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"Very comfortable with disappointing myself"
This is exactly how I felt, and I couldn't put it into words up till now.
Heya, I was a mental child. Kicked from school, just assumed to be a bad kid. ADHD Def helped make my career, I was officially diagnosed last year and counselling alone has been my path so far. I've never felt this clear headed, I think this is my path for a while. I still overthink and in general spiral... but this is incredible
Damn you're here
Balance your gut, check a functional medicine doctor to find the root cause, its not normal to have ADHD, just like obese people they shouldn't glamorize being overweight and beautiful, so neither should ADHD.
@@jj-bp3fr If it were as readily diagnosable and curable as being overweight, I would agree. But itâs not. And even if it was, there will always be a subsection of the population drastically more susceptible to having ADHD.
Itâs not exactly as flip a switch curable, or even manageable, as you have portrayed it.
That said there does seem to be a fad of âcoming outâ as ADHD. With increased awareness comes increased misdiagnose, and there are plenty of parents willing to shirk responsibility for their childâs poor behavior by claiming ADHD.
@@jj-bp3fryou have no idea what youâre talking about. Stop thinking youâre smarter than you are.
Having ADHD doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. What I learned from my ADHD is that we have a unique characteristics that we should embrace. Being different is good, stop trying to assimilate. Love your transparency
Yes thatâs why I clarified my framing in the outer clip đ€
*outro
In a society that imposes limitation on the emotional, psychological and behavioural aspects of individuality with heavy expectations of conformity and compliance, any behavioural tendencies that do not fit into that model will inevitably be pathologized.
Seems everyone has adhd these days. So its not unique at all
@@tyraelkamh1875 I think itâs always been the case that more people than we realize have ADHD. Itâs just that barely any of us were diagnosed when we were younger like we shouldâve been.
Iâve never related so much to a video dude. From a grip of my subscribers diagnosing me with ADHD in my comments, to the spiral into the infinite resources trying to figure out why my brain is like this⊠you articulated so much of my experience so wonderfully, by sharing yours. Thank you for sharing this, it really helps me decide to finally break the loop and actually do something about this đđœ
âIâm fine, leave me aloneâ I feel that.
âZul, you are bleeding profusely and I think I can see your brainâ
âIâm fine, leave me aloneâ
I was recently diagnosed at 33, and I could relate to every single point you made. I still haven't tried any medication, but just adding little things to my routine (which is basically non-existant) has helped. I set an alarm for every hour to make sure I'm focused on what I should be doing at that time and not doom scrolling social media, I also will take that time to stretch and drink some water.
ADHD is a super power for getting stuff done in a short amount of time. But then you realize that 2x the work requires 4x the time, because you get burned out during the hyper focused tasks, and end up needing a break.
Timers!!!!! Have been life saving for me đ€Ł
Funny enough ADHD comes with a lot of shame, and I feel you in now wanting to talk about it and masking most of your life. I have been diagnosed since I was 17, which is rare for a woman my age... but it took until my late 30's to really embrace and start to work with my ADHD and tell people 'hey I can't do this that way'. I also leaned from my audience and friends about time blindness and other quirks of ADHD. You aren't alone, you aren't broken...your on a different operating system. So if the rest of the world is running on Windows...you are a MacOS. They don't run the same. The world is set up more for one than the other, but that doesn't make your operating system wrong...just different. The more we talk about it, the less shame there is. So proud of you for talking about it! Also my to-do list is now a 3 (only 3) must do list...everything else is just a running 'might could do'. You've got this!!!
Love this, Emily! The minimal must do list is helpful.
Being diagnosed at 17 and still having it decades later? Wow. Why haven't you healed yet? It's an embalance. Typically people who follow conventional medicine are sick for the rest of their lives bc they keep people sick and make money that way. Functional medicine finds the root cause, even DNA is checked to rule out genes that could contribute to ADHD, then a plan is worked out for you to balance your body. Usually microbes are involved. If people only seeked alternative holistic methods of healing they'd be better off.
I love the operating system analogy!
The amount of genuine vulnerability & lack of negative discourse, especially in contrast to the "productivity gurus" who use shame as a tool, is amazing. Hats off, Sara
Discovering I had ADHD in 2019, at age 37, was a colossal turning point in my life. Learning about how my brain is wired, why I behave the way I do, and beginning to forgive myself for my percieved failures in the past have all contributed to a significant improvement in my quality of life. I got out of debt, got a new job that is way better suited to how I work, stabilized my relationships with my partner, family and friends, and started working on music again after many years of dormancy. Hearing your experience in this video reminded me of how I felt when I first was diagnosed. It's such a huge wave of emotions. Glad to see you're embracing it, and that you feel comfortable sharing this with your audience! Woo!
Well done Dougđ
Glad you are doing so much better. So great to read stories like this, as someone that was also diagnosed at a later (but similar) age.
Night owl for life no matter how hard I try to change it. 48 and just realized I have this. Iâve been self employed for the last two years and it seems to bring it to surface and snowball the guilt and anxiety that comes with this. As much as I hated my previous routine, something about having one is super beneficial. Lists are so hard to make but also super helpful for me. Thanks for doing this. â€The struggle is real, self awareness helps a lot
God damn it, I think I have ADHD. Iâve been avoiding it for years because I *feel* like Iâm such a doer and Iâm able to get so much shit done at work. I can focus like crazy on âcertainâ stuff and get it done. BUT itâs only in extremes. This video spoke to me deeply. It confirmed all my worst fears but now I can take action to work on the parts that I donât love. - the bit about being able to disappoint yourself but not others hit me like a ton of bricks. So true for me. I perform at high levels at work but my personal âworkâ is in shambles.
I am so glad you added the bit at the end adressing âwhat is wrong with youâ and all the things you need to fix. It was going to be the first thing I commented, that there is nothing wrong, and nothing to fix persĂ©, but finding ways to deal with things. You are doing an amazing job in sharing your journey and what you run into. And loved the âfuture selfâ bit
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Sara, first time watching your content and I'm so, so glad you made this. I was diagnosed 3 years ago after a lifetime of not knowing why some things were inexplicably difficult for me. Just knowing that what I was experiencing was something other people also struggled with made such a big difference in how I thought about myself.
I know I'll probably keep struggling with many things for a long time -- I happen to be in the midst of a huge push to catch up on paperwork, where my supervisor is mad at me and seems to be coming at it from a place of thinking I just don't care enough, which is hella stressful when he and I both work as mental health counselors đ But I know I'll figure out some better ways forward in the future. I know we all will. And the more stories like yours I hear, the more I feel seen and understood and not fundamentally flawed but just different -- so thank you once again for your honesty and bravery. Obviously I'm gonna subscribe and see what else you get up to đ
Girl, I feel like youâre describing me. Sleep is a major problem and my night owl tendency is definitely something I struggle with every day, and have struggled with as long as I can remember. I wasnât diagnosed until my late 40s, so hopefully youâre learning of your ADHD much earlier so that itâs not as hard to manage and habits arenât so overwhelming to change like they are for me now.
Thank you for sharing this! I feel heard and it helps us ADHDers feel less stigma - which is why I generally hesitate before disclosing it myself.
I think itâs great how much this is happening now. I was late diagnosed at 34 with AuDHD (ADHD and Autism) halfway through getting a masters. Good luck with your journey and keep up the great work!
Iâve known Iâve had ADHD since I was in the second grade. It can suck sometimes, but like Caseyâs video mentioned it can be a super power. If you ever want to chat about it you know how to get ahold of me.
Iâve been struggling with it hard lately. Iâve been having rethink how I work cause I started missing deadlines. đ
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The good news is you have made a lot of terrific videos, Chris. Keep it up!
- Fellow ADHD brain subscriber. :)
I've watched all of Sara's "let's talk about stuff" videos, this one felt the most moving. More power to you Sara! Knowing yourself is the superpower not the diagnosis...
Being diagnosed with ADHD later in life and attempting to treat it without medication, I can attest to this: the moment I finally tried medication, I felt immediate regret... regret that I hadn't tried it sooner. The impact was akin to putting on a pair of glasses, revealing a clearer world. Everything has risks, though, and I empathize with the sensitivity towards ingesting, well, anything! We all process ADHD in similar-yet-unique ways, and there is no singular path towards healing and personal growth.
Exactly my feelings
May I ask what medication(s) you tried? Glad it's working for you.
I was medicated throughout my childhood and teens, at the time I hated it, but as an adult looking back on the past it really helped me and I'm glad I did. I'm mostly non-medicated now because I'm working in a job that allows me to focus naturally, but I always keep some meds to hand for those tougher days where I struggle. I use Ritalin for the short term boosts and it lasts around 4 hours, and if I need something longer term I go for Concerta XL (Methylphenidate) which is a slow-release all day type, both work exceptionally well for me. The only thing to watch out for with Concerta is it can have side affects related to your heart if you stop and start it suddenly so I try to keep that for long-running projects where I take it for a few days at a time etc
is it addictive ? I dont like to be attached to things
â@@xila8861mine weren't addictive, but there were potential side effects from starting or stopping ConcertaXL suddenly,it should be gradually built up and reduced over a period to prevent that. Ritalin isn't addictive to my knowledge eiher
Thank you for being so open. I have been following you for years on CZcams and appreciate all your hard work. Take care.
This resonates with me so hard. You arenât alone and those deadlines for others definitely helps.
*I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, I cannot thank you enough for making this video. I cannot stand the stigma of ADHD. You talk with a wonderful heart and you have an amazing husband and family to help you and embrace this part of you. It's such a mind-blowing feeling when you finally found out and it's a wonderful relief. You are awesome â€â€ and always si wonderful for sharing parts of your life with all of us.*
I wanted to thank you for sharing this. I feel like the idea that it means âsomething is wrongâ always stopped me from looking into similar struggles I had.
I was diagnosed with ADHD right around when I turned 40, and it made so much of my life make more sense.
Videos like this might help normalize neurodivergence and help someone get help earlier in life.
Hi Sara, kuddos to you for talking about this sensitive subject. Iâm 57, and just found out that I had ADD last year, and it was a huge moment for me. It helped me figure my actions, and my habits. You have a lot of support from your big fans (Iâm definitely one of them). We are here to help you, and for that support! đđ
Never related so hard to a video in my life. Literally every word you said resonates with my own experience, since being diagnosed with ADHD last year aged 30. I have so much respect for you - I know how scary it is even starting to say it out loud and talking about it in everyday life, so to make such an honest video is truly something to be proud of. I hope the process has helped you work through some stuff - it's certainly helped me to check in with myself after what's been a particularly exhausting week for ADHDers in the UK (and globally). It's all about learning, and finally being able to work with your brain rather than against it. Welcome to the family! â
Being diagnosed was like coming home and finding out I didn't live alone. I didn't figure it out until I was 45 and a founding partner at a boutique litigation law firm. Its helped me so much to understand why I do things and that I'm not a failure for not being able to do things other people can do.
Dude I remember doing the whole Sickens report the night before. Goddamn Tale of Two Cities!
I still need to figure out the eating, sleeping, and drinking thing.
PRO TIP - when it gets really bad, I use an iPad to work. It forces me to stop multi taking.
Iâm in my early 40s and Iâm learning, from you and others, that I am either highly functioning on the autism spectrum, or I have ADHD. I stay up late, I canât work without deadlines, and itâs hurting my mental health. Thanks for the video to help bring this back into my mind. I used to love to kick-box, and it made me feel good, but needing to move, and 2020 hurt that. Hopefully some healthy lifestyle changes, coupled with counseling and other things can help me get on track. Thank you for your openness!
Thank you for openly expressing your experience that resonates through so many people in a creative industry. It's such a relief to hear that the same experience is matched even with someone without a wider audience ( for me at least ) and external accountability being one of the major tools to power through that. Thank you so much!
Sara this was brilliant! Thank you so much for making this video. I'm a 22 year old female who was just diagnosed with ADHD too and I totally related to pretty much everything you said (are we the same person???). It's really cool to see women like you empowering people to explore their mental health and know that it doesn't mean you cant do something or can't succeed. Thanks for the awesome content!
I fought my ADHD for years. nothing helped until one day I realized, this is who i am. I came to the realization that my ADHD is actually a beautiful aspect of my personality that i love. It is all part of my artistic self. The side of me that loves play over work. Thats a part of me i want to embrace and cherish until the end of my life. I now treasure it. Once my Resistance to ADHD ended, i started exceeding in my own way, cutting my own unique path and ive never been happier. Now days I never say i have ADHD because i donât see it at as something Different from who I am. Be yourself and let your husband be himself. You donât have to do it like anybody else, in fact maybe its better that you donât.
As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD, Aspberger's, and Disgraphia around ten years old, I still struggle with all the things you mentioned in this video. Thank you so much for sharing, and let anyone of us neurospicy individuals if you need help.
Thanks for sharing, Sara. I think itâs awesome when people share their personal experiences. So many things are stigmatized that shouldnât be, but if we donât talk about them, they wonât ever change! I canât totally relate to ADHD, but I had a traumatic brain injury in college. Talk about impacting âthe vibeâ if you bring that up!
Thank you thank you thank you! I appreciate your transparency and willingness to go on camera about yourself because you know it's going to possibly help someone and it's therapeutic. A two for one! â€ïž
Iâll never forget the day that I realized that non stop thoughts weâre NOT normal. My brain literally never stops playing out scenes.
Sarah, as someone who found out that I had ADHD as an adult about 15 years ago, I want to say CONGRATULATIONS on your realization! And regarding learning how to arrive places on time goes, I too used to be that person who was ALWAYS late. Here's a trick I learned in an Adults with ADHD group class about 8 years ago that works for me:
Say you have to be somewhere at 4 PM. As an ADHD'er, push the arrival time back 20 minutes. That way when you're 10 minutes late, you're actually 10 minutes early. It's AMAZING to show up places early! This works for me.
We're WITH YOU all the way! Soooo PROUD of you for all that you've been & worked through :)
Thank you đ and kudos for your courageously stepping forward â€
You are helping me to accept the fact that, albeit having being functional for some 36 years, it's never been comfortable. I identify myself clearly on your speech, and it's a relief. I have been pushing forward hard for so long now that I thought that this was the way life was for everyone. The way it was supposed to be. Thank you :) it'll be easier to find new solutions to old problems after this acceptance đ„°
"It's extremely tragic when the internet is right." đ
That's got to be the quote of the week right there.
that was a good one yeah!
Hey ! Austistic ADHDer here, found out about it a year ago at 34 yo. I haven't done much of the work to adapt to my ADHD đ but knowing about it removed the shame at least and made me feel more at peace with myself. Still masking to this day but now I give myself plenty of time to recover when my social battery runs out. It's incredible how fast you have picked up on what's working for you. It took me months to grieve the life that I could've had .. what a rollercoaster of emotions when you first realize what's "wrong" with you (aka nothing is wrong with us we're just wired differently, and the world is vast enough for all of us to carry)
Thank you for being vulnerable and authentic †I cannot imagine doing what you did and telling the world. Your bravery is inspiring and thank you for creating a space for other ADHDers to feel seen â€
thank you for posting this. I have the same problems and the struggles are real. thank you and your are not alone.
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Being this vulnerable with your audience is very inspiring. I am very happy that the stigma around ADHD is vastly diminished.
I KNOW I have undiagnosed ADHD that I have been able to leverage as a strength and be an exceptionally "high-performing" adult. Many people will tell me I have ADHD because I talk a mile a minute, am interested in learning EVERYTHING, and always have a million things going. They find it endearing and mean no offense, but there are back-end costs to being the energizer bunny and a crippling introvert. Despite all signs of meeting the diagnostic criteria, I am still terrified of getting a diagnosis. What is the end game of getting the diagnosis? Would a Psychiatrist rely on pharmacologic solutions? Would those solutions remove what I have learned to value as my "secret sauce?" Would I stop being me? Would I be signing up for years of therapy and uncomfortable admissions about what goes on in my head? Rationally, I know I am being ridiculous, but I am content just to put it off. I realize I spend a lot of money to offload many of the responsibilities I put off, and maybe that doesn't need to be the case...
I really resonate with the statement about being ok with letting myself down, but letting down others is a non-starter. This video has been a good reminder that I can't always rely on my brain to do what is best for me and that I should revisit working with a professional that will help me find the right strategies to manage my challenges without trading off my strengths that come from ADHD.
Thank you for your openness, especially given the magnitude of your following. I truly believe just sharing your story will help many people, even if they never leave a comment to say as much.
That's actually what my GP told me when I went to him saying I might have ADHD. "I can't give you a diagnosis as a GP, but why do you need a diagnosis in the first place? Would it change anything for you?". He was right, I am who I am, I don't want to medicate and I didn't need to become "another ADHD guy". I only ever talk about it when it's topical, but I do my best not to use it as an identity.
You don't have to tell anyone, you don't have to go into therapy, you don't need to use medication. But having a diagnosis means that your suspicion becomes knowledge. It stops self-doubt, it makes it easier to resist pressure to things in a way that doesn't quite work for you.
I'm 50 years old... And have taken every ADHD self-diagnostic tests I can find. And yep, I'm an ADHDer too. Not an official diagnosis, but still... explains a lot of my life and struggles. Thanks for this video! I kinda feel dumb, just realizing this about myself recently, but we all come to our own truth in its own time.
Your best video, BTW...
Iâm 54, and Iâm discovering I have inattentive ADHD. I am self-diagnosed, and I am looking for someone looking for someone for help which is not easy in this day and age.
Your not dumb. I am around the same age and hey during the GenX days ADHD and Anxiety issues was just not a thing. Meaning that those that actually have such issues was just told to suck it up. However, while that can work and I am not an expert by any means, I think the older you get the harder it is to rely on that. At least now it is socially recognized and those of GenX now have some options.
We took our son in to be tested for ADHD, and as I'm filling out the eval form, I started wondering who I was actually evaluating, would have been the same answers for me as for my son, so not technically diagnosed, but I would be.
Get yourself diagnosed professionally tho so you can get help professionally
I've had a very similar realization lately, much so fueled by Casey's video, and now reinforced with yours. Just knowing there is a label out there to help find resources makes things so much easier. Thanks for making this đ
Thank you Sara, I can so relate to this! So glad to hear and see we're not alone. Much love!
I have severe ADHD and started using a bullet journal daily last year and it has improved my retention and being able to get things done.
is there an app for that ?
I use a bullet journal too.
@@Aryankingz keep. I'd be dead without it
I have a bullet journal... It's hit and miss...but is is forcing me to only pick the top 3-5 goals of projects to do. If I stick with it that is LOL
Until you forget about it for 3 months đ
I heavily relate to this, got diagnosed at 33 as a high functioning adhd'er who internalizes all their symptoms and a lot of ppl were actually surprised to find this out. I was not so surprised, just like you the internet shed a TON of light on my situation.Anyway I hope your journey gets smoother Sara!
You're a legend! I'm 36 and just started down the rabbit hole of blogs and social media you mentioned about ADHD. I'm not diagnosed but I relate to so much and have found some of the strategies so helpful. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad your figuring stuff out
This hits just right. Youâre perfect on your journey of self awareness and improvement. Thank you đ
8:21 âwhen I say reading, Iâm listening to the audio book, because I have a hard time actually reading bookâ
Iâm with you Sara, meaning I have ADHD and struggle to read books. I buy them I just never finish them. Often reading the same page multiple times due to distractions.
Kudos to you for putting this out there. Others need to understand the normalcy of it all. â€
Thank you for sharing that I have always been so embarrassed about my inability to sometimes finish a page let alone an entire book. My wife however will burn through a massive novel in a week leaving me feeling like I've really let myself down.
This is so me... And I hate it...
Thank you for sharing Sara, I know it is hard to say and even harder to admit. It seems as you become older life is less forgiving due to the necessity of being an adult. "Adults" are older humans who should just know better and be reliable with a stable amount of confidence and competence. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 32 which came as a frustrating and embarrassing shock. This is not just because I now had to admit I had a problem but because the signs had been there my entire life. I even had to redo a grade due to daydreaming and being very distant from my class. For a small portion of my childhood, I was included in the A class which quickly went lower as the years went on. I eventually accepted that I was lazy and that was just it. I did display an incredible ability to understand complex topics while in the "ADHD hyper-focus mode" which has been a great help in many ways. While I feel any progress I've made over the years has been by luck I have always taken responsibility for my actions and never left a teammate behind. I have been a project manager on multi-million Rand(South Africa) fibre projects and currently manage an ISP at the moment. As the years go by my dream of becoming a filmmaker seems to become more distant from reality as it's easier to live in a daydream. If I could describe myself on a day-to-day basis the best example would be the movie "The secret life of Walter Mitty". I don't think I've ever bonded with a movie so much and yet never told anyone but my wife.
I can completely understand where you coming from and I'm so proud of what you said that I feel like I've accomplished something. This kind of honesty is hard to admit to ourselves but is undoubtedly a huge step forward. Just as you admitted your challenges to a crowd of people you'll mostly never meet, it was much easier for me to write this message rather than speak to some directly in person.
Well done, keep moving forward and activating "hyper-focus!"
30+ min video and I listened to every second of this one more than Iâve listened sometimes to a 5 min video. Kudos to you Sara. đđ»đđ»
Thank you for being so open about this. It helps me understand those women around me with ADHD. You re awesome.
Hey Sara, I got diagnosed last year and it's made an incredible difference to my life as a 27 year old man. It's so nice to be able to understand how my brain works and be able to work with it rather than just shooting in the dark being confused as to why everything was so hard. Anyway congratulations on your realisation. It was hugely eye opening for me. It's incredible you've been able to have such a successful life in spite of your challenges. The more I learn about it the more I learn to understand an accept myself, my mistakes and also this huge burden of shame I've carried around for being weird. I can finally understand how I've been masking this whole time and it's been incredibly draining. Anyway I'm rambling lol what a surprise have a good day
Hi Sara đy, In my experience ADHD is 2 main things, poor working memory (remembering things in your head) and increased distractibility. To manage working memory make sure you write things down, set small goals, use Things 3 to manage projects/life, etc⊠and to manage distractibility try to limit distractions and focus on one thing, set timers, use noise canceling headphones to help make things quiet, etc. Distractibility can be a superpower in that you can generate a lot of creative ideas but it can also be our downfall if nothing gets done. Hyperfocus is just getting really distracted by something interesting. I like to use google calendar and use the reminders feature to put reminders on my day so I donât forget things, I also use Siri to add things to my reminders app on my iPhone for random things that pop into my head so I can get them out of my head and review it later. I think probably ADHD is responsible for a lot of your success because it makes you more interesting, but also it creates a lot of stress and friction that other ADHDerâs can relate too. đ
Congrats on your new mindset! Was hard for me too. Iâm glad you made this video so I can share it with my sister who has all the same experiences as you! I know this will be helpful for so many âșïž
This is amazing. Thank you so much for posting this, truly, as the relevance is indescribable.
So glad for you. Realizing Iâm ADHD (inattentive) and Autistic over the pandemic (in my 40s) has really changed my life. No, Iâm not mad, just overstimulated etc⊠I tried meds, not for me, but it is manageable without.
How does that work? ADHD is being unable to focus and autism's super power is being able to focus on one thing that you get so caught up in it that nothing else matters.
Hey, Sara! First, Iâm very happy for you that youâre finding answers and solutions. Let me explain why I can say that I know how good that feels.
Iâm 58 years old and three years ago - in the aftermath of a two-year-long, life-threatening battle with cancer - I was diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder that they used to commonly call Aspergerâs Syndrome. Iâve always known I was different. But, as you described, I never knew what was going on, or that there was a name for it, or that there were all those other people out there facing similar challenges.
As I slowly started to share this with people, they were like, âOh, no, another bad thing you have to deal with.â (I also broke my back at age 24 and have been physically disabled ever since. So, with an Autism diagnosis coming on the heels of cancer, the âpoor pitiful Jeffâ response kind of made sense.)
But that wasnât my feeling at all. It was more along the lines of, âDear God, yes, this finally all makes sense.â Being Autistic explains SO many things about my life and my struggles in social situations, traditional jobs, education, relationships and on and on. The more I learned about Autism, the more frequently I said, âSo THATâS why I _________!â
All that to say, I really do know how it feels to finally have âyour word,â and to be able to seek solutions and wisdom from others who are farther along in their journey with a shared condition.
Iâm a person of faith, so I am praying for you as you learn more about your condition and develop the coping skills that work for you. You have already achieved amazing things with your years of videos. Now, youâre doing even more good by being a trusted voice saying, âitâs okay talk about this mental health stuff; and being different does NOT mean thereâs anything wrong with you.â
Thank you for being willing to share. In doing so, you just made the world a better place ⊠again.
Thank u so much I cried because I really felt like a dead beat who could not do anything cause she couldnât think straight this has been the most depressing and loneliest part of my life it is really comforting to know Iâm not alone and watching how you life through ur videoâs and getting to know how u made it through all the adversity and struggle despite everything it gives me so much hope and faith that know matter what happens Iâm stronger and smart than I think and Iâll be okay in the end
OMG Iâve learned so much about myself through your amazing storytelling and openness. Thank you sooooooo much, Sarah.
Honestly i completely understand where you're coming from. I just completed my masters and realized alot of relationships were due to the fact i was never open about having ADHD.
It can be chaos trying to form yourself to that everyday grind, and i honestly just have to say the more open you are about it, the more people can grow to understand how you work, not to fit you to a stereotype
Alex Castro here! Sara! So happy for you! Being diagnosed changed everything for me and finally put a word to so many challenges in my life. Always have so much respect for you and your journey and I'm exctied to see how much more you'll create and experience with this new knowledge. I'm sure you have a lot of support, nevertheless, hit me if you ever wanna chat about these weird/beautiful brains of ours. Keep being you homie!
edit: just got to the book clip about social relationships and holy shit IT ME. Getting better at it but making and learning shit is so much safer than humansss
I absolutely love the vulnerability in this! I KNOW this could not have been easy to put out! Good for you!!
We all as fallen humans have flaws but we must at least try to be better. The worst kind of human are the ones that think that they are how they are and that's it and everone has to deal with it.
Again, good job Sarah! Stay peachy! đ
I hardly ever comment on youtube but omg Sara, we're the same age and I also began my journey to being diagnosed in March 2021, and just recently got diagnosed formally by a psychiatrist. It's been a lot of relief but grief - I've struggled to begin a career and manage my life despite always feeling so driven to, and such a desire to. I never feel fully relaxed but struggle with starting any of my plans and ideas. I feel so seen in this video as a fellow woman diagnosed with ADHD in her 20's, so thank you so much for this video!! I have a lot more to learn and bad habits to break and structure to figure out, but I know I'll get there
me in my 20s: "I don't have ADHD, I can't have it" *ignoring multiple people asking me if I have it*
me in my 30s: oh god I definitely have ADHD
I definitely understand and commiserate with you, and feel very similar about my journey. I'm glad you've found some answers.
Welcome to the club! We are happy to have you.đâ€
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Everything you talked about is so relateable Sara haha. So great to hear how much you have been learning about it. Awareness is honestly the biggest step that helped me start to gain some semblance of control back in my life too.
Thanks for sharing such an honest video about ADHD struggles. It is nice to hear what your experience was like, I came here because ADHD Jessie linked to this in his newsletter, and now I'm staying for the content cause your channel is awesome. Anyway, I'm always looking for ways to learn to work with my mind instead of trying to fit in because masking is exhausting. And there's more than one way to do everything. Reframing things helps (yay for therapy), and hearing other people's stories and workarounds in certain situations helps. Even tho as ADHDers we share symptoms with others, each individual case is different, and therefore the 'hacks' that work vary. So Thank YOU.
Everybody thinks they have ADHD. It must be diagnosed, not googled. Most ADHD symptoms are experienced by A LOT of people.
I don't care if anyone thinks they have ADHD, they can think they're a unicorn for all I care. What are you gatekeeping for? We know we can't get medicated for ADHD without a proper diagnosis, but if it helps people feel validated, what's the problem? Sure, everyone experiences some ADHD symptoms, but it's not ADHD until it impacts and hinders your life.
Sara--this was a masterpiece! You spoke with such integrity and honesty. You are wise beyond your years! Thank you. I have shared the video with my family and it has been immensely helpful. Wonderful!
I have absolutely loved every single one of your sit-down-and-talk videos. The creative mind one resonated with me just as this one has. I also officially got diagnosed with ADHD not even a year ago and as someone who is 23 that is a pretty late diagnosis (in some aspects) A lot of the stuff you talked about in the video I have experienced just like you especially comparing an ADHD brain to neurotypical peers. Really though all I wanna say is thank you for uploading Sara, it makes me happy seeing other people voice this kinda stuff and have so many similarities with me!
oh wow, this comes at such a great timing for me. I've also started embracing this journey of discovery. I was diagnosed when I was very little, but for some reason I was taught to believe I was "cured" and so until the age of 29 I would say "I used to have ADHD".... it's tough, but here we are. In many areas your work, projects and videos have been an inspiration for a while since I started watching your channel, now knowing what you've been struggling with, even more so. Thank you so much for sharing this with us strangers.
This has been one of the most relatable, inspiring and heart-warming content I have seen in a long while âșïž Thank you so much for your courage to talk about these things out loud. It is tough for sure but you did it. I found myself in basically every situation you brought up and get amazed at the same time how purifying it was to realise the reasons why the days all together are so freaking difficult for me to handle đ
I wish you all the best in the world and hope so much that everything gets better day by day đ We are who we are and instead of punishing ourselves from "faults" we think we have, why not just embrace those things because those are the parts of humanity and factors which make us great individuals âïž
Wow!! So much is resonating for your story⊠Iâve been wondering about myself for a little while now. This is motivating me to get myself checked out. Thanks for the push!
That hits super close to home. Thanks for being super open about this.
Thank you so much for this video. I was diagnosed with ADHD in middle school. My mother homeschooled me till my sophomore year of high school. Growing up, I didnât understand what ADHD was and I struggled with it unknowingly. When you were talking about your mother knowing you were smart and fighting for you to get classes, sometimes I wished I was given the same help. As an adult now, I know how to work with it more but at times, it does get tough. Cheers to you! I hope things get better! ADHD isnât being dumb, itâs a different lifestyle we may need to work harder to live. Stay at it!
in tears right now. i had no idea anyone else felt this way/struggled with these things. thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being brave and sharing! Keep exploring that big brain of yours and finding new ways to be your best self. đ
Thank you for sharing your story Sara. I think itâs so beneficial when people like you and Jonathan Morrison share their stories and life experiences/struggles
Iâm glad you got this diagnosis. I hope this is helpful closure for you Sara. Keep being you, stay peachy!
Thank you Sara, this video really describes me and I think because of you Iâm gonna get checked
Especially the âsetting things down loopâ holy crap I have never heard something more relatable in my entire life
Thanks for making this video. It really landed with me. I love the idea of having tools to counteract our ADHD
Holy shit. You've literally gave me answers to what's wrong with me. Been struggling with my behaviour towards myself kind of since forever. Thanks a lot.
Looks Matt gave you an existential crisis đ
Jokes aside, I 100% relate to you and recently succeeded in locking down a 7am wake up routine.
The only thing that does the trick for me, is waking up and immediately going to the gym while eating in the car.
It gives me a reason to get up, it allows me to procrastinate my work and promise myself I'll 'think about my planning during the gym'.
When I get home and shower after that, I work for 2-3 hours before getting lunch and after lunch I continue until the biggest tasks of the day are done.
Usually I would never be productive during the day but this routine allows me to finish my filming tasks before 8pm which is something that used to be absolutely impossible.
Welcome to the club! You have already made a huge step with is recognizing that you have ADHD. The awareness will help you better understand what works and what does not work. I'm in my 40's and it gets better the older you get. You will still have your struggles but I know your husband will always be there to help and support you. I struggle with a lot and one thing that really helps is to have a strong support group.
You just added a video that does exactly the same with me as you experienced, yet another 100% relatable example of how I've never been able to find words to express how I have been behaving/thinking/Feeling my whole life. but ever since i was hinted to listen to some podcasts about ADHD a year and a half ago a world has opened and I was recently diagnosed at 37. It's so freeing to experience this. On the other hand, I find it very hard to explain this to/convince my environment, and have the feeling I'm not really doing anything with it yet and am still stuck. but at least there's hope now :)
I got diagnosed with ADHD a year or two ago, and I found myself nodding along with your stories in many places. Itâs cool to know about the attributes of my brain, but Iâve also seen how it doesnât answer the questions of ââŠbut what do I do with my life now that I know?â
Good luck on your quest, feels good to know youâre not alone. đȘ
Thank you for sharing your story with us! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Keep being you!
Thank you for being so open about this! I feel less alone. Mental health is so important and we need to make it less taboo to talk about by talking about it more often.
So many similar things I experience everyday mentioned in this video. I too have been told by others I possibly have ADHD and had no idea until later in adulthood lol. Thanks for making this video and sharing your struggles and some of your solutions to overcome them. Itâs much appreciated by myself and potentially many others who have this same challenge that has never been diagnosed.
I didn't know I had ADHD until 2020. Work from home helped me focus on me. I'm extremely grateful for that time. This acknowledgement actually normalizes it and makes it easier to talk about. Its incredibly hard to recognize and rather tough on a day to day basis. Thank you for doing this video. Seriously.
Hey Sara, thanks so much for this. I watch a lot of CZcams and comment to about zero things, but in the past week Iâve been thinking so much about getting a diagnoses for adhd as my personal thought quirks went for challenging but mostly manageable to hitting a wall a few times and feeling anxious about it, and then I watch this video and it pretty much nails what I have gone through for a very long time. I have no doubts this will affect a lot of people similarly. Next up, time to go on a similar journey as you and learn as much as I can how to find balance with it.
After I started actually acknowledging and dealing with my ADHD, my life got INFINITELY better and continues to do so. It really is a superpower, but only if you harness it.
100%
Iâve made strides this past year that Iâve been trying to make for like 5 years now đ€Ł a little self awareness goes a LONG way
OMG you've just described me in every way. HUGELY helpful video! đđżđđż
HI! My son and I listened to this and were so excited! We were in awe because he's 17 now, and we couldn't believe that he had himself so put together at age 14! He still amazes me. And I can't yell this loud enough....EXTERNAL ACCOUNTABILITY RULES!!! It's such the secret sauce for ADHD. Especially adults who have spent years thinking that we should be able to do all this seemingly simple stuff like laundry, cleaning, etc, without help. Externalized accountability (at first at least) is crucial. Same with time and planning....externalizing can make managing ADHD life so much more efficient.
Thanks so much for the mention on your super cool show! :)
Thank you for this video, Sara. Your transparency is inspiring. I had some similar struggles, and oh yeahâŠevery bit of this video đ€
Sara I love your videos and your personality! Please don't feel like ADHD is anything negative. Keep doing you as you are killing it. Much love!
Thank you so much. My son has ADHD and if someone as successful as you has learned to live with it it am sure he will as well. This was very brave of you. Thank you again!
Sending you a huge hug! Many things on this list fit to me as well, some I have fully accepted as my way of doing things, others I give myself the hardest time about bc it's not how the rest of society does it. I am a night owl too, have always been đŠSo glad you're sharing this with us, the more people talk about it, the less stigmatizing it becomes
Nothing short of bloody courageous to make this video... You show strength in your honesty/vulnerability. Now i REALLY go back to work.... really, honestly ;-)
Youâre an amazing creator and CZcams personality. Keep creating!