Girl Up: The Secrets to an Extraordinary Life | Courtney Ferrell | TEDxRVA
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- čas přidán 25. 08. 2024
- This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the
TED Conferences. It was filmed and edited by Tijo Media at the Carpenter
Theatre at Richmond CenterStage in Richmond, VA.
As a creativity consultant and international speaker,. Courtney Ferrell can be found standing at the busy intersection of ideas, energy, and people. Her latest idea, Girl Up, empowers young women to take full advantage of their gifts, their independence, and their possibilities in order to create an extraordinary life for themselves. In the past decade, she has worked intimately with thousands of young women as a speaker, teacher, coach, dorm mother, and mentor. Her mission is to provide girls with actions and language that will help them put common (and uncommon) sense into practice and become a sought-after person without compromising who they are.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
lessons to take from this talk:
1. self confidence is knowing you'll become bigger and stronger than you are right now.
2. perfection is not a human quality - let go of it.
3. be authentic. if it's not your thing, don't do it.
4. trust your gut.
5. if someone doesn't value you, cut them from your life right away.
6. Tess rhymes with Mess.
That's so helpful
Also, 7. Find a mentor
Joanne iguizz
6 really helped Me
8. every guy you meet wants to sleep with you ( 07:20 ) :P
She talked so fast, she left right after she stopped talking.. it feels like she's not from this world or this age and she needs to quickly give the message and then travel somewhere else. She's like a heroine, like some angel saving the world. It just felt like it because i feel something has awaken inside of me right now.
I loved her energy and drive! Wouldn't of been the same message or have the same impact without get enthusiasm!
You’re totally right she’s amazing
Human Being Very wise observations.
the survivor ahaha true
Lucina_irl
I cried... Not even my parents talked to me this way. Very important. I love her.
Elena Guzman you right... That's true.. She is amazing... And that's important..
Makes me rethink the way I talk to my daughter. Glad I listened to her. She made me cry.
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I cried too .. from the beginning to the end . What a great video
Elena Guzman Me too.
“DONT TALK TO HIM HE’S MARRIED”
Especially if they approach you first! And say hi to all the women they see to see which one falls.
HAHAHAHAHAH
"Perfection is not a human quality" a quote i will remember forever
Same here. It's awesome!
I needed this
SubhanAllah so true
I had to write that down
Just don't use this as an excuse to weasel out responsibilities !
If I were that girl I would have cried through the whole talk and gave that incredible woman the biggest hug! We need more women like that all over the world to uplift the girls because the world does nothing but make us more confused about life and our self worth. She has an incredible energy and passion!
Protip: it's just as harsh to boys, if not worse. Boys need this kind of help too, and it's rare.
Boys might even need it more. While society by and large is helping girls every chance it can, it is turning its back on boys.
@@freefallwefall So true. Maybe you can be the hero for boys and do this talk for boys. Are you inspired to do it?
Anna Pyatkova yes her speech left her being empowering others
Anna Pyatkova i wasnt ever there and I cried 🤣 she is amazing 😍
wow. her kids are lucky to have been blessed with her!
So you're my mother now. I never got anything like this growing up and have struggled with alot of mental health issues because I didn't have the mentoring and wisdom at the times I needed them most. This is what I will share with my children. Thank you.
Rachel Priest same here!
Serious what I woulda gave to have that
Rachel Priest
i dont think kids look to their parents as mentors. I dont think they pay attention to a parent the way they do someone else. all you can do is try, like she said noone is perfect.
Likewise!!
Ahh love her energy!
LeendaDProductions
LeendaDProductions ¡excelente presentación! Me encanto las ideas que mostró y las historias eran graciosas
Hi! im looking to expand my women empowerment circle! I want to surround myself with women who are going after it! Hope to hear from you :)
+Erica Hardy m in..... I want that too...
9774007882 from India
+Erica Hardy 👍👍👍
mee to
This Tedtalk brought tears to my eyes! The beauty of a woman empowering young women!! This one ought to have millions of views.
Lorna Blake same
SO agree!
Hi, I would love to connect with you! I am looking to connect with other women who are getting after it and achieving their goals
What a SHERO ❤️
She reminds me of Monica Geller
Her name is also Courtney. :0
Yess totally
omg SAME
Exactlyyy.
Asmaa Tarek yeah !
" you have to remember that your physical decisions are inexplicably tied to your emotional well being."
Queen Empress i love this
everything is making me cry recently
JJustJJ *me on my period*
oh u okay? do u wanna talk?
i forgot i even posted that, its sad that a month ago i actully ment that. Im doing so much better now, the first week of senior year hit me too hard. I'm happy again.
JJustJJ thats great:) yeah i know the feeling, sometimes it’s just a phase but it can still help to talk and i’ve been there before and u know in case u kinda lost perspective it gets better. im happy you’re better now:3
JJustJJ OMG IKR
As a 19 year old girl whose mother passed away at the age of 5, I must say.. this video is something that I’ve needed to hear my entire life. No one has told me these things before and now I have a better understanding of what I should be asking out of life. Thank you
I am a 46 year old woman from Australia and I can tell you she is 100% spot on in everything she is saying. I take my hat off to you, that was brilliant!
This made me tear up a bit...I wish my sisters would have mentored me like this.
Joy Sams but maybe, just like you, they weren't mentored themselves, so they didn't know better...
Mentor someone else!!
👍👍👍
i wish i would have mentored my sister like this. i was only a few years older than her and there were some... circumstances... that might have contributed to me not having the skills or perspective to do this, but yeah.
Mentor someone it can change you forever
She basically summed up what has taken me 30 years to learn... lol. Simply amazing. And absolutely hysterical. Thank you to the speaker 💜
a 31 year old agrees! And about to make some decision! Girl Up!
Wish I had this when I was younger! We need to bring every girl up!
31 here and finally figuring this out too.
This is one spectacular speech I’ve ever heard..
“Every men you meet wants to sleep with you and it’s not a compliment “ great saying. 🙏🏻
Sobbing my eyeballs out. EVERY great person in history has had at least one mentor. If you have the ability to mentor, do it. Every. Chance. You. Get.
This woman is incredible! THIS is what girls need. The whole community thing, too...YES..Sooo needed right now. I also very much agree with mentorship and self-esteem building for young men, but that should be and probably is another TedX talk!For a very very long time in human history, girls have been completely brainwashed to only keep aiming for a nebulous (and, no one tells them), impossible 'perfection' -i.e...the ability to nurture ALL others and give until exhausted, depleted, while unassisted, no less, and inside they are sad. This is all while ignoring and berating the self, and of course trying to be the society's standard of beautiful, just to be acceptable as female, and always hearing 'get used to accepting less', (as so many are STILL being told) in so many arenas... these are just three common examples of what is reality for women. Society needs awareness of this reality, and needs to encourage what this woman calls, 'girling up'. There is so much greatness, and, there will be, finally, balance, in this world, when these encouraged, equalized and loved women grow up!!! Thank you to this incredible woman for this Ted-X talk!
👍really good
👍👍👍👍
and thank you for your equally incredible and on point comment!
And that you for your thoughtful, well said reply. 🙌
Seriously the amount of things women have to do to fit into societies standards is so exhausting
I think she gave one of the best Ted talks I have ever seen!
I am so happy and grateful to have seen this now as a 16 year old.
I am so beautiful and smart and valuable. I am powerful. I can do anything I set my mind to. My value is not based on my looks. Nobody can tell me what I am worth. I am a force of nature. No one can stop me or tell me otherwise.
YES TRUE! 👏💖
Yes!!
Yes! Woohoooo! Love this comment!!
I'm 43 and I cried at the end hearing her say "you're not an acorn, you're an oak tree"... because how often does this society make us feel so small and less JUST because we are women? Too often. And I get so tired of trying to prove myself to everyone and even myself sometimes... I just want to be the beautiful me that I know that I am. And I just love this lady for reminding us of how beautiful we ALL truly are... no matter our scars and the ages we carry. Thank you Ted Talks for sharing her with us!
I haven't watched many Ted Talks, maybe a couple dozen. I've liked most of the talks, but this is by far my favorite. So much so that I am now commenting on CZcams for the first time ever. I don't understand why this video is not as popular as others. This was amazing!!
completey agree
Really amazing 🎉
Boys have hidden it from us because if all us girls bring each other up, we would be unstoppable and they’re scared
My dad told me when I was 9 or 10 something similar: U r my daughter and you're meant to make a difference and be someone bigger. It has changed everything prob, my life couldn't be so smooth and good without his words.
That was kinda badass. What are they putting in the water down in Texas? Wow.
Beautiful points hit in one discussion:
- Emotional being tied with the physical
- Love in three ways
- Mentoring and cultivating the youth, society’s “untapped resource”
- Being authentically yourself
ok well im in love with her
You have to get in line behind me
One of THE best TED talks I've ever seen. I needed this lady in my life when I was in my 20's. I LOVE her! I am crying as I am typing this. EVERY woman and girl needs to see it over and over again. EXCELLENT!
So beautiful!!!
And Just because this talk is for and about young women doesn't mean it's anti-boy. It just means that empowering young men and women separately and differently is appropriate and in doing so both are positively impacted. I think when we expect more for ourselves we offer those around us opportunities to want more for themselves. Everybody wins (or at least can choose to).
You are right.. and we have a choice.. to believe we are beautifull inside an outside...
I really wanna hear Tess now, it's been 5 years since this video got uploaded. I wanna hear this incident , this Ted talk from her perspective. How she felt then and now it helped her become someone bigger now.
This is really incredible.
she has the energy that each and every teenager lacks she is so confident and amusing she is daunting one of the most moving ted talks xoxo
Oh my goodness There really are people out there who can really change the world. I try to do it. We all should!
I love this so much!! She's so raw, and unashamed about herself. It's so refreshing the way she speaks so honestly.
I have watched a lot of TED Talks, but this is my favorite! I love her passion and the fact that she's not afraid to be herself. Such inspiring, meaningful advice!
The best TED Talk I have ever seen!!!! I love her energy and how she presented it
OH MY GOD! I am so moved. It’s always a reality check for me to keep on pushing for the sky. I believe in my dreams so much I can’t give up. So many ideas. So much self love. Just incredible.
This is profoundly powerful and I just realised I need to start today, I am inspired and more so, I am 24 years old so today is the day!! Thank you, God bless you Courtney.
" Don't aim to be perfect, just be good enough" Taking that with me
I wonder if the people reading this can offer advice and support for each other. This is exactly the kind of community the internet affords, and there is so much potential here.
That would be great!
Does anybody have any tips for finding a mentor?
I’m not sure I’ve ever been more impressed with another human being. Absolutely stunning and powerful. If there were only one video our society should re-watch every day, it’s this one.
Acorn to an Oak Tree! Brilliant!
I wish I was watching this as my younger self ... the world needs this now more than ever!!
If you have a daughter you need to watch this.
THAT WAS FREAKING AWESOME!!!!!
even though im only 16 i can't wait to show my (future) daughter this
YESSSSSSSSS! She is ten...and I cannot wait. This affected me more than I would have dreamed....
@@susiefrades-white3088 consider showing her it now :)
Don’t aspire to have a daughter, aspire to be that daughter
This was the motivation I needed to hear. Thank you for this beautiful presentation! I will watch this everyday to remind myself to reach my full potential and to live myself.
How did that go?
I cried at the beginning and I cried at the end. I'm 33.
This is SO empowering !! Her energy takes my breath away
Where were u 30 years ago?! This is awesome! Glad to at least hear today. ❤️
She was learning all this amazing things haha..it's never too light to watch this. Loved Every Minute!!!
This is one of my favourite Ted - talks. Courtney manages to unite people, she is not only explaining and lecturing, but instantly turning it into action and shows how easy small efforts create big, big was. Good work. Soo good. And thank you ! Greets to Tess and Courts children and husband :)
I ADORED this TED Talk! Her energy was contagious and what she speaks of, is how I approach work with the youth I am fortunate enough to support. If I run a girls group next year...this is SO going to be a part of it to inspire each other. I WISH I had had a mentor and that's why I go hard for the youth I work with as I know I would've reached different heights if this type of sister love existed when I was entering the work force.
And this is 3 yrs old?! It's applicable to today...probably even more so considering all the movements over the last few years.
I'm so looking forward to hearing Tess's future Ted Talk.
This talk came RIGHT ON TIME!!!!! I love this talk. I love her energy and her message. This message isn’t just for women aged 17-24. This is for ALL women. You’re never too old to learn new things.
You are right.. every day.. for every one.. Starting with.. You Are Beautifull..
She's Amazing! Real Goddess !! I started to reflect in my teenage period, how much time I wasted catering other people's bullshit thoughts about me!
Love who you are, and girls gotta live for their original beauty~
I loved seeing people actually passing their papers over in the audience, and I cried when she looked at Tess and said "the applause is not for me--it's for you."
That was so inspiring I watched it a couple of times and I actually cried. I've never been told that. You are someone I look up at, you stirred something in me,I guess hope. I loved your energy, body language, presentation skills and charisma as much as I loved the content. Hopefully you'll be able to do more of these talks in the future. The world needs people like you.
This. is. fantastic.
"Hello beautiful, I say that, because I am, I am!" This came from her soul. When a person knows and is confident about something, you can't shake them a millimeter
I’m a man and i cried so hard watching this
@@wanderingbelle7 what is your comment?!
@@nathanmyles1 at one time there was a comment here calling Good Karma a bad name for crying, I was responding to them, I guess they deleted their comment! Now I’ll delete mine since it’s no longer relevant:)
I loved this this episode-so many tears of joy and love. I believe every young girl should have mentors. A very empowering message for young women. Thank you
what happend to tess, i need to know
She's doing well we all hope! For you, you're amazing, you're just like Tess. I promise, everyone who ever reads this silly comment is. You've got a world of. possibilities, and you are worthy. Love and peace.
Back at you! :-)))
@Zephy thank you for this. Needed it.
@@zephaudi thank you& so are you!
She is an oak tree. ☺️
Had I heard this 35 years ago, my life would be a whole lot different! I appreciate this and I'm pretty sure this is the best TED I've experienced to date!!
Me : Yeah, I'm gonna break up with my boyfriend right away.
*Rises from the chair, determined and then realises something*
Wait a sec, I do not have a boyfriend.
Gonna do it today :)
@@ceciliay1404 so, how was it?
@@zoeygodfrey Did it but got back together after one day, then he dumped me in end of Oct. But kinda know thats what i wanna do, so if he did it i let go :). How are you so far?
@@ceciliay1404 I'm good. Never been in a relationship... Just flirt around. It's so much more fun. 😀
Where are you from?
I'm glad that more people like her and others are telling the truth about "love" and how misinterpreted and misunderstood it is to us millennials and the younger generations.
We must start with ourselves FIRST and really get to know who we are and love ourselves instead of finding meaning or a purpose within some guy/girl that you will be dependent on because you thin you're experiencing true love but its all an illusion. I've experienced it myself and I gotta admit I fell in love with the illusion of "love" and the tingly sensation I got every time I saw him..... but in reality he wasn't perfect, in fact, he was someone I would never have seen myself dating or getting married to but I was so desperate for attention and meaning that I was blinded from the truth. But now I am awakened by the fact that I need to still live IN THE NOW!!!! (VERY IMPORTANT) rather than always planning/thinking in the future. I need to know who I am, I am still a stranger to myself and I am very surprised with who I was, who I have become and what I am doing every day and how that impacts my life and goal.
"Any individual can inspire others through throughtful action"
This is so lovely, I wish they had people do talks like this to young girls in schools, or make it into school classes
Her speech is super energitic, fun and attention gathering... I can see the spark in her eyes
girl up!
I wish I had a mentor. This is emotional and very significant
This is awesome! I'm a 26 year old Oak Tree that thought I was an acorn. This moved me so today, if you're scrolling the comments before listening please listen, and send it to a girl you love.
I loved when said something like: believe one day you are going to be something great.
Because I always felt this but around me believes in me really. This motivated me to keep believing in myself, no matter what anyone says.
I've watched this video so many times now. I love it. Definitely one of my favorite TED talks!
Well this has changed my life.
This was so incredible. I love that when we receive the invitation, most people are so willing to help. Spaces like this one are so important for reminding people of that. xo
I love her spirit. Best talk I've heard. Be a mentor by simply sharing this video. Always remember man/girl up! Love you!
In my opinion this TED-talk is absolutely amazing! ✨
Easily one of the best Ted Talks, I have EVERRR!!! heard. Thank you
This was amazing. I dont have anyone in my life like her but thank goodness for the internet where great messages like this can be shared. I needed this!
having a really bad day right now.
REALLY BAD DAY. I feel like no one I knew can lift me up. But I am wrong, the one who can lift me up is me alone. It feels like she wake up something within me! Thank you!
I loved this! This is what we need in the world. We have to leave all the bs aside and mentor the person next to us. The teenager, the elder, the friend, the neighbor, the kid, the co-worker, the sibling Just leave your prejudice and be that person to mentor. And if you can't do that then ask for help.
It could only make us better...
This is the best ted talk I've ever seen! 2019 is gonna be an amazing year!
this lady has a fire in her that burns like no other, much respect for her. love this speech
This was the most important Ted Talk I have ever heard. I'm convinced this woman is not of this realm but I'm grateful she took some time out of her busy time traveling schedule to speak to me when I needed it most! GIRL UP!
she's awesome!
Infectious speaker! What a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing.
This woman is awesome! Everything she said is ABSOLUTELY true. Props to you Courtney, you're an amazing and well said speaker!!
Her children are so lucky. I’m bawling my eyes out.
I am an 18 year old girl and I have dreams and ambitions, which I often forget about, partly because I feel lost and I need guidance to be able to pursue them. I wish I had mentors, no matter what their job and interests are, because I would learn from them. However if I do not get any help and have to make it on my own, I intend to make an effort to help those young women after me, because we all need guidance and empowerment to accomplish being the best versions of ourselves. I wish one day I will be able to inspire young women and generally people all over the world like this woman has inspired me. Maybe I'll try to do a public talk even though I have stage fright, but any way will be good enough.
Sarapv87 Books written by or about successful ppl can act as your mentor if you don’t have ppl irl available to you.
I reccomend Jack Canfield’s Sucess principles as a start on how to understand what you want and how to go about getting it. Or to start thinking at least, as following it strictly might give you tunnel vision in a negative way.
I think you learn.. and don't be afraid.. Take youre time.. Most important is take good care off yourself.. learn to say no.. don't be too nice. Love yourself.. Do something you like.. and find a balansen in work/study and time too relax. Money makes you independ.. and is therefore important.. Wish jou luck.. life is a powerfull and you learn.. who you are.. in time.. and what you need to be happy..
Don't give up on your dreams honey. We all lost sometimes, remember how much you want them and keep pushing 😊
Great! So much important, practical stuff is packed into this talk with energy, humor and sincerity. Thank you!
This is the mom-daughter conversation every girl needs in her life. Gotta right it down and save for later when my girls are little older. That’s what I love CZcams for, content like that.
I felt so motivated by this talk and I realized that I'm already doing a lot of what she said! I think as viewers we form a community here, so why don't we help each other to achieve more! Personally I am very into environmental issues and education, and I am going to organize a public event in my high school about that. I'm also a self-taught artist who likes drawing despite my parents ' indifference for art. My word is do what you love and start doing, now.
Amazing job!! Omg it hit me
Lluvia Borunda
R u one philosopher also?
Riyaz Ahmad Quraishi I try 😊
Lluvia Borunda
Nice
and Dear ur from ?
This is tooooo amazing - I love it. I really really want to start a movement like this in Johannesburg South Africa and focus on very young girls.
I cried, I usually don't leave any comment on videos but this woman moved something in me. I love this talk and I think I will always re-watch it if im feeling down. Thank you!
She took my breath away, inspired me to be my best and empower my daughter with tools to be her best. I listen to TED talks while I do the dishes. I was pouring tears out into the dishwater by the end of this one.
so powerful! nobody has ever talked to me this way, this was great
I'm actually crying.
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This is one of my favorite talks. Love her tenacity 💞
Good self-esteem, authenticity, financial independence,decisiveness, self-determination are all required to be spiritually and totally independent. What Courtney is demonstrating is what everyone needs to hear.