my story | the truth about chinese adoption

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  • čas přidán 16. 07. 2019
  • I hope you enjoyed this video ;)
    ....it was very therapeutic to make lol.
    I definitely want to know YOUR story.
    comment it down below if you would like!
    adoption agency: ccaifamily.org
    adoption community:
    adopteen.org
    ourcampchina.com

Komentáře • 758

  • @ingerrogers3146
    @ingerrogers3146 Před 4 lety +268

    Some children aren't as fortunate to have the adoptive parents as you do; even in regular families, children are having a hard time fitting in where love should be unconditional. You are truly blessed.

  • @user-hv8fw1hb1n
    @user-hv8fw1hb1n Před 5 lety +498

    Your adoptive father and mother are very kind. Bless you.

    • @yrot1123
      @yrot1123 Před 3 lety +1

      totally agreed with your comment; Emily was expressing her gratitude to her adopted parents for their unconditional love, sacrify, and creating a safety net for her good life.. Emily is a product of good parenting and education.. Bravo to her parents, wish Emily the best for the rest of her journey..

  • @celestialinsightsbycristy
    @celestialinsightsbycristy Před 4 lety +287

    Your parents are the sweetest. I started bawling when your Dad cried.

    • @Kaththee
      @Kaththee Před 3 lety +6

      So did I. What a blessed family.

  • @marybrown7222
    @marybrown7222 Před 4 lety +347

    Your dad is such a sweetheart, he made me cry

    • @mariateresarezett7363
      @mariateresarezett7363 Před 2 lety

      Hola bonita: hace un tiempo vi el video de tu adopción y pensaba que había sido tu vida ......desde el.primer momento has tenido la suerte del riego que significa adoptar ,es el.mas grande acto de amor del ser humano,seas de donde seas ,atravesar el.mundo para ir a buscarte y darte tan gran amor, se llevan mí admiracion.....Dios te bendijo!!!!!!!
      Maria Teresa from Argentina.

  • @buleafghan4523
    @buleafghan4523 Před 4 lety +537

    I feel that how much your parents love you . Now it's your time to show them some love coz they're getting old so pls be kind with them and always respect .

    • @nargisadam2466
      @nargisadam2466 Před 4 lety +17

      bule afghan offarin! I can see how a good son you are for your parents. I’m so proud of you.

    • @sherashera7791
      @sherashera7791 Před 4 lety +3

      if she is brought up with chinese culture yes she will, but now i dont really know

    • @eaglewild1304
      @eaglewild1304 Před 4 lety +3

      Hopfully she is i think and bule afghan u made a valid point thank u anyway

    • @angelkotilainen
      @angelkotilainen Před 4 lety +12

      Her parents are so lovely and honest, her father is such a gentle man.

    • @mettigu1706
      @mettigu1706 Před 3 lety +3

      She is a nice kind girl, sure she knows that

  • @cmalsawmtluangi710
    @cmalsawmtluangi710 Před 5 lety +605

    Your parent are very good person,may God bless them

    • @yuliasmith3192
      @yuliasmith3192 Před 4 lety +5

      you are such a beautiful girl!

    • @michaellun6984
      @michaellun6984 Před 4 lety

      You leaved China when you little gril, Can you speak Chinese?

  • @susankennedy5739
    @susankennedy5739 Před 3 lety +43

    I taught in a Chinese bilingual school for 22 years and had the pleasure of teaching many girls who were adopted from China. Some of them returned to China when they were in high school and college to volunteer to care for the children in the orphanage from which they had been adopted, and sometimes the women who worked there remembered them from when they were babies there. Their parents were devoted, progressive parents who supported their daughters to have full lives with intellectual as well as artistic enrichment, and happy social lives. They were some of my favorite students.

  • @dianaperez6369
    @dianaperez6369 Před 4 lety +116

    What a gorgeous, brave and intellegent young lady! The older we get the more we realize there is no such thing as "normal" and fitting in. I lived with my actual family but never felt loved. I hardly had a relationship with my mom, so much so I wanted to be adopted to people who actually wanted me. Family is so much deeper than blood. There's families that are together but there's no love and than there families that were brought together by adoption who have a love most children with biological parents will never know. You and your family are amazing! Something to never be ashamed about! May God continue to bless you all your life! Thank you for sharing your story ❤

  • @depslack
    @depslack Před 4 lety +56

    could your Dad be any cuter? what a sweet man! He absolutely loves his little girl !! Your mom is also lovely, she seems like a very strong lady.

  • @renecordova6349
    @renecordova6349 Před 3 lety +75

    My parents didn't actually want me, I just happened when my mother became pregnant....But your parents desperately wanted you and went out of their way to to bring you into their family. They wanted YOU, so they could love YOU!!! You are special!!!

    • @Living4Jesus-xu8fs
      @Living4Jesus-xu8fs Před 8 měsíci +1

      Aww😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 God loves YOU the way YOU are! YOU are His treasure and His creation. May you feel God's love and peace today!♥♥♥

  • @kstang9441
    @kstang9441 Před 4 lety +52

    In Chinese, a saying, I often heard from my mother...."the parents whom brought you up are greater than the birth parents."
    My mother also said...".kindness must be remembered for a thousand years"
    This pretty girl is so luck to have love n kind adoptive parents. So love them and take care of them well.
    May heavens bless you and the lovely parents.

    • @kwaiwahshum3836
      @kwaiwahshum3836 Před 3 lety +1

      Exactly True!the one who brought you up are the Greatest human being.

  • @oceanmistdream1
    @oceanmistdream1 Před 4 lety +329

    "Chinese children don't like to be held." This broke my heart on so many levels. Children everywhere desire affection and yearn to be close to their caregivers. It's probably custom of that culture to not be overly affectionate but it's still sad to me. Your mother is a smart lady.

    • @catherinepark1190
      @catherinepark1190 Před 4 lety +52

      Actually this is so totally not true. I live in China and observe children being held all the time. They literally spend their first two years of life in the arms of their grandparents.
      Great video. I really love what you are sharing. You are unique ! Exactly who you are meant to be.

    • @oceanmistdream1
      @oceanmistdream1 Před 4 lety +22

      Catherine Park Thank you for letting me know I was incorrect on my assumption. It makes me happy knowing it’s not a culture thing and just that single persons opinion.

    • @oceanmistdream1
      @oceanmistdream1 Před 4 lety +5

      Levine Levine Clearly you can’t read and are having troubles comprehending what I said. Have a beautiful day.

    • @lvcnlvcn5534
      @lvcnlvcn5534 Před 4 lety +6

      HakunaMatata
      This was most likely a translation error, orphanage won’t be able to provide a professional interpreter. Anyway, Emily has loving parents is most important.

    • @allstatekiwi5646
      @allstatekiwi5646 Před 4 lety +7

      this is not true, I live in china and are around Chinese kids every day and they are very clingy on me sometimes having 20 of them pushing you down, and this was a great watch I also want adapt a Chinese girl

  • @styleoffamily1660
    @styleoffamily1660 Před 4 lety +139

    Please take care of your parent they are so cute please

  • @SeanFromTX
    @SeanFromTX Před 4 lety +190

    You have a beautiful story. My brother and I were abandoned July 30th, 1970 at a motel in Los Angeles. I was 4 and he was 2. We went through several foster homes and adopted three years later. Like you, we looked different from our “white” parents. Our ethnicity was unknown unknown at that time, but we obviously looked mixed being much “browner”. In 2013, we DNA tested and found out we were half-siblings with different biological fathers. Our ethnicity was also determined. My colorful outward appearance came from my Native American ancestry and his came from Southeast Asia. In 2018, we DNA tested with Ancestry and finally received a close enough match that identified our biological mother as well as my biological father (both deceased). From there, I was able to piece together the rest of the story including identifying my brother’s biological father. Earlier this year, I found, contacted and confirmed his father was alive and living in Bangkok, Thailand. They’ve started developing a relationship and my brother has a few more half-siblings. Hug your parents for me and enjoy your adoption journey wherever it takes you. Also, if our stories were just like everyone else’s, we’d just be average 😉👍🏻

    • @Nephilims_Burrow
      @Nephilims_Burrow Před 4 lety +14

      Sean FromTX wow
      I was abandoned on September 16th 2005 5 days after I was born. I was abandoned in a hospital in Hefei Anhui province. The Children’s welfare institute of hefei city found me and took me and searched for my parents for 2 months they never found them and they decided that I was to be up for adoption at 22 months old 20 months after I was declared up for adoption I was brought to America with my new Mother and Father where I would go to a Home in which there was to be 7 children waiting for me. I along with 3 others were adopted From China. It took me 1 year and 6 months to go from Chinese to English I am great full for the parents who adopted me and the police officers who found me.

    • @SeanFromTX
      @SeanFromTX Před 4 lety +4

      Dragon Riders O INCREDIBLE! Interestingly enough, this past Sunday, I spoke with a “foundling” just like us. She was abandoned in a dumpster and left to die 37 years ago. She is truly a living miracle. We shared our stories over the phone for nearly 2 1/2 hours. I’ve had many verbal conversations with other adoptees over the years, but never another foundling. It was an absolute honor. It’s good to hear you are grateful for your adopted family and thanks for sharing your story!

    • @Nephilims_Burrow
      @Nephilims_Burrow Před 4 lety

      Sean FromTX wow.

    • @tessm9775
      @tessm9775 Před 4 lety +8

      Bless you...what an incredible story. I have two daughters adopted from China. Sometimes, I think that people only think these kids are the only ones abandoned; your sharing lets us know that even in the US this happens.

    • @Nephilims_Burrow
      @Nephilims_Burrow Před 4 lety +1

      Tess M I have 3 sisters who were also adopted from China as well. Honestly about 400 million Chinese girls were abandoned. The death rate was 21:28

  • @BabsLongfellow
    @BabsLongfellow Před 4 lety +173

    I love how your mother immediately knew (when given the advise that "Chinese babies don't like to be held") that she was NOT going to let go of her baby girl, instant instinct of what was best for her daughter. Thank-you for your honesty and insight, you did an incredible job.

    • @loriadams7724
      @loriadams7724 Před 4 lety +5

      Barbie Longfellow-Ott I liked that too. Sometimes it’s just best to follow our Mama instincts!!

    • @BabsLongfellow
      @BabsLongfellow Před 4 lety +2

      @@loriadams7724 absolutely!

    • @nacimshigari2036
      @nacimshigari2036 Před 4 lety

      Barbie Longfellow-Ott hi hor u mail me nacimshigari315@gmail.com

    • @krollpeter
      @krollpeter Před 3 lety +1

      Who is saying such a nonsense?
      Go to China, they lug their children everywhere around for the first years, so much that I sometimes thought: shxt enough now, let that poor thing down!

    • @kindface
      @kindface Před 3 lety +4

      @@krollpeter
      So glad you blew that silly half-truth out of the water. Absolutely no fault of her mom’s or any of the mommies commenting here who reacted out of protective maternal instincts. But whoever it was back in China who gave or translated that nonsensical piece of advice needed to be called out for a such rank stupidity. “Chinese babies don’t like to be coddled/cuddled/whatever”? Babies from any culture love the warmth of being in their mothers’ arms and that piece of advice just needlessly perpetrates very undeserved stereotypes of Chinese parents and people.

  • @thejlk12
    @thejlk12 Před 4 lety +47

    Hi Emily!
    I was also adopted from China and I have an older sister who was adopted too. Being adopted by loving parents was the best thing that has ever happened to me and I am grateful every day to be with people who love me and in a country that gives me freedoms that I would not have if I were still in China. I really related to a lot of things you mentioned in this video. Growing up I was embarrassed to be Chinese, especially since I grew up in a predominately Caucasian neighborhood and went to a high school that did not have much diversity. My best friend throughout childhood is also adopted from China and we were in the same grade. We would always reject anything that reminded us of Chinese culture, making comments like "That's so Asian" in a negative way. I laughed along with racist jokes in order to fit in or seem as white as possible. My parents sent me to Chinese school every Saturday for years in attempt to get me and my sister to learn Chinese, but I did not take it seriously so I didn't really learn it. Now that I'm in college and am in a much more diverse setting, I wish I payed more attention and absorbed the Chinese culture more.
    I'm not ashamed of being Chinese anymore, but I still have racial identity crises (as I like to call it) where I struggle feeling completely like I fit in. I find it hard to relate to a lot of non-adopted Asians because I don't feel Asian enough. I also still don't feel white enough when I'm with my Caucasian friends since there's still some clear barriers in some situations because of being a minority (there are some things I just cannot explain to them since they are not a minority race nor are they adopted). My roommate in college was Chinese and grew up in a Chinese household and she really helped me to feel connected with the culture.
    Seeing Crazy Rich Asians actually was the first time I really felt proud to be Asian (I was 20 years old). I feel that it's sad I hadn't felt that until I was that old. Seeing people who look like me in pop culture made me feel so happy, and in a way validated. This is something most Caucasians will probably never truly understand since they are so used to their race being represented in media. I find speaking about these issues to be difficult especially since most of my friends are white. They usually nod and smile but I know they can't really get it.
    I'm sure you get this question as well since you have an adopted sister. People ask if my sister and I are biologically related and while I understand their curiosity, it becomes repetitive. It especially frustrates me when people use the term "real parents" when referring to my biological parents. My "real parents" are the people who raised me. I'm not sure if you speak to your parents about your struggles regarding adoption and race, but a part of me feels like I would sound ungrateful if I did so. I know they would hear me out and do everything they could to reassure me it's okay, but it's just not something I would want to get into with them. While I have my sister and best friend, a part of me wishes I kept in contact with my adoption group so I would have more people to relate to.
    Thank you for sharing your story. I always love to hear about other fellow adoptees!

    • @jillpickle9769
      @jillpickle9769 Před 4 lety +2

      JLK12 I don’t think I have ever related to a comment more. Thank you for showing me that I’m not the only one that is going through this!

    • @emilysunlaycock
      @emilysunlaycock  Před 4 lety

      Thank you so much for sharing your story!! I can totally relate to all of those feelings.

    • @emilysunlaycock
      @emilysunlaycock  Před 4 lety

      SAME lol

    • @Chibanah
      @Chibanah Před 4 lety

      I think there are huge differences between having asian look (genetics) and having asian cultural identity (growing up in Eastern Asia). People should understand these first of all, and it is not about asians of course, but it is the example now. First of all that matters where you grow up, it will determine your identity. If you grow up in US, then you will be american, or in UK then you will be british, you learn that culture first of all from your young age. Look is just look, nothing else, it is exactly the same (in my opinion), when two white people have different color of hair... it is just the look nothing else. People are just uneducated and juding instantly by look, just because you look asian, you are not asian (inside), as you said your real parents are those who raised you up, then why you feel urged to learn Chinese now? You don't have to chase things you are not related anymore, but I understand your confusion, I have heard similar stories also in the case of half-asian people, there is a time in their life, when they go through this identity crisis, looking for answer who they are really, because the society judge your by the look and just because of your look, you don't feel fitting in. The problem is definitely not with you!

    • @thejlk12
      @thejlk12 Před 3 lety

      ​@Sakuraxrox1 Hi thanks for sharing your story! I actually have been back to China and I did feel out of place with everyone staring at me and the group I was with (I was with my family and a tour group). You're right, I definitely prefer America since I grew up in the US, I just wish I was more connected with my culture and wasn't judged by others for not being Asian/white enough for whatever group I'm with.

  • @lelaprincess
    @lelaprincess Před 4 lety +82

    "When I give my love, it's forever" wow. Rare to found anymore. I love the values they share

  • @lynnnijland4739
    @lynnnijland4739 Před 4 lety +66

    I’m also adopted from China and live in the Netherlands. It was a pleasure to watch your video!💕. I recognised a lot of things you said🤗. Thank you for your honesty, telling your opinions and perspectives on adoption. Thanks for sharing your story 🥰.

    • @lynnnijland4739
      @lynnnijland4739 Před 4 lety +2

      Huanhuan Chen omg!!! Zoiets wilden ik altijd al !! Hoop dat dit geen catfish is ofs😅😊maar ik sta er oprecht voor open

    • @lynnnijland4739
      @lynnnijland4739 Před 4 lety +1

      Huanhuan Chen snap ik helemaal! Ga ik dat doen ;)

    • @mynameislifang
      @mynameislifang Před 2 lety

      I see you ^^

  • @maddieh2486
    @maddieh2486 Před 4 lety +14

    Hey! I'm adopted and Chinese as well and raised by white parents. I found your video because tonight I felt out of touch with myself. I really related to the things you were saying in this video and it comforted me to know other people are going through the same things. This was an amazing video!

  • @all4loveand_love4all
    @all4loveand_love4all Před 4 lety +21

    Adoption is so hard, there is so much joy but born from such a huge loss. As a bio mom and adoptive mom I can vouch there is absolutely zero difference between my love for my children.
    You're an adorable daughter! Wishing you much happiness and success in your life ❤️

  • @nairbvel
    @nairbvel Před 4 lety +23

    It's wonderful to see a family that understands "family" is not defined by the mere miracle of genetics, but by love. Great video, and a great message!

  • @paecpc
    @paecpc Před 4 lety +106

    You have to return the love and kindness your parents give you, as the Chinese say, think of the source of the water when you drink it. Best wishes!

    • @tatamara7796
      @tatamara7796 Před 4 lety +4

      Yes... Children should reciprocate especially when parents are aged and when children become so successful they provide the best care like that what Ellen does to her mom.

  • @sophieservos4876
    @sophieservos4876 Před 4 lety +107

    Love is always the answer. It is the great healer. The great equalizer. Some people are raised in families where their biological parents weren't present for them and these same biological parents never understood how to love their children properly. Your parents love you. That is very clear. You don't need to define yourself exclusively by a culture or by your physiological appearance. What people say is largely not thought through thoroughly in most cases so try not to absorb how they see you.Surround yourself by people who raise you up, not by people who tear you down. I come from a mixed cultural background and I feel part of all of them but I never feel exclusively like one culture over another. I tend to see myself as person in a world that is very culturally rich. I am a person amongst a variety of people who are all on the path of life trying to be the best person we can possible be.

  • @SallieAndrea
    @SallieAndrea Před 4 lety +47

    Her parents really love her and you can see it so clearly! Like when he cried I cried and I don’t even know you

  • @firewaterbydesign
    @firewaterbydesign Před 4 lety +44

    You are so very blessed to have been chosen by two amazingly loving human beings. Your daddy is so tender hearted that it even caused my eyes to spring a leak. It is so VERY clear that you could not be any more loved, cherished and adored, had you been born of their flesh and blood. Sending much love and an abundance of beautiful blessings to you and your family. 💝

  • @tinmanfrisbie
    @tinmanfrisbie Před 4 lety +49

    My wife and I are adopting a girl from China, she will also be almost 3 years old and we are so excited, it is so much to take in! Thank you for this video, we are always looking for ways to help us better understand all sides.

  • @yxl942
    @yxl942 Před 5 lety +38

    你的父母是非常善良的人,感謝神,把你托付給這樣的家庭。你非常幸運。Bless you!

  • @nouxiong9091
    @nouxiong9091 Před 4 lety +51

    You should’ve gave your daddy a big hug 🤗 they love you very much.

  • @aweeks007
    @aweeks007 Před 4 lety +6

    Wow, a lot of vulnerability and strength shown here. Thank you for being willing to share this story for so many others to hear. I’m sure other adoptees may run across this video and find some comfort in it.

  • @nichellebinion6080
    @nichellebinion6080 Před 4 lety +20

    Love how open you are about your adoption,you and your sister are so blessed to have the parents you have you can diffently tell how much your parents love you..

  • @lejlaletic7591
    @lejlaletic7591 Před 4 lety +30

    What beautiful parents you have. I feel like they love you more deeply. Travelling to find you. Just gorgeous people.

  • @skip2mylusantiago65
    @skip2mylusantiago65 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so lovely to see more people sharing their adoption stories. You are paving the way for more adoptees to have more support from their communities ❤️

  • @jordynbridge7058
    @jordynbridge7058 Před rokem +2

    I had to pause the video about halfway through and SOB. Adoption is beautiful. Every person deserves a loving family. Yes, your parents are special. But so are you. Their lives are more rich because of you and your sister. Thank you THANK YOU for sharing. I know it wasn’t easy but it was extremely helpful in educating people about adoption. And we SO need to hear the adoptee’s perspective. I love your personality and your openness. One day, I hope to adopt and now I can direct my own children to your CZcams channel as someone they can learn from and relate. God bless you!

  • @winkyinky5513
    @winkyinky5513 Před 4 lety +24

    A law was passed in China called "One child policy". As much as your parents might have wanted to keep you, they're probably forced to give you up because of it. But God has blessed you, your sister, your adoptive Mom and Dad to become a loving family. I'm happy for you. And I hope someday you'll meet your biological parents. God bless.

  • @UandMeGod
    @UandMeGod Před 4 lety +4

    Such a sweet video and a sweet family. There are SO many stories on the internet about the adoption process from the parent's point of view which are wonderful, however I LOVE hearing your personal viewpoint of your journey through being adopted by your sweet parent's. You are a brave young woman to allow yourself to be vulnerable and share your amazing story. You are bright, articulate, and your love for your adopted parent's is very evident. Wishing you all the success in the world both personally and professionally!

  • @2001Tauruswhite
    @2001Tauruswhite Před 4 lety +2

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’m adopted and had all those feelings and now during this quarantine, I’ve been doing a lot of self reflecting on my life and stumble upon these kinds of stories. Your family is pretty cool and so is your story and opening up.

  • @lrnsvw21
    @lrnsvw21 Před 4 lety +25

    What a precious family you are a part of because of adoption. They are lucky to have you!

  • @soniinnagel9383
    @soniinnagel9383 Před 4 lety +12

    God bless you! thank you for sharing your story. I have two adopted grandchildren that I was blessed to be able to go to China with the whole family and be a part of the adoption process. My kids and grands have a channel called Grace for the Millers. They adopted an older girl who was 12 and a baby boy with special needs that was 2. They are flourishing! So thankful for their adoption and the trip of a lifetime to China exploring the amazing Chinese country and culture.

    • @soniinnagel9383
      @soniinnagel9383 Před 4 lety +2

      You are a beautiful girl! I hope you can accept that and realize how special you are. You have a unique path in this world! My granddaughter, Penelope, lived 12 years from China, and now lives in a white family! Talk about confusing! I hope you will watch their channel and connect with her. She still stays in touch with her foster Mom and the whole family just went back to the China this past fall and visited. It was an incredible experience. Just wish I could have gone too! I love China. :)

  • @abbyr576
    @abbyr576 Před 4 lety +2

    you’re parents seem so sweet and have such a great heart! I’m glad you chose to share your story. I personally teared up because I also am a Chinese Adoptee as well! Bless you! 💖

  • @Ken-fj4ji
    @Ken-fj4ji Před rokem +4

    I was adopted in the 60's. It's an amazing journey. It is pure love of a baby in need. They are your real parents!

  • @aamlam
    @aamlam Před 5 lety +23

    Thank you for making this video. I really enjoy watching the baby adoption videos. I don’t know anyone adopted, but I’ve always wanted to know how your lives turned out. In my next life I want to adopt. Your Dad is so soft hearted, much love to your adopted parents, they did a great job and with so much love!

  • @syedaumar7335
    @syedaumar7335 Před 4 lety +18

    Thank you for sharing this part of your life with the internet. This whole video was super interesting! I really enjoyed the clip segments with you speaking to your parents, your phone call with your sister, and you speaking by yourself about your identity; so everything. You mentioned that you're trying to learn Chinese. I recently took an intensive Mandarin course at my university (I've been studying Mandarin since middle school. I'm going to be a senior in college in the fall). Something I find helpful for my listening comprehension this last semester was watching Chinese dramas. I'll edit this comment with a few I enjoyed once I remember the names!

  • @AlbaDouek1
    @AlbaDouek1 Před 4 lety +58

    Diversity should be celebrated! Your parents are GOOD people..and you are a lovely and beautiful young lady ( with striking features!).

    • @monkeybearmax
      @monkeybearmax Před 4 lety +6

      I’m not adopted but I can tell u my father has never loved me like ur dad loves u.

    • @Anna12000
      @Anna12000 Před 4 lety +2

      @@monkeybearmax im so sorry to hear that... i hope you getting loved.. and i no God loves you ♡

    • @Kaththee
      @Kaththee Před 3 lety +1

      She is a beauty isn't she!!

  • @pierrelalonde3705
    @pierrelalonde3705 Před 4 lety +91

    You are lucky and so are your mom and dad, great lovable parents. Your so cute. I have 3 Chinese daughters.

  • @armymom2602
    @armymom2602 Před 4 lety +1

    Seeing your dad makes me cry. He is so sweet and I can see how much he loves you so much.

  • @o.7235
    @o.7235 Před 5 lety +11

    Wow this is beautiful. I’m only 1 minute in and I’m tearing up ❤️!

  • @happyhappy6735
    @happyhappy6735 Před rokem +2

    Dad's love is so pure, so genuine and so limitless. He is quite shy to express it, esp in front of camera, because it is so moving.

  • @loriadams7724
    @loriadams7724 Před 4 lety +34

    Emily, thank you for sharing your story. My hurt for the little girl that didn’t understand why she was left in China with strangers, and rejoiced at the same time, for the loving parents and sister that is your forever family. I love what you said, about our stories all being unique. My son’s best friend, was adopted from South Korea. He is an amazing young man (at 12 years old), and at times, he is uncomfortable with his story (he has such dear parents who love him unconditionally) so I will have him watch this video. Don’t you wish that we, as a culture, could throw away all the stereotypes?? I sure do!!
    You are an amazing and beautiful young woman, and you have a depth of understanding of how life works, that is not typical of a young person. I think you understand more than many adults. This video really touched my heart, because I also 2 daughters who are near your age. I wish you, your sister, and your parents much love and happiness. Thank you again, for sharing 💜❤️

  • @tinchina85
    @tinchina85 Před 4 lety

    Wow, Emily! Just happened upon this video and I'd just like to say that you are totally beautiful....not only on the outside but you are beautiful on the inside, which is most important. Becoming beautiful on the inside is a result of good parenting so kudos to your amazing parents! You have a gift with words and seeing you being vulnerable in this video in that you brought up so many real issues was wonderful and important! Your parents must be SO proud of you! You hit the nail on the head when you said your parents WANTED you! They wanted YOU as their daughter! I wish for you a lifetime of happiness and may God continue to bless you and your sister with a wonderful life! Teresa

  • @kirkirry
    @kirkirry Před 4 lety +9

    Your dad made me cry! This is so sweet

  • @karenvenegas9447
    @karenvenegas9447 Před 2 lety +1

    Aww my heart when your dad started to cry I can see how much they love you ❤️ cherish your parents all you can

  • @DBWorld_YouTube
    @DBWorld_YouTube Před 5 měsíci +2

    We adopted our son from South Korea a year ago and vlogged the experience as well. Your video made me cry. So special. Thank you for sharing

  • @caseyjude5472
    @caseyjude5472 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you for sharing your story with all the strangers. I think it was brave to do so. I enjoyed learning your story.

  • @davew9054
    @davew9054 Před 3 lety +3

    You've grown up to be an amazing young woman. From this video it can be easily seen that your parents love you with all their heart without reserve.

  • @eannicole205
    @eannicole205 Před 4 lety +15

    Thank you for sharing. I have a friend that was adopted from Korea and when I asked her how she felt about her adoption she said "I don't have any regrets, because I know my parents wanted me". This sums it up in my mind, when people adopt a child they 100% love that child and are committed to that child's life. In this way, (acknowledging that there is trauma in the beginning) the child is given the kind of love that everyone in this world is searching for. Unconditional, unabashed, abiding love. Every child deserves to be loved unconditionally, and while adoption is not perfect (nothing in life is) it is a beautiful journey that a child and her parents take together.

  • @ongscott831
    @ongscott831 Před 4 lety +5

    I can see how’s emotional the parent are , they must have so big kind harts and you are so lucky to have such a lovely parent like these two wonderful people. I am so sure if they don’t have the kindness in them, they will never put themselves out as it’s not an easy road to take. So many obstacle, so much they have to sacrifice, it is not for everyone . You are one of the luckiest one. 🙏🙏😇😇

  • @jh276
    @jh276 Před 4 lety +2

    your family is awesome! We need more people like them...:) keep up the great work. look forward to seeing more of your vids with parents!

  • @Sunday_Morning570
    @Sunday_Morning570 Před 4 lety +2

    I was adopted from Vietnam and grew up in NY and VA so I identify with your life story. God bless you and your wonderful family.

  • @eloquenceeloquence4132
    @eloquenceeloquence4132 Před 4 lety +1

    Your story(life) is really amazing. Now I feel like adopting someone. Much love to you, your parents and also to your sister. You’ve won yourself a new subscriber.

  • @LaylaRazavi
    @LaylaRazavi Před rokem

    Thank you for sharing your story and feelings so openly. Everything you're feeling is a normal reaction and part of your journey. Wishing you lots of peace and contentment as you navigate life.

  • @user-hn6sn3lb1u
    @user-hn6sn3lb1u Před 4 lety +2

    You are so well brought up and cute.. and it’s ok to feel that way sometimes.. You did and are doing GREAT👍🏼❤️ Thank you so much for recording+uploading this vid. This helps me a lot mentally🙏🏻😊❤️

  • @busapassion
    @busapassion Před 5 lety +30

    You are discovering your place in life and sometimes it is confusing but be kind to your kind parents. There is always someone who has it 100 percent worse than you or I. I’m a 53 year old Cantonese male, been in America since 1969. My father never spoke to us kids. My mother was very abusive verbally and physically. I joined the army in 1986 partly to escape my horrible mother. You were raised with an abundance of love. You’re so lucky.

    • @ushasharma7452
      @ushasharma7452 Před 4 lety +6

      Busapassion, hope u have a family now that loves and respects you.

    • @busapassion
      @busapassion Před 4 lety +5

      @@ushasharma7452 Thank you Usha Sharma. May you have a life with an abundance of love and happiness.

  • @justnicely
    @justnicely Před 5 lety +6

    Thank you for sharing your life experiences with us. You’re right “Everyone’s unique “ . Wish you have a happy life

  • @cicicici4977
    @cicicici4977 Před 4 lety +3

    I can see, through you, what beautiful people your parents are :) Your dad is so sweet

  • @erinaa9486
    @erinaa9486 Před 4 lety +4

    You are so gorgeous...
    The clip where you're crying for the orphanage carers just made me cry at your devastation...I guess it was a good sign, like your mother said, that you were capable of forming attachments. I also cry when just born babies cry for the first time, since the the baby is so sad and confused and cold, yet it's a good sign, a sign of life.

  • @Em76394
    @Em76394 Před 4 lety +8

    You are so insightful 😊. You are beautiful inside and out, thank you for sharing your story for everyone to be inspired and comforted by. I pray some day soon you are able to fully accept yourself and the process of learning who you are and I think you are definitely on your way to that. Be proud to be you and live in the love that surrounds you. You are amazing! Never question that. If it helps, finding yourself is simply life. Om old as dirt and still learning. You fit everywhere. 😊

  • @sylviahayley7781
    @sylviahayley7781 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I loved your video!!! I have three children and I love them all. It is such an amazing journey and gift to have them in my life. You are a smart lady and very well balanced. You are a loving family and I am so happy for all of you.

  • @needsmorecowbell1758
    @needsmorecowbell1758 Před 4 lety

    oh my goodness God bless you and your parents. Your dad made me emotional! I can tell how much both of your parents love and support you.

  • @ghirmaiyy
    @ghirmaiyy Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing your story. I liked what you said that everyone is different there was no one and will never be one like the same person.

  • @stoneroses3493
    @stoneroses3493 Před 4 lety +6

    Oh gosh when your dad started crying, I started crying too! Your dad is so pure! Btw you're so pretty!

  • @elisaryde1688
    @elisaryde1688 Před 4 lety

    Thanks for sharing your story. I know quite a few people who are adopted or who have adopted. Looking at adopting myself as we can't seem to have our own children. It's nice to hear the other side of adoption. Sounds like you are very blessed to have your parents and they are blessed to have you!

  • @ileanadecastro5899
    @ileanadecastro5899 Před 4 lety

    Thanks for doing this video. Love doesn’t know about differences, it just exist and it’s s powerful feeling.
    You were loved, are loved and will always be loved just for one reason: because you were meant to be loved! Your parents loved you, still do, and you are part of a loving family. That’s your identity. It doesn’t matter how you look like, If you were born in China or somewhere else. What matters is love! What you feel is a natural way to feel when adopted, and love will continue painting the colors of your life. God bless you!!!

  • @kayfoulds1492
    @kayfoulds1492 Před 3 lety +1

    What a wise ,beautiful young lady !your parents have done a great job,they must be so proud.love to you all xxx

  • @brianhums5056
    @brianhums5056 Před 4 lety +2

    Very touching story, I am so glad you are finding yourself and accepting of your adoption. I was truly brought to tears by your story, but in a good way. Thanks for sharing your life and your feelings and I wish you the best in life. God Bless you and your parents never ending love. Peace be with you.

  • @MisterPyOne
    @MisterPyOne Před 4 lety +1

    You feel very present and alive in this video, I feared for a second this video would be like 10 years old and you would be a different person. Now I kinda feel I know you and I'm probably not the only one here. I hope the small insecurities disappear and you find your way in life you seem like a nice person to get to know.
    Best wishes!

  • @MPG-ub5ke
    @MPG-ub5ke Před 3 lety +7

    Awww your dad is beautiful, he was sad that you thought maybe he doesn't love you as much as he would a biological child. Treasure your sweet parents, always be kind & loving towards them, as they obviously adore you ♥️

  • @zsazsarose
    @zsazsarose Před 4 lety

    Your story is a beautiful one.... thank u for sharing it. From the outside looking in you have been very fortunate and blessed to have the parents who changed your life in the BEST way ever. Love from CALIFORNIA ❤️

  • @carlypolnik163
    @carlypolnik163 Před 4 lety

    Thank you for making this beautiful video. You are a strong and beautiful young woman. Your insights and experiences have truly touched this waiting adoptive momma. Thank you for being brave and humble enough to put this out to the world 💜

  • @shanlu2706
    @shanlu2706 Před 4 lety +35

    I love the honesty of this video, your parents are so kind, 加油!

  • @sandyhill1392
    @sandyhill1392 Před 2 lety +1

    You are the most beautiful baby, child and young adult!!! Wow! I'm so happy your parents adopted you! As a mother, my heart strings pull and I've got tears knowing that so many children across the globe need mommy's and daddy's! I can't imagine abandoning a child.

  • @disneydisney1490
    @disneydisney1490 Před 3 lety

    I’m crying🥺Y’all seem like such a nice family❤️I love your family dynamic.

  • @kerstinbak8039
    @kerstinbak8039 Před 5 lety +15

    Really liked your video! Shows the other side of adoption! Bless you!

  • @meilindye44
    @meilindye44 Před 2 lety

    I literally just stumbled on this video! What the heck! I love this video and I miss you! So proud of you. Love your family!!

  • @rwitter8820
    @rwitter8820 Před 4 lety +2

    Being adopted myself, I have never had the courage to ask my parents or family these types of questions! God bless!! I’m now 32 and I understand being shy and not always talking about yourself and coming to accept who you are!! It’s taken me years and years to learn to love me for me!! I also was adopted into a Caucasian family and grew up thinking I was the same until I started getting made fun of 😭 I am and look 100% Korean and had to learn a lot of culture on my own. My parents taught me as much as they knew and learned about Korean culture but learned more on my own as I got older! Like you mentioned about brushing things off, I feel the same way, it’s hardened me almost too much where sometimes it is hard on the relationships I’ve built

  • @khaitrilachong7619
    @khaitrilachong7619 Před 4 lety +1

    Thanks for sharing your beautiful, heart-touching story. Your parents showed us the wonderful side of humanity.

  • @jeansun4378
    @jeansun4378 Před 3 lety +1

    What a great idea for you to have a talk about your adoption and ask your parents of their thoughts, I love watching it and thanks for sharing.

  • @johnh8186
    @johnh8186 Před 3 lety

    Love the story - your parents and yourself are so incredible. As a father of a 22 year old young lady and 18 years old strapping teenage boy (185 cms versus daddy’s 169 cms). I can’t imagine ever not being there for my kids. Wish you all the best and look forward to seeing more about you and your family!!!

  • @patriciakelly69
    @patriciakelly69 Před 4 lety +2

    You are a beautiful young lady. Just feel proud of yourself. I think your problem is more about age than culture. Every one is different as you know and that’s the most important point. Your adopted parents love you so much and that’s a wonderful gift 💝. Move forward and achieve your dreams. You’re so bright and special I just know you will do well. Xx

  • @7nehaful
    @7nehaful Před 4 lety +14

    I admire your courage.sending lots of love and prayers your way❤
    Ps-you've got amazing parents.

  • @ajisenramen888
    @ajisenramen888 Před 4 lety +7

    Emily, you are lovely soul.
    It is never too late to learn an new culture and language, even if it is your own.
    Best wishes for your continuing journey. ❤️👍

  • @jacquelinebradley164
    @jacquelinebradley164 Před 3 lety

    This was so precious. You're so precious 💛 God made you on purpose! He chose you and He chose your parents to come to your rescue as you came to theirs because you filled a gap in them that is irreplaceable!!!!!!!! I love you just from watching this. You melted my heart. My daughter is half Chinese. She looks fully Chinese too. 💜🕊️✝️

  • @angelkotilainen
    @angelkotilainen Před 4 lety +7

    Plenty of children are raised with bio parents who either didn't really want them or don't gel with them. Being raised in an environment like that, is no joke. So I always think that adopted children must have that blessed feeling that their parents really wanted them, to go to the lengths they have to go to, the hoops they have to jump through, and the obstacles they are willing to overcome just to love and raise a child. Yes there is the odd rare example of it not working out, but on the whole adopted children are very loved. I've always thought that to be a wonderful thing. I was raised by parents who didn't gel with me and didn't really want me. They raised me anyway, kinda, but from a young age I wished someone else would take me. It never happened but it's okay. I love these video's because I love seeing how happy everyone is ♥

  • @zapach
    @zapach Před 8 měsíci +4

    hey, are you okay? a lot of people seeing this for the first time recently may not know, but this account hasn’t posted in literally three years, and went dead silent since the last video posted on the profile. really hope you’re healthy and well!

  • @caroldeaton619
    @caroldeaton619 Před 4 lety +14

    You're beautiful you're educated and your parents love you that's all you need to know.

  • @treesbeeswithknees7
    @treesbeeswithknees7 Před rokem +2

    I was adopted too, and there may have been many factors as to why but I’m grateful for my adoptive mother for raising me 🥹

  • @madalyn2195
    @madalyn2195 Před 4 lety +1

    Your parents are so sweet! So glad you have each other!

  • @glennpenrose5646
    @glennpenrose5646 Před 3 lety

    I think your parents are grateful to have such a lovely daughter. Just enjoy the love and happiness you all bring each other. 🥰

  • @7nehaful
    @7nehaful Před 4 lety +2

    I can't even fathom what you been through.i mean kids in middle school and high school are anyway without any reason mean to eachother.it was probably worse for you .
    I really really admire you speaking up about it.I'm sure it will help many other people ❤

  • @connieedwards4257
    @connieedwards4257 Před 4 lety +2

    Your Dad gets emotional like my Dad and my Husband😊it’s sweet.
    You are a real beauty!

  • @checeemark6727
    @checeemark6727 Před 4 lety +21

    You're very LUCKY Emily..your dad n mom very nice person ...God bless you n your family...