The Appearance of Sikh Women Today
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- čas přidán 14. 06. 2016
- In this video Jagraj Singh speaks about the appearance of sikh women and how there is no difference between a sikh woman and other woman.
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Not saying that it is easier for men but in this society it is difficult as a woman from India to have black hair on our skin (facial hair, leg hair etc). Some of us just aren't courageous enough to go out with hair on our faces and legs. I also see a lot of Sikh boys teasing girls about facial hair, underarm hair etc which I think plays a huge part into the problem. Also feel that this video should've been more directed at males too as I only know a few Sikh boys that have kept their hair, most cut it off making it difficult to distinguish whether they are Sikh or not
Vir you shouldn't make fun of girls for cutting their hair. Not everyone has the courage to keep all their hair and it doesn't mean they have less faith if they do cut their hair. They could have a closer connection with God than someone does who has kept their hair.
I understand you're struggle I myself am really insecure about it but its a battle you can't lose if vaheguru is with you. so anytime you get the urge to shave/wax just because of insecurity stop and think of all the people who died for our right to have hair just as much as our brothers. think of how when we are old and hairy (bc lets face it ain't nobody waxing at the age of 70) vaheguru will still love you. hope this helps and I just try to watch these videos as much because it inspires me and helps me not worry about facial etc hair as much.
yes that is true but how many sikh boys keep their uncut beards (certainly not you) and how many don't drink? all I'm trying to do is show you yes your point is absolutely right but you need to get off your high horse and see that bashing sikh girls isn't the right way of solving this issue.
simsun I truly agree with you, bashing on girls isn’t going to solve the problem. Who Guru Ji judges is upon individuals and not gender. I think it’s upon our compassion and living under our Guru through right deeds, then it’s better than calling out the gender.
Aap Japo Avareh Naap Japavo - you start a meditation, then you spread meditation.
If it was gender which is the main issue, I think our Guru would have wrote a shabad regarding Gender than individual the most. But Guru’s said not to discriminate at the most “So Kyo Manda Akhiye Jit Jame Rajan” Why hate woman which Kings are born from? And countless on explaining.
Forgiveness please
SJ this video for Amritdhari bibia
Alhamdulillah....nice lecture for ur community.... I liked it because u are calling ur people to turn towards ur religion.... I am a Muslim and I strongly believe that we should look like what we are. We should lay our life according to religion.
carlos carlos ..
Thanks
His speeches were great. How come you were on this video as a Muslim woman?
Soniya ..... Sister.. I am interested in knowing what other religion says on any particular topic. I love comparative study of religion.
@@hurryupnow1 I also Muslim women I see this video because I love lean about all religions nothing wrong with watching. May you blessed 🌹😊
I have got converted from Hindu to Sikh religion. When a person is following DASHMESH PITA JI'S PATH, only then he can gets entwined with THE ALMIGHTY. thus we get knowledge of ASKING AND RECEIVING. WE COME TO KNOW THAT SUPPLY PRECEDES DEMAND. WJKK WJKF
Waheguru.🙏 You might have done some really good deeds that you found Guru Gobind Singh ji.
Waheguru ji , gr8 brdr 😇
Sahi hai bhai maze karo ....wase itna batao ki kya abhi aap prayer ya puja kase krte ho ?
@@Gurwinder_Singh171 matlab? Mantra jab ? Ya kis kisam ki prayer? Apne yha toh khoob sari hoti hai aaplog kase krte ho
@@Gurwinder_Singh171 mantra muntra hota hai mere khud ke 10-15 relatives ne naam daan lia hai randha swami ji se unko gupt mantra mila hai or radha swami ji bhi sacche guru hai toh aasa na bole mantra nahi hota maybe aaplog usko kuch or bolte hoge
this was amazing. I am going to share this at local camps. this is very important too.
Oh please don’t. Look at your own profile picture first. There’s no need for this bs, what you wear on the outside means nothing
@@pureblood736 They will share on social media for some likes/attention and forget about it few days later.
@@pureblood736 it does mean something actually, keeping sikhi saroop is part of rehat, which you need to connect to the one.
What a beautiful human being Respect from a Muslim brother
He was truly an amazing man, unfortunately he passed away a few years ago.
@@mrawesome6239 Wait really? where did you heard that from
@@t.8837 he passed away from cancer quite a few years ago now. its known.
paji has completely smashed it. It is something that has been going on for a long time, and it need to discussed.
If you are loving person inside, than you would reflect it outside.
If you a Sikh inside, than you would reflect it outside.
Women have changed because of men. Sikh men appreciate girls with short hair and less clothes. So many divorce are happening because of it.
Why amritdhari Sikh and other Sikhs getting married in other religion. why are they not telling their wives of other religion to be amritdhari?
Thankyou for bringing this out veerji..
Thank you really needed that!
Everything said by jagraj veer is 💯 needed the final thapi
I think an ever bigger problem than Sikh women not standing out is the lack of acceptance and judgment many families have about it. I know girls whose amritdhari parents put them down about their facial hair. My parents disapprove of my wearing shorts over my swim suits when at beaches or pools. Good job on the video, but I think that this is only helping to fix half the problem. I wish I had an idea about how to fix the other half.
If Amritdhari parents get mad at there children for simple following Sikhi, then they weren't very Amritdhari in the first place...
which girl wants facial hair? we are not men
+punjab19901 did you just ask a question and answer it at the same time? hahaha how much more closed minded can it be?
Behnji, no offense but we don't care about looking like men or women,
We only care if our appearance is like as Our Guru wanted it.
+punjab19901 amritdhari girls and Sikh girls who love the way God made them.
+punjab19901 Its not about what you want, it's about what the Guru wants. There is nothing wrong with a little facial hair. Don't let society and the media change your beauty standards.
I think problem here is that some Sikh men don't accept Sikh women to not to beautify themselves and pressures to look good for him and his family even though you say it's about creating Sikh identity.
I agree, this is a major factor.
Ruby Sidhu Don't blame sikh men if you sikh women yourself lack the courage to be in complete sikh identity and want to follow Bollywood/hollywood actresses rather than mai bhago ji. Plz throw away your insecurities somewhere else and not CZcams.
same applies to sikh women, most of them don't want a turban sikh man. hence, many sikhs men are cutting their hair
Sikh men can also say the same that women don't like men with turban and beard, yet you will find many guys who keep their faith. Why women can't cut the peer pressure, feel confident and stick to their faith instead of caring for those sikh men who don't accept them, the same way sikh men have been doing? Eda blame v mundeyan te 😄
Exactly! Look at the hate the young Sikh woman from Slough receives online because she refuses to shave her facial hair.
I really dislike alot of these comments saying that women need to be "educated" on the fact looks don't matter. No, what EVERYONE needs to be educated is on Sikhi!, that goes for BOYS too (believe it or not they also care about there looks).
Anyways back to the point, this is a problem for both women and men and it comes down to the lack of education in Gudwara's.
Alot of kids sit down during paart and don't understand a word of what is being said (that goes for some adults too). We need to either teach every single kid punjabi or just put subtitles or something in Gudwara's, it should be mandatory. Alot of people seem to be complaining about how alot of kids are drifting away from Sikhi, well it's because they are not taught it in the first place, so how are they even supposed to know how to follow it?
I mean I know you're probably thinking, well if you think there is a problem why don't you fix it?, - Well I'm one of those kids so I wouldn't have the first clue.
Thank u for this comment. It is lack of education. We ourselves listen to preachers and and dont read the guru granth sahib ji ourseleves. Lack of knowledge is all it is.
THANK YOU!!!! YES our Gurdwaras are about commitees and money, they are not interested in teaching the true meaning of Gurbani in a meaningful way that youth can relate to. Thats where Sikh camps come in.. but are mostly run by people who also dont have a solid grasp of Gurbani, which isnt fully complete in English translation. Since gurbani cant be fully expressed translated into another language without losing the essence of its true meaning, we must go to the source. Learn to read, decipher Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji for ourselves. Sikh Research Institute does a great job, with, workshops, courses, retreats.
Yes I agree, I think a lot of the members of the community emphasise the importance of the outward religious appearance of a person. But they fail to realise that before changing your appearance, people need to learn what the prayers mean and what gurbani means. A lot of people don’t know much about the religion/ history but claim that they are very religious because at least they wear a dastaar and the five kakaars.
Men are just as much to blame. Do they really accept Sikh woman with unshaven body hair ? Look at the young Sikh woman in Slough who is abused and threatened online because she has a beard. Come On!
You can watch acharya Prashant' s videos on Guru Nanak ji, Japji Sahib and Nitnem Sahib they are available in English and Hindi in a easy way. I hope this helps you further Waheguru Guru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh Bole So Nihal Sat Sri Akal apart from this you can also watch meditative mind channel where you can meditate and understand shabad.
Brilliantly said by veerji. I have always wondered why I didn't really fit in with other people in terms of dressing and looser morals and now I know why - thanks for explaining that we were made to be different so that's why it all didn't fit for me
Crucial message, ji! I hope people are hearing you!
Sikhs should also stand out as fit and strong. So many times I've been amidst a crowd of Sikhs, and so many look soft, pudgy, flabby and defeated, especially among Kaurs. Carrying oneself as a lion, this is a mandate of the Guru!
Pudgy and flabby. It’s that how most Sikh guys love their Aunties ?
@@tudormiller8898 why you are butthurt in this comment section?
Waheguru
Heard this video last year, haven't cut my kes since then and they have grown really long. Hopefully will do that for the rest of my life too 🙏🙏
Wouldn't it lead to hygiene issues? Long hairs are a big pain to maintain.
@@dranzergigs8333 maintenance of long hair is tough but how can that turn into a hygiene issue ?
Long hair is not an issue in hygiene. The main thing here is Discipline. Make sure to shower at least 2 times a day and clean every part of your body. For the head preferably every 2 or 3 days wash as the hair on the scalp is sensitive to daily washing.
Eating right comes into the mix as well. Avoid sugar and unhealthy oil, eat clean with lots of fresh (preferably organic vegetables) for healthy body and reduction of odour. Exercise daily (if not, 3-4 times a week) for 30 minutes or more to remove sweat so your body does not have odour as well. Last but not least, for the armpits, use Salt based, if not any Ammonium free deodorant and use a natural scrub (salt, ground seeds, ect) every once or twice a week. There are lots of natural products to maintain long hair on head such as henna, gentle natural, SLS free shampoo and conditioner etc.
All in all, in this modern day there are many products to keep yourself clean and healthy. Cutting your hair doesn't equal to being healthy, it's mainly your habits of lifestyle (eating, exercising, showering well, sleeping at the right time and managing stress). Hence, healthy body = hygienic. Therefore, long hair is not a problem.
@@dranzergigs8333 no because it is regularly washed. Millions of Sikhs in the world, and other people keep clean long hair
I believe this could be worded a bit differently. Anyone can find God, yes. An Amritdhari Sikh commits themselves to degh tegh fateh. So the banaa is the uniform which holds the Amritdhari's Sikhs accountable for their actions and they have given their head to the Guru and dedicated their lives to serving humanity and protecting the defenseless. People can identify a dastar from hundreds of feet away. Males can easily be in that position to find and ask for help or hold them accountable because if you see a guy with a turban drinking alcohol for example and breaking his rehit you can hold him accountable. But the same cannot be said for bibiya, remember that when females become amritdhari they take the same commitment as males. So you can't be held accountable. This is not about oppressing females but just so there is not a double standard when it comes to amritdhari Singhs. As right now in society, if a male is amritdhari if he doesn't wear a dastar it's seen as wrong but females it's not. We need to keep up to the one universal standard which was created by Guruji. I often go to events like nagar kirtans and I can speak to Singhs in punjabi but I hesitate to speak in punjabi to a female because I don't know if she's even Sikh. It has happened where the south asian person I was speaking to ended up being a hindu or muslim. Also when doing parchar to people, females have flipped back and said "I am Sikh, You know?!" I don't believe veerji meant to call out people who are still early on the path of Sikhi. It is a journey of the 'Santhaa ka Marg'. This is more of an intermediate video in my opinion than one for the Basics. Forgive me if I've offended anyone. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji ki Fateh
You won't realise but women who care too much about their outer appearance are so insecure and broken from the inside.The Guru reminds you that you are the most beautiful person as you are born but it's the media that messes it up
Thank you 🙏
@Basics of Sikhi I really love this video! I just have one question. Even if most Sikh women don't wear a turban, could you still tell they are a Sikh by if they wear a Kara and if they have long hair in lets say for example in a low bun or a braid? I know their are people that are non Sikhs that wear a Kara for religious reasons but some sadly would only wear it for fashion reasons but mostly Sikhs wear a Kara.
for girls only there is a choice
but now-a-days they are making their own rules to call themselves sikh
our guru has given us Rehat maryada
we have to follow this on our will
who is a true sikh, will follow rehat maryada
anyone can follow it if they are not even sikh but have to follow it properly
guru sahib ji love a person who follow rehat maryada
it is not necessary guru sahib love thier sikh only some amritdhaari don't even follow rehat maryada
@@rimpyd7277 thank you so much for your reply I really appreciate it!
@@rimpyd7277Can I remain Vegetarian or Vegan after becoming a Sikh??
Vaheguru ji
Bhaji isn’t smashing on Sikh women. He is just reminding that it’s extremely difficult to distinguish between Sikh women and the rest of the females of the world. Which is true. He is saying what every Sikh male or female knows deep down but not everyone has got the courage to do which is keeping the outward appearance given in rehat maryada.
Waheguru everything that is said in this video is so true
Women have changed because of men. Sikh men appreciate girls with short hair and less clothes. So many divorce are happening because of it.
Why amritdhari Sikh and other Sikhs getting married in other religion. why are they not telling their wives of other religion to be amritdhari?
Well said pajji
im italian and i like your humility in dressing.. and any other teaching on humility
Hypocrisy in Sikhi
If,
Woman = Man
In Sikh families, why men are asked to wear turban while this isn't expected from women living in the same family? Is turban only for men?
Is this the reason why women prefer clean shaven men because sikh men have hair and wear turban which they don't find attractive?
How will women respect turban if they don't wear it?
Did our Guru, Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave hukam to only Sikh men to wear turban and not women?
If women prefer non-sikh or clean shaven men as their life partner, who will marry their brothers? Ever thought about it?
Is it really easy for a bearded-turbaned man to marry a girl of different faith? Is the ratio of sikh men marrying non-sikh women higher than sikh women marrying non-sikh men?
Why many sikh parents agree to marry their daughters to rich non-sikh men even in arrange marriage setup? Why suddenly greed comes above the religion?
Why girls make non-sikhs and cutsurds their boyfriends in their young age and after breakup, they find a decent sikh guy for marriage according to parents choice? Why spoil someone's life?
Sikh men should also be allowed to cut their hair and make their choices freely, but why is the onus of protecting sikhi only on men while women are free to make their choices?
Why do people mould sikhi as per their convenience?
@Abu Jörg Showing the reality makes someone a sikh hater? Tell me where I am wrong. Have you never experienced the same? I am also a sikh and I know how things work in sikh families.
@Abu Jörg Lol, if you are so logical, answer every question and prove me wrong. Why blaming someone randomly as a sikh hater? Why not stick to the facts?
@Abu Jörg What it has to do with my religion? Why can't someone stick to the facts and answer my questions instead of asking someone about their religion? Why are you commenting here if you have many things to do in life? Lol
I am not answerable to you what things I have to do in my life. It's social media platform, anyone can have their opinion, the same way you are commenting here?
He's is not a sikh hater you fool he is talking about gender discrimination/Racism in Sikhism...mai bhi sikh hu or mai bhi same feel krta hu...sach bolna hate krna kabse hogya??
@Ek Ta jab kisi religion ki smajh na ho to usme nahi bolna chahiye,, apko bat smjh nahi ari shayad,,, wo sikh hater nahi h,,
i am a sikh person or "rohan s"
Ye banda 100% sahi bolra h,, sach bolra h,,, sikho me sikhi ko leke hi ajeeb sa bhed bhav h,, ladko ko sikh jabardasti bnate h or ladkiyo ko puri chut deke rakhte h,,
I think it'd be better if a Sikh woman spoke about this because she has gone through the issues, I see bhai Jagraj Singh's point though. I agree :) but to make it more relatable we need a Kaur to talk about this :) --much love
moonstars6 I came here for this comment. I wear a Kara because it’s my choice to connect with my faith this way, but I find a lot of this is culture and religion. I’m not punjabi, I’m white and my own relationship with my spirituality is my own from my own context. Make up isn’t always worn for reasons of beauty, it can be as expression
Exactly! You often hear about the issues Muslim women deal with, but not much regarding Sikh women.
Personally as a Sikh woman, I see real issue with lack of modesty and then keeping hair is another issue also.. I can handle how I want the world to see me but nowadays plenty sikh ‘ influencers ‘ are ruining the look of a kaur and it’s quite shameful really
I am not Punjabi, I am Cuban American and I am also a Amritdhari Sikh living in America. I keep my hair I don’t shave or trim and I don’t wear makeup, I tie my Dastar (Turban) every day. I have even kept my Turban on while I’m having surgery in the operating room. I don’t care what ppl want to say about my hairy legs or arm pits or if they want to see me different because I wear a turban. My only concern is to follow n respect my Guru’s teachings n not disobey my Gurus. I am proud to be Sikh and I am even more proud when I am identified as one when ppl point out my Turban. My Fiancé is also a Amritdhari Sikh n he is Punjabi. When ppl ask him why did he choose me for a wife he simply says bcz he wants his wife to look like him and love n respect Waheguru Ji as much as he does.
I just wish Sikh women get more representation in media
They all gone far from sikhi one who love gurbani will love dastar 🙏
Our Sikh brothers need to memorize Bhai Gernal Singh Bhindranwala and Jagjit singh Chohan
ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ।। ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫਤਿਹ ਜੀ।। 🙏🙏🙏
right guru ji.
He talked about Muslim women. As a Muslim, I love the style of his preaching
Yass Im a Sikh girl, and I wear a Kara on my arm proudly to distinguish myself as a Sikh. Beforehand, people would think I'm a Muslim lmaoo... but ever since wearing the Kara, my Sikh brothers n sisters can recognize me and the Muslims who thought I was one of them, now know im not. Nothing wrong with muslims, im just proud of being a Sikh and should be known of as one, and I'd gladly tell people about my religion if they ask. :) However, it should be a choice on if they want turbans like the men too, since women with long hair can keep it like that anyways. There's other ways a Sardarni can represent her religion. As long as you're proud of it and to show and tell about it, Waheguru knows and is proud.
Asdf Ghjkl Are you crazy or what. Kindly visit india and see for yourself that majority of hindus wear kara. Don't create "your" ways to represent sikhism. Follow guru gobind singh ji's rehat and stop cutting kesh, waxing etc amd wear a dastaar(if you call yourself sikh). Problem with you western sikhs is you feel pride in cutting kesh, becoming westernised and forgetting your roots and religion.
carlos carlos Bro its common sense. That girl is feeling proud to wear a kara and saying that she is representing sikhism😂😂 Do you really expect such a girl to keep kesh? Has she lost her mind or what? Does wearing a steel bangle on your wrist gives you a unique identity? In india, countless hindus wear kada as a part of indian culture. Surely, wearing kara is a part of sikh identity but the main thing is turban and keeping kesh which makes you stand out of the crowd and gives you a unique sikh identity.
Also, based on my online experience with western sikh women, they are complete bimbos with no knowledge of sikhism at all, create their own rules to justify their non sikh lifestyle, can't even name 11 sikh gurus, what to talk of sikh rehat maryada(SRM) yet still call themselves a proud sikh😂😂😂😂
On a side note, just curious to know, are you a sikh as well?
@@mastermind7538 real kara is made of iron/sarabloh not steel
Master mind what about the western sikh men?? Forgot to mention them too.
Master mind the Sikh boys who wear dastar but are going to nightclubs, weddings to drink sharab because it’s “punjabi culture”. Or the older generation of Singhs who are alcoholics but still wear dastar outside. Let’s not forget them too.
I am afraid to stand out, as a 28 year old Sikh, I have only uncut hair which I tie it in a bun. I am not accomplished enough to stand out yet. I am only doing my masters degree right now. After my Phd, Waheguru di kirpa, I will start keeping all the hair on my body and then I won't have guilt of standing out because I know when I put on the dumala, I can say I have achieved enough to stand out. I would like to show that to other non-Sikhs that we as Sikhs we are highly educated and accomplished. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.
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Seems like 8 bibiya disliked the video.
Just kidding, great video by the way!
Is appearance and to stand out amongst the crowd such an important factor in religion? One day we will all die and this body and appearance is a mere 'suit' - it will turn to dust one day?
Its both important and not.. the very people who dont want to change their appearance to the Gurus will always use this as their excuse..when in reality they care about their appearances so much that they dont want to keep their kesh or stand out. Those who surrender to Gurus hukam end up not caring about their appearance and so adopt the Khalsa appearance
The Gurus have taught us how to control our mind n on the other hand they've also focused on the body.......that is mann(mind) di maryada(conduct) n tan(body) di maryada
the reason why sikhs aren't allowed to cut their hair is that God is present in each n every pour(ਰੋਮ) of our body as well as ਕਣ of the universe.....so its not only about keeping ur hair n beard unshorn but we r also not allowed to put tattooes on our body bcoz we've body hair as well
the reason why Kes(hair) r included in 5 Kakkaars proves it all why we shouldn't cut our body hair
ਮਲਵੲੀ We aren't allowed tattoes? Google harnaam kaur, she's a sikh girl who has kept her hair, quite famous now and actually has tattooes too.
I want to cover my head and I live in the US. I don’t know where to find even a patka. I’m close to wearing a loose hijab. I don’t know if that’s okay though. Or if I should just wear an under scarf. It’s very difficult. Especially because I’m a convert I don’t want to make the wrong move.
Bhen ji, don’t feel forced into anything however if your looking for patka there’s some on SikhiStore. And as long as your covering your head your fine sikhi is not a ‘rule book religion’ it’s about your love for guru sahib so if you wish to cover your head as a sign of respect and to stand out do it, don’t do it out of fear. May Waheguru bkess u
there are lots of online places to order from if you don't have an Indian store to purchase Turban from locally
I hope it will help sikh women to understand whom they should admire! Sikhs are different in both apperance and activities!
I am seeing so many sikh women who go out of their houses without even a dupatta!
maybe you should mind your business and not stare at other women
A separate and distinct identity is something that is mentioned multiple times in all the baani that is there.
About 3 weeks ago i was talking to a very esteemed Gursikh (one of the Panj Pyaree) and i brought this question up that
WHY IS THERE INEQUALITY for WOMEN IN SIKHI? you get 1000 people standing in a crowd you'll be able to spot a Singh by his distinct appearance, but not the Singhni, why is that ? why are they not being loved and treated the same ? We give 5 kakkar to both males and females but yet one is expected to cover their head and the other one is not?
His answer was very straight forward, he said in a humble-fatherly voice that "Baba Ji loves his/her Gursikh and wants them to stand out from the crowd as you are saying, and it occurs not once but multiple times in gurbani that a Sikh should be distinct with emphasis on distinct outward Sikh like appearance". (baani vich kai baar alag roop rakhan vaaste keha gya hai sikhan lai hun j nai mannde taan oh unhan de aap apne karm, sada kam si dassna)
It was clear from then on that people who value outward appearances (i was one of them till 2011) are either not comfortable being seen as a Sikh or have some other issue that is keeping them from it, but if you want to follow Gurbaani then keeping kesh and wearing a keski is the way for both Sikh men and women.
Sikh people are beautiful, they don't need to look like everybody else...this is true actually for everyone not just Sikh, unfortunately people are destroying their uniqueness and want to all look the same...we see this particularly with the increase of plastic surgery :(( it is quite sad. but because fashions are this money making thing, this is pushed like crazy!
Is this the influence of Bollywood or Western society ?
@@tudormiller8898 Both.
I wish my sister could stand out.
support her and let her know that her spiritual father gave her his roop too
+Jasbir Kaur Villaschi I have tried but she just says that I don't want to
best bet Brother is to be the best gursikh you can be and show her that the path of love has so much to offer by actions and speech , you can be a source of daily inspiration Waheguru ji will do kirpa , just trust Him.
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Alhamdulillah I'm Muslim ❤️
Mulla
@@raath_sikh ALHUMDULILLAH
@@adamsmith586 laudallah
@@raath_sikh
That's sounds your god's name
@@adamsmith586 just like how the Palestinian child is split open
If Sikh women wore the 5 K’s, that would really help.
You are right :) and sadly very few wear the 5 K's with a turban.
Hello them look like a men
Only Amritdhari men and women wear the 5 ks and Turban. We need more sisters to realize that it is okay to take Amrit and wear the Turban and Kakaar, we do not become lesser. It is okay if people stare at us. I have lots of goreh asking me questions, saying they didn't know women wore Turban, and they love learning about our religion and that Vaheguru instructed both genders equally to wear Turban, keep hair, wear kakaar.
Ok so how about for a woman to not wear makeup and tie hair back, not wear contact lenses but glasses instead, to look natural.
wut does contacts have to do with this. for some people they need to wear cotacts
My 3 sisters should watch this. But I can almost guarantee it won't make a diff....
Their choice. God gives us a choice.
@@zoomzoom7444 mind your business
@@mandeepsekhon Majority of Sikh women in this generation are highly influenced from western culture and so are unable to keep unshorm hair.
very nicely said by jagraj singh ji however if you were to read in Anand Sahib it says...
"baro nirmal jeo tha maelai thinee janam jooai haraya".
Guru Amardas ji explains how we look pure on the outside wearing a dastaar, keeping our kes, wearing a kirpan, being chartiable and more, but that means nothing if we have not let go of jealousy, ego, anger, materialistic attachment, greed etc. When the mind becomes pure the outside will become pure on its own. Thats why it matters more that we are pure within first by doing simran which is the only way to clean the mind.
Outward looks don't manifest a love for Waheguru. People have missed the essential message of the Guru Granth Sahib ji.
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The thing is societal pressure especially if you live abroad. People mistake us for Muslims cause of turbans and I feel like they might attack me or am. I know some women in the gurdwara who wear a turban. I respect them.
Have to agree Muslim woman are very beautiful when they wear the scarf, God they look so beautiful like angels on earth.
You must be a Muslim
@@simransingh214 just because someone praises another race doesn't mean they are from the same ethnicity. You have a very narrow mind lol. Middle Eastern are Beautiful it can't beat that!!!!
Clarify: Why is "a sikh not meant to look like everybody else in this world?" Thanks
No answer. You there?
The simple answer is: It's Gurujee's Hukam (order).
1) However, one reason for us standing is so people can easily spot us, when in trouble, as we are meant to serve humanity.
2) Furthermore, when you have love for Guru, having Guru's roop, will stop you from doing immoral actions in public, since you are then representing Gurujee.
3) Also, it defeats your ego (Homai) and helps your Sikhi grow within (the inside can change the outside, however, it works the other way around as well).
Hope this answers your question.
That realistically wont happen, but if it did, then all the problems of the world would be solved.
@@TheTurbanatore so realistically not everyone will follow a religion that's meant to be perfect and from god? Why's that then?
@@Ryan-jk5xn because religion is a scam to keep the sheep's from being wolves
Its because society and movies brainwashed sikh men n women to think cutting there hair is fashionable, even though every sikh girl or man ive seen with a dastaar look way more beautiful, unique and strong then with out one. U just gotta get rid of the brain washing. I dont even wear one yet but I am going to start
I'm living in Canada and as long as we see only sikh man with dastar )turban), when I'm walking on the street wearing my dastar with chunni, western people think that I'm muslim and muslim think that I'm their muslim sister. I'ts not a problem, I don't mind. But, here sikh women are not wearing dastar or chunni except some amritdharis. I don't judge because is Waheguru that know everything. In fact, if more sikh women choose to wear headcover, mayb people will not be confuse and associate us as muslim. Anyway it's my point of view in a western country. Unfortunatly, in my area, there is a law that forbid religious article in some work place (police, judge, teacher). This is complicated a lot the life of our bhai ji and bibi ji who want to work in these field.
@Medico Hein? I don't understand what you means with this comment....
Because the Sikh women have forgotten their identity ,what this has led to is nowadays they are also looking for partners who don't wear turban and have hair. It is one thing to blend in with society and being fashionable but Sikh women should also realise that Guru forbade all Sikhs to not cut their hair.
They want sardars but at first they need to know what a sardarni is....
I think amritdhari women not do such kinds of things. But if we are following Sikh religion than women and men should not cut hairs or wax bcoz it is hukam of our gurus and we have not right to question on that bcoz we are idiots and always have excuses.bcoz these hairs are not ours it's our gurus hairs who sacrificed their life for these hairs so as a mark of respect we should not do this. It's a basic step towards sikhi
Do Gursikh women have to wear a turban?
SONIA SOHI yes
If men have to wear it, so do women
No.
Yes they have to and also covering dumalla with Dupatta
Anmol Chahal you do realize the wearing of the dastaar for women was only normalized after Singh Sabha?
Women have changed because of men. Sikh men appreciate girls with short hair and less clothes. So many divorce are happening because of it.
Why amritdhari Sikh and other Sikhs getting married in other religion. why are they not telling their wives of other religion to be amritdhari?
well actually those sikh wives probably wore kurreh.
Don't compare Islam to Sikhism, we don't need to be like them...
I generally agree, however Jagraj Singh does make a point here that while muslim women do seem to have an identity, the same cannot be said for Sikh women.
It's no good saying that. What he is trying to point out is we should be proud of our faith and dress modest. I am Muslim and I listen to these talks, we shouldn't be ignorant and as a peaceful religion as we are supposed to be it is good to understand other people's religion's too. Our prophets were peaceful and God fearing and what is happening in the World now will only be resolved if we try to get on peacefully. Making nasty comments to each other is not the way to make peace.
I am a Sikh also, and nowhere in the Gura granth sahib does it say anything that women must have the need to "stand out" if anything this is a good aspect of sikhism
+RaZDaZ first of all it is called Guru Granth Sahib not gura granth sahib and second of all, I don't think you have read the whole entire Guru Granth Sahib so shut up and be respectful to other religions, muslims, hindus, christians etc, it doesn't matter what they think of us, dont let it affect you, words cannot hurt a Sikh.
+Fierce Fury "tried to invade India"... Dude, Muslims ruled India for hundreds of years!
I mean we do have the Kara...
why would you ever want to differentiate between people. Isn't is good that people look alike and be like each other than being differentiated on the basis of religion. why not promote unity.
^ Drugs !
Why does a police officer wear a uniform and carry a gun? should he not blend in with society? use the same logic
Most people are weak, lost and confused. It's just the truth; these are the times we're living in. If you look just like the average person (weak, lost, and confused) you are not being a Gursikh. It is right and proper for the sons and daughters of Har Har to stand out in the crowd.
I totally agree with him, some of them dont even wear kerah, very very sad.
wearing just karah does not make you a sikh for a true sikh need to be amrit and wear 5 ks helps others be respectful towards others everything not just 1 thing
Great question and loss of Sikh women?
Who asked you on the opinion of women
If the world is also wearing turban and having beard ,what than
who cares about outward apperance and what other think. Only inside matters.
If only inside matters why did Maharaj give us the dastaar? Bana? Kakkar?
+Isher13 are you implying that only sikhs can reach god?
+Anmol S one who' follows the guru has already found God in the form of Dhan guru Granth sahib ji Maharaj
+Isher13 Have you found god? Have you talked to god?
+Anmol S for me my god is Guru Granth Sahib jee so yes I have found him.
Sikh women should also be armed according to Guru Gobind Singh ji.
Are the Sikhs families teaching their daughters to be brave and learn Sikh martial arts .
Most of the Sikh men run after beautiful girls.Girls in Sikh families are never given the upbringing to be equal to men.
Punjabi mom's have spoiled their sons which is one of the reason of divorce in Sikh families.
Sikh families are biased towards girls. They are not teaching euality.
you are confusing Panjabi families with Sikh families. Amritdhari Sikh families do arm their daughters, they do bring up their children equally without bias.
Our Panjabi culture needs to follow Sikhi more and raise their kids equally as Guru ji wanted
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AMRITDHARI AND PUNJABI FAMILY. have you ever seen a amritdhari woman without a kirpan? Probably not cuz they still care.
@@Prab-iu6mr I have seen many Amritdhari getting married to non Amritdhari.
@@jasmeetindia3682 that’s actually sad man. Where is this generation even going.
In Islam, Muslims are commanded to differentiate themselves from the non Muslims. But also for men and women to differentiate themselves from the opposite gender.
Woman are not allowed to wear clothing that is mainly for men and men are not allowed to wear clothing mainly for women. A wife should bring happiness and tranquility when her husband looks at her. And vice versa, when the wife has a bigger beard and more body hair than the husband how is this going to be pleasing to the husband and when the woman is not allowed to be feminine, being forced to keep her facial hair, body hair, wear clothing like a man how is she meant he feel feminine and beautiful, when outwardly she looks like a man.
This is the main reason I think Sikh woman do not adopt the dress and look that their religion commands them to. Because it is in our nature to be womanly and object looking like a man.
Women body hairs don't make them man..its provided by nature and these waxinbg things started happening some 100. Years back.. Beautiful girl with body hairs existed then too...
now sikh women look more punjabi women gurudwaras dont do good job in teaching sikhi
Basic of Sikhi taught us not to judge others and avoid 5 evil things. This video clearly didnt folllows any of that. Stop judging sikh women, you are not helping them, you are pushing them because their apperances are different. You do not have place in God's court, its not your place to judge.
Recognise human being then you will see god in them. If you really want sikhi to stands out then stop judging them.
By your logic Sikh men should have the right stop wearing dastaars and leave their hair open.
That's not what I'm talking about. We don't judge people by their appearance, because we have no right to tell them "you're not wearing dastar/chuni, you're not even sikhi".
It seems to me that we are more concerned on their appearance than their morality. If you see a baptised woman sikhi with dastar, you would pay them with respect but most of us don't pay any attention to other who are not wearing basic identity. How do you know the baptised sikhi woman is better than non baptised sikhi?
God didn't create religions to religions to give people power to judges their differences. You have to recognise the differences and accept.
It literally doesn't make sense to me, all religions are essentially the same but in different paths. It doesn't matter which paths you chose as long as you RECOGNISE the human being in them then you see GOD. This video is more concerned on appearance than human's values.
God created these religions to TEST our tolerances towards them. clearly this video can't recognise god in them.
"Basic of Sikhi taught us not to judge others"
Explain how making an observation and giving advice is Judging? Jagraj Singh was pointing out the obvious that Sikh Woman have lost there identity.
" avoid 5 evil things"
How did Jagraj Singh in this video invoke the Anger, Greed, Lust, Ego, or Attachment? What Jagraj really said was to not care what people think of your outward appearance and follow what your Guru said which was to Stand out from the crowd.
"Stop judging sikh women, you are not helping them, you are pushing them because their appearances are different."
There is nothing wrong with Judging people and giving constructive criticisms. Jagraj Singh is helping Sikh Woman by showing them how they have forgotten the Gurus teachings. He is not pushing them because there appearance is different, he is just stating the obvious that there appearance is the same and is not distinguishable in a crowd. Sikh woman has lost there identity and this is evident in Sikh Society.
"You do not have place in God's court, its not your place to judge."
First off, who are YOU to Judge him? You just stated that Sikhs should not Judge anyone and now we see you doing the same. Second: He does have the right to Judge because unlike you Jagraj Singh is well educated in Sikhi, History, Philosophy, Parchaar, and is the founder of the largest Sikhi educational organization in the world. You on the other hand are Ignorant and do not understand Khalsa Values, its best you just keep your mouth shut and try to understand what other people are saying.
" avoid 5 evil things"
It seems to me he's a bit egotist and he's more concerned their appearance. There's other video with ridiculous video titles "Muslim vs Sikhi debate" sounds like he's being egoistical with his wisdom and knowledges. I'm not judging him but pointing out, how can he preach about sikhi but can't follow it.
"There is nothing wrong with Judging people and giving constructive criticisms."
"First off, who are YOU to Judge him?"
I'm a sikhi myself but i'm more of a laid back, more tolerate to others and less concerned about their appearance but i don't need to tell you about myself. I'm pointing out, he's not in God's court, so it's not his place to judge people nor is it our place either.
What you just described about him literally proved my point. People like you compares khalsa vs me "he have done x thing, he's better person than you, he preach everyday and follow khalsa values". Guru teach us not to have excessive prides and not consider our status inferior than others, clearly the way you talk contradicted your khalsa values?
"You on the other hand are Ignorant and do not understand Khalsa Values, its best you just keep your mouth shut "
Another form of anger which guru teach us not to be angry and we should encourage sikhi to understand. If you find my comment offensive then you clearly can't see peace in yourself because you just show excessive amount of prides in you over me and the others.
About Sikhi identity:
Here's the thing, god gave messages to human about religion's path.
These messages are going to test us how we tolerate other. For example, we have our basic sikhi identity, if someone don't follow the identity then we are challenged (tested) to see how we reacts to them and how we can try to help them without bragging/judging .
Clearly you didn't do any of that, you just boasts your prides and compared my status then put me away from sikhi. All of this is a test to God, it's to see how you reacts to other.
This is all a test, even I'm being tested, you have to find peace in yourself to recognise human being differences.
Why do you have to carry your damn religion on your face? Isn’t it better to carry to religion your faith, in your heart?
Siyovaxsh En-sipad-zid-ana I know and I agree then- but this was then not now. Why your appearance has to show your religion. Religion is meant to integrate not segregate, make life easier not more difficult. Shame some people take it to extremes.
...Identity is very important role in a religion or faith.
Time is support Indian religions like Hinduism, budhism, Jainism, Sikhism, jai hind, jai shree ram
I am a Sikh and I believe that the Muslim veil covering (niqab) is one of the best ways to provide integrity and dignity to a woman by shielding the woman's beauty from anyone other than her counterpart. Although some may say it is oppressive, its purpose is one of righteousness. But also women who are not veiled are in a sense oppressed by the dogma of society and ego which is to espouse others who are not your counterpart.
Niqab (face covering) is against Sikhi. Guru Amar Das Ji gave a hukam to all Sikh women prohibiting what was called Paarda in Punjabi/Hindi language. In fact he refused to see a Hindu queen who sought guidance from Guruji until she removed her veil.
you are simply emtyheaded if you believe that Guru Amar Das ji didn't make allowance for the Rani to come to darbar being veiled so how in the hell do you come to your conclusion? A mindset which has been inculcated in us from young both men and women, is to not see anyone in a sexual desirous manner expect our marriage partner. So there is no need to do that besides a Kaur is supposed to have a self-reliant mindset and try to acquire martial arts training like her sikh brothers so she can be of help to others and herself.
Jasbir Kaur Villaschi Bhenji I heard this story from a Gyani at my Gurdwara some years back. Like all hagiography, we should take it with a grain of salt. But the moral of the story to me is clear, face covering is not part of Sikhi.
Well than men should wear a niqab too so their beauty is shielded with dignity and integrity from anyone other than his spouse/family . How does that sound to you ? Covering your face or not should be ones choice
Oh I see that women who are not veiled & possibly follow the glossy ad campaigns of fashions magazines are all drowning in ego maybe??? But just to say that Muslim women who wear the full veil have integrity is an open debate. A lot of these women are oppressed by their male dominated societies. Look when the Talaban ruled Afghanistan women were & forced to wear the full veil. All this has to be of choice & the full view is a possible symbol that woman is subservient to man. If we follow this path then men too should wear a full veil to cover up their features & to live an interpretation of modest life. It's what you think of oneself on the inside forget what others think.
Any punjabi/sikh women have any thoughts on this video?
Yes apni women are defo lacking modesty these days
Disagreed ...Brother
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Absolutely. I find it an extension of ego for anyone to tell another how to physically look, especially a male to a female
Our religion dont force any women to do what is mension in vedio it's all about to give respect, and follow guru maryada
Jess Weaver yeah especially since he isn’t a woman and doesn’t have to deal with the type of discrimination that women with facial hair face
@@kaydee5748 i am a sikh girl my parents taught me everything about Sikhism i am so proud about it
i follow rehat maryada
feel sad about those who can not understand values of those sacrifices made by sikh men and women for their religion
The main role of Sikh woman is to stand with his husband, if her husband is Gursikh.
Only way sikh woman will get respect, recolonization, Identity etc if she is the wife of true sardar. Thats it.
If her husband is Sikh, she will be automatically his Sikhni. So, she should always look towards her Sikh husband. And A Sikh should always look towards Guru. A sikh should have the Ideology of Guru, and his sinhgni should respect and follow his ideology. In this way both will have same ideology i.e Ideology of Guru. Thats how sikhi works or will work.
Only if the man is God oriented.
If man follows the ideology of God, then woman should follow the ideology of Man, in this way, both will have same ideology, and this ideology will also pleases to the God.
If man is standing on wrong side than woman do not has to follow man.
how about we phrase that better? Everyone, including women, should follow god. instead of saying women should follow when this and shouldn't follow when that. Isnt it easier to just say everyone should follow god regardless of what their spouse does? Our gurujis recognized that women have an identity outside of their marriage. Women are not a shadows of their husband and sikhi has liberated women from this ideology. Us being sikhs, we should not host these self serving or sexist ideologies.
Sukhraj Singh Mehrok Fuck you- you’re really dumb enough to make that statement. In Sikhism, both genders are equal and if you don’t know that go and do some research. Why don’t you go back to school? I hope no woman ever marries you because you literally sound like an abusive male who sees females as inferior. Go to hell where you belong.
lol because this guy that I’m replying to is spreading the wrong message about the religion by portraying that women are inferior to men. Sikhi doesn’t allow one gender to be superior. He’s trying to act like he’s so philosophical but really it’s just to mask his patriarchal views. Women are not baby making machines and have more purpose in life than just being married.
@@mehar134 yes I will eat kitkat chocolate but only after you tell me when I mentioned interfaith marriage. I never mentioned that so what the hell are you going on about? also, you dont have a counter argument so you're choosing to make things up and put words in my mouth. And its funny that you're calling me a pseudo feminist when all I'm stating is that in Sikhi, women and men are equal. Thats a fact. So I dont see how I'm 'distorting' the religion.
Thank god almighty our Sikh girls don’t cover their hair for the most part...
thank God almighty we don't have so many coconuts like you who rather ape neoliberal mores as a sign of being 'modern' hahaha talk about being sheep being led by the nose
@@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019 well the problem is not only for Sikh women
Its also with men
@@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019 i researched almost everything about the religion and found out that i wanted to tie a dastaar
@@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019 but my family discouraged me
Girls born abroad or out of punjab are not raised well.
There parents have don't much time to raise them like In punjab..
Girls knows name of every singers.. But not of shaeeds singhs
.. They knows bhangra but not gathka
They go to beaches most of them have kalla bfs and does what a sikh should not do
um no, thats such a stupid thing to say. people like you make these kind of ignorant statements because you just cannot accept the fact that these women are no longer controlled by other men or other family members. women outside of Punjab have the opportunity to be educated and knowledgeable on their rights (basic human rights) and the fact that they have individual autonomy. And no, if you have ever actually been abroad or lived around people from abroad, most Punjabis are very connected with their culture. They know how to do path, they know a lot about shaheed Sikhs and the countless sacrifices that have been made from Sri guru Arjan dev ji right up until Baba Banda Singh Bahadur and so on. Gatka is becoming increasingly popular but I don't see why doing bhangra is wrong???? Its a dance form, a cultural dance form that anyone can do.
your last statement - you said they have "kalla bfs" . by that do you mean they are dating black guys? well then if they are, what's wrong with that? See, your own thinking is so flawed- if you find it wrong that women can't date other men (especially black men). stop being a racist, sexist idiot. educate yourself on equal rights and the development of punjabi culture and Sikh religion in foreign countries before making some of the most thoughtless comparisons. of course it is going to take a while for our culture to fully develop in foreign countries because WE ARE IMMIGRANTS. its not easy but we try as hard as we can to be recognised.
Gosh with an attitude like yours, I hope no woman has to spend her life with you.
seriously, educate yourself. and if women raised outside Punjab aren't good Sikhs, then why don't you mention the men as well? forget that, you're a perfect example of a man raised in Punjab who turned out to be shit person. If you claim to be a Sikh or a "good Sikh" well then just stop judging women and leave them the fuck alone. Sikh does not approve of judging others or pressurising or guilt tripping them into conforming to religion. so just shut the fuck up
@@kaur8037 plz write in short I i didn't read that all
Also I want you to know aa amritdhari family girl of 15 got pregnant by kala in school
Parents did abortion of child which she told in her school.. Parents were captured by police where as father did suicide of sharm..
Now you can see because of his girl aa father is no moree
@@kaur8037 girl named harpreet becomes hr xoxo
Sandeep becomes sandy..
Aa girl who never posted without chunni is half nude in bikini for just followers on Instagram 🤦♀️🤷♀️
What a shame
@@Ajaypalsingh_ what are you trying to imply? that every girl abroad gets pregnant at 15? You really could not seem more ignorant if you tried.
Getting pregnant before marriage is not ideal however it happens. Yes, getting pregnant at that age in an Indian society causes shame to the family, however the girl was forced to have an abortion. ever thought about how that impacted the girl? you hear punjabi mothers and fathers saying that their children are so valuable to them, yet they forced her to have an abortion. that is a crime in itself. Getting pregnant is not a crime and it is her fathers own fault for committing suicide because rather than standing up for her he conformed to what people said.
@@Ajaypalsingh_ um no thats dumb. You have clearly never been abroad because you're thinking is so narrow and stereotypical. Not everyone is religious for many different reasons. You cannot force someone to use Singh/Kaur as their last name.
Like I said before. you're too dumb to understand the concept of individual autonomy. People can wear what they want, and can use whatever name they want. Shaming people into following religion is just as bad as forcing them.
Let women choose. The problem is men in all culture are bent on telling women what to do. Enough of that. Let women decide how to express themselves from their minds and hearts.
@Samar Virk Even worse they marry Muslims who will not respect them at all.
It is not a man telling women what to do. It's Vaheuguru's hukam for Sikhs (not gender specific) to keep hair, wear Turban and Kakaar, and to stand out.
I invite everyone to Islam ❤️
I invite you to Sikhi
@@brownisbetter7966 Sikhism is combination of hinduism and Islam
Islam is the combination between Christianity and Judaism @@LA-fr6wr
@@brownisbetter7966 Luke 6 12
One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.
LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMAD UR RASUL ALLAH
@@brownisbetter7966 CHRISTIATIANS WORSHIP MUSLIM PROPHET JESUS
It's a shame that a Sikh man has to opinionate on what a woman should wear. Please stop this wahabism of Sikhism. I'm sure there are many confident sikh women who can speak for themselves and be role models for our community
Misogynist.
It's not right to tell a woman how to dress.
Oh shut up. Women don’t have a requirement to wear a turban, as per our 10th guru’s commandments. You don’t need to “stand out” like some circus. Our religion tells us that it’s what’s on the inside that matters. Jaisa des vaisa pes.
Just because the Bradford British islamists make their women stand out doesn’t mean we need to. Focus on yourself and your relationship with god instead of trying to mandate women’s dress code. If you’re so miserable looking outwardly Sikh while women don’t, then you can choose to stop.