for your videos Andrew. Reminds me that I am a woman of high worth and value and that I have a bright shining light. I deleted and blocked him from my phone and Cashapp. Namaste Andrew. I love you. ❤
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My parents tormented me
Most of my life !! Even when we always had distance !so I was a silent & stoic person,now they have left the planet, there is silence & peace !!! ,Its very strange that I can now break my own silence !!!!Its very strange To hear my voice again !!!
To be free ...
Been 4 years now since I went no contact.. They've tried twice to hoover back.. Once a year and a half after breaking contact and recently from a new phone.. That's why I was going through all these videos again so I'm not tempted to message back.. Silence is golden
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I was discarded after 34 years of marriage and have lost my entire support system after an extensive smear campaign.
Unfortunately we will need to coexist as we are expecting our 1st grandchild in April.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for all of your videos and insight, I had no idea that this sort of evil even existed.
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I don't "Coexist" with him and we have children, and grandchildren together. I'm strict NO CONTACT. I don't visit my children, and grandchildren at the same time that he visits them.
It’s been almost two years since the narc packed her bags , she tried contacting me different times and gets silence, now I enjoy my peace and being alone.
im a huge fan of silence, and it works wonders.
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When you realize there is no reasoning with them, the nonsense that comes out of them at times is ridiculous. When you realize there is not one thing you can say at all the best thing you can do is stay is silent.
I need to be quiet sometimes
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Thank you once again Andrew. After nearly a year, I am getting closer to the pinnacle of indifference. Much love to our community💖
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Coming up on one year February 25th. Be vigilant, stay vigilant, because, if you don't have him completely blocked from calling you, on facebook, blocked from texting you, you could fall back in and it's worse than ever. It happened to me about 3 years ago. I had not spoken to him in one year in 3 months, and instead of just blocking his number, I had completely removed it so I didn't recognize it when the call came through, I answered and just before I did I realized it was his number. I should have just hung up. It was my birthday, and you know how they just love to get you all emotional or catch you off-guard on special days to try to Hoover you back in. But, we ended up getting embroiled for only about 4 weeks, and of course he pulled his same garbage again. Don't go back don't go back don't go back! Good luck and congratulations on one year!
@@marcialussier2467 Thank you Marcia! You are right. I have left before and always got suckered in again believing his lies. 40 yrs and I've had enough. I needed this path to show me that they REALLY don't care💖 much love to you & all who are on this journey💖
You are one of the people who pulled me out of the quicksand...
I’m doing this right now it’s so difficult because I’m used to talking to this person and when I do they pick through everything criticize everything cut me off and turn around and walk and do something else when I’m trying to explain myself but when it’s their turn I have to have complete Surrender to them. I have to listen to every word they say they get real close and get in my feed I don’t know and I’just had it so I’m willing to be silent because every word I say is either wrong criticized or manipulated why this is now in my feet I don’t know, but I need this more than ever.
6 years no contact and only wish I had done it sooner. Life is peaceful, joyful and enjoyable without them. I walked away from my entire toxic, dysfunctional family but gained so many positive things in doing so :) Andrew is sooooo right about the Narcissist coming after you but you have to be strong and stand your ground which means maintain your silence. The first letter I got from my mother after going No Contact was her attempt at financial extortion. The last letter I received from my mother told me to burn in hell (among other things). A year later came the phone call from her flying monkey about the potential heart attack she was having at 2:00 in the morning. My silence spoke volumes then and still does now. I don't hate them; I refuse to hate anybody because that's not who I am. I choose to feel sorry for them and still wish them well in life but I'm not going to part of that life under any circumstances. Thank you for putting things in perspective, Andrew and giving people strength, education and support :)
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Went through similar circumstances. It's surreal & mind blowing when u are disposed of so easily, w no remorse or atleast a clear explanation, by a parent, whether narc or not. Reptilian comes to mind....
A horrible narc in my life had a "heart attack" after I loudly and verbally laid down a boundary. He lived.
Totally and thank you. I'm new to this channel but I realize I had family stuff and that's why I fell for it with my ex... Love-bombed heavily
Oh and HEY... The discard was unbelievable after I put 12 years in, sold my house and let him drive my van until it's trashed
Andrew you are shining bright and keeping up 🆙 you have so much energy and passion. I admire you! I look forward to these videos. Thank you. 🙏🏻
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Talking to a narcissist is like arguing with a cloud of noxious gas.
I have been silent for 4 weeks and she came back last night. She sent me three texts, saying she misses me and other things. Then she called me. I didn’t respond or answer the phone call. This morning 9am she writes me a long goodbye text about how I make her smile and she’s been thinking about us for the past few weeks but that she’s going to delete my number. I haven’t responded. What is up with these people?? Stay strong.
Stay strong man! Take the validation and run
Stay strong and ignore her, if you don't you'll have to go through it, again, the discard, the pain, until you learn it's all rinse and repeat, it's your ego you're giving into! Next time she'll fling you further read farther and your landing will hurt more, block her, end the game, she's not going to change!
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She is cruel and you don't need that in your life!😮
I just want to cry. Almost this whole relationship (and we live together in my home) he just disappears for weeks saying he is working and won’t answer the phone and barely texts and never brings home any money. I deal with it bc I don’t want to be alone. When he is here, he is the most intimate person on earth and we do everything together. But there have been so many lies and manipulation wirh money. I don’t even want to say how much I have given him as I am so embarrassed. When I question him about money he gets angry but has his hands out all the time. I’m in therapy now, but sooo trauma bonded. I’m such an empath. Do I have to act like a Narc to get love?
Well, the narc finally got his wish that I "move on. "... lol. Silence is golden... a hard lesson to learn and has been hard to do because there was a time when I was like a ghost. Invisible until he had a use for me in order for him to get something useful for him from me. That was forced silence. I have learned to speak out, but at times, I become silent for introspection so I can focus on how to become a better version of my true authentic self.
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🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻 Keep healing!
@almosthome5971 working on it every day, by the grace of God, who strengthens me... 🙏✌️❤️✝️😊
Silence kills the narcissist from the inside,his greatest fear ,abandonment and rejection hand in hand with silence lolol😮😢
You have been a major help in me realizing who I was dealing with after being discarded. The signs were there , but I was not conscious of what was going on at the time. Thank you sir for the videos, I appreciate it.
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I blocked an ex-best friend 4 years ago and she’s tried to get the last word by texting me in a different number and I still didn’t respond and blocked that number too. She doesn’t my energy anymore after disrespecting boundaries, avoiding accountability, being manipulative and throwing me under the bus multiple times while appearing as a saint to others. I was blinded by it all and thought I might be overreacting like she’d claim. A major red flag that I missed was she’d pat herself on the back after we served food at a homeless shelter. I’m GLAD I don’t have to deal with her anymore!
Silence always makes them second guess the way they treated you & fear sets in that youve met someone amazing & now you're happy
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Silence is truly golden when being around with a narcissist.
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No going back for more abuse. Time, energy, and effort go to those I have a mutual, reciprocal, respectful relationship with. Buh bye toxicity, and hello love! 💕 the only way.
Thanks to narcissists I now suffer with social anxiety ptsd and panic attacks when trying to sleep at night.All I wanted to do was achieve and push forward in life but narcissists will try and drag you down and distroy everything you have and get people on there side.
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Timely advice for one who has always thought it's best to be open and sincere, to talk things out, to vent, to be upfront and direct.
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The Narcissist in my life is in God’s hands I understand I can’t help & get hurt anymore 😢 thank you Brother & community 🙏🏼 for the support, love & push toward healing ❤️🩹
My Narc mother has always treated my sisters better than me , because she’s has so much control over them , but not me . I once told her that I’m not asking your permission on how I should live my life . My Mother turned my sisters against me many years ago . I have low contact with her now .I would always feel so bad from either being around her or talking to her on the phone. Her voice along would make me cringe.
I just adore you 😁 ur amazing Andrew thank you
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ID RATHER BE ALONE THAN TO BE WITH A NARCISSIST THAT WAY I HAVE MY PEACE SILENCE IS GOLDEN 😊
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Silence and no contact is protection. I had a hoover and talked to him by phone. He was so sweet, so nice but it was clear what he wanted. Information, "friendship" and that I should do something for him. He wanted to tell me, that misses me although he had several new "one-time-supplies", that he has no money to pay the rent etc. Of course I am still his love of his life, of course we both are the dreamteam.. and he was in therapy which proofed that he is no narcissist only a bit manipulative....than I caught him lying. Immediately his mask felt off - screaming, shouting, using bad words before he hang of the phone. They will never change, their words are poison. It took me 2 weeks after the call to get this poison out of my head. The feeling of being abused was so present, the memories came back, just hearing this voice. He got what he wanted, he was back in my mind, I was thinking about him!
I will definitely not brake the no contact again!
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Support 🌟❤️💪🦋🌺❤️✨kind loving.and understanding,nurturing,,Silence is our Super power,,Go Empaths,T.Y. Andrew,, 👉✨✨❤️
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You speak such truth. Thank you for your love and wisdom ❤❤❤
SO ON POINT! THANK YOU! CONTINUE TO SHINE!!!!! WE LOVE YOU BROTHER!!!!!
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Thank you Andrew. It's an oddity to some degree to be able to see people for the way they truly are. Myself included.😊
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Andrew, I wish that were down there with you right now. It's cold here in south central Pennsylvania. 🥶 😅
But it's a good day to be narcissist free. 🙏😊
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Thank you for your life affirming videos.
I met my ex BF almost a year ago. He was the first man I became involved with in 6 yrs. I saw red flags in the beginning and stayed vigilant. 3 weeks ago, he handed me a bouquet of red flags. We were riding bikes. I had not been on a bike in 10 yrs. While we were riding, he took me on a steep path. I stopped myself from crashing by leaning on the fence at the top of the steep hill. A week later , we were riding around his neighborhood. He was behind me, went around me, and cut me off. I couldn't stop and hit his bike, which ended in me taking a horrible fall. I landed hard onto the pavement and fractured my wrist. I need my hands to work as I'm an Aesthetician. He knew I was starting a new job in a few days. When I crashed into his bike, he had a smirk on his face. At first I accepted it was just an accident. A few days later, we were driving in his car. He was going 45mph. He undid my seat belt and pretended to open the car door.
We weren't arguing or fighting in any way.
He laughed at me when I became scared
He proceeded to tell me a horrific story about a friend of his who had a wife jump out of the car, and he ran over her, and she died.
Alarms went off. It took me a day to process this. I ended our relationship right then and there. Of course, he called me crazy and accused me of overreacting. I went no contact. I'll never speak to him again. He will never see me nor hear my voice.
His sister begged me to give him another chance. She let it slip he has BPD. She stated that due to his mental illness, I needed to be more accepting. I told her, "I'm done." The year of mental manipulation and covert abuse led up to me being injured to the point of losing 4 to 6 weeks of income.
People, malignant abusers will not stop at emotional abuse if we let them. They will physically harm us if we are doing better than they think we should be. Please love yourself and watch for red flags.
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Your knowledge and dedication is impeccable. Your videos are so healing.❤
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So very true Andrew.
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Thank you sooooo much 😢🙏......
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I m appreciating your sharing about Narcissist and what we must do to be free !!!
Just went no contact with a narcissist guy I’ve been dating for 3 years. The words you speak couldn’t be more true! I spent so much time explaining myself. Constantly feeling interrogated. Why did I just hang up? Why didn’t I say I love you? On and on! The smear campaign is what I’m dealing with now! I am a serious empath and he took total advantage of me! Financially abused, mentally abused. This is a multiple of toxic relationships I’ve been in! The worse part, I taught him what to use against me!
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OMG, you speaking so much volume!! He told me he healed and saw a therapist, ask for second chance, just when I was thinking about it, he disappear again. You know Narc very well! Thank you sir...
True True, one crazy thing I also experienced is, the X would wake me up in the middle of the night and accuse me of things I did in her dreams, I would have to explain myself to her on why I did what I did to her in her dreams. What was I thinking Hahaha
So needed to hear those first words. Silence is more powerful.
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Silence says it all 😂
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Everybody bundle up its cold out there it's so cold here my shadow is wearing a coat.
Great video angel love
It's warm here in S. Carolina. About 60°F.
@@Hatbox948 cold here 14' f in West Virginia with snow
@@hannastrack4310 Oh wow! Keep warm!
@@Hatbox948 under the covers today
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Brilliant video ❤ 100 % truth 😊 thank you
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I wish I heard this in my late teens/ early 20s!!! Thank you for doing these videos!!🙏🏿🙏🏿💙💙
Great video Andrew. Thankyou, I needed this.
God bless you 🙏
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