I don't have narcissistic friends, I have narcissistic former friends lol! I always knew they were immature, selfish and ego driven, but I didn't know that was from narcissism; until I started learning about it
And they might now have actual NPD but may have traits of narcissism. The word narcissist is thrown around a lot these days but it’s also accurate that, in the world we live in, a lot of people show these behaviors, which is very unfortunate.
@@Noname-dg3pm Me too...i knew it wasn't me so after all these years i had to start diving deeper and find out what is really going on. I started with hinting at witchcraft and then i eventually learned about Narcissism. I was kinda disappointed only at learning the part about the people never liking me or loving me. It was easier getting over all the other evils that came from them
It's not that they don't deserve friendship or love. It's that they are very hard to deal with. They can be very verbally abusive and emotionally abusive.
This is 100% a description of my ex best friend. It’s so frustrating to learn this after the fact because it really affects the way you see yourself, you experience your own life on their terms instead of your own. Thanks for doing this.
I relate to you so much. The key is to distance yourself from them and try doing things that make you feel like yourself, or try doing things you did before you met them. This helps separate your identity from their opinions. And remember this, you are who you always have been, not what they told you. Their opinions of you is just an illusion not reality. Best regards..
Yes she wrecked my car...isolated me, smeared me to everyone & was competing while tearing up my things & sabotaging me!! Creepiest shit Ever!! Was trying to copy everything about me!! Pretty sure she was sneaking & talking to my child's father as well. Childhood friend my Mom always warned me about!!! Took me 25 years to see it. Was also using me up & drained me out 24.7 Good Riddance FOREVER. I unsubscribed to her reality once I figured her out!!
Yayyyyy! You figured her out. Big thumbs up to you. Yes ! I knew one EXACTLY like that and yes she slept with her sisters baby daddy and when she was found out she screamed rape. I'm convinced that she's is more than a narcissists, more like narcissists/ sociopath.
Omggg. I felt weird reading this !!! It was as if I typed it !!!! This was very much my same situation ! The first major red flag was her attempting to flirt with my daughters dad. That’s when the abusive stuff really reared it’s head. She was always taking on my behaviors, looks, and career endeavors - the constant competition for my life was insane & She also tried to turn everyone in MY life against me. Since I filed for a restraining order .. it’s been peaceful. She doesn’t contact anyone I know. I’m finally rid of her 💗✨
Holly Martinez I was also very aware of his daughter's cute little hand and I'm so glad her father is getting assistance for his issues, unlike my troubled parents. 💕
Hope she doesn't get turned into a golden child and be gaslighted, or get smeared for whatever reason. For narcissists are incapable to feel empathy. Sad.😔
I worked with a lady like this. I thought she was my friend. And we seemed to enjoy some of the same things. I started confiding in her when we went to the gym together and shared some meals. Next thing, she's told the entire office my 'inner thoughts'. Said, "Oh, I didn't know that was supposed to be a secret".
@@margakent8081 Yes, Narcissist's want to ruin you on the job or in the office. Even if they can't perform your position. They don't want to see you succeed.
Unfortunately my narcissist is my husband of 30 years and it's extremely hard to knowingly deal with this new information now after so many years together but I'm working on me now .after all of these years it's finally my turn since our children are grown now 🤞🏼. BTW , your baby is absolutely beautiful 😍❣. I enjoy hearing your perspective on this topic , it really helps it make sense to me , thanks for sharing your story .😁🤝🏼
I wish you well on your journey of self healing. Richard Grannon and Dr Ramani helped me understand what had happened to me once I figured it out. Also the Crappy Childhood Fairy is great for trauma...all CZcamsrs
Stayed with mine for 20 years, left with an 14 and 8 year old and went into homeless accommodation. Got stalked and harassed, lost my home, had no money, but I had my small part time job and my FREEDOM! Don't leave without planning, don't leave until you're ready. You'll know if and when to go, one day going will be easier than staying. When that happens cut all ties.
This is so true, my ex narc would say the worst things about his friends, neighbors and typically everyone he comes across and then advices me to stay away from them. Every time we would meet them in person he would greet them and talk to them so nicely as if he never bad mouthed them to me. I never understood why he always did that, but now i know, that he does the same thing to everybody, so to make him seem like the ONLY 'gud guy' around.
This is my story. 30+ years of "friendship" and all the while she was backbiting. It wasn't until we all (friends in the group) had an issue/argument with her around the same time, that we all came together to share our experiences. Everyone said she pinned them against me and would badmouth me, lie and make up stories of nasty things that I said about them. I found out so much more, I ended the friendship and haven't spoken to her in about 7 years. She begged to be friends again and I refused. Then she made new pages with similar names on FB to stalk me. When that didn't work, she came to my house accusing me of things I had no idea about. She tried everything a romantic partner would, gifts and all. All these attempts occured years apart. Like every 2 or so years she pulls something new. We were friends since day care and she never thought I would end our friendship. I will never speak to her again. I cut the rest of the girls off two and never made a new friend after that.
That tace allot a power to that !! 🤗😚but that was a good de... !! Because that kine Friends!! They never gonne see who you are iside !! What they do is copit with you at all cost !! Noting els and they like to gossip !! GOD BLESS!! I USE TO Have a friends like that too !! I block here and never gonne speak to here again !!!
Wow. Since daycare😭😭😭 wow that's s*** really hurts. I believe you did the right thing by looking out for yourself and your well-being. You got some pretty strong ground reason I am very proud of you. Make sure you keep your ex-best friend in prayer because she really needs it as well as the rest of your ex friends.
It feels ugly to keep track. But, I’ve also noticed the difference in support. My possibly-narcissistic friend told me I was the only one who supported her, when she was ill. When I mean support, I just mean checking in via phone and trying to help walk her through her healing process. Took only a matter of weeks, before I could see that she was the opposite of supportive, towards me. So, she never has to worry about me being supportive, ever again.
Yes! 💯 Growing up, my dad admitted to my mom that he was upset over my brother and I getting more of her attention than he was. Even as a young kid, I was like tf?!?! We were roughly 7 and 10 at the time.
Yes please I work for one also and definitely could use the advise..... Seems like he is constantly changing the rules and moving the deadlines/goal post.
Yes, I had friends like that. They turned everyone in their social circle against me. I have relatives who are narcs, too. I have more peace of mind without them in my life.
My mom's like that with me. Always has to do one better. Even whne it was time for me to go to college. I went to a community College and my mom just convienntly decided she needed to go back to school cause she was odne being a nurse and had to go to a top ten school... In the same city I was going to school in. So I quite and moved to England to get away from she and my dad for a few years. She didn't like that. 😂
The fact you did all that was horrible...omg, but thank God you recognized that behavior and you're working on being better!!...I wish you much healing, and success in everything u do!!...
My son's father turned him against me. I have no family other than my son and lost all friends because they couldn't deal with seeing me constantly abused by the narcissist and the courts sided with him. My son is my heartbeat and now he is his father's puppet. I lost everything and everyone fighting to keep my son safe, now I lost him too.
So true!! It took me A LOT of this toxic interactions to realize that. It is so twisted... I am used to blame it all on myself so, it took me a while to notice that no, I wasn't looking for trouble. In fact troubles were looking for me. I had to let go many friends that weren't really friends, and friends that were enablers. surprisingly I still have a few friends left. I'm so grateful. Recovery is a rollercoaster ride...
What a sweet baby 😍🙏👶. I had a bestie for 27 years he was competitive eventhough he was born into a trust fund .I didn't realize until too late I was his supply. He loved to humiliate me then say he was joking. The last time he humiliated me making comments about my mental health & my acting /singing which are my hobbies. When I confronted him he wasn't even sorry. I feel free and don't miss the friendship.
Wow kudos to you for being self-aware. Praying you don’t F up your child. Narcs are insecure inside (although covert & grandiose narcs are different) so maybe that’s something you could work on.
My ex narc told me to tell the father of my children (also narc, he even called it!) that he did not win..... like, we are breaking up and that is what you said?!?!?!? For real?!?!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 have fun there in that sad place. 🤷♀️🤦♀️
damn you perfectly explained my experience, word for word. I kept being civil with her because of "owing her a debt" but recently realized that I wouldn't have been in the position of needing "help" had she not done what she did, and also if other "friends" had not invited her back into my life again
I’ve been watching your videos and I send them to my daughters. I love what you are doing. It’ll help many people. I wish I had this knowledge when I was younger. 💕
Finally we talk about this . Narcissist “friend “ had to have more than me, jealous of anything I bought from food to how much I spent . She loved to run errands and be the “Only “ friend… the know-it-all kind good thing we don’t have mutual ppl in common. All of this is new to me I didn’t know my Mom was one bc she is low key and discarded me slowly !
This happened to me. I gave her a job and then she turned on me and turned all my friends against me through lies. Now the friends realize years later and are trying to patch things up with me but I’m like hellll no! Narcissists are soooooo good at manipulating people. It’s really wild.
You definitely have the most beautiful and sweet baby! Thank you so much for teaching all this your personal way...It make things even more clear! Love and Light from Greece
Wow. This is so true. I choose friends that i know i can outcompete with my history, intelligence, i know i can use them to make me feel better about myself. And i talk shit about all of them behind there backs. That being said i have a narc brother and father so im naturally attracted to narcissists
I wish I would have understood this sooner. It really doesn’t feel good to put in your all and realize you were played the whole time but I am grateful to have people that care in my life now❤
I dealt with this type of people (especially a certain person) way back in childhood and it really confused me. I learned to deal with people like that over time, but only learned the definition of narcissism in adulthood. Everything you say is true. I don't care how intelligent you are ( if you're unaware of narcissistic tactics, you can and will find yourself caught up in a web of confusion. )
This helps, my ocd has this urgency to people please and take on too much & once I started self focusing and organizing my life without them in mind it’s never been the same, one confrontation and they’re like a spiteful person now, but they’ve always been competitive or weird.
Every point made here is truth. After a 50+ yr. friendship, I learned she'd made a habit of trashing me to anyone who would listen, pretending it was out of concern for me. After I went no contact she went on the real smear çampaign. I saw everything clearly once I learned about covert narcissism. I still haven't fully recovered but at least I now understand what happened, how she secretly despised me, and that I foiled her plan to destroy me.
My snarky narcy friend was always talking herself up and talking me down. Not I understand it was completion. She was trying to get me to acknowledge her greatness and feel bad about who I am. Now that I see her under the label, she’s gone.
I have a friend in my friend group who is exactly like this, but only to me. It's almost like they've lost the competition to the others so they feel like they have to bully me to not feel like they are in dead last. It's annoying af. And I sometimes have to take breaks from my friends because I just can't muster the strength to deal with him.
Wow this makes me realize I'm not the narcissist and that I was just a victim of a narcissist lol lost my friend group but it is worth it. To find real friends
One narc I knew went on and on about one of his friends look advantage of him when they were roommates. Claimed that when friend moved out at the end of the month, he didn't pay the electric bill as was agreed upon even though he had been living there...the truth always comes out and it comes to light that the friend did of course pay the bill and the narc was smear campaigning in an attempt to isolate and ultimately ruin the friends engagement.
My dad is exactly like that. My sister gained a very high grade 1st class honours degree from University. My dad went about telling everyone that it must have been a mistake.
Let me add to that. I just wanted to say that you have been so helpful and thank you, you are not only genuinely special and enlightening, but you are also charismatic and quite entertaining :)Dealing with anything-difficult can be very sad and dark at times and you seem to always make me laugh at some point:) god bless you and your beautiful family Lee, and god bless you for helping people and humbling yourself to be self aware and try to be the best you can be.
Well said, and identifies my experiences specifically. I had already recognized this, though most videos address narcissism in romantic relationships. This person strategically arranges everything for self promotion, and the expectation of reverence.
I know my ex used to isolate me from my family, friends, and yet I could NEVER depend on him for me. Still to this day my family really doesn't talk to me cause he caused that ripple. I'm glad he is gone
Looking back I also developed some nasty habbits to my narc friend who I walked out from. I exhibit a few narc traits myself that I adopted in as a form of self perseverance throughout the years. The difference is I can reflect, admit and correct my paths. I cut her out completely. We have to endure each other on a zoom meeting on Saturdays but I don't have ro talk to her directly at least. I love my new found freedom.
This sucks. I know how it feels. Me and my former in our friend group use to be so close and we understood each others feelings and the narc friend ruined it by aggressively accusing me of talking behind their back to the one friend I was close with (it wasn’t true) well that friend that I thought was close to me submitted to the narcissist and now they barely speak to me on their own accord anymore unless the narc friend is involved somehow. These people are toxic and will be jealous of you and try to knock you down a few notches especially in front of other people so they can treat you the same way
I wish I was listening to this 20 years ago you have been a life changer just want you to know knowing something was wrong with her girlfriend friends and family but I just can’t put my finger on it till you came along and give me clarity
My "best friend" almost got me jumped in HS because she did this kinda shit. I never knew why we were fighting but I was constantly doing something wrong. I'm finally rid of her and it's been SO easy to breathe without her
As a confessed narcissist , aren’t you known for being self seeking by nature ? What’s your motivation for outing yourself , sincerely not being nasty just frank and it’s a legitimate question .
He's said before that making these videos to help people is his way of getting supply in a positive way rather than a destructive way --- I'm glad he does it, and I'm just hoping he is this self aware with his family
Oh yes. I’ve experienced this TWICE! First with a girl on the worship team (super competitive), and then with one of our mutual friends, who I lived across the street from. The first girl I mentioned got closer to my friend when I moved in across the street, and pretty much conspired with her.
Ooohh you mean the devil incarnated, every single thing you said is evil spirited, divisive, and destructive, so a narcissist is a parasite and feeds off the soul of others and hides itself as "a friend". With friends like that who needs enemies. Thank you for your honesty.
This makes so much sense! I'm glad I dropped them. I may have no friends anymore but I'm at least living a calmer, stress free, and drama free life
And don’t you forget it.!
Im looking for drama free friends too
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Currently starting over with friends. It gets lonely, but I'm better off.
Amen
I had a narcissistic parent and it almost destroyed me. I hope your self awareness will save your family.
It hurts a
How are you doing Stephanie are you taking care of yourself? I really hope so. Be strong because you got this
I feel Your pain very much as I have A Narcissistic Mother ! They will try to destroy You ! GOD BLESS YOU 🙏💕
Nah, he's self awareness is going to destroy the very child he's carrying. 😔
It won't. That little girl is in for a rough time
I don't have narcissistic friends, I have narcissistic former friends lol! I always knew they were immature, selfish and ego driven, but I didn't know that was from narcissism; until I started learning about it
Me too. I had 2 learn about the crazy shit occurring as i knew it wasn't me and it was something very wrong.
And they might now have actual NPD but may have traits of narcissism. The word narcissist is thrown around a lot these days but it’s also accurate that, in the world we live in, a lot of people show these behaviors, which is very unfortunate.
Me too...
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Me too...i knew it wasn't me so after all these years i had to start diving deeper and find out what is really going on.
I started with hinting at witchcraft and then i eventually learned about Narcissism.
I was kinda disappointed only at learning the part about the people never liking me or loving me.
It was easier getting over all the other evils that came from them
So what I'm hearing is that narcissists don't deserve anyone's friendship
Yes they are not deserving of any relationship they are fraud.
It's not that they don't deserve friendship or love. It's that they are very hard to deal with. They can be very verbally abusive and emotionally abusive.
They don't.
They abuse their friendships. They don't know how to be a friend
Absolutely!!
This is 100% a description of my ex best friend. It’s so frustrating to learn this after the fact because it really affects the way you see yourself, you experience your own life on their terms instead of your own. Thanks for doing this.
Yup they will destroy your own self confidence and then when they want something from you boost your ego
I relate to you so much. The key is to distance yourself from them and try doing things that make you feel like yourself, or try doing things you did before you met them. This helps separate your identity from their opinions. And remember this, you are who you always have been, not what they told you. Their opinions of you is just an illusion not reality. Best regards..
Yes!
Yes she wrecked my car...isolated me, smeared me to everyone & was competing while tearing up my things & sabotaging me!! Creepiest shit Ever!! Was trying to copy everything about me!! Pretty sure she was sneaking & talking to my child's father as well. Childhood friend my Mom always warned me about!!! Took me 25 years to see it. Was also using me up & drained me out 24.7 Good Riddance FOREVER. I unsubscribed to her reality once I figured her out!!
Good for you that happened to me as well! They are some conniving low energy no self-esteem having Monsters!
Yayyyyy! You figured her out. Big thumbs up to you. Yes ! I knew one EXACTLY like that and yes she slept with her sisters baby daddy and when she was found out she screamed rape. I'm convinced that she's is more than a narcissists, more like narcissists/ sociopath.
Mom always knows..
Omggg. I felt weird reading this !!! It was as if I typed it !!!! This was very much my same situation ! The first major red flag was her attempting to flirt with my daughters dad. That’s when the abusive stuff really reared it’s head. She was always taking on my behaviors, looks, and career endeavors - the constant competition for my life was insane & She also tried to turn everyone in MY life against me. Since I filed for a restraining order .. it’s been peaceful. She doesn’t contact anyone I know. I’m finally rid of her 💗✨
...."childhood friend my mother warned me about"....💯
I grew up with multiple friends who were narcissists really bad. When I dropped them from my life it was like my self confidence grew 10x
Same here 🎉🎉🎉
The little hand on your shoulder the whole video😭
lol mini me
Holly Martinez I was also very aware of his daughter's cute little hand and I'm so glad her father is getting assistance for his issues, unlike my troubled parents. 💕
Hope she doesn't get turned into a golden child and be gaslighted, or get smeared for whatever reason. For narcissists are incapable to feel empathy. Sad.😔
@@Turtleback8024 she won't 😇
@@MentalHealness No. She's not a "mini" you. Don't turn her into a mirror.
I worked with a lady like this. I thought she was my friend. And we seemed to enjoy some of the same things. I started confiding in her when we went to the gym together and shared some meals. Next thing, she's told the entire office my 'inner thoughts'. Said, "Oh, I didn't know that was supposed to be a secret".
🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ yes, that sounds like a narcissist
@@margakent8081 Yes, Narcissist's want to ruin you on the job or in the office. Even if they can't perform your position. They don't want to see you succeed.
Unfortunately my narcissist is my husband of 30 years and it's extremely hard to knowingly deal with this new information now after so many years together but I'm working on me now .after all of these years it's finally my turn since our children are grown now 🤞🏼. BTW , your baby is absolutely beautiful 😍❣. I enjoy hearing your perspective on this topic , it really helps it make sense to me , thanks for sharing your story .😁🤝🏼
Wow.... I'm sorry you have suffered so many years and likely in silence.... you have support here from me! I understand
I wish you well on your journey of self healing. Richard Grannon and Dr Ramani helped me understand what had happened to me once I figured it out. Also the Crappy Childhood Fairy is great for trauma...all CZcamsrs
Stayed with mine for 20 years, left with an 14 and 8 year old and went into homeless accommodation. Got stalked and harassed, lost my home, had no money, but I had my small part time job and my FREEDOM! Don't leave without planning, don't leave until you're ready. You'll know if and when to go, one day going will be easier than staying. When that happens cut all ties.
I wish you all the courage and perseverance to deal with this and do whatever that's best for you. ❤️
This is so true, my ex narc would say the worst things about his friends, neighbors and typically everyone he comes across and then advices me to stay away from them. Every time we would meet them in person he would greet them and talk to them so nicely as if he never bad mouthed them to me. I never understood why he always did that, but now i know, that he does the same thing to everybody, so to make him seem like the ONLY 'gud guy' around.
Wow, your honest guy--- glad your IN therapy!! PROUD of you 👏💛❤
Thank you
My mom was a narcissist and seeing a parent own up and analyze they’re own self and they’re issues makes me so happy for the family’s future
This is my story. 30+ years of "friendship" and all the while she was backbiting. It wasn't until we all (friends in the group) had an issue/argument with her around the same time, that we all came together to share our experiences. Everyone said she pinned them against me and would badmouth me, lie and make up stories of nasty things that I said about them. I found out so much more, I ended the friendship and haven't spoken to her in about 7 years. She begged to be friends again and I refused. Then she made new pages with similar names on FB to stalk me. When that didn't work, she came to my house accusing me of things I had no idea about. She tried everything a romantic partner would, gifts and all. All these attempts occured years apart. Like every 2 or so years she pulls something new. We were friends since day care and she never thought I would end our friendship. I will never speak to her again. I cut the rest of the girls off two and never made a new friend after that.
That tace allot a power to that !! 🤗😚but that was a good de... !! Because that kine Friends!! They never gonne see who you are iside !! What they do is copit with you at all cost !! Noting els and they like to gossip !! GOD BLESS!! I USE TO Have a friends like that too !! I block here and never gonne speak to here again !!!
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Wow. Since daycare😭😭😭 wow that's s*** really hurts. I believe you did the right thing by looking out for yourself and your well-being. You got some pretty strong ground reason I am very proud of you. Make sure you keep your ex-best friend in prayer because she really needs it as well as the rest of your ex friends.
Ooh do narcissistic siblings. I have one.
It feels ugly to keep track. But, I’ve also noticed the difference in support. My possibly-narcissistic friend told me I was the only one who supported her, when she was ill. When I mean support, I just mean checking in via phone and trying to help walk her through her healing process. Took only a matter of weeks, before I could see that she was the opposite of supportive, towards me. So, she never has to worry about me being supportive, ever again.
😲 That baby is adorable!! 😍 💕 💖
I have also the feeling, that narcisstic dads are in completion with their sons and mums with their daughters. They compete all the time
Yes! 💯 Growing up, my dad admitted to my mom that he was upset over my brother and I getting more of her attention than he was. Even as a young kid, I was like tf?!?! We were roughly 7 and 10 at the time.
So true Lee! 💯 And your baby is soooo cute 🥰
Thank you
Tried to focus but got distracted by how cute she is :)) Thank you for the advice!
This is too real 👀👀 Can you make a video on how to deal with a narcissistic boss?
Great request
Excellent. I currently work with one. When I tell you, Im a magnet for those demons.
Yes please I work for one also and definitely could use the advise..... Seems like he is constantly changing the rules and moving the deadlines/goal post.
Find a new job.
Yes, I had friends like that. They turned everyone in their social circle against me. I have relatives who are narcs, too. I have more peace of mind without them in my life.
I am living with one, it's no dam joke is it? Thanks for sharing 😌
No, sadly it is not
My mom's like that with me. Always has to do one better. Even whne it was time for me to go to college. I went to a community College and my mom just convienntly decided she needed to go back to school cause she was odne being a nurse and had to go to a top ten school... In the same city I was going to school in. So I quite and moved to England to get away from she and my dad for a few years. She didn't like that. 😂
What a Beautiful Child of God,Your Baby is An Angel sent from Heavy ♡☆
Heavy
@@ElanaVital83 LOL
Thank you for your honesty. Your videos have helped me to understand the condition as it is.
The fact you did all that was horrible...omg, but thank God you recognized that behavior and you're working on being better!!...I wish you much healing, and success in everything u do!!...
I could write a book! about this one "friend"---hilarious...
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In the church world irs called the Jezebel spirit. Maaaaaan it's a doozie-- I stay away!!
My son's father turned him against me. I have no family other than my son and lost all friends because they couldn't deal with seeing me constantly abused by the narcissist and the courts sided with him. My son is my heartbeat and now he is his father's puppet. I lost everything and everyone fighting to keep my son safe, now I lost him too.
I'm sorry to hear about that dear I will keep you in my prayers
@@nanettewhite8269 Thank You! God Bless You!
Very good to see at least one narcissist who realized their bad behavior and wants to fix it! All power to you. You are very very rare indeed.
So true!! It took me A LOT of this toxic interactions to realize that. It is so twisted... I am used to blame it all on myself so, it took me a while to notice that no, I wasn't looking for trouble. In fact troubles were looking for me. I had to let go many friends that weren't really friends, and friends that were enablers. surprisingly I still have a few friends left. I'm so grateful. Recovery is a rollercoaster ride...
Lol the baby face at the end 😂😂😂😂😂😂 summed it all up HA! That look was priceless and right on time. She looks just like her dad 💖.
What a sweet baby 😍🙏👶. I had a bestie for 27 years he was competitive eventhough he was born into a trust fund .I didn't realize until too late I was his supply. He loved to humiliate me then say he was joking. The last time he humiliated me making comments about my mental health & my acting /singing which are my hobbies. When I confronted him he wasn't even sorry. I feel free and don't miss the friendship.
Wow kudos to you for being self-aware. Praying you don’t F up your child. Narcs are insecure inside (although covert & grandiose narcs are different) so maybe that’s something you could work on.
This is why I don't hang around dudes, narcs or not lol
My ex narc told me to tell the father of my children (also narc, he even called it!) that he did not win..... like, we are breaking up and that is what you said?!?!?!? For real?!?!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 have fun there in that sad place. 🤷♀️🤦♀️
That is the cutest baby I have ever seen. God Bless!
She is so beautiful!😍💕🤗 thank you, I never thought about a narc friend!!
damn you perfectly explained my experience, word for word. I kept being civil with her because of "owing her a debt" but recently realized that I wouldn't have been in the position of needing "help" had she not done what she did, and also if other "friends" had not invited her back into my life again
Yep. And it's easier to agree with them and stop any competition with them.
I’d rather talk about how freaking cute that baby is 💕💕💕💕
I’ve been watching your videos and I send them to my daughters. I love what you are doing. It’ll help many people. I wish I had this knowledge when I was younger. 💕
Finally we talk about this . Narcissist “friend “ had to have more than me, jealous of anything I bought from food to how much I spent . She loved to run errands and be the “Only “ friend… the know-it-all kind good thing we don’t have mutual ppl in common. All of this is new to me I didn’t know my Mom was one bc she is low key and discarded me slowly !
❤😂😂😂 Jesus Christ you have just summed up the last two years of my life
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Your baby is so precious!!!
Wow, totally on point!💯
Well Lee l think your beautiful daughter stoled the show this Time sorry 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🌹🌹🌹 she's a cutie pie God bless thanks for info.... Lol
I think so too
Totally!!
This happened to me. I gave her a job and then she turned on me and turned all my friends against me through lies. Now the friends realize years later and are trying to patch things up with me but I’m like hellll no! Narcissists are soooooo good at manipulating people. It’s really wild.
You definitely have the most beautiful and sweet baby! Thank you so much for teaching all this your personal way...It make things even more clear!
Love and Light from Greece
Wow. This is so true. I choose friends that i know i can outcompete with my history, intelligence, i know i can use them to make me feel better about myself. And i talk shit about all of them behind there backs. That being said i have a narc brother and father so im naturally attracted to narcissists
I wish I would have understood this sooner. It really doesn’t feel good to put in your all and realize you were played the whole time but I am grateful to have people that care in my life now❤
The baby was like, what? Lol. Cute baby. And yes that's how narcissist are, and all they want is supply.
So True... I Have Heard 👂 The Samething From Other People!! Saying How Their Friends Like To Get Or Have The Last Word.
What a beautiful baby!!! Oh my goodness! Blessings 😊❤️
Great Information And Exponation Of A TRUE NARCISSIST!
Awww that baby is PRECIOUS
I dealt with this type of people (especially a certain person) way back in childhood and it really confused me. I learned to deal with people like that over time, but only learned the definition of narcissism in adulthood. Everything you say is true. I don't care how intelligent you are ( if you're unaware of narcissistic tactics, you can and will find yourself caught up in a web of confusion. )
Now, it makes sense; she always tries to outdo me during our conversation.
This helps, my ocd has this urgency to people please and take on too much & once I started self focusing and organizing my life without them in mind it’s never been the same, one confrontation and they’re like a spiteful person now, but they’ve always been competitive or weird.
Every point made here is truth. After a 50+ yr. friendship, I learned she'd made a habit of trashing me to anyone who would listen, pretending it was out of concern for me. After I went no contact she went on the real smear çampaign. I saw everything clearly once I learned about covert narcissism. I still haven't fully recovered but at least I now understand what happened, how she secretly despised me, and that I foiled her plan to destroy me.
I commend you for sharing this information . you've help me heal .i thank you . have a blessed day ❤☺!!
My snarky narcy friend was always talking herself up and talking me down. Not I understand it was completion. She was trying to get me to acknowledge her greatness and feel bad about who I am. Now that I see her under the label, she’s gone.
I like friendly competition, with boundaries.
For some reason she says terrible things to my face and I can brush it off, but when I heard she was saying things behind my back
I was shocked. 😨
Its soooooo trueeeeee. I had one friend as that. After 3 years we ended our friendship
"I like to have better and more than my peers".... who is in your corner when the chips are down?
Thank you. My daughter is dealing with this from her friend/cousin.
Omgosh.... my sister. This makes so much sense now
I have a friend in my friend group who is exactly like this, but only to me. It's almost like they've lost the competition to the others so they feel like they have to bully me to not feel like they are in dead last. It's annoying af. And I sometimes have to take breaks from my friends because I just can't muster the strength to deal with him.
Wow this makes me realize I'm not the narcissist and that I was just a victim of a narcissist lol lost my friend group but it is worth it. To find real friends
Definitely worth it. 👌
Thanks so much for making these .
One narc I knew went on and on about one of his friends look advantage of him when they were roommates. Claimed that when friend moved out at the end of the month, he didn't pay the electric bill as was agreed upon even though he had been living there...the truth always comes out and it comes to light that the friend did of course pay the bill and the narc was smear campaigning in an attempt to isolate and ultimately ruin the friends engagement.
My dad is exactly like that. My sister gained a very high grade 1st class honours degree from University. My dad went about telling everyone that it must have been a mistake.
Thinking of you have off my eyes my best friend for 26 years I'm 27 so yeah my eyes have been opened thank you😢😢❤❤❤❤❤
Let me add to that. I just wanted to say that you have been so helpful and thank you, you are not only genuinely special and enlightening, but you are also charismatic and quite entertaining :)Dealing with anything-difficult can be very sad and dark at times and you seem to always make me laugh at some point:) god bless you and your beautiful family Lee, and god bless you for helping people and humbling yourself to be self aware and try to be the best you can be.
Well said, and identifies my experiences specifically. I had already recognized this, though most videos address narcissism in romantic relationships. This person strategically arranges everything for self promotion, and the expectation of reverence.
Lee truth be told....
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I know my ex used to isolate me from my family, friends, and yet I could NEVER depend on him for me. Still to this day my family really doesn't talk to me cause he caused that ripple. I'm glad he is gone
This makes sense about a so called friend
Looking back I also developed some nasty habbits to my narc friend who I walked out from. I exhibit a few narc traits myself that I adopted in as a form of self perseverance throughout the years. The difference is I can reflect, admit and correct my paths. I cut her out completely. We have to endure each other on a zoom meeting on Saturdays but I don't have ro talk to her directly at least. I love my new found freedom.
my mother and sister!!
This sucks. I know how it feels. Me and my former in our friend group use to be so close and we understood each others feelings and the narc friend ruined it by aggressively accusing me of talking behind their back to the one friend I was close with (it wasn’t true) well that friend that I thought was close to me submitted to the narcissist and now they barely speak to me on their own accord anymore unless the narc friend is involved somehow. These people are toxic and will be jealous of you and try to knock you down a few notches especially in front of other people so they can treat you the same way
I wish I was listening to this 20 years ago you have been a life changer just want you to know knowing something was wrong with her girlfriend friends and family but I just can’t put my finger on it till you came along and give me clarity
My "best friend" almost got me jumped in HS because she did this kinda shit. I never knew why we were fighting but I was constantly doing something wrong. I'm finally rid of her and it's been SO easy to breathe without her
The baby is adorable 😍!
What really scares me is when narcissist have kids.
That most be so hard to find friends who can deal with that and understand that
You have just described my sister.
Luckily friends are easy to replace
What an adorable baby
I think the "little one" is your daughter and she is so cute! ❤
I have my friend everything, until I have too much and couldn't even look at them anymore
My friend had NPD. I just apologize if she gets mad. I done feed her Ego nor destroy it
As a confessed narcissist , aren’t you known for being self seeking by nature ? What’s your motivation for outing yourself , sincerely not being nasty just frank and it’s a legitimate question .
This is a treasure trove because it's not even legal to out someone as a narcissist even if they show all the signs.
If you check out his channel you’ll see he is a “self aware narcissist” who has been in therapy for four years for NPD. He does this to help others
He's said before that making these videos to help people is his way of getting supply in a positive way rather than a destructive way --- I'm glad he does it, and I'm just hoping he is this self aware with his family
Oh yes. I’ve experienced this TWICE! First with a girl on the worship team (super competitive), and then with one of our mutual friends, who I lived across the street from. The first girl I mentioned got closer to my friend when I moved in across the street, and pretty much conspired with her.
True I have a sister that's a narcissist 😔😏
Thank you for this
Thank you . this is very helpful
Ooohh you mean the devil incarnated, every single thing you said is evil spirited, divisive, and destructive, so a narcissist is a parasite and feeds off the soul of others and hides itself as "a friend". With friends like that who needs enemies. Thank you for your honesty.