i totally understand where you coming from when i first start t i thought that things were going be different and people were going to start expecting more from me. and i'd say that in that period was when i was the most toxic in terms of masculinity because i started to act different not because of the t but because i thought that that was what people were expecting of me. but around 3 months on t (1 yr 4 months now) i had to really take a step back and tell myself that i was always a man with or without the t and i don't have to to adjust myself just to fit other peoples definition of masculinity. so its a interesting topic that i don't see a lot of trans men really talk about.
Definitely! I found myself stifling some behaviors because I didn’t want to be construed as feminine, but everyday I become more open with just being me and I can be playful and kind without being a jerk and still be a man :) I happen to be an asshole sometimes but that’s not cause I’m playing a part 😂
I start testosterone tomorrow, I've been so nervous about all the changes, and I really don't want to regret it. I think I just needed someone to tell me it's not gonna be that big of a thing, like as big of a deal or a problem. I don't know, it's scary. I have been waiting for years and contemplating whether I want it and doubting myself. I know I do want it, but I have really severe anxiety. This video helped to comfort me a little bit about that, trying to be more positive about it.
Yes! Do you have an update now that it’s been 2 years? I’m not even a week on T. I have horrible anxiety im so scared that I will regret it in the future, even though I can’t imagine myself ever doing that.
I some how made it 40 years without T. I am pretty patient about how T will effect me. I am looking forward towards certain changes. I am aware some of them will take years to even happen. Just happy I can start it soon. Instead of continuing my life with insane gender dysphoria. I am pretty proud of myself not killing myself too. There were attempts. I knew things would get better at some point in my life. I just had no idea it was going to take this long.
Appreciate the honesty man, and I needed this!! I have the same feelings, like I’m gonna wake up and be the man. And it’s cause I literally can’t chill,,,, I’m dying inside!! I want this so so so so bad!! And I needed to see this, it’s a process, and I need to take time to appreciate it. Thanks Devon!
now this is some proper advice. I'm trying to cram some last minute tip videos into my head before I start T in a few weeks, and videos centered more around the emotional aspect of it are really comforting right now 💙
I’ve waited the past six years and I’m finally starting T tomorrow and I feel like this video helped sum up my experiences with having to wait so long, and also helps serve as a reminder that I’m still going to have to wait to experience all the changes I want and that I can’t stop working towards my goals once I start T, because it isn’t going to magically accomplish them for me. Instead I’m trying to keep in mind that T is a tool to help me feel more comfortable in myself and the future I am striving for. I’m sure I will still have some humbling to go through, and much more to learn about myself as I begin my HRT journey, but it’s just a nice reminder that I am the one in control of my future, not my hormones. Thank you for the video and sharing!
Having my first appointment tomorrow for T and Ive been actually avoiding to apply for jobs since I don’t pass and it feels like such a hassle to explain to old people what I am im scared of it. I cannot stand up for myself and idk how, it’s depressing
I would say Find a passion or hobby that you genuinely enjoy, build who you are as a person and just think of T as a plus. I know it’s hard and it feels like you’re forever waiting but the good thing is that you have so much time to figure out who it is you want to be! I appreciate your support bro I’m here for you 🤟🏽
it's gonna be hard to be patient but you will get there, distract yourself in the meantime with hobbies like he said, working out is a good healthy coping mechanism! I was 14 when I came out and am only now able to start T at the age of 21 and it was totally worth the wait.
To a certain extent. I started off low because I was cautious and now I’m on a regular dose. They dose based on how your body reacts to testosterone and the amount of T in your body after a certain amount of time. It also depends on how you feel your energy levels etc.
@@DevonSpears man you really seem so wise for you age ngl xD Also I found this very helpful, I'm 20 and will start therapy next year finally so it helped a lot to hear about this beforehand 🙌
i totally understand where you coming from when i first start t i thought that things were going be different and people were going to start expecting more from me. and i'd say that in that period was when i was the most toxic in terms of masculinity because i started to act different not because of the t but because i thought that that was what people were expecting of me. but around 3 months on t (1 yr 4 months now) i had to really take a step back and tell myself that i was always a man with or without the t and i don't have to to adjust myself just to fit other peoples definition of masculinity. so its a interesting topic that i don't see a lot of trans men really talk about.
Definitely! I found myself stifling some behaviors because I didn’t want to be construed as feminine, but everyday I become more open with just being me and I can be playful and kind without being a jerk and still be a man :) I happen to be an asshole sometimes but that’s not cause I’m playing a part 😂
I start testosterone tomorrow, I've been so nervous about all the changes, and I really don't want to regret it.
I think I just needed someone to tell me it's not gonna be that big of a thing, like as big of a deal or a problem. I don't know, it's scary. I have been waiting for years and contemplating whether I want it and doubting myself.
I know I do want it, but I have really severe anxiety. This video helped to comfort me a little bit about that, trying to be more positive about it.
Thank you for sharing cus I feel the same
Yes! Do you have an update now that it’s been 2 years? I’m not even a week on T. I have horrible anxiety im so scared that I will regret it in the future, even though I can’t imagine myself ever doing that.
this is the exact boat im in right now🥲 any advice?
I some how made it 40 years without T. I am pretty patient about how T will effect me. I am looking forward towards certain changes. I am aware some of them will take years to even happen. Just happy I can start it soon. Instead of continuing my life with insane gender dysphoria. I am pretty proud of myself not killing myself too. There were attempts. I knew things would get better at some point in my life. I just had no idea it was going to take this long.
I'm 42 and started T at the end of last year. It's never too late.
Appreciate the honesty man, and I needed this!! I have the same feelings, like I’m gonna wake up and be the man. And it’s cause I literally can’t chill,,,, I’m dying inside!! I want this so so so so bad!! And I needed to see this, it’s a process, and I need to take time to appreciate it. Thanks Devon!
I’m pre T and this gave me a lot of insight fr lil homie! preciate it ! #muchlove
now this is some proper advice. I'm trying to cram some last minute tip videos into my head before I start T in a few weeks, and videos centered more around the emotional aspect of it are really comforting right now 💙
That’s a smart move, thanks for watching it and good luck with everything!
truth bro
its a process well worth being patient for
Thank you for this
I’ve waited the past six years and I’m finally starting T tomorrow and I feel like this video helped sum up my experiences with having to wait so long, and also helps serve as a reminder that I’m still going to have to wait to experience all the changes I want and that I can’t stop working towards my goals once I start T, because it isn’t going to magically accomplish them for me. Instead I’m trying to keep in mind that T is a tool to help me feel more comfortable in myself and the future I am striving for. I’m sure I will still have some humbling to go through, and much more to learn about myself as I begin my HRT journey, but it’s just a nice reminder that I am the one in control of my future, not my hormones. Thank you for the video and sharing!
I love that sentiment, congrats on starting!
I watched the whole video. I liked it thanks for the information.
Starting next week...yeahhh
This is great!!
yo sick video man thanks for the insight
For sure 🤘🏾
I just started T yesterday and I really needed to hear this 🙏🏻
Congrats homie!
@@DevonSpears thank you!!
3:57 i rlly needed this rn brother ty🙏
Thank you for the video bro. It's very incitive. BTW I go by Charles if my name on here has not been changed from my birth name yet.
Having my first appointment tomorrow for T and Ive been actually avoiding to apply for jobs since I don’t pass and it feels like such a hassle to explain to old people what I am im scared of it. I cannot stand up for myself and idk how, it’s depressing
me not having a regular workout routine, expecting t to make me more buff: :0
Where did you got that T-shirt man?
Didn't click off
Nice video it actually helped me . And I’m 13 and it seems like forever until I can start T and how do I be patient
I would say Find a passion or hobby that you genuinely enjoy, build who you are as a person and just think of T as a plus. I know it’s hard and it feels like you’re forever waiting but the good thing is that you have so much time to figure out who it is you want to be! I appreciate your support bro I’m here for you 🤟🏽
it's gonna be hard to be patient but you will get there, distract yourself in the meantime with hobbies like he said, working out is a good healthy coping mechanism! I was 14 when I came out and am only now able to start T at the age of 21 and it was totally worth the wait.
@@sinhalite did you grow taller
do you have control of the t dosage strength
amount? Like does the doc let you choose and if so what are the strength options
To a certain extent. I started off low because I was cautious and now I’m on a regular dose. They dose based on how your body reacts to testosterone and the amount of T in your body after a certain amount of time. It also depends on how you feel your energy levels etc.
But damn, you HAVE become that full-grown man with impressive physique ... just a bit later ;)
Definitely had that vision 🤞🏽
When are u going to start it ?
Tomorrow at 3 homie! If you follow me on insta I update the exact time my vids are dropping 🤟🏽
@@DevonSpears what about 12 pack abs
Is it necessary to have breast surgery before taking testosterone?
No but if you feel like that's the first step you want to take then go for it
@@adamcitrine9686 Thanx mate for replying ❤
How old are you?
21 🤟🏽
@@DevonSpears man you really seem so wise for you age ngl xD
Also I found this very helpful, I'm 20 and will start therapy next year finally so it helped a lot to hear about this beforehand 🙌
@@oceanstaiga5928 thanks fam! It was either mature or be a moron so I decided to grow up 😂