Are Your Dating Preferences Colorist or Racist? Let's Chat! | Jackie Aina
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- čas přidán 2. 09. 2019
- This video was filmed WEEKS AGO but I have been itching to do a video on so called dating preferences and how a lot of times they are just excuses to push colorism ideals!!! The recent Chris Brown scandal inspired this video but the topic will unfortunately always remain relevant!
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“Good hair is just healthy hair”
SAY IT AGAIN FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
Joey Atwaini We don’t care about what “most men like”, beloved.
THAT. ☝🏾🙏🏾
@@joeyatwaini Well black women can grow long healthy hair. My hair is down my back, and it's type 4. Your point? Good hair is HEALTHY, no matter the length.
Joey Atwaini you mad ignorant
@@joeyatwaini long is also pretty subjective though so I don't know
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Youkeyy, you and your whole vibe. Like, why everything you say gotta be intellectual Bars?
I LOVE YOU YOUKEYY! ❤️
A preference means to prefer something over the other. For example, I prefer apples over oranges. That does not mean I don’t like oranges. It just means I like apples more than oranges. Putting down your OWN RACE of women in order to uplift other races of women is NOT a preference. It’s called SELF HATE ! Period !
TheLeah2344 And FETISHING!!!
You’re on pointtttT
PERIDOTTT
Exactly
TheLeah2344 yessssssss
Thisss!!!!!! 💯
It's true! A LOT of black men whine about preferences. I don't care who they date, just stop dragging black women in the process.
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Exactly!!
Exactly 👏👏
I never understood black men dragging black women.... Like, you guys realize you were raised by black women, right?? How disrespectful!!
Interesting! I wonder why BLM only whine about outside racism and try to take down white privilege when there's internal colorism.
Dating outside of your race wouldn’t be that big of a deal if black men didn’t bash black women in the process lol. Just date who you want and shut up.
Facts. You never hear other races bashing their women
Facttssss
I've had black women question why I'm with a white partner, it goes both ways.
THAT PART!
@@ttc958 ... Questioning why and bashing someone aren't the same.
Omg having mixed kids is so fetishized like what happened to wishing for a healthy baby in general?
Faith say it girl! Literally so true
Amen! Say is again for the people in the back!!!!!!!!
YES YES YES 🙌
My kids are mixed. My niece and nephews are not. ALL 11 of my mother's grandbabies are beautiful 🤷🏾♀️
I had mixed kids because I happened to marry a guy outside my race. If people are looking for a particular race just for the sake of having mixed kids... lol I'm at a loss for words on that...
Side note, when my 2 were born, I thought they looked like little aliens 😂 so there's that
I feel bad for some of those kids. Being born just to fulfill someone's weird fantasy and to have their parents live vicariously through them bc of self hatred. Why have a child just to see what it looks like? Folks need therapy.
Mix girls and other races should also be aware of these type of Men who aren't looking for a partner or someone to love but an accessory
Yep. It's such a turn-off. Even as a LITTLE girl, when I heard Black people say such colorist things, I KNEW that was completely senseless.......
Kay garcia it’s because most know and like the fact that they are up lifted by colorists black men over darker skin women some really get off on it
Crystal Johnson oh ok that’s weird to me😗
I’m mixed and I would never date guys who only like me because of my skin complexion! I turned guys down before who told me that I’m just their type with my light skin and dark skin isn’t as beautiful like wtf... so u find my cousin who’s dark skin and my aunties undesirable?!
Yes! Im a White girl and i would never date any of these jerks
I'm a fairly dark skinned South Asian-American woman married to a white man. I've dated within my own ethnicity and out, and just ended up with the man I really fell in love with. What really bothers me is that I have never had a white guy ask me why I married a white man. I have, on multiple occasions, had guys of my own ethnicity and African-American guys who mistook me for African-American ask me why I couldn't find a man of my "own kind" (I kid u not! Those exact words). Why do dark men think we should only be with them, while plenty of dark guys, especially from where I come from look for girls with "fair skin". Is that some kind of an insecurity? I appreciate Jackie talking about this subject and especially about looking at a person's qualities vs what they look like on the outside. Skin is literally only skin deep, it doesn't define a person. Choose a partner for who they are, not for their skin color or hair or whatever.
This guy at school literally said to me that black women should not date white men but it’s okay for black men to date white women..🤦🏾♀️
@Sara Salinas i would disagree with the last statement though.why? because even before a country like man who was later colonized by europeans have fair skin as a status symbol its often a common misconception one that people in my country believe in, they do not know that certain tribes of my country already holds that as a symbol of wealth. So no dont blame white europeans for that.
Same, it's such a gross overstepping in patriarchy. In my native land, women are cut off from the family for dating outside our ethnicity. Like, you don't own me or my reproduction, you think cutting me off says anything bad?
@Angel Butt I am so with you on that question. That's fine if you like someone different, but why bond over hatred instead of love? I don't get it. I don't. I hope I never do, cause that's a level of introspection that belongs in a hiatus from society.
Women of color have been programmed to believe that we must be loyal to our counterparts (men of color.) It’s not just darker skinned women either since Tamera Mowry & Doja Cat have both been shamed for dating/being married to white men and both of these women are fair skinned and biracial. Society has been teaching women of color for the longest to “hold our men down.”
I will literally never understand why Chris Brown still has fans.
Same!!!!
Seriously, do not understand.
Yo I swear! He is such TRASH!
DonNaReD2269 amen!
Same reason why Trump became president, still is president, and is still glorified by some; because "This is America "....🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
“preference is about what you prefer, not about what you deny beauty in” -Donovan Thompson from The Grapevine
That's a nice quote ✨
Damn that an iconic quote!
Love Donovan
The good brother Donovan
Donovan!! I actually love him bro
"When you have a partner that equally hates black women just as much as you do" I heaaaardttt THAT sis!!!!! They think we don't peep game!
RIGHT!!! WE SEE Y'ALL TOO! They be the ones breaking their neck for you to SEE THEM with a Black man! 🤣🤣🤣
@@tamcar04 you took the words from my mouth sis! Like....is this some type of book they read in some secret school or what??
K Okoye
lmao the prince or whoever the fuck that colorist family name is
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“I prefer black men but I’m not ANTI everything else!!!” Love u Jackie!!
SAME! I’m the same way and I’m white. It’s possible that I prefer black men, but I’m not sure. I’m not anti anything else! I will date anyone as long as they truly love God and me!
My dating preferences have never excluded races or skin color. My dating preferences involve character and age.
Older men need to hear this
Exactly
exactly
But obviously it still includes appearance because there needs to be an initial attraction unless you're like demisexual or asexual
@@ashleperez460 depends whether you believe in hypergamy. A woman's beauty is just as important, as a man's wealth and resources. The less you have of these qualities (beauty or wealth), the smaller the dating pool gets.
Makeup AND a sociological analysis of misogynoir? /pulls up chair/ go on
Next up is hypergamy!!_chloe
Watch the channel ‘For Harriet’......she does a lot of that.
Misogynoir is a brilliant portmanteau.
ichitafalls misogynoir 😂😂😂
A winning combo. We're so blessed.
Everytime someone pulls the "it's just my preference" I IMMEDIATELY leave. A preference is Coke or Pepsi, you'll still go for the other if that's what's available. What they mean is prerequisite 'I *will not* date a black woman, specifically a dark woman' is a straight up dating rule they have made for themselves influenced by their own racism, and trying to downplay it as a preference is fooling less and less people thankfully
Lol i feel like we are the only few people left who know the actually meaning of preference.
A dating preference is “I like to date people who are more serious than funny” or “I don’t want to date people who can’t watch movies with me” it’s NOT “I only date Asians” or “I don’t want to date a dark skin girl”. Idk how this is a hard concept to grasp 🙃🙃🙃🙃😒
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Ikr?? It also goes the other way. For me, It’s fine if you prefer someone’s race over mine, I could care less. but when people are literally DRAGGING your race down and when I call them out on it, they still call it a preference. Its flat out racism and they’re tryna justify it
The thing is you can't EVER make someone date every race
As a latina this is very true sadly. It makes me so uncomfortable hearing black men say they don’t like black women because of so and so. I do no engage further with those men.
I’ve seen and know what it feels like to see men of your own kind running around and talking down on you and it’s annoying asf. I had a Hispanic men tell me to my face that he wouldn’t date a latina cause we too crazy and that’s why white gurls are better because they don’t talk back. They encourage these white girls to look like us and then drag us with those same women who hate us I’ve known so many white women who hate Hispanic women but date Hispanic men.
So I would never get with a man who tries to make their women look bad to try and make women from other races feel secure by dragging their own kind.
Wow that was nicely put
Love 23Amazed oh trust me they do. I know a bunch of Mexicans, Guatemalan etc men who will tell u to ur face they only date white girls and make jokes about the women of their culture who look too Indian and they look Indian as hell too but they don’t like their girls like that though. I even knew a couple who acted like they didn’t know Spanish or didn’t like Spanish music because they didn’t want to be “too Hispanic” for their white girls.
Lies
@Alexandria Sosa This is really shocking because I wouldn't expect
"White girls are better cause they don't talk back" that's horrible they just want someone they can control
“What else do y’all have in common besides wanting mixed kids?”
IM GAGGED!!!
Fuuuccccckkkkkk. My chest was HURTING 🤣
I was like yesss💨 say it for the people in the way back can hear👂🏿👏🏾👏🏾
ANY MAN who lays hands on a woman does NOT get to say ANYTHING about dating. You’re no longer allowed to date. Periodt
Neither does a GIRL,let’s just keep our hands to ourselves
same for women, women can be abusers too.
@@IrresistibleWitch but it's clear he hasnt
@@IrresistibleWitch yeah but that happens very rarely
Zac's Boredom Channel but this dude chris beat both of his ex girlfriends up
Funny thing is, when I realized my "preference" was not to date colorists and people who hate black women, less and less black men became an option. Very interesting
AwqCutie...You make the BEST point!
omg this is me!!
Girl its too many of them to count frfr they make up a fairly almost half of the population of black men
Omgsh!! You put this so well! I’m late but this really got me
RIGHT. PREACH. VERY INTERESTING
I have a friend who's white. Her guy friend's family mentioned that he & my friend should date. The guy friend is Haitian and is dark-skinned. She was talking about the possibility of dating him & she said to me, 'if I had interracial kids, I'd want them to be your complexion, your complexion is so pretty." I'm light-skinned (think Sanaa Lathan). I had to explain how it was kind of ignorant to hope that her child would come out a particular shade of brown because brown people come in so many shades & you never know what you will have a very fair-skinned parent & a very dark-skinned parent. If she did have an interracial child & that child was darker than she'd wanted, that child would feel resented. She really didn't understand how that comment came off as ignorant/demeaning until I mentioned how rampant colorism is with the black community & how some white women fetishize mixed children.
But Sanaa is not light skinned tho! 🤦🏾♀️
@@jayatmosphere2745 she very much is.
All people fetishize mixed children
I saw a tweet a while back that said- “preference is ‘I prefer mangoes 🥭 but will eat a banana 🍌’ cancelling out and insulting a whole group of people is NOT preference.” People’s so called “preferences” are just thinly veiled colorism and racism.
Yesssss👏🏾
And many times, it’s not even thinly veiled lol
That part!!! 😉
Ahem coughing looking at Chris Brown
Q exactly. It’s discrimination, not preference
I love that you're telling us what you think of Chris Brown while using Fenty.
😂😂 yessss
OMGGGGG
Yeeeeessssss
Oh Lord 😂 LOL.
Melissa Parks why did they have a scandal
"preference is not anti" BEST way to sum up the whole "it's just my preference" bs
Exactlyyy. I have a preference for white guys, but that doesn't mean I've never been attracted to another race or religion. Preference is not meant to he a scapegoat for being colourist
It's so weird to me that people use that reasoning? Like you can respect people you arent attracted to if I arent an asshole
@@avamonroe9419 EXACTLY!!!!
Girl I had a black man tell me he doesn't and wouldn't date a black women. When I told him I primarily date interracially he sudden had a problem. Like no boo, you don't get to be offended when the shoe is on the other foot.
Honestly this message needs to keep being driven home for black women. Stop chasing colourist black men. Don’t block your blessings sisters.
Exactly 👏👏👏
Right. And I see in 2019, Black women start waking up
Facts
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But it's okay for black women to say they only want black men.
Yet it's an issue when white women say they only want black men.
And it's an even bigger issue when black men say they want white women.
But it's perfectly fine for everyone to only say they want to date black women.
As long as black women are the preference, it's fine.
Ok. Thanks. Makes perfect sense [sarcasm]
“Ladies: don’t limit yourself to tryna chase somebody that doesn’t want you.” 💥
I felt that in my SOUL
Absent fathers don’t help the mindset smh 😩 what a World
6 Life Very true.. as someone who’s never had a close relationship with their biological father, I completely understand where you’re coming from. What helped me tho, is to realize that just because a man can reproduce does not mean he will be a good father. And even though their absence is felt at times, you are greater than the hole they leave with you. It’s not just your loss - it’s theirs as well. Just know that you are phenomenal, divinely blessed, and no one can take that away from you. Never let anyone take away your crown! 👑 💕
Ok I’m getting off my soapbox now 😅
Shaina_MsLaLa I needed to read your above comment. Sometimes I feel really depressed because of the void of being fatherless but I am proud of the young woman I have been working to become. Thank you.
iloverette 💗 You got this, girl!
True
I think dating preferences are conditioned in ethnic communities- I CANNOT and AM NOT speaking for the Black Community because I am not. I come from a Greek-Egyptian background and I grew up being told I don’t look Greek enough and I was too “Arab” for Greeks and too “European” for Egyptian. Because there is a certain “Type” Eastern men are conditioned to look for and when you get butt hurt they response is “It’s just my preference.” If your preference is clouded by prejudice for another ethnicity that’s not Ok. Because in certain cultures there is an expected “look/background/upbringing ext”. But there okay with sleeping with you because your “exotic”. And then they get butt hurt when you write them off bc their all being ***holes. I appreciate you spoke on behalf of the black community and bringing light to this issue bc I have a very good African American friend and she is consistently discouraged by this and gets angry when she sees black men dating 5’1 blonde little WASPs. Bless You Jackie ❤️
If you're not a white European you don't belong in Europe.
@@hre2044 ???
HRE you’re literally a white supremacist
@@hre2044 holy shit- how does this guy not know theres europeans of different races?
@@oliviabrewer08 No there's not. Europeans are all Caucasians. You think some white born to 2 white parents in Burundi or Mozambique is authentically "African"? Your phenotype does not reflect the continental environment nor does your genes trace back to people of the continent.
"what else do you have in common besides wanting mixed kids" 💀💀
Right!
A queen that isn’t afraid to tell the truth! We Stan!
All day every day! Who want it!!!!
Meg H AND speaks on HER OWN terms! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
& I quote 'Stans are just annoying' 😯😬 But we stan her!👏🏼👏🏼🤷🏻♀️
My husbaand started singing "Jackie Jackie Jackie " when he heard your name in the intro 😂😂😂
Love it!!!
Thats dope 🤣
goals sis!! I loooove this
Alexandria Rios grill same 😂😂😂 out of all the beauty you tubers I watch he will watch along only if I’m watching Jackie’s videos
YESSSS
let me just say that i sit next to this light skinned girl in class, and she was talking about another girl and said “that ugly dark skinned girl” when talking about someone else and ngl i felt offended cause i’m dark skinned too...
nilah kinney correct her next time
i'd have called her out soooo fast.
Feel free to pop her next time
Bullying mentality is horrible in every way but do you know for sure if she referenced her skin color as the reason?
Don’t get me wrong, call that bitch out but maybe rather on her catty bashing
@@TheVincident. even if she didn't she shouldn't have said "dark skinned girl", she could have described her in a different way
Preference is liking black coffee but not minding drinking a capuccino if there is no black coffee!
I get what you’re trying to say but if you only date another race because they’re aren’t any of the one you like? Shouldn’t you date them because you like them no matter who is around? Are you gonna leave your cappuccino on the counter after more black coffee arrives? Am I making this deeper than you meant, probably.
Kenzie Yeaaaa, exactly. i think these “preferences” should be more like you gravitate towards. Like a gravitate towards cappuccino but i can also get dark coffee when cappuccino is available. Overall it somewhat takes away from the individuality of a person because not all cappuccinos tastes the same :)
Or preferring black coffee but not minding a cappuccino every once in a while instead of roasting everyone who drinks cappuccino
RIGHT
Jackie my mom preached my whole life “stand for something or you will fall for anything”. And in my eyes, you a definition of standing for something in beauty industry and especially the black beauty community, you don’t understand how much we appreciate you and your voice! Oh & GOT DAMN YOU LOOK GOOD AF WHEN THE VIDEO HIT😍😍😍😍😍😍
thank you so so much I appreciate that
Yes indeed!!
@@jackieaina can I please have the shirt you have on!? Thank you in advance
FACTS!
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i'm just so over colorism, this stuff is just sick. how are people AFRAID of having babies that are
dark skinned? smh
How theyll be treated in society? Idk
Lordpraisethe no, some people want mixed light skinned babies because they think having dark skin and kinky hair is less beautiful. yes, dark skin people get treated poorly in society and most of the time are viewed as less beautiful, but that doesn’t mean that people should be like “oh i don’t want to have babies that are dark skinned because they get treated bad in society.” You have to teach them to love their skin, and that’s part of how we can change dark skin being a stigma. some black people don’t even recognize themselves as beautiful because for so long they’ve been told that they were ugly and don’t have good hair. it’s NOT true, and it has to stop. Dark skinned men and women are BEAUTIFUL, period.
Naiyersss Is like a fear of blackness. It is STUPID!
PAM SANTANA exactly!!
CJ Yes you are for sure wrong, but I understand. You need to get a therapist or find some way to work through your past childhood traumas, so they don’t affect you or your unborn children. Things like that only hinder us in the future, and the decisions that we make. I hope you can find a way to heal.
I’m a dark skinned Indian from South Africa and I’m married to a White man. No white guys question my husband why he married me but the white women did and even told him he should stick to his race. Myself on the other hand did have questions from both men and women why I’m with a white man and how I got one . The problem with dating my own race is that there is a lot of colorism within the Indian community. Darker skinned women are seen as unattractive and light skin is seen as beautiful. It’s a sad standard and a lot of my own people couldn’t believe a white man could love someone as dark as me. I have dated Indian guys in my past and the two that I dated both had issues with my complexion, one guy’s mum was complaining that they are talking about me being dark as tho it was a horrible characteristic. Another Indian guy I dated use to emotionally abuse me by insulting me about my color and saying I’m the darkest his ever date. Like I don’t understand the hate men have for women of their own race. All skin tones are beautiful it’s just that they can’t accept it
I love dark skin Indian women. Although I am not Indian. I am Puerto Rican think of daddy Yankee,Luis Fonsi and lin Manuel Miranda. So I am to light skin for black and latinas and to Hispanic for Asians and whites. And it sucks because I think of myself as ugly and unattractive to most women. Colorism is true but so is judging others based on the way they talk and carry themselves. It hurts because I am me and I am being myself. But that is never enough for the business world and dating world.
I don’t date men who tell me how much they love women lighter than them to degrade their own women. 🙅🏻♀️
So true sis! Some Black men are ALWAYS quick to say the only date latinas but the minute they see a black woman with a non-black man they pressed. Over it.
Or wven when a Latino, mixed, or biracial woman says they won't date a Black man. That is when they get in their feels too.
@ my ex next time lmao. We were interracial yet every time he saw a bw w/someone outside her race, he’d have to say something. His colorism came from a bw breaking his heart 🙃
MegaCassie83 Amber from Love Island🤦🏾♀️
Girrrl 💯 I grew up around Black boys and men never failed going out their way to tell me how bad my dark skin is and how they would never date me (arrogantly assuming I wanted them) and want women with the "good hair", light skin and eyes. They were so disrespectful and if they were called out it was a "preference" and they gaslighted you. I just ignored them but as soon as Black girls started dating outside the community. "Why are all these Black girls dating outside their race, what's wrong with them? Look at these bedwenches" or "Women are the backbone of the community they can't do that!"
And my favorite "Black girls dating outside their race is going to ruin the community".🙄 My uncles who are in interracial relationships lost their minds because my cousin was with non Black guy and lectured me and my other female relatives on how we need to find Black men and need to birth Black boys. 😳 UM excuse me? TF? What about Black girls 🤔 It's disgusting and utter hypocrisy. I cannot deal with the fetishes and hypocrisy. It's so cringey 😷
xX Anime Xx whattttt Amber from love island said she wouldn’t date black men? What was Michael then? I thought he was black/mixed
Colorism is so big and spreads across many groups of people and people of darker complexions are ALWAYS the victims. It’s so sad. It’s worldwide. It’s disgusting.
Definitely! Even in the South Asian community so much of what Jackie said totally applies
It's mostly the women who suffer. Cause in most ethnic groups even dark skinned men prefer dating light skinned women..
It the beauty they hate to love
@@blackmagicwomanrj2857 Gay men have this problem too. Everybody has this damn problem, there's an ungodly amount of "no fats, no fems, no asians" that gets slapped on profiles online. Goofery. 100% You would think an already Marginalized group would have more compassion, turns out they're biggots like the rest. Not to diminish your struggle at all, but it seems like men tend to be garbage across the board smh.
Colorism goes both ways...although dark skinned Black people (and those of various heritage) are seen the world over as lesser than and have been marginalized bc of their rich skintone. Its a falsehood consistently perpetuated by our own (emotional)reactionary politics!
I’ve dated a few men out my race and was out with this man... a black dude came up to me and said he can’t handle me 🤔. Went to a club with a white man and the white girls threw a drink at me & when I went over to confront them the security kicked me out. I don’t care who you date but why get mad when black women do it
Fuck them ..live your life girl 👸🏾
Threw a drink. 🙃 thats ghetto
They hate seeing black women happy. Both black men and white women. It’s like they thrive on the downfall of black women....
Jealousy at it's finest!!
Keep doing you, you are gorgeous ☺
Threw a drink at you? 🙆🏾♀🙆🏾♀. Did anyone have do anything about it? Why were you thrown out? Someone should have slapped the hell out of whoever threw it.
Sadly, there are some brown parents who encourage their brown children to date/marry lighter due to the discrimination they've received.
T H very true!!!
My best friend is Hispanic and he was raised that way. I think it's sad.
This is a very perceptive and human point you've made. "due to the discrimination they've received"
Yeah pretty much every african/middle eastern/asian and ESPECIALLY south asians
Yes, it's a twisted way of trying to spare their children from the same pain.
IDGAF I'll date the rainbow, just treat me like the Queen I am. PERIOD!
PERIODT!!!!!!
All that sounds good but you'll understand once you do
@@christiandivamd She said what she said.
Call me Skittles! 😂🤣
Amen and Period!❗❗❗
"i'm not desired by the very woman I fetishized??" THIS!!! colorism in dating is sickening. i really think it's a self hate thing.
Definitely.
I mean the SHOCK!
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😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣😆😂🤣
Black men are called "ugly" everyday by non black people they very much worship and look up to.
It’s also sad that some men prefer a fetishize certain women like it’s weird. So you only like me cause of stereotypes really nah
"Preference is not anti-" the gospel of Jackie!!!!
"Cindarello" had me in pieces. Girl, you are a personality champ and a natural entertainer, nevermind an artist. 😂
I love that outfit.
I always find it yucky and weird when black men trying to date me have to mention their distaste for black women while telling me they love dating Latinas. Smh if you need to degrade other women at the same time you compliment me, I don't want you.
@Dominican Kitten WTF?! That is so weird. What is wrong with them? They just wanna hate on black women so bad smh
Would you say those comments made to you, were mainly from lightskin black men or darker skin black men?
Khalia A. Definitely dark skin black men
I kinda feel like you would carry this opinion to any black guy that so much as looks at you & being a dark skinned man i can say we DO NOT hate black women that shit a myth if u ask me i dont value other races women over mine but i have heard black girls refer to other races women as "Bad Bad" meaning even black girls think that other races women are better looking hell my younger cousins got all the praise in the world for 1 having a white gf & the other having a latino gf last Christmas visit even my mom was telling her sisters "tracy & duda both got girlfriends & those girls are very pretty" in all honesty this comment is gonna make me steer clear of latino girls the same way i do black girls only for different reasons i mean if you just assume im talking to you because i dont like black women then why on earth would i speak to you also black women have treated me worst than anyone else & ive been framed setup to be shot at & snitched on just by black women & thas not even the tip of the ice berg glad to know black men getting hate all over still tho proves who really inferior no offense
@@remythedude4758 you took that so personally and gaslit the other sex in the process. You have experiences that you shared, just like these women are.
I need a book called «Jackie’s wisdom» with quotes of things she has said in different videos
Pourya Bigonah I’LL BUY IT
Bree Angelique Beauty yes! Preorder and all lol
YESSSSS
Facts!
I second this and I will second for a twitter page
If a black woman said the things about black men that they say about us she could not ever be HALF as famous as we allow them to be.
I don't wanna date a man who has a preference,& find out later he into something else,I don't have any time to waste no more...
Aw thank for the shoutout sis, your support means everything to me! Your perspective on colorism is so necessary and on point. The way you use your platform for us is appreciated and never goes unnoticed. I’m so proud of your success and keep up the good work! ❤️
Hey Chrissie!
OooO hey chrissie. Loving this moment.
I love u chrissie ❤
WHEN YOUR 2 FAVS FROM DIFFERENT WORLDS MEET AND STAN EACH OTHER 🤩🤩🤩🤩
I got hype when she shouted you out! @Chrissie I’m so glad I found your videos this year and I hope some other ladies do as well.
I am biracial (black and white) and have always “preferred” black men. Then one day this white man came into my life and I decided I’d give him a shot... 7 years later we are happier than ever and he’s the man of my dreams 🥰 It’s important to be open to ALL types of people
Jazz B So true!! ❤️❤️
E.O.D
awh. so happy for you.
Girl same.
Would you say you were also put off by the black men fetishization of mixed girls? I have a couple of biracial friends who've said they're not gonna date black men cuz they don't want to be a fetish for them.
and like let’s talk about how two light skinned black parents won’t necessarily make light skinned children? my family is dominican with varying shades of blackness and my cousin and his wife are two light skinned people who made one light child, one medium child, and one DARK ASF child...my other light cousin had a baby with a Jamaican man and her son came out darkest dark, like his skin is so rich and beautiful it’s honestly unreal. my point is ya played yourself because you plan and God laughs
There's sooo many parallels among Hispanics/Latinos when comparing the colorist BS that black men throw around. Some of the mess I've heard growing up, like I and my sisters need to "date lighter skinned/white" to "mejorar la raza" ("better the race"), that dating black men/women would "stain" us as a family and race...🙄🙄🙄🙄 Now fast forward a few years, as far as who I date, I love black men (as well as women!) and pay no mind to the colorist bullshit I was raised with. As you've stated far more eloquently than I, most of these "preferences" are total BS. Thank you for speaking so truthfully on this often uncomfortable topic...sometimes I think it's for this reason you don't receive the props you deserve!! ❤
uuuff I'm from PR and can relate too. Colorism is disgustingly common. One of my uncles told his daughters to not date dark skinned men "para no dañar la raza". One of them ended up marrying one anyway.
@@Claudia-qe1rs 'chacha I know that's right. If it's love then beautiful if not fuck it.
yh alot dominicans say this
If a man hates a woman who has his same physical features (dark skin, black), he hates himself annnnnnnnnnnnndddd we gotta start dodging those bullets sis.
HoneyB. Style exactly
@@morganalston6579 😂 its just funny bur very true sis
HoneyB. Style so true unfortunately a lot of these brothers are like this
Jackie is the only big influencer who has the guts to talk about this! Thank you Jackie for talking about things they tell US not to talk about. 👑👑👑
Jennifer Velez indeed
but to be fair, I believe people shouldn’t talk about these things unless they truly know what they’re talking about
@@jackieaina You're right. THey Know how to capitalize off of the culture and emulate it but not how to be part of it's progression. So I guess they should stay in their lane lol.
I always am at a loss when someone acts like I’m so blessed to have a mixed child. It’s so weird.
I love how she talks about these issues and that humor priceless.
You can date whomever you please but don't be saying i dont date black women because of this or that and bashing and being disrespectful towards us
Girl right!! I don’t need to know nor do I care about your reasoning. Just do you and keep it pushing.
I am so tired of men throwing their opinions about women. I am so tired of people tearing me down because I don't have curves and I'm fucking tired of men tearing down other strong women. Why tf they don't understand that we don't care what they think about us women?!
Right since we are all bitter, mean, ghetto etc
@@emilytsp6689 girl i feel you
I hate that crap.
Women beaters aren’t anyone’s type PERIOD
Milia Xo except that one girl from dr phil
Milia Xo FACTS
Milia Xo period
Facts!!!!
Finally someone is saying that if you have a preference of NO black Women whyyyyy do they have to announce it to the world ...take your preferences and live yo life
You really explain every difficult topic with such grace and intelligence! I knew I made the right choice of buying your palette without ANY discount (aka VIB sale)!! My fave!
what the hell is the obsession with people and black women’s hair? it’s not even JUST with “dating preferences”, we can talk about black women wearing their natural hair in school or work and it still being a problem?
Darren Kheng I don’t understand myself. Out of all things to worry about they worried about some hair.
Date who you want, but if you are black and you have decided that you don't date other blacks or darker skin blacks then you must unpack that internalized racism. And understand that you have accepted that any proximity to whiteness is better than your very own skin.
begevt yep. Sad place to be in.
begevt best fuckin comment ever!!!!!!!!!
Yesssssssss
just be honest about it. don't gaslight or insult my intelligence by arguing otherwise
Does it count if I just haven't yet but I've tried 🤣 I always get denied by black men, but then they get mad when I'm dating outside my race 🤣 and then I'm there like: I told you I liked you and you said no but Tom over here lovin on me so I didn't say no 🤣🤣
One day we will stop looking for a partner with a preferred skin color and instead fall in love with the content of their character. ❤️💖
You don’t eat the wrapper, the delicious sweets are on the inside!!! 🍬
Say that again sis💕👌👏
Me: Hey Chris you dropped something
Chris: what?
Me: your dignity
When did he ever have it
"Good hair is healthy hair" THANK YOU JACKIE BOO! PREACH, LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
jackie’s armpits talking SENT meeeeee
lmao same!!!!!
No ma’am !
Odeeeee 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
they be saying a LOT sometimes
CHILE I CHOKED!!!!!!! I Had To Struggle For A Sip Of WATER LMAO 😂
I got an ad with Michael B Jordan in it during the video. The ironyl!! Lmao
Fantasia Pastranos 😂😂😂
He has dated Black women, I just think being spotted with non Black women became this running joke that turned into "ooh he doesn't like Black women period" When that isn't true or proven, yet.
@@theechubbyone you must be quite young. Michael Jordan is WELL KNOWN for preferring WHITE women.........
😂😂😂👟👟👟👟👟🏀🏀🏀💰💰💰💰💰💰💰
Well at least he never bashed black women in the process.
I'm an older Asian American and I just got to say, you're my favorite Jackie. I just like your topics, your makeup, and your commentaries. You enunciate and elaborate and stress your language at the right time and it just works! I love you! Keep up the amazing work.
Who's even buying his music? Probably the same people who are trying to give R Kelly a pass...
This is so true!!!! I roll my eyes at some of my darker skinned friends that still worship r kelly. Like why 🤔 Why
“What else do you have in common besides wanted mixed kids?” -I screamed.
I’ve been trying to explain this to dudes with “yellow fever” like honestly you said all of that so well
Jackie, Jackie, Jackie, JACKIE! I loooove you sis! This video and conversation are SO NEEDED! As a black man, I see this type of behavior perpetuated more often than not, and it saddens me to my core! Black women are SO beautiful and deserving of ALL the love from their counterparts, i.e., black men! And as a gay black man, I can’t say that things are much better on our side, as we’re oftentimes passed over by other gay black men because of their “preferences”, which oftentimes is for non-black men. It saddens me so, especially since my preference is for black men (not to say that I don’t or won’t date interracially). But as a gay black man from the south, I want/yearn for someone who empathizes (never sympathizes) and TRULY understands my day-to-day life.
My own daddy told me, while staying in my house and sleeping on my couch, told me he don't like black women because they're either ghetto or bougie... I was like why would you tell this to YOUR BLACK DAUGHTER... I asked him, then where do I fall?? He couldn't say because I'm his daughter, he's not talking about me....
It's more than a preference, it's something deeper than just a preference. They have mental issues or something.
Throw the whole daddy out 🤣 - my father's a fool too... has pretty much never been with anyone darker than a paper bag... and if he's called out he's like... what are you talking about
CreshMin90 but non-black women are allowed to be bougie , live in their femininity and black women to be the 50/50 queen and ride or die. I have a feeling my husband is not going to be black, I don’t hate black skin or black men. But the character of a lot of them is something I can’t deal with and put my mental health in jeopardy.
The nerve, he’s a dusty without a pot to piss in on your couch, and still can afford to colorist and arrogant. You never wonder why he’s on your couch? Because dusty aren’t non-black women preference. They only let black men breathe in their direction only when they have money
@@mon6745 My dad doesn't like black women period. He even told me he never even loved my mom but they were married for 8 years... I don't know why he feels like something when he dates a non black woman. I could write a book about how messed up my dad is. This man has been a bum on the streets since I kicked him out of my house over 2 years ago. But he feel he's too good to date black women....
Yea black men who talk like that are toxic. Especially to their own kin.
Now THAT’S what I call clownery vol. 23 🤡
This clown should’ve been CANCELED a longgg time again and y’all know exactly what I mean
Fuck this crackhead
Okay right tho? Seriously, I can't stand Chris Brown, and I hate that he's gotten away with so much without consequence.
Kurly Kayla I haven’t to his music for years. And will never listen to/support him or anything that has to do with him again.
@Abisola Abiodun oh lord..I remember that 😂😂🙄🙄
@@hemnamusunur6088 he beats women. The most famous case of him beating one is when he got in a fight with Rihanna
“I can’t feel my face when I bake you” 😂 I just love you Jackie and I don’t even wear makeup! I just come to hear the rants 😩💕
lol me too
i 👏 need 👏 a podcast 👏 from you 👏 good educating topics that i’m thankful to click on and learn from!
If your “preference” is prejudice, I will call it out!!!!🗣🗣🗣 A lot of them don’t even know how to spell damn “p r e f e r e n c e!”
Exactly!!!!!!
Sitta Luvz I prefer men of color 🤷🏿♀️
Here’s the fact: If you have a preference for a certain look it does not mean you are prejudice to another look!! It literately just makes more sense for you to be with that type of person that is more attractive in your eyes!! Nothing wrong with that, it’s not “colorist” or prejudice to be strategic with who you date or want around you.
Are you also going to call out all the black women who say they don't want to date white men?
Kairo Yes. 😐
"What else do you have in common besides wanting mixed kids?"
I SCREAMED
"If it's too complex don't contribute." I felt that!
It's okay to have a preference but NOT to disrespect anyone who doesn't fit your preference.
“Back to dragging colorists” 😭😭😭😭you betta drag em through the muddddddd Jackie Jackie Jackie Jackie!!!!
She dragged dark skin black men she borderline worst than colorists because in reality nothing she say can be applied to 98% of dark skin black males meanwhile Chrisbrown 100% lightskin & only gets mentioned by name has non of the shade truly directed at him or men like him. Big hypocrite move to claim love for black men then post this video bashing black men but never correcting the tidal wave of hate she started like seriously her whole comment section is "Black men like me because im lightskinned eww fuck black men" or "black men are so lame" meanwhile the main guy who started this shit isnt even black Chrisbrown is about as yellow as the brick road from the wizard of oz fucking correct your fans please because representation matters tf & i dont deserve to be stereotyped as a black guy that just dont like black girl the hell pin that on the guy who said it
Ever notice she never once spoke up for tory lanes being bashed by a darkskin model for him being against blatant colorism i mean this model obviously got cut a check by whites & threw all of her already non existent morals out the window & swore up & down that tory lanes the already famous guy that paid her to do the scene was lieing i mean im probably the only person that seen straight through her lies because im not finna just assume the best about some girl just cause she a model unlike the rest of the world
Right drag emmmmm lol
Im bi racial and being fetishized has been normalized and is offensive to me and offensive to black women. Why do you only desire my black features when they’ve been diluted or adjusted to your European standards? That your black man eyes have been groomed to desire and symbolize as safety and success. Why? Why don’t black men who don’t like black women / darker skin black women unpack their unconscious colorism? Darker women DO NOT get the credit, recognition or opportunities they deserve from ANYONE. Not black men, not employers, not society no one! So to see black men so against darker women it is beyond me. Every time I see a black woman or a darker skin woman I make sure to compliment her, it’s the least I can do and it’s always a genuine compliment. Bc the world will never give her 100% what she deserves. And just to clarify, yes I do identify as black and as a black woman, however I realize that bc of the complexion of my skin I get a pass and I walk with privilege. I may have occasional struggles but none that will ever compare to a woman with darker skin. I recognize that the life and treatment of a woman with dark skin should never be minimized or used to validate someone else’s struggle.
Thank you for your allyship!
So well articulated 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Beautiful words
Well said Erin
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
“Don’t limit yourself to try to chase someone that doesn’t want you” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 tell em sis 💕
your page feels like im chillin with my friends. its been so comforting being here during quarantine.
I am not a black woman, but colorism runs deep in the Asian culture. I am a brown girl and the comments I hear are outrageous!!! This video was nothing but the truth. To my fellow black sisters, I FEEL YOU AND KNOW YOU'RE WORTH IT ALL!!!
Hate to point this out to you, but in America you would be considered black. A friend of mine who is Indonesian (many generations) was called black by Americans I've known for years. I told her, no she's Asian, but they didn't listen. She had dark skin, therefore she was black. 🤷♂️
I don't care what skin color someone is, but I always found it fascinating and realized that Americans think literally and metaphorically black and white. Which is sad because every skin color and tone has it's beauty. If only you're willing to see it.
P D I live in the U.S and I am well aware that people think I’m black (they think I’m mixed actually). Nothing wrong with that tho :) Black women are beautiful
@@DIYMary
And you are absolutely GORGEOUS babes!!!!! 😍
No she wouldn’t. On an application or drivers license she would be considered Asian . So so stop with the nonsense
Opinions are like assholes, Everybody has one thank you omggggg😩❤️
ANd when you love the skin you are in, its like people get angry because you are comfortable for being dark.
Nella O exactly because they want us to have self hate
Speak that truth!! It's like they expect you to feel bad!! Some of us love being dark!! I know I do!!
Yeap a lot of the intentions in this society is about based black ppl hating themselves. If they they can get you to hate yourself they feel like they succeeded. I just think it’s weird that a lot of attention is paid to blk women and how they feel about themselves not the reality of their beauty but their own perception of their beauty. Because if a person who knows who beautiful you are can get you to not see it than they feel like you don’t see their jealousy or insecurities that they have. Just to let you know a lot of white women wish they were blk. So if enough blk women feel ugly or unattractive than ppl will never see their jealously.
Nella O Sis Yes!! It’s like, how dare you be confident, and think highly of yourself! 😂
Honestly would love to have a coffee w/ Jackie and talk about all these kinds of things. Jackie you’re great!!!
Thank you for being so real and honest about issues surrounding race. We need more women (especially women of color) starting and running these conversations. Love you 😘
All black women have good hair period don’t let these clowns make you feel any way
Facts!
Loooove the look! I think some of these folks are confusing "preference" with "prerequisite". Preference is: I like apple juice & orange juice but I prefer apple juice. Conversely, if you're offered apple juice & prune juice, and you HATE prune juice, there is no "preference" because you hate prune juice. Apple juice is now a prerequisite, period. That's pretty much how I see colorist men. You don't like dark skinned women, so stop fronting like they are even an option.
worded it perfectly, the analogies were on point
Althea watson - Well said sis love when a person's able speak in a way that is crystal clear. And words are used in the correct context. Bravo!
And what if you have a preference for apple juice so you don’t waste time drinking other juices that you don’t like as much? Wouldn’t you want to maximize your own satisfaction if possible?
Facts 💁🏾♀️
Adrianna Nelson This completely went over your head 🤦🏽♀️
I've been wanting to watch this all day. Jackie. You've grown on me over the past 6 months. Thank you for everything - Mariah Benson
I come here for the tutorials and the REAL conversations!!! Love you! Thank you!!!
I’m so glad you’re speaking up! I am Bosnian/Cuban and my husband is black and never once has he said he only dates white women or wouldn’t/hasn’t dated black women. I’ve dated men who thought this way and they definitely were a straight up joke. I feel if a black man says that they would never date a black woman or speaks negatively about black woman makes me think “how do you feel about your mom? Or your sister?” I never supported it I never will and I’m very glad that my husband wasn’t close minded and stupid. Also I love you Jackie 🥺🥰
I am black and my husband is Italian. I would look ar him side ways if he said something foul about Italian women.
Black men are the only racial group that are known for this sick mentality. When a man hates the image of the woman that produces him you know he clearly has a self worth issue. There is no possible way he can be a confident man.
It is good you recognize that sickness in some black men. He is not interested in you as a person, just your skin tone. That type of black male is a LOSER.
@@kanida6836 Sadly popular amongst Asians as well. A lot of Asian women dont want to date Asian men or Indian men and women try to date light skinned Indians or Whites.
Seherzada Sales George EXACTLY. how can you hate the very same thing that birthed you ????
Seherzada Sales George I’m so glad you realize the ignorance that goes around in some of these relationships. I was married to an Indian man and he never said any thing bad about is women if he ever did I wouldn’t married him. And we had a daughter. I always wondered when black men men degrade black women to the other race and have a baby by the other woman.. he is still having a baby baby!! So how is he going to raise the baby especially if he a girl... growing up to what he hate the most a black woman
People don’t know how important this is because no matter what your child is half of you! And p.s fellas your child won’t always come out to light skinned
“Ruling out a group of people permanently would never be a preference” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Now that’s a fact !
I'm glad Chrissie Way got a shout out. She's been educating us
Can we just have a moment to appreciate your nails! SO PRETTY 😍
Has anyone ever had a female friend who was a colorist? I fell out with a girl over this earlier this summer. I feel like that should start to be a topic of discussion. Cutting off those “light skin” friends who consistently throw jabs and make ignorant comments in your face. Self love is about staying away from toxic people. I feel so much better since we fell out.
great decision
So I have a couple friends who are white and only dates dark skinned black men. I don’t know if that falls in the same category, I just feel like they’re missing out on good men from other racial types because they won’t accept them in their lives at all.
@@rachelmerrie if that's their preference thats okay, but if they're shaming their own men and saying they don't date white men and such is when it becomes a problem
Colorist women are some of the worst colorists that you would ever meet, black women who are colorist are some of the worst there are tbh. I guarantee you know someone close to you probably more than a few who are either a closeted or an open colorist.
I had an asian girl that had every one of her 5 kids by 3 different black men(yes that was shade) tell me "i only like light skin men cause i dont want my kids dark" that was the last time i talked to her. You will not sit in my face and disrespect the people that looj like me in my face and think its okay. And she is now on baby daddy number 3 doing nothing in life. How is that working for you😂😂😂
The misogynoir is real. Words can't express how unsurprising it is that Chris Brown is an eager participant in that very particular brand of hate and ignorance we see directed towards black women. His clownery knows no bounds.
Late comment: the amount of empathy, grace, and truth you embody in all your videos is a blessing. It's so obvious that whatever you do is so intentional and filled with love. Your palette (bought immediately and obsessed) and your wisdom are literal gifts!